Thank you. I needed someone to say it.

Many people are saying this

AITA for yelling at my partner because they wouldn't pick up their phone when I was trying to call to tell them that a new episode of React Court dropped?

@@SeeMyDolphin NTA and you should really break up with your partner since they seemingly do not care that the rumors of react court's demise were greatly exaggerated... also, sue them and take out a hit on their life

@@SeeMyDolphin Leaning NTA INFO: Does he (intentional) not understand that React Court is a perfectly valid education on ethics and morality? Does he (still intentional) not understand and value your hobbies and interests?

My GF has given me this ultimatum from time to time

@@realityisenough 🔍

@@realityisenough 📸🤨

he KNEW that was her favorite, and still he went gallivanting!

NTA

How could you be unavailable after you told me you'll be unavailable? Let me call the entire police force to search for you and make sure you don't forget your terrible mistake for the next 15 years

Does that happen in a famous movie scene?

“Chicken sashimi” 😂

my fav is when he gets stunlocked over getting stunlocked

I was having a blast, didn't want it to end at all 😂 Those redditors be crazy

What if the husband had been busy saving babies from a fire in the surrounding residential area?

"Was the husband the only person who knew the 12 secret herbs and spices to make ciprofloxacin." I literally spit out my drink.

@@svenpoletka5236 YTA your spouse comes first

You're twisting it maliciously on purpose. The crime was having your phone on silent while sleeping, and NOT "being asleep at night". If you only misunderstood, then correct it.

Can you imagine being just woken up and juggle between an angry wife and trying to figure out some smartphone setting you put a few months ago through the brain fog?

On God I had that exact same thought

THE LORD OF THE MANOR!

Is that a wild Community reference I spot?

_You can excuse racism?!?_

@@Wertsir did he stutter?

This reference is streets ahead

@@Hsel-lc1wt and if you don’t get it, you’re streets behind

Honestly sounds like a serious disorder.

Man, I'd be out of that marriage before it even started, the whole post is littered with red flags.

I'm pissed off at the OP of that one, but I'm honestly way more shocked and pissed off there were people defending them. "You don't spring a child onto someone without prior knowledge"... it is their Nephew whose father is in the hospital for CAAAANCER! I just can't get over that man

Literally zero chance OP is real. It just reads like a 30-year-old man proudly wearing his r/antinatalism badge like he's doing a Phoenix Wright impression, who wrote this blatant fiction in the pursuit of farming +2s. And apparently it *worked?*

There’s 0 way she’s real. It sounds like a man’s version of what he thinks women are like

I'm with you Kevin. It's like they expect everyone to *always* have their phones on them 24/7. Let people disconnect if they want to (or in this case, sleep lol)

Just what I thought. However, the 24/7 availbility-demanding mindset started almost immediately as phones became common. I remember when movie theatures starting asking people to turn off their phones the justification I heard the most for people keeping them on was "what if there's an emergency?" In a true emergency, there are people better prepared to deal with it than the person with the silent phone. By "emergency" they mean "inconvience". It is okay to be off the grid for a few hours. Hell, I've even got relatives who don't even turn their phones on unless they want to be the ones to initiate a call.

They would just send the sheriff apparently

Yeah the whole premise is wrong imo. You shouldn't have to be available to your spouse 24/7. They're their own person and other people capable of helping exist.

@@KevinAccetta I totally agree although the difference here is that his wife was travelling alone after midnight. Obvs totally understandable mistake to leave ur phone on vibrate -but as NL said, it should have been a case of “ok next time I won’t lose my keys and you won’t leave ur phone on vibrate”

I actually had the same thought, lol

Total Easter of time if you ask me

Exactly, it reads like it was written by someone that wanted to be affirmed by a group of likeminded people for her career choices based on how she imagined her married friends with different values see her.

@@AllWordsAreDust hehehe saying “exactly” and then twisting what the original comment said is genius

@@AllWordsAreDust ...? nah dawg

I did that a couple of times early on, biiig mistake. place is brain poison garbage without the egg's shell of banter and sanity to protect oneself

@@Silas_MN It’s so true, he’s the ultimate filter of sanity.

I'm tempted but I know I would get very angry. I think I prefer having mental health

Ikr it's absolutely astounding the shit people say on there. I remember this one post about a guy wanting to break up with his SO because she cooked his beans for him... Like what? What is wrong with these people lmao

The two "stories" from the perspective of the man who dared have his phone on mute made me laugh so hard I had tears in my eyes.

I’m literally in college to do that very thing and had the same reaction lol

thank u

You know its gold when he starts reading a post and there is half an hour left in the video

These time stamps are a life saver. Thank you! 🫡

hero. Also don't make me return of the Macslap you

In doubt of a psycho reaction, assume they have underlying mental health issues

A lot of people can be as inconsiderate as that person was, it's always a bit crushing to the psyche to realize though

A lot of redditors are children themselves, whether literally in age or just immature mindsets and struggle to understand the concept of momentarily putting their own needs aside for someone else. A lot of their anger at children read exactly like kids mad that a sibling is getting more attention than them.

I feel like there are a good amount of people who just don't view children as full human beings.

It was really telling that its a high school friendship, friend went off to better herself, found a job/life outside of OP, OP negs her and just shits on all her choices. I don't think they were actually good friends, just friends by convenience. Once the nostalgia of high school wore off, the friend realized its just crabs in a bucket with OP and cut bait. Specifically, she didn't even care enough about her friend to just be happy for her, and couldn't even remember the details of her friends actual job. edit: changed some things for clarity.

@@soren_hero247 I mean sure, probably don't be an asshole about what someone chose to pursue. I don't see that attitude being any different then when someone decides to lecture a woman for choosing to be a homemaker instead of a girl-boss. It's a very unhealthy attitude. That being said I do think it's important to be cognizant that a lot of graduate (and even some pre-grad) degrees are professionally DOA or have very niche and hard to find applications and a lot of people get duped into getting expensive and time consuming degrees they don't need because of culture pressure.

@@yoyobeerman1289 Edited to be more precise in my language. 1. Not shitting on OP's choices. Just her treatment of her friend. My inference was that OP believes her own choices of family are more valued/desired/etc than her friends. I removed the barefoot remark, because I can't read OP's mind about whether she explicitly believes it. However you must agree that OP thinks her friend should've made similar choices to herself, right? Clearly OP made a value judgement about her own choices and holds her friend to this same standard. Additionally, OP clearly compares her own husband's salary against her friends entry level job in the EU parliament as some kind of translator (which needing advanced training in a language you might not natively speak/understand might actually be helpful). What inference would you draw? That OP is a feminist who believes her friend should be free to make her own choices? Or that maybe OP believes her friend should've given up on college, gotten married and had kids? 2. Your argument about graduate degrees doesn't seem to address anything about the actual situation. Yes, some degrees are less job/economy focused, so what? The friend was talking about her NEW JOB! No mention of cultural pressure, or the degree being expensive, or very niche (translators are needed all over the world). Time consuming? 26 years old, means 4 years for her bachelor's degree, maybe 2 years for her master's degree, and that puts her at about 24/5. Which gives her about a year to apply for jobs, interview, and accept a job. Seems she is doing things on a pretty stable timeline.

@@yoyobeerman1289 somewhat true, but...totally irrelevant? she already has a good job in terms of both finances and life experience. 'but some degrees that some other, entirely unrelated people get aren't financially viable' mang so?

Our nephew 😢

"I refused to pick up my nephew from school once whose dad has cancer, AITA" Info: I didnt have anything else do to. ???????????

She could literally go pick him up with her mom is she still wanted to hang out with her

I can even understand someone illogically thinking, "I wish he'd consulted with me first", even if just for show, but an adult should be able to push that aside and understand that looking after the child is the main responsibility of everyone involved.

But tbf NL literally said that he should have been reachable bc she was travelling home alone at night. He made a mistake by leaving his phone on vibrate which is totally fine - they both just need to learn from their mistakes

@@swimminginhoney His wife is an adult, I’m sure she is capable of handling a trip home from work. If it is actually a serious situation call emergency services.

@@swimminginhoney he was at home exactly where he was expected to be. Had there been an emergency the emergency services could more than easily give his door a knock and wake him up.

KekW communicating instead of just banishing 2 teenagers, lol ok

NTA your death your rules

Well don't I have something to tell you about those rumors...

Fortunately most people aren't psychos. Reddit is just a filter where you can see the worst scum on Earth

This is probably a foreign concept, but when you're in a relationship, you tend to want to be able to get a hold of that person during emergencies. The wife probably doesn't put her phone on silent because she seems to understand this.

@@JD-wu5pf My boyfriend is a heavy sleeper. Even if his phone was ringing off the hook there's no guarantee he'd wake up if it wasn't the usual time. If I got into a nightmarish car crash in the middle of the night, I'd hope he'd be contacted, but if he doesn't wake up when the hospital tries to call him why the hell would I get mad at him for being asleep. It's not like the dude in the post dropped off the planet for a week.

@@JD-wu5pf Plausible situations: Important work meeting, forgot to take it off silent after coming out of the conference room Accidentally putting it on silent and not realizing it (I think they have an actual physical switch on iphones, no?) I think the rational response would be to speak to S/O about emergency situations without being hostile; being hostile invites fighting. I get that she was mad, but she had the whole Uber ride to think about the situation and ber first response was to wake him up and shout at him, even if you think he's ill-prepared, she's no angel either. People make mistakes, you just need to learn from them. If this was repeated behaviour I would agree.

If he is outside at night, sure

@@JD-wu5pf I've been in multiple relationships that lasted for years and not once has there been an "emergency" in which calling the partner was important. You know who you should call in an emergency? The police or an ambulance lmao.

Yep I was like this chick is like 18/19 years old, I would find it hard to believe that even a 25 year old would act so immature. I’m not against adults dating/marrying with an age gap, but these are likely some life issues that come with it.

I'm thinking she's concerned that it's going to become a permanent arrangement. We don't know the outlook for the father, but we all know there's no certainty with chemo. You'd best believe she's thinking, “I'm going to get stuck either as essentially a mother to a 12-year-old for at least six years who's not my kid, or divorced.” Probably hoping that if she refuses to entertain the idea of playing that role in an even a temporary arrangement, that the father of the child will find elsewhere in the unfortunate circumstance that it's necessary. It's a shitty situation, but there's no way this isn't in her mind. People tend to act crazy when there's a very real possibility that their lives are going to get turned upside down.

@@JordanIdk I mean, you can explain why she's being an asshole, but she's still being an asshole. I don't want kids either, but I'm old enough to have perspective here. The dude's brother has cancer. If the dad dies, you having to be a mom for 6 years should be the least of your concerns.

@@JordanIdk still a sociopath. hes 12, she maybe has to cook a bit more and occasionally drive him somewhere when the husband isnt available, not change his diapers 3 times a day.

@@JordanIdk 'yeah, I was worried this kid might have his father die, and then he might need to be raised or something, so I'll just pretend he doesn't exist.' +1 on 'still sociopathy.' you actually need zero empathy for this thought process to formulate into actual actions and choices. then again, the frontal lobe doesn't fully develop till 25, so maybe that's a point in favor of the OP's theory.

React court is in its prime and peaks every episode

@@jenm1 So why do people keep talking about it's demise?

@@cptKamina that's been greatly exaggerated.

Grandma might not have known tho

if grandma knew, I see where mom gets it from

The other day there was a thread where someone was talking about his brother who wouldn’t stop pissing on the floor no matter how many punishments they gave him and how severe they were. Many people’s advice were horribly cruel punishments like publicly embarrassing him, putting stuff in his bed, grounding him for months, etc. And not one person had suggested therapy for the kid to help him through whatever problem he was clearly going through. People on Reddit scare me sometimes.

@@dactorwatson4313 The whole internet man, I just came from a thread where a KZfaqr was repeatedly saying that Emma D'arcy (she plays Rhaenyra on House of the Dragon) should kill herself because trans people "are insane". Oof.

@@dactorwatson4313 especially with how young children bedwetting tends to be symptomatic of some urgent issues. Its really common for a child to respond to rape trauma with bedwetting. Maybe its just a terrible habit, but still doesnt even excuse it. It just makes it even more insane

Not enough information though. Do you sit them down and explain it or do you send them away home at that instant? I just think there are better ways to handle the situation.

@@jaravind5050 yeah probably better ways to handle it, but it might be understandable

@@jaravind5050 does raise a question though, how bad would the behavior have to be for a 'send them away immediately' response?

they're basically kids it's genuinely probably 10x more innocent than you're making it sound

That or being gaslit by others

or just being a redditor

Some are def fake, but that one...

The husband also thought he had a system in place to circumvent the silent phone exactly for emergency situations. Why does no one remember this

@@Incoherencel yeah exactly. Like I DO think he should have been reachable (the husband clearly does too!) the issue is that they both made a mistake and she overreacted, not that it wasn’t a mistake for him to have his phone on vibrate

:(

bruh

A step nephew would be (for instance) your BIL's wife's kid from a previous marriage. He's her nephew-in-law.