Ask Nick - Cheating Calendar | The Viall Files w/ Nick Viall

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3 ай бұрын

Welcome back to another episode of The Viall Files: Ask Nick Edition! Before we get to our callers, we talk about the toys we had when we were kids…
Our first caller is ‘dating’ a guy who’s in an open relationship with someone else. She’s afraid to ask him for commitment and is thus wondering if sleeping with his friend would be wrong. Our second caller lied to her boyfriend, and now he thinks everything she does is a lie. What was her initial lie and how should she rebuild his trust? Our final caller feels like she's parenting her fiance’s kids for her. Is this due to differentiating perspectives on parenting, or does her fiance need to step up?
“Checking in should feel like consideration, not controlling”
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@edemfiadonu2444 3 ай бұрын

I appreciated Nick's sassyness when he was asking why the 24 year old needed to be in an open relationship💀

@juliaguiney856 3 ай бұрын

Open relationships are so dumb. It gives me a headache listening to that caller explain her situationship that doesn’t care about her or his own girlfriend….

@seven92023 3 ай бұрын

Life is about choices and trade offs. Open relationships benefit men only. It's detrimental to women. First caller is damaged already. Second caller is immediate breakup. He needs to end it. No discussion even. Women like the first caller become women like the second caller 5 years later.

@fhay1 3 ай бұрын

That first caller really missed the entire point

@KaminiSingh-mm5dx 3 ай бұрын

I LOVE that Nick asked the second caller to answer the question with one sentence. (Please do more of that.)

@6Alien 3 ай бұрын

I think Nick's pov on open/alternative relationships is getting more nuanced and I appreciate that! As someone who's had positive experiences with polyamory, the takes on this show can feel a little myopic sometimes, but I thought Nick did a good job investigating the first caller's feelings on the open relationship and determining it wasn't for her without automatically assuming she was deluding herself or something. Loved it!

@ningyding 3 ай бұрын

Nick when you said, things are always evolving, “it either grows or it dies”, I was like WOW. Imma remember that.

@InMy1987Era 3 ай бұрын

These callers are the typical 20 something’s that are in denial….

@assyrianprincess3 3 ай бұрын

Nicks definition of "sex positivity" is SPOT ON 💯

@zannyz 3 ай бұрын

The advice for caller #1 was spot onnnn. This girl just sounds messy and very attention-seeking. And does she not have ANY female friends either?! Why’s she always hanging out with a group of 3 guys hahaha that main gf is gonna come back and kick this sidechick right out!

@artisanaromatics 3 ай бұрын

First caller ("open" relationship): SO on point. Nick continues to impress!

@autumnsavage6419 3 ай бұрын

I am so shook by the first caller. I just have zero comments.

@felicialamanna7078 3 ай бұрын

ahhhh not everything is choices- did my choices give me my chronic illness ???

@marissabowman1226 3 ай бұрын

Can Ally give us a skincare routine?! Her skin is glowing

@ningyding 3 ай бұрын

Amazing advice across the board. SO INSIGHTFUL. I hope the callers listen.

@Goddess_Jade 3 ай бұрын

:] I look forward to this podcast every week! I watch it religiously

@Ryanh1010 3 ай бұрын

These are becoming some of my favorite episodes to listen to weekly! Ive been going back and listening to some old "ask nick" episodes, I love the active situation drop lol.. is it still around?

@sandralinke9150 3 ай бұрын

Ohhh that first caller… HOW can she not see that she’s in an open relationship?? Wow…she is in BIGTIME DENIAL. I feel bad for her And what she doesn’t see is that he’s getting everything and she is second. I would bet big a money he’s telling the “girlfriend” the same things he’s telling her. Ugh…this is going to crash and burn badly. She called for feedback and yet doesn’t want to listen to Nick’s advice Yipes

@christinek9197 3 ай бұрын

Why do we say “sweet sweet Justin” and never anything nice to add about Ally? Isn’t she your most loyal employee?

@michellemorales8813 3 ай бұрын

I always thought it was because he was gay, he’s “sweet” . Like if I met someone I thought was gay I would say I think he was sweet.

@fhay1 3 ай бұрын

@@michellemorales8813I think he’s just sweet lol

@autumnsavage6419 3 ай бұрын

I think they mean it as an innocent wat

@IOSALive 3 ай бұрын

Nick Viall, This is so fun! I'm happy I found your channel!

@jennyonthecoast 3 ай бұрын

Caller we’re not in a stable relationship and don’t communicate. Also, it’s never a good time to have kids smh

@martayoung2492 3 ай бұрын

Woman in the throuple: I walked away from a guy I was IN LOVE WITH who, 5 months into dating, wasn't ready to be exclusive with me. And 3 months later he came for me. Please don't keep lying to yourself about your feelings and needs, and start protecting your heart. The longer you keep going along what's good for HIM, the more it's gonna hurt when it ends because he's moving to be with his GF. Good luck and keep us posted.

@samanthanoellesmith 3 ай бұрын

7:38 Fate and free will both exist. It isn’t one or the other. They can both simultaneously exist and both be true. Fate are the predestined things we are meant to experience. Free will are the choices we make between each predestined point. And yes, sometimes we can make a choice that goes against the “intended” plan, but that’s where an understanding of a larger omnipresent being, God, helps fill in gaps. There are numerous stories of people’s lives being completely redirected. That’s when God steps in and goes “woah, you’re way off course from where we intended you to be. Let’s redirect you a little.” People think it has to be science or religion. God or the Big Bang. I think it all exists, but that there is an overarching being that somehow connects us all, and can be experienced as the truest form of love we’ll ever know.

@dcnats92 3 ай бұрын

There’s most likely no such thing as fate. But also you believe in a god so I understand how that can be your worldview. As far as stories of people being redirected, imo that is luck; crossing the warmth and kindness of other people; and/or someone coming across a situation that jolts them out of their habit of making bad decisions. Regardless, I love Nick’s viewpoint that life just a result of your choices and the choices of those around you. That’s really all it is unless you believe in some deity that is also active in each and every person’s everyday life or total life path. Accountability is huge and missing for many people and communities in today’s world. I appreciate someone talking about that important ideology.

@samanthanoellesmith 3 ай бұрын

@@dcnats92 correction I don’t believe in “a God.” I believe in God.

@dcnats92 3 ай бұрын

@@samanthanoellesmithI assume you mean the Abrahamic god? And that’s all good! I was raised Catholic and respect all religions. Every thing I wrote is of course just my stupid opinion and worldview and everyone is entitled to their own. Have a nice day!

@samanthanoellesmith 3 ай бұрын

@@dcnats92 I base my beliefs on experience, and I’m open to changing those beliefs whenever experience or evidence is presented that contradicts said beliefs. I too, like you, respect people’s beliefs. But my experience shapes my worldview. If our beliefs differ it’s because our experiences differ.

@fhay1 3 ай бұрын

This was such a good episode

@Dogmama3 3 ай бұрын

Nick. Easy Bake ovens were for us Gen X, our parents weren’t around. And even then we could use the real oven and stove 😂

@BeautyXXBrittany 3 ай бұрын

I HAD AN EASY BAKE OVEN LOL AND YES U COULD EAT THE FOOD AND IT WAS GOOD!!!!!! LOL

@Lizaw4022 3 ай бұрын

Why wouldn’t he have met Natalie if he was never the bachelor? Because she wouldn’t have been interested in him if he wasn’t famous?

@bubblebritney 3 ай бұрын

They met by her sliding in his DMs, so I think it’s just she simply wouldn’t have known he existed if he wasn’t a public figure bc he was on the bachelor.

@kellyhorvatin 3 ай бұрын

If he wasn't on the bachelor he wouldn't have a following on Instagram and wouldn't care about posting content so his picture would have never ended up on her feed.

@tonibrooks9719 3 ай бұрын

@@kellyhorvatinNatalie claims she didn’t know he was the bachelor. So I’m confused now since she saw his feed and instagram. Did he not post any bachelor content or delete it?

@emiliasvensson6125 2 ай бұрын

@@tonibrooks9719Natalie found nick on her instagram Explorer page. He never would have been there if it wasn’t for his big following and influencer status. And that comes from him being on the bachelor. That’s how I took it

@The6Wicked6Witch6 3 ай бұрын

I wish I had a podcast like this when I was 24, a lot of toxicity could have been avoided…or not, I was an idiot at 24 😅

@ningyding 3 ай бұрын

Caller 2 has a lot more problems in her relationship than the fact that she lied to him…. Her boyfriend has major issues with trust, communication, emotional intimacy… I think he is the problem and her acting out was a symptom, not the cause, of their issues. Her bf needs to get on board with being in this relationship. It sounds like the caller is having this whole relationship alone. She’s doing all the work. And there is a theme across all Ask Nicks of women being afraid/unable to communicate their true feelings. You don’t have a relationship if he doesn’t know how you feel and you don’t feel safe enough to tell him. You have a farce. This is a big mess.

@Urmomlovesyoutube 3 ай бұрын

Justin! I grew up in Cali and we had the Pizza Hut coupon for reading, was probably a 90s kid thing 😆🙌🏽

@assyrianprincess3 3 ай бұрын

I really love the opening discussion because I have these types of conversations with my friends all the time. I would like to give a christian I think life is changing choice like input. When I think of the phrase "things happens for a reason. " it has more to do with the things that you can't control rather than the things that you can. For example, you don't get to choose what kind of family you're born into whether they're rich or poor, but you can decide what to do with your life and get yourself to a better situation than you were given. A lot of people like to argue whether life is about chance or by choice why can't it be both?

@abigaleparker1632 3 ай бұрын

i’ve been watching since you started and i’m honored to be the first view today lmao

@emilymelody5895 3 ай бұрын

The 90s playground.. we had a tire swing at school and I swear it was once a month where a kid broke their arm from smacking into the pole. Also, the documentary “Class Action Waterpark” on HBO, is a WILD reminder of how reckless the 80s/90s were. It would be fun for you guys to watch and break it down.

@jenmcclelland23 3 ай бұрын

man nick really cannot handle someone else having an opposite view on the world. i don't believe in "everything happens for a reason" either but who cares if someone else does? if thinking that way makes it easier for them to deal with bad things that have happened to them then good for them.

@marissamorales7537 3 ай бұрын

I like it when the entire house hold is in the same room.

@RealityRecapGurl 3 ай бұрын

Nick asking the 2nd caller for the short answer to get some time to go on his phone lmao

@anti5080 3 ай бұрын

I hope he breaks up with that girl man, like she just disrespected him and tried to justify it

@DanielaPrimus 3 ай бұрын

Choices matter before the first caller ON POINT 😂😂😂

@KR-fj2mm 2 ай бұрын

That’s the premise of “everything happens for a reason”. The same problems will keep happening in your life until you learn from them!

@katstone785 3 ай бұрын

I grew up in CA! I LOOVED BOOK IT! and the whole Scholastic Book Fair!

@larsp23 3 ай бұрын

Second caller smh yikes, she made a untrusting situation and now has to deal with it

@IOSALive 3 ай бұрын

Nick Viall, You're so cool! Let's be friends and have fun!

@maddievic2 3 ай бұрын

lol wat

@angeleener 3 ай бұрын

Chuck E. Cheese pizza is really good…team Justin. ❤

@KaminiSingh-mm5dx 3 ай бұрын

We all come into this world with our own karma. (regarding the first part of this episode)

@lauraramirez3448 3 ай бұрын

I used to owe an American girl doll & easy baked oven. 😂

@catherineritch6241 3 ай бұрын

Our lives are perfectly planned by us , free will, before we were even born. Even the ppl we meet on the way , to bring us to the ppl we are supposed to be with us. Such as your wife Natalie etc…when we enter the world, we’re giving a veil of unforgetfulness. that way we navigate through life by choices, intuition, etc., To follow the plan, choices are greatly a part of it.

@staceekivisto8726 3 ай бұрын

Well for me being a devout Christian and have a very strong faith for me God knows everything before you are even born your life is predestined so everything happens the way He has planned . God says in the BIble life will not be easy it will be hard . I get all these situations you all are stating i get it all but for me it’s all Gods plan . Great podcast I’m a huge fan and love your show

@nafafonafafofo 3 ай бұрын

I’m going through a similar situation to caller #2, except my bf left me 6 weeks ago. I did the usual begging and pleading but he has made it clear we are not getting back together. So I’ve been doing no contact since then (and consistently failing.) I’ve never been in so much pain; but you can’t make someone want to be with you.

@SaraPratt-kt4xp 3 ай бұрын

We TOTALLY had book IT pizza hut -in California- San Diego - 83 born here… maybe it stopped in the mid/ late 90s. But totally had they book it buttons

@zannyz 3 ай бұрын

I had it when I was younger!!! born in 98, the program was still active in the mid 2000s 🤩 loved it so much!! but think it ended shortly after

@karenschell9822 3 ай бұрын

My kids had Care Bears and cabbage patch dolls, and pound puppies 😂, they are 37 and 40 now.

@hannahbanana71197 3 ай бұрын

CHOICES MATTER!! Everything nick said about free will being a gift and how things don’t happen for a reason is so spot on. Gained so much respect for him hearing this logic spoken publicly, against popular opinion 👏🏻

@catherineritch6241 3 ай бұрын

Things do also happen for a reason, like example of the person that died prematurely. Again, he knew his path they say we also time our death and the way we die, we’re given a veil of forgetfulness when we enter this world..,there is an afterlife, we are spiritual, people living in a physical body and physical world, for now ,so things also happen for a reason and choices matter

@debbieschwarm3118 3 ай бұрын

Both things. Things happen for a reason and choices matter. It's not either or.

@jancarmy5749 3 ай бұрын

My gosh Nick, everybody has their own believes. I agree that everything happens for a reason too.

@zebraattastiic 3 ай бұрын

That first caller was so immature and hard to listen to. One day she will cringe when she listens back.

@kariwilliams6565 3 ай бұрын

I agree that freewill is a pretty cool gift, but I have to argue that it’s not the best gift that God gave us, which is handsdown, salvation!

@JeniferMorris789 3 ай бұрын

Christian here 🙋🏼‍♀️ Yes, ultimately the earth is not our home, we are citizens of heaven. However, this life doesn’t exist to get to heaven, it’s to get other people to know and follow Jesus (the great commission). Free will is a gift, but that’s why we were given scripture; so we could use that as guidance for the decisions we make. The Bible isn’t a rule book, it is an outline for a godly life that serves to protect us (morally) from our sin (due to living in a fallen world).

@artisanaromatics 3 ай бұрын

Caller 2 Nick missed the boat. I’ve been that young woman. She acted out with the other guy because her needs are NOT getting met. Instead of condemning, condescending calendars and check-ins, there’s something missing here. She didn’t give out her number and flirt from a vacuum: something is up that she’s not copping to. Something is missing. Nick gives a very triggered response that misses this nuance.

@kariwilliams6565 3 ай бұрын

It’s pretty cool when you think about it that you have to, use your freewill to accept the gift of salvation!

@mariacunningham7562 3 ай бұрын

Caller #1, read the book Polysecure!

@lwooldridge069 3 ай бұрын

You should research Robert Sopolsky the neurobiologist from Sanford regarding free will. No such thing from a scientific hypothesis.

@tonibrooks9719 3 ай бұрын

Wow. Thanks. I’m going to research that.😊

@lauramoor7730 3 ай бұрын

That’s weird with the kosher because I have gone to kosher diner and I got a chicken ranch dressing salad, so how is that OK then it was cream in the dressing and it’s a really old kosher really famous place in LA.?

@yr5135 3 ай бұрын

Either the ranch is vegan or it’s not a kosher restaurant

@goldeng6rl Ай бұрын

the first caller is frustrating me lol

@health360-ff8qc 3 ай бұрын

I miss when it was just Allie and Amanda with Nick - and occasionally Natalie. Wayyyyy too many cooks in the household now. I fast forward to only hear what Nick wants to say. He can lead solo eps, he doesn't need so many side characters.

@mstjpg 3 ай бұрын

To the girl in this open relationship please realize you can do better and deserve better… Why would you expect him to leave his gf and only be with you when he isn’t even doing this now? If he wanted to be with you or just one person than he would already be doing so.

@jillianphoenix3270 3 ай бұрын

I deffffffinitely don’t think everything happens for a reason lol. I think life sucks sometimes and hard things happen, and certainly there can be a silver lining in bad experiences, but that doesn’t mean there’s a reason for it to have happened in the first place. My mom dying from cancer before she was able to watch her children get married or meet her grandchildren…. what could possibly be the “reason” for that to happen?

@Dumbfoundead27 3 ай бұрын

To learn from the experience of hardships of life and how to become resilient from that hardship, how others who were connected to your mom learn and grow from that experience. Everyone experiences difficulties in their life, no matter how big or small, but it’s how we come out from the other end of that difficult experience.

@assyrianprincess3 3 ай бұрын

Im so sorry for your loss, I also lost a close family member to cancer. The way I see it, we cannot comprehend Gods plan, his plan is beyond human comprehension. Your mother sounds like a wonderful woman and you have to know she was able to see you getting married from heaven

@jillianphoenix3270 3 ай бұрын

@@assyrianprincess3 Thank you, she was incredible. Even in her last days, she was never afraid to die... her faith was unwavering. She was heartbroken to leave all of us here, but she was so confident that her late parents and brother would be waiting for her. That's really the only thing that keeps me from being totally bitter about it... the belief that I will see her again someday and that when my time on earth comes to an end, that she'll be there waiting for me! I'm so sorry for your loss too

@assyrianprincess3 3 ай бұрын

@@jillianphoenix3270 ❤️❤️❤️❤️

@claudiapawlak6894 3 ай бұрын

Does anybody talk about being comfortable with each other . Does it matter , tingles when we touch ? When you are enough for each other . In this space & time why do people make clay . " He who holds the key can open my heart . "

@cindicleee 3 ай бұрын

❤❤

@sandralinke9150 3 ай бұрын

She has to ASK to go to the gym?! Oh wow…please please girl get OUT of that No one should have to ask “permission” for something like that 🫤

@zannyz 3 ай бұрын

Omg the pizza hut free personal pan pizza was for kids in the “Book It!” program!!! I was just reminiscing that with my sister the other day, it was always soooo exciting when you read enough books and got to go to pizza hut🥲