My mom has always said to me. Even if you get married, the moment you feel unsafe, my doors are open;You come right back home 🙂👌

Ladies take this as a note: Be financially independent, no matter what!

Your husband saw your potential and was jealous of you. I'm glad youre out. Well done!

I suspect this woman's mother and family failed her by encouraging her to stay in this relationship.

One of the most demeaning things in the world is having SEX with someone who is cruel to you.

The church is his cover story. It’s his mask. This is the lowest type of abuser. One who uses faith as his weapon of control.

The man she is talking about is named Phil Thompson. He was a member of the singing Ashmont Hill. I used to attend the church she is referencing called known as New Covenant Christian Center now known as Jubilee. This woman is telling the truth. I dated his younger brother my first year in college. I left the relationship after 3 months as I began to notice very controlling behavior. This woman was the victim of narcissistic abuse. Pray that this woman is able to heal from the trauma of this abuse and help many women along the way🙏🏽

THE moral of her story is: when someone shows you who they are believe it....

43 years old!- You look much younger and YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! You keep going girl ,let nothing and NO ONE define you or stop you! Ladies please let us all heed the warning signs!!!!!!!

I was married to a verbal/emotional abuser. I thought that I was strong 💪 for not letting a man beat on me. I didn’t realize that I was still vulnerable and allowed the verbal/emotional abuse for years. Now, I know better; abuse is abuse. All abuse hurts. Her story is powerful and I’m glad she broke free. God bless her.

I’m so glad you dumped that trash!!! You’re much too beautiful for this devil hiding himself with a church. Stay strong precious sister!!!!

WHEN SOMEONE SHOW YOU WHO THEY ARE, BELIEVE THEM...THE FIRST TIME!!!

He sounds just like a narcissist. I was married to a narc. These people are the worst evil people ever!!!

Narcissists always want you to believe you're crazy and everything their doing to you is your fault. Stay strong sis

I feel like you're telling MY story!!! I am 6 years free now and I am happier than I've ever been! Good luck to you and happy healing!!

Oh, girl....I just want to gather you in my arms and hug you and let you cry and cry ❤️ My ex was charming too. No one saw his evil and rage. He saved that *just* for me, behind closed doors. This sounds horrific...I am SO glad you are out!!! 2 years out and married to a wonderful man who's also healing from Narcissist abuse~ God is faithful in our healing journey, finding our self worth and self love 💕

you look 25 you're beautiful!!!!!!! he left you because you started to figure him out

These videos keep popping up in my recommendations.......God is warning me, I see it. Leaving him today

A third job...if I have to get a second job with a husband..I might as well be by myself 🤷🏽‍♀️

If my parents have to convince me that the guy I date is a good guy, it's a big red flag for me.

Barefoot and pregnant..they don't want you to educate yourself so they can undermind you! Run as fast as you can.. I hope you find peace

I was married to a covert narcissist. They are malicious, sadistic, envious, big babies. Her husband sounds exactly like my ex husband. Life gets better when you cut them off permanently.

It took me six months to figure out the guy I was dating was a narc and I was out of there, never turning back.

You are a survivor of Domestic Violence and thank you for sharing your story with others. God bless you strong woman!❤🙏🏼❤

I hate how her parents kind of pressured her . If my lil girl told me a man scared her I’d be proud of her for letting go early and knowing better . Go with your gut .

When a person shows you who they are believe them and walk away.

I was also in an abusive relationship for over 13 yrs. I was in total denial. I was washing his shirts by hand, cutting his hair giving him manicures and pedicures, cooking paying half the bills thinking I was taking care of my man in the name of love only to find he was making homes with other women behind my back and even marrying one then lied about it... My warning was his father who treated his wife the same way, she still accepted to this day. I left.

OMG, I found myself in an abusive relationship like that in 2019. What I did was to disappear without my clothes and shoes one day.

ISOLATION is the #1 weapon of abusers against their abused!

My ex husband was an abuser and a pastor. They are the worst!

Girlfriend always have your own income.

I can only imagine how draining that marriage was. His parents are the marriage counselors oh no 🙅🏽‍♀️

My dad was a narcissist. After he left my mom he married someone just like himself. Karma!

One thing I know about people, they were raised in church but they do not have a relationship with God. Talk to God, not mother, father, or grandmother.

Her ex- husband was demonic! Definitely parading like an Angel of Light.

Sounds like a typical narcissist , they always try to ruin your character .

Never idolized anyone it always leads to disappointment..Always!.

She looks much younger than 43years

Single life is beautiful. Thank you for that reminder... I've dealt with narcs before... I had the last laugh though.

I feel you sister. I have been in an abusive relationship for 17 years,my wife was so abusive but she never admitted it. But now I'm free and I can think straight. God is so good.

Your story will help other women. Thank you for telling it.

God always let us see signs but we ignore it.

I'm grateful that she's told her story to us, it's not easy to talk about it let alone in public. She's definitely helping others to recognize the abuse or to reflect upon a last relationship that was abusive too and to understand that you're not alone. I felt horrible when she said she basically knew right after the first date that she didn't want to see him again and then 16 years passed by. I'm glad she feels gods love and that she is so strong

I am not married but I was in an abusive relationship. Both verbally and physically I got out of there. We have to love ourselves first before we can love anyone.

Say no to narcissistic relationship

This woman is very smart and articulates herself very well. This man didn't want her in school because he didn't want her to learn more and be smart therefore he tried to break her down anyway he could by taking over the finances, by keeping her pregnant and in the dark on their business. Marriage is a contract and business partnership and this man took total control over their marital business through abusive manipulation. I hope this woman can keep on track moving forward in a positive light. She held on strong and still has her sanity. I know abuse all too well but have always refused to intertwine my credit or social security number within any relationship after being forced into bankruptcy by my ex, my son's father. Never again!!!

I lived this life with a spouse aka abusive angry & controlling man. Thankfully, I went from being a victim, survivor to thriving ... Thank you for sharing your story ... peace & blessings 😊🌈💜

Ladies we definitely need to practice more self-love and self-awareness. Soon as you find out about these narcs you need to leave.

His father is probably the same with his mother.

You were awake from the beginning and saw exactly what you were seeing. It was others that you trust made you believe in something that you knew was not right. My mama use to say, " Follow your first mind and let your conscience be your guide." I'm Happy Your Free God will deal with him and his family give it a minute.

When I first left my narc abusive husband, my mom, dad, and sister (who’s also my pastor) all told me to work it out. We have 2 children and I’ve been a SAHM for almost 8 years now so I have no income. Thankfully, when I told them how he had been treating me, they all were shocked but supported me with no pressure to go back to him. He was a deacon in our church, we sang on the praise team together, and he also was the drummer. It’s always the ones you least expect that you have to watch out for. Never let your guard down just because someone “appears” to be safe and trustworthy. Always pay attention to the red flags. There are ALWAYS red flags 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

This the reason, my good friend said to me ,love and respect a man but don’t give out all the power to a man!!

never ignore the red flags

Plis don't go back, such men don't change.. Am sorry for all you went through but you're a strong woman

Hi, you kept yourself very well for four children. Something similar happened to me as well ( with a Nigerian Associate Pastor, married for 14 years, our first child died, after the separation I was left with no money and our second child from the age of 5 years, being a white European woman and a single mom for 15 y' s ). I found my happiness with growing flowers on my balcony and singing Gospel songs. Bless you. I wish you strength hope and healing in all areas of body soul and mind ! Love Conny

What's scary about this its very common in the church

To all my sisters, you are so brave. I know what it’s like, I’ve been there too. My mother saved my life. If it wasn’t for the grace of God and my mother, I would not be here today.

She describes a husband who has narcissistic personality disorder.

I was in a mentally abusive relationship and was not able to see it. My children suffered as well. Seperated for 18 years now I still experience the consequences. My oldest daughter is still angry with me until this very for not being able to end the relationship. My advise to any woman. Dig deeeep into a mans family and personal background before saying yes

Im so glad you figured it out and pulled yourself up and got out.

I'm looking through a mirror. This was my life 9 years ago. Couldn't understand it until went through divorce.

1)First huge red flag “ we got lost on the trail and he lost it”. This why you honor your own intuition it won’t lie to you

That's why I left the church. There are spiritual narcissist in there. Too many Christian women getting cheated on smh. While they cover for the pastors cheating

Boy, I remember going on a 3 day hiking/camping trip with an asshole boyfriend (obviously didn't realize that at the time, and not for a while after either), and on the last day my knees were hurting from carrying the heavy pack up and down hills, and he said, "this trip (back to the car) better not take 8 hours because of you." Well, he misread the map and went the wrong way down the trail, even after I told him several times that landmarks I had noted previously (including a large pile of deer poop) were not there. It wasn't until we met someone along the trail, of course he was walking way ahead of me, and that person let him know he was headed along the week long trail, so we turned around. And of course he got mad at me, not really abusive, but certainly demoralized me when every step was extreme pain. The only thing that got me through was a silly song I made up in my head about him. Well, when we finally got back to the car, I had looked at my watch and it had taken us exactly 8 hrs and 5 min. We did break up in the car on the way home, but I still let him back in my life several times, until I finally had enough and told him never to contact me again. But no, I didn't learn my lesson, and dated jerks (I guess I didn't believe I was worthy of a better person), and unfortunately married a selfish and depressed man who over the past ten years has sabotaged my career and finances. I am working towards rebuilding my life, my health and my self-esteem now. I tell younger people now, that if someone treats you disrespectfully, they are not your friend, and why would you want a partner that is not your friend. I see manipulators and bullies now and fight back, which usually shuts them up, but when we give control to another who does not have our best interest at heart, we lose part of ourselves.

Sounds like my ex. Narcissism was called James. He tried to intimidate and control me. Tried to choose my friends. It didnt work. I was stronger than my abuser and his lies.

Omg don’t cry your a beautiful strong black woman . May god continue to bless you

Never listen to your parents when it comes to relationship, you have to live it not them. Your first instinct should have told you to run regardless of who told you to stay. Follow your gut

You went through exactly the same challenges as me. It's so painful that most people will always see the wife as the bad one only because the husband and his family serves the church.

Praise the Lord, you did not let the church kill your relationship with God. His Spirit and Mercy endures forever!

She went against her 'gut'... her 'inner voice'.. her 'spirit'.. The Holy Spirit's voice to her Spirit'.. Whatever Ya want to call it. *We should NOT EVER ignore it.* Her mother's input caused her to second guess that 'gut' feeling. Ladies PLEASE (n men also) Do NOT ignore it. It doesn't matter what others say. That inner voice is the TRUTH. *N do not try2 make sense of it with your mind, the Spirit knows what the mind doesn't know.*

I went to a Pentecostal church and all the wives work while the husbands didnt work . They used the scriptures for their own benefit. That's why never loose yourself 👈 in a marriage or relationship

Some peep think marraige is a contract for SALE of a soul..only God owns YOU

You are a beautiful, intelligent, articulate woman. So glad you are doing well now. You deserve it. God bless you.

Sounds like the mom was in denial about how her daughter was treated

OMG!!! I’m listening to my own story, only I didn’t have children. My husband went away and at the age of 72 had an affair with a 27 year old lady, then bragged about it. That is how I got my freedom from an controlling abusive husband. After 25 years I’m happy to say he’s out of my life forever. We too met in the church. He even instigated a prayer meeting in the mornings in our church. As we all know ‘it’s not everyone that says Lord’.

This lady deserves the best. I would take good care of you and your kids. Such a beautiful soul. I can see your soul in your eyes! 🙌💖🇮🇪☘

God gave you the sign on the hike and all mothers don't know better.. Take notes in the beginning

Classic narcissistic abuse.

Oh dear. I can hear myself from you. I was a single mother before I left him from the time I met him

What gets me is that you almost always see the behavior of abuse when you’re dating. Nobody is that good at hiding things. Usually, the signs are there but you either ignore them or you don’t know what to call the behavior so it flys over your head. It is not until you are in the marriage that things start unfolding. Ladies and gentlemen please be careful in everything that you do concerning marriage and dating. Do not allow anyone to cajole you into a life of misery. Remember that you were free and had choice before you met them and they can’t take that away from you. Hold God higher than any spouse or relationship because no man born of dust should ever have any hold over you.

Always trust your instincts. Yours were screaming from that first date . Thanks for telling your story.

Ladies we must never never never never never give any man better yet anyone control over you. LOVE YOURSELF!! YOU ARE A CHILD OF GOD!! You come from royalty. PUT GOD FIRST!! You do that nobody has control over you. Stop being so thirsty and desperate to be in relationships. Learn to be alone and have clarity. Know who you are. Get toxic people out of your life immediately. Seek God, He is truly amazing.

I am sorry for your pain, glad that you are free, and disappointed that you did not share the name of the monstrous "church" your ex was part of. They absolutely NEED to be exposed!

I watched your story last night and watching it over again today. I am sorry for all that you went through : the pain, the hurt, the heartbreak. I hope you and your family are doing much better now, a few years later. I hope your children are healthy and happy. May God continue to Bless and protect you and your children. Your husband will face his judgment. The only thing I am disappointed about, is that you did not have to courage to leave him before , it was only when you found out that he had * another woman,* it was ONLY then you gathered the courage and the strength to leave. Your church also failed you by not getting involved . God has never and will never fail you. Wishing you the best in life.

He kept impregnating her to keep her down.... it's a tactic as well. Don't get me wrong children are a blessing but they are a sacrifice indeed. Things get a bit harder especially in the beginning stages of child development . You become codependent or try to look for support of your spouse naturally.

You are a very strong, brave women. Thank you for sharing your story.

This lady describes her husband as exactly 💯 how Satan character is. 1st angle of light (charming)

You’re a strong woman. My heart hurts for you yet I admire you.

This sounds like mine: Charming. Controlling. Empty promises. I was drained most of the time. I didn't have support.

A minister, a musician, a gospel singer...a narcissistic abuser. RUN honey...and keep right on running. God is with you and will heal your brokenness. ❤

Omg honey the story of my life I pray for us omg

Did this husband of yours do anything for a LIVING? Sounds like to ME he was COMPLETELY spoiled by his CHURCHY parents!

This breaks my heart. So many women want a companion so desperately that they often ignore the red signs. 🔥Ladies, don't let anyone control you and make you feel less than just because he's the man. Society says get married however if being single and Happy is more fulfilling then remain single until you find someone who will truly respect you and appreciate you❤️😢

Devils in sheep's clothing!

OH MY GOSH!!! Girl! When my ex Narc and I were dating he brought us in a hike in the mountains of Virginia for my birthday~ we ALSO got lost and he FLIPPED OUT!! I also thought, where did this kind, quiet person go??? It should have been a huge red flag. He ruined my birthday with his rage. I kept telling him it was fine, that we'd look back on the memory and laugh and he was INCONSOLABLE with his anger! I too came back from my honeymoon weeping in my parents bed. My dad told me to divorce...my mom disagreed. 😞💔 I never felt married to someone either. It was NOT a marriage. It was slavery.

Girl, why did you wait so long to get rid of that ZERO?

Never say I do if u r having any second thoughts. The its better to remain single than marry the wrong person.! Keep strong. All things work together for the good of Gods children.

Sounds like my ex. Satan masquerading as an Angel

That's why I serve God at home.I am a bedside baptist.

You are NOT alone!!!! It feels good to be FREE!!!! Praise God for second chances!!!!