I think BPD is one of the most misunderstood illnesses out there

Thank you for raising awareness about borderline personality disorder (BPD). This helped me understand a lot more, and congratulations on making so much progress in your recovery journey.

I cannot express my gratitude for your videos. The general representation and understanding of bpd is very poor so it means a lot to see someone making an effort to be educational. It's been difficult for me living with bpd especially when people hold these misunderstandings so thank you. Subscribing right now! Best wishes to you and your relationship xxx

1:43 this is the cutest thing ever

I've had relationships with a narcissist and 2 other females with bpd and got severely hurt emotionally, financially and physically. For some reason I attract these types. Lesson learned..run!

You seem really sweet and your personality is adorable. Also, you and your partner look very happy in your relationship. Congratulations to you both and best wishes~ Great video, too! Keep up the great work!

I have BPD, my doctors presume I've had it way long before they diagnosed me with it, my parents don't understand BPD (they don't think BPD exists they just think it's spoilt Brats acting out for no reason, wrong) I wouldn't say I'm as bad of a BPD patient as others are, but it makes me miserable and I isolated myself from a lot of people because of it. Apparently I respond well to treatment because "I want to get to better" and it's true. BPD is so much emotional turmoil and even though I still have horrid days with it and I still can't be in romantic relationships with anyone because I'm just too afraid, I'm much more stable than I used to be when I was younger. AND As much as I suffer with it, majority of the people I know who have BPD I can't stand because they're so unpredictable and you just know they're going to do something awful to you and as much as I can understand, I hate it. No wonder there are misconceptions, very complicated people.

Who else caught the special little looks at 1:50? There's a brief, beautiful, personal moment between you guys there - loved it! Loved the whole thing but I thought that was adorable.

it took over 15 years to diagnose me with BPD , they put all the different "labels" on me and even "fried" my brain 22 times in 6 months (E.C.T.) thanks Bas for talking about BPD so openly,xxxxx

I stumbled upon your videos accidentally two years ago, completely unaware of my condition. I knew something was wrong, I just didn't know it was called BPD. Thanks to you I began therapy and have come a very long way!! Thank You Bas!

Thank you for making this video. It is more helpful than you will ever know. I think you are one of the most courageous and inspirational people I know.

You did a woderful job explaining the misconceptions! These 5 points sound more truthful of a person who suffers from NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder). Anyway, I read the book "Get me out of here" by Rachel Reiland. She was diagnosed with BPD but she has fully recovered. It is a story of hope and optimism for anyone who suffers from BPD and for those near to this person. Keep up the great work, Bas!!

great info and video! I've read so many articles saying that you should avoid getting into relationships with people who have bpd, so it's nice to know that's not true.

Not all guys are untrustworthy we just have an uncanny knack of falling for the wrong ones. Also the wrong ones have an uncanny knack of seeking us out because they recognise our vulnerability and how to use it to their advantage.

It's brilliant that you can speak to frankly and clearly on what is a very misunderstood experience for many people. Dispelling the misconceptions will help a lot of people, those with and without the condition. Keep up the excellent, inspirational work. Love and peace :)

Awweee, you're such a sweet and compassionate person, Bas. Thank God for people like you. You've come through the fire and your personality is now like a honey bbq. It could have been charcoal, but between your blessings and your IQ, it's all working toward your advancement. Best wishes to you and yours!

Thank you, Bas, you are so thoughtful. I don't know if I'm even suffering from this but you make me feel so much better with your videos. :)

Thank you so much, You always give me new tools. And I find myself more and more after watching these videos. To update you. I've been doing a lot better. I havent been down. I keep a post-it of one of your older videos that says something like "the world will not fall down around me" Positive sticky notes and listening to your videos help me a lot. One BPD helping another, helps you, helps me. Positive support over the net, helps when u dont have a real life support group or family near by.

Thank you so much for helping other people like me.

Je vertelt alles zo heerlijk rustig en kalm, ik kan me echt het beste vinden in jouw video's wat BPD betreft. Zo herkenbaar en duidelijk, het geeft me ook echt hoop!

Much love for this video! Made me feel a little better today and I've been really struggling with my BPD symptoms over the past few days. Thanks for making this compassionate and wonderfully informative video. You and your girlfriend are SO CUTE! Just made me smile seeing you two together, so great. Thanks.

Always a pleasure to hear from you. Even though I don't have BPD, I learn much from your insightful video messages. They're always stimulating and informative, not to mention visually impeccably balanced. Can't wait to see the next installment :-)

when he kissed his I almost fuckin cried. I've been trying for so long to find love smh. hope someone will except me for me.

You're videos always have such good quality! Thank you for being awesome :)

Thank you, thank you Bas!!! I will show this to my loved ones! This is great

Great video as usual. And for the rain part: Living in the Netherlands for 2 years now I have to say that weather here is truly crazy. It's like the weather suffers from Borderline itself: being unstable in mood and ready to surprise you any minute with unpredictable changes!;-)

Thank you. It's really helping. You are. I struggle with BPD and your videos always make me a bit happier

I really do miss your videos bas, I know you're probably busy but you were a rock to suffers not only with bpd but other problems. Hope you are doing well.

Thank you. Really, thank you so much for this, for your videos, your words. Thank you for existing.

You're welcome Agita.

You are so sweet, caring, and cool! Thanks for putting together these interesting, informative, and touching videos. Take care. xoxo

I’m so thankful for how you explain BPD, with much grace, mercy and understanding. You tube has a lot of therapist with a hate bias against BPD’s. I wish you could be my therapist.

Yeay! you got a lady. Wishing you all the best and thanks for giving us your fab youtube stuff. I'm always posting them on my facebook support group

This is a brilliant video. I'd missed a few of my DBT therapy sessions but this motivated me to pick up the phone and get the next one sorted. Thanks :)

I understand. I hope you are doing ok. Take care.

You're welcome Alice :) Glad it is helpful!

Thank you so much for this beautiful video. Very informative and descriptive. 👍🏻

How wonderful. I am pretty sure I have BPD, but this helps a lot. Amy is so sweet and you're so lucky! Please keep making videos. From NYC.

I have bpd as well but I also have hypothyroidism and that causes allot of mental health issues along with physical but the mental issues tend to be more unbearable so they would need to treat my thyroid before they can sort out my mental issues because they can't tell what caused what I have had problems all my life I am 22 now you have no idea how happy I am to see that someone understands what I am going through no one does and they say they try but it seems so frustrating and I cant even begin to tell them about my other problems my memory is going as well I hate it and I am questioning reality due to my anxiety induced derealization disorder I hope one day people will understand

So great to hear that. Really makes me happy! :)

Thanks, also glad to hear that the video was fun. Life is already so serious.

Thank you so much for this. 💙💙💙

Thank you for the sweet comment!

Thank you. There is a link in the description box to a good website. The new DSM V is coming out soon, i'll put another link up then.

Great way to help erase the stigma, thankyou for sharing you beautiful soul, big hugs and lots of love and light 💓😊

Awww. I'm hoping to be diagnosed with something soon, but BPD fits perfectly. My boyfriend has Bipolar and we help each other and love each other.

I´ve just checked the link, great info. Thank you very much! :)

I was diagnosed with BPD when I was 18, I'm 30 now and really struggling. I self harm almost everyday, I started self harming at 13. I have no friends, I can't work and I don't go out by myself. I am extremely isolated. My psychiatrist discharged me as I refuse to try any more medication and my keyworker discharged me as I'd been seeing her for 3 years and that's all your allowed apparently. Now I have no one to talk to so stuff everything down. I can't see my life ever improving. I've had failed relationships in the past so I've given up on love, maybe I can't be loved. I can only see suicide as a way out of this nightmare.

Thank you so much Bas!!! What about a video based on the GOOD sides of BPD??? Like being empathetic and so on...? I guess that would be very interesting!!! Greets, C.

Thank you! :) and thank you for posting them.

Excellent, thankyou so much, your so caring and gentle, could listen to you for long time, thankyou.

Thank you again another brilliant video,i post them on my facebook so my friends can understand me a little better.

Hi, I have bpd and I have found your video very useful. Thank you very much. X

Awesome! Thank you for posting them!! :)

Thank you, best wishes back to you.

Right you are, I'm a person with BPD and I have the same partner for over 8 years so yes we can! Of course there a problems, but be honest which relationship hasn't. Unfortunately I'm the odd one out, I'm 42 now and still have BPD (thank God good under controle) as does my sister (49) and my niece... it's a family-thing.

Excellent video as usual, Bas! but can you tell me the 9 criterias for BPD, please?

Lol ;D yeah you are totally right. One moment it's sunny the next one it's snowing... Hope this weekend will be lovely. 'Fijn weekend' :)

:) i'm glad they're making you feel so much better :)

It's fine :) I get that feeling, I have been there too.

Thanks so much. Bless you.

I miss you mate!! Please come back with more videos or at least to let us know how you're doing!

your videos are helping my guy understand me a tad better. Thankyou so much. Can you say something about how BPDs deal with rejection? And more importantly, about the trust issues we have...

Thanks Melissa! :) I work in a library where I for example give lessons to primary schools. I would love to do more video stuff. Stuff like this video or something completely different. I used to do info videos (professionally) but because of BPD it has been pushed back to the background for a while. But I am really up for it now again :D How is your green-screen working out? :)

Aww Thank you so much!!

I hope you are doing well now. Take care.

amen to that these videos have impacted my life

This was a great video xx

i sooo felt that about not feeling love

Thank you SO much for this lovely comment! I hope you are doing well in therapy. I wish you all the best! Take care.

I did. But now i am superhappy with Amy :)

Great video thank you!!!!

Luv your vids !

Thank you! :)

thank you.

So true, the part about it taking a long time to diagnose. It took even longer for me because I seem to be both Bipolar and have BPD -_-

Geen probleem :)

Absolutely right

thx for the book tip!

This video was great! What video editor do you use?

thank you for sharing your expeirence.. its making sense for me. i will show people your vids.

thank you

Thanks :) Final cut pro x

good job, your videos are very helpfull

Another thing is that they went through abuse. I am sure a lot of them did but not all. My daughter has BPD and as her mother I can tell you that is not the source and she would say the same thing. I am the #1 person in her life that is supportive and that helps her with this. She was not an easy child but my love was always constant. She is my Star!

Thank you!! :')

Thanks for making this video.It's helps a lot. ;)

Hello! Is great you are back, I would like to ask you a question about relationships between 2 bpds but I was wondering if I could contact you in private?

You're welcome ofcourse :)

Thank you!! T_____T finally I find such grateful video on BPD... I have been relate to all criteria except physical self-harm so I thought I didn't have BPD but there is something so wrong and painful.... I'm going to seek a doctor to get a proper diagnosis. Thank you again!

Thank you so much, I knew it stablises in your 40s or so but its nice to hear someone else say it who isnt being paid to say it if that mskes sense :-)

thanks again mate, BPD sucks till I watch your videos...

Jij bent goedddd !

thank you! i'm bpd ad have some of these stigmas:( like i'll never get better:(

Hallo, ik zag dat je van Nederland was dus daarom ga ik mijn vraag in het nederlands stellen. Als ze spreken over de oorzaken van borderline wordt er ook vaak gesproken over verwaarlozing misbruik. Zou een oorzaak van borderline ook jarenlang gepest geweest zijn kunnen zijn? Tuurlijk hangen deze factoren ook samen met de biologische factoren maar ik vroeg het me gewoon af. Alvast bedankt!!!

Thank you! And hey a picture of you :)

Well i can feel love but not for long. And most guys r not very trustworthy anyway. It hasnt all been my fault. So many people r full of it these days. On a positive note, ive been able to control my eating and exercise and i am finally at a normal weight for the first time in 6 years. My bpd caused me to eat soooo much but now i look great. Yay

:) you're welcome.

Great video :)

Love your video. You are sweet.