Exactly

I love & respect myself, I just haven’t found someone who respects me.

Nancy V I love owls

So true

Not all the time... just because you respect yourself doesn’t mean others will also.

Thank you for this message i am going to work on myself and improving my life. Few weeks ago i had i wake up call about my relationship with my partner. As a woman having responsibilities of the house and work i was letting myself go no more taking the criticism of the husband time to put myself first.

Thank you 😊

Thank you guys

Yes!!!!

Find the one that can be respected first...do not respect just because

Thank you for taking notes within the comments you are appreciated! 😊 be blessed

How to use this in a professional situation cause there were mistakes on my part yet great learning potential here (not romantic) although it vould be, but we're not there.)

For men and women.. vice-versa

We all want respect. But a lot of these men do irritating stupid things, that don’t warrant respect. Know this>> the woman has to have what she desires, before he can truly get what he wants!

Crystal Climenhage true dat

Amen, they are some fucked up individuals. Invasion of the body snatchers!!

Aleliuja!

Hahahaa. ....totally agree

yeah this guy sounds like a douche demanding respect so much, everyone respects everyone on a normal level, and he needs to open doors to feel like a man? i think he needs a few classes himself thats not a man to me, a man knows what makes him manly, opening doors is not part of that, thats just basic human decency

LOL

Facts!

T Brenneman 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

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T Brenneman 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Interestingly, when I feel super strong, I really don't need a guy anymore, then he comes.

This is so true!! Well said!😊

Amelia Totally agree!! You will learn this the hard way if you don’t.

This is so true... 🖤🖤🖤

So true!

Swan Queen. Hundred percent agree with you. They ghost you when you are nice, gentle, respective and sympathetic to them.

Goes both ways. Ladies dont want a "good" man. The bad boy will always win. Oh well that's fine. I gave up on relationships/love years ago.

Swan Queen I do same experience this same

Swan Queen I was a angel to him then he is big devil cheat me morethan I can imagine

Ratna Priya sometime we act bad so they can’t use us respect to man is depend how they treat us

Exactly.. It's a waste of time and effort

You deserve someone who's crazy about you. I hope you've moved on from this 🙏🏻

You're attracting men who had unstable mothers. That's got tocix written all over it

Jarzębina 77 omg you’re so right, I was a sweetheart I did everything to please him to but he became a bitch toward me so I had to learn not to give a fvk now he chasing me and treating me batter

This is fact

Same with me. I treat them like they don't matter and they submit to me and I like this.

Jarzębina 77 they are terrified by a woman who actually wants them. They love a woman who treats them like crap cause that woman is “safe” cause he figures she won’t try to trap him in a relationship. Seriously, you’re right, they are crazy!

Respect is earned

A women feels respected through having her feelings cherished. A man feels cherished by having his mind and thoughts respected. Normally even in same sex relationships, someone cares more about one or the other. Masculine energy people use logic and thinking more than feminine energy people who are more feeling oriented.

Jeanie K do you people even listen? Ugh 😫

actually he said it in the video countless times that it should be mutual..so both of you will be happy

Good grief woman, he even took the time to explain why it is important for a man to feel respected in a way women don't. It's a different kind of respect. Just pay attention!.

My grandfather told me the samething

My friend's Mum (summed up what I have learnt from 35 yrs+ of dating): "if u love them more than they love u, they treat u like dirt. If they love u more than u love them, they treat u like a princess".

My dad said the same to me 🥴

Yes never let them know you care. Find one who likes you the MOST

I'm pretty sure Mae West was the original source.

Yes girl. We need more men like this but it goes for a women to. Cause I don't side on females cause I am one But . a lot of men need to here this. And females to goes both ways. This is my 1st time hearing and seeing the videos.

Same goes for women. If a guy doesn't respect me and starts to neg me, or criticize me, I don't give them the time of day

Thanks. The wrong one will still disrespect u and cheat if u do those things and they are bad.

@@BlueBerryTdot I agree

I lose track and it’s all gibberish lol

Good advice

this doesn't sound like good advice at all. there are more than a few good men out there. and some men just need to grow up. never have a relationship which is build on fear of being replaced.

sadie p Awww, that's super sweet!! I'm happy for U!! Sounds really lovely~ 💞

You got it!

Wow your so lucky to have him 😍

sadie p Aww! How cute, that was so sweet of him💗😊

❤️

Yet..if you treat him like a king, that kind of makes you his commoner. Isn't it?

@black white exactly!

@@marielamuller4657 have you seen black white reply? You may consider yourself as a commoner, not a queen.

So they want dependent women who need them? Sad

Channel Tools what is wrong in needing the one you love? What is it when you tell each other I don't need you?

@@user-xl6jx7pi7k Isn't it great when a woman WANTS you instead of just needing you because she doesn't have job, or needs you to fix her problems?

@Cindy Lou word 🙌

To be free?

@@lonewolf-oc9vr I found a wonderful man now. I wish the other one the best, whatever he chooses for his life.

Too*

@@sarahtara5546 how’s that going now? Update?

@@TheSevonne thank you for asking! We actually got married and moved into a camper to travel the country. We are doing great still :)

How was your experience? I have just met a guy and he is not able to take compliments....so strange. Was it similar in your case?

You can give a man everything he asked for as his needs. And it still won't work out. He can't meet your needs when he knows he doesn't deserve you. Because he doesn't really want you. If you try love a man who doesn't love himself and when he knows he doesn't deserve you, it also won't work out. See people for who they are, not what you want them to be. If he is a people pleaser, drinks heavily, has money, entertains, claims to love people so so much. Run. They usually have a handful of women on dial. You usually see the cracks early on. Stringy, they self loathe so you try to build them up. He isn't worthy of the building up because he needs to do that himself

Facts 💯

..true and all these points that can be worked on can never work if I'm the first place two people are not ready or deliberate to start to work on the relationship for the long haul. You must be on the same page....I agree

Intelligent realisation jennybrown, "people won't give up there comfort for what is not worthy"...

Angelica Angel my mom told me. Men want to be admired. Women want to be desired...

Even the Bible says so. Women are to respect their men and men are to love their women.

@@sherryc90 I'm so glad someone caught that! Yup, god commands men to love their wives, like Christ loves the church and women are to respect their husbands.

Sharon Kwenda I was about to say that. YHWH created us, and he knows that for men respect is most important, and for women love is most important.

Exactly

Wendi J this is pure gold thank you for sharing!

Wendi J I see your point but I think that intent matters. If a man is holding a door in an attempt to show respect, that isn’t a bad thing, if she says hey I don’t need you to hold doors, instead do (whatever) I think most men with the intent of giving true respect would gladly switch to a different means of showing that respect. The assumption that he’s treating her like a gender and not a person is pretty cynical, they aren’t mind readers.

Wendi J that is right but I enjoy the old chivalry and the old traditional roles. But I understand what you are saying. My man believes in traditional roles as well so it works great for us. I guess it depends on what your partner believed.

Im also into genderless roles yet call myself a gentlewoman that will equally open doors for men and women. Equally pay for them. Equally get them gifts inc flowers if they enjoy them. I will spoon into them etc... I'll enjoy them doing gentlemen things as long as i can equally be a gentlewoman and do them for them as well inc romancing them. Im a fan of it goes both ways equal effort. Doesnt have to be exact same things done for each other. Be yourself. But that things are equally done for each other. Equal energy exchange. Equal partners.

Gentleman rules were created by women. The man steps up like that bc it is the girl who expects to be treated like that. No guy will be asking you how to treat you, they will see how you treat yourself and what you expect and they will either meet it or flake. If they flake, they weren’t that interested in the first place.

Exactly

it wont always work, but at least the people in the relationship can end it on good terms if they realize it's not right for them. some people simply fall out of love. but yeah. healthy relationships will always prosper.

This isssss sooooo me right now, we broke up because I wasn’t needy enough basically and it made him feel like the loser

huh i just wanted him not to lie and cheat..i can open my own doors

I agree, Susan ☺ I want that too! 💖 I do like a man, though, that will treat me like a lady 😍

Carrie Smith girl, me too!!!

@@cccopycat583 this is the truth!!!!!

@Simon S nah I have seen dating coaches that feed you a fairytale and I am not here for it. Brian is talking about people giving each other mutal respect. Girls could say the same thing how guys don't like good girls and just take advantage of them. At the end of the day if the person is actually physically and emotionally attracted to you and you are behaving respectfully, but not a pushover that is normally seen as a turn on.

Only to a toxic person. Attract more respectable men. Look within first.

Yes. This is why I don't have one I was hear me was too nice Not any more.

I am married to a man who is almost smitten with me, and I can agree with this. Even when he thinks and complains that I have been "disrespectful" (which is really just me responding to his random inconsiderate behavior) he still can't get enough of me (wanting to kiss, cuddle, know my feelings for him, etc). So, sadly this is true 😏

Same as mine

I feel like every guy pursues you and loves and is in lust with you and as soon as you let your guard down a few months down the road he’s lost interest n doesn’t respect u or care about how he talks to you smh

@@mayziecammarata4870 ladies we have a problem

Was in the same situation, found out men treat you like that when he perceives you are no longer a challenge, he will take you for granted.

Then you are dating a boy, not a man

True and setting boundaries

Hello

True

This is sooo true!!

❤

Absolutely

100% agree

I bet youve been following Greta me too love her teachings

It's because he's not smart enough to realize he's giving in to his caveman instincts instead of using his brain and common sense

Horrible, horrible advice. Grounded, emotionally mature men don't want a woman they have to chase.

Perfect! Thank for this!!

Robyn Gibson amen

What if you're naturally a sort of masculine woman? I'm an engineer and a tomboy. To men at work, I'm either not given respect or else I'm the competition. But I mostly attract men who are gentle, and I think that they feel respected because I value their interests and attitudes. Dating a woman who is competent and self-sufficient who prefers their style to the "Alpha" type makes them feel masculine and successful.

@@dbalgp1047 I believe reverse polarities are the same. If you are more comfortable living in your masculine energy and value being respected then that will totally work if you have a man who is strongly in his feminine and is happy to be receiving. It is the "beta" type you attract because you are in your boy energy. True masculine males won't regard you, or be attracted because you present incongruity: look like a girl behave like a boy (in simple terms). We all have testosterone and live in it from time to time. The men at your work, I'm guessing, aren't giving you respect because true masculine males know you are not a man and the bit of testosterone (masculine strength) that you are trying to live in (being equal to a man) ... well, that makes you competition: it is the nature of the hormone of testosterone. You cannot change it anymore than you can change the softness of femininity. As far as being competent and self-sufficient, I am both of those and live almost 90% of my life as a very feminine female. The polarity reversal works great as long as both partners stay in those energies.

Robyn Gibson very true!!! You’re one of the few gals on here that understand this. 🌸💓🌸🌸

Its a good advice, if this advice is easier to implement in life. It will be great.. healing takes time.. but I wonder what is the missing part of it until I truly heal..

When i read your comment, i get again and again confused. After 17 years i got really in love. Love at first sight. Affection at first sight. We both are 48. No more years to waste on idiot behaviors..., you woud think. From day 1, i was smitten. I wanted to know him better. Wel..., to make the story short. From day 2 i payed him drinks, food, brought food to his house, beer. He had only 300$ a month. The rest was keeping his lawer. I am on invalidity with 1 son (22 years) old. For this 2 months, i bought him food, cigarettes, drinks, drinks for home, my own food supply ( wich i saved for hard times), cooking gear for his little sailingboat, more food & drinks/food for his sailingboat, fuel gas for cooking 100$, fuel 90$, water, more boatstuff, shampoo, towels, medicine cabbinet, fire stopper. In total i spent in that month 700$. Then a walki talki for going to work in another boat (birthday present/90$). Gloves, sjawl, hats to work! A floor carpet for his boat (80$). Valentine present of a ticket online learning platform, so he could easyer learn the course, for having a diplom of boatsman (28$). He has a learn disability. But he is supper with boats and handy-guy with his hands. I bought him natural drugs to learn better (cod liver oil) 80$. Supported him! He can do it..., whatever time and effort it takes. Encouraging! I knew, water and boats are his LOVE! He was unemployed. Then he got a job-offer, to work on a boat. I said, great for you & an oportunity to climb and get out of your financial situation & you love boats! He did not wanted, but i told him the pro's & con's. I said, ' believe in you' and gave him kisses and sex and affection and i felt like a teenager in LOVE. I said..., the captain will hire you today..., i feld, that he has a great chance (because i am not blind😉). He was born for the water and boats and jumping like an ape. So cute and masculine to see. So easy for him. He got the job!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I gave money to buy food and drinks, cigarettes, beer, toiletpaper, for a week. He was a week away from home. This was a year his job. And i gave a lot of times money for what he needed and a little cash (i only have 1200$ invalidity, housing cost 550$, water, gas, electricity, internet, phone (350$). My mother gave me money to spend on me, and gave it away for my boyfriend, to overcome his life and feel better. Wel, i allways did, whenever he needed me, go with him...Even on the boat. Helping him restoring, his own boat. I was enjoying every minute with him and loving him more and more. I have chronic serious healthissues, for more then 35 years, from birth had allways something going on. Could not work. I know have the feeling, that there something else goin on with my body. When i did not see him, i was sleeping and a total mess and i was going downhill. He never wanted to know, what chronic issues i had, nor the reasons, why i go to a therapist for CPTSD, child abuse and abuse...I gave my soul, body, mind, heart and money to help him out. Support and motivating him... But he said nothing to ever show his concerns about what was going on with my life. After 2 months..., he said ' you do nothing for me'. He said this 2 times. Something broke in me. I was like going dead inside. 1,5 year giving, giving my all. No much effort on his side. Wanted more and more from me. Leave my son of 22 years old, who has aspergers syndrome, luving still home. He was enoyed about my dog too. He said i should put the stuff away of my house. I said, al the stuff in my house i keep, and that is the reason i can help you, if you need anything! My dog is the love of my life. My son, is the one i will never put aside for anyone, nor my beloved dog. When i had a problem or needed a shoulder to cry on, he said 'get over it' or BE A MAN. If he needed one, i was giving affection and a beer and be just near him and listen to him. Then he said one day... 'you son is a stupid moron'. My son is a sensitive, friendly, warm hearded young man, with asperger/ add/ ocd. My son was dog sitting for 1,5 years, everytime i went with my boyfriend. And beeing happy for me. He never saw me so happy and in love. But things changed, with the words of my boyfriend. He said, one day..it is gross to make love, when you bleed. He was horny like hell and did not mind at all. I was more shy! If i was not with you..., i was still allone. I want a virgin, because they are pure and i never had a virgin before. A man said to me i should commit suicide with my son. My boyfriend did not defended me at all. His friend said to me in the beginning, if i had had a cock in my ass. My boyfriend, who sat next to him, said nothing. After a while i realized, i do not matter, my life seems not worth to protect. I realized, i can adore, love, take care, show affection, lovemaking, money, help, care, support, respecting, needing him,... Giving, giving, giving, giving, giving, giving, and on and on... And it will never be enough, for a man to change and respecting you. He said after a few months, why do you not look at me with you eyes full of love? I thougt about all the loveless things and words. I thought, about in the past..., he dit not want me to buy a 1$ noodle dish!!! I thought about all i gave allready... I thought, about the day, that in daylight, some one wanted to abduct me with a van (i was luckilly smarter and lucky). When i opened the door to his house, i trembled and was agitated. He did look at me with a face and i thought..., is a human in the house??? For him everything i needed from him was incomprehensive. I lost hope. And decided, not to tell anything anymore. My eyes died more and more. How much does a woman need to give and show her love and care and whatever else, so a man feels save to give? I said, at the end, i am tired of your bullshit (not friendly and respectfull of me now! I know!) He said..., he bullshitted me all the time and he should of bullshitted me more😳 So, an invalid, sick mother if one. No family. From a different country. Allone since 17 years old. Abused. All her life, vigilant. A hell of a life. Read 1000...if books. Fights wirh doctors, men, women, insurances, hunger, cold, allways protecting herself and her son. No hope, no cure, no nothings, no friends...Could write a book! And after 17 years ckising my legs..., i open my heart, my legs, my savings, my energy of a dead one, my time, my love, affection, to an idiot. After u quit...He said, the sex was not good anyway. And other stupid stuff... I will never ever give a man, what he does not value. You can givegivegivegive to man, what you want and the respect what you want and your organs... How much proof, does a man need from a woman until she is giving a chance to receive whatever friendly that is? By the way... He made me coffee every time. I bought food and he cooked. Sometimes he was so affectionate... The little wonderfull good times... He was for me hot. He was my sexy water ape boat wolve mab. I wanted to grow old with him. Be there for him. Could not bare the idea, to lose him. Now, i am dead inside. My son, my dog, me... I needed HIM! Now, i know, i will live and die on my own. Bless you all.

I agree, it doesn't matter what I say, even when it's coming from the heart, his lack of self confidence just diffuses it, a form of self sabotage I guess.

Wow wee truth.

Yeah that happend to me , i start to hate men and i don't believe in love anymore .

This is what it all comes down to.

so what do we do to this type of men then?

ICELET YEP!!! 🙌🏻✨🙂

@@lilith_soph It's not like we have a choice these days :)

Ikr

Ikr! Just fall in love ! There is truly no love stories!! Everything is strategy😩 I have to strategize at work, who wants to strategize everyday and night to get loved! Just gimme a bullet n some wine! Im aight😃🤣😅😇

@@jorgaconnelly6037 You say the words i thought!