Every good training partner ALWAYS protects his partners, no matter who he/she is...

I do the same thing with women that I do with men if they have a strength disadvantage. I consciously dial back my strength so that it feels like technique vs technique. People always thank me for it and say that rolling with me is "fun" Honestly, knowing how to match strength is a skill that we should all have by purple belt.

I match my training partner. If they are going slow i go slow, if they are going hard ill go hard. But always look after your training partner no matter what.

As a woman in my gym with only guys, i have noticed that the coddling applies to everyone. If its a bigger guy against a smaller guy the bigger guy checks in with him and goes gentler just like he would with me. Its really not a gender thing but a size/strength thing

I as a 6'3 250 pounder with wrestling/judo experience who coddles everyone who benefits from it. I also get coddle by black belts . It's the coddle of life.

Learning to vary intensity based on your partner's size, experience and disposition is such an important unspoken juijitsu skill. Makes you such a great person to train with.

Some people just don't want to learn self control. I am careful with all my training partners no matter their size. It translates back to me that they also don't roll with me recklessly. A young lady I roll with actually stopped rolling and cradled my head to protect me from another group rolling next to us. When you roll there is a time to go full force but in general we don't need to thrash and throw down full force every time. There needs to be an element of play and care so skill can mature.

Well said, Chewie. There's a principle I go by when dealing with women in and out of training, which is "just be fucking normal." This advanced social skill is somehow weirdly difficult for many people to follow. You train with people at the intensity appropriate to their size, skill set, and disposition. We have ladies at my gym who are quite timid, and we also have a purple belt who I go almost 100% with even though I've got about 50 lbs on her, because she's super fast and has a killer guard. Some women have experiences that make physical contact difficult, and others are just as scrappy as anyone else. Respect everyone's needs and just be fucking normal.

Love the bit about protecting your training partner

I misread the title as “cuddle” and I was like bro what type of Jiu Jitsu do you do

I personally love the challenge of rolling with both bigger or smaller partners. I like the zen of having to adjust to different body types. Make myself light if I’m rolling with a kid for example (and I’m not light!) or feel what a weight disadvantage feels like if I’m rolling with a heavier partner.

Thanks Chewjitsu great video! My experience as a female Bjj practitioner for anyone curious: Vast majority of men I’ve trained or rolled with have been very respectful and helpful. Big guys don’t always know or understand their own strength bc they aren’t on the receiving end but ive never confused that with someone trying to hurt me. I’ve only experienced that with one male and I’m chalking that up to statistics (you’re bound to encounter that behavior in the distribution of all possible behaviors and humans, not taking it personally). For big or small but really strong, just pretend the female your rolling with is like a teenage boy, it’s roughly equivalent to rolling with a woman. Don’t do things strenghtwise to her that you wouldn’t do to a teenage kid. Also, I appreciate rolling with men bc I’m trying to desensitize my nervous system to what it feels like to be in a combative situation with a male should it ever happen to me in real life. This way i know what a physical ‘fight’ might be like with a male even if it’s a simulated environment. Recently I competed for the first time and i got my butt kicked by a woman that told me at her gym there are no women and she rolls just with guys. She absolutely trounced me and was very strong and determined. Many factors at play but i believe it helped her by having trained only with men. Men are tougher bc of the strength differential. It helps a physically weaker opponent to train with a stronger one for that reason. I find the women, when they roll only with each other are too nice, easy with each other. If their goal is to have a social experience at bjj then that’s fun for them, but for learning how to fight for self defense purposes rolling only with women is detrimental for a woman. Just my opinion. I’m grateful to the guys willing to tone done their strength and work with me, you are always helping us by being a good training partner in this way. Cheers all 🙏

You’re a treasure to the community and the art. Whether intentional or not, you embody the philosophical foundations Kano described in his writings.

As a female who has been training a couple of years, I'm so grateful for the rolls where I'm massively outsized or outclassed and those people are careful not to fall on me or tweak my body. I have the best rolls with a blue belt guy at my gym who easily outweighs me by 75lbs. He answers my technique with technique rather than just brute forcing things. He has fun too, and we both get a lot out of it. That doesn't mean they're just "coddling" me or making it easy. People get to use me (I'm a blue belt, about 130lbs) to experiment with techniques, too so I know that we both get something out of it. I will say, though, I think there's a different type of coddling that happens, so I want to comment on that. When I get around a bunch of women on at an open mat, I've noticed that sometimes it just turns into social hour with all the women chit chatting on the mat rather than training. I've also noticed that we highly praise women for just getting into the sport (which is great, don't get me wrong--I think everyone should give it a good ol fashioned try) but we fail to ever elevate our expectations when we should. I've seen women leave because they never make the jump to the more difficult class, because they refuse to roll or they refuse to progress in some other way and they just stagnate and fall off. All that to say I could see how that quote could be relevant to what I've seen. Is it hard to be a female coming into this? Yes. We're socialized to do the opposite of so many things that are required to play Jiu Jitsu well. I make it my goal to support women in this sport, and to encourage them not to settle. We each come into this as we are, it's a shame to see people (men or women) ignore the opportunity to grow by taking on challenges.

Coddling is an interesting way to say "Not hurting people." Just like I would with a guy, I'll use just enough strength and pressure that they know I COULD just crush them the whole round, then I back it off and have fun. If we know each other, I skip the first part.

I personally want to address the notion of "the attacker won't be nice to you, he'll go nuts!" ... will this attacker have any remote amount of grappling experience? What about having the endurance/gas tank that a trained grappler will have? How about reactions to things you do? I doubt the overwhelming majority of attackers have any endurance, empty handed skills, or reactions of a trained opponent. So let me get this idea straight... a bigger stronger male training partner is going to try and gaslight their female training partner into rolling harder "cuz realism" despite the fact that almost 0 attackers who want to hurt women know how to grapple/train combat sports? If any of you genuinely believe that anyone needs to train like that "for realism", please make that make sense. The point to coming into the gym is to build up new skills, and refine or expand upon established skills. A more realistic training scenario is that you (with her full and complete understanding and consent) set up a mat somewhere like myrtle beach and have a sign that says "Tap out this female BJJ purple/brown/black belt, win $100" She'll get a infinitely more realistic understanding of what guy's expectations are, what they do/what everyone tends to do, and because there is a large dollar incentive they will put up a decent fight for her, vs a bigger trained grappler going all out on another smaller trained grappler. Two totally different realities to train under.

@ 6:30 I have that mentality with a lot of beginners cuz they won't always know if something will pop but they'll always know if they're getting choked out

Great points Chewster! Most of us here have to go to work the next day and we are trying to make sure we can all get there and come back again and roll. Definitely gears is a great way to explain it. I try to catch a newer person in a position we have learned and make them work that technique to escape, pass, whatever... Then I put them back in it again and again to learn it and slowly step up the difficulty.

I really liked the way you framed this post!! Very well put and extremely to the point.

Great way to put it. I'm not going to roll lighter with you because you're a woman, but simply because you're less strong and that applies to any partner. I actually enjoy rolling with people less strong than me because I can dial back the explosiveness and go 100% technical, and I wish the people heavier/stronger than me would do the same.

I'll never forget when I was 13 and starting Karate. Yes, I get people taking it easy on the beginner, but many people took it too easy on me to the point where I was not feeling ANY pressure at all to get better and get creative. Since my reason for starting martial arts was because I was being bullied, this frustrated me a lot. However, this one purple belt 16 year old girl (about 6 belts above white belt in our dojo) was different. She came at me hard (probably not her hardest lol). She was extremely good at finding my limits and pushing me slightly over them. This same girl could keep up with brown and even some black belts practitioners.

As for coddling, it happens all the time and it’s important for self control. As a white belt i know im being coddled by black/brown and some purple belts more often than not but I’ll ask them to not hold back if training for competition. There’s only a few women in my gym (highest blue belt) but I find that rolling with women can actually be more beneficial because they tend to rely more on techniques and this forces me to focus on technique rather than just powering through them. Most of the time I’ll let them get sweeps and play bottom but if they make a mistake I’ll punish them because that’s reality. In general I think I’m a good partner to roll with and they like to roll with me too so it’s cool to coddle.

Always impressed with your takes. Great insight.

As a new guy to bjj I assume everyone with a color belt is coddling me to some degree. Im fine with that but also fine if they smash me as long as its fun and i feel like they are not out to injure me. great video this is how we learn.

Good video. Common sense advice. I’m always nice to my training partners. Without people to train with, there’s no growth. Treat everyone with respect and manage your intensity to the people you’re going against. Of course, your goal is to be successful, but not every roll has the same purpose.

I have 2 rule of thumb when i roll with women.. 1. I never ask i let them approach me, the reason being im 6'1 225 on a fat day.. so im sure im gonna look intimidating to them... 2. I never use my strength i like to focus on my technique and improve my flow, so when i do match up with guys my size or bigger when they try to overpower me, i can beat them with finesse.... Now i don't coddle because we are training to get better, i remember not knowing anything and kept getting choked or tapped (ahh good times) but i kept showing up kept getting my behind kicked and saw improvement... With that being said we all have those AHole who go to far thats where mat enforcer come in... But at the end of the day u can push EACH other to our goals without being a dick🙏🏾🔥💯❤️

I'm a newbie white belt - just under 4 months of training here. There's a few women in my gym. They are all capable of killing me if they wanted to.

Fully agree with Chewy. The single biggest reason to match partner’s strength/size difference is because of the risk of injury. As a 5’0 110lb blue belt woman, I don’t mind the suck at all of being crushed, but I can very easily get injured when going against someone 200+ lb with full force versus someone closer to my size. It’s just physics. If bigger people in my gym didn’t “coddle” me, I would be in crutches and would have been forced to quit bjj early in my white belt journey due to injuries . I greatly appreciate all the training partners who knows how to focus on technique so both parties can learn, have fun, and stay safe. Not everything in life has to be life or death! :)

I love truth and reason. They are the only things that are truly beneficial in life. I came into the video thinking one way and left thinking another. Thank you. Your response was dead on and you delivered it as a seasoned, mature man and mentor would.

Great points, in addition, an advanced women grappler wrote a great point for women only classes (if possible): For every new grappler there is an adjustment to movements and contact in the sport, the inevitable literal physical intimacy. When there is so much new it can be hard to learn what is normal and what is inappropriate. She advocated for the women only classes to learn this new normal with less risk of misunderstanding of the physical contact. Not that women should only roll with women, quite the opposite. Just that it’s helpful to have an extra safe space when learning a new baseline normal for contact. This was in response to a series of posts where usually there had been men behaving inappropriately and women were unsure if it was them or if they should trust their gut. Few occasions of misunderstandings the other way around too. In both cases, first establishing the new normal contact would have been helpful. Anyway, I thought it was the best pragmatic argument for women only classes and thought of share here in this relevant context.

I dont see training partners as men or women... i see weight and strength.... if a women or dude is light and has physically much less strength then i have i try to not use raw power. I am 183lbs and most women in class are ~130lbs.. additionally as born men i just have 40% strength advantage at same weight just by being born a men. So going hard on them benefits nobody >-< and is stupid. But we also have some real physical monsters at class 230lbs dudes that are build like bodybuilders... they would do the same to me. Adjust the level of strength they use to what i have

You just need to adjust your pressure depending on who you roll with. I definitely dial back the power & work more on flo when rolling with women.

Good stuff. I try to coach my students a lot on understanding the difference between repetition and simulation as training modalities. I know people who want to have the biggest, strongest guy in the room resist the technique to "see if it works," and the reality is almost always that it won't. Because they don't have the repetition to succeed under simulation yet. Likewise, some people do a move a few times in repetition and mistake this for being totally ready to apply in a competition or a fight. Repetition and simulation are both incredibly valuable but they can't be mistaken for one another.

Great answer! This is not complicated. Adjust to weight class and personal distinctives.

Amen. A well thought out perspective. These are things and attitudes that most experienced practitioners do, but it was good to hear it in a cohesive and considered way. Thanks!

I dont understand people who say that you shouldn't coddle people. If you don't coddle your training partner, that training partner won't like you

I am fortunate (as a female in BJJ) that my male classmates are very respectful and will hold back their strength a bit while we’re drilling certain techniques, so we can both learn without thinking about it necessarily being a self-defense scenario. I do ask them to increase intensity/pressure from time to time, to see where I stack up. Sometimes having those elements ramp up helps me discern where my deficiencies lie… whether it’s a true strength and size disadvantage or an issue with my technique/lack of refinement. I think learning to scale yourself to fit your training partner is a valuable skill and keeps *everyone* safe, not just the women. However, I do understand how some men might hold themselves back with a female partner to too great a degree, to where it inhibits their training. That’s unfortunate. I think it’s a give-and-take situation, but can be overcome with clear communication and mindfulness on the part of BOTH partners. I have no problem letting the guys know when they’re taking it too easy.

I've only been rolling a couple of months, at 6' 225lbs, I had some initial anxiety when women matched up with me, simply from the size differential. Then a purple belt suddenly turned up the pain level on me and spent an hour using me as a training dummy. After that session my instructor simply said, "that's how you roll with women here, don't let me catch you slacking on them". But I think the larger issue, at least for me is that "men aren't supposed to be mean to women" in our society, so that was a big hurdle to jump, like asking a dog to do something they've been trained not to do and they're like "WTF human?" 😁

Changing how hard I roll was something I had to learn at white belt. There was a period where I would go too hard sometimes because I didn't know how to pace myself. I would run the risk of injuring people because I didn't know control. At blue belt, I always make sure to take care of my rolling partners. I don't care what level they are, I don't want to see them get hurt. I apply this mentality even when I cross-train. Everyone has a life outside of BJJ. No point in ruining someone's life just to get a sub in training.

A coach once asked me to train a bit harder with some women that were preparing for a tournament. Afterwards one of them complained to the owner and everyone called me "Hammer" for years.

I love your channel because you're really good at articulating what I would consider to be pretty common-sense takes. It's like you are showing me the completed thoughts of ideas I've intuited, but never fully realized.

This is a perfect way to put it. I try not to roll my eyes when someone is like “well that wouldn’t work in the streets” like bro who are you out here fighting everyday lol different things for different occasions and different people train for different reasons

This is a good subject in the sense that there are some that need to learn how to coddle and why to. The majority of us train not as a job. So we need to be able to go to work tomorrow . I have gone to gyms where they hurt each other and others that make a point not to. When you roll with people that are learning a specific thing, it does them no good if you just beat on them but do not allow them to get the move and make adjustments etc.

Love this advice, and I train like this every time. Match the intensity of your rolling partner. When you have a strength advantage, dont use it. I think you'll improve faster.

Beautifully said.

Great response Chewie

Great insight to call “being able to roll with anyone such that you get something out of it” a skill. Truly is, just don’t think I’ve thought of it specifically as a skill just as part of positive maturing as a grappler. Thanks.

As a smaller, female blue belt, if I think a guy is pulling back too much, I go for submissions even more intensely. At the same time , I finish anything involving the arms more carefully on guys because their flexibility is typically less than gals.

Hell yeah bro, I think this a cool approach, and something I’ve been trying to be mindful of as a white belt in the first degree, lol.

Great video. I'm a small dude (light featherweight), so I am regularly partnered with the females and kids. Not smashing boobs is a courtesy I use with women and never using strength except defensively. That forces them to adjust their technique, making their overall game tighter

Chewy, this was very well said. We all do BJJ for different reasons, self defense is a bonus. Also in a real world situation, I’m more inclined to think that the “bad guys” are not going to have the same skills that a woman who has trained BJJ for a while will have. I’m a 6’3 250 lb dude, and I spent 6 years rolling with some ferociously skilled women black belts, and they cooked me every single time for every roll. It wasn’t until I got my purple and brown when I actually felt like I had to dial it back and use more technique against them because they were simply neutralizing my strength before.

PREACH!

i always roll just above the skill level of my newer or lower ranked team mates. not enough to destroy them but enough to push them to grow. i agree completely with this video, adjust to your partner its a skill everyone should develop. always protect your training partners as much as possible. its cool to watch people exponentially get better when you play this way

It's all about gauging who you're rolling with and protecting your partner; Even in positional sparring.

Whoever I train with, I always try to match their strength/weight level. If the person has half my size/strength, going full force makes no sense.

As someone with a bad knee, please coddle me lmao, I'm just trying to learn. Competition class is a different story.

Spot on!

Made perfect sense to me - I like to also feel my partner’s energy and match it unless that’s unnecessary…

Well Said

Hey chewy will you be doing any chewjitsu GIs

When training in the gym you need to adjust your game to every partner if you really want to learn. I only go all out on people that I know are better and we have an understanding it's war when we meet. But the other 90% of my rolls I take it down a level. We are all taking care of each other. So whether it's a woman, a new white belt, 17 yr old kid, guy coming back from an injury or someone training for competition you need to adjust your game so you both get the most out of the roll.

Its not about gender, its about weight and strength difference.

well said

I don't agree with comparing training to being on the street in a confrontation. The gym should be your playground, and everyone should feel safe in that environment regardless of their training and fitness level or gender. Having said that, I think that there are times that some coaches take it easier on certain students for no other reason than they are friends, or whatever their justification is. As a coach, you should be able to match the intensity and level of most of the students in your gym. In some cases you have to roll a little lighter and sometimes you have to roll a little more assertive. I agree that everyone was "coddled" at one point or another in their BJJ journey, but also think that you're doing a great disservice to the student if you take it super easy on them because it has a tendency to develop bad habits for them. Just like if you're a big guy training with smaller people, you can get into bad habits using your size as an advantage, that you couldn't do to someone your own size.

I'm just trying to learn technique. I'm not in competition. 😂

Some people “coddle” too much always but otherwise I agree with the video (with caveat that lots of people come to Bjj for self defense)

Fairness is not treating every individual the same way. Fairness is treating everyone according to the same *principles,* and the principles here are simple: The bigger the size/strength/skill/age/health(etc.) disparity between you and your partner, the more you ease up accordingly. The less your partner *wants* to roll hard, the more you ease up accordingly. In short: Match energy.

Women, children, old people, doesn't matter. They can all get some.

Good call verbally reinforcing when lower belts make the right move.

You save the afterburners for the appropriate time. Dialing back with a partner who is physically at disadvantage benefits both teammates.

In football training we call it “tempo” which equates to intensity level. Before each drill the coach will let you know the tempo, from walk-through to live. This way both sides are going at equal intensity and it keeps you safe. It’s dangerous if one side is going full and the other is not expecting it. In BJJ training with size, skill and athletic disparities you adjust your tempo to make an even game. It would be like playing tennis with Roger Federer - if he goes full speed I’ll never hit a single ball and go home 45-0. Neither one of us has any fun.

Always adjust to training partners. I have a favorite woman training partner who is around 165-170lbs. If I don't use strength, she beats me with technique all day. I have to use some smash and strength when we roll...but she is also an avid competitor and doesn't want us to take it lightly. I've seen her have to tone it down with smaller white belt guys because they can't keep up😂.

As a 130lb 63yr old man I benefit from some "coddling" from time to time. I don't think "coddling" is a good word for it. It's a matter of being a good training partner so both benefit, learn, and improve from the roll/drill. That is the ideal. I don't need or want to "coddle" women. I just try to match their intensity, back and forth, maybe a little more than that if I need to get to a position or technique I want to work on. I find that women, once they get past the initial acclimation and shock of what grappling really is, often respond better to this than other men. I've encountered the "I gotta' "win" the drill/roll every time" mentality from men more than women. Heh, yeah, not every roll is a self-defense, combat fight roll, or at least shouldn't be. Frankly, if a young, large, strong white belt goes full "fight" mode on me, I still struggle to survive and not get smashed under mount or side control. If they're like that all the time, I will avoid rolls with them.

4 years in.. I roll with every one different.. but I enjoy a flow roll .. and usually I try to do this when I roll with lady partners.. but if they ramp up.. I do to.. but always being a good training partner..

Yes

Popped a rib a few weeks ago. From hard charger to please everyone coddle me forever.

I've learned how to roll w/ women more by relying less on just being less smash heavy. I can be way riskier in my attacks during rolls w/ the ladies. For context I'm 6'2 about 260lbs, tbh some men I probably shouldn't roll with but I haven't injured anyone yet and I hope to keep it that way. Coupled with the concept that not every roll shouldn't be "play to win". Focus on gathering data more than anything else.

I have to go to work tomorrow and prefer to not limp in because I had a rough night in BJJ. I once had a guy that kept cranking on my neck anytime he was in my guard, and I couldn't turn my head properly for 2 weeks. Having that said I don't do anything purposefully that is risky in live rolls because most people have families and jobs to go to and are doing this as a hobby and to stay fit.

AMEN Chewy!

It's really just a weight class issue. If there is a disparity I try to play to that role appropriately. If I am the larger person, I'll try to be less explosive and a little more careful about my pressure. Don't squish. We're here to learn techniques, not show who can beat each other up. I don't think that it is coddling, just respect for weight classes and the responsibility of both fighters in that situation.

I'm down to 190 from 240. I'm also 36 years old. I've coddled my training partners from the start because I was always really heavy, even when I was getting completely mauled.

100%!!

I got tapped by a woman last night. Caught me in a leg lock during no gi. I backed off strength at first, but she went all in and wanted me to roll hard. She ended up winning. I roll depending on the person I'm rolling with

It is a fact that women are not as strong per pound, and bone density is a factor. I let women just work BECAUSE I am 220 lbs and I do not ever want to hurt my team members. It is part of learning and training BJJ. Part of the art is to be able to control yourself within the moment.

New white belt so maybe not representative of norms but I certainly dont coddle the females. I do try to match intensity, same as I do with everyone and definitely avoid using weight (at 220lbs Im near double almost everyone at the gym). The only way I treat different at all is being more careful where I grab and avoiding or limiting time spent in awkward positions (high mount, north south, etc).

Great topic! I usually only roll with very tough girls. The farm girl Chewie talked about would be a fun roll for sure. I am a big guy and when I train with a woman (especially a lower belt) I always tell her to attack me and I will respond by giving her opportunities to get the tap and correcting her grips and technique along the way. Sometimes I will tell them to attack me as if they are on the street and they must protect themselves or family from some big scary stranger........and this is where the women usually look at me completely lost because they are so used to competition style jiu jitsu and they do not have the mindset to use their skills on the street. Some get the challenge and understand it, but more often than not they get confused, miss opportunities for easy submissions and just recently I had two women tell me they have no desire to use jiu jitsu on the street in a self defense situation! That statement completely baffled me. And I will say this as well......No matter what male dominated sport.......bjj, Skydiving, competition shooting or whatever, if the female is attractive and shows interest, she gets a lot more attention in the form of personal training than others who are trying just as hard to develop new skills.

I train to take the bodyweight and strength in consideration when rolling. I walk around 87-90kgs, I have 20-30kgs on some women and even some men in our gym.

Short answer, yes we do but we have no choice but to do so.

Sounds good to me.

I’m not sure that I, as a 278lb man, would want to train with a black belt who held that attitude towards training with women.

There is a big difference between not seriously injuring someone and coddling them. Coddling would generally refer to not putting an uncomfortable amoujnt of pressure on someone, or using some of the most "disrespectful" subs, such as s-mount pressure tapping, smothering with 1 or two arms controlled, strong cross-face shoulder pressure, etc.. If a woman never gets to feel what it's like when a man tries to hold her down with all of his strength (even if he is being careful to not actually break anything), she will be unpleasantly surprised when someone on the street does exactly that. It's like people who hit pads all the time, but never spar with head shots. You can drill combos all you want, but if you've never had someone trying to actually hit you in the face, you are likely going to get fucked up in a real fight, or at least not do nearly as well as you think you should.

It's definitely a skill and not that straightforward to learn how to "appropriately" coddle a training partner. The problem that I run into sometimes is being the bigger, stronger person, but still lacking experience, when I go a little lighter my partner will take advantage and sweep me or crank an arm/leg/neck. It seems a bit of a fine line of protecting yourself while protecting your partner. With females, I often really like it because I might go a little too light, but then I can go up a gear or two to give them a challenge, but not have to worry about them injuring me. Not to mention, they usually smell way better 😅

I take strength and size and skill into account

Its interesting to me that exactly the same principle is true when you're Impro-Dancing with someone. You get the most out of it if you can adapt to your respective partner, no matter what he/she brings into it...

I rolled easy with a women who then thought she had beaten me and lost respect Women don't think like you Go Hard

I mean same as going against a smaller less trained male ; u cant go 100% but u can just let em do what they want

I would have to think that if anybody disagrees with what was said in this video, they must have a distorted view of the purpose of Jiu-Jitsu. They should take a good look at their perspectives and try to reinvent their understanding.

Common Chewy W!

I just roll. If I can get a submission I’ll take it and I’ll submit you….thats the point of it. When I started no one was giving me any freebies. You get caught you tap you move on, I’m not there to be someone’s teacher or their motivator I’m there to work and get better that’s why I’m paying money to be there to learn not to teach. I don’t want to teach I’m a school teacher in regular education my martial arts is for me to train and I don’t go super hard or aggressive on anyone but if we are rolling and you leave your arm exposed I’m taking it and I’m putting you in an arm bar no I’m not cranking it super hard but I’m applying it, same if I’m on your back and your necks exposed I’m taking that choke and I’m trying to finish it. Your job is to escape it. If you don’t then tap and learn from it. I don’t care if you are man or woman were all there to do jiu jitsu. People may not like it but end of the day if we’re rolling I’m looking for the submission and you can absolutely try and submit me and if you catch me I’ll tap I think people over think it way to much. The whole point of the art is to submit the other person

Have KZfaq censor your stuff? I have not seen your videos