My wife left when I was in the middle of a cancer battle. My therapist told me that I had no business dating for one year. She was right. Doing the internal work is critical to future success in relationships.

I have stayed away from the dating sites because (1) the experience for men is already pretty horrible, and (2) it just seems way too easy for scammers to mess with me.

I was nearly scammed on Christian Mingle too! First Red Flag... They want you to get off the Dating site right away. 2. They tell you how wonderful you are, beautiful, they are madly in love with you. 3. Often in military, or have a great job that requires them to travel to other countries! I gave none of my personal information or anything. I reported him/them to the dating site and left the site. Thanks for the warning. I'm sorry this happened to you. 🌹❤

The more and more people steer away from God in this country The worse it gets

I was actually considering chrisitan mingle but something kept tugging in my heart in not to do it. Ran into your video and i want to say a big Thank You. It was great information and eye opening. God Bless you 🙏

Thank God you have a warnings and your family has your back. Father God was looking out for you. Im glad you shared and are safe

The crazy part about it is that you have to pay for Christian Mingle so you wouldn’t think there would be any scammers ?! We have to have discernment and pray that God leads us in the right direction.

As a guy, I encountered some misleading woman who did not live in the same town they said they were from. Yes, both guys and ladies are having the same problem. Also, I have been scammed too and knew it from the start. Anyone asking for money is not a real person on a dating site. Always keep your guard up. Yes, there are nice guys and ladies out there doing the right thing. Keep the faith and you will find someone. God bless you.

I really agree --- I'm a masculine man...widowed --- but...there's a lot of women too --- there's a huge amount of people...when they ask for an email...rather than a phone number...and stay away from texting --- and be sure to get a copy of a driver's license...and anyone who can't get together within say...a month...more redflags. But...you're soooo right...There are good people out there...but...boy...decent people are pretty rare!!

If God intends me to have a man in my life I'm 100% sure he will send one to me 🙏🙏🙏🙏

God Bless you. My daughter got scammed of $$$$..The Guy was also supposedly in the Military. I wish we knew about this before it happened to her

Thank you for sharing this and I'm glad that you came out of it safe and didn't lose your anything

I'm happy that you didn't lose anything but your precious time. God bless and hope you're happy, and hopefully, you found that special man.

I can understand your situation. I worked at two different universities in Oregon for over 30 years. I was in the security departments of each and it is quite common for sexual predators to be on campus because it is an environment where there are a lot of young women who are vulnerable. This is because they are away from home and on their own for the first time. In many cases they simply do not have the "social skills" to recognize potentially dangerous situations. They go to parties where there are many men who have been drinking. Most young women who are raped on campus are raped by someone who is an acquaintance not a stranger, it usually happens for freshman, and usually during fall or winter term. There are also many sexual predators who loiter in areas where sactivities such as cheerleader or gymnastic camps are being given. Universities will provide such camps during the summer months as a means of using their facilities to make money when they are typically empty. I imagine that Christian Mingle attracts these predators because Christian women at least appear to be more vulnerable or naive. I am glad God was watching out for you and prevented this from happening to you. Wise as serpents... Harmless as doves.

This happens everywhere now. I've even had it happen on LinkedIn. The scammers are out there like crazy lately, and yes, there must be some list they all share. That's why people should make their social media profiles private (a lot of times that's how they steal pics/info about people). And definitely new parents shouldn't be putting the kids birthday, weight, time of birth, etc etc etc online for all to see because this is setting the kid up later as I can see this only getting worse and everything on the internet is on the internet forever. Too bad hackers and scammers don't use their skills for good, seems like a waste of talent/brains. Also, if someone is victimized by someone it can affect the person emotionally as well, yet another reason people don't want to talk about it. That being said, I'm really glad that you put this out there and made your friends and family aware. People can stick together and hopefully help one another instead of harm one another. A sad situation really. I'm glad that you figured it out and are helping others. May your future be blessed and happy, with no more scammers.

Thank you so much for sharing your story and trying to protect other woman from these con artists - I really really appreciate your video - cheers from Canada

Just talk about the Bible in depth, testimonies, and serving God. A faker can't keep up the charade for long.

Good to know. I'm a widower of two years and I've had friends and family encourage me to use these dating sites for seniors. This woman's story is how I see all these sites. I'm a former police officer and I am a naturally suspicious person. Shortly after my wife past I started getting friends requests from Filipino woman on FB and had to change my settings.

God Bless You! (I pray God brings you the perfect lifemate!)

As a man with good motives, I find i have to fight against stuff like this. Everyone is suspect, and should be.

Thank you so much for all of the information and explaining the red flags about the scammers. Thank you for being honest and speaking your truth.

On dating sites, men in the military on assignment is a big red flag 🚩 Also, men who work on oil rigs are another one as they “can’t” call or FaceTime.

My friend's brother is stationed in Afghanistan and they FaceTime often. They can have devices while deployed. Dont let that fool you!

It's not just women getting catfish, thank God for his protection 🙏

Exactly why I want to remain single and not deal with all this crap! The scammers are everywhere and I did get scammed in the beginning. I had a woman claiming that she was trying to get into modeling. Then I learned is modeling agencies will assist a woman if they are interested in her. She claimed to be broke and needed all this money to get into the business! I am done with online dating and I am done with dating. Singleness rules...

Good thing to remember is that you should never fully trust anyone, no matter how real or nice they seem. If they ask for personal information, either lie or don't give them anything.

Not just for women. Is exactly the same thing for men. Thats why in looking at this video. Looking for information about scams

Ten or eleven years ago I tried Christian mingle. I had the exact same experience. Men traveling to other countries for his great job, suddenly a crisis comes up and he ask for money. One said he had a small daughter who needed emergency medical, etc. so on and so forth, scam, scam, scam, very exhausting and scary. Never again. They do target Christian women and play on their sympathy, guilt, etc. You were wise. I am sorry it happened to you but very glad that you caught on. Many, many women have been scammed out of thousands and hundreds of thousands of dollars. It is not safe.

Date someone you know for a long time (maybe a friend) who attends church, loves the Lord, reads his word and will pray for you. I think that's the kind of guy all christian woman should be looking out for whether on christian dating apps, missionaries or churches.

Great video...so important to VERIFY who you are actually dealing with.

Thank you for sharing. God does protect you, thankfully. He's faithful. I'm starting online dating too so I need all the tips I can get. Keep praying. He intercedes for us through prayer.

Your new subscriber in the building,,,, thank you for sharing your story, I have learnt something from it. Much love ❤️ ❤❤️💞from Kenya 🇰🇪

The lieutenant, promised my Aunt the world when they retire. He wanted money for a Korean kid in the hospital and he is American. Just lying, not just Nigerians they come in every nationality now.

Thank you for sharing. I recently deleted my profile information on Christian Mingle, due to the large number of scammers. It’s a scary world out there! We all need to be wise and never assume a person is for real. I’ve heard the tip of asking the person to write a number on a piece of paper, take a selfie with it, and post it on the site, to prove they are the person they say they are. They could still be a scammer, but it is something a sincere person could do.

Thank you for sharing.. I definitely will be careful from now on 🙋‍♀️

Don't be gullible for love even if you religious. Take your time stay on the site and don't be desperate. Just because it's a Christian mingle doesn't mean people don't lie come on guys.

Well done putting the truth out there.. I was thinking of going on that site.. Not now...Thank you for the warning. God Bless you.

My dad was a cheater that was on just about every dating thing you can think of. Be on guard. Just because it's "Christian" doesn't mean you don't have to be cautious. In fact, I'd suspect there'd be more preying on there cause that's where the sheep are. Scammers, cheaters, whatever, can be anywhere.

great point Ms. Boyle is making-that scammers are so prevalent in dating apps.

Thank you for sharing. It is such a mind-opening. This video could save many to be victim. And about the personal picture that is used, yes it's happening. I did see a user with username "trade real picture". So, please be careful on online dating. Thank God he was captured fast 🙍‍♀️

Everyone can decieve us but No one can take advantage on us because we have God who protects and guide us always. God bless us all.

I was about to sign up for Christian Mingle and I ran across your video and I’m so glad that I did see your video ,thank you for sharing I’m sorry that happened to you some are using Christian Mingle as a set up to prey on Christian Woman

THANK YOU FOR SHARING THIS!

Goodness i understand the struggle. Being actual military and christian trying to date is hard already. Now theres fake profiles out there making bad names for us. Dang thats terrible.

Hello Leslie, When a man or anyone that use God name in vain is a giant red flag. Watch out for someone that uses obscene language, to describe their life over and over. An intelligent man or woman depending on the case. will engage in a thoughtful discussion on common topics of today. Getting to know a person is fun and exciting but, can be dangerous in our world. Listening to a person describing things is fascinating and interesting, many people have very big ego's and want to talk exclusively about themselves. I would listen and not give out personal information to anyone you don't know. Much can learn by listening to a person heart and their Faith. Thank you for sharing this experience you had. Russ from Oregon seen on 9-7-19

“The devil can cite Scripture for his purpose. An evil soul producing holy witness Is like a villain with a smiling cheek, A goodly apple rotten at the heart. O, what a goodly outside falsehood hath!” ― William Shakespeare, The Merchant of Venice It's good that CM has their members' backs but it's even better to have YOUR OWN back. When talk of romance turns to talk of finance it's time to give the old Michigan handshake. P.S. You don't even look like a grandmother one time over, much less nine!!

As women we get hit on/asked out at the gym, market, out with friends etc. The last place I’m looking is on an app or online, it attracts the bottom of the barrel people-wise, I’ve heard the horror stories from friends. Don’t be desperate, people. Men and women can smell desperation a mile away and will exploit it. Meet people organically in person, nothing better than that.

I'm a great guy, and I had no idea there was so much scamming. makes it even more hopeless.

I know a woman who went on a german dating site for Christians and after a short time she got engaged with a guy she met there. He even took her to his church, and she was confident they would get married soon. He ran into some "problems with his business" and asked her for money. She gave him 6000 USD. When she ran out of money, he dissolved the engagement. And then he went back on that dating site to look for another victim.

Thank you for sharing your story. I had not heard about the scammers. I appreciate knowing it now.

Thanks for the info . Being a newly single man who has no experience with internet type relationships . I'm at a loss in these areas . Owell single isn't bad .

Thank you I've had the same experience I got taken in by a younger woman doing the same she got me for a grand before I figured it out but you were smarter than I am old careful then ever I won't be taking in any more stay smart

I experienced something similar but on other sites but thank God it was only a few text messages and nothing more. I am not going to do online dating ever again. I will trust God for love and just focus on my life.

Thank you for this very informative content Maam.,

Thank you so so much for bringing awareness.

I fairly recently met someone on CM who says he is a retired Army officer living in Florida. Now I’m really starting to wonder if everything he has told me is a lie. He hasn’t asked me for anything, but wants to meet in person. Thank you for making this video. This is very disturbing to learn, and it has really opened my eyes!

When the scammers contact me, I often play stupid just to see how far they can carry on a conversation before my questions are to intimidating for them to answer. Most of the scammers I've encountered are such shallow people, they can't relate to conversations that require depth and character.

Great info. Women need to hear this. It makes total sense that con artist would do that. You don’t really know the person on line. Women are Vulnerable to relationships. Don’t even answer someone who approaches you in Facebook. I think I had the same guy approach me on Facebook and I didn’t answer back. Another thing they will say dear or honey. I am not there dear or honey. That is very disrespectful and a red flag. Women Work on your personality and gain insight as to codependency issues. Do not send anyone money. If they are saying they need money or something else don’t do it. I would ask right there do I want a man that is asking me for money? No! I should be the opposite. Ladies please don’t be dumb. ❤

Glad you are doing better Leslie these dating sites have so many scammers on it very few real honest people on these sites one reason I don't use online dating sites.

Dating apps very rarely if ever work for the same reasons, regardless of which app, most people are just on there for casual reasons, and yeah tons and tons of fake profiles and scammers. Ive heard tons of these stories and ive experienced a good amount of them myself. its all a waste of time unless you're really bored

So thankful I found your video. I was on our time dating site and some of the "women" tried the same thing. I removed my entire account. After hearing this about a Christian dating site, I believe if God has a women for me, I will meet her in church, face to face. If that doesn't happen I have no problem in being alone. God know what we all need, so I will wait on the Lord.

Amen and God bless you.

Thanks a million for sharing your experience with me, you never know who to trust, I find the same problem, I hope things work out for you I'm the end 😊 ❤️

If it sounds like nonsense, it probably is.

You are right, it goes both ways. Women try to scam men just as men try to scam women. I'm on Christian Mingle and a woman tried to scam me. Once she asked if I could "loan" her some money, over $10,000, I said no and ended our texting. Just thought I'd share my experience.

One of the many advantages of using dating sites is that individuals are able to vet (screen) members who exhibit red flags! If an individual asks for money, a phone number, an email address, mailing address or anything outside the dating app or website before you're comfortable, you have the choice of saying no or ending the conversations all together. No one can take advantage of you without your permission. Everyone online is not going to be upfront and honest even if they're on Christian websites. The same holds true if you met them in person.. if you met him at a bar, at a social, at a mixer, at work, if you were introduced to him by a friend.. he could still have the same scam artist tendencies as someone online with a dating profile 😩

These scammers are very good at what they do and they're technically savvy, so you don't stand a chance against them unless you are extremely careful! My own experience is that they also pose as women to elicit money from older men. I had one scammer who had pix of an attractive woman named Teri on one site and on another site, the SAME EXACT PIX with the name Rose! Beware, people! Don't lose your life savings to these con artists!

All dating sites & job sites are after is the advertising revenue. To my knowledge, these dating sites are completely unregulated by anybody. They used to be the most complained upon industry in the entire US. Great video.

they always say they are in the military, and they ask for money after you think they are going to marry you,

I think if we can pray and believe God for what we asked of Him in prayers, he will direct our path to the right person. People meet for a reason but sometimes we are quick to judge a person’s approach or appearance because of our previous experiences. We should let God direct our path and not trying to do it ourselves

Happens to us guys too...since my family was in the military. I caught them in several lies. I noticed an 82nd airborne patch, but they told me they are based in area’s that has no airborne. They couldn’t give me platoon or brigade info. And a bunch of other lies

I’m so glad I found your story, my friend just had the same thing happen on this site

Thank you. I’m just thinking about starting dating. This will put me on higher alert

POF has their share of scammers too.

It's very unfortunate, thank God you got some good warnings. My prayer for you is the Lord gives you the desire of your heart.

Thank you for this!!

Thank you so much. ) this is the world we live. So sad. There are little good people in this world. I don't know how we will find them. I am also looking for true love. ))

There's a podcast on You Tube for this very thing. They ask people to go to their channel to tell their story. The name of the podcast is Scamfish in case you are interested. Good luck and thanks for your video xoxoxoxo

That happened to me too I was communicating with someone he said that she was in the military like two weeks later she asked me to Western Union her some money bad red flag

I need a woman that love the lord Jesus Christ pastor Robert

Thanks so much for Ur information

Thank you so much for this!

It’s a good idea to do a “video chat” as soon as possible after beginning communication with someone to insure they’re legit.

Thank you my sweet sister for your share and I am among affected by scammer but God saves my money by the banker and I am over conscious about them

To LESLIE BOYLE: Leslie thanks for your "heads up" because I was considering trying a dating app. You brought back to mind a saying my friend used to say to me, and that was "When someone is showing you "who they are...BELIEVE THEM. My ACTIONS are going to tell you a lot more of what I REALLY am all about DESPITE what my lips may be saying. It is sad that their are so many wolves out there...but there are, and we need to protect ourselves. As for me I am going to focus on helping the many other people in my life.....and if God intends that I meet someone, I am sure he can make that happen, But I am certainly not going to sit around sighing and pineing away for Mrs right to come along. I have had at least my fair share of relationships and I feel good being able to help all the people that are around me. If I am not careful it is easy to fall prey to selective memory, the idea that says "oh things would be much better if I was in a relationship,,,,,forgetting that sometimes it is really difficult to be in a relationship....it takes a lot of work and owning ones "stuff" and that is hard enough...even when one is single...never mind all the "stuff" that comes with TWO people. I hope you join me in not waiting...for someone to "come along" and you'll decide for yourself..."I am going to have cool life TODAY..RIGHT NOW....I only have one life and I am going to make every minute count....Relationship or not Your friend TIM

I'm glad that you are Christian Woman. You will find someone great but just keep praying to God.

I had a bad experience there too. A guy in Africa asked me for $$$. Luckily, I didn’t give in!

May The Most High Our Creator Yahuah Baruk you for warning others! Shalum love!

Wow this was eye opening!

I was married happily I thought for 17 yrs handsome Cardiologist one day she up and tells me I dont want to be married anymore 3 hrs later leaves. Obviously she had it planned in advance. Its been 4 yrs I get offers from all ages of women... I dont do social media and I haven't even been on a date. I just needed to get my head clear to be able to love and trust another women again.. I believe I am there now......

That's really unfortunate. Too bad there are no single women in church to meet. It took me many years to find a girl who would go to church (met her on christianmingle) and the church we went to wouldn't marry us because she was divorced :(

Guess what I started doing in response to scammers.... I say don't you know that you can go to hell 🔥 for trying to scam people, especially widows , if you don't change your ways. Tell Your Friends! (It shut them up about 95% of the time. One time a scammer called the live revival service in Tampa, FL where I was and repented on the phone!)

Thankyou for this information ,am too careful with men claims to be in military

Thank you for sharing

Well I have had my share of online dating. However, Ive not had these types of problems because I strictly deal with local or at the very least a short drive away people

As a widower and Christian I was going to join Christian Mingle. After watching this, I’m not joining any dating website 🙁.

Good advice, thank you

TRUE - be careful but don't be under the illusion that you are not selling anything. You're selling a warning and there is nothing wrong with that.

I am a Christian male and would love to find a genuine woman and I am sure when God feels the time is right I will.

Thank you for the heads up.