Don't Let Your Boss Ruin Your Life: How to Survive a Toxic Manager

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Being stuck in a toxic workplace can be soul-sucking and discouraging. It can sap all of your motivation and creativity-but it's not always easy to recognize the signs of one.
When you're in the thick of it, you might make excuses for why your boss keeps micro-managing or why there's a lack of communication between team members. Don't settle for this kind of working environment!
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@LeadershipwithMike 8 ай бұрын

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@nw-by-n 8 ай бұрын

I hate job hopping, but here I go again. Awful people everywhere.

@peonyflowers23 5 ай бұрын

So true. The corporate world is full of them. I’ve had the same experience.

@SongofaBeach2012 4 ай бұрын

So same! Ugh! I went from being unfairly fired by a horrid Narcissistic boss to 3 months later getting hired at my new job and now my new boss is showing HER true colors and has begun micromanaging me. I KNOW its not me, I've been in healthcare since 2005 and have always been fortunate to have kind managers and at the very least tolerable coworkers. But it seems things took a turn after 2020 cause it's been toxic workplace after toxic workplace. Its a friggin nightmare and I wonder if now I'm just a magnet for these types? Idk I can't reflect too much cause apparently I'm off to job hop YET AGAIN sigh

@sarahmcgregor280 4 ай бұрын

I am being micro managed then asked how will I show the other staff I’m a leader. I have been there 2 weeks and I am expected to be a leader…..this is a 18 month contract

@jonnywick4402 3 ай бұрын

You will find something better Pal. Just quit a toxic place where my ex boss was mad even what I throw on the garbage lol and how many bolts I used 😅

@hutyra_509hutyra4 3 ай бұрын

I don't know why we don't have laws to protect the common worker from this nonsense. Yeah, we have commissions and unions, but they only apply to certain states and commissions hardly help at all.

@aryasharma4940 2 ай бұрын

It’s insane how common this has become. Having a toxic manager has a huge impact on our mental health as well

@aries4901 2 ай бұрын

And the mental effects your physical

@ryanbarker3978 14 күн бұрын

That's because toxic people are normalized, and professionalism is not taken seriously by the majority of people. Inevitably they get promoted, and then you deal with this once power dynamics have been introduced.

@Astral_Dusk 5 ай бұрын

They're usually subtle... passive aggression that can infect the workplace - frankly they're weak on self management, always leveraging off others for energy...it's pathetic.

@TheCommonCore 4 ай бұрын

This is exactly it. The subtle passive aggression then favorable treatment of a few others makes me feel incredibly gaslit at times

@LifeIsGood1992 4 ай бұрын

they pretend they care for you, but they just enjoy hot and cold treatments, they view you as a toy

@shadmannavidkhan4278 2 ай бұрын

Not just weak on self-management, but also totally fake, empty and shallow deep inside. Moreover, they not just leverage off others for energy only, but at the same time for ideations, contributions, etc., knowing very well that they themselves are not creative, skilled or talented enough.

@elexuswhitaker9401 Ай бұрын

My current manager is very subtle. The first two months I started she wouldn’t even look me in the eyes when we had a conversation. she makes me so uncomfortable that I’m so anxious when I’m at work.

@ahhwe-any7434 2 күн бұрын

@@elexuswhitaker9401that's so threatening of her. The audacity of her to not pay every waking second of her attention on u

@SuperNeutronX Жыл бұрын

Dont let a Toxic Boss devalue you!☝

@jessicawilcox5093 Жыл бұрын

I was in a double bind with my toxic boss because the better my performance was the more jealous she got of the praise I was getting from others. She would take it out on me by restricting who I was allowed to talk to in the company and would belittle me in meetings to show her power. I got out. Couldn’t win. I was damned if I did well and damned if I failed. I literally had to ask my coworkers to stop complimenting me ☹️

@Clevelandsteamer324 10 ай бұрын

Common

@digitalUID 10 ай бұрын

I'm dealing with this now. It's an awful situation to be in.

@juliaoconnor5798 8 ай бұрын

I'm dealing with this. It's being set up to fail the catch 22 do a good job no acknowledgement then nitpicking over the most minute mistake. I started feeling like the place is setting people up to fail & recently was told by a coworker that's worked there for yrs they started getting that feeling too that they are deliberately setting up employees to fail. That has helped me to put things in proper perspective because I never told anyone I feel like the company is setting employees up to fail I kept that completely to myself. Here I'm thinking we're basically on the same team it's about being as productive & as efficient as we can be & they are deliberately putting obstacles in employees way a lot of gaslighting is in this environment gobs of it. Turnover rate is extremely high & it's the voluntary termination. A lot of manipulation going on.

@jessicawilcox5093 8 ай бұрын

I believe this is a thing in large organizations with a lot of established hierarchy. When there is a team member who can get things done in a more cost effective, efficient, and innovative way there are OG’s there bogging everything down because you have to pay homage to all of their seniority by maintaining the status quo or letting 900 people weigh on everything… Someone always feels threatened and finds a way to undermine an up and comer. It’s the epitome of group think and it squashes passion and any intrinsic rewards for being creative and competent for folks who bring fresh perspectives. My antidote to this is to go the self employed route. It sucks when you are a fast learner but are told to stay in your box and grow slower than you’re capable of.

@0_Katt_0 8 ай бұрын

I was in an identical situation

@TheINFJChannel 8 ай бұрын

I don't have a boss, I have a 'manager'. I resent having to share oxygen with that demon.

@TheTrevifountain 4 ай бұрын

😂❤

@meganbaute4254 3 ай бұрын

He literally calls himself a demon as a joke lol well I don’t think he’s funny he really might be a demon 😞

@CR-ut2bg 2 ай бұрын

😂

@CreolQueensEnvyme7159 2 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂

@jaselleventures724 Ай бұрын

HAHAHAH true

@rvs0875 10 ай бұрын

I'm going through this hell right now. I don't want to quit and my only way to deal with the whole situation (favoritism, gaslighting) is to be patient, stay under radar and wait for my boss to be transferred to another store one day. Minimizing contacts with his favorites is a big help to surviving too.

@barbaraa5538 9 ай бұрын

I feel this. I understand your struggle

@tinamallin2570 6 ай бұрын

Favoritism stinks it’s not fair for the other coworkers it’s really not

@Homegrown_Values 3 ай бұрын

@@tinamallin2570Truth! This favouriting certain coworkers is alive and well in my workplace. I’m secretly hoping one of them decides to leave. Divine timing!! 😅

@jenjohnson1747 14 күн бұрын

Retail is a breeding ground for toxicity…modern day slavery and abuse

@tracya8007 5 ай бұрын

Toxic! In one of the meeting with my boss she literally told me after 18 years “you’re not here because you deserve to be . You’re here because I have allowed you to be here”. The many years of abuse have literally made me question the universe. I’m 50 years old. Starting over does not feel like an option. Praying for all of you with the same fate

@cptsdfree 5 ай бұрын

I'm in the same boat as I am over 50 years old and have been with the company for 20 years. I don't want to start over, and who would even hire me due to my age? I feel I'm just screwed.

@RosemarieFit 3 ай бұрын

Don’t lose hope. Last year I interviewed a man in his mid 60s for an analyst role I was filling. He brought lots of experience and great energy to the interview. I gave the green light to be interviewed by my VP before drafting an offer and he was picked up by another company before we could even schedule the next round. While ageism definitely exists, if you bring experience and good energy you’re way ahead of the competition. Seasoned candidates are a gift to the right hiring manager.

@arizonanative7409 3 ай бұрын

That is crap! I’m in my late 60s and I will be moving away from my toxic boss/workplace as soon as possible. You can do it! Get the book “Ask the Headhunter” and move on! What a horrible woman.

@davidx8152 3 ай бұрын

Find a male boss/supervisor instead. You don't know until you try. So much for girl power :(

@raymondwilliams6642 3 ай бұрын

@tracya8007 You don't have to start over, just be patient and start a side hustle in other words try another source of income while you still in your job anything that you are good at and you do it with little effort is a talent or a gift, use it to earn extra income so if push come to shove you will be still earning money in the meantime do a course outside your job description example online earnings, weekends or something extra in the evenings, think about it I'm doing it right now

@phoenixrising5062 5 ай бұрын

Double whammy for me, I’m being bullied by my immediate supervisor and his boss. I chose leaving, life too short and they’re not worth my mental health.

@devonkruders2396 2 жыл бұрын

I made the choice to leave that environment and it was 100% worth it. I am me again. Happy bubbly wanting to be around people. Vs just going to work and home and not wanting to do anything

@LeadershipwithMike 2 жыл бұрын

Love it.

@harshitasharma8264 5 ай бұрын

My goal right now 😁

@JaquelineGoodspeed 5 ай бұрын

I'm at this place.

@hygienistcindy6107 4 ай бұрын

I stayed for 15 month extra at my job I found a exit strategy Yes I made my decision and felt my control coming back

@LeadershipwithMike 4 ай бұрын

@hygienistcindy6107 love this response!!!!

@KH-hs5xh 2 жыл бұрын

If your boss is toxic don’t be excellent and go above and beyond - they will never be satisfied and will just press you more and more. Do what you need to stay under the radar and use your time and energy to look for another job asap!

@SuperNeutronX Жыл бұрын

Play the idiot and leave

@jessicawilcox5093 Жыл бұрын

Staying under the radar is important with a toxic boss

@allannorellana8342 Жыл бұрын

So true

@zoew.2253 11 ай бұрын

I stayed for months cos I love my job. He said I had to learn his way and mind you only his way no way but only him. Ridiculous as it May seems, but I’m willing to learn and be open mind to learn his skills and unlearned mine to adapt his version and I succeeded months later and did well according to him. Mind you it wasn’t easy to change nor easy transition and daily criticism and scolded publicly every single day. But Im glad I made it and was looking forward for better days and soon to be one of their permanent employee. Never expected one day, i was called by HR and I was informed its time to confirm my permanent spot and yet to be given any feedback from my boss so I need to follow up. Little did I know drama awaits me thereafter. I was called in more frequent than usual. It wasn’t a good sight to others. It felt like I’m back to school days. The job wasn’t difficult but is the person that’s making it difficult. Hence, they concluded I will be laid off or I can choose to resign voluntarily to avoid bad review on my paper. I wasn’t given reasonable explanation I was adamant and it got ugly after that, I was convinced I done a great job privately behind the scene, but was severely verbally bashed gaslighted publicly and during HR session i was severely traumatised and mentally emotionally drained succumbed to gaslighted drama and documenting everything to proof my actions and presented to HR but to no avail. They rejected my appeal and I had no choice but to leave.😢

@TMeyer-ge5pj 9 ай бұрын

Yes! Or they're threatened because you're better than them

@peonyflowers23 5 ай бұрын

My boss bullies by proxy. She’s toxic because she listens to gossip then brings it to you. She’s insecure and the more you shine, the more insecure she gets. She constantly lies and is inconsistent. Anytime you have a good day, you can’t get comfortable because she will soon put you down with awful “false feedback.”

@davidx8152 3 ай бұрын

Try to find a male boss in your organisation. if you don't try, you won't know.

@smoothiecutie2277 Ай бұрын

Exactly. And most of the time you’re (meaning people in general) are not TRYING to outshine e anyone. The BEST efforts are being put forward and insecure people can’t handle it. Or they may think that you want their job. It’s crazy.

@Surmoka 7 ай бұрын

I had written proof of all events with my toxic boss when I was questioned. Still I lost. Nobody cared what I had documented. They didn't even care to look when I presented them. They just shook their heads. The decision was already made.

@coolusernamel 5 ай бұрын

I have actually found that the harder I work, the more they bother me and the more work ends up on me

@dennismclaurin1487 3 ай бұрын

Can relate

@elilewis7860 3 ай бұрын

Same here😢😢😢

@KB-si5fx 2 ай бұрын

This summarizes my last job.

@Lantern66 2 ай бұрын

Experiencing this for the past 6 months

@trillenglish Күн бұрын

My current situation. The more competent you are the more work you get on your plate. It’s such BS because the dumb dumbs still get the favoritism and rewards.

@clot1770 Ай бұрын

I'm a nurse and I have a good eye for detail. I notice little cues that indicate the patient is in danger, and so far, I have been right 100% of the time. Whenever I tell the nurse manager about the danger, she will turn it around on me and say I'm trying to get the team in trouble. I absolutely do not care about the gossip culture. I do not care about the drama. My SOLE RESPONSIBILITY is preventing the patient from harm and suffering. Often times the danger comes from things being missed. Just yesterday, a patient began to bleed into their abdomen because of a surgical error, and because the wound was not monitored or documented-on by the previous shift. If someone gets in trouble, I don't even think about that part. All I care about is the half gallon of blood pooling in the patient's abdomen. Yet I'm the bad guy for having found it and having prevented further complication and even death.

@shadmannavidkhan4278 4 ай бұрын

What's even worse about toxic managers are their insecurities. They just can't stand the fact that people who are junior to them in rank, or who simply report to them, can be more skilled and/or talented than them. Such constant insecurities displayed by some managers are what makes the working relationship all the more "toxic".

@TMeyer-ge5pj 9 ай бұрын

I think most toxic bosses are threatened by good workers. Once i become a crappy worker they leave me alone lol

@yodaleiheehu3280 Ай бұрын

My work is rife with surprisingly bad employees. Once I found out and got to know the boss I now understand why.

@LadyBoBannon 9 ай бұрын

A toxic boss will not be appeased so going above and beyond will just get the most insecure of that boss type targeting you to keep you in your lane. You should want to do a good job to win allies and gain influence to go around them. The best defense is to not let them get you out of character.

@rami30 4 ай бұрын

My toxic manager just got fired today ! Me and my workmates reported him to operation manager and to the senior managers .

@utayasurian419 4 ай бұрын

In my case, all the managers will listen to my toxic boss. So it won't work for me as I am a contract employee.

@yodaleiheehu3280 Ай бұрын

Praise Jesus Hallelujah get behind thee Satan

@dalebenton3354 Ай бұрын

I wish I could do that,Had the Main boss on my back the other week over another issie,She called me through again the 2nd time,Dale can I have a word please,I went through,I telling her what been going on,She back lipping me and talking to me at the same time,Also had the same problem of the other Manager,Back lipping,Means when two people talking both at once,How that gets problems solved,Also found all that rather RUDE as well

@the_batman6506 Жыл бұрын

Never gossip with your co-workers about your boss. I have a jealous boss and nearly left. I decided to stay and fight No more running

@diemdia 6 ай бұрын

I’ve confided my frustration with one coworker (and over text 😅) I trust him but I do regret it. Tempted to ask him if he would delete those texts

@modern.moon.child.official 9 ай бұрын

I’m in a situation at my work place. I’ve decided to stay working for a toxic boss for 4 yrs now. I knew who she is for a while now and there have been sooooo many time when I wanted nothing more than to walk out. So many other people have while I’ve been there! But I couldn’t afford to just quit so I stayed, I tried to reframe, I tried to look at and focus on the positives and while it helps me cope I can only hold it for so long. A recent incident brought me to my breaking point. I can’t allow myself to keep going through this! I’m DONE! She’s out of town this week so I have a little peace and figure out a new job so when she’s back, I can finally put in my notice. Wish me luck 🍀

@dewaldjacobs7453 7 ай бұрын

Your mental health is all that matters. Maybe start your own business, it can boost your cv. I truly wish you all the luck should you put in your notice.

@sigmawolf7898 7 ай бұрын

Do they try to trigger you on purpose? My worst mistake was confiding in them with personal life situations.

@MetallicBluegreenFlame 5 ай бұрын

@@sigmawolf7898 Going through that right now. Sorry that you had the same. I'm nervous, but getting pumped about the next chapter in my life. Rooting for you! 💪 🙌

@sigmawolf7898 5 ай бұрын

@MetallicBluegreenFlame I'm still going through it. Other people at work see it too. Hope you get through this and grow, my brother!

@albertalvarez657 5 ай бұрын

Doing everything right and I know I do one hell of a job cause my dad taught that in me never half ass anything do it right the first time and I’ll never have to go back . Boss favors a guy who should of been written up way befor me she took all my supervisor status away meaning I have no say so everything goes through boss and still except me to improve told her I took everything that I was comfortable with and made it uncomfortable if it’s about ur job I went to the hire ups reigional on. My case more then just one also have witnesses who say they micro managing

@evermic81 8 ай бұрын

Document, keep your cool, and the grey rock method works like a charm. Don't respond to anything unreasonable and document. This way you will protect your peace, and they will eventually sabotage themselves. Remember, your boss is being watched more so than you!

@gurugamer8632 5 ай бұрын

I started a new job it’s been 5 weeks. He doesn’t like me talking to the head of our department acting very insecure he reports to him. He is very rude and has anger issues. But I like the job. Shall I leave ?

@evermic81 5 ай бұрын

@@gurugamer8632 I would say weigh out the pro and cons. If the job is for the betterment of your career and lifestyle, then I would not let some fool stop me from my purpose or position. You may have his job sooner than later anyway. Protect your peace!

@alanbeckham9093 2 ай бұрын

I'm 70. I work PART-TIME. The amount of poison directed at me on a daily basis feels like a tsunami. The company I work for is awful, but they were the ONLY employer that would hire me. In my eight months, 7 young workers quit with zero notice. Others acted insulted when paid $16 hr with NO experience. America is over with and I am saddened more each day.

@kennahowe7582 9 ай бұрын

I change jobs maybe once every two years, so i have mastered the exit strategy. Most often, I leave because the environment is too harsh ( lots of cussing, gossip, bullying, heated exchanges), and the government tends to have the most toxic work environments, in my opinion. My recent position as a federal employee is making me seriously reevaluate this work thing, and i have been seriously considering self employment.

@MaryCBV 5 ай бұрын

OMG so true!!! 😢

@SongofaBeach2012 4 ай бұрын

Healthcare is rife with toxic individuals too. 😢

@Liz-wz8dh 4 ай бұрын

Education and restaurants have been the most toxic for me. But I really do think it is very widespread.

@yodaleiheehu3280 Ай бұрын

The government is where all the demons reside.

@yodaleiheehu3280 Ай бұрын

@@SongofaBeach2012 healthcare is pretty much government

@qicai3682 Жыл бұрын

I should’ve quit earlier. I waited too long and it weakened my confidence level.

@LonjeMarie7 Жыл бұрын

I’m sorry they hurt you. This is the opportunity for you to take your power back. Do multiple things to improve your own self-esteem never put it in the hands of anyone other than God, and the very healthy people he will put in your pathway.

@LonjeMarie7 Жыл бұрын

No feeling is final ,feelings are not facts, this happened FOR you NOT to you. I hope you can reframe re see and rethink this situation you benefit !!!!

@hylbcf6olbgt519 5 ай бұрын

How do you get a new job then. They always require your boss as a reference. I should never had quit. Now im gonna be jobless the rest of my life.

@dalebenton3354 Ай бұрын

I was going to quit the other week,I thought If I quit my Job to early,Don't really want to regret it,Wont regret it no more,Enough is enough now,Be cracking up next

@creativedoof 3 күн бұрын

The people at your former job helped you in some regard: they showed you how sh!tty they were, and, that they didn't deserve your time and effort. It's like that at my current workplace, and I'm looking for something better.

@user-xg9qz5dr5v Жыл бұрын

Just do the absolute minimum and disengage never to engage again.

@Leszno90 10 ай бұрын

Best option: get your CV, apply for jobs, and prepare for interviews! You got it!

@hylbcf6olbgt519 5 ай бұрын

It doesnt help when your new job require your boss as a reference. I was offered a job, but they had to talk to my boss first, even though I had good references. Im gonna be jobless the rest of my life.

@paubloblanco2828 4 ай бұрын

CV??

@RosemarieFit 3 ай бұрын

@@paubloblanco2828currículum vitae. Basically a resume. The term is more common in academic and research fields.

@paubloblanco2828 3 ай бұрын

@@RosemarieFit ook coo thanks! Lol

@themaskedman757 2 ай бұрын

Absolutely fucking true. They make u feel like they’re ur buddy and then try to turn the other against you then say they’re “just joking” when u stand up for yourself

@teslapinasandstocksinvesti492 5 ай бұрын

Had one Toxic boss in the past. "He micromanaged every day and almost just get my hand to do the work how he want it to be. Worst thing, he yell at you when things is not on his expected way.".

@MWALevi 5 ай бұрын

Pretty much my entire career has been working under toxic bosses. Is it really me or is the world THAT F-D UP

@Liz-wz8dh 4 ай бұрын

The world is that fucked up unfortunately. Toxic workplaces are extremely common.

@johncookie4415 6 ай бұрын

About that point "excel at your work", because it makes my toxic boss look good and me less of a target. Bad advice. Terrible advice in my case. My schizophrenic, narcistic boss doesn't even understand that context how my work makes her look good. She has an utter misperception of reality. No matter how hard I work, I remain the target.

@austecon6818 Ай бұрын

I'm in the same place but my advantage is that I have a lot of visibility with the great work I'm doing with other top architects... He wants to shut me out of meetings with the powerful people but I don't let him... and they keep directing all their questions to me because they know I'm the guy who has the answers and does all the work... He absolutely hates me. He'll probably try to fire me soon because he sees me as a threat but I won't make it easy.

@user-gx6kn8sx3r Жыл бұрын

It was so released at the moment when my toxic boss fired me. I am so happy now

@TheXone7 2 ай бұрын

Toxic...sociopath...no empathy...evil...

@brendaechols5929 Жыл бұрын

At a job i was at, this one guy got promoted to management after it was known he got two employees pregnant at the same time. We were speechless. Everyone's mouth drop when it was announced at our meeting.

@On3d3R_Lvst1nG 11 ай бұрын

Well...sounds like he could use the extra money

@Godspit6066 11 ай бұрын

Evrybody just so toxic nowdays,I can't keep count, how many jobs I walked away from in the year of 2023,I just quit one,as I'm typing, not letting nobody stealing my joy.any sign of toxicity I'm out of the door.im a nurse it's easy for me to find work.

@Shan21. 14 күн бұрын

Most bosses need to be held accountable for their actions and send to a therapist. Idk why they think they can just project their misery onto others and think it's ok to abuse others

@Antoinette617 4 ай бұрын

My last Mgr was toxic. She destroyed my reputation thru lies and gossip. She also had a coworker harass and bully me in front of all my coworkers. Thankfully I’m no longer in this job 🙌

@christianbenn316 3 ай бұрын

With such a red flag boss she has another thing coming

@Antoinette617 Ай бұрын

@@christianbenn316 yes she does.

@andersjohnson9565 8 ай бұрын

6:32 You do want to document everything so that if HR comes after the toxic boss, you can help the company get rid of him. But that will only happen if someone above the toxic boss complains first. If you volunteer the documentation, then HR will ignore the evidence and YOU will become the target.

@kitkat9235 6 ай бұрын

Sadly that is very true

@InnovationTree 2 ай бұрын

Or, if a group of you complain is works to remove the person.

@celesteornelas7468 22 күн бұрын

Sadly, this happened to me. I brought documentation to HR to report my toxic boss & in the meeting (with my boss present) they flipped the entire meeting on me & it became about my performance as an employee. They completely dismissed everything.

@firstninja2198 2 ай бұрын

This is hands down the best advice I have watched. You nailed it. I work in this circus every day. A total Freak show! In order to keep a mental balance, I wear one pod in my left ear playing scriptures ( God reminds me what not to do, the flesh is weak) , so that the right ear taking in the garbage does not send the wrong message to my brain. My motto every day is head down, mouth shut until they deliberately drag you into their drama and you have no choice but to defend yourself. The sad thing is that when normal people join the company and then realize the freak show they are in, they begin to normalize the environment and take part in the behavior because they have bills to pay. I am the rumor on the gossip mill, (which the owners/management love, as they rule by favoritism not performance) because I do not engage unless I am asking for information to do my job, or saying "good morning, good evening, or good night".

@kathleenhutchings3854 Ай бұрын

Very wise to listen to the gospel. I have to pray on the way to work that I don’t lose my cool and say things I will regret. Jesus is always looking out for His children. I always keep in mind that one day we will be in glory with Him and this will all just fade away. God bless you

@37dot Жыл бұрын

Toxic, in my case a lot gaslighting, disrespect, favouritism etc

@stephaniej2235 4 ай бұрын

I have a pair of toxic bosses and Im pregnant 😢 Just trying to get to maternity leave. 6 weeks to go and never thought 6 weeks could feel so long 💔

@no120992 Ай бұрын

I’m in the same situation as you… I have 3 months left before I go on leave and I’m trying so hard to not quit on the spot everyday

@canceriangal4443 8 ай бұрын

This is great advice. I’m without knowing doing all this. I keep my head down, deliver the best quality work. Try to stay ahead of the drama my boss brings up. I also don’t tell anything negative about my boss to my coworkers. It’s extremely hard but it is what it is. I love this advice. Taking it one day and a time is my approach right now!!

@tinamallin2570 6 ай бұрын

Another disappointment when you love your job and you know there’s no growth and that you’re not valued😢

@LeadershipwithMike 6 ай бұрын

That’s tough!

@BlabbermouthRex 4 ай бұрын

He didn't ruined my life. He ruined my ability to get another job. Guaranteed that if I ever get the actual evidence there will be charges laid.

@BlabbermouthRex 3 ай бұрын

@@HisExcellencyx Managers never say what they mean... except when they yell at you in the office with your supervisor present. The Supervisor quit the next day... never saw her again. I knew the manager wanted me to quit, that's why he was quiet firing me, but I resisted him at every step. Pissed him off good. He was transferred to another store because a PhD therapist reported that I shouldn't be returned to the same environment. I got fired by his successor. The story is much much longer. But I've bored everyone enough. lolz Thanks for replying.

@BlabbermouthRex 3 ай бұрын

@@HisExcellencyx You said it. I hold no hope in getting hired. Employers see me and my size and instantly think I can be the heavy lifter they've been looking for. My c5-c6 disk is gone and I'm 57... doesn't seem to matter. Now, I am trying to deal in rare stones. Wish me luck. lol

@kaywilliams1065 Жыл бұрын

Toxic - when I figured it out, I started writing everything she told me to do on one of those school notebooks. When she denied telling me to do something, I brought it out and she never did it again.

@user-ladyengineer 2 ай бұрын

Toxic I have been the scapegoat for many toxic bosses. I am a woman in a non traditionally line of work. I’m in maintenance.

@kevinstroup 5 ай бұрын

Quit. Start working for yourself. That is what I had to do. Left the world of laboratories behind and became a contractor. Best thing I did.

@andrewmackinnon563 5 ай бұрын

Challenging, but the payoff is soooo good

@ahhwe-any7434 2 күн бұрын

I found out secrets, being homeless. I think. But me thinking big is ummm. If I ever start a business on anything I don't feel like I know that much about anything and I'm prob already making up excuses for myself but entering that kind of territory is like I can't even conjure up that many thoughts on how to. How to hopefully be successful (enough..) w/ out losing my head 🤔. I just wanna live like bobs burgers 😋. I'd never hafta walk outside. Or barelt

@outdoorsywannabe1888 8 ай бұрын

I’m about to go in tomorrow. I needed to hear this. Thanks for the strength while waiting for a new offer.

@DavidBurkus 2 жыл бұрын

I like the way this question gets at the core: reclaiming your agency over the situation.

@damianmcintyre2605 2 ай бұрын

Damn. This made my eyes water from hope. Thank you.

@LeadershipwithMike 2 ай бұрын

There’s always hope. If nothing else.

@imcoop 9 ай бұрын

I went through this twice in my life, Never again, Great words and points

@benjamingreer1660 Ай бұрын

I have a toxic boss and didn't even realize it for a long time. You mentioned like 5 things that fit the description, and he has little man syndrome. Thanks for helping me realize what i must now do.

@princessmarlena1359 9 ай бұрын

Filing a report to the state labor board, filing a lawsuit, quitting, baiting them into firing you without breaking the law or making yourself ineligible for unemployment (when possible). Works for me.

@csensale Жыл бұрын

My boss likes to yell out peoples names at random to get a rise out of them resulting in people starring. Feels demoralizing says he just likes yelling out my name sometimes it’s confusing if he’s yelling for me if he needs to ask me a question.

@adamcontreras7915 3 ай бұрын

I dont really view my boss as my boss. Just someone i have to deal with for the time being.

@huignn8476 Ай бұрын

I work at Ribs And Chop and I’m really getting tired of dealing with my toxic boss

@JulieMcPherson-vu3bh Ай бұрын

I’m working for one right now and my life is miserable… it’s a catch 22 all around . It’s a family business and the son is just out of control and no matter what I say or tell the owner he does no wrong .

@londonswe3002 Жыл бұрын

I’m going into work this morning. I feel empowered now after listening to your video!!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

@LeadershipwithMike Жыл бұрын

Go get’em

@johnjamesjoseph3814 Ай бұрын

After a toxic session, I go back to my office and email my wonderfully toxic little man, stating, "Thank you for meeting with me today. Just to be clear with your expectations, you wanted me to do a, b, c, d, etc." Now you have a record email for your file. If they answer, they may just fix what they were saying, or they may not answer, which means you just clipped his wings. There is always a way to protect yourself - well, almost always.

@chefnicknero 3 ай бұрын

i screenshot everything and cc my personal email when it’s shady

@gwendolynwhitfield8405 11 ай бұрын

I have had a toxic boss. I tell you textbook Toxic. I also documented everything and reported it all to Professional Standards and then had to report again because of retaliation.

@factfullyindian8178 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for your video. It has given me the clarity of how to take things into our control. I am going to make this trauma in office as a spring board for my future. At the moment I am not sure what it would be but I would not let the toxic situation in my office spoil my life. As a first step I have decided to quit smoking and look forward for a healthier life. Thanks once again.

@romeokimss 9 ай бұрын

I’m in hell working for a toxic boss and she’s the company owner. The only thing keeping me from quitting is that my salary is extremely high for what I do and I need the money to support my family. I have an exit strategy and that’s to start my own company. I’ve already registered it and now just need to do the legwork of getting clients. I pray every day that I can leave this job and never work for another narc for the rest of my days.

@ryno1808 Ай бұрын

Take her clients mate...

@tyglda1 Жыл бұрын

Toxic boss, coworkers and re-signed!

@Conradist 3 ай бұрын

Another example is a boss, who hears critic form your co worker and decides to inform everyone of it with your full name starting the sentence. Also with out investigating anything decides that you are fault and comes at you like a train wreck verbally and nothing changes their mind. Tribe has spoken amen style.

@musicbyterence4655 5 ай бұрын

It’s a lot of energy to experience all the bs document all the bs and do a spectacular job

@TiredofTomfoolery7 5 ай бұрын

I put in my resignation yesterday. It's one week but I had to do it. I'm going on vacation the following week, which will become a little bit of a work vacation. This is why you always keep a 2nd and maybe even 3rd income. I have been working a part-time weekend job since the holiday season of 2023. I'm also able to sub if need be to pick up more slack. If you don't see a real future, then let it go to keep your mental health. It's just not worth it. I realize that I will never have peace until I have my own business. My vacation will be utilized to plan. You're always going to have haters in the workplace. Some people are just miserable and will do anything to bring others down, if you let them

@jasvan4222 8 ай бұрын

Toxic - had a boss who disliked honesty. I made the mistake of being honest. She targeted me so hard - I’ve that place now. She was manipulative, a liar, gaslighter, would get colleagues to report back to her everything and anything I said. It was hell. Constantly giving me her work which would remove me from my own work and destroy my stats. She was sick alright.

@emaria7244 Ай бұрын

A toxic boss will destroy your life. Sleep deprive you. Micromanage you. Berate you. Instruct othets to mob you. And bc of the power imbalance, they destroy you

@makanahokuokalanikukailani3270 3 ай бұрын

Toxic is toxic. Even if we can prove it and that person is reprimanded, they become vengeful and even more passive, and the environment becomes even more hostile than it was before you said something. Best just to leave.

@geverniveup 9 күн бұрын

The manager where I work is honestly one of the biggest narcissists I’ve ever worked with. Absolutely spoilt princess who manipulates people but specifically men with her looks. I’ve never fallen for it and she can’t stand it. Our customers complain about her every week and I have to hear it yet nothing is done…the company should be ashamed of themselves for the way they let this behavior continue

@georgsommer8056 8 ай бұрын

Mike, you're 1000% right in this video. Great stuff you provide to us 👍🏻

@PrimordialShot 2 ай бұрын

I recently discovered that my boss hired me intending to help him forget the woman he almost left his wife for... After putting in hours of my own personal time researching more about my job and getting heavily invested in it, this is what I get revealed to. I no longer have the care or pride in the job. I never stay at a job just for the money and this is a prime example. I've been in leadership positions before and it takes a certain mentality and personality to be a genuine boss that helps employees feel comfortable working for. The job-hopping train is getting old, but I'd rather go back to that than work for someone who projects their personal problems onto others. My time is too precious to spend in the shadows of another person's unresolved struggles.

@lullemans72 2 ай бұрын

yep, had to deal with a toxic boss in my last company. the biggest give away was that i often felt uncomfortable around that person, i had to watch every word i said, and it felt like i was walking on egg shells. i didn't feel that way about other managers i had worked with at that company, nor do i feel this way about people at my current company.

@elijah6678 Ай бұрын

Needed this cause I was lost with there dumb Fs thank you

@FitTrisha007 2 ай бұрын

It sucks when your manager turns everyone against you. She tells them to not talk to me or ice me out. They do it. I'm singled out and not sure why. I quit once to go back to my old job but they were no better so i got hired back at my first job and they all acted super nice so i would not leave. Then they went back to treating me bad. They all lied to me ugh

@dropautoparts 2 жыл бұрын

I have a toxic boss now. He says things like man I wish I would have hired someone else. He also will take my employees that are under me sitting in my chair and say you'd make a better manager than him. Things like that all the time. Gets very upset when he has to teach me the same thing two or three times because the way he teaches is very hard to comprehend what he's trying to teach me. Just very difficult person to work for

@LeadershipwithMike 2 жыл бұрын

This SUCKS!

@dropautoparts 2 жыл бұрын

@@LeadershipwithMike problem is I moved 600 miles of my family South to take this job. It was a promotion in my company that I was already with and I love the company. This man just does not want to give, you make me push my workers to the point they want to quit. I understand because I was my employees just a year ago. It's been a little bit of time for him I think you forgot where you came from so I always seemed like I'm buffering between him and them just taking the brunt of the hit and constantly being pulled down by him

@russlardinois5751 Жыл бұрын

@@LeadershipwithMike get out and do what's best for you. There are better employers out there. Get out of the situation.

@russlardinois5751 Жыл бұрын

Tell him kiss you're ass it's been along time waiting

@CTimmerman 11 ай бұрын

@@russlardinois5751 I wonder what HR's position is on toxicity.

@EloTheCurious 10 ай бұрын

Man it would have been nice if this could have been my reality at my last job. My toxic boss had created an environment where it was an authoritarian system under his control and approval, so much so that before the time I was there he fired/got rid of the HR team because he felt it was an annoyance. It’s a long story, but it appears that was worse than a toxic work environment. May I learn the skills to serve my future no matter than space, and have healthy boundaries went interacting with the toxic ones!

@mickl8212 2 ай бұрын

I told my boss that I will be looking for a new job if the situation carries on the same in our department. Short staffed and orders not going out of the door. We've since had two more people set on. Wouldn't worry me one bit if I had to leave as like you say, I'm in control.

@LiaDavis-el5uy 8 ай бұрын

TOXIC....I have had some great managers. But the toxic ones..OH MY!!! The ones who drink daily on the job. The ones who berate you every chance they get for no reason, and it's not even work related. The clueless ones who believe all the gossip and rumors of the backstabbing ladder climbing narcissist who does nothing and contributes nothing all day. I have always found dysfunction within the company as a whole when dealing with a "bully boss."

@stephanieholton5256 7 ай бұрын

Going through this now. But I refuse to leave to make her happy. I know she's jealous of me because of my work ethics. She's trying so hard to push me out. Then minutes later she wanna talk to me like we're friends lmao I'm like OKAY I peep game "HEYY, GIRL HOW YOU DOING TODAY " I can play the game too. She will be out before I do ❤❤❤

@melanieoreilly2565 3 ай бұрын

Without a doubt. In fact, I have found that one of the best things you can do is do an email to reiterate what you and your toxic boss discussed, however irrelevant it may seem. If you do this, it can never be denied. It also makes your toxic boss prick their ears up and realise that they gad better be very cautious about what the do or say to you.

@ChanceMarsbar 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for this had 15 minutes of no self worth after a gaslighting at work before realsing and getting my head clear. Went searching for help and advice and has validated everything. Along with the support of my coworkers really really helped me get out of a terrible head space. Thank you so much. I will be sharing this video. ❣

@LeadershipwithMike 4 ай бұрын

Glad to help.

@nadiasmit7458 3 ай бұрын

Incredible that so many people around the globe are going through the same crap. And so many people will mental instability/jealousy/ extreme insecurities are in management positions. Just crazy. I hope everyone finds the employment where they belong and where they can be long. Lol. Blessings to all. And those evil bosses and/or managers, may they get whatever they deserve.

@kitsune303 10 ай бұрын

I work for a poster child toxic boss. His mistress works in my division and we all know something is going on but we all have to pretend she is just another worker. The 'boss' is always right and watches/listens to us at all hours via Ring cameras in our cubicles. It's like working for the Stasi.

@sheabutta5425 9 ай бұрын

I was a 'rising star' at my company..My sponsor encouraged me to join her department and have her manager (ie. His team) train me. Big mistake. My trainer and manager have gossiped about me to others behind my back and unbeknownst to me now have my sponsor believing their lies as well. It hurts and I feel so alone. Looking for my exit now. I hate going from being labeled a rising star to now a dud on a PIP due to his "leadership"

@lollipop3136 9 ай бұрын

Companies who don’t value their workers are slowly going down hill because people who would have once stayed and put up with the disrespectful treatment are realising they don’t have too. Which is why a lot of companies that don’t treat their employees with the respect they deserve are having trouble keeping and even finding staff to hire. The workers that keep them in their high paying jobs are getting sick of sacrificing themselves and their own health to keep the business and management that take them for granted in business. I for one will keep walking away from companies that don’t respect or appreciate my great work ethic. They are loosing good workers they need to keep their company going by under appropriating and devaluing them as human beings with wants and needs of their own. Some companies are a wake up to or have been all along treating their employees with common courtesy respect and genuine gratitude have a low employee turnover. They are wise enough to realise they need the workers to run a business. The happier and more valued the employees feel the more successful the business. Happy valued workers are good for the company’s success. If they can’t see ur worth shame to them.

@richradtylr4 8 ай бұрын

Jeff Bezo has a solution to that.... Robots.

@user-je6pn9pr3h 10 ай бұрын

Being excellent works for a little while until they train their flying monkey to do the same things your doing but attempting to do it better/faster than you which personally makes me extremely nervous and makes me make mistakes which makes me even more nervous, and it's starting to spiral downward.

@karinajackevica2153 9 ай бұрын

This was very helpful, appreciate it.

@LeadershipwithMike 9 ай бұрын

Glad to help!

@jehotatee8283 Ай бұрын

Thank you so much!

@MsGroovalicious Жыл бұрын

Thank you for making this video! This is happening to me RIGHT NOW!!! I'm LEAVING!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you!

@LeadershipwithMike Жыл бұрын

You’re very welcome

@tipstops5306 Ай бұрын

Iam crying and my heart is aching of what he did infront of everyone.

@coreyepperson6978 9 ай бұрын

I'm in this environment every day and it's killing me. The only thing is that I'm paid well. That's the only reason I stay. To go somewhere else I know I would take a pay cut and with 2 kids at home I can't just leave. What am I to do?

@diemdia 6 ай бұрын

In a similar situation, albeit without kids (I’m sure that’s even harder) but with other financial responsibilities. I hope you can find another job that pays well! It seems to take some patience, but keep checking up on job postings. Even if there’s nothing yet, I find it helpful to remind myself that other opportunities are out there and I won’t be stuck here forever.

@Divergence 6 ай бұрын

My last two bosses to a tea. Don't forget the dictator boss as well. One that rules with fear. I had that type in my last work place.

@william7964 10 ай бұрын

Very good advice. In my case, pity this information wasnt available in 2019. In addition to documenting the unusual behaviour from the boss, I can suggest to make sure the boss sees you documenting their behaviour.

@bikashpokharel478 23 күн бұрын

I am an international student here in the US, and after a month, my boss has turned out to be very narcissistic and is becoming more toxic every single day. He is also the CEO. I cannot leave the job because of my visa issues. I became a hostile. Life is so unfair.