drink coffee with me and chat about rest

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4 ай бұрын

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Okay back to the point of the video…
Grab your mugs and settle in (for a short 8 minutes.) In this video, it's just you, me, and a whole lot of post-stomach flu clarity about how much I struggle to give myself permission to rest. You might be like me and feel guilty about taking a break from time to time, and so I wanted to talk about why I am the way that I am in regards to resting. It only took me being sick for 5 straight days to get here. LOL.
I hope you enjoy your coffee with me. Here's to making more time for rest! ☕️
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@jenniferdevinney541 4 ай бұрын

Im a therapist and I always tell my clients if we dont process our emotions or rest our bodies will demand that time from us one way or another. Because it needs it.

@elyse_myers 4 ай бұрын

I believe it 10000%! This past week has been overwhelming proof of that for me! 😅

@lealea12368 4 ай бұрын

facts.

@dgoldilox 4 ай бұрын

Your body will take you willingly or by force and only the naive believe they will be the same after a total breakdown.

@wolfprincess027 4 ай бұрын

I had a two hour nap today. When I sat down on the couch to fold laundry my body took that time to say nope. No laundry was folded today.

@jenniferdevinney541 4 ай бұрын

I totally get it I specialize in chronic pain and illness counseling and I have chronic illness. Pacing and listening to my body is a daily ( and sometimes a very annoying) practice!

@ashby7m 4 ай бұрын

In my Buddhist tradition (plum village) there is something called lazy day. And it is to practice resting and to learn how to do nothing. It's a real challenge but also feels so good.

@nomadchica 4 ай бұрын

what a great idea! :)

@uikmnhj4me 4 ай бұрын

Judaism and Christianity have this too! It’s called the Sabbath. Jews do it on Saturday and Christians do it on Sunday. Or they’re supposed to lol. Not everyone takes it seriously in our hustle culture

@briclare 3 ай бұрын

@@uikmnhj4meas a Christian we do have resting Sundays but i always end up doing chores or just anything! i don’t think i will ever let myself fully rest!😂

@djparsleyart 4 ай бұрын

1. I'm so happy that you moved into creating some more long-form / vlog content. Your vlogs feel so human and it's so refreshing compared to a lot of other videos that I see. 2. Your chat about not wanting your sons to feel like they have to be high achievers to receive rest made me think about a time I was listening to some nostalgic country music from my childhood and Red Dirt Road (Brooks & Dunn) came on and one lyric that I've heard a thousand times hit me like a ton of bricks: "Learned that happiness on earth ain't just for high-achievers". As a fellow overachiever, I sobbed in a grocery store parking lot because that was my first realization that I didn't need to achieve something to deserve rest. Glad you're teaching it to your sons 🧡

@julievaldez21 4 ай бұрын

Elyse! Just remember that, if in a day, all you can give is 40%, you are still giving it 100% of YOUR best effort. We are all just trying our best 🥲🫶🏼 At my lowest point in depression, bathing was a milestone. So, I try to make it a point to count my blessings, and celebrate any accomplishment I make (big or small). You are doing an amazing job 💕

@barbowens8626 4 ай бұрын

❤️Thank you so much. I needed to hear this.✌️❤️

@elyse_myers 4 ай бұрын

Thank you so much! This is so kind. And so so helpful!

@PlatinumMyst 4 ай бұрын

I feel this so hard!!! I've been working on exactly this. Trying to remember to celebrate the small things. I have chronic pain and multiple health conditions, including depression. It's so easy to fall into the self guilt trap of never doing "enough" in a day. I have to make a point to remind myself that even if all I did was make one appointment (hate phone calls) and sit with my heating pad resting due to pain, I had a successful day. My family is so supportive and always tells me "self-care IS being productive".

@MysteriousMemories 4 ай бұрын

@PlatinumMyst I've come across this idea that if we would give ourself negative feedback, or "take away points" for not doing something.... then you should give yourself positive feedback or "positive points" for doing it. You can scale it too. Whats harder for you personally, deserves more recognition/praise "positive points." I've found it really helpful. Like, it helps you put perspective on stuff. "This was intimidating/hard for me, and I did it. Go me!!"

@MysteriousMemories 4 ай бұрын

And, resting counts too. Give yourself positive feedbavk or "points" for taking care of you in any and all ways too 😄🩷🩵❤️

@fldombro 4 ай бұрын

I just want to say one thing: there’s a lot of pressure right now online for creators to share their thoughts on complex topics. Exposure doesn’t equal expertise and you don’t owe an opinion or a stance on every issue afflicting the world. I cannot even begin to imagine the pressure large creators like you face daily to say the right thing on the right topic at the right time. You don’t have to earn your rest, take all the time you need.

@Meowshan69 4 ай бұрын

Unfortunately, they are slaves to the algorithm. Which is AWFUL. If they don't constantly post, even if recycled content, the alg will stop dropping content into fyp(s) and will fall further even in followers feeds. Sad but true.

@lealea12368 4 ай бұрын

I love that sentiment. You don't have to earn your rest. I am more than happy to take 10 seconds to go search for a new video from a favourite connect creator. I hope many of us feel that way and don't rely on KZfaq to do that for us. :o)

@elyse_myers 4 ай бұрын

Thanks friend! I’ve walked away from most social platforms for a while because the harassment I was receiving was hard to fathom. KZfaq has been my safe place recently and I’ve felt so comfortable here for the last few months. ❤

@fldombro 4 ай бұрын

@@elyse_myersI have two kids and they’re both the same age as yours. You’ve been in my thoughts a lot. Pregnancy is hard and postpartum is a *trip*, even as a private person with no extra pairs of eyes looking at you and analyzing your every move. You’re doing amazing prioritizing your health and sanity. I know I speak for a LOT of us when I say we’ll be there on the other apps ready to enjoy your content once you’re back. And in the meantime, to all the haters: they can go find less 😉

@linw7320 4 ай бұрын

Glad you're feeling better 😊

@shanlon3213 4 ай бұрын

I think your long form videos are giving more to people. So even though you are not actually posting daily, your message is being heard daily and i will think of it daily. Hope this makes sense. Just cause you dont see what your long form videos are doing daily doesnt mean that you havent accomplished helping someone everyday. So remember when you are resting, you still are achieving. Thats pretty amazing

@anahidkassabian4471 4 ай бұрын

Elyse, be gentle to yourself. You deserve the kindness. So many of us torture ourselves, demanding more and more and more no matter how ill and exhausted we are. I’m glad you crashed on the couch-do more of that! ❤

@elyse_myers 4 ай бұрын

I’m learning how to do more of that as I get more comfortable with myself as a person! It’s also incredibly helpful to have a partner who actively encourages me and provides me the space and time to rest! There no bigger fan of me taking a nap than Jonas, that’s for sure! 😂❤

@anahidkassabian4471 4 ай бұрын

@@elyse_myers That’s so great!!! It makes all the difference in the world! I’m rooting for you- this is not an easy journey, but it is one of the crucial ones. 💖💕✨

@asherogue5691 4 ай бұрын

@elyse_myers or tou could make a video saying genocide is bad instead of hiding behind your white woman tears

@raalbrecht 4 ай бұрын

Even delirious you’re wiser than so many people in this world. I became disabled/unable to work about 6 years ago and the process of grieving and adjusting to a life that’s “unproductive” is super rough. How others perpetuate the idea makes it even tougher. I’m just constantly wowed by your insights. You’re amazing.

@PlatinumMyst 4 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry. I wish I could give you a big, supportive hug! I am still able to work but only because it's part time and for my parents. It's hard accepting that I can't contribute more financially.

@nomadchica 4 ай бұрын

i feel this. it's hard. there's the personal aspect of it, and then also the fact that our culture places such a high priority on productivity, and ties people's worth to their ability to produce. i'm sorry that you're experiencing this, too. i hope you have some joy and peace in your days. :)

@lauren-fi8sc 4 ай бұрын

I’m in the same boat. Learning to conserve spoons while not even knowing how many you have until they’re already used up is so hard. Sending love ❤️

@livbrooks4194 4 ай бұрын

My sister also became disabled and unable to work due to TBI about 6 years ago. I’m conscious of my words about “work” and do my very best not to come with a toxic idea of productivity around her. On a good day, getting dressed and making a meal IS productive for her! Extremely! I just wondered, If you didn’t mind sharing (but no pressure) was there anything that a non-disabled friend or family member said or did that was especially helpful or kind to you? Maybe i could do similar for my sister. I love her to bits and just want to help, but i don’t want to infantilize her or take away any of the independence she has worked so hard to get back.

@brendashope1558 4 ай бұрын

Ugh, I struggle with that mindset too. Already passed it on to my kids 🤦🏻‍♀️ Thank God for therapists. Take a break, hold your babies, recover, get some sunshine, sing some songs. We all love you!

@pattinoe8372 4 ай бұрын

I was a counselor at a large high school and was in charge of the yearly testing in spring. It took weeks of planning always with last minute adjustments. Before and during testing I worked insane hours. Also, the teachers hated testing so I rarely got even a smile from them no matter how easy I tried to make it on them. Without fail the week after testing I got some sort of sickness. I was physically, mentally and emotionally exhausted. The body knows!

@forgotgingkoba 4 ай бұрын

From a teacher with hated testing next week, THANK YOU for making it easier for us. When I explain test requirements to students, I would tell them that everyone in the school hated testing but they all put a good face on it. I tell them if they don’t like testing, they need to elect different legislators. Get out the vote!😂

@Emma-co8vq 2 ай бұрын

Elyse, i didnt realise you were still posting on youtube. Im so glad to see your face again. I adore you, and everything you do! Rest up lovely.

@alisonpatton7154 4 ай бұрын

A lot of us Neurospicy people have trouble listening to our bodies screaming at us to rest. I’m learning how to “check-in” with my body throughout the day/week/whatever to remind myself to take a minute. It’s worth it. I’m worth it. ❤

@ssavaart 4 ай бұрын

Please take care of yourself, Elyse. ❤

@brandaoberg4841 4 ай бұрын

No wayy 😭 Two of my favorite youtubers ❤ You're so inspiring Scott

@LadyRobertaL 3 ай бұрын

I love your long content. Plus, you are already living your purpose and don't even know it. You're not trying to get anywhere, you are a mom and that's the most important job in the world. Your job is just to stay present with your little presents (gifts= children). You got this girl! Keep slaying the day, or resting. Both are important!!

@anidanielle 4 ай бұрын

This video really speaks to me as a fellow mom of young kids. I've been in therapy for about 6 months now to deal with many things, including my guilt about resting. Come to find out I'm a HSP, or highly sensitive person, who processes everything more deeply and can't tune out my surroundings. So rest is even more important! No wonder why I suddenly had the shortest fuse of my life and never felt like a good enough mom. Turns out self-care is more than just staying up late crocheting because that's the only quiet time I get. Love your videos, but make sure you rest too! ❤

@bonniebrown5102 4 ай бұрын

I highly suspect I am an hsp too, and also have young kids! Sucks that the I take too long with the only "alone" time I get (first thing in the morning or after everyone is asleep) so then I'm always late to work and tired.

@EmilyFPC 4 ай бұрын

I used to think I was HSP... Now I know I'm AuDHD & am very disappointed that thinking I was HSP kept me from discovering the truth for several years longer than needed - on top of a lifetime of confusion. We are the lost generation of girlies that could mask well enough that we didn't receive a diagnosis in adolescence & now that we are [trying to] carry the responsibilities of an adult/parent it's become obvious, to us at least, that there must be a reason we simply can't deal with the stressors of life like most of our peers can. Thus, we start looking for an explanation, even if it's subconscious. It makes me so sad to see reputable people, like Mayim Bialik, pushing HSP instead of Autism or other diagnosable conditions. We didn't magically go from 1/10,000 autistic individuals being diagnosed in the 70s to 1/36 being diagnosed in 2024.... We Just Misse Them & have yet to diagnose millions of individuals, predominantly women, that are still struggling silently. .....thinking they are alone, that they must be the only one who has their unusual experiences bc we've been trained to keep our problems to ourselves. These women & men could be connecting with the autistic community & finding out that their 'wierd problems' are actually super common for individuals that have the same type of nervous system as they have. I understand that it's a tough pill to swallow, however, the longer that the wildy inaccurate myths & horribly debilitating stereotypes of autism (& all nerodiversities) persist, the longer that we will feel like broken people, be separated from our communities, generally be unable to heal from the trauma of living undiagnosed thus unable to live our best lives, as well as, a plethora of other issues from not understanding what's going on with our nervous systems which includes our brains, personalities, etc. Destractions from the truth like HSP may eventually lead some to the truth, but it also keeps many, who desperately need the clarity of the light, in the dark longer than they had to be. I certainly would be considered a "woo woo" individual by most, but if we keep this in 'hypothetical land' under the name of a non-diagnosable category of people, then that means we cannot seek the actual, much needed, guidance from others who are like us. Realizing I was autistic was one of the best things for me! So scary, but so transformative. I couldn't begin that healing process until I found the actual, real world name for what I was. Pretend names do not equal an actual, real world ability to understand, accept, & appreciate one's self.

@anidanielle 4 ай бұрын

@EmilyFPC I'm so glad you got clarity and a proper diagnosis! I fit HSP to a T, especially if you consider my enneagram type 1 along with it. There are many overlapping traits, though, so I've definitely wondered about whether I was autistic previously. Thankfully my therapist helped me come to the conclusion that best fits me. I hope your experience helps others!

@imnotlikethem1 4 ай бұрын

As someone newly diagnosed with adhd I so appreciate you sharing this. This new journey I’m on means a lot of being kind to myself and reframing my self talk to remember we’re living in a world that wasn’t built for our brains. Your self awareness about being the best you can for your sons tells me you’re doing a pretty dang good job. I saw something recently that said bad parents don’t worry about being bad parents, good enough parenting is great (it’s a real parenting theory that says that failing sometimes is good for your children). You are worth so much to the world and you’re doing great. Rest is productive!

@laurenkinsley8757 4 ай бұрын

Omg the downhill vs uphill trips me up every time too ugh!

@elyse_myers 4 ай бұрын

Every single time!! 😂♥️

@ericac4842 4 ай бұрын

Being a mom is the HARDEST thing to do!!!!!! I have 3, well, 2...my oldest passed away, & my youngest is 18. I swear their younger yrs were a blur cuz of the exhaustion. I think you are so adorable & I know we just see blips of your life but it seems like you wear your heart on your sleeve. You are GOOD person with a GREAT BIG heart & your beautiful baby boys are gonna grow up & see & feel how deeply you love them, you're doing an amazing job & you're a great mom!!!!!! I take a "cry day" day every month or 2 cuz things are so crazy hectic & when I get over tired I cry over EVERYTHING but its ok!!!! After I have my little meltdown I feel so much better! Whatever, it works for me, it's been working for 27 yrs now!!! Just work it out however you can & need to so you can take a day to yourself so you can recharge your battery, mainly for yourself but also for your boys & your husband. Your doing great tho sweetie!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@standup2982 4 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry for your loss, sending love ❤️

@ericac4842 4 ай бұрын

@@standup2982 Thank you so much!🥰

@juliejones5651 4 ай бұрын

3. Every single one counts.

@user33housecats 4 ай бұрын

I am sorry for your loss

@ericac4842 4 ай бұрын

@@user33housecats Thank you.❤️

@FC-ds9ve 4 ай бұрын

Elyse, if it helps just know your fans won’t disappear if you need more time. I think most people know that creators are only human too and need breaks and to slow down because they have lives outside work.

@kathleensyoutube 4 ай бұрын

Most people are good. But the few bad apples can be very, very loud and it can be hard to tune them out. Take as much time as you need to recover emotionally and physically, Elyse and know that literally millions upon millions of strangers are out here understanding you, supporting you and cheering for you. ❤

@lealea12368 4 ай бұрын

Oh Elyse. You are always so relatable. You express yourself so clearly and with such great honesty. I often find myself saying yessssss when you verbalize an emotion or experience in a way that I never could. You make me feel seen in those moments. How on earth do you do that? You clearly have a gift. You are wise and insightful in ways that are rarely experienced. Oh how I love this longer form content. It is often one of the best parts of my KZfaq indulgence. You make me smile and relax and think to myself ok..it's not just me! While I love seeing a new video pop up, I also know how hard it is to give yourself permission to rest and let your brain rest too. You deserve that just as much as anyone does. Hugs. L.

@jenniferdrayton8392 4 ай бұрын

We're human beings, not human doings. I'm rolling my own eyes as I type this. But it's not some insufferable LIVE-LAUGH-LOVE quip embroidered on a throw pillow; it's the truth. I'm at least 25 years older than you are, Elyse, retired from a slog of a lucrative yet unfulfilling career, my life an embarrassment of riches. Yet I still struggle to break free from the tyranny of productivity. Let's start a Revolution of Rest. I know I speak from a place of enormous privilege, and I don't want to sound like an entitled douchebag. I want everyone, everywhere, to be properly rested and resourced. Wishing you and your family the best of health. Always.

@lianne1593 4 ай бұрын

I love what you make and what you say so much, and I really want to say that I was in a freak accident 9 years ago, became profoundly disabled and as a result went through a total personality transference where I went from extrovert-with-too-many-jobs to human-who-can't-leave-bed. I wish so much I'd found a way to live somewhere in between, I can't help but feel like the whole event took me over the way it did because the first 27 years of my life were spent overworking and avoiding my own company and panicking about justifying my existence through "contribution". I hope you feel better soon, and also figuring all this out is definitely a process, and there's no point being perfectionist about being well balanced when it comes to labour and rest - totally counter-intuitive! Like you say, your body will dictate what your mind can't manage, but that's not always a 'bad' thing. Good luck on your rest journey, dude!

@standup2982 4 ай бұрын

I can empathise as I became disabled four years ago and feel the same way about it as you do. Sending love from England ❤

@allyb3517 4 ай бұрын

Not me literally wearing your Rest is Productive sweatshirt as I watch a video of you talking about how rest is hard for you. I like that you created a message that helps you too. Hope you feel better soon! 💗

@elyse_myers 4 ай бұрын

Oh I love this so much. The topic of rest has always been one I’ve wrestled with my entire life, and creating that sweatshirt was really meaningful to me! I just washed mine today and it’s hang drying right now in my closet! 😂

@RonJonJovi-li6og 4 ай бұрын

Downhill is easier, but also harder to stop, so in good times, it's good to have a downhill journey, but in bad times, it's all just coming at you and it's difficult to get it to let up. Uphill is just hard to get through. It takes effort, sometimes all you have, to push through an uphill battle.

@djoyvee 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing this, Elyse. Something I learned last year is that not only is rest not a reward, it also shouldn't be used in preparation for productivity. Rest is productive. Rest is necessary on its own, regardless of what comes before or after it. ❤

@RylaDuska 4 ай бұрын

When that first shot of caffeine hit- I felt that 😊☕️ Truly appreciated the insight, Ms. Elyse. Have a great day ✌🏼Happy Spring 💐

@MossyMood 4 ай бұрын

The first sip of coffee after being sick is so comforting, like being out all day and getting changed into your pjs and resting in bed for the first time. Get well soon and take all the time you need ❤can’t wait for more crotchet videos 👀

@wordnerd543 4 ай бұрын

Next week is my last week of work and I'm taking 6 months of stress leave because I've hit my absolute limit and my mental and physical health are horrible. I got incredibly sick a few weeks ago which was a big sign, then put my back out badly on Saturday for the first time in about a year. I resonate with so much of what you said, I also don't know how to rest, but now I am being forced to. I am excited for my time off, but also super scared. But glad to be learning this now than later.

@standup2982 4 ай бұрын

Enjoy your time off and rest well ❤

@cpmouse 4 ай бұрын

Good job taking care of you. Protect that.

@Odiekins 4 ай бұрын

It’s really easy to fall into a deep hole when you take yourself completely out of the game. Just be careful with that ❤

@Teresaanne 4 ай бұрын

I'm currently on week 3 of 6 for similar reasons. It's scary but it is worth it

@roicesin4512 4 ай бұрын

FIRST I LOVE YOU ELYSE MYERS, YOURE MY SAFE SPACE

@SchmaltzyCraftsy 4 ай бұрын

You take all the time you need Elyse, we love you.

@CeceliaAzlyn 4 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for sitting down and openly diologing on how hard life can be, specifically trying to rest. Your time and effort is appreciated.

@angelw. 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for your vulnerability and for sharing about anxiety, mental health & your struggle with worthiness. It helps to know I’m not alone. I logically know that I’m not the only one, but in my day to day life it can feel that way. Keep doing what you are doing. You are a gift! Can’t wait for your book! ❤

@qryptid 4 ай бұрын

So many relatable feels as a parent who struggles with the need to **do**. We have a bug sweeping through the house and i think today was the first day in months I've actually sat and rested. Like sat down, did nothing, held my son (when he let me) and watched Out of the Box, one of my favorite childhood shows. Maybe even the first time I've laid down that long since he was born. The rest will happen, even if we dont want it to happen. Rest feels like weakness but its actually how we rebuild strength (now let me repeat that 15 million more times)

@marthamatthews7594 4 ай бұрын

I relate to this so SO much, and hearing you talk about it was the most amazing gift. Thank you so much Elyse for everything you do and for being who you are and for sharing yourself with the world. I don't think you'll ever truly know just what a HUGE difference you're making in people's lives. ❤

@MoNaBookworm 4 ай бұрын

I’m glad you’re working on your self-worth and I’m glad you recognize the need to work on it. I get that struggle 100% so I appreciate you sharing your thoughts. As always you help us not feel so alone. If I could share one thing, though that my therapist told me that has really helped me. I think it would be great for you because you’re already kind of looking at it this way with regards to the example you want to set for your sons and how you want to raise them. My therapist said that we need to be the support and the love for ourselves that we didn’t have as a child. In other words, love yourself and treat yourself the way you treat your sons and the way you wish you had been treated as a child give yourself that understanding and that grace because you do matter and you do deserve rest and peace and joy not because of anything you’ve accomplished but because life is precious. Your life and wellbeing are precious and should be cared for. ❤

@clumsymumsy2283 4 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry you and your littles were sick. You’re doing just fine mama. Your followers (extended family you just haven’t met yet) are here with you no matter what. Don’t push yourself too fast bc sometimes your body will rebound and that’s not a good thing. Rest and get well. Sending gentle hugs & prayers. ❤

@Patrick88625 4 ай бұрын

Honestly in love with this woman

@elyse_myers 4 ай бұрын

Love you!

@susan_e 4 ай бұрын

I appreciate your willingness to share your experiences and remind us all of the importance of rest! You add a lot of valued insight into not needing to earn rest and not wanting your sons to feel that pressure. Great video!! Thank you!!

@RonaleeSwanson 4 ай бұрын

You bring joy to many people. Thank you for growing in front of the camera to help others grow on the other side of the screen. It's all uphill (or down) from here!

@GraceChurchill-mj2tk 4 ай бұрын

Resting is SO hard. You are a light in the world and are raising incredible humans ❤

@emmaedwertz 4 ай бұрын

Your soul shines through so bright when you speak and I hope and wish you can feel the love the people here have for you and the things you share. Take your time and the rest you need. We understand and we want you to be good ❤

@edeleencotton6854 4 ай бұрын

I too have gotten sick with strep throat and high fevers if I'm not resting. Finally by the age of 42, I know when I need to rest and do not feel guilty for not doing all the stuff I told myself I needed to do. I'm so much more at peace and I find that I am so much more productive too. Wishing you the best!!

@NurseNMama 4 ай бұрын

So happy to see your beautiful face! Hope you’re feeling better and your baby is recovering smoothly! Virtual hug from one mama to another ❤️!

@Allie_4_animals 4 ай бұрын

I’m struggling today and just listening to these videos really help my brain focus on something but without needing high focus which is stressful

@nomadchica 4 ай бұрын

this is so relatable. and your self-awareness and ability to articulate what you're experiencing and working thru right now is truly remarkable. we're trained to believe that our worth is tied to our productivity, and that we have to work first in order to "deserve" rest or self-care. and it's just not true. how wonderful that you're aware of this, and are so intentional in how you're raising your sons. a healer once suggested the following statement to me: "my worth is with me." i don't know if that will resonate with anyone else, but it really helps me. :)

@lisarogerson4784 4 ай бұрын

You are an inspirations. You are saying a lot of what I wished I could say when I was a new mom. Talking about it and putting it out there is helping so many people feel valid. I appreciate you sharing and I look forward to hearing from you in any way shape or form. Keep it up you're doing great :)

@laurenjohnston6308 4 ай бұрын

2 things that helped me through tough times of being a mom You can’t pour from an empty cup & bad moms never question whether or not they are a bad mom.

@CynthiaCloskey 4 ай бұрын

This was so insightful. Your reflection for yourself made me look hard at why I can never seem to take vacations or detach from work meaningfully. And it’s timely because I had scheduled time “off.” Thank you, and I’m cheering for your speedy recovery from illness and ongoing recovery from the treadmill of having to produce to feel worthy. ❤

@ko1491 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for so vulnerably sharing your authentic self. Please rest and take care. You always have been and will be worth it. I feel so seen by you. ❤

@Michelledawn. 4 ай бұрын

I'm here to say I'm proud of you and I'm part of the large group of viewers who appreciate your vulnerability and authentic content. You don't owe us anything. Listen to your body. You can't pour from an empty cup. We'll be here when or if you decide to make content again. On any platform. Thank you for sharing yourself with us

@amjhahn91 4 ай бұрын

Last year, our fourth child, who was 3 months old, was in the hospital for one week with RSV. I too was recovering from having RSV. And I just rested in the hospital room for the entire week with our baby. I felt like I hadn't rested like that.. since before having kids or maybe ever. The nurses were taking care of her, with my minimal effort. And for the first time I didn't have to clean my house or take care of the other kids or my spouse or drive anywhere, or cook a meal. It was a wild experience. I am also awful at resting and am working on it.

@katedfried 3 ай бұрын

I’ll remember it for you ❤ Currently pregnant with #4 & needing to rest most of the day feels like a waste of time. You remind me that rest is valid & necessary.

@Sherbear60 4 ай бұрын

I hope you're feeling much better! That stomach flu is crazy bad!! And it's normal to feel guilty about allowing yourself to be sick when you're a mom/wife. We aren't wired for that! My kids are grown and I still feel guilty! Lol. But, as an old momma to a young momma,,,you will realize in your head later in your life that it was ok to rest, because your kids will see that. My daughter climbed on the with me at 2 when I was sick and said she was my nurse,,,sat and held my hand, brushed my hair, put her little hand on my forehead,,,it's the sweetest memory!❤ Take care of you so you can take care of them. We love you Elyse!!!

@elyse_myers 4 ай бұрын

Dude taking care of kids when you have the stomach flu (or any kind of sickness) is SO ROUGH. It’s like you could have your head in a toilet and you still have to get through bedtime with a toddler 😂😂 we’re on the mend finally!!

@carolehirsch7315 4 ай бұрын

@@elyse_myersI have a friend with six children and a dead-beat ex husband. She said being a single parent was having a six year old ask “when are we having dinner?” And having to answer “as soon as mommy stops throwing up honey.” With her head literally in a toilet.

@meganreece7 4 ай бұрын

Great timing... I'm drinking coffee right now!

@elyse_myers 4 ай бұрын

Yasssss!

@meganreece7 4 ай бұрын

@@elyse_myers Hope you are still feeling better!

@saga2964 4 ай бұрын

You are so genuine and a real relief in this world of artifice. Feel better soon and know you're appreciated! ❤

@alyssahansen2229 4 ай бұрын

I've been noticing that in myself as well lately, difficulty taking rest... feeling like it needs to be earned. I enjoyed listening to your perspective of it too, helps me process some of my own stuff

@breitfart5285 4 ай бұрын

I’ve been so emotional the last couple times I had a bad stomach flu. And omg it so challenging to relate to and praise small children in a way that teaches them they are worthy no matter what and that they don’t need to do things in order to be *impressive* …it’s so baked into our language and psyche 😞

@madisonstauffer2475 4 ай бұрын

It's hard to adequately say just how much I appreciate all forms of your content. thank you for being so real, we can see how much work you put into it!!❤

@klaythoring1326 4 ай бұрын

As I decide to rest this morning instead of punishing myself with only doing things I don’t want to do, I see your lovely face in a thumbnail! Hope you keep feeling better 💛

@Shelbyfunk26 4 ай бұрын

Rest up, girl! So glad we still get to see your face here ❤

@skconyers84 4 ай бұрын

Literally came across my phone as I needed to hear this Newly pregnant (ie puke city) with my 2nd child and recovering from stomach flu I felt so unworthy and I just took the deep breath I needed Your humanity always hits just right

@NongNueyandNon 4 ай бұрын

Oh Elyse I’ve been thinking of you so much. ❤ wishing you well and know you have support from so many of us!

@rueriddle 4 ай бұрын

The not resting well part of this was so well said. I felt related to this so deeply. Now that I am 60 and deal with the chronic illnesses more extremely in my aging body, I'm FORCED to rest. My mental health has plummeted because of this . I struggle with the concept of PRODUCTIVITY being the be all and end all of your worth. It's so hard!

@tess5564 4 ай бұрын

I really needed this. I am in my first trimester with my 4th baby and struggling with the amount of rest I am needing. I struggle so much to rest and to not have the narrative that I’m lazy for it and I’ve been reading to get more okay with it and this was so relatable and helpful.

@va1_3rie35 4 ай бұрын

"Why did I say any of this?" I cannot tell you how grateful I am you did. this is something I've been struggling with for a long time and you put it into words so well that it feels like you're talking about me. Thank you for sharing the words I needed to hear to help me understand me a little better. The long haul for work and dopamine was a lightbulb moment. I used to do something that was much more of a quick return and now every project I have is endless and I'm not sure if I will ever see the end/return. Does not mean it's not worth it, but it reminded me why it's not as easy as it used to be.

@vlong7112 4 ай бұрын

Rest is so hard!! I have pneumonia and a fractured rib at the moment and it's been ridiculously hard to just let things be undone while I rest. My folks came over today and swept, vacuumed, fed me, and did my laundry. It's hard to rest and accept help.. so much easier to work and do versus be. Hope you take the time you need, guilt free 🫰🏽💜

@MaggieRosethe6ix 4 ай бұрын

This is a turning point that not all people get to experience. Asking yourself if you want your children to learn or behave the same way you are is pivotal in their development. Because children learn mainly by observing and mimicking others around them!!

@erinmlaswell 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for saying the feeling of success and achievement in finishing a task is a self-worth issue. I hadn’t thought about it in those terms and I really needed to hear that. ❤ you’re amazing. Keep doing what you’re doing + taking rest. 😌

@lolabear6788 4 ай бұрын

Hahaha the uphill downhill mixed metaphor! Hahahaha perhaps switch to nautical sayings? Lol Rough seas? Smooth sailing?

@LadyRobertaL 3 ай бұрын

Omg girl, I can soooo relate with being terrible at resting. But good news is you CAN get better at it. See resting as a to do item that comes up often on your list, like taking a stop with the pit crew at a race! Even race cars rest girl!! You can even do a meditation while you lay there like thinking of a tiny pit crew of angels who are busy filling you with light (like tiny oil cans of light, like ones that fixed the tin man in Wizard of Oz.) I hope this makes sense and doesn't cause strokes when reading.

@TheLynnz10 4 ай бұрын

I’m learning this too. I find it difficult event when sick to rest because I’m still internalizing it must be justified. “Am I really that sick or just lazy?” “I couldn’t go to work but that doesn’t mean we cannot clean.” I didn’t know how bad this was until I started almost celebrating how deathly or gross I looked when sick. Some part of me saw it as a badge I could wear so others knew “oh wow. You are really sick! You should rest up!” My best advice. Treat your body with respect in all things. Take notice of your mental and physical needs all the time.

@conniefogle5594 3 ай бұрын

Elyse, I hope you're getting the rest you need. I just wanted to say that I'm so grateful to have discovered you. You went from being someone who told entertaining stories to someone who modeled honesty, vulnerability, and bravery in the face of things that I and many others also struggle with. Through you, I have found strength in myself that I never knew was there. Thank you for being a very important part of my healing journey 💜

@LivingWithChronicPain2 4 ай бұрын

Elyse, you just described my life except instead of the flu, pain keeps me in bed for days, months, years. Love your content. Great video 👏

@xk1mb3rly 4 ай бұрын

Elyse, I wanted to let you know that you've brought me so much joy with your crocheting tutorial for the flower granny squares, I've always wanted to learn how to make them and your video was so easy to follow and so far I've made ten! I'm hoping to make an afghan, and it's the one thing I have to look forward to even on days where my mental health is the worst. THANK YOU so much for sharing your own joy with us, it has created joy in return. :)

@debbiesmith8 Ай бұрын

You have been shining in your life Before we All got to see just how bright you do shine! ✌️

@melissahill8363 4 ай бұрын

Elyse, you are such a beautiful human and I have gained so much from your channel having been through the Hillsong nonsense and now struggling with my faith because of it and sharing the love for crochet in order to get me through so many difficult times along with the journey of being a mom. You have always been such an encouragement to me and I I am beyond grateful for what you have meant to me and my own personal journey. I am so sad with the way people have been treating you and I am going to miss you on TikTok and Insta so much, but I also completely understand and respect your choice. I simply wanted to send you some encouragement in the sea of discouragement that you have been receiving and certainly DO NOT deserve. You truly are an amazing mom and wife and you have been through something no mom should ever have to experience and you have handled it with more grace than many would have had. Thank you for sharing your life and giving the rest of us permission to rest and care for ourselves. I’m so glad you are on KZfaq and I subscribed immediately when I found out. Thank you for everything

@Maria-fr6tb 4 ай бұрын

i really love these longer-form youtube videos! please take some rest for yourself you deserve it every bit as much as your children do ❤

@sarahrobinson1430 4 ай бұрын

This is such an important lesson that so many people need to hear! So glad you are trying to learn the hard lesson in rest!

@aksez2u 4 ай бұрын

Being a creator takes a toll. People think it's an easy job, but there are so many things about it that are difficult. Love and best wishes! ❤

@curiousmind2457 4 ай бұрын

I really enjoy your longer format videos. This one hit close to home as rest is something I had to learn after burning out before I turned 30. Good luck on your journey!

@LoriHodgson-do6kl 3 ай бұрын

I needed this Elyse, so much... I do not know how to give myself permission to rest. The bar it set really high for what I need to accomplish before rest is deserving and guilt free. You gave me a revelation.

@msellenandrea 4 ай бұрын

I just lay down in bed to rest! Rest is so important and I believe in you 🩷

@adellaaverill5670 4 ай бұрын

So happy to see you, Elise! ❤

@felisa957 4 ай бұрын

The crown has also weirdly become my new comfort show. Despite all the drama I think it has a very subdued tone that I find calming. I hope you take all the rest you need & that you and your family are doing well 🍀💜

@sarahrayvaughan4277 4 ай бұрын

A joy to hear these insights elyse

@Life_of_Esther 4 ай бұрын

I truly treasure your content and look forward to seeing notifications that you put out a new video. Please take all the time you need. We will be here when you are ready. You are so appreciated. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

@shastabade2211 4 ай бұрын

I make to do lists and feel accomplished when I check things off… and sometimes add things I’ve already done but wasn’t on the list originally. Small picture vs Big picture. Take your time resting. You are worth it! 😘

@clogger024 2 ай бұрын

I so identify with this. I am a mom and a teacher and I put so much pressure on myself to be all in with both my work and home life. Thank you for the reminder that I need to rest myself too. Also I am loving your new vlog long form content ❤

@susank2586 4 ай бұрын

your family has been through a lot recently, I agree your body forced that break. I also have the same mindset of I can't rest unless I know I have completed my work. as you will constantly be planning on what still needs done tomorrow and your mind and body don't switch off to rest.

@MichelleMonstera 4 ай бұрын

Perfect timing. I was in the middle of having a panic attack because I haven't felt productive for a very long time. I needed to hear this. Thank you. I order you to get more rest :)

@Odiekins 4 ай бұрын

That happened to me yesterday! ❤

@MichelleMonstera 4 ай бұрын

@@Odiekins it's awful isn't it! Take care of yourself. Do one nice thing for yourself today ♥️

@Odiekins 4 ай бұрын

@@MichelleMonstera It is! I was sitting at my desk, didn’t have much to do at work, the less I have to do, the less I feel motivated once I have something, and it just felt so reflective of my state of mind lately. I feel behind on housework, I feel like I struggle jump into society, and so I totally get it! Please do something nice for yourself as well, Sweetie 🩶

@MichelleMonstera 4 ай бұрын

@@Odiekins ♥️♥️♥️ gosh I relate to that so much. Take care! ♥️♥️

@sambradley3179 4 ай бұрын

We’re glad to have you here, Elyse!!

@angelaprado5678 4 ай бұрын

I am so grateful you share yourself with the world. It means more than you may know!! I am even more grateful you rested, even if you had no choice. It's great to see you here more and I hope you are getting the energy coming back to you that you deserve and not the silliness and hurtful sentiments from people who live in darkness. Hope your family is good.

@Smiley-faced 4 ай бұрын

Doesn’t it feel like they share other peoples stories some time instead of theirs?

@hmmcms1 4 ай бұрын

It’s so nice to see your face and hear hear your thoughts 🥰🫶

@kaitlynvandermeulen 4 ай бұрын

First, thank you for being 100% authentic! I adore how real you are! Second, I am so sorry you've been sick, but also shout out to your body for forcing a shutdown and reset. Third, on top of everything else you've been dealing with, the keyboard warriors have caused so much hurt to you! I'm so sorry you've been treated this way, and I'm so thankful to still see you on this platform! You are loved so much by so many! Thank you for some real life content!! ❤️❤️

@dianafreeman419 4 ай бұрын

Thank you, I have a really hard time sitting down and resting without being productive first. Thankfully I usually get up before anyone else and I don't want to wake anyone up so that's when I sit with my coffee and do quiet things 🥰🥰

@winonat7949 4 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing yourself on KZfaq! Take all the rest you need! ❤

@elyse_myers 4 ай бұрын

Thanks friend!! I’m enjoying being here. I love it here so much ♥️♥️

@vettatertiary530 4 ай бұрын

I absolutely love your videos. You are a person I look forward to hearing from and I hope you keep it up. Selfishly. I also hope you feel better and have a lovely day!❤

@ellenmontague8425 4 ай бұрын

Send all the love and good vibes your way. It seems like these videos help you process things and I love that for you! Also seeing relatable content is pretty refreshing in the world of filters (in so many ways).

@peachy_314 4 ай бұрын

Take your time and get well physically AND mentally. You are amazing and loved! ❤

@NatJ4reform 4 ай бұрын

Geez Elyse, you’ve had a lot going on with your baby having surgery, so not just physical stress but emotional too! Be kind to yourself, allow yourself to rest and recuperate, the world isn’t going anywhere that you’re going to miss out on stuff, tomorrow will come quick enough!