Story 1: AITA for refusing to babysit my father's kids? Story 2: 3:55 AITA for proving my mom was being a hypocrite? Story 3: 7:12 AITA For refusing to let my stepdaughter use my daughter's wedding dress? Story 4: 11:38 AITA for telling my parents to back off and stop trying to get the cousins to meet?

2nd story: I'm sorry. Why should a sixteen year old deal with her own mother calling her a slut? That is child abuse. Go to father and state facts. He needs to address the mother's blatant abuse. "Keeping the peace" is only enabling abusive behavior. If that doesn't work, reach out to a guidance counselor. Enough!!

Dude, that commenter telling the husband he should be lucky he gets to see his daughter get married hit me really hard Only assholes who are used to just using people would ask something that big, and then have the audacity to get mad when she says no

The 2nd story: her mom is in competition and jealous of the more curvy sister

Story #1: NTA. He doesn't even have her phone number, but the first thing he asks for in 3 years is a favor? OP's dad tried to replace her dead mom and got mad when OP wasn't with it after he went through a half dozen or more women. This wasn't about OP, it's about him and his convenience. Stoey #2: NTA. It's pathetic thst a grown woman is clearly jealous of her teenage daughter's body, because that's what this is. She ran off in a huff was because she knew she had no leg to stand on once OP called her out. Apologizing to "keep the peace" is the same as placating a bully, and that's exactly what the mom is. Story #4: NTA. OP's sister clearly has a grudge over something considering that she specifically avoids even interacting with OP. The reasons "why" don't matter. If someone tells you that they don't want to associate with you, drop it and leave it alone. The grandparents need to stay out of this because it isn't their business.

The wedding dress story...step daughter is selfish and immature and the husband is just as bad!

Last story. Parents screwed up in their parenting if the two girls are so far apart. I get sibling rivalry but this seems extreme to say the least, not at the wedding, never seen the boys, not interacting with family if one sister is there WEIRD! Still NTA you can't push the children into a relationship that is this fractured the parents need to drop this.

Story 4: There has to be more to this story than we're getting. Ik sometimes siblings don't get along but the sister is taking things to the extreme for what appears to be no specific reason

With the third-story you need to reevaluate your marriage with your husband and your stepdaughter. Because quite frankly if he's not going to stand up for you to his own daughter about something that's so sentimental then you may need to start applying for an annulment or a divorce plain and simple. You need to put that dress somewhere where neither one of them knows where it is and quite frankly this seems like a man who will please his daughter and do what's in the best interest of his wife

It does seem that something bigger may be going on with the last story, where OP’s sister has said that she doesn’t want anything to do with OP and that the cousins will never meet each other. But that is not necessarily OP’s fault. It seems like deep seeded resentment and there is nothing OP can do to resolve the situation. If she reaches out to her sister to warn about what they are doing, she will be the one blamed even though she is just giving her a heads up. If she does what her parents want, she will be the one blamed, despite her parents starting, planning and carrying this out. The best she can do is keep her head down, don’t do or say anything and ignore her parents. I think a big part of why they are still pestering her about this is that she is justifying herself and engaging with them. Go grey-rock on them. When they don’t get what they are looking for (not just getting their own way, but also engagement with OP,) they will turn their efforts on OP’s sister and maybe she will start seeing this for what it probably was while OP and her were growing up; their negative influence that caused her to have resentment for OP, despite OP having no part in it (at least I suspect that was the case, while OP was still a child. Children often have to walk a fine tightrope between obeying their parents and not angering their siblings.)

The mom in the story with the 2 daughters is jealous of the 16 year old.

"Blood be damned for all I care so cry me a river then build a bridge and get over it".

S3: No is a simple and complete sentence. Had I been the step sister, I would have asked if I could have a piece of it, like, a piece of lace or a decoration, to sew into my dress.

The first story.... some people just can’t function without a partner. Sounds like he was Frantic in his search and was only seeing the end goal. Settling on the first woman who said yes, and leaving you behind. He should try to work on relationship but seems to lack the skills

Sepsis can come on suddenly, and it’s hard to discover in time, as the infection can spread very quickly. I had a family friend who died of sepsis a few years ago.

Story 4 this is the same relationship i have with my sister. Im the oldest and she got all the attention and I was turned into a servant and if she got in trouble i got blamed and took rhe beating. I left when it was 18 and she was 15 and im pushing 40 now and cant even tell you if shes still alive or not. Just dont care she means nothing to me. I talk to my mom about once a year and thats if I remember.

That last story was sad as well

1st story: NTA. He is the definition of a narcissistic trash, no, block him again. The grandparents needs to understand, blood is not always thicker than water. 2nd story: NTA. It's not hypocrite, it's either jealousy or favoritism. Anyway, still, she is being abusive to OP's sister, do NOT apologize, it will only enable her. I am glad OP and sis have a close relationship. Dad sounds like a doormat tho. 3rd story: NTA. It is OP's daughter dress, even if Lauren was also OP's kid, it would be kinda frick up to ask "can I take my dead sister's dress?". Tell husband "how would you feel if your kid died and her cousin ask to take a personal token that reminds you of her". 4th story: NTA. OP'sparents are extremely wrong, and going behind her back is fricked up and a betrayal. The cousin cna meet when they are older. OP and sis seem to at least be civil

Story 3 - Husband refuses to see OP's POV because he is dumb and wants to take the easy way out. He's all about treating the symptoms. He hasn't the ability or motivation to delve further to understand. He wants OP to fold so they can all be happy families even if that might just be temporary and not deal with more difficult dynamics. It's the same thing underpinning doormat father in story 2 where he tells them to apologize to keep the peace. What peace? He doesn't want to deal with the fallout and doesn't want his peace disrupted. Story 4 - Siblings might want to unite on this since they are both on the same page with this. Those grandparents mean well and I understand that but they are dumb as hell. They risk losing access to both sets of grandchildren.

Story #3 OP’s stepdaughter and husband are truly unreasonable trying to push her in letting the stepdaughter wear her dead daughter’s dress.. especially since she’s wanting to alter it to change it .. I’d tell husband knock it off and respect her decision or they’re done!

story 1: what an AH (the father) is, so selfish, he lived on and didn't care for his daughter, now suddenly she must care for him and what he wants? story 2: is there such thing, a mother be jealous that her daughter is better "endowed" than her? story 3: the husband and step daughter look like carrion birds. story 4: OP and her sister should try to build bridges before anything else, this is their choice though and their parents have no word in it.

1. OP is 20. How old are the half siblings? What kind of personal relationship is she supposed to have with them? 2. Never apologize to keep the peace. It only encourages bad behavior. 3. Jeez. "Give me your beloved personal property so I can completely change it.Why don't you love me, who met as an adult and you barely know, as much as you loved your actual daughter who recently died at 26?

I think with the second story you got give your mother time and let her come to terms with that she may be going through our own insecurities not to mention she may actually have a problem with curvy women herself. In addition your dad is basically saying apologize to keep the peace because he doesn't want to deal with the drama of his two daughters going to war with his wife over something that may be trivial within the women so he's not trying to deal with it.

On the hypocrit story, usually we hear this story from the one being discriminated against. Good for standing up for your sister. The final story sounds like little sis was the golden child... with big sis getting emotionally abused outside of little sis' views

Tell him Daycare costs $700 to $1500 per child/per month on the open market, Your price for daycar is $2500 per child/per month cash up front !!NON NEGOTIABLE!! He'll go back to No Contact. He's a Freeloader and a loser, you don't need him in your life.

Story #4: Tell your parents, that as a parent yourself YOU will be the one to decide what is best for your children, and you will respect what your sister thinks is best for hers, then tell them you WILL be contacting your sister over their continued pressure. Contact your sister, a letter would be best. TELL her what your parents proposed to you. Tell her you understand your relationship with her was never close, and you don't hold it against her, and ASSURE her you WILL be respecting the boundries that SHE has set for HER children. Express that you still hold out hope for a more cordial relationship with her in the future, and let her know, that when it comes her children or yours, you WILL present a united front with her. Maybe, JUST maybe, that show of respect will soften her towards you down the road, but the only thing that is important NOW is to make your parents RESPECT both of you as parents and not interfere.

Pleasing the tyrant mother...... My wife's dad was a milk toast. He let the youngest daughter get away with EVERYTHING ! When someone complained he would say...🎶" lets all get along" 🎶. Which meant..." Let your sister have her way ! Otherwise I will hear about it ! " she is now in her 50's and tryed to tear out our gas line to put a garden in our yard, we didn't want a garden. We have to keep the yard gates locked all the time now !

Story 1. How many BAD parents are out there? In this case the Dad and the Grand-parents are in this category. NTA he does not deserve anything from you and asking for babysitting services and not reconciliation is another indication of his character. Which I cannot describe here without getting blocked.

The Last Story I get the feeling that there's more to this than what the original poster is telling us. I do get the feeling that the grandparents want to have this family gathering of their children and grandchildren sitting together and playing together but the fact that her sister and her can't get along it's hurting the grandparents and their whole lives are pretty much they're not going to be at peace at all or making memories with all their grandchildren and siblings together. I get the sense that from the time the original poster was born the Sinister pretty much couldn't stand the fact that she wasn't center of attention anymore. My advice maybe when your parents have your side and they have your sister's kids let them be together and spend time with the grandkids but if both of you say no to that and they make cut you both out of your lives because they don't want to deal with your sibling rivalry if you're going to deprive them of their grandchildren because of the BS U both got with each other.

You have to be kidding. This first woman is actually wondering if she’s the asshole? A virtual stranger wants her to babysit strangers for free. Mom is a freaking hypocrite! Do not apologize to keep the peace with an asshole. NTA

Last story reads as if OP slept with her sister’s bf/husband and had her kids which is why the sister wants nothing to do with her or her kids. I may very well be reading too far into this but it’s certainly and unfortunately a possibility.

Title story: NTA. Sperm-donor only wanted free babysitting from OP. She should give him exactly what he gave her: nothing. Story2: Massive NTA, and well played OP! She should absolutely not "apologize to keep the peace." Mom sucks, and so does dad for not growing a pair and putting a stop to this nonsense. WTF is wrong with mom, that she wants to shame her own kid???

Apologize for wearing the same outfit. Nothing else. And both of you say it to mom at the same time.

What’s with people always saying your related by blood or so n so. Are we vampires or gang members? no so blood doesn’t matter at all. It’s all about respect and loyalty! Story 1 nta

Never understanding why is there a discussion after being told NO. DIVORCE, this is one of more when she doesn't get her way

Story 2. Please describe the body shape/size of your Mom and how she dresses. She is wrong for treating both of you differently when you are so close in age. Clothes do not maketh the man is a twist on an old saying. Everyone can wear what they feel comfortable in and no one has a right to judge or react inappropriately towards them for what they are wearing. When the Mini Skirt came out society was scandalised but it is the norm now! NTA.

Whats the pay?

I wanna see this sister when she's 18 then, damm shame her account was suspended. Rail that bish then send pics to her jealous mom lol

7!

Tell him your rates are 10.00 an hour

Sometimes blood relatives are highly overrated.🙄

The 3rd story is really strange, the mother has built a shrine and entombed the wedding dress. She clearly isn't dealing with everything in a healthy way. Also her comment that she isn't that close to her step daughter is really telling. Even so, why not let her wear it? Wasn't she her sister too? Can't she Honor her memory in this way? We just heard her site of the story. But the other family members are grieving too. The father is right her Handling the situation isn't right. Also it's not even her dress, isn't her father also entitled to it. Sorry it all screams "get therapy now" her coping is really not healthy.

Yes, women with physical attributes need to adjust their outfits accordingly. Imagine thinking the world will react to the two young women the same

The mum is jealous of the sister and that's why she bullies her.