SUFFERING FROM INTROJECTION & PROJECTION?

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Dr. Rhoberta Shaler - Help for Toxic Relationships

2 жыл бұрын

You may not know these terms but you know the undercutting feeling one produces, and the scramble the other does! Very important to recognize them and say no! Listen in.
Hijackals--people with narcissistic, borderline, passive-aggressive, anti-social traits--play to win. Only to win. They cannot and will not tolerate blame or shame to touch them and they work hard at being two or three steps ahead of either of those at all times. This episode sheds light on two sad, and important, ways that they try to make you take responsibility for their deficits. As I said, sad!
HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:
🔹What projection is, and its purpose
🔹What introjection is
🔹How introjection can be used positively AND negatively to shape you without your awareness
🔹How Hijackals use projection to protect themselves
🔹How you might use introjection to misguidedly try to get a Hijackal to like you and treat you well (p.s. That won't happen.)
You may be familiar with projection. That's when the Hijackal projects their feelings or characteristics onto you, usually things they are afraid are true about themselves. Much more on that to hear.
You may not be familiar with introjection. That's when you unconsciously internalize and incorporate the characteristics, ideas and attitudes of other people into your own thoughts and behaviors, usually to reduce your anxiety or fear of loss.
Now, you can imagine what havoc these two things can create within you...but, only if you don't realize what's going on. This episode will help you clearly understand what these terms mean and how they play out. (p.s. NOT WELL!) It's important to know these distinctions so you'll be able to take charge when you see them!
* * Remember, narcissists and other toxic people come in all genders and ages * *
and toxic relationships can be at home, at work, at play... with your parent, boss, spouse, sibling, friend, co-worker.
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@KaylaGomez-StarstuffLady 2 жыл бұрын

“Income taxes are your fault!” A hijackal in my life said this indirectly when I asked for an apology for his hostile and abusive behavior. He argued, “You just don’t understand, I am under so much stress! I have to do my income taxes soon!” 😂

@1RPJacob 9 ай бұрын

- You are rude, I won't talk to you anymore. - You don't understand, it's you who is rude, so I won't talk to you anymore. (Projection)

@michellelippincott6097 Жыл бұрын

Wow the comment you said to your mother I said to my father! And I was very young also! HOW did we feel this and express it at such a very young age 🤔. And gave the courage to blurt it out!

@alisadunn5443 2 жыл бұрын

That's interesting you call it introjection. What I've learned is that it's possible for the abused person to project positive qualities to the abuser, which this actually sounds like introjection. Any way, I appreciate how you explain things! Thank you!

@ForRelationshipHelp 2 жыл бұрын

You're welcome.

@bodymindsoul60 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your precise and concise videos! I just love you you get right to the point. I found until I did my own shadow work I projected/introjected as well most of my life. I believe it’s in our DNA/ancestral… After ten years still un brainwashing myself and always come back to you when I need a refresher❣️

@autumnjmo Жыл бұрын

Dr. Shaler, I definitely just got out of a severely abusive relationship that I suspect would have easily become physical violence. That said, my brain is on the familiar loop where he checks "every box of an abuser except..." He would project constantly, but oddly...I don't think he ever lied. He'd say his main pillar was honesty and would use that excuse to say the meanest things he would think to say "because they were truth." He had no real reason to lie, because he got joy out of being on top and not having to lie. That said, can a person project constantly and not be guilty of what they are saying? He was so about loyalty, but would accuse me of cheating often. I still would never believe he cheated on me. That just wouldn't make sense. Still...the projection was there. Can it stem from other things?

@PaigeSquared 9 ай бұрын

For this one, it really seems like he was designed by God to test me. Every part. Very grandiose and egotistical of me, 😂 but the frustration, the pieces I don't want to let go....it's like someone knew.

@ekaterinasokolova3682 2 жыл бұрын

Dear Dr. Shaler, thank you so much. As usual, extremely interesting! I would say the most common scheme is -- Give me an advice. -- you give advice. -- or, it is you. It is your falt. And your awful advice. And you, awful! .... Smth like this

@ALLfemalesLiecheatnsteal 2 жыл бұрын

I’m old man now, I’ve really noticed how their family background plays a huge part in their development that we’re not alllowed to talk about today cause of politically correct BS on stereotypes. I’ll say it anyways, adopted, raised by single mother, all same gender siblings or only child, also the father who is into football etc. but these types have always lied or stolen money from me. Past, majority of people were better from less divorce etc, today, everyone is entitled, 60% divorce rate etc, majority of people have become scumbags thanks to football and the khardasians as well