Self Love with Sweet Anita | Dr. K Interviews

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Dr. K talks with @Sweet Anita ( / sweet_anita ) about self-love
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00:00 Introductions
6:31 Growing up
19:20 What did the parents model for you?
29:20 Indian gender norm culture, being helped by people
43:00 "What do you think about your mom" - forgiveness
1:01:20 Judgement for self-love
1:05:50 Therapist bias
1:11:30 Having kids, adoption, options
1:22:34 SL syndrome, love, the transience of life
1:30:30 Twitch teaching you how to love yourself
1:35:15 Meditation
1:48:52 Closing thoughts, Coaching program, watch Dr. K raid someone
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@HealthyGamerGG
@HealthyGamerGG 3 жыл бұрын
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@starmist1724
@starmist1724 3 жыл бұрын
You are a true hero for trying something new that is outside of the norm to better our society.
@TotallySquirrel
@TotallySquirrel 3 жыл бұрын
This video was very informative and helpful, thank you...
@harleybeta
@harleybeta 3 жыл бұрын
Is anyone looking into reaching flow as a aid to ticks?
@nicktwolf
@nicktwolf 3 жыл бұрын
I read your webpages information and I don't understand how 2 weeks of learning from you and 8 weeks of group and personal coaching time makes them able to help people who need it. And how can they be certified to help people? They sound more like life coaches and even they aren't really trained to help people. So please explain to me, how any of them can really help people without real training.
@DarthMaul2
@DarthMaul2 2 жыл бұрын
i may got this wrong but i thought your professtion would of know about tics and tourette syndrome
@nokronis
@nokronis 3 жыл бұрын
I'm waiting for the day when he says, "Can I think for a second?", and the person says, "I'd prefer if you didn't".
@surfy4860
@surfy4860 3 жыл бұрын
lol
@chachapasta6060
@chachapasta6060 3 жыл бұрын
LMAOOO
@KreeTerry
@KreeTerry 3 жыл бұрын
My new life goal is to get on with Dr. K and pull this on him and see what he says 😂
@yammolcho8127
@yammolcho8127 2 жыл бұрын
someone said that like Muta [SomeOrdinaryGamers if someone doesn't know] said that when Dr k asked
@bdmenne
@bdmenne 2 жыл бұрын
"Uh, that is my trigger question, SOOOOooooo, This session is OVER!"
@suh3271
@suh3271 4 жыл бұрын
why did i pause the video when he said 'can i think for a sec' and when he didn't start talking again i was like damn why he thinking so long
@dk_creates
@dk_creates 4 жыл бұрын
You high as fuck bruh 😂
@toushiri9476
@toushiri9476 4 жыл бұрын
That’s funny
@joeysung311
@joeysung311 4 жыл бұрын
Lmao
@tankfire20
@tankfire20 4 жыл бұрын
You silly dude, much love bro 😂
@UchihaxStudios
@UchihaxStudios 4 жыл бұрын
Rofl Thanks for cracking me up
@jimsommers3279
@jimsommers3279 3 жыл бұрын
The story of being beat unconscious at 13 for having a disability made me tear up. Sad that things like that happen to kindest of people.
@AdityaPrasad007
@AdityaPrasad007 3 жыл бұрын
I think bullying makes you kinder. You know what it feels like to hurt, so you tend to be sensitive to other people's pain.
@Raffney
@Raffney 3 жыл бұрын
@@AdityaPrasad007 Or you go nuts yourself. Don't know how much is decision and how much it isn't.
@AdityaPrasad007
@AdityaPrasad007 3 жыл бұрын
@@Raffney Yeah I see people who haze tend to have been hazed badly. Some people pass on the pain since they try to find meaning in the pain they had to bear. They believe it is a twisted kind of relationship.
@shinobi_endure
@shinobi_endure 2 жыл бұрын
@@AdityaPrasad007 Yeah I agree. I do belive most people just try to pass on the pain to others. But there are a select, kind few who become even kinder with pain. And the rare one who becomes MCU's Thanos. :P
@KytexEdits
@KytexEdits 2 жыл бұрын
@@AdityaPrasad007 For me it's done both. Right around the 6 year when I was the most bullied I straight up turned violent at times, like the one time I took my airsoft gun when I had somebody over at my parents house and shot them 50 or so times. They were an adult but still. I also punched a few people. There were only a total of 5 such occurences in my childhood though, and I calmed down to a decent degree after the bullying slowe down. I still have a lot of irritation issues, and sometimes anger. It never results in violence or verbal abuse but I'm still a very angry/irritated person on the inside as a result of the bullying. I was basically taught as a child to not show any emotion and all my sadness and crying started turning into anger and hatred instead. I'd say that now I'm the type of person who hasn't/won't hurt people, but would still hurt "bad" people without much consideration. For example if someone tries to bully me in an adult workplace it will most likely end badly for one of us and that's not cause I want it to, but simply how my brain functions after all those years.
@theowenmccarthy
@theowenmccarthy 3 жыл бұрын
1:31:33 "I want you to entertain the idea that sometimes you are the rabbit, that you don't have to give anything in return, and that people will just appreciate you for being you." The best advice of this whole session
@timothybarrett9818
@timothybarrett9818 2 жыл бұрын
It's really easy looking at someone else, and saying " yes, of course people would appreciate you for being you", but at the same time it is insanely difficult to say that to oneself.
@timothybarrett9818
@timothybarrett9818 2 жыл бұрын
Sorry, she said that, my bad
@wawede
@wawede 2 жыл бұрын
I burst into tears and replayed that part 5 times. This session hits home way too close..
@christopherfleetwood5252
@christopherfleetwood5252 2 жыл бұрын
Well, someone is channeling Mr. Rogers. 😊☺️
@captainheartspace6583
@captainheartspace6583 Жыл бұрын
Rabbit with a bag maybe.
@MikaMEMM
@MikaMEMM 4 жыл бұрын
Dr. K the entire talk: You need to learn how to self indulge, you don't need to give other people everything you earn. Anita: *Donates $1,000 immediately after leaving*
@abdulmajeedmuhidin4620
@abdulmajeedmuhidin4620 4 жыл бұрын
lmao
@copycatsyoutube2112
@copycatsyoutube2112 4 жыл бұрын
LULLUL
@CurtisGabrielMusic
@CurtisGabrielMusic 4 жыл бұрын
Hot potato lol. Very kind of her though!
@cogzell3557
@cogzell3557 4 жыл бұрын
@@CurtisGabrielMusic yes but he is saying she doesn't need to help someone that helped her YES its nice but it could be in her brain (I gotta repay him He just helped me I owe him for kindness) Or something simular (I belive)
@CurtisGabrielMusic
@CurtisGabrielMusic 4 жыл бұрын
@@cogzell3557 Yes I saw that. I think it's polite to assume her act was genuine though, especially considering the session they just had.
@kenontrombone9209
@kenontrombone9209 4 жыл бұрын
She might be the most emotionally intelligent person that has been on this show.
@hurricanepufu5024
@hurricanepufu5024 4 жыл бұрын
If you haven't. Check out her stream. She has a lot of great moments.
@supertrollfaxnoprinter3329
@supertrollfaxnoprinter3329 4 жыл бұрын
@Blue .Barrymore why u think that?
@AlluckyTV
@AlluckyTV 4 жыл бұрын
Ken Tang how can you know
@supertrollfaxnoprinter3329
@supertrollfaxnoprinter3329 4 жыл бұрын
@Blue .Barrymore what makes you think the people that come on have low emotional intelligence?
@supertrollfaxnoprinter3329
@supertrollfaxnoprinter3329 4 жыл бұрын
@Blue .Barrymore Well how do you know you are more aware than them? Isn't it kind of impossible to know how aware you are?
@thomasaquinas601
@thomasaquinas601 3 жыл бұрын
She is someone with Wonder Woman levels of inner strength. 99% of people would wilt and fall over in a conversation such as this.
@csanadtemesvari9251
@csanadtemesvari9251 2 жыл бұрын
Is that sg bad?
@privacyandfreedom5344
@privacyandfreedom5344 2 жыл бұрын
More like 99 percent outer strength
@violetcutesy
@violetcutesy 3 жыл бұрын
Wow. I am less than 20 minutes in and I'm so stunned. I knew Corpse was talking about how inspirational Sweet Anita is... but I didn't realise it was to this degree. Genuinely, she seems like one of the most kind-hearted, empathetic, understanding and also intelligent people I've seen. Wow.. Such a wholesome person despite what she's been through.
@CJTranceAddiction
@CJTranceAddiction 3 жыл бұрын
It's the accent, it helps a lot.
@heavenbuilder2365
@heavenbuilder2365 2 жыл бұрын
@@CJTranceAddiction what the fuck is your problem
@farrahfarmer9287
@farrahfarmer9287 2 жыл бұрын
@@CJTranceAddiction nah I think it's the person.
@RalphDratman
@RalphDratman 2 жыл бұрын
@@CJTranceAddiction I'm not clear where the accent comes from. Where did she grow up, do you know?
@erikengheim1106
@erikengheim1106 2 жыл бұрын
@@RalphDratman Isn't that a pretty normal British accent? Or does she have a very particular British accent? I would assume somewhere in the South. She doesn't sound like she is from the North at least.
@anonimouse9710
@anonimouse9710 4 жыл бұрын
I feel like I listened to two therapists treating each other.
@THExRISER
@THExRISER 4 жыл бұрын
@UTubeCorruptAntiFreeSpeechLiberalCo And you're mean
@FF-wg3pd
@FF-wg3pd 4 жыл бұрын
@UTubeCorruptAntiFreeSpeechLiberalCo doo doo head
@roguecrowdjl160
@roguecrowdjl160 4 жыл бұрын
wow someone makes a comment and people just jump on them. ok. you good @UTubeCorruptAntiFreeSpeechLiberalCo
@Yanimalyan
@Yanimalyan 4 жыл бұрын
UTubeCorruptAntiFreeSpeechLiberalCo seems you are projecting, because judging by your emotional and mean reaction the only one who “isn’t very well put together” and “has a long way to go” is evidently you
@agent01soul
@agent01soul 4 жыл бұрын
@@Yanimalyan Was going to say the same thing. Hope UTubeCorruptAntiFreeSpeechLiberalCo can find peace and happiness in their life.
@emmalouise7748
@emmalouise7748 4 жыл бұрын
when she talked about how she was physically bullied as a kid it was so disturbing
@forexalised9053
@forexalised9053 4 жыл бұрын
I remember running across the main road straight through traffic to out run three kids from school, I ran into a video shop and squatted down behind an isle. The store owner asked me if I was ok and I was so scared, I had him call my Mum to get my cousin to pick me up. Acquaintances of those same kids threatened my brother with a knife for a freddo frog (10pence at the time) and when my brother went to the police, they told my Mother and him to forget about it as bringing any light to this situation would more than likely put our family at risk of retaliation and violence. Good ol 2006 Glasgow, fucking shit place, glad I moved to Australia. Don't know why I'm telling you this, who knows. The world is fucked up.
@obiohaz6023
@obiohaz6023 4 жыл бұрын
xD
@rampartj1843
@rampartj1843 4 жыл бұрын
@@forexalised9053 I miss 10p freddos
@paleyx9407
@paleyx9407 4 жыл бұрын
@@rampartj1843 Yeah feel like i have to take out a loan for one now
@ryadh456
@ryadh456 4 жыл бұрын
Yeah goddamn
@forkmasterderp919
@forkmasterderp919 3 жыл бұрын
"I've never hugged my mom" - that's fucking heartbreaking
@intrepidferret6704
@intrepidferret6704 2 жыл бұрын
when i heard that i was suprised he didn't say anything about it
@ShrirajGPethe
@ShrirajGPethe 2 ай бұрын
Pretty common for Indian. My grandfather left the world in 2021, i remember. I was planning like a hug to welcome him since 2010/2012 Never happened.
@Manas-jj6xf
@Manas-jj6xf 14 күн бұрын
​@@ShrirajGPethe How does that make it common for Indians?
@XXallycat101XX
@XXallycat101XX 3 жыл бұрын
I think the fact that he cusses with her helps her make her feel more comfortable. My psychiatrist used to cuss all the time and it made things funnier since he was being so raw so it was easier to talk about the hard stuff since he was letting loose himself.
@Cake3k
@Cake3k 3 жыл бұрын
Seems like he kinda adapts his language a bit according to who he's talking to. In his interview with Michael Reeves, who cusses a lot, K cussed a lot eventually as well. In the one with 5up, who cusses quite rarely compared to Michael and Anita, there was a lot less from K as well. Might just be natural to mirror some nuances of how the other person is talking, especially for those in his profession, but it's probably a good technique
@AnxietyRat
@AnxietyRat 2 жыл бұрын
@@Cake3k it's what most therapists are trained to do, funnily enough. Copy what they see displayed. Be it body language or speech-wise. Because it makes you feel more connected and comfortable. It isn't just Dr K who does this. A bunch of therapists who have an online presence have talked about this. Even if they don't swear much in person if they have a client who does... They will in those sessions. Or if they do swear a lot IRL but their client doesn't they will be careful not to swear. It's probably why many people think therapists are manipulative. Because... They kinda are. But in ways that are helpful. Not harmful. For the most part. There are terrible therapists out there who hurt people, of course. There's no denying that exists... But the majority don't want to hurt ppl. Probably.
@jubbardtheflubbard4380
@jubbardtheflubbard4380 Жыл бұрын
Yo when my therapist cusses it's so funny and effective I love it
@luxtobeyou
@luxtobeyou 10 ай бұрын
Not cussing, but this reminds me of the time my past therapist and I were talking about the holiday months and by the end of the session she'd printed me off her favorite casserole recipe after I'd mentioned my favorite of my grandma's that she made every year lol
@julianfrazier4815
@julianfrazier4815 4 жыл бұрын
Press "F" for breakfast
@sonny3351
@sonny3351 4 жыл бұрын
Julian Frazier F
@drumlicks85
@drumlicks85 4 жыл бұрын
F
@leoking938
@leoking938 4 жыл бұрын
F
@xerxes2694
@xerxes2694 4 жыл бұрын
F
@Tuukka.J.P
@Tuukka.J.P 4 жыл бұрын
F
@PlayerPOV
@PlayerPOV 4 жыл бұрын
I've heard of Anita from stream highlights, but this video made me a new fan for sure. She's very well-spoken and seems to think about human interaction a lot. Super interesting.
@MrTytyjohn64
@MrTytyjohn64 3 жыл бұрын
As someone without full control over the impressions you make on people when interacting, it becomes kinda natural to over analyze and evaluate every interpersonal interaction
@CharStar654
@CharStar654 3 жыл бұрын
Man Cody me too!! I feel like I relate so much I have found that I have a complex of putting others above myself because my mom was also quite sick as a kid and that became an identifying part of myself! I love Dr. K! Now I really like Anita as well!!
@Danneman92
@Danneman92 3 жыл бұрын
100% agree. I really like her.
@81gamer81
@81gamer81 3 жыл бұрын
@@CharStar654 Just dont fall in love
@BrokenSymetry
@BrokenSymetry 2 жыл бұрын
I agree, Anita is definitely funny but also quite eloquent and insightful, which makes her all the more entertaining to listen to. Generally a very wholesome streamer, which is something twitch can definitely use.
@nekekaminger
@nekekaminger 3 жыл бұрын
Anita: Twitch is a symptom of loneliness. My brain: Twitch is a simpdom of loneliness.
@lp9931
@lp9931 3 жыл бұрын
Nice
@ashuranero5721
@ashuranero5721 3 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣
@itchykami
@itchykami 2 жыл бұрын
Twitch is a symposium of loneliness.
@sorinash95
@sorinash95 2 жыл бұрын
This comment got me so hard lmao
@Bizarro69
@Bizarro69 2 жыл бұрын
oof
@Verrisin
@Verrisin 2 жыл бұрын
"You don't forgive. You make excuses for people." damn.... that was such a good boil down!
@albertlabos8400
@albertlabos8400 2 жыл бұрын
How true. I completely empathise with her. You go through life making excuses for people in an effort to avoid recognising inapropriate outcomes by justifying ...oh, it was not intentional...oh, it was an error....oh, unhappy childhood must be the cause...oh, a clumsy moment...oh, not evil just stupid....oh, the result of bad company...oh, didn't really mean it....oh, just thoughtless....oh, selfish....oh, didn't think....oh, another contrarian...oh, doesn't make sense....oh, just greedy + impatient...oh, disappointing..oh, secretly malicious or envious...oh, why the hell ? And this is like a stream of goodwill like a long rope being pulled out of you through your belly button...until one day...one morning...you tumble out of bed and it hits you....and then you suddenly change because you are forced to. The next step is to recognise and to categorise between an intimate reliable friend or close relative, a friend, friendly, indifference, adversary, enemy, and not to blunder by misplacing trust. Then everyone you know you can identify and categorise broadly into one of these categories and the propensity for tolerance, patience, trust, effort, is slotted into its proper place.
@NikHem343
@NikHem343 Жыл бұрын
@@albertlabos8400 damn good read
@archevii
@archevii 4 жыл бұрын
people: dr.k: *i'm about to think for a minute and improve this person's whole life*
@woozie7034
@woozie7034 4 жыл бұрын
hahahahahahaha
@tyco300
@tyco300 4 жыл бұрын
this comment deserves more than a like, gold.
@matheusminto
@matheusminto 4 жыл бұрын
if he thinks for 10 seconds everyone just gets enlightened
@AXharoth
@AXharoth 4 жыл бұрын
Dr "So just lets think about it for sec" K
@tonywalker1954
@tonywalker1954 4 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@Yesman812
@Yesman812 4 жыл бұрын
This conversation has actually motivated me to get back into therapy. I start next week. Thanks for this.
@ryadh456
@ryadh456 4 жыл бұрын
Hope it goes well
@clos4021
@clos4021 4 жыл бұрын
At almost 30 I'm finally getting help I desperately needed since a child. Dont be scared. this is for you. We gotta be ok for ourselves before we can be ok for others. Much love and peace from me to you and yours. Dont give up!
@hajjix
@hajjix 4 жыл бұрын
@henry how is it going man
@teglicas1422
@teglicas1422 4 жыл бұрын
How did it go? (:
@Maya-bp9ls
@Maya-bp9ls 3 жыл бұрын
me too! glad it helped
@doggymustdoo
@doggymustdoo 3 жыл бұрын
10 minutes in and I can tell how intelligent and eloquent she is. Despite her condition she’s one of the most well spoken person I’ve heard. One of the few streamers I’m throughly interested in.
@nefferpitou1825
@nefferpitou1825 3 жыл бұрын
That just means you don't listen to intelligent people talk, nothing else... maybe in the world of streamers when you compare her to other streamers, especially other famous female streamers (who center around showing lots of skin) she certainly is well spoken, but that's all
@doggymustdoo
@doggymustdoo 3 жыл бұрын
@@nefferpitou1825 .
@DukeFan1971
@DukeFan1971 2 жыл бұрын
I literally watch her videos just to hear her talk about the stuff going on in her life. I haven't watched her play a single game yet, and don't know that I care to, because for me, it's not what makes her interesting.
@elektrotehnik94
@elektrotehnik94 2 жыл бұрын
​@@nefferpitou1825 Can you say who else is on Anita's level?
@erikengheim1106
@erikengheim1106 2 жыл бұрын
@@nefferpitou1825 That sounds a bit belittling. I spend a lot of time around razor sharp people with PhDs and they don't necessarily have this kind of eloquence around reflecting on things at an emotional level. People are not skilled at all the same things. Listen to Magnus Carlson e.g. and he is razor sharp in Chess. He can instantly tell what year a chess board position was played and by whom. Yet he cannot offer all that much interesting insight about the human condition in the same way e.g. Anita can. People have different intellectual strengths.
@bubblekittea
@bubblekittea 4 жыл бұрын
I want to thank Anita from the bottom of my heart, I was also homeless, as well as sexually abused and emotionally abused all between the ages of 1-6 years old, and because we were homeless I didn't go to school either and was also completely alone in my chilldhood, hearing Anita being so sweet and genuine and motivated despite going through all this really inspired me. I'm trying to get a therapist at the moment but with not much money, and long waiting lists for free therapy, it's hard, but hearing Anita's story has inspired me to not give up as I have wanted to many times in the past.
@tammohimself9985
@tammohimself9985 2 жыл бұрын
Hey, just wondering how you are doing now :)
@NikHem343
@NikHem343 Жыл бұрын
How are you doing?
@KingAlternate
@KingAlternate 5 ай бұрын
hope your all good now 👍
@flamewizard9022
@flamewizard9022 2 ай бұрын
Good luck. I hope you're in a better place now.
@UnCommonVision
@UnCommonVision 4 жыл бұрын
Anita: (Tick) "Press F for breakfast" Me: Spamming the F button.
@ReyaadGafur
@ReyaadGafur 4 жыл бұрын
Thats a pretty funny tick
@MichaelBurnsGuitar
@MichaelBurnsGuitar 3 жыл бұрын
So funny how she laughed at it as well, what a soul
@shartnerd
@shartnerd 3 жыл бұрын
But later she said "Breakfast - smells like dick", still spamming?
@georgeharper7676
@georgeharper7676 3 жыл бұрын
Imagine being her m8 and you are walking and she makes the Twitter notification sound 😂😂😂.
@ARMTOAST
@ARMTOAST 3 жыл бұрын
@@shartnerd lucky for me I'm into that shit
@Diavolo222
@Diavolo222 4 жыл бұрын
Bro, everything aside, I'm amazing how eloquent she is. Like she's high level eloquent. I wish I could speak like that.
@Southforthewinter
@Southforthewinter 4 жыл бұрын
Diavolo222 it’s the accent.
@malibukensington3068
@malibukensington3068 4 жыл бұрын
@CJ Ransome quiet
@Diavolo222
@Diavolo222 4 жыл бұрын
@CJ Ransome relax bro, it's fine to compliment people.
@wartem
@wartem 4 жыл бұрын
I know a sailor down at the pub who speaks like that
@freindmaker4473
@freindmaker4473 4 жыл бұрын
@CJ Ransome bruh fuck off man, shes clearly very emotionally mature and we are just recognizing that and complimenting her
@mattikaze2918
@mattikaze2918 3 жыл бұрын
"You don't NEED to do anything to be worth SOMETHING" My whole head flew off.
@EinFelsbrocken
@EinFelsbrocken 3 жыл бұрын
Why? _Something_ isnt really meaning much. Still gotta work on oneself to be more.
@justaguywhoissleepdeprived6381
@justaguywhoissleepdeprived6381 3 жыл бұрын
Mah brain
@beyondviolet
@beyondviolet 2 жыл бұрын
@@EinFelsbrocken Anita is that you? Lol
@NikHem343
@NikHem343 Жыл бұрын
Yeah I had to stop at that moment and fully take it in
@TorgieMadison
@TorgieMadison 3 жыл бұрын
Anita: "Awkwardness triggers a lot of my tics" Anita: *tics a lot at the start* Anita, 30 minutes in: *Totally flowing, absolutely fine, no discomfort* Interesting!
@lynnkaminari6942
@lynnkaminari6942 3 жыл бұрын
Good observation!
@miladsm4325
@miladsm4325 3 жыл бұрын
probably its caused by anxiety
@RomainDelmaire
@RomainDelmaire 3 жыл бұрын
I noticed that her tics almost disappeared while she was explaining how it worked and what could prevent it. And as soon as they goes back to personal topics, they're just back in full force.
@emiki6
@emiki6 2 жыл бұрын
I noticed that when she tries to recall, especially not very good memories it intensifies a lot. And then it's kind of looked like stuttering, because she was unable to say specific words immediately and instead tics came out.
@dgr4277
@dgr4277 Жыл бұрын
31:42 that was the funniest moment)) now we know what is she thinking about)
@thebarkermc
@thebarkermc 4 жыл бұрын
I really wish Dr K knew about her recent stalker, and the way she describes him on stream. That she's not concerned, she's fairly sure he wouldn't try anything. It's the same analogy, she wants to see the best in people, and she probably thinks she's done something to encourage this stalker, and that's why it was so difficult for her to press charges. I think all of these things are tied to the same issue.
@maxono1465
@maxono1465 4 жыл бұрын
yeah its like she doesnt even see that the stalker is doing something wrong.
@dustinchen
@dustinchen 4 жыл бұрын
just trying to get another simp out of the way huh
@kubli365
@kubli365 4 жыл бұрын
@@dustinchen KEKW
@Bulsebub
@Bulsebub 4 жыл бұрын
Is the stalker a viewer or someone she met in real life?
@WHYUNODYLAN
@WHYUNODYLAN 4 жыл бұрын
@@maxono1465 I think that more than anything she just wants to appease the guy because of how scared she is. If she were to call him a horrible person then he might just try to murder her, so she doesn't want to risk that.
@beandon7227
@beandon7227 4 жыл бұрын
When I watch Dr. K say some super smart shit it's like watching someone pop off in a game. I literally have the same reaction. like "YOOOO LETS GOOOOO DR K JUST POPPED TF OFF WITH SOME EMOTIONAL ENCOURAGEMENT LETS GOOO"
@andresguerra2274
@andresguerra2274 3 жыл бұрын
Omg or like watching sherlock piece errything together
@lawrencelord9777
@lawrencelord9777 3 жыл бұрын
Yes I feel the same
@marcvesper
@marcvesper 2 жыл бұрын
Yeah, real life hero work going on here.
@JuMixBoox
@JuMixBoox 3 жыл бұрын
Anita's mom does sound like an amazing person. A disabled teen mom who is an artist, a scientist and a photographer? We would probably love her if we met her. But I agree that she might not have provided the best environment for her to grow up in. With intent or not.
@himbo754
@himbo754 Жыл бұрын
Yes. The environment that Anita grew up in was abnormal, regardless of why it happened, regardless of whether anyone could have prevented it or not. It was not the environment that a child *should* grow up in.
@JuMixBoox
@JuMixBoox Жыл бұрын
@@hughmungus431 Transgender children don't commit suicide because they get medical treatment, they do it because they aren't accepted and allowed to transition. If you care about trans lives, you need to start at your own prejudice and not by attacking people online.
@Ryan-wx1bi
@Ryan-wx1bi Жыл бұрын
​@@JuMixBooxthere is no statistical decrease in suicide from trans children whether they get a medical transition or not. The rate is high either way. It's not as black and white as you're making it seem
@dudlEEk
@dudlEEk 3 жыл бұрын
She is really well spoken and her ability to express herself is incredible. She would make a good writer.
@natej1026
@natej1026 4 жыл бұрын
She is unbelievable, such a sweet, bright person and I'd never have thought she'd dealt with such problems in life. Honestly it's amazing how someone can be so positive given such a negative early experience.
@lucalalsie5653
@lucalalsie5653 4 жыл бұрын
Simp?
@kubli365
@kubli365 4 жыл бұрын
@@lucalalsie5653 bruh
@vedanggupta3542
@vedanggupta3542 4 жыл бұрын
@@lucalalsie5653 Because apparently someone can't say a women is a nice person. Because to be a man you have to be a misogynistic piece of shit. /s
@slevin6544
@slevin6544 4 жыл бұрын
Clicked on replies knowing the simp comment will be there.
@AXharoth
@AXharoth 4 жыл бұрын
yeah she gone through hell
@Samdeman90
@Samdeman90 4 жыл бұрын
She's smart and gives him pushback. I love to see it.
@andrewrollout1657
@andrewrollout1657 4 жыл бұрын
Yes she had a lot of rationalizations which felt like defense mechanisms to me (tho I could be wrong). I hope the conversations strikes a chord in her to pursue this unit of self-work that Dr K uncovered. As he said, she's 90% there, but the last 10% is a weirdly toxic positivity.
@ThePrinceofParthia
@ThePrinceofParthia 3 жыл бұрын
@sbowesuk the important thing is that it's not a façade, it's very much both of them attacking and analysing the unhealthy coping mechanisms from both sides.
@misund3rst0od10
@misund3rst0od10 3 жыл бұрын
@@andrewrollout1657 They're absolutely defense mechanisms. She doesn't have a PHD like Dr. K so she's just talking in circles to avoid talking about herself.
@all.considered5546
@all.considered5546 3 жыл бұрын
She survived all that childhood, damn. She is amazing. She earned a new fan.
@User36282
@User36282 3 жыл бұрын
"The world is going to take as much as you have to give, and it will let you chew yourself out in the process, and it won't give two shits when you burn out and when you're exhausted. The thousands of people out there who benefit from your sacrifices will appreciate it, and no one will be left to care for you." - Dr. Alok Kanojia Just incredible wisdom from every stream.
@MatthewHartsuch
@MatthewHartsuch 2 жыл бұрын
Isn't this pretty much the same as having kids 🤔 or at least that's what my married friends tell me. They take and leave you exhausted with very little personal benefits. If your going to die someday anyways why not just live for yourself and take.
@antonk.653
@antonk.653 2 жыл бұрын
​@@MatthewHartsuch Pay attention to the kind of people saying this, you'll notice that most of them suffered in their childhood. In my experience as a father, children start to give back very early - it starts with the first smile already. My kids have stabilized my life and I'm grateful everyday to have them. If you don't completely mess up parenting, you get back tenfold and your kids should return to you (once in a while) and have a pristine relationship with you as quasi-peers.
@JamesBideaux
@JamesBideaux 4 жыл бұрын
Dr.K: "Get some Junkfood, guys." Me, already stuffing my face with chips: "Way ahead of you."
@Bengista
@Bengista 4 жыл бұрын
My man! :DD
@MGVorborg
@MGVorborg 4 жыл бұрын
Hhh jjåj
@lostmymojo1421
@lostmymojo1421 4 жыл бұрын
literally had a 5 stack of toaster waffles in front of me LOL
@ginadamn1714
@ginadamn1714 3 жыл бұрын
lol
@phoenix0153
@phoenix0153 3 жыл бұрын
Wtf. This was 4 months ago?? I legit dodnt realize. Also, I had hot cheetos just now
@thiccburger290
@thiccburger290 4 жыл бұрын
36:37 easily one of the coolest thing I’ve ever seen a person do on accident. Ever.
@RmX.
@RmX. 4 жыл бұрын
holy shit that's impressive.
@EVLA8
@EVLA8 4 жыл бұрын
I was actually impressed by the voice, holy shit lmao
@tarunraina1454
@tarunraina1454 4 жыл бұрын
Damn, man she's awesome
@helldenizens8154
@helldenizens8154 3 жыл бұрын
That's freaking crazy impressive.
@skechyassmofo
@skechyassmofo 3 жыл бұрын
Both middle fingers too at the same time 😂
@ravnjokr
@ravnjokr 3 жыл бұрын
"Entertain the idea that people can see value in you without you giving anything to them, that you have intrinsic value. That by virtue of who you are, you have worth." This man is making me cry ;_;
@dkhemmen
@dkhemmen 3 жыл бұрын
Holy shit, the part about having to acknowledge the shortcomings of your parents in order to forgive them was so insightful, it felt like something physically clicked in my head haha. Food for thought.
@Eriksjostrom
@Eriksjostrom 4 жыл бұрын
Anita usually has complete control of her circumstances when she's on her own stream, so it was fascinating to see her pushed and challenged a bit. Very humanizing and interesting to listen to.
@ryadh456
@ryadh456 4 жыл бұрын
Yeah same when someone intelligent is questioned in a good way its cool to see!
@jamesblack993
@jamesblack993 4 жыл бұрын
Anita is one of the most charming people I've seen. She has such a caring and sweet voice, she could be a voice actor actually.
@hoho7029
@hoho7029 4 жыл бұрын
welllllll her tourettes says : no
@Aeraleach
@Aeraleach 3 жыл бұрын
"my Name's Bond... Bleep Bloop James Bond WOOP"
@iamrazor9831
@iamrazor9831 2 жыл бұрын
@@hoho7029 she has done VO work so good job being wrong I guess
@weirdchamp4601
@weirdchamp4601 3 жыл бұрын
Anita is the most confident/unembarrassed person I’ve seen. She doesn’t sweat the awkward interactions caused by her tics
@emiki6
@emiki6 2 жыл бұрын
This is the only way you can deal with things like this. I'm stuttering (sometimes when I want to say a word I can't exhale to make a sound and it may look like a strange choking) and when it causes awkwardness, the first thing I do is explain it. People are very understanding if they know what's happening and they don't have to figure it out that is it intentional or not and why are you doing it.
@joshuaphelps6512
@joshuaphelps6512 2 жыл бұрын
this woman deserves happiness full stop.
@legalizemarinara
@legalizemarinara 4 жыл бұрын
I love Anita saying "Press F for breakfast"
@ThePwnerdude
@ThePwnerdude 4 жыл бұрын
This whole interview was very emotional, but 1:33:05 where Dr. K says, "You're worth it" and Anita is like "... thank you" really made me tear up. I didn't know much about her going into this but I really hope she finds her way and is able to love herself.
@japzy6014
@japzy6014 3 жыл бұрын
she already loves herself
@andresguerra2274
@andresguerra2274 3 жыл бұрын
I loved it too but also remember that sometimes saying "thank you" is a deflection. Like moving away from guilt or whatever and redirecting it into thankfulness without addressing the prob
@sannasvenhard4721
@sannasvenhard4721 3 жыл бұрын
@@japzy6014 Obviously she doesn ’t? Do you know her? Or do you just assume all attractive women are full of themselves and love themselves? I assume the latter and that misogony and bitterness probably stems from your own insecurities and lack of self love. Hope you find it bro
@japzy6014
@japzy6014 3 жыл бұрын
@@sannasvenhard4721 obviously she does? She doesn't care what people think of her? She has tourettes and goes out of her comfort zone? Hope the misandrist in you realize that not anything is about looks.
@sannasvenhard4721
@sannasvenhard4721 3 жыл бұрын
@@japzy6014 Having tourettes and streaming doesn’t automatically mean you love yourself. She has said several things which STRONGLY points to that she doesn’t love herself like that she feels guilt and shame whenever she does something for herself instead of for someone else. I know not everything is about looks but it is the only reason I can see for why you would say she loves herself despite everything she said.
@prod.rorygbeats6722
@prod.rorygbeats6722 3 жыл бұрын
56:55 "you dont really forgive you let people behave badly" lard have mercy i relate to that one too much soo glad i found this dude man
@dicktater4801
@dicktater4801 3 жыл бұрын
I'm just struggling to understand how such a positive force exists in this man. I have a similar view of trying to shine light into the world, but he's also extremely competent at actually helping people. "If only I could be so grossly incandescent."
@BobaTaro
@BobaTaro 4 жыл бұрын
I love that Anita challenges Dr. K's take around 1:05:46 and I love his response. This exchange between them is so helpful.
@lockekappa500
@lockekappa500 4 жыл бұрын
"One of the most important things you can teach children is how to appreciate who they are and how to derive enjoyment from life. How are you going to teach them that unless you know how to appreciate life?" Absolutely beautiful and profound. Dr. K. is truly a gem and deserves all the praise for what he does.
@Halcyon1997
@Halcyon1997 2 жыл бұрын
I just made a realization. Thank you
@whakjob
@whakjob 3 жыл бұрын
I am a new fan of Anita but at 55:00 the talk actually became very real for me coz I realized that I have not really truly forgiven my mom or dad for the way I've become, I just stopped blaming them and being full of empathy, Thanks to this actually helped me a lot too.
@arc8584
@arc8584 2 жыл бұрын
I'm stunned by the quality of this interview, this is how these discussions should be. And I really appreciate just how will Dr. K handles his words, Anita says "awkwardness causes a lot of ticks," and you have Dr. K always asking "Can I take a moment? Can I process this/think about that?" Making sure the silence is announced or requested so it never makes her feel uncomfortable or makes her worry about what she just said.
@NOmebanees
@NOmebanees 2 жыл бұрын
He always asks for a minute though
@Sheep________
@Sheep________ 4 жыл бұрын
Its hard to listen to anita's story, i think most people can feel just sad and sorrow from her but shes such a bright person. Long live her kind soul
@sxxith
@sxxith 4 жыл бұрын
i know it breaks my heart that she was beaten till she was unconscious and stones were throne at her all because she has something that she cant control.
@sagefloop
@sagefloop 4 жыл бұрын
Oh this is one of the most brutal videos I've ever seen, and I'm 12 minutes in
@leonardomilions4008
@leonardomilions4008 4 жыл бұрын
Like I'm 23 minutes in and struggling to not cry when I think about her story
@kartirnium
@kartirnium 4 жыл бұрын
I was just watching and I had to pause for a bit after 30 mins as a huge fire burnt in my heart. Why does hearing someone's life story bring me so much sorrow? I'm not a very emotional person but recently i've been getting more and more emotional at these things.
@moedali9681
@moedali9681 4 жыл бұрын
@@kartirnium felt the same way when someone i know told me she was raped when she was 5, its disturbing
@chatwatcher4279
@chatwatcher4279 4 жыл бұрын
Anita is like a bigger sister that I wouldn't mind having. Edit: was making a comment about how shes a nice person, but some of the replies are really disgusting
@RamKumar-yi6wn
@RamKumar-yi6wn 4 жыл бұрын
Parasocial relationship much ?
@proxic9508
@proxic9508 4 жыл бұрын
Onee-san
@abyss1997
@abyss1997 4 жыл бұрын
cringe
@proxic9508
@proxic9508 4 жыл бұрын
shut your mouth
@MrArthean
@MrArthean 4 жыл бұрын
KKona
@webs679
@webs679 3 жыл бұрын
This is an extremely emotional episode. I'm from the UK and I'm deeply saddened that people are ignorant enough to not know tourettes and to treat someone in such a way. Dr K has done something extraordinary humanising streamers like this. On face value you would never know these stories and what some of these people go through. I never knew stumbling across this channel would lead to this deep thought provoking content. This really is KZfaq at its absolute peak
@dyrinn45
@dyrinn45 3 жыл бұрын
Been binge watching Dr. K for a few days. This is the most heart breaking episode I've seen.
@intrepidferret6704
@intrepidferret6704 2 жыл бұрын
when anita said she never hugged her mom. It really showed how not good her parents were edit: wording
@gabrielpacana8596
@gabrielpacana8596 4 жыл бұрын
"Every bad person will tell you they are good at the start."
@mrbiomaster9931
@mrbiomaster9931 4 жыл бұрын
Big true. I would add quote: We admire heroes as children, growing up we learn to understand villains.
@Terra101
@Terra101 4 жыл бұрын
I am good.
@AlluckyTV
@AlluckyTV 4 жыл бұрын
Every bad person is good at the start
@1SGCarter
@1SGCarter 4 жыл бұрын
I tell people I’m bad at the start. If they stay, I proof that I lied. Why? Because only a good person will give a bad person a chance so I get rid of bad persons right from the beginning.🤯😉 Life is a game. Don’t be a player. Be a hacker.
@user-yz5yv3tf7n
@user-yz5yv3tf7n 4 жыл бұрын
schleschtn menschn jeht et immah jut
@HealthyGamerGG
@HealthyGamerGG 4 жыл бұрын
Timestamps, but IMO this one you kinda have to watch it all as it builds on top of each other: 00:00 introductions 6:31 Growing up 19:20 What did the parents model for you? 29:20 Indian gender norm culture, being helped by people 43:00 "What do you think about your mom"-forgiveness 1:01:20 Judgement for self-love 1:05:50 therapist bias 1:11:30 having kids, adoption, options 1:22:34 SL syndrome, love, the transience of life 1:30:30 twitch is teaching how to love yourself 1:35:15 Meditation 1:48:52 Closing thoughts, Coaching program, watch Dr. K raid someone
@leafface5890
@leafface5890 4 жыл бұрын
There is a part at the 1:11:30 mark I think you caught when anita said it, but in your reply you didn’t address; “the answer to the worlds problems isn’t another DNA copy of me” I guess it’s already established that she has a hard time loving herself so maybe you didn’t need to address it but it stood out for me at that point.
@BRUCEWAYNE-yo8yr
@BRUCEWAYNE-yo8yr 4 жыл бұрын
Dr. K you really are doing some good work here man. Keep it up. Your vids and talks help me better understand people and myself. Really enjoyed this
@KevinUchihaOG
@KevinUchihaOG 4 жыл бұрын
@@leafface5890 i have the same feeling, not because i dont love myself. Just philosophically. I'm a antinatalist. We dont need more people in the world. Lets help the ones that are already here.
@joeysung311
@joeysung311 4 жыл бұрын
I was complaining about wishing there were timestamps a few days ago, thanks for adding them!
@KevinUchihaOG
@KevinUchihaOG 4 жыл бұрын
@@albertthorval4674 nah, don't worry. I'm just a nihilist/absurdist. I don't really hate anything. I just think the world is full of suffering and that we have a overpopulation problem. Check out David Benatar, he is a philosopher who argues/advocate for antinatalism. Even if you won't agree with him, he has pretty logical reasons for being against giving birth. I've come to this conclusion by philosophical reasoning. Not by any personal reason. To be clear, i'm an antinatalist for all of humankind, not just my own offspring. The basic argument goes: (1) the presence of pain is bad; (2) the presence of pleasure is good; (3) the absence of pain is good, even if that good is not enjoyed by anyone; (4) the absence of pleasure is not bad unless there is somebody for whom this absence is a deprivation Conclusion: Not giving birth assure that no suffering will happen to a new being, which is good. But those points might not be crystal clear unless you delve more into his reasoning behind every point.
@shafi3342
@shafi3342 3 жыл бұрын
God bless her soul. One of the most emotionally intellgent people I have ever heard. Dr K is truly inspiring for his work
@VenoXj1
@VenoXj1 4 жыл бұрын
I'm blown away by how self reflected Anita is honestly. She is such an honest, caring and loving person.
@sebastienbadio9208
@sebastienbadio9208 4 жыл бұрын
Bruh, I'm a grown ass dude and I'm on the verge of tears right now...but I'm here for it
@Syd448
@Syd448 4 жыл бұрын
She’s is fantastic
@sorubro2193
@sorubro2193 3 жыл бұрын
I want her to give me dating advice
@user-kz8bt1os1i
@user-kz8bt1os1i 3 жыл бұрын
Yaaas 👏👏👏
@AbaNPreach
@AbaNPreach 4 жыл бұрын
Great talk, I enjoyed this. I would love to add one thing on the point of "best that you could do parenting" vs "good parenting". Is there a solid blueprint for great parenting is? What do we consider a successful parenting job? I cant speak for Anita despite the fact that i really do think she came out of her childhood superbly. Having had a similar upbringing, I am grateful for the "best that you can do parenting" because it taught me so many lessons about how try to be the best human possible despite having odds stacked against you. I dont think id be half the man I am today without that though I could be wrong, it is something i really believe. Maybe those of us who grow up in "best that you can do parenting" households still became decent people IN SPITE of the setbacks, but I think I want to believe that we became what we are due in large part to those struggles. Too much comfort stunts a childs growth, too much can be adverse so I suppose a middle ground is always best but id rather be on the side of too much adversity than not enough. Anyways thank you for sharing this, it gave me a lot to reflect on.
@martinvadakara7759
@martinvadakara7759 4 жыл бұрын
I think doing a good job is giving you the tools needed to succeed without too much adversity. Like a good job for a parent is giving you the tools and the emotional support as a person I guess maybe?
@Myemnhk
@Myemnhk 4 жыл бұрын
I didn't expect to see you guys here i love the channel
@ruthtrentwood3374
@ruthtrentwood3374 4 жыл бұрын
Well, the "best you could do" parenting is usually described as such by the child living in that kind of household. It's because of the cognitive dissonance one experiences through loving their parent, but also simultaneously, resenting them for doing an inadequate job. The person tries to gloss over their resentment by projecting a dubiously positive image of their parents or upbringing. So there is really no objective blueprint for good/adequate parenting. It's just whatever parenting that makes that specific child feel secure. You'd never; however, hear a child of 'good' parents say that their parents "did the best that they could".
@korvincarry3268
@korvincarry3268 4 жыл бұрын
I think the near final part of healing from such a childhood is understanding that exact thing. People are flawed, nobody can be perfect and were all gonna make mistakes. Theres no exact formula for parenting any child, as theyre all different. Maybe it wasnt good parenting, but they tried to do the best they could by/for you. Thats how you can come to understand the parent and forgive them, just as was relayed in this talk.
@TB3Astronaut
@TB3Astronaut 3 жыл бұрын
Aba and Preach in the comments? Bruh even the comment section is great here.
@jackjackson7537
@jackjackson7537 3 жыл бұрын
When she talked about her first rabbits I wanted to cry. You're an amazing person, Anita. Great interview Dr K.
@alexmartin9951
@alexmartin9951 3 жыл бұрын
I think the term "brave" is overused these days, not in this instance!!!! Great Interview guys!!!!
@fufuberry23
@fufuberry23 4 жыл бұрын
Me: *Eating Doritos with my eyes closed at 4am* "my therapist told me to"
@SporkyMcFly
@SporkyMcFly 4 жыл бұрын
Dr. K is a medical professional, I'm sure he knows what's best for you.
@fufuberry23
@fufuberry23 4 жыл бұрын
@@SporkyMcFly he certainly does 😅
@angrybirdfanatic1
@angrybirdfanatic1 4 жыл бұрын
SHIT ME TOO BRO
@JohnDoe-ce2wl
@JohnDoe-ce2wl 3 жыл бұрын
I will have to do this, too
@DrDrCr4zy
@DrDrCr4zy 3 жыл бұрын
that sounds very awesome :3
@Luftgitarrenprofi
@Luftgitarrenprofi 4 жыл бұрын
Been following Anita since she started streaming. Really great person. Twitch needs many more like her.
@BewitchedMelvy
@BewitchedMelvy 4 жыл бұрын
Feuerbringer twitch just needs more of her, no two humans like that on this earth for sure
@SoSayThat
@SoSayThat 4 жыл бұрын
@@BewitchedMelvy Well there's more than 7 billion people on the planet, so odds are there are plenty that are similar.
@zac7790
@zac7790 3 жыл бұрын
Tom M not really.
@SoSayThat
@SoSayThat 3 жыл бұрын
@@zac7790 Learn some statistics bro
@zac7790
@zac7790 3 жыл бұрын
Tom M humans are defined by experiences, no one will ever have the complete same experience as one another and look completely the same.
@TheProductofyourmind
@TheProductofyourmind 3 жыл бұрын
I'm autistic and I live on my own and I can very much relate to the "feeling guilty for tending to my needs" especially if it's just gaming or relaxing... especially when there's literally anything else I could be doing, like tidying up, even if it's the smallest bit.
@nevokrien95
@nevokrien95 2 жыл бұрын
How is it related to you being autistic? Or does it not
@TC_exe
@TC_exe 3 жыл бұрын
I love these interviews so much. The moments where you can not only see and hear but FEEL something click, for either Dr. K or the person being interviewed, are awesome. You're doing awesome work here. And thanks for sharing with us, Anita. This was a really valuable conversation.
@edwardseverinsen5598
@edwardseverinsen5598 4 жыл бұрын
It's sad she feels like an inconvenience for her ticks. Imagine someone outside your house honking their horn, a dog barking or loud construction work going on around your street. Now imagine someone getting angry with you because of those noises. It's unfair right? Those disturbances didn't arise from your choice or participation. Neither do her ticks. And we generally acknowledge that people being overly angry about those minor disturbances say more about themselves by being overly angry than the severity of the noise itself. Now imagine having a tick that lasts a few seconds at best and someone blowing up at you over it. It's not within your control. You might as well have been yelled at or ridiculed for it raining outside. This isn't a reflection on her by any means, it's a reflection of the type of person who would be negative towards someone else for something completely beyond their control. It's very sad to see.
@shadowtoast6294
@shadowtoast6294 4 жыл бұрын
While that's nice and dandy, you have to remember she'd be dating a human. A human that has thresholds that the relentless ticks might reach, no matter how much he loves her. He might not mention it out of love but it might influence his behavior at least slightly. And she's right to think of them as "inconveniences" because... well... who wouldn't, in her shoes. I would. They both would have to recognize that it IS an inconvenience. She should continue taking steps to mitigate it and he should take steps to withstand it. What I'd do is make my everyday life as mind numbingly dull and low stress as I can so her ticks (specifically audible ones) would be a fresh and welcome change of pace from the mundanity. Acting like it's not an inconvenience and act that you can get rid of them and they won't bother you - won't make you look for solutions to tolerate one another.
@darlantro
@darlantro 4 жыл бұрын
@@shadowtoast6294 The way I have heard that couples can work around tourretes and similar issues is communication and a lot of structure. Both inside and outside of the relationship. So you ring up a new grocery store before you head over and you tell them 'im heading over, by the way I have tourretes,... shouldn't be a problem, just letting you know' and if you have a good experience there you go back there again and try to meet and introduce yourself and again say you have tourretes (or your partner does), and basically establish these safe foundations of places that you feel you can be safer at in the real world. Similarly in your relationship you talk about boundaries and if you need space at certain times or an afternoon away from one another to zone out or whatever. You communicate and work on fairness and try to check that one person doesn't feel taken advantage of or trapped or useless or worthless but work instead to keep things equal. In Anita's case it would be a partner who encourages her art and her taking care of herself off camera, and encourages her receiving care and help, but also doesn't forget that indeed it's hard to live with someone who whistles like a bird constantly and finds ways to work around sound and physical ticks that they both agree work... headphones, music, sound proofing, even sleeping in another bedroom 3 nights a week if she had bad physical ticks, just structuring their life and keeping up communication as to why these things would help the two of them make it work regardless of how they might be perceived by the outside world. Just some thoughts I've picked up.
@sjokkoladehjerte
@sjokkoladehjerte 4 жыл бұрын
this is a new youtube name, honestly tho... its not that bad- one gets used to sounds and movements. Imagine the sounds in your house or the house you grew up in, do you still hear the water pump, or grandfatherclock, or washing machine etc. if you dont focus on them? Until someone else comes over and asks what that noise is/ draws attention to it? The movement thing, i have a friend with T with movement ticks, and they arent distacting at all, dont stop me from sleepovers with her in my bed or anything. So sure talk about it if you want and all that, but i bet even in the timespan of this video, most people will be less distracted by her ticks at the end, but if you are a person that dont feel they'd get used to her ticks - then i dont think you have any business getting into a relationship with someone who's been brutally punished for their ticks, i dont think that's fair to her at all and its not fair to you to be in a relationship that you cant handle because of something they cant change, it will be hurtfull to you that they cant/ wont change for you and be hurtfull to her that she again cant give that to you- aka be right back in the position of being punished for something she cant stop. Its maybe different for someone else with T syndrome, that has not been punished (her stepmom shook her broken arm- for crying out loud- ,because she didn't believe it was broken, because she said she always made so much fuss over "nothing") but in her case, you'd really have to be OK with it, she's had enough taken from her without some acceptance in return, the last thing she needs is more criteria to "deserve love". But there is nothing wrong with not dating a person with T-syndrome if you think you cant get used to it, aka you wont "hear it decreasing amounts as you go along" as is the case with many of us others would, with such "teapots" (as she said in the video) no matter how ugly some of the visitors percive them to be. I get that maybe what you wrote are maybe good advice for people like your friends, but i think that, Anita needs someone that does not care if she ticks a blue streak and wink at strangers, so that she does not need to apologise in her own home for basically not being able to stop the weather from changing (cause she can no more change that then she can her tics), because theres no disruptive intent in ticking, so i think she deserves an Effing break from apologising at effing home with someone that wont make her feel like shit for breathing- cause thats the only way she can stop, by not fucking breathing anymore. Sorry, but i kinda got angry imagining someone thinking about "tolerating" my friend and setting up all kinds of hurdles for you to feel comfortable taking her out in public, to the effing grocery store, so that you wont "get embarrassed" by them tick'ing, so yeah- id prefer those people to stay well away from her, cause if i heard someone treating her that way.. i would throw hands.. and then some💁‍♀️🤨👉🤚🏻👉👊🏻👉🦶up🍑= 🤕🦷👀(also this🍆to this🥒) other than that ✌️💁‍♀️
@edwardseverinsen5598
@edwardseverinsen5598 4 жыл бұрын
@@shadowtoast6294 I was more so talking about people in public and stuff. Not someone she's gonna be in an intimate relationship with and around 24/7. But I would say that her family, friends and even herself have learned to tolerate it. And even still I can understand someone being off put by it because ultimately it is their decision who they date. My main gripe is someone actually being rude or unpleasant towards her because of it.
@rubenzs3161
@rubenzs3161 4 жыл бұрын
This is when i realize how freaking lucky i am for having such an easy life.
@andresguerra2274
@andresguerra2274 3 жыл бұрын
Yeah me too! But also dont delegitimize your problems cause that's not great!
@roykale9141
@roykale9141 3 жыл бұрын
It always could be worse, but it can always be better too
@Yotrymp
@Yotrymp 2 жыл бұрын
It's not easy, but it's certainly livable.
@fede22081
@fede22081 4 жыл бұрын
This helped me more than any two-hours of my life ever did. I feel the good kind of anger and relief, that I ever so rarely allowed myself.I needed it. Much love to all of you!!
@fabianeer41
@fabianeer41 2 жыл бұрын
This is eye-opening, wholesome and highly needed. Thanks so much!
@maisyrae4967
@maisyrae4967 4 жыл бұрын
Anita's life sounds like a classic novel I would read. she's been through a lot.
@Rottwiler44
@Rottwiler44 3 жыл бұрын
Kind of reminds me of the Glass Castle
@GeetardHD
@GeetardHD 4 жыл бұрын
This streams ending was THE MOST wholesome.
@MazDance
@MazDance 2 жыл бұрын
OH my god, I have to say it's amazing to hear Anita talk the way she does. I feel like I've been through such a similar experience to her, even having an unavailable mother who for so long I used the exact words; "I wouldn't blame her, she did the best she could." I too struggled for so long trying to separate the mother, whom I love, from the mother who wasn't there growing up, leading me to become extremely self reliant. Thank you both for this, it's really cathartic to hear you talk about this.
@0neFamily
@0neFamily 4 жыл бұрын
This was simply beautiful. So much insight. Thanks to both of you.
@bluenova2958
@bluenova2958 4 жыл бұрын
He wants breakfast, send it now. Press 'F' for breakfast.
@justcallmenoah5743
@justcallmenoah5743 4 жыл бұрын
F
@pyxylation
@pyxylation 4 жыл бұрын
F
@0zymandias290
@0zymandias290 4 жыл бұрын
F
@putminix123
@putminix123 4 жыл бұрын
f
@venomous2die4
@venomous2die4 4 жыл бұрын
F
@kyraleone
@kyraleone 4 жыл бұрын
When he asked about having kids and I heard her start to answer, I knew immediately he was going to go in on Anita. This is such an amazing session, I will definitely be watching again!
@Zapzdoughnut
@Zapzdoughnut 2 жыл бұрын
11:18 When I first started therapy I heard this from all my therapists and honestly it just became a self fulfilling prophecy almost. People expected me to be more fucked up so I found reason to sabotage my life/relationships and own happiness so I fit the narrative that people expected. Psychologically/morally I do not know if it's a good or bad thing to hear your therapist to say something like that but my personal experience it harmed me big time.
@KindaKaylaHQ
@KindaKaylaHQ 2 жыл бұрын
I had the exact opposite experience interestingly enough. I became super fucked up bc I felt like my life wasn't rough enough to explain how messed up I had become. As a result, I did the same thing you did. I would sabotage experiences, relationships etc. so that I would have a reason to feel the way I did.
@Nic-wv3wg
@Nic-wv3wg 3 жыл бұрын
This was probably one of the most informative and self realizing vods I have watched the entirety of. Dr K is an amazing personality and true listener who has a great response to everything brought to his attention. I feel a lot of this on a HUGE personal level. Not specifics from Anita's life, but generalizing all the problems a lot of us face daily. This whole video got me seriously thinking about my life. Thank you Dr K for indirectly getting my brain activated.
@AlextheBant
@AlextheBant 4 жыл бұрын
Anita is nothing short of a hero if you ask me. She can be extremely proud of who she is.
@PrayerOrb4
@PrayerOrb4 4 жыл бұрын
yeah, but heroes need bubble baths too
@Enourmousletters
@Enourmousletters 4 жыл бұрын
Honestly what shocks me is that no one in Anita's life ever went "Hey, you think you might have Tourettes?" It's not a mysterious unknown condition and it hasn't been unknown for quite some time.
@kaizal3161
@kaizal3161 4 жыл бұрын
Exactly, and after beating her up and her continuing to do the same shit, you'd guess she's not just trolling.
@gecgec9617
@gecgec9617 3 жыл бұрын
you'd be shocked how much the common person doesn't know
@Methylglyoxal
@Methylglyoxal 3 жыл бұрын
only few ppl with Tourette´s have complex verbal tics like she has and im sure they didnt start out like that for her either
@qxpn9220
@qxpn9220 3 жыл бұрын
I didn’t really know it was a thing until I discovered her streams unfortunately.. I literally thought she was doing all of this weird noises cause that would be the new trend or something but I’m kind of ashamed
@Enourmousletters
@Enourmousletters 3 жыл бұрын
@@qxpn9220 No need to be ashamed. People can't be expected to know every obscure clinical condition that exists out there. I was just surprised that Touretes counts as obscure, hell the edgy kids in my highschool would use it as a snarky excuse for swearing to the teacher, so I just assumed it was common knowledge.
@dannykiernan
@dannykiernan 2 жыл бұрын
Jesus Christ, she's a saint. How on earth can she be so solid after all that? Very amazing. Anita is an inspiration.
@scottmckibbin947
@scottmckibbin947 4 жыл бұрын
The "press f for breakfast" voice was really cool. It sounded exactly like a super precise natural language model.
@01TacocaT10
@01TacocaT10 4 жыл бұрын
Do you know the time stamp?
@scottmckibbin947
@scottmckibbin947 4 жыл бұрын
@@01TacocaT10 kzfaq.info/get/bejne/a6h5qKx_sp-agWw.html
@cappants9077
@cappants9077 4 жыл бұрын
i just love seeing how cool it is that her ticks just slowly stop happening often as the conversation gets more deep causing her to think more deeper to answer. Its just so amazing!!
@ChangeUrAtOnYT.comSlashHandle
@ChangeUrAtOnYT.comSlashHandle 2 жыл бұрын
This video helped me immensely today. I've been at the cusp of change from paralyzing anxiety/agoraphobia and total love and confidence with myself. Things like this give me that extra push to get out of my room and my prison. Thank you truly, Dr. K. You cannot fathom the stress such polar opposites competing for day-to-day domination of my mind can give. But I've been ratcheting hours, days, months of victories and positive changes that a year ago I would've imagined possible only in an alternate reality. That momentum sometimes needs an extra push some days so I don't collapse and shrivel up in my room for hours on end. You gave me that push today and for the foreseeable weeks. Thank you, Dr. K.
@toonmans87
@toonmans87 2 жыл бұрын
What an awesome conversation. The topics resonated with me so much. Sacrificing myself for the sake of others and forgetting how to care for myself is what I've been struggling with for years. These principles might help me as well. Thanks!
@stephenq4238
@stephenq4238 4 жыл бұрын
I believe Anita intellectualizes her way out of experiencing emotions or confronting them during uncomfortable moments. Which would make a lot of sense, what choice does a child who is completely alone have? She's home and wants to learn. Perhaps she spent a lot of time reflecting and thinking. Possibly reading a lot as well. She's giving wonderful answers but typically framed as this, "being able to state your needs is an opportunity for others to indulge in the best of themselves. Sometimes it can feel uncomfortable.. some people feel demanding... Many people in chat feel". When asked, "What is the emotional level, what do you mean by that?" "I think (interesting to note she says, "I think" instead of "I feel") sometimes instinctively the way that we've felt most of our lives remains even if try to reason our way out of it ... we still have to contend with the emotional side of things" In my opinion, she is giving a hint at her struggles by explaining things in a way that separates herself from it so she doesn't have to feel it. And I'm curious if Dr. K spotted this because his next question confronts that a bit more, "What is the emotion? What is the emotion you're contending with?" she takes a pretty long pause. Dr K. "What are you afraid of and what are you ashamed of?" Another really long pause, "I don't know. I guess another way to explain it would be if someone was nice to me..." Again this seems like the mind finding a way to avoid the emotion that can be stirred up in the present moment with Dr K. I think allowing space for the emotions to develop without using the mind's intellectualizing tricks would be super helpful for her. Additionally, and this is something that I struggle with and many others do as well, we have to take accountability for our reasons for avoiding our emotions, shame, and fear. First recognizing where those behaviors come from and how they were nurtured in us, but then letting go of remaining in a sort of victim mindset. I believe that one is even harder to get out of because all of us have plenty of reasons to be in it. Her childhood was absolutely terrible. But she is insanely intelligent. Sometimes it seems that intelligence has taken over her in a sense. Idk these are just my observations 30 minutes in. I love your vids and find it incredibly helpful to watch discussions like these take place so we can see.
@eliasjosephsson3994
@eliasjosephsson3994 4 жыл бұрын
"You are not defined by your challenges, you are defined by how you handle them."
@somewhereisgone
@somewhereisgone 11 ай бұрын
Jesus this helped me so much. Thank you to both of you so much. And it explains why at the beginning, I immediately felt repelled by her. I saw the false things in her carefully constructed personality. The things in MYSELF I'm struggling to fix. "We reject in others that which we reject in ourselves." It was like I saw her serving herself up like a piece of meat. Something I still struggle with. Ive also struggled being in multiple abusive relationships. And, I had a huuuge breakthrough about my relationship wirh myself going back to how I feel about my mother. Dr. K, you are doing amazing things. Thanks to Anita for being brave about sharing so much personal information and for all you both do.
@user-xx6qn9ns7m
@user-xx6qn9ns7m Жыл бұрын
Adding a comment to support this video. Anita is so inspirational, loving, and I've learned a lot from this genuine, very mature and highly intelligent interaction of 2 great souls.
@omega3battyacid878
@omega3battyacid878 4 жыл бұрын
Honestly she is such a cool and interesting person I'd love to be friends with her
@scuffedcinema41
@scuffedcinema41 4 жыл бұрын
SIMP
@daltonmm3675
@daltonmm3675 4 жыл бұрын
what a weird comment
@omega3battyacid878
@omega3battyacid878 4 жыл бұрын
Dalton MM what's weird about it?
@daltonmm3675
@daltonmm3675 4 жыл бұрын
@@omega3battyacid878 because the rest of us just watch for entertainment and can think "oh she seems like a good person" its odd that from her being a good person or interesting you go to friendship, sounds lonely idk esp considering its an internet personality and it was just a 2 hour video
@omega3battyacid878
@omega3battyacid878 4 жыл бұрын
Dalton MM speak for yourself, It's great you have a lot of friends that are cool and interesting, or hell, exist, try not to use that as a podium to judge others who haven't been as lucky with a location and culture that makes people like that far and few between.
@raresmocanu1743
@raresmocanu1743 4 жыл бұрын
This is honestly the first time someone actually inspired me.
@crimsoninterceptor
@crimsoninterceptor 3 жыл бұрын
I get so fascinated when young people are so reflected and introspective. I guess it get forced upon you when you get introduced with great challenges in life. I've pretty much binge-watched Dr.K since it was recommended on my youtube channel, and I'm so happy there is platforms like this for people in need, and a huge factor in destigmatize mental health in today's society. I'm almost 40, and I'm really kicking myself for not focusing more on mental health when I was younger and struggling with AD(H)D.
@patrickmcisaac3142
@patrickmcisaac3142 3 жыл бұрын
this is just so charming and wholesome. These are seriously deep topics that are so important and both Dr. K and Anita are so sincere. i've only just discovered Dr. k and this may be the 5th or 6th video i've seen but I have really enjoyed every one for many different reasons!
@jaxli02
@jaxli02 4 жыл бұрын
I watched this and then just saw a Sweet_Anita stream not too long ago today and she has bookshelves and art on her walls! I'm so proud of her! :D
@roguecrowdjl160
@roguecrowdjl160 4 жыл бұрын
Terrance is straight up savage "Anita i think you should have kids" Terrance: "Breakfast"
@Buhllake
@Buhllake 4 жыл бұрын
This is absolutely incredible. I have been MIND BLOWN there hasn't been a focused group of therapists regarding video games, gamers and just the general online community. Theres a massive group of people that this can help as well as it helps me. I've wanted to help with something like this for so long but felt as if the current world of therapy and psychiatry wouldn't allow for it to be done the way I'd like. Yet here Dr. K is doing just that. Absolutely incredible. This video especially resonated with me as Anita has a lot of similarities to the struggles I've had. Her thoughts were also extremely helpful and interesting. Especially the question of asking why he came to twitch and him trying to help as many people as he can. In a way he is doing exactly the selfless thing he advises against at least it appears so but clearly he knows how to prioritize his own life as well. Finding that healthy balance of relieving suffering and helping as well as keeping yourself intact in the process is truly a masterful and incredible art.
@arthurmaciulis1048
@arthurmaciulis1048 3 жыл бұрын
God damn!!! This video is literally beyond. Thank you both!
@Anna13Tonks
@Anna13Tonks 4 жыл бұрын
This is the first time I'm watching one of Dr. K's videos, and wow that man is good at his job. I wish my therapists and psychiatrists could have conversations like that with me. I just learnt more from a fucking youtube video than I've had from 2 years of therapy.
@Chimponaut
@Chimponaut 4 жыл бұрын
I feel bad for Americans having to pay so much to be able to go to the doctor, people already try to avoid therapy because of shame or whatever, a money barrier as well is not going to make it easier.
@AXharoth
@AXharoth 4 жыл бұрын
gotta learn psychology urself then
@user-nc3gu3wm4e
@user-nc3gu3wm4e 4 жыл бұрын
Never miss an opportunity to bash the US.
@menin84
@menin84 4 жыл бұрын
@@user-nc3gu3wm4e does a connection necessarily exist between bashing a people and their healthcare?
@zionsimanian9310
@zionsimanian9310 4 жыл бұрын
13456 24444 lol give anyone even the smallest opportunity and they will
@cartoonhanks1708
@cartoonhanks1708 4 жыл бұрын
Did you see the guy who was from London amd said he got amataur therapists who destroyed his confidence?
@hmongguyful
@hmongguyful 3 жыл бұрын
I actually took the time to watch this entire session from beginning to end. It was very interesting watching Dr.K working with Anita's issues. It's an eye opener realizing how messed up some people are and can be.
@Murmullitoz
@Murmullitoz 3 жыл бұрын
1:19:57 He totaly unarm her, you can note it on her voice and body lenguage, I follow Anita for a year and shes very dominant almost every stream and so but in this interview he gets her against the wall in a good way I feel he confront her with some topics that can really help her. Great video, it make me ask things about myself.
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