One of the most annoying things I've learnt about using they them pronouns is that I misgender MYSELF

mouses fire green eyes💚😍!! correct with kindness, that’s a great way of thinking about it, i’ll definitely use that in the future🙌

My brother has surprisingly been the most supportive but what if that person is your boss that isn't? Just came out at 30 now that it is safe in the workplace to not conform to a specific gender of birth.

I am Polish and sadly we do not have gender neutral pronouns in our language so I had to stick to the female ones which makes me uncomfortable. I came out only this month and people still struggling with misgendering me :(

I came out to my parents a few weeks ago and they misgendered me and deadnamed me until I came downstairs and on the calendar I found my name and pronouns on a reminder

This came out (pun intended) at the perfect time bc I came out to my mom 2 days ago and she still uses she/her pronouns and is trying to use my preferred name more often but she still struggles

I always find it difficult to use them/they pronouns because we don't really have them in the Netherlands because we say the person's name instead of the pronouns for Enby so I only use they/them when speaking in English But I always try my best to use the right pronouns

Laurenzo: *starts talking* Mouse: *meows* FOOD?! Me: Awww mouse!!

i already got so used to "they", if my ADD ass can manage this then those people claiming it's "too complicated to even try" can too and i appreciate everyone trying their best to be respectful and loving! ;o; also omg i love mouse 🥺🥺💝💘❣💕🥺💙💜🥺💗💖💓🥺

i’m really glad to have found someone like you, you’re really informational, relatable, and inspiring. it feels good to have someone like me who knows my struggles giving advice.💖

I just recently came out as Nonbinary and my mom just said to me: "but you're still my daughter, right?" like gurl no that's the whole point of this. also like she refuses to call me Ash (my new name) and instead calls me my old nickname which makes me really uncumforatable so thats great.

I’m so glad you popped up on my fyp! I’ve been struggling with my family not using my pronouns since I came out about 3 years ago. They won’t outright refuse to, but they go back and forth between saying they’re supportive and getting really angry when I admit that being misgendered all the time kind of hurts. Not ideal, but not the worst. I appreciate your advice 💜

Mouse is so cute (petition for mouses own KZfaq channel?)

I really wish I could show these vids and your tiktoks to my parents so they can learn better (they're supportive and they're trying) and understand better but they don't like me getting advice from "internet sites"

when i correct my sister on my pronouns, she mocks me. when i tell my mom what you told us to tell them she did not care. they all claim not to be transphobic and yet they continue to do these things that so blatantly hurt me. please help? they care about me and it’s not like they don’t love me, i just don’t know how to stop this

no way! I've been seeing your tiktoks on compilations for so long, I finally found your channel! I've been binging your videos all day and just noticed. I'm in middle school, and I just came out to my close family as enby! I'm super excited to come out at school now. Thank you so much for making such amazing and informational content! I sent my mom your channel just because you're so epic, and explain everything so well :)

I wanna start using she/they and I feel like people have defaulted to just using the she/her pronouns when it come to people using more than one set of pronouns

what if my parents straight up tell me they won't use my preferred name or pronouns edit: I just got to the part where you talked about family members not using it.

I just love how positive your videos are! As members of the LGBTQ community and just a human in general it can be a struggle sometimes so it's awesome that I can come check out a video and feel better. Thank you ❤️

I recently came out to my grandparents(I live with them and they are my guardians) and my grandpa has been making jokes when I try and correct them on using my correct pronoun. Hopefully at some point he'll stop, but at least my grandma is doing a little better at correcting when I remind her.

I came out a few months ago. My mum says she is supportive. She then proceeded to say they/them pronouns don't sound natural and don't suit me. Ending with "But don't worry, i'll always support you because you will always be my Beautiful DAUGHTER". My dad doesn't really understand but he supports me anyway. I haven't told him i want to use they/them because im afraid he'll act like my mum. Neither of them know i want to change names or want to wear a binder. I was given a NB flag as a gift from a friend but have to hide it in fear of my mum even though she said she was supportive. They don't use the pronouns and name for my sister but those are for different reasons altogether. (My sister used to do this thing where she would 'come out' for like a week as some random new thing she learned about and then go back and pretend it never happened. She also never corrects people on pronouns so they think its another one of those. Help??

I have a question. Ive been identifying as Genderfluid since December and my brother and sister know. However, neither of them have made an effort to use my preferred pronouns (they/them) how can I bring it up to them in way where it will cause the least amount of conflict or confusion?

This video is so helpful!

It's very frustrating to have to get my family use my name and pronouns I feel like they aren't trying hard enough . This was very helpful thank you so much .

Was the name Mouse supposed to be an oxymoron? Or are you just silly? 😜😂

i loved the positive reinforcement advice! patience is key!

I’ve been a genderfluid lesbian for a little more than 6 months now, and it’s been quite a ride. I’ve just realized that i love they/them pronouns, and don’t necessarily fit into either binary (I went by she/they, but now that’s changed). I’m so glad that i found your channel, you make me feel safe and valid 💚💚

Thank you! These tips have been really helpful with my friends. 💚

I love this video, your videos are helping a lot 💜💜

So uh I wanna come out to my family but I don’t have a new name for myself. I have a whole hunk of ideas though! I want to decide on a name before I come out. Whenever I see one I like, I put it in the notes section on my phone. Creek, Zero, Sam, Alex, Owl, Fern, a r s o n, Jester, Drizzle, Storm, Rain, Grey, Olive, Artemis, Crow, Spyder, Awe, Pluto, Tuesday, Pyro, Bones, Jynx, Forte, Thistle, Cypher, Easton, Soul, Flicker, Tiki, Atlanta, Atlantic, Thunder, Sheik, Socks, Ten, Yin, River, Rush, Green, Lime, Tawny, Orange, and Ortuvious are what I have so far. What do you guys think sounds cool?

u speak italian??? that’s so cool!! my dad is from Sardinia and i speak some italian and i am going there this summer for a month i hope i learn more.

Wow thank you so much you're so helpful and amazing! Sometimes my friends but mostly my family don't use correct pronouns for me and this has really helped me to understand what it's like to be them, to change the way they all talk about me. I'll correct them more probably too now, as well as saying thanks, I really appreciate it when they get it right :) Thank you Laurenzo 💗🏳‍🌈

Heey, i really love your videos!! thank you for making them, but i have a cuestion, what do you do or respond to someone that jokes around of being nonbinary?, i kinda want to come out... but im so scared of people jokes, every time i encourage myself to tell them i stop when i hear them joking like "did you just asume my gender" or "i identify as a unicorn", as soon i hear that kind of things i run to the closet as fast as i can... haha... (i'm so sorry if something is not clear, my english is very messy)

I luckily had a teacher (who was non-binary) tell the head teacher of my school to use my preferred pronouns! Till this day I thank them.

Ello i love your videos so much *im nonbinary and lesbian and i was having trouble with people using my prounouns and that the fact i have a girlfriend and this video helped alot! Which i loved* (but my friend and family still says she her even tho im they them) but anyway i really loved this video keep up the good work *and sadly my friend sad she wont use thye then prounouns u said i dont wanna be friends with her and she didnt understand so i talked to my other friends and there fine with using my prounouns so now i just mainly hangout with my gf and not around my ex friend*

What if I correct nicely but my parent just ignores me and makes it seem like they don’t support even if they said they do

Thank you

When they said "you do have the prettiest eyes" while looking at the camera in the beginning of the video 🥺😍😍 (I got a small crush, leave me alone lol)

What I don’t like is when people say it’s “confusing” to say they/them pronouns. You’ve been using them your entire life, for hundreds of years they/them were words, and we’ve used them in sentences. 🥰Get your act together🥰

This is fantastic advice!

Thank you this was a very inspiring video

I kind of came out as non-binary but i'm comfortable with he/him pronouns.... i told my parents and my aunt(who is the one that mostly raised me and my brother since my parents were busy) it makes me feel bad that they keep calling me as a girl, and even some of my only friends... i remember there was a moment where one of my friends corrected ME because i use male pronouns and "corrected me" into saying it with female pronouns... i truly one have one true friend who is an online friend who really cares about me, and honestly it seems as if he is the only one that cares and respects my choice of pronouns...

Thanks for this Zo! I want to do better and learn how to do introductions. Can you make a short video on all the scenarios people would use ? I can’t find one on youtube? For Example: A heterosexual female might say “Hi my name is-- I go by She Her”. A person who is -- would say “Hi my name is- . I go by-- -.” I also wondered how gender based languages can handle this? Would it mean it change all the conjugations?

I prefer the they/them pronunciation. But I don't even remember using it myself. So I haven't told anyone.

I recently asked my mom to perticipate a pronouns experiment to use my they/them pronouns, I now know that it is a proccess and mom says she will try, but I don" know how I should polightly correct her or how to go about correcting or how many timesd before I come of as pushy. So, how do I respectful correct people about my pronouns after getting folks to use them?

All my friends use she/her with me except one person. He’s not a transphobe but I don’t think he uses anyone’s correct pronouns

I'm almost tempted to start going by specifically it/it's or saying I prefer it/it's pronouns because I go by he/they/it and yet people never call me by it/it's pronouns and when I tell my friends about it and they say that they can call me whatever I want to be called which somewhat frustrates me cause it sounds like they are saying that they will start calling me by it/it's if I ask even though I have said multiple times that my pronouns are he/they/it so they should already be calling me by it/it's in the first place

Kitty cat is so cute 🥺🥺

My name is Sierra and I was wondering if you guys have any suggestions for gender neutral names that are too different from my original name. I don’t want it to arouse too much suspicion. Considering my house is full of homophobic and trans phobic people.

My problem is that it’s been almost over a year since I came out and my parents haven’t used my new pronouns once. And I have corrected them multiple times

How can I make my 3 year old brother to understand that I’m a boy? Should I wait till he’s older? He calls me by my correct name sometimes but I don’t think he understands, should I wait till he’s 4 or 5

I came out as NB to my mom a few weeks ago, but after SO MUCH RESEARCH I realized that I’m gender-fluid (but I’m probably going to come out as a trans girl) how to I talk to my parents about that? Please help me

Bro im tryna be a good frien so I asked my friend "whats your name again?" AND THEY SAID THEIR ASSIGNED AT BIRTH NAME AND I- i just became kinda awkward like: "oh um, uh, nevermind." and I feel really bad about it, because im also trying to figure out a different name for myself but idk bc I was named after my great grandma, and even though I dont really like the name I still feel like I wanna horde it or something like that bc its not bad or anything but just :(

Wasn't it Dan Savage who said "the thing about pronouns is that they're almost always used when you're not in the room...."

I’ve realized I am a demigirl pretty recently and I know I’m comfortable with she/her but I want to try they/them too right now I think I’m gonna ask my best friends I know they’ll use them since they’re both supportive and I might ask my parents but I’m scared even though they’re accepting of me and I know they would want to respect my pronouns but yet I’m still scared and don’t know a reason why? Is that weird

Please someone help today! How do I tell my teachers that I go by a complete different name and pronouns? She to they, olivia to Pax.

Yeah the person who doesn't respect my pronouns is my mom, and it's so hard cause now she's trying to send me to therapy or otherwise i have to leave the house, and I'm trying to be with my online friends but it's just so fucking hard

I came out to my parents but they still won't use my preferred name or pronouns. How do you get them to use those?

I need help I want to come out to my parents as bisexual and gender confused but I’m 11 so I think they just won’t care or tell me stuff I don’t want to hear, but I also want to make it quick and easy because it’s not a big deal and I don’t want it to be brought up because it makes me really uncomfortable to talk about it... Help?

next video I would like: how to disown your "dad" for not using your pronouns and possibly being nb phobic

Watching this 11 months and 29 days after this was recorded.

My older brother was trans for 5 months and I look like I'm copying him bc I'm trans and everyone will think I'm doing it for attention so I'm nervous.

Me when my friends refer to me as a girl (she/her, mother ;u;, gurl, daughter etc) = "I AM NOT A GIRLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Me when my friends say my dead name= "WHO'S (ded name)?! I DON'T KNOW ANYONE CALLED (ded name)!!" I'm too harsh o~o Save me :'D

My preferred pronoun is bread (cuz I love bread sooo much!)

I want people to use they/them pronouns for me but I’m too scared to come out

I'm closeted and my transphobic mom came in while I was watching this. Best believe I turned it off ASAP

I just ask my self WWMD - What Would Margaret Do?

Personally I use neopronouns so it’s even harder

It’s so annoying that I am a boy with long hair I love my hair is always in a braid so yesterday me and my sister and we went inside of the store to get a cake for my grandmother and while we were at check out this guy was like come on ladies do I look like a A girl and plus this always happen at school do you like kindergarten are the boys would say that I’m a girl when the girls actually knew that was a boy and plus one of my crushes I like so I told this kid was a boy and he was like so does a girl dating a girl

we filipinos dont have gender specific pronouns which is amazing

Hi Laurenzo will u ever get a P.O. Box I wanna send u somthing

My friends are pretty good at getting it right except for two, one who is accepting and the other I'm still not sure. The other seems like he's just bothered by it and just went "oh." I'm afraid for my parents and family they won't be able to accept it or atleast not my immediate family(my mom and dad). My mother is a feminine person and wants to force that feminity onto me (i'm afab and I'm not out yet) and just saying that I was nonbinary, I wouldn't get a good reaction (I dislike feminine things on me despite her knowing this already). And especially with my dad who willlingly calls others f*gs and doesn't agree with lgbt. I'm only 14 and out to my friends (or majority) but I hate that I have to wait until I move out and I'm safe to come out to my family.

I told my mom bout my pronouns and she told me that I’m a she you can’t be a they lol

I wanna know Mouse's Pronouns :3

I identify as el presidente my pronouns which you will be required to use are; "His Excellency, President for Life, Field Marshal Al Hadji Doctor Eugene Verster Dada, VC, DSO, MC, CBE, Lord of All the Beasts of the Earth and Fishes of the Seas and Conqueror of the British Empire and ruler of all the earth"

Pronouns are used when you're not in the room and you can't compel people to speak about you in a specific way when you're not around. Of course, you suggest living in an echo chamber where everybody gets their own gender pronouns. How about this, step into objective reality .

Lol. No.

My parents won't use my pronouns not even my brother who is apart of the Lgbtq+

You seem so young, and yet have a PhD. Can I ask how old you are, because i can't really tell by your face?

I feel offended being pressured to use pronouns which are grammatically INCORRECT.

Nobody cares, so don’t bother trying. Try being part of society.

hot to get you to respect me.. stop talking