I used to be someone who overshared EVERYTHING. I had a crush ? I shared it. Feeling down ? I shared it. Felt insecure ? I shared it. I‘m having a argument with someone ? I shared it. Someone broke my heart & trust ? I shared it. It got to a point where this oversharing thing kicked me in my butt. People started to switch up on me and broke my trust by sharing my secrets with people who shouldn’t be in my business. Or people talked shit behind my back but were friendly in my face. Some didn’t even care about what I had to say or what I’m going through. I’m pretty much on my own for a year now and I wouldn’t want to go back.

theWizardliz and Alessia saved my life

oversharing makes people feel so close to the point you see everyone easily disrespect you

Omg volumous hair fits her so well omg

Trust me when I say becoming mysterious and keeping your peace WILL end up making you lose friends. I've lost so many friends and people keep thinking I'm acting emo or smth. This really shows who your real friends are.

Time stamps / lessons: 0:55 - 1. Dont be an unauthentic try hard. 2:12 - 2. Find out WHY you overshare. 4:15 - 3. The truth about gossiping. 7:12 - 4. Know what to share with whom. 8:42 - 5. Give people the feeling that they know a lot about you - when in fact, they dont. 9:32 - 6. Stop sharing your plans, let your success speak. 12:09 - 7. Give people the opportunity to fantasize about you. 14:50 - 8. The benefits of being mysterious. 17:15 - 9. Talk through actions rather than words.

I don't even need to watch this video cuz ppl already don't know anything about me except my name and age but I'm just addicted to Alessia's videos 😭

documenting things that i've learned 1. don't "try" to be mysterious, ppl can tell ur energy whether ur being a tryhard or not 2. when u overshare ask urself, "why do i overshare" 3. never gossip when talking abt someone say only nice things 4. only tell private information/tramuas to close friends, not everyone needs to know 5. don't share things for the shake of sharing ppl, ppl will use it aganist u 6. make people feel like they know u without oversharing 7. don't be the cliche "mysterious girl" talk with people, share interests 8. evil eye is real be careful what u tell ppl 9. never talk abt future plans/goals 10. give ppl the option to fanticize abt u 11. don't give urself up to ppl just bc ur getting to know abt them, let them find out abt u 12. ppl will value u more when ur mysterious 13. actions speak louder than words/the more u do the better 444

People love to talk about themselves. We must find good questions to ask them so that we must not give away our info.

Yup I don’t speak on things prematurely anymore. Keeping things to myself is a great feeling. Now I just do what I want and keep my mouth shut. Side note : keeping secrets should not be labeled as a bad thing. You’re not obligated to tell your friends and family everything.

Yesterday I saw a video which said that God always answer your prayers , you just have to find them. It even said that the God can answer you through boards on roads, in your dreams ,through another person and alot more. I talked about this to God and realized that God gave me an answer while I was watching a movie on TV - "pulling a rope too hard can break it, a rest is necessary to become strong." I felt so amazed. Now, today, I just realized that this video is an answer by God to me through alessia. THANK YOU GOD AND ALESSIA🙏🏻💗🙏🏻

WAKE UPPP, THE QUEEN POSTED!!

It was so hard for me to stop oversharing...as you said, it was my way to cope with not being heard as a child. Shadow work really helped me to acknowledge that and I'm really trying to stop this bad habit. Thank you sm for sharing all your wisdom

I do it because I don’t know what else to talk about tbh.. Especially with strangers. My social skills aren’t very good and I feel pressured to “keep the convo going”, so I end up sharing personal things even though I’d really prefer to keep it private and it doesn’t feel good.

I really had this thing where i overshared everything within a single year just so them to betray me that hard.... Thanks for this i really need to heal this part of myself

The moment you decide on being mysterious get ready to loose a lot of people and friends.

Off topic but her hairstyle, color and makeup style is so perfect. It suits her sooo well

I asked, Alessia delivered. Thank you dear. I needed this♥️🙏🏼

I'll admit that I really needed this. Thank you so much Queen ❤❤😊

Thank you for this lesson.. I’ve stopped gossiping for a while but I have friends that do and it’s been a little difficult to convince them not to and change the topic

she just gets more beautiful every video

She always posts on the right intervals somehow... Every time i need it 😊✨

13:10 this is a common phenomenon among media, headcanons for example are hypothetical imaginations about a certain characters attributes that were not shown.

Your mind is as divine as your physical being. Your words are invaluable to everyone especially in the modern age, thank you for sharing your thoughts

I was watching Liz video and then saw notifications and ran to like it right away🥰queens blessed us on the same day

I overshare because I need someone to listen to my stories and feel known. I wanna pour my feelings and opinions. May be people find it boring that i talk about myself so much

Alessia this makeup look suits you so much !! 🤍

"Do you think you can use smth against me that I voluntarily shared with the world" 8:30 OMG THAT WAS SO ICONIC😭👆🏻

Thank you for this beautiful and true message ❤

OMG I LITERALLY WAS JUST THINKING ABOUT WHEN U WILL POST ANOTHER VIDEO AND ITS HERE! i manifested it omg

Omg!! Alessia believe me I needed this video.😭😭 I was thinking about it lately and YOU LITERALLY POSTED A VIDEO ON IT. QUEEN💫💌

Oh, my! You just mentioned THAT person's name. A sign that I really I need this so much. Thank you. God bless!

15:37 that' true i have one friend and she literally share her personal life really less and not with anyone so when she share smthg with me i actually feel so close to her like it's blessing

THANK YOU LOVE FOR EXISTING. 💜

You are just amazing sis... Thank you so much... Lots of love and good wishes for you

I Love When I Make A Lot Of Mistakes! I Love When Others Talk To Me! 💗

‏am grateful to have you in my life. You are truly my guide. I hope you are always well, Lisa

Life changing video girl, this is a gem 👏🏼.

Gosh, your videos always appear in the correct time

Your timing is so good ❤💕

its confirmed, we are connected , thank you so much for this video🍮🧸love you 🤍♥🎀

The Queen has spoken 👑 I admire you so much. Greetings from Portugal 🌹✨

OH. MY. GOD. THE TIMING !!! 😭😭😭😭😭I'm not even joking I wanted this kind of video so badly

This helped a lot. Thank you your so right.

love the video❤❤❤ this makeup looks gorgeous with your features!!!!!!!

This video is for me really 😢 I can cantrol oversharing thanks for the video sis 💜

She's literally sooo prettyy 💗💗

You look so pretty today 💗 Your hair looks so good 🌷

and everyone watching this are feeling so blessed 💖

wow this is gold, thankyou!

Wow !! First video of yours that I watch, and I absolutely love your personality and your content ✨✨

Her points are valid. I grew up in a dysfunctional family and my father side are the most toxic family to exist. I found no one to trust or ran to. They would badmouthed us alot. Besides this my mother is emotionally abusive who made me more confused.And I grow up to be an oversharer. I just want comfort. I want someone to listen to me. And all I attract was toxic boys and friends. Now I just exist on my own. Be happy in my own life❤

lmao the ending cut off is fitting w the message 🤣💗💗

is it me or she's just glowing more and more everyday ?? omg girl forget about the video you look beautiful!!!

thank you, I really need this

You‘re so inspiring to me. I love your videos 💓

I overshared to feel a sense of validation and reassurance from others, i people please and then get scared of abandonment because i gave and shared so much of my life with ppl i thought i loved

ur makeup is stunning

the queen posted!!! 😌✨🤍

she looks so different in a beautiful way

People TRYING AND BEGGING TO BE MYSTERIOUS WHILE I'M TRYING TO MAKE ATLEAST 1 FRIEND

I had this problem. Oversharing everything with everyone. Something happened I would run and tell it to someone. I learnt it in 2023 that it’s better to not overshare. People just acted like they cared and they betrayed me. They were fake af. Even my “friends” who I unfriended because they didn’t care lol I would say I’m struggling with something and they would brag about him that thing when they saw me struggling with it like.ew. Bye. I’m open to new geniue people but I’m not looking for them I feel happy on my own but had to learn this the hard way. To not overshare and be naive af

I used to overshare SO MUCH like I would post a lot because I couldn't bear the fact of being alone with myself and my own thoughts so I shared a lot.. And in the end, I truly worked on myself for that to stop

I dont like oversharing in my social media cause this reasons that you said ,I greet u from colombia , love your videos mor

I needed this!! ❤

your makeup looks extra good in this video

hey alessia, could you please talk about how to think on your feet in situations your mind goes blank? in social situations, coming up with witful & sarcastic answers in quick time & being able to communicate them eloquently too?

Thank you, Alessia / Persephone ❤❤

Thank you for this valuable information. ❤ You look incredible, I was mesmerised for the whole time I watched your video

You're soo pretty.. love uu and thank you 💗

i loved this video so so much, thank u

Lesson 2 👏🏽👏🏽 I like your advice

OMG MOTHER IS HERE.❤

I needed this one🙏🏼 I love you Alyssa💖

Thank you Queen 👑❤

You look so pretty love. 🧚‍♀️

Finally my angel posted ❤❤

alessia thank you so much for the amazing video 🩵

omg love your content so so much. Love from Vietnam. By the way, your aura is blue ❤ beautiful thank you so much for what you shared

Persephonesmikd once again saving my life

Why didn’t this came to me earlier 😭😭😭would’ve saved me from a lot of troubles

The look, the editing, the thumbnail are perfect ❤

I Love Everyday! And I Love Every Night! ❤️

She’s too beautiful 😍😍😍✨

Bro looks majestic💋

You deserve so much more

So don’t over share or gossip focus on you 🥰

I have a old friend (which I really like) I always talks with her about my life dreams etc i like share things with her even it's like a small thing. But then I find out she about to move a another city and she never say that to me. She's not my friend anymore. I'm really done with this. Over sharing is bad but not sharing too.

Darling you are are glowing❤❤ You look MAGNETICCCC

I love your videos

i’ve only shared too much bc i didn’t know how to say no about answering certain questions

QUEEN I MISSED YOU SO MUCH

She needs more recognition

I overshare because when I'm uncomfortable (MOST OF THE TIME)and also all the reasons you mentioned above(LITTLE BIT)

Honey, even if i wanted to overshare.. there is no one to overshare with 🚶🏻‍♀️

ty mother ❤ !

Oh my god, thank you so much ❤️

alessia god bless you, you're looking so pretty with this new look btw

I like ur content a lot, can u please make a ,, how to not hang on the past‘‘ video! I‘m struggling a lot on this topic I don’t seem to move on from almost everything I’ve been thru

I was just talking about how much I miss Alessia’s videos and she presents us with this ✨masterpiece✨