How to find the truth (of your partner's feelings)

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How to find the truth (of your partner's feelings)

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Here’s the key to knowing how to navigate ‘game’ and cut through dating confusion. Learn how to clear out the conflicting voices of those around you in order to discover the real truth of what you have with your partner.
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@Genevieve8002 6 жыл бұрын

"If you're sleeping with them, you have the right to ask, even if they haven't given you 'a label'..." Totally agree with this!!

@worldshaking0502 4 жыл бұрын

This gave me power. Thanks!

@EN-bw4bd 3 жыл бұрын

Asking is one thing, getting an honest Answer is ANOTHER THING.

@gill426 2 жыл бұрын

That's why casually sleeping around is no good idea in the first place.

@sethtenrec 9 ай бұрын

@@EN-bw4bd I think you missed the point, you can tell you’re getting a dishonest answer. Then it’s time to move on. Maybe that’s the part you missed.

@ldsentertainment3130 6 жыл бұрын

Miss Winter is easily one of the best in her field. There is no lying with her. Just pure logic and pure honesty.

@SusanWinter 6 жыл бұрын

awwww.... thank you!!

@meenanaicker8999 5 жыл бұрын

I've listened to a lot of other coaches but clearly you are the best Susan. You delve into our innermost feelings and thoughts. You are very beautiful and your advice is timeless.

@janefriel6895 5 жыл бұрын

Plus she leaves ego outside the door.

@chibuzonwankwo1793 3 жыл бұрын

I totally agree. Thanks for being straight with us.

@chandlerbryant7996 3 жыл бұрын

yeah, she gave me some great dating advice in a one-on-one a few years ago... love her.

@shakiragregory9339 6 жыл бұрын

This is my motto. No games, speak the truth and listen to my intuition.

@SusanWinter 6 жыл бұрын

That's a fantastic motto.

@EN-bw4bd 3 жыл бұрын

Shakira,.. So you can tell truth from LIES,.

@chiefhood 3 жыл бұрын

The problem is, even with the truth, the whole thing is a game!

@222veronicabean 6 жыл бұрын

you are so right. I learned long ago to listen to that knot in my stomach. its always spot on. ignore it and you wiil be betrayed.

@SusanWinter 6 жыл бұрын

Excellent intuition. yay!!

@chrisbroussard4484 6 жыл бұрын

Susan Winter love seeing u an hearin u

@anaguerrerosholisticwellbe2788 4 жыл бұрын

Ignore it and you'll be betraying yourself

@jennifer8929 3 жыл бұрын

Your advice brings such clarity. The worst feeling is when you have that strong gut feeling and vocalize it (in a calm but honest way)but they responds as if you’re overreacting or crazy.

@show_me_your_kitties Жыл бұрын

Yes

@reynaGG8 6 жыл бұрын

"The hallmark" is that everyone is in a defensive mode and masking their feelings. You move right, they move left on the gameboard. Truth!

@EN-bw4bd 3 жыл бұрын

Reyna,. U R so right,.

@bluejean-1968 5 жыл бұрын

My ex is still chasing me. He pushed me away a year ago. I’ve moved on. Wish he had the confidence to share his feelings.

@kathleenwharton2139 5 жыл бұрын

One men I Loved so much..we had wonderful two years. He was so Honest! I was always telling him how much I loved him..so one day I asked him if he loved me. He thought for a moment and then he said.." you know..I do not know what Love is.". He was so sincere. I really don't think he did! I think there may be many people out there..who really don't know what Love is.

@phoenixrising8007 4 жыл бұрын

I agree, At least some ppl are self aware and honest enough to admit it. An X once said that I have a big part of his heart in what I thought was an honest sincere moment at the time

@princhipessa1969 6 жыл бұрын

I had to stop watching all these videos online to clear my head but love watching you as you are so direct & honest. I value that as I am the same way! I have walked away from my ex’s games (this past week) and concentrating solely on my gut & what the Universe tells me. Thank you 😊

@Rocket9944 5 жыл бұрын

Hi...

@kellystone1535 6 жыл бұрын

Game playing is juvenile behaviour. Its cruel. Its dishonest. Leave game playing to children.

@eatermckinnon4644 5 жыл бұрын

girls seem to like the games. Even though they say they dont.

@Victoria-ix4vr 5 жыл бұрын

@@eatermckinnon4644 No, not all

@Victoria-ix4vr 5 жыл бұрын

Not me....tho I used too..but too much on my plate to really play it

@cozettem8226 5 жыл бұрын

nut so phamous We hate games, the problem is we are too emotionally involved and invested by the time the hot and cold games start and we want the guy we thought we had back.

@mvp272 5 жыл бұрын

100. If people only realise there is no right and wrong in the truth. If the truth upsets you then that's your problem not theirs. You deal with it. And you move on in wich ever direction you choose. But playing games or even lil lies create a completely false reality. You build off the lies. It's probly the most disrespectful act a human can do to another. Decieving someone especialy using there love for you as a weapon against them for your benifit is about as low and as weak as one can get.

@lovlovelle9237 4 жыл бұрын

Ugh! That's the hardest part for me as an empath. Sometimes you just don't want to believe it, smh. I never speak on it either because I feel like they're going to think I'm crazy and keep lying anyway. I just shut down completely. You're right, we should be more outspoken but sometimes just the feeling needs to be enough to walk away too. Most times you won't get the answers you need and deserve anyway. Thank you 🙏💚

@icegolf101 5 жыл бұрын

Wholly...this is so true. That’s why we avoid our instincts because the truth is too damn scary. Thank you!

@JDsyoutubepage 4 жыл бұрын

Thankyou so much. I’ve been looking at this all wrong. I tried this game bullshit and it just confused me. I am a genuine guy who has spent a majority of his life in relationships. The past 5 months I have dug so deep and focussed on myself, physically/mentally/spirituality and come so far. Recently the universe gave me a massive test and brought a girl into my life which has been a struggle, even though I know the struggles we all internal. I have tried all these game methods and felt like crap doing them, always wanting to see a result, wondering if it’s working etc and losing myself into the vortex of overthinking every move I made. It’s not me. I just messaged her asking her about some things, if it scares her away at least I can rest easy knowing that she could not handle me and my deep ness. Thankyou so much Much love from New Zealand 🇳🇿

@hiddensonata5098 4 жыл бұрын

Dang, too bad you're in NZ and not in the US. I'm looking for some deep ness . Most guys can't handle that. I was also very upfront and honest about everything too. Oh well, should have listened to my gut. I'm at the point where I'm getting to be ok with being alone. All these games are not worth it.

@fiae2897 3 жыл бұрын

Why do men use these game tactics, I think its cruel. I trust my gut feeling no matter what.

@PeaceFan1 6 жыл бұрын

Game is FEAR ... SO True Susan!! Which is a Shame ... People go back to what is Familiar to them and if you're trying to create a REAL Relationship (what I am trying to do) with a person who isn't used to being REAL and FEARS Closeness and Intimacy .. It just won't work and I'm trusting my GUT now!!! Thanks for the Encouragement!! xoxo

@SusanWinter 6 жыл бұрын

I'm wishing you well!

@viviancampbell1331 5 жыл бұрын

PeaceFan1 Same thing is happening to me. 😢

@kkeiter 2 жыл бұрын

@@viviancampbell1331 and me

@DONT4GET_SUNSCREEN 6 жыл бұрын

I can not believe you talked about this subject. My gut instinct was telling me my guy was up to no good but he kept denying it and BAM the other woman contacted me a week ago and told me they were involved for SIX MONTHS!!! And we were together for a year!!!!😠 LESSON LEARNED!!

@phoenixrising8007 4 жыл бұрын

YES Always trust your gut The body never lies

@ar1079 5 жыл бұрын

Gut + reading of nonverbal actions = 100% trustworthy feeling. I always read actions subconsciously..

@jmg7467 6 жыл бұрын

The best advice I have ever heard being given. No tips on changing yourself; how to catch a man; how to please someone else or say what they want to hear. It’s REAL. Congratulations, you are a gem.

@suzannedixon5438 5 жыл бұрын

If you are sleeping with a person, you have a right to ask. Of course you do. This is genius. Love your no nonsense videos.

@dolphinrose21 5 жыл бұрын

it takes one person to move forward and make the engagement! so true, dont play games for games, there is no foundation in that for a relationship, its just building castles in the air

@kellyellis8920 6 жыл бұрын

SO incredibly true!! Every time my " gut " feeling has tried to tell me something is " off " about whatever situation , I can say that 100% ( yes , 100% ) of the time , it has been accurate! You fight it , reason with it , and doubt this internal dialogue because you don't want to believe what it's trying to tell you. LISTEN!!! My gut said " he's cheating "... and he was , it said " this is not the job you'll be happy in "... and it was a bad fit..." something feels off with this new friend of mine , even though she seems nice "... she's hitting on my husband... Intuition is always right!

@kaylasheppard7746 5 жыл бұрын

How do you tell the difference between anxiety and a gut feeling?

@zepherreload 5 жыл бұрын

I did trust my gut feeling when my wife was late from work I asked her out right what was going on she ended it there and then few weeks later she seeing someone new lol turns out I was right from the start, I always trust my gut and I'm always up front and honest some don't like it but its who I am.

@breakingbombast4439 6 жыл бұрын

You are Right! Since my divorce, my gut was the only thing I felt I could trust, and I have grown in greater confidence and wisdom everyday. Intuition is the way to go for every aspect in life, it is a gift; receive it!

@kathrynd4912 4 жыл бұрын

That gut... that instinct... Yes, powerful. Believing in it over the fact that even they may not know themselves and what they do... it’s scary. I truly believe actions mean more than words... those actions speak volumes

@FirehorseG 6 жыл бұрын

Cannot believe your timing on this subject. You're the only coach I listen to and feel is the healthiest, most respectful advice. I feel in tune with you and your values. On the surface, my loved one seems like a runner... But my gut clears away all this situational rubbish . I've been following my heart lately and it feels wonderful. Thank you. 💜

@SusanWinter 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your great commentary, Gill.

@angeladallimore8079 4 жыл бұрын

Yes Thats the secret Trust your gut

@daniellamoreno3616 3 жыл бұрын

Agreed with this!!

@jcr-studios 5 жыл бұрын

I learned this the hard way after finding out my partner had been sleeping with other women for over a year. Kept telling me “honey, of course not... I’ve won the lottery with you.” Heartbreaking lesson

@ameloucorazoncariaga4789 5 жыл бұрын

Jacqueline Rimmer Z.

@eatermckinnon4644 5 жыл бұрын

did you still stay with him?

@richardeliasjames5190 5 жыл бұрын

Jacqueline its same happened with me but I leave her because if the someone betrayed so that is not good.

@theshield1613 5 жыл бұрын

i thank God I'm a loyal honest guy. there are 1% or less loyal men out there , finding a loyal man is extremely hard

@eatermckinnon4644 5 жыл бұрын

@@theshield1613 come on man!! Stop tryin to sell yourself so hard!! 1%???? Really?? So you're saying 99% of us are scumbags, cheats and lies????? Whatever. lol

@rachaelella6395 4 жыл бұрын

BOOM! Thankyou 🙏 When your gut is telling you one thing, yet their actions tell you something else

@milinamikovic7314 5 жыл бұрын

„... you know when you’re sleeping with them you do have right to ask!...“ OMG Susan! You are amazing! 😍

@seymourelykeley 4 жыл бұрын

Milina Mikovic just because you ask doesn’t mean they’ll suddenly have an epiphany and begin spilling the beans... people don’t change

@EN-bw4bd 3 жыл бұрын

Having the right to ask don't mean you will Get honest Answers from those who are bent On telling lies for a defence,.

@miskasykor 4 жыл бұрын

Game is a weakness..so true! Thank you Susan.

@NW-pt8zz 2 жыл бұрын

I ran a game on a girl in the beginning and when I started to show my true self, she backed away. I was hurt but I realized she fell in love with my game and not me and I brought that onto myself.

@albertbaza2767 5 жыл бұрын

Listening to you puts me at ease. It's almost as if you are in my presence, consulting me one on one. Everything you say, describes exactly what what I need to hear to help me in my situation.

@Butterfly-vg4qp 4 жыл бұрын

I avoided someone I really really liked in the past because of fear. My solar plexus clenched up because I was unprepared for a conversation. It was an awful feeling but it was definitely because of a lack of confidence and not lack of feeling that created that

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@kpopangel 6 жыл бұрын

You're like the big sister that I've never had. Thank you for sharing your ever so wise insights! Merry Christmas to you, Susan!

@SusanWinter 6 жыл бұрын

That is so sweet! Thank you for saying that.

@61radius 4 жыл бұрын

So true. Time tells all too. Sometimes just waiting will reveal someone’s real intentions.

@ritagini1067 4 жыл бұрын

@theotheo590 5 жыл бұрын

susan im 30 yrs old very smart introvert person and watched a lot of get back togeter coaches, ur by far the best one and ur saying very very smart stuff that i used to spend days thinking about lol, u have such wisdom and experience i wish i had tht also

@dwayneheeter 4 жыл бұрын

I think why play a game, It's all too confusing as it is. Great stuff!!! Thanks Susan!

@terrencecooke3216 6 жыл бұрын

Go with your gut! So profound and existential. Great advice, and not only for dating, but for making all sorts of important decisions. Learning to trust ourselves is the theme here. Thank you Susan. You are a breath of fresh air. GOD bless.

@SusanWinter 6 жыл бұрын

Same to you Terrence!

@nonameyesname6181 6 жыл бұрын

Susan u saved me from pain All stinky stuff on line about give space use phrases. For man It is normal for man to runaway U r absolute . no game . Power to be straight

@TelaDenaBeautyRN 6 жыл бұрын

Love your videos and advice! They helped give me permission to just be myself and trust that those that want the relationship that I want will be on board and weed out those who don't. The game is exhausting being myself is easy. Thank you!!😘

@SusanWinter 6 жыл бұрын

Oh how I love reading commentary such as yours!!

@alicesutton559 2 ай бұрын

I totally agree. If you're sleeping with someone, you have the right to ask what's really going on. Mixed messages don't help. People need to be true to themselves and overcome their fears so they can move to the next level in their relationships.😊

@jesuscervantes3442 4 жыл бұрын

I had to write because there is some my bad information especially with dating. Some will have you try hot and cold and some punishing the partner with games. Its soo confusing but with the gut and some body language it makes a great barometer. Thank you for a real video!

@chandlerbryant7996 3 жыл бұрын

Susan is just so WISE.

@JuicyFruityify 4 жыл бұрын

Never forget the first time I really heard my intuition. A girl I'd been dating for around a year, one day suddenly decided to behave like we had never been dating, she was just suddenly, indifferent. I approached her with the intention of asking 'why?'. When I moved closer to her, my body, indeed my whole being just felt like I had to get away. It was just a feeling of 'run!'. It was so peculiar but I listened to that feeling and immediately walked in the opposite direction. A sensation of pure elation washed over me after that. Of course her doing that broke me. But after a ton of inner work, years, I can catalogue a hefty list of complete deal breakers that I was completely ignoring with her. (low self esteem, manipulative, withholds, emotionally avoidant, non-communicative, devious, a taker not a giver.) My conscious mind was swept away in the 'beautiful girl loves me' thing but my unconscious mind was keeping check and let me know in no uncertain terms to run! Have you ever had a similar experience?✨

@moons4363 4 жыл бұрын

Yes😊

@seymourelykeley 4 жыл бұрын

JuicyFruityify you were just an option to her and a better one had come along. Women habitually keep as many as they can in orbit and pick the one who best serves their purposes. To women it’s the offer on the table that matters the most NOT the person

@emanaturalsaus 3 жыл бұрын

Yes with a man

@naturalnubieuk2436 5 жыл бұрын

I know exactly what you mean Susan. It's so true in today's society. Most guys I date are so afraid to be real and doubt me believing I'm not when I'm just trying to be honest and open. Sometimes the game pulls you in even when you don't wanna play...

@pris_pris 6 жыл бұрын

I LOVE your videos. Always on point. Please keep them coming. Your confidence radiates.

@unicornsnowflake954 2 жыл бұрын

I am so feeling this girl! She is so right- our gut is our superpower. We can read situations better than we know. Our gut knows the answer to what is happening. One constant: how we process information.

@evaantal2854 6 жыл бұрын

How do you know it’s a gut feeling or paranoia ?

@cottagegymfun 5 жыл бұрын

Imo initially it is difficult to tell. But overtime clarity comes. But the point is by doing, responding to what our gut tells us, we learn what to trust.

@eatermckinnon4644 5 жыл бұрын

thats true!! could be paranoia. Some peoples instincts radar is just really off

@darkoshmarko 5 жыл бұрын

Eva Antal yeah I have absolutely awful anxiety and OCD and perceive everything as a negative or as a threat so it’s really hard to tell what is my gut and what’s just in my head ☹️

@ClassicRockDJdotcom 5 жыл бұрын

@@darkoshmarko i Can identify with you on this. And as a result I become my own worst enemy I end up self-sabataging and I messup what could have been good relationships. It sucks. :(

@darkoshmarko 5 жыл бұрын

ClassicRock4EVER ugh I’m so sorry ☹️ I hope it gets easier for both of us ❤️

@sunnychic7414 6 жыл бұрын

It's only been this last year, I've gained enough confidence, power, security and really self-love to stop playing games. I wasn't even aware of the games that I played until I stopped. It wasn't a conscious manipulating, so much as it was a deeply ingrained pattern. My alter-ego would come in on automatic and take over and be manipulative and game playing and it was only because of fear, pure fear. I felt that this alter-ego would protect me from my own pain. Again, this was very subtle and not apparent to others, or even myself, until recently. It was to keep real intimacy at bay because that felt too scary

@coolqh 4 жыл бұрын

"you have the right to ask, even if they haven't given you a label". Well that's really something I needed to hear.

@whisperingwind7730 6 жыл бұрын

Susan, you are Amazing!! Thank you so much for this video!! I do trust my gut in this "game playing" relationship I'm in. He likes to turn it around on me as if I'm just being unreasonable or emotional but inside I know, I feel that things just aren't right. I needed to hear this. Thank you for sharing your insight and wisdom on this subject. Much love~ ❤️

@SusanWinter 6 жыл бұрын

"turnarounds" are a commonly used psychological tool. It makes you doubt yourself, and somehow you end up being in the wrong for expressing yourself. This game works until you see through it-and Whispering Wind...your vision is clear.

@sharikleinman9278 6 жыл бұрын

Susan, do “runners” ever come back and stay?

@whisperingwind7730 6 жыл бұрын

Susan Winter You're so Awesome!!! 👍🏻💗☺️

@phoenixrising8007 4 жыл бұрын

YES The only validation we need to trust is our own ✌️

@abcdefghijklmmm930 3 жыл бұрын

Hi Susan. First, thank you. You are the only one that tell people not to sell their dignity and integrity in the name of "love". That's not love. True love is the one that has personal values and principles not diluted but Incorporated. Last, thank you.

@Isabelle.B 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you Susan. I always trust my guts and am very grateful to hear from you that it is right to do so.

@SusanWinter 6 жыл бұрын

Excellent

@day_dreamer_ 6 жыл бұрын

Yes Yes! Very well articulated, thank you Susan. I have actually felt this deepening connection and trust with my instincts recently and was just discussing it yesterday when you posted this video, so very synchronistic. It is very empowering....it has driven me nuts to feel things are off and be met with dismissal and denial when I address it but I think when you deepen your confidence in what you know inside it doesn't matter what games another is trying to play, it will unravel. My instincts were put to the test during a crazy wild fire event and served me very well in navigating through that crazy, destructive situation. Following your gut can save your life.

@SusanWinter 6 жыл бұрын

Hi day dreamer. Thanks for sharing the story with us.

@guyjones8605 4 жыл бұрын

This is one of if not THE best videos i have seen about self conciousness into a relationship..staying honnest in your head and heart is the only way to be the same toward your lover.. Well exposed Mylady!😘

@crawfish069 6 жыл бұрын

By being honest with myself and my dates about what I needed, I got fewer dates but my dates I did have got soo much better, and because I stopped lying to myself and holding myself back, my happiness sprang up so much higher. And I respect women who are honest with me.

@roseh7135 6 жыл бұрын

I’m so glad I found your channel 😌

@xoarmybabe24 6 ай бұрын

Girlllll ~ yessssss!!! 🎉🎉🎉 Speak on Game ~ I’ve been thinking on this topic for a while and you nailed it!

@gabrielleevans4168 6 жыл бұрын

I’ve been watching so many youtubers on here to do with relationships and you’re the only person who’s really gotten through to me! Thank you so much , I’ve been an emotional wreck and my heads starting to get that little bit clearer thanks to you

@angelsamson5486 6 жыл бұрын

I just know he is right for me the connection is mental Just when he doesn't communicate what he wants Like you said you don't know which direction to go in x

@hectoramador6397 4 жыл бұрын

For the first time in my life, I am happy I have no game. I am real. I have watched over ten of your videos, each more informative than the last. This one spoke to me so well. Thank you.

@TheShanshuprophecy 6 жыл бұрын

Have watched a stack of your vids & am well overdue to say thanks for taking the time to offer them .. 😊

@SusanWinter 6 жыл бұрын

I really appreciate that- thank you!!

@andimorrow7296 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Susan for The "trust your gut' approach. I have a boyfriend that is hot and cold but I know that he truly loves me and I love him. However, he has been hurt before and has trust issues and sometimes can be insecure. I know that he is loyal to me and I am loyal to him but but he tends to throw little roadblocks in the way at times. But my mistake has been resorting to seeking out different coaches, friends and the advice of family. Bad idea! ridiculous. Because all I have gotten from the feedback of others are different opinions. What I'm trying to say is a person can go crazy trying to follow everyone else's advice. So thanks again for your advice about trusting your gut. I think I am going to try this one out

@marienmocka8397 2 жыл бұрын

I would pay gold to have you near me. But I dont have it. Your videos have helped me a lot. What you say in this video sounds like some else through you speaks to me. I feel home. I feel safe. Thank you for reminding to trust ourselves.

@tracykennedy4589 5 жыл бұрын

"You have the right to ask"...love it...trusting my gut more and more...it's usually correct xx

@silverlining5796 4 жыл бұрын

Yes yes yes! *game is the outgrowth of weakness*... Never such a truth was told so simply.

@TheTrioGCN 5 жыл бұрын

Omg. You are so amazingly insightful!! This ties in with so much of all the stuff I'm learning, and what I call it is inner being guidance. It all makes absolute perfect logical sense!!

@reptoidcommand1060 5 жыл бұрын

Dearest Susan... You are amazing !!! Seen perhaps 7 or 8 of your videos and I am awestruck by your ability to articulate with such grace, clarity and beauty. The depth of your understandings are rather incredible. And of course.. your photogenic delivery is simply exquisite ! Can I say you're adorable...u are !!!

@AngelFriend911 6 жыл бұрын

You have my mentality that’s y I like this channel. You tell it like it is.

@sarahb8363 5 жыл бұрын

If something doesn't feel right then totally ask the person outright...your right..you will get clarity and why not? If the person you are with is happy and open to answer your questions then you have a good one! If they are sketchy and vague..then why would you want a sketchy vague person in your life? Open and honest communication is what we all need to learn to do..I'm learning it the hard way..but it has tought me a lesson.

@philipcrocker 2 ай бұрын

Thank You Susan. It is a real blessing to hear such wisdom from you. Appreciated...

@toniharris6617 4 жыл бұрын

I love him. Ive neverrr...played games with my man. Game doesn't get real. I'm always straight up with my guy. ❤️.

@ritagini1067 4 жыл бұрын

@valbonaivezaj140 3 жыл бұрын

I do all of this! Straight shooter! I haven’t wasted much time in dating because I’ve been able to decipher the bullshit! Being genuine and honest will filter many people and get you to your true love quicker. No games 🙌🏼 and if someone is playing them, they don’t like you enough!

@pizdit 6 жыл бұрын

Watching your videos has given me a great deal of insight into certain areas of relationships that I'll be working on. I thank you Susan, I appreciate the videos more than you know.

@SusanWinter 6 жыл бұрын

Mr. Aetherium what a lovely comment - thank you so much.

@mba7454 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Susan Winter! I love your style and eloquence and just can not get enough of your beautiful voice and watching you talk.God bless you.

@chrischris2310 4 жыл бұрын

That’s why I appreciate Allan Roger Curry. He’s apart of the manospher, pick up artist community. He speaks about being direct. He calls it ModeOne Being straight forward is everything!

@luulips 6 жыл бұрын

Oh yes indeed. My gut has been telling me something about this guy ever since I’ve started dating him. I’ll be having a chat soon with him. I’m disappointed that he didn’t want to continue what he appeared to be. My gut told me all along that something was off therefore not allowing me to get a real connection with him. I believe a lot of it was game on his part. I was totally real maybe that’s why I could feel his faking so clearly. I believe he saw me as such a challenge that’s all. Sadly I feel hardly anything for him anymore. What little I was starting to feel has faded I’m afraid. I’m so glad I was straight with him it has been indeed powerful and strengthening. He’s still just texting and sadly I don’t even want him to do that anymore. I don’t wanna hear from him at all. I’m gonna have to talk to him soon. Besides that my guy I fell off with earlier this year has been trying hard to get my attention. I finally sent him a smiley face. He was immediately in my dm chatting and yes I’m happy about it. He’s always been great at that and calling me without hesitation. He knew my love language lol. I’ve missed him and believe he’s missed me. I believe our main issue was our huge age difference. Its time we talked about the elephant in the room. We’ll see how it goes. 😊

@lovelyjoy.01 6 жыл бұрын

luulips I just went through the same, now I have changed my number and keep moving forwards, I was a challenge for the guy I was with and I tried it for a year to only findout he is really NOT the guy for me or my future husband and at this point I don't even want his friendship no longer either , the sex was great but I've had better😂😂😂😉

@luulips 6 жыл бұрын

Kesha Powell 😂😂😂 I know that’s right! But they think they’re all that. Not!

@WorldOfARandomVegan 6 жыл бұрын

luulips Are you older or younger than the guy who has been messaging you again?

@luulips 6 жыл бұрын

WorldOfRandomStuff I’m older than he

@arcticbliss2330 6 жыл бұрын

Kesha Powell if I think back to to guy that gave me restless nights and no relationship investmestment, as he was mostly unavailable, it was simply and only sex that was the incredible and only thing, like you iv had better too. He knew my weakness. I prayed so hard to get him out of my system to become real again. I was his fantasy when he needed a diversion from his routine only. But clearly we spoke about our blue prints, and our blue prints were different from each other. I have learnt to get to know a person better with serious conversations about many things and about relationships before becoming sexually involved. Because we women, once we are sexually involved, we don't see thing from a focus than when we have not yet slept with a man. The th I g is when we sleep with a man, we take in their spirit. We actually do as receive them into our bodies. And that changes our focus a bit and makes us attached and serving to our men. The reason for this is that God made women like this. But in a modern relationship where marriage may not be at its core in a new relationship, it gets conflicting especially if the man has no interest in investing in it. Have you ever noticed how you may have gone into a relationship for sex only but you got hooked. Because as women we take in their spirit during intimacy. We need to stay focused for a while and not have sex until we are satisfied with a lot that we find out about the man. And no games. Games are harmful. Truth will always manifest in the end and the gamer gets busted or have destroyed so much through manipulation tactics. His tactics will invariably be exhausted. Wishing you a great journey as you trust your instincts and not shove them aside to accommodate someone else.

@nusraatmahzabeen8888 4 жыл бұрын

Yes every single Word you said It's true... It's always happen with me.

@bradmcewen 5 жыл бұрын

Quoting myself 'Nobody else has been able to have a meaningful relationship with her but I know I could' ..... Yea....my gut eventually was puking out toxic narcissism. Your right. I didn't need a degree. Just researched from those who do.

@jenroxx741 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for all your honesty, Susan. It really helps simplify all the confusion.

@dearsunshine5459 6 жыл бұрын

I just love her I LOVE HER fantastic!

@rubaa.3297 6 жыл бұрын

Here's a question, Susan: how can one tell the difference between gut feeling and wishful thinking? Sometimes I feel like the distinction between the two is blurred.

@shubhangeeshelke7836 4 жыл бұрын

Thats so true

@AggroGaming 4 жыл бұрын

Easy, watch the body language, if this girl str8 sees u everyday stares at u stares away does all this extra body movement wish is unnecessary, go up and say wasup? Seriously now if u don't see all these and she's just walking around normal and wishful think that she likes u, don't do it

@frankovera7553 4 жыл бұрын

What makes it blurry, your gut feeling or your wishful thinking? Wishful thinking is only a hope not affected by the situation. But you gut is a direct consequence of the events in real time. Wishful thinking is not a way to judge but in cases you want to try everything before you end the relationship. But the gut feeling is a real indicator. A wish is the desire for happiness, we all have that desire, but it's not a indication.

@1chienandalou 4 жыл бұрын

For several months they are going to be blurry. It’s how our brains work. You need to spend time for the dopamine rush and oxytocin buildup business (even if you don’t have sex, cuddling, falling in love etc can still have it going on) to settle. And go through experiences with someone as well. In the meantime, don’t make major decisions and make all decisions rationally. (BTW, I have had a lot of male friends through my life and in my experience, this is how they operate, and also give advice to each other, including me. HTH)

@1chienandalou 4 жыл бұрын

Basically a lot is in the eye of the beholder. And the first few months of love can be a very distorted lens.

@denisea.9536 6 жыл бұрын

empowering

@athanasiatzr385 6 жыл бұрын

Absolutely true ! I was having a wierd feeling about my ex when he was absent minded and it proved he was having an affair ...my gut knew it !!

@nagihangot6133 4 жыл бұрын

Did he admit to it or are you just guessing, sweetheart?

@magoorides5875 2 жыл бұрын

In New. Suzy is a Professor, a terrific one!

@why4299 4 жыл бұрын

See. That's me. I tell it like it is. It's refreshing too when somebody else does. It's really not that difficult to be honest

@ritagini1067 4 жыл бұрын

@lorriekelly964 5 жыл бұрын

Yes. You're. Hitting. The. Nail. On. The. Head .

@vipendrasingh5608 5 жыл бұрын

You're an amazing person Susan. Truly amazing!

@slimshadey73 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your validation. I am a direct and straight shooter but I think dating has disheartened me and sort of screwed me up in the head. Sometimes I feel that dating is not for me because I refuse to play the game. Being straight up doesn't always work in my favor. Sometimes people aren't ready for the glaring truth or don't know how to handle it. I will continue to look into my own behavior and communication, because that is all I can do. Thank you again for another wonderful video :)

@ghadag8128 6 жыл бұрын

Brilliant vidio susan you simly end any confusion , thank you .

@Genevieve8002 6 жыл бұрын

Wow! Sounds so simple, but yet it is very profound...Trust my gut. I keep telling myself that I'm going to do more of that when it comes to dating and meeting guys that I like.....Microgestures, I like that!

@maryemmanuel4725 6 жыл бұрын

I love your videos Susan...they always get to me at the right time. Thank you

@SusanWinter 6 жыл бұрын

thanks Mary.

@john_dren 5 жыл бұрын

But when “our gut” tells us something is going on. That does not help us with things we do not control. Whenever I felt that, I authentically mentioned it but she would either get angry for me “doubting her”, or simply give an excuse. No matter what we do, it seems that the partner’s perspective would eventually be decisive in the outcome.

@eatermckinnon4644 5 жыл бұрын

if she playing you. Nothing you can do but leave or stay with her feeling confused allllll the time

@evernynemarions567 4 жыл бұрын

Sounds like my situation

@chilloften 4 жыл бұрын

Ewe. I’d been looking for her to reassure & reaffirm and watching things for my self.

@EN-bw4bd 3 жыл бұрын

J.buso. That's just how it is, sorry to say,.

@johndonaldson3619 4 жыл бұрын

If you're always in tears you're dating a onion -RUN!

@corrymanners6963 4 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣

@sincitybarbie8766 3 жыл бұрын

Bahahaha. Gonna remember that

@cesarbrown2074 5 жыл бұрын

She is a jedi master

@brownstoneres9467 6 жыл бұрын

That was an awesome pep talk!! Really! When the world is so crazy around us, our intuition is the only thing we can hold on to... But it is amazing how people have become experts at poking their own eyes and lying to themselves--bcs of fear!!

@beejj6190 6 жыл бұрын

I will add to the excellent 'gut' advice, lol. You also NEED...self-esteem set at a high level, as that crucial element will see you 'act' upon your feelings (rather than end up mugged off / abused or even ruined! ) On another thread i mentioned meeting a BPD 'waif' i.e. covert, not raging. So you will get withdrawal / silent treatment once they feel they are getting too close. Now, i am experienced enough to be well aware of the general personality type, but this version was my first, and what an experience! Once I started acting upon my gut things fell apart pretty quickly. Most bizarre were her attempts to keep me engaged while keeping me at distance. Clearly our connection was still good but seeing me caused a load of issues. i.e. Very likely compromising who she was next teeing up, lol. Her ability to swerve direct questions was almost fascinating and two agreed meetings (really for me to call her on her BS) were cancelled. Instead, i did that over a number of texts. After 5 days silent treatment she called in to say she had seen a doctor for depression but had to run into work and we could talk later. Just incredible how far she wanted to manipulate to see how well I was prepared to 'play in the sandbox'. Ultimately, she turned into one of the most insidious game-players I know. Bearing in mind the face she initially brings is shy, lacking in self -worth ...only to slowly transform into something preternaturally manipulative / extremely ruthless over her needs - she just cannot talk on any level that exposes her BS. I wish her well, lol. SMH.

@SusanWinter 6 жыл бұрын

That's true. Self-esteem is key. That's how we get clear answers (not fantasy or delusion). Thanks for that.

@jjuniper274 6 жыл бұрын

Beej J There are people who don't game play, and don't try to take power. I had a 26 year marriage and we were open and honest with each other. It was a glorious feeling. Sadly, he passed away, but I am hopeful that he was not a one of a kind. He (we) was/were so mature for his/our age. We met at 19 and had an adult relationship from the beginning. No games. It can be done. ❤️❤️

@beejj6190 6 жыл бұрын

Jen - Bless you. You were incredibly fortunate! : ) I just see the human race has never been more afflicted by entitlement through to downright psychopathy. You truly need to do your 'due diligence' (and be v.aware these days) as the masks many people come with can stay there for months before the big reveal. I say, know their background, who their friends are and watch for the red flags - they will always be there fairly early on. I don't say this as thinking i am perfect at all, just saying I know i can be loyal and am at the very least empathetic to respecting a person over a break up. x

@gabrielmaximus6447 5 жыл бұрын

I did not know that was a sign of BPD ignoring direct questions, I've known two guys like this and then lies that get brushed under the rug by them as meaningless and get offended/angry when they get called out. Whilst I do/did avoid meeting people because of my PTSD when I was finally ready with someone who agreed to wait right in the beginning suddenly games started and ignoring every problem I have and seeing it as me being defient and controlling than fear from PTSD. I constantly come across men that instead of validating PTSD think it's some political decision I made to get back at men 😐

@evelynbaron66 2 жыл бұрын

This has to be my ALL TIME favorite of all these great videos!

@dorisdelaney5664 6 жыл бұрын

I love your videos. You’re so straightforward. Can you do a video on older men that we are dating long term who seem overly interested in the best interest of a much younger woman under the idea of helping her.