True :(

🥲

That’s true, and I love it!!

I mean. That just means you’re logical in the placement of your human body. Why leave your room if you have basically everything you need in there and humans tend to be the most dangerous thing on the planet? Should we leave our rooms just because not doing so makes others think weirdly about it? I don’t think so. If you don’t have a reason to leave your room - probably don’t do so. ~INTP

@@AK-jt7kh yeah...seeing that the reality is often disappointing compared to the ideal image we have in our head is...daunting. 😞

Big facts

Completely agree with the notion that 90% of me is hidden to the outside world. Which is possibly why I enjoy my own company and consider myself my best friend. Edit: that’s not to say I don’t have real friends. Of course I do, but they don’t understand me to the level I understand myself or even to the level I understand them.

but the people that have an insight on the internal parts of us should consider themselves lucky :)

I know more INFPs than any other type, so I am pretty good at spotting them

I completely agree.

Thisx1000. Salient and poetic.

Whew

lol

💯

It was perfectly stated

Facts my infp homie tried to explain himself to me and another friend for like 30 mins and we just had to stop him

@@daq_w lol

I can try but it would just be a caricature of myself.

Not necessarily true. I know myself inside and out and can describe everything. However, I'm not usually comfortable talking about myself like that, and I feel that actually getting to know me or reading my writing is a better way to understand me (or anyone) as an individual than providing a broad summary that could potentially apply to a lot of people.

True.

"A hug bigger than necessary"... how to spot an ENFP in 2 seconds. 😂

Heck yes! [You have acquired 1xINFP in your gigantic hug]

hellooo a really warm hug back thank you dear 💓💓

Im an INFP and i have an ENFP friend and he is literally exactly like this

☺️☺️☺️ I love all my friends so much for dealing with me when I disappear and always being there when I pop back up.

For the most part I agree with this

@@spring7643 every INFP I've met I have had a romantic interest in varying degrees

May I ask what type you are?^^

@@forevah007 I'm an entj

wait till you meet me

Good for you, I have a similar thing where I am on good terms with tons of people but have no clue why them, my closer friends, mentors, and family seem to like me

From my own experience as a 25-years-old INFP guy, that sounds about right. The only times I've seen something really dumb brewing up, I took a step back and just watched whatever was about to happen while making some effort to de-escalate but mostly just being curious as to how badly it was going to flop. And from what I've gathered from the Internet, it seems to be a pretty common INFP characteristic to be the wise but detached friend that is going to stay out of trouble (mostly) and council you if you're willing to listen but that will definitely let you fail to learn whatever lesson can be learned from it. TL;DR: I wouldn't see a typical "observer" type get in much trouble to be honest.

@@Akranejames As a 33-years-old INFP, in my teens and even now, my friends will left me out whenever they are going to attempt some really stupid things.

The same can be said about INFP girls. I was an observer of dumb behaviors rather than participant.

@@angelagoodwin5758 ​ Yep, same here. Even as a teenager and college student, I was not one to get in major trouble. Being around that kind of behavior even to this day is unsettling and one of the reasons I don’t like to go to bars and clubs, for example.

​@@angelagoodwin5758 SAME LMAO

Thank you. I needed to hear that.

You too! Ty

thank you

THANKS :D

:)

INFP.. this touched really close to my heart. I love you ❤️ INTPs are some of my favorite types aswell. I’m going to go think about this for the rest of the day.. thanks lol

I LOVE YOU GIRLLL. Also yes we are totally ok with the ghosting thing cause we do it 2. As long as we know your not mad at us and that you need time away we are totally fine with that!

I was reading this article on resilience and infj and infp were on the top of the list. But they had very different type of resilience, the infj type is more like a Rock, where it takes so much to break them. On the other hand infps are something like a spring where they easily get pushed down under pressure but they come back up again and again and again.

INTP are also so methodical and meticulous in explaining complex topics like this one. Thanks for you intelligences and conciseness

i must be a weird infp then, cos i tend to cut ties with people when they ghost me too hard. and i have recently done that to my intp friend i really liked. its ok that she was busy and didnt always have time, sometimes we didnt speak for a while, but when she would constantly ghost me MID-conversation (we only knew each other online,so we were texting) when i really needed/wanted to talk, I just had enough of it at some point.

Happy birthday!

happy birthday!!!

Thanks, everyone.

Lá breithe sona duit!

@@angelbear_og Cool that u know Irish Gaelic.

Damn now I'm excited. What's up with people in the comment section giving me so much hope and determination? Stop that!

I'm INTJ and I also struggle with the disappearing for too long and then feeling too awkward to reappear. Not sure if I should apologize for the absence; make an excuse (sry imma iNTroVerT lol!); or just pretend like nothing happened!

@@angelbear_og Aw yes, I get stuck on which route I should take when I’m ready to reappear, so I usually choose the trusty option, keep hidden so I don’t have to make a decision 🙃 lol! Luckily my inner circle understands/accepts this side of me and they don’t make a fuss or fish for an apology, so I’m quite grateful 🙏.

@@elizabee Nice. My inner circle is ... basically a point.

@@angelbear_og I think it depends on the circumstances under which you last interacted with the person. If I know there were several texts & phone calls I never responded to, or I was supposed to call them back but never did, then I will apologize ... briefly. Don't belabor the point and draw too much attention to the negative. Sometimes when I apologize people don't even remember what I'm talking about lol. But I'd use their reaction as a guide: If they say NBD or don't care (and seem genuine), quickly move forward. And if they are upset about your absence (and this person actually means something to you), well, I think you owe them an honest explanation. On the other hand, if there aren't any loose ends like unfulfilled obligations or broken promises looming over you as the elephant in the room, then I see no reason why you shouldn't act as if nothing happened. I have friends I can go years without seeing and I can't possibly imagine guilt tripping them over not talking to me. I mean, come on, we all have lives, and who wants the attention of someone they have to chase after? To me, if someone doesn't want my company, I don't want theirs (and not in a "fine then!" petulant way, lol). Just think of your presence as a gift they should be happy to have bestowed on them whenever you should feel so generous 😅 I don't recommend making excuses. It can make you seem disingenuous, dishonest or placating them, and it can eat you up with guilt later on if you lied or exaggerated. But the worst part is it can give people the wrong idea... that you actually WANT to see them more but there are pesky obstacles in your way... then all of a sudden you find yourself in a situation where they're blowing up your phone or trying to help you remove those obstacles so you can spend allv your time together... 😨 Don't unwittingly encourage undesired behaviors.

@@angelbear_og I'm infp and my bff is intp we are both so grateful we both need to disappear for a while. We never get mad at each other bc we understand the need for escape lol! Perfect dynamic imo, she lets me know when I'm being too naive and I let her know when she's being too cold and together we are both sooo weird and strange. I think both of us were extremely blessed in life to be able to have each other. Our lives have literally been the same, yet we are still different.

Yeah, every time someone talks about a supposed INFP who’s being annoying by being upset about everything and crying all the time I’m just thinking that’s not an INFP. Maybe young and immature ones can be like that but usually we quickly learn to tamp that down. I absolutely hate showing my emotions like that. If I cry at all I’ll do it in privacy.

I always thought the “manic pixie dreamgirl” stereotype belonged to the ENFPs...

I'm so happy in my own world, I barely need relationships.

Sounds fun!

Oh, I'm INTP with INFP wife. Ask me anything, I guess.

I INFJ thought this was a good idea for a few years, now I'm thinking I should've found an INTP to try this with.

@@tomasbrousek2244 you won

@@Gio-sx7kt it’s actually a good match lol

ENFP maybe?

My ENFP friend is extremely emotionally expressive, and gets mad at an INFP friend for not being as emotionally upfront. He feels like the INFP is hiding themselves, like they are being dishonest by not expressing it. Like it's rude.

I am like you too! Like when somebody is talking about pain i can’t sit and make them laugh? I sit and cry with them,share their pain. That is more like me thing. Probably INFP thing cuz we want no one to feel alone or awkward or i don’t want them to see me as a unkind person..

I mean, I'm expressive, yes... but if I feel something DEEPLY, I'm going to keep it to myself and maybe drop a few hints in the hope s someone will notice, and then probably deny it once if they DO ask just to test if they really care. But I get uncomfortable in certain emotional confrontations like when people overshare. Like if a speaker gets up on stage and starts talking about something personal, fully knowing he's going to get really emotional about it... it can often feel like he's exploiting his own personal emotions to manipulate mine. And because emotions can be very powerful to me, I guard against it a LOT. In the same way, when I was a kid, I would not be easily bribed if I felt something went against my natural instinct. You couldn't bribe me or guilt trip me... you have to persuade me and make me WANT to do something.

@@ohifonlyx33 This description of your experience sounds exactly like what I felt was going on with my INFP friend, but didn't express overtly. More accurately described then I could ever put into words. Probably especially because I'm not INFP, and couldn't relate.

False. INFPs can be angry. And when they are, really are I mean, they're like a calm supernova. But people are always with their "cute filter" regarding INFPs, so they don't take an INFP's anger seriously at first. Then, they're just dead so...

​@@Heliorhodonite totally true

WAIT Commenting on KZfaq isn't socialising?

Studying the cognitive functions really helped me demystify other types, now they make sense

To be clear, they were very willing, the use of forced was only to emphasize the gravity of the situation

You got them out of a toxic friendship? Good job!

@@Heliorhodonite I think infps empathy and openness and take it as it comes approach to life is like a target to narcissistic users

:0 I’m an INFP but Im 2w3

@@jams1e706 How is a 2w3 infp? I always imagined 2w3 as an esfj or enfj Btw im 9w1 infp

same!!

@@proin111 INFP's are known as empathetic being which can make them a 2. Some also (including myself) wants attention/love from others so that can be 2w3? I'm a 4w5 tho so I can't really tell but that's how I think INFP's can be 2w3 😊

@crazywarlord777 As an INFP 4w5 myself, I think it makes me a creative, hopeless romantic, emotionally invested person but also very introverted/private at the same time? tbh I don't even know how to describe myself but I hope this helped out somehow? 😅

The disappearing thing, atleast for me comes down to a strong need for reflection, like almost when you lose touch with who you are or what you want in life. These two things are especially important and oftentimes its easy to drift away from that when being overwhelmed by the presence of certain other people and situations that are stressful. I dont think in my life ive ever been disconnected from my emotions but rather confused by them, where im depressed for no reason. I would say as an infp a lot of life just comes down to learning emotions and people and in my mind once ive done that to the best i can i will be a better person externally :)

I detach myself and wander into my own worlds for a lot of reasons. It can be to vent to people who aren't actually there, for pure amusement and enjoyment as if I'm watching a TV show or movie, sometimes to reflect on feelings and thoughts I've faced recently. I see it for myself as both a coping mechanism and a form of meditation. I never detach myself from reality whilst other people are around, at least not anymore (maybe as a kid playing games) because the events that unfold in our worlds are incredibly personal. At least for me, the world I enter is almost always a reflection of a happening in my life. When I lose my privacy, I lose my ability to wander through my worlds and really sort out my feelings and thoughts, which can be incredibly overwhelming. Sometimes, we just disappear because we need a break from people. Too much overexposure to even someone we feel inseperable from can feel tiring after a while. There are also people who are just flat out uninteresting or uncomfortable to be around lolol. Truth is, at least for me, people are an absolutely vital part of life. Close friends and family are my lifeblood and it's pretty bad when we lose connection with someone. I prefer to appear to everyone as joyful, fufilled and full of energy but sometimes I am the complete opposite. I put on a facade not because I don't want to bring everyone's mood down but because I don't want to fully realise the gravity of my situation because once it's out there, it becomes really real. I don't know if this is true for most INFPs but personally, if I ever opened up to someone wholly and completely and on my own terms, it usually means I'm desperate for help or validation. The person I go to also has to be someone I completely and wholly trust and respect. And to your last question, there are definitely times where I am trying to feel something but literally can't. Moments where I just completely spiral and become void of emotion. In these moments, I can't detach and I definitely won't reach out and instead will likely just go to bed and sleep, no matter what time of the day it is.

@@slipskolt7300 I really relate to what you said about venting to people in my head (not always actual people that I know, sometimes ones I've created) as a coping mechanism because they are often more gentle on me and validate me more than people in the outside world. I also relate to the part where, when I express what's going on with me inside into the external world, it becomes real and that's often scary for me. -INFP

For me, I try to at least make it seem like I need to no one (or feel the need to make it seem like I need no one) because a lot of the people in my life are always telling me how to live it. And that's very infuriating. -INFP

I don’t like being a bother 🙂

I'll take it as a compliment

@@alexandra9944 😂😂😂

@venska u remember the name??

First step is to not watch this video then again,you proly already did.Good luck anyways!

As an INFP, it's somewhat nice to know that other types go through this too. Not that i like seeing anyone in pain, but it's almost like it adds a certain element of humanity to my personality to make me feel a little less alien 🖖 One thing is for sure- you can't force an INFP to do something they don't feel is right for them, or occasionally maybe you can, but the results are going to be disastrous. Assuming she know how you feel, your best bet is likely to try to move on and either work on yourself (the best option) or at least try to remind yourself that there are legitimately, literally billions of figurative fish in the equally figurative sea and work towards meeting someone else. If it's not reciprocated, it probably would also be best to minimize time around this person as much as possible as well, for a better chance of moving forward. If she does NOT know how you feel, it's possible you should have an open and honest discussion about it- there's a fair chance she's too much in her own world to even realize it and equally likely that she sees something there, but is unsure and unwilling to make the first move. Rejection is always a possibility in this case, and it's Definitely painful, but near as painful as pining over someone with whom there is no chance of being with for an extended period of time because you're too afraid to speak up and find out. Like for instance, someone having a ridiculously large crush on someone of the opposite gender for like 3 years only to be able to finally work enough of something casually into a conversation to find out that not only is the person in a committed very long-term relationship, but also gay. (True story! Lol)

@@notanartist9908 unfortunately i did watch it but i didn't pay that much attention bc i was caught up in fake scenarios ^^

@@jesthebob naaw thank you very much for your kind words and that you actually took the time to write this comment. For me, i know she's bi and I'm gay so that wouldn't be a problem and i did indeed had a crush on her for a good year or so(?) And as stereotypical it may sound i didn't make a move until last month. We're very close friends and she rejected me. Idk i can't force her into something. i know she likes me. Platonically. Thats it unfortunately. Sometimes i do struggle if im not good enough or " worthy " but i try to not blame it on me, meaning that she doesn't like me because i suck but because she just doesn't like me for no specific reason. From my experience INFP are not superficial. She doesn't mind me being broke ( I'm a student). Quite the opposite she "helps" (mocks) me with money by reminding me of how much money i can spend. I am a kind person evn tho i hide it. Im the type of guy who will go after you as brutally honest as it gets but when we are alone i will show my soft side. Im dressed completely black but show me a cat or a dog or any animal and ill behave like a happy child on Christmas eve. She knows my soft side. And i hate it. She teases me alot b of it. I pretend to be tough and at the end we cry together. we also share the same humor, can laught together for hours, i am intelligent and creative. We make great art together. Well she draws i come up with the idea. and i hadn't had a traumatic relationship that i need to recover from. I do struggle with emotions and mental health tho but i don't think any of this is the reason. I don't fall often. 3 times in my life so far. But when i do, oh boi call 911 bc its gonna be a heavy fall. Squashed. Anyway this isn't really interesting for somebody else to read tho so ... thanks again for your kind words and enjoy the day.

@@user-tk2ql5mm8z Hello, I'm just another INFP stranger and I just have to say that I found your story both cute (cuz tough to softie-peeps are my kryptonite) and sad, and I am sorry that she didn't see you as you see her. As said before you can try to minimise your time together and see if that works out at all, but then again I know myself I can spiral into future visions and made-up conversations being alone as well... I hope it isn't too painful for you, stranger, and I hope you find another gem in the future whom sparkles only for you. (Yes, all the cheese)

The closer your cognitive functions are the more compatible you are as friends, for example I know an INFP and their closest friends are all other INFPs, some variety is good but a lot of types clash especially over time when the relationship gets deeper. I'm not saying it can't happen, but INFPs need different types to be very mature in order to tolerate them.

@@spring7643 I totally agree! One of my bestfriends is an INFP. And I get along really well and harmonious with ENFPs and INTPs. But I also get along with other types like ESFJs, ISFJs, ESFPs, ENFJs and surprisingly also with ESTPs and ESTJs (my hubby being an ESTJ) but I’d say it’s very challenging to get along with them. It’s either hate or love relationship though. I also find it challenging being with ENTJs and I am kinda amused by ENTPs.

Hope the ocean swell inside settles soon and washes up treasures to your shore x

@@Wonder_Woman_Of_Pole Thank you Ebony. That sounds so eloquent. 😊

How very INTP lol

@@aprilbl00m INFP actually lol

@@graceg5523 Oh hey I'm an INFP too! My comment was more in regards to Love Who being an INTP, but I can see how it was confusing

@@aprilbl00m Oh right yeah, So true!!

Yuppp

how did you do it? i find myself daydreaming unintentionally all the time

@@danann2700 Basically, I pretend to be Sherlock Holmes. It helps if you can get your imagination on board with the real world. So (secretly) play a character to whom it's important to be present. I do my best to pay attention to things around me as well as the image I'm currently projecting. I started to dislike being absent minded when I was a teen and just put forth conscious effort to be more and more self aware. I don't know if there's a simple solution, except repeated effort which will build habit. Of course, this is more when I'm around people. We INFPs need ample alone time to let our creative minds wander.

@@aprilw2287 great advice thanks :)

The infj is like the organisation and structure an INFP needs. lol

@@joshy2joshy No. I don't need anything from them.

@@marioordonez8135 PLSS this is how I feel when ppl try to say infj’s will fix our lives. Like no ty

Technically, it's the estj who is the entire opposite

@@55pm sorry to inform you that ENFJs are infps best match :)

@@55pm In practice though, most of the time we don't get along with each other.

I agree!! Enfj women cmon start looking for these infps :)

Ideal,maybe

accurate

what's this "simping" you speak of?

@@tomasbrousek2244 INTPs can speak for themselves 😂

Physically free, but not so much emotionally

LMFAOOO noooo 🧢 but when you’re not everybody wants to hang out with you at the same time

I don’t have depression but I‘m depressed a lot. So I have lots of time too.

INFPs definitely have a wild side to them. I’ve been lucky enough to experience that myself and live to tell the tale! ~ Nathan

It worked! I got it.

Yes It's normal I got this sort of thinking too