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How to Turn Him On Without Touching Him | 8 Texting Tips to Active a Man

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Mat Shaffer

Mat Shaffer

4 жыл бұрын

You can turn a man on from a distance in SO MANY WAYS if you use these 8 powerful and creative texting tips! It's simpler (and more fun) than you think.
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How to turn a man on over text? What can I text him to get him hot? How can I spice things up when we're apart? I get asked questions like these ALL THE TIME by clients, students and women in my life... so here is a video explaining how to text a man in a way that activates him and makes you truly magnetic to him!
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@naomiblanchard5917
@naomiblanchard5917 3 жыл бұрын
We're seventy plus. These are techniques we use in text and together. If you are healthy sex doesn't have to stop with age. Words and touch can build intimacy
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 жыл бұрын
YES love this Naomi!! So beautiful! :)
@inspire734
@inspire734 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the tip. I am 63 at present.
@cherylsevereide1337
@cherylsevereide1337 3 ай бұрын
I agree with naomi…we are in our 70s and love our sex life…dating only a few months.. but a real connection has sparked a great relationship
@cherylsevereide1337
@cherylsevereide1337 3 ай бұрын
Texting is fun…and easy to set a mood for our next meeting😊….
@andreawashington1199
@andreawashington1199 3 жыл бұрын
He sounds like a airline pilot.. It's amazing!
@captainswan3079
@captainswan3079 3 жыл бұрын
👨🏼‍✈️😂
@cece9604
@cece9604 Жыл бұрын
Lmaoooo he gt a good voice
@JB-Ohiolove
@JB-Ohiolove Жыл бұрын
He does sound like a pilot. I really like his voice!
@thesocialintrovertchronicles
@thesocialintrovertchronicles Жыл бұрын
Lol..... Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to flight504🙂
@sforsahar
@sforsahar Жыл бұрын
😂
@robynsarahstocker
@robynsarahstocker 4 жыл бұрын
Wow, a great reminder. In a long term relationship it’s easy to forget these things are still important ❤️
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
It really is!thanks so much!!
@crystalthow5533
@crystalthow5533 Жыл бұрын
You said it there gurl! Either we forget it or we take things for granted! I am.not going to let that happen! Mat is my idol
@dani58301
@dani58301 4 жыл бұрын
Hi everyone :) My favorite takeaway is the first principle, giving a man a window into our feelings and thinking. This is the basis for all future steps. Without it, women won't get encouraged to send a voice message, a memo or anything mentioned in the video. No solid relationship without solid foundations :)
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing!! love that!
@shreyaabaranwal877
@shreyaabaranwal877 4 жыл бұрын
Such beautiful voice omg! Listen to him with eyes closed...
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 7 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@sirineelloumi2550
@sirineelloumi2550 4 жыл бұрын
My favorite principle is the second one " use future pacing to draw men into connected experiences and feeling " I like it because it represent the feminin energy by allowing us to talk about our feelings and connect with our bodies and it needs
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
🤗
@leighmetzler7565
@leighmetzler7565 4 жыл бұрын
I posted in our group, how to keep things going, when separated. This was really helpful. This afternoon sent a pic of the envelope with sexy new clothes. It said “I’m here, let’z party.” Then a pic with the hot new items seductively arranged on my bed. He messaged me from work. Can’t wait to see those on you. I told him that I would get out of my quarantine PJ’s for him and send a pic wearing something tomorrow. I drew it out with a tease making him wait. Message from him just arrived. I’ve been dating unavailable guys. My new guy feels so different. I just have to avoid looking needy as I shelter in place. I can’t see my friends, work outside my home, or other activities to keep my life in place. He’s considered a first responder. I’m sheltering in place and he’s working. Hard to keep balance with me on ice over here. You Mat, have a tell. One ear gets red when you are talking about sexy topics. 😅
@tabithathewholistic
@tabithathewholistic 4 жыл бұрын
And his pupils dilate! 😍
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
😂 Oh crap! 😊 I've been found out!
@tabithathewholistic
@tabithathewholistic 4 жыл бұрын
@@Mat_Shaffer LOL😝😉😏
@tanyaklawitter877
@tanyaklawitter877 4 жыл бұрын
@@tabithathewholistic yep i noticr that rvery time as well
@kiritasio8628
@kiritasio8628 4 жыл бұрын
Definitely principle numero uno for me ... allowing men to know the effect they have on me and them knowing and understanding my feelings. I have a tendency to forget this key principle because I’m so focused on their needs, wants and desires so I tend to push mine to the back burner and wonder why I feel so much frustration - this is key for me as this is one I need to create a mantra for to ensure I put this one into practise; the rest will inevitably follow suite. Thanks Mat.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the beautiful share K Sio 🙏
@naffs1069
@naffs1069 3 жыл бұрын
If he does not like you and thinks you are not attractive, then it does not matter what you do. Nothing will turn him on.
@themaggattack
@themaggattack Жыл бұрын
I've suffered so much with this truth. Before we broke up, my ex stopped liking me and finding me attractive. I thought I could spark his interest again by doing some of these fun, flirty forplay types of things. But nope. He was unrespinsive and it hurt so bad. Now I'm so hesitant to try being flirty again with someone else.
@sgkgurung8122
@sgkgurung8122 Жыл бұрын
You are so friggin’ right 🧚🏻‍♀️
@crystalthow5533
@crystalthow5533 Жыл бұрын
Then its time to move on
@miko3895
@miko3895 Жыл бұрын
I think this advice is for couples who have attraction for each other. Find someone who likes you, then apply .
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 6 ай бұрын
Thanks so much for your feedback!
@isaibizalife
@isaibizalife 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks Mat. You don’t know how much you helped me in my long distance relationship. Thank you so much!
@mistressevamzonia7087
@mistressevamzonia7087 3 жыл бұрын
Hello to whom it may concern I can recomend you to someone that helpedme get my ex back recently he can also help you just as he did mine too
@mistressevamzonia7087
@mistressevamzonia7087 3 жыл бұрын
Contact him on whtzapp
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Happy to help!
@leanneolsen68
@leanneolsen68 3 жыл бұрын
No mobile phones! Get close, deep eye contact "Tell him what you want now!!"
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 6 ай бұрын
Interesting perspective, thanks so much!
@karadiberlino
@karadiberlino 4 ай бұрын
EXACTLY!!! ❤
@maricelgonzales5148
@maricelgonzales5148 Жыл бұрын
all your videos helped me grow emotionally with my new partner. Finally had a bf again after almost 10years! He came on the right time… Thank you so much!😊
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
I'm so glad! You are so welcome Maricel 🥰❤️✨
@louannbristol8708
@louannbristol8708 4 жыл бұрын
OMG Mat!! You are so right about the voice texts. I sent him one last night instead of my usual sexy tests. Let’s just say he got so turned on I’m sure he had to take care of himself!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
😂
@dzanasaynes4782
@dzanasaynes4782 4 жыл бұрын
You have the best relationship coaching content that i have ever seen...keep up great 👍
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you. 🙌❤️
@graciehomestay3134
@graciehomestay3134 Жыл бұрын
You are amazing and I just sent this texts and messages to my boyfriend and he was sound asleep but his cell phone vibrates and he saw my messages. You are so right, he was fully awake receiving my texts and he was so elated and he thought he was dreaming. It did bring a lightning bolt into his manhood. Lol... thank you so much :)
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
I’m so happy for you my dear!
@LAkansasCity
@LAkansasCity 4 жыл бұрын
I am so sexually advanced in technique and what I want I often think I can come across as intimidating to a new man. This helped me come back to earth with some ideas to get him warmed up better!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 7 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@crystalgoddess6941
@crystalgoddess6941 4 жыл бұрын
Oh my god. I was so clueless. This video is so informative. I love it. Will try later.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@lovemrj4ever
@lovemrj4ever 4 жыл бұрын
This video is pure gold. I’m smiling! Can’t wait to try more new things (as soon as stay at home order goes away!) Wooh. Thanks Mat
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
Have fun!
@MsKelize
@MsKelize Жыл бұрын
Pure gold...
@xhenish
@xhenish 4 жыл бұрын
I love flirting through texts! And memes are the best way to start the conversation and tease! Hehehe!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
That's great!
@maripena75
@maripena75 4 жыл бұрын
Omg "manage himself" love it Mat!🤣 Thanks for the tips! 😉
@TheDaasra
@TheDaasra 4 жыл бұрын
I also laughed out loud at this lol
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
You're so welcome!
@MsYaYa62
@MsYaYa62 3 жыл бұрын
Long distance relationship is going to benefit.. he's a 10 hour drive away... I love the voice clip idea.. speaking slowly and sighing alot
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 7 ай бұрын
Thanks for Sharing!
@AnnetteT1
@AnnetteT1 4 жыл бұрын
This was super helpful and left me feeling empowered. I can’t wait to use these tips with my man.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
Glad to hear it!
@tere24
@tere24 4 жыл бұрын
Hi Mat! My favorite take-away is using your voice in a message. We hide so much behind texts but I can see how a voice would resonate. I mean, who wouldn’t replay a voice message? 🙂 I also appreciate the future pacing idea of making a guy imagine... I think a text with an image of the past or future will make him respond quicker too! Thanks!! #MOC
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
Love that!
@kimnichols129
@kimnichols129 8 ай бұрын
I've always done these things before I even heard this advice. Not to trick or fool him but it's just the way I am. And I can tell you, this man knows what he's talking about. Men enjoy talking to me. I'll leave it at that. We'll, I enjoy talking to them too.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 8 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@heyheyhey0220
@heyheyhey0220 4 ай бұрын
1:05 principles 2:38 Future Experience Feeling Statement 3:50 Future Action Statement 4:05 Present Sensation Statement 4:40 Present Sensation Question 5:32 Sexy Questions 7:26 Multimedia 7:50 Voice Texts 9:25 Suggestive Photo 10:48 Sexy/Funny Memes
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 ай бұрын
I hope it helps.
@vannief399
@vannief399 4 жыл бұрын
idk why am i watching this when im single for a fact..but this is informative i must say.😅
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 7 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@swanerly
@swanerly 4 жыл бұрын
#MOC I always walk away from your videos with the knowledge that I’m on the right path or learning a whole new different spin on how to touch my man’s inner feelings and making that connection with him on a one to one deep level of being open and excited on how we make each other feel by communicating our deep inner feelings as we grow as a couple and friendship level of being vulnerable which sometimes is such an exuberant feeling to share with someone. I absolutely love it thank you, Mat Shaffer, always learning on this path of enlightenment, oh yeah and taking that smile on my face with it priceless
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
You are so welcome swanerly! 🙏
@Rebander1549
@Rebander1549 Жыл бұрын
Hello Mat, Jim's wife here. I'm curious about any other training that you have had in this area? You are a former attorney, but have you had any training in counseling? I am wondering? I do thank you for these informative videos. Using a voice text is easy and simple but can also be so powerful.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! Many more informative videos to come, Don't miss it🙌❤️
@EClusive80
@EClusive80 4 жыл бұрын
Mat, ohhhhhh how I wish I would have found you a long time ago! My favorite takeaways....voice texts and 4 steps to future pacing. My husband and I have been separated for 2 years and disconnected for a lot longer. I’ve been craving that connection and intimacy with him again, but nothing I’ve (we’ve) done thus far has gotten us there. If I would have seen this video 2 years ago, I would have been able to navigate building that intimacy and connection again. When you find yourself in that place, you become lost...you don’t know what to do or how to reconnect. You don’t realize...it’s really those simple gestures that bring that intimacy and connection back! Thanks for the video Mat! It was awesome!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
You are so welcome Erika Jimenez-Benjamin! 🙏
@rajwinderkaur7786
@rajwinderkaur7786 Жыл бұрын
No need to make him turn on he has no time because he is busy with other women
@Nicole-is-global
@Nicole-is-global 4 жыл бұрын
I like the parts about "flirting" and "teasing". I'm modest but good at using GIFS and playful comments. #MOC
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
You got this!
@nimishakahar9260
@nimishakahar9260 Жыл бұрын
Wow some really great pointers here. My bf asks me many exiting questions and he knows I’m turning him on. I have to take this into my thoughts and remember when I’m texting with him! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with us here.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@boomboom1258
@boomboom1258 4 жыл бұрын
This is literally word play combined with imagination omg 😂😂🌚🔥👅
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
😂
@boomboom1258
@boomboom1258 4 жыл бұрын
@@Mat_Shaffer ikr!!
@elisebethgipps6369
@elisebethgipps6369 4 жыл бұрын
#MOC my lightbulb moment was the using of voice message !! Omg yes !!! Powerful ! Thank you Mat 😊
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
You are so welcome
@77angelajoy
@77angelajoy 4 жыл бұрын
My favorite takeaway from this is future pacing! It’s perfect for this time during Covid19 😊
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
Love that!
@mara11333
@mara11333 3 жыл бұрын
I’m using your tips on my man serving in Syria. I leave him mushy several nights a week. It’s the most fun ever and pleases me to no end. Let’s just say it keeps us warm. Thanks Matt!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
This is an inspiring story!
@mara11333
@mara11333 2 жыл бұрын
@@Mat_Shaffer yes he’s inspired several times weekly. Lol. Thank you 😊
@jacksonposhee4687
@jacksonposhee4687 4 жыл бұрын
I love that you are so specific!!!!!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much 김예린! 🙏❤️
@marniewilliams6485
@marniewilliams6485 4 жыл бұрын
This works if you already have a sexual relationship with a man. If you are beginning a relationship and it's stalling, this isn't working. Not having this conversation at this time.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
Exactly you got it Marnie Williams!
@tamaralandreneau8005
@tamaralandreneau8005 Жыл бұрын
I did that this morning. 😁 I thought it would be mysterious. Oooh, I acknowledged his wonderful actions that mean so much to me; #1) he asked me, if it hurt my feelings or angered me, that he needed some alone time at his camper at the Lake. I assured him, that it was fine with me. He asked me 4 more times, so that says to me, that he really, cared about how I felt about it. I thanked him, for it. #2) I thanked him, for his sincere apologizing for joking and hurting my feelings; he felt very bad, when he found out, that he hurt my feelings and he apologized, even after I'd told him, kindly, that I appreciated and accepted his apology.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
I’m so happy for you my dear!
@lilabit14
@lilabit14 4 жыл бұрын
Are guys watching videos like this for us 🤔😂 I’m so single but binging these videos like I’m not
@i.aint.1.of.ur.little.friends
@i.aint.1.of.ur.little.friends 4 жыл бұрын
They most definitely are.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 6 ай бұрын
Thanks so much for your feedback!
@TheDaasra
@TheDaasra 4 жыл бұрын
Two things: asking for feedback when you have revealed some of your desires to really engage him and get him to open up, and the voice texting! I usually just send funny voice notes to my girlfriends (typically after a few wobbly pops, ngl lol) but they are definitely an under used tool! Mat you made me laugh out loud with the manage himself in the bathroom comment too lol. #MOC
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
HA thanks Sarita!!
@JustLindaThings
@JustLindaThings Жыл бұрын
The managing himself in the bathroom, I laughed so hard. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@laurenj432
@laurenj432 4 жыл бұрын
I love your content on relationships, they’re so informative! Do you think you’ll ever make videos in your experience as an attorney? I’d find that really interesting, and I’m thinking about that field maybe
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
Possibly!
@diloahloanetshose1225
@diloahloanetshose1225 2 жыл бұрын
Hi thnx hei ..
@findy2008
@findy2008 4 жыл бұрын
Mat , you have amazing eyes! And I love your videos! Thank you 🙏🏻
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much!
@mariannaoosthuizen9639
@mariannaoosthuizen9639 3 ай бұрын
I cannot believe that there actually is a need for a video chat to tell people in love how to act or respond towards the person they love😮😮
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 ай бұрын
Thanks so much for your feedback!
@mariannaoosthuizen9639
@mariannaoosthuizen9639 3 ай бұрын
Perhaps the reason why some people don't "get" it or don't "know" how to, is because they are trying to have a sextional relationship with someone without really loving that person. When people are in love the heart speaks much louder than the actions and the communication is heart to heart not "feelings" to "feelings"
@susaneuliano7692
@susaneuliano7692 Жыл бұрын
You are a cornucopia of pleasures. Keep them coming. Haven't been mundane yet.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Thank you for your kind words! ❤❤❤
@ernelladalumpines7695
@ernelladalumpines7695 4 жыл бұрын
Mat I love all your videos and I learned so much from you. Thanks for this video.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Thanks so much my dear!
@tigergirl906
@tigergirl906 2 жыл бұрын
Great suggestions.. and when did dating become so much work?!
@karadiberlino
@karadiberlino 4 ай бұрын
EXACTLY!!! 😂😂😂
@BeatriceBea-tr2bz
@BeatriceBea-tr2bz Жыл бұрын
Danke, für diese Offenheit. Endlich höre ich wie ein Mann fühlt und denkt!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
You are so welcome Beatrice❤️ I hope it helps🙌🙏
@BeatriceBea-tr2bz
@BeatriceBea-tr2bz Жыл бұрын
@@Mat_Shaffer it definitely did !!☺️
@reemsaif3105
@reemsaif3105 Жыл бұрын
The present sensation question is amazing. I can feel how it invites a man in.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Glad you like it!
@jessicacruz2974
@jessicacruz2974 4 жыл бұрын
I like the future pacing but also the voice text. I never do voice text but I can see how it could be effective. Definitely going to use some of these tips ^_^
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
That's great!
@andreawick2996
@andreawick2996 4 жыл бұрын
Love the idea of sending a suggestive photo- like the handcuff image- that’s fun and unique! Thank you for the ideas! #MOC
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
You are so welcome!
@Journey4Vitality
@Journey4Vitality 6 ай бұрын
Yes, I just tried the voice text. He loves it. I’m not ready to be romantic with anyone no time soon. Your cute tips seem to make the day beautiful for anyone. Thank you😊
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 6 ай бұрын
You’re welcome 😊
@jjajlilyatty2859
@jjajlilyatty2859 11 ай бұрын
I'm not cellphone savvy, I just learned how to make a video I can't wait to put this in action 🎉
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 11 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@tianiemitchell5692
@tianiemitchell5692 3 жыл бұрын
Now I'm actually thinking about Carly Simon and the song she sings ,anticipation Anticipation is very exciting
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 7 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@kaylasezzmatt
@kaylasezzmatt 4 жыл бұрын
You have a new subscriber 🙋🏻‍♀️😉
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
Yay! Thank you!
@narellemontauban1863
@narellemontauban1863 4 жыл бұрын
High vibration messages between myself and an online date that Ive not yet met ! LOVE the idea of the voice message - gorgeous way to message - thanks Mat :)
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
You are so welcome!
@nataliecrosscolorings6454
@nataliecrosscolorings6454 4 жыл бұрын
What if a man is in love with you and you work together/ and you’ve never touched. And the sexual tension is so powerful.and you are powerful. A spiritual connection. Actually, a love of my life. After the show was done,?we had a mesmerizing time. And he left with his friends.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 ай бұрын
thanks for sharing! it's a great connection:)
@deliag8826
@deliag8826 4 жыл бұрын
I like how in depth you describe everything , that you provide examples and also thought about sharing us links to pages and telling is how to use the voice clip. I am really surprised with your hardworking and willingness to share with everyone. You are the best honestly. I took away a lot from this video but I like the suggestive tease/picture or video . Thank-you so much for sharing #MOC
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
You are so welcome Delia G! 🙏
@kobysmultiverse.4643
@kobysmultiverse.4643 4 жыл бұрын
He really knows what’s up😹
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
🤗
@simplymarilyn5295
@simplymarilyn5295 4 жыл бұрын
Eyes so blue I can drown in them 💙
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
Aw shucks!
@captainswan3079
@captainswan3079 3 жыл бұрын
My favorite relationship coach! 👩‍💻
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you.
@childofthemighty1341
@childofthemighty1341 4 жыл бұрын
I paused the Video to send him a message...lol...yes its on. No 4 works. I had this point last week and discovered he loves it when I say what he is to do...sexwise...
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
Exactly you got it Sophia Murugi!
@childofthemighty1341
@childofthemighty1341 4 жыл бұрын
@@Mat_Shaffer thank you for your Videos. I have learned alot from you. Remember that time you talked about not behaving like his mother? I evaluated our relationship...and its true. I was always covering for him...telling him to do...etc...that was not healthy. Eg he hurt his calfs doing sports last week. When he called me about it, I felt sorry ofcourse and told him I wished him quick recovery. I let him deal with it..be a man instead of telling him do this do that which he is now doing on his own and the pain is almost gone. So thank you for your knowledge and time
@stefanie5059
@stefanie5059 4 жыл бұрын
#MOC. Can you please make a video for those who are trying to date during the isolation? These techniques wouldn't be appropriate when you're looking for someone. It would be very helpful if you could help us navigate the new world of dating where you won't be going on a physical date anytime soon.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the topic suggestion Stefanie Kraus - it's going on my list!
@mspence0826
@mspence0826 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this. Do you have similar tips for connecting emotionally/intellectually via text? I’ve been with my partner for 6 years, and he travels a lot for work. He actually does future pacing while he’s away but if I don’t feel emotionally/intellectually connected, it’s hard to respond positively to him. I’d be more inclined to sexiness if he asked me what I was feeling or what I’ve been reading/learning FIRST. Basically, ask me about the books I’m reading, and I’ll be hot n ready after we’ve CONNECTED.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
My pleasure!
@beckybloomfield6809
@beckybloomfield6809 2 жыл бұрын
So what about when he is not a very romantic guy…I send him a sensual text but usually just get a lovey emoji in response because he just doesn’t flirt over texts? It’s just hard to know if what I’m sending actually makes an impact!!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 11 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@nokuthulamthimkhulu8008
@nokuthulamthimkhulu8008 Жыл бұрын
Wow definitely applying these tips 😍😍😍thanks
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Happy I could be of help :)
@shunkitlee4108
@shunkitlee4108 6 ай бұрын
Hello Mat, hope you are doing well. This is Jennifer, from a small city HK. I am so lucky to be your audience lately and knowing more about how to have a good relationship, specially in sex with man. I listened and followed. It was great. Could I have a question for you? It’s really made me feel suffered.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 6 ай бұрын
Thank you for watching I’m happy this resonated with you!❤️
@summertime2993
@summertime2993 4 жыл бұрын
Wohooo I got my ways 🤘🏻🤯😊 The neck! The NECK!!!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
hehehe the neck is always a GREAT PLACE to start ;)
@olimpiaaaaaaaa
@olimpiaaaaaaaa 4 жыл бұрын
Cool but in my opinión and Experience bit too much in First dates iwill run away instantly yaay guys dont like to be chased
@sandramariegray2039
@sandramariegray2039 3 жыл бұрын
Mat, I have just found you and now binged on your videos. Super enjoying learning I am doing the right thing and you have also given me quite a few suggestions in the videos I have watched. I am going to be a little more subtle having turned 60 this year. So many thanks.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Awesome, thank you!
@crosswind76
@crosswind76 4 жыл бұрын
Perfect. Just what I needed. Thank you.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
You're welcome!
@kiransharma7848
@kiransharma7848 4 жыл бұрын
Mat I love you and the way you talk and explain .
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
Awwww shucks! 😊
@kiransharma7848
@kiransharma7848 4 жыл бұрын
@@Mat_Shaffer Did I say something wrong ? 😆😏 Anyways thanks Mat you are the best .👍🏼
@patriciaviii
@patriciaviii 4 жыл бұрын
These are my types of videos 😍
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
glad you enjoyed it :)
@user-fr2mp2kt8d
@user-fr2mp2kt8d 6 ай бұрын
Mat your videos are are always amazing it looks like I'm on the right side I'm already doing them, the chemistry in our relationship it's on 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 6 ай бұрын
I’m happy this resonated with you!
@lililalisa5600
@lililalisa5600 3 жыл бұрын
Hi, Love this so much😘really works for us. Thank you so much.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 2 жыл бұрын
I’m glad to hear everything worked out well.
@Bianca-sw5id
@Bianca-sw5id Жыл бұрын
Mat , I think 🤔🥰 you are infectiously positive about everyone who takes your advice 🙂 🥰 having the healthy feelings should have in a healthy relationship 🙂🥰 💐 You want the best for us but there are too many men who live for themselves
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Thanks so much my dear! Thanks so much my dear!
@Bianca-sw5id
@Bianca-sw5id Жыл бұрын
@@Mat_Shaffer You are welcome 🙂
@vgylsen
@vgylsen 4 жыл бұрын
You are a God send Matt. It’s kinda funny and cute how guys like knowing what we like haha it’s like reassuring little boys but actually women need reassurance need too. I’ve never heard of figure pacing ! How fascinating !! #MOC
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
I appreciate that!
@gracerodgers8952
@gracerodgers8952 Жыл бұрын
Just found you,Mat ...so now I know why I've been single for 26 yrs.😂thanks for the insight.
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@mindsetreconnect
@mindsetreconnect Жыл бұрын
Definitely going to take these tips on board Thankyou Mat 😊
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
You're welcome! ❤️
@tinamorris6269
@tinamorris6269 5 ай бұрын
Thanks Matt! These seem great in a further established relationship I’m having a lot of first dates these days and would love some tips on using these techniques with more subtlety during the getting to know you phase
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 5 ай бұрын
Thanks so much my dear!
@mette1983
@mette1983 4 жыл бұрын
LOVE THIS Mat! Thanks
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
You're so welcome!
@gothangel68
@gothangel68 4 жыл бұрын
Aaah yes voice texting...I am going to do that
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
Awesome!
@myoralph5697
@myoralph5697 4 жыл бұрын
Wow! Love your videos!
@16Sirens
@16Sirens Жыл бұрын
Being playful......is about opening up........hey it's about new discovery and horizons......✨️
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
Glad to hear that.
@kobysmultiverse.4643
@kobysmultiverse.4643 4 жыл бұрын
This guy is a vibe abeg😹
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
🤗
@bthelight4444
@bthelight4444 4 жыл бұрын
Fun and creative.. Thanks!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it!😊🙏
@user-iz4xw7lq1g
@user-iz4xw7lq1g 11 ай бұрын
Always tell him how much you appreciate him
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 11 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@emmacederborgart5549
@emmacederborgart5549 4 жыл бұрын
Hello Mat. I love all of your advice they are really helpful. I wonder if you could give advice on how to write a love letter to a guy? Thanks Emma
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
Great suggestion!
@Spacereform3
@Spacereform3 4 жыл бұрын
Can you make a video with some tips for us female partners/wives struggling with a husband who has low/no sex drive? We have been trying to grow/start our family, but of course this cannot happen without intimacy 😅😂 I find myself feeling extremely shy to make moves or to "try new things". Like I have all this lingerie, but too shy to use it 😂 It was never like this for me, but with time and as his drive decreased, I find myself afraid to try new things or "seduce" him. I guess the fear is that I will come off as being desperate or "weird". When trying for a baby, we have certain days where we *need* to make it happen or our chance is gone. So i'm looking for ways to help ensure intimacy on those days. Communicating ovulation with your husband just puts too much pressure & turns them off 😂 I hear women sharing very similar stories & I think its especially difficult for those of us with religious & conservative backgrounds. If you could make a video addressing some of these things & some tips to overcome this & things us women can do in this situation for our husbands - we would really appreciate it! Thanks 🙂
@patriciamacka5775
@patriciamacka5775 3 жыл бұрын
Testosterone You need to see a doctor that specializes in hormone replacement therapy HRT not the stuff you buy in the stores
@selfair9461
@selfair9461 Жыл бұрын
Have you heard of Esther Perel
@beverlyd.2386
@beverlyd.2386 6 ай бұрын
This is awesome. I can't wait to use these techniques today❤
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 6 ай бұрын
Glad you like it!
@aniyahlove3518
@aniyahlove3518 4 жыл бұрын
I just want to thank you for these videos. I am now a pro at seducing men 🤣😅
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
woohooo mission accomplished ;)
@Melody-iy9bw
@Melody-iy9bw 4 жыл бұрын
you almost never blink
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 ай бұрын
I appreciate your opinion on this!
@Jennifer-ce5wh
@Jennifer-ce5wh 9 ай бұрын
Omg ! Thank you so much ❤ I suck at communication and I really love my man and want to make it . We’re soulmates but don’t know how to communicate 😭😭
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 8 ай бұрын
You're welcome ❤
@wintrykiss
@wintrykiss 10 ай бұрын
your videos are great ive been watching a few lately but i know all this stuff already .........women that are "dead fish" (i cracked up when you said dead fish in another video someone i know says his GF he lives with for years is a dead fish LOL) though nothing helps them ive been told by a several men that i am different woman and dead fish need these videos thats for sure but they dont know how to get to that level its a serious problem and then they wonder why their husbands and BFs cheat my late husband always said a man will only go looking when he's not being fulfilled at home and i can attest to that !!! so many dating sites are LOADED with married or attached men !!!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 10 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@DEC729
@DEC729 9 ай бұрын
Well I think This was a good way to get a positive or negative response. No response at all-I’m extremely intuitive but I thought I would try this to get some sort of feeling-I just got it-none!! He’s gone!!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 9 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@dawnburwell4876
@dawnburwell4876 4 жыл бұрын
#moc my favorite takeaway was 2 things. Giving him space to respond. That feels like it would let him know that I was comfortable enough with him - to wait . The second was not assuming he knows that I like him or what he’s doing. I interpret my behaviour or responses according to my “inside knowledge” haha. He needs to be let in on that
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 4 жыл бұрын
Yes!
@susanlindsay7970
@susanlindsay7970 9 ай бұрын
So cute that men think they are in charge. Thank you for the hints!!!
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 9 ай бұрын
Yes they are! Thanks 🥰
@jamalomar9679
@jamalomar9679 9 ай бұрын
Wow mat am so grateful every day l listen to your videos they motivate thanks
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 9 ай бұрын
Happy to hear that! ❤
@monicaspradling1760
@monicaspradling1760 Жыл бұрын
Lol that's funny Because I Absolutely Love Matt's Voice!!! That's the first thing I was soothed by. His Voice is Awesome to me.❤️🤗 Love your voice Mat!!!👍
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer Жыл бұрын
I so appreciate you saying that - that was so sweet of you!
@paulinesalmon1661
@paulinesalmon1661 10 ай бұрын
I am thankful for your tips. I enjoyed the presentation
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 10 ай бұрын
Glad it was helpful! 🥰
@allysamoyo7076
@allysamoyo7076 3 ай бұрын
Thank you. That's really insightful ❤and helpful
@Mat_Shaffer
@Mat_Shaffer 3 ай бұрын
You are so welcome
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