I got dumped in rehab...big surprise

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hey it's Anna

hey it's Anna

2 ай бұрын

Couldn't resist roasting myself for making the mistake of dating while I was in rehab. lol...take my advice and don't do it.
/ @annabarram
About me
Hey, I'm Anna. I live in Portland, Oregon, work in branding/marketing, have a psycho Golden Retreiver dog named Karl. I got sober in October of 2023 after almost getting taken out by my drug addiction. I was in rehab for 2 months when I got clean and have been sober ever since. Thank you so much for checking out my channel. Follow along if you want for updates on my life after getting sober.
Instagram: annatothebarram
Email: anna@lelo.agency

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@TheWeekendYogurt
@TheWeekendYogurt Ай бұрын
I think this video highlights how addiction while it can be to a substance often coexists with codependency. I found this to be true in my own experience. It sounds like the guys you were seeing needed to hit a few CODA meetings too.
@annabarram
@annabarram Ай бұрын
You're spot on. It totally highlights codependency. I hate being codependent and didn't even realize I was until I went to rehab and learned about it. And lol yes I'm sure CODA could have helped them...and me. I've been to a few but AA/NA have been the most helpful. Have you done CODA and are you doing AA/NA?
@TheWeekendYogurt
@TheWeekendYogurt Ай бұрын
The CODA presence where I live, Milwaukee, is lacking. The SLAA crowd is strong though and I think there’s many similarities/can be helpful too.
@annabarram
@annabarram Ай бұрын
@@TheWeekendYogurt That's so interesting. I only went to one SLAA and it was like 4 people so my sample size is small. I'm in Portland, OR...not sure what the overall SLAA presence is like here. I haven't been to too many CODA meetings here either. Do you go?
@alexyssaubrie1606
@alexyssaubrie1606 Ай бұрын
I’m doing a day program at a rehab and I definitely needed this…it’s hard to not look for the cutest guy
@annabarram
@annabarram Ай бұрын
Girl what up!!! Right? I feel you. It's like second nature to look for the cutest guy. I'm trying really hard to break that habit. But it's hard. How's day treatment going for you? Much love :)
@Slayer-7373
@Slayer-7373 Ай бұрын
Another really good video Anna! I saw this first hand in rehab and even had a couple opportunities but I steered clear 🤣🤣. Even tho it was tempting I knew how awful it could possibly end. I don’t know what they expect tho, a bunch of young people trying to get sober and their brains are completely lack of dopamine, they go for the next best thing!!! Keep up the good work dude 💯
@annabarram
@annabarram Ай бұрын
Thank you!!! Love hearing from you dude. How are things? What was your experience in rehab like? Good on you for steering clear of the dating in rehab bullsh*t. What a mess. You're totally right though about brains lacking dopamine so going for whatever they can find that's closest. Much love!!!
@Slayer-7373
@Slayer-7373 Ай бұрын
@@annabarram hey 👋!! Things are well, super busy but that’s not such a bad thing. I didn’t mind rehab, the worst part was the boredom for me. I was in right when Covid started so all we did was stay at the center it was beyond boring at times but I met some real solid people in there. I think rehab is like most things when it comes to recovery it will work if you work it, but you’ve got to want it. Hope all is well with you too!! 7 months is pretty epic, keep kicking this things a%#.
@annabarram
@annabarram Ай бұрын
@@Slayer-7373 Totally agree. If you buy into it and apply yourself, it actually works. The buying into it is the hardest part I feel. Damn, being in rehab during COVID would be brutal!!! How did you do it?!?!?!
@gavinwebb9845
@gavinwebb9845 Ай бұрын
Love your videos, praying for everyone reading this comment! Love you all
@annabarram
@annabarram Ай бұрын
Thank you, Gavin! Thanks for your kind and encouraging comment and for watching!! I appreciate it SO much. Much love :)
@gavinwebb9845
@gavinwebb9845 Ай бұрын
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@heatherrae901
@heatherrae901 Ай бұрын
Ugh yeah I “dated” in rehab too, twice. They’re blurred memories now like everything else was at that time. Kudos to you for being open and honest even when it’s not pretty. It can be painful and embarrassing but there’s so much to grow from. Beautiful, I love it!
@annabarram
@annabarram Ай бұрын
You did?!?! "Blurred memories" is a great way to characterize those times. Thank you so much for watching and commenting, I appreciate it more than you know :) much love!!
@ShimmerBodyCream
@ShimmerBodyCream Ай бұрын
Congrats on your recovery! Hope you find someone good if you're looking so you don't have to go thru the circus of dating. 😃
@annabarram
@annabarram Ай бұрын
Thank you!!! I appreciate that. Thanks for watching and commenting. And for your kind words of encouragement :) much love!
@aronaeleven5574
@aronaeleven5574 Ай бұрын
"We all make mistakes, and they help us learn. I made many friendships, some good and some bad, in rehab. My treatment was not voluntary, but I did complete the program. I witnessed one incident where a couple had a full-blown domestic dispute, even though they barely knew each other. I've always been very reserved when sober,
@annabarram
@annabarram Ай бұрын
Wow, how did your treatment experience go? And yikes...that sounds about right. People are so newly sober and raw that a lot of dramatic emotions start to spill over. How is sobriety going for you?
@aronaeleven5574
@aronaeleven5574 Ай бұрын
​@@annabarram After abruptly stopping heavy alcohol consumption, I sought rehab and received diazepam to manage withdrawal symptoms. I strongly believe that rehab and hospitalization are essential for my recovery and that avoiding future risks will significantly improve my health. My dog, Buddy Boy, has been a great source of support, and maintaining healthy relationships is crucial for my sobriety.
@austinmarquardt95
@austinmarquardt95 Ай бұрын
Oh man do I have the stories too from “dating” in rehab! Ahahaha! Anna, You made some great points again and I respect that ur keeping the focus on Yourself during this critical time in your life. So many emotions! Just So much emotions really. It tends to and (can) fog your clarity and direction in your path forward, I’ve discovered. Okay you look so good today , byee:)
@annabarram
@annabarram Ай бұрын
Awww thank you you're so sweet!! 💛 It's so hard to keep focus with so many distractions!!! I appreciate you commenting on this one...it was really fun to make because I just have to laugh at myself for dating in rehab...what was I thinking?? Hope you're having a good day!!! :)
@austinmarquardt95
@austinmarquardt95 Ай бұрын
@@annabarram doing well today:) keep on havin a good day yourself :)
@annabarram
@annabarram Ай бұрын
@@austinmarquardt95 thanks, Austin!! :)
@annabarram
@annabarram Ай бұрын
Also, would love to hear your rehab dating stories too...
@dw6410
@dw6410 Ай бұрын
your doing good sister , keep it up
@annabarram
@annabarram Ай бұрын
Thank you so much, I appreciate you!! :)
@kassandrakid9440
@kassandrakid9440 Ай бұрын
lol yeah gurl, title couldve been duh. but me too. not really dating as i had no actual feelings for this kid. this was decades ago but im sure hard headedness and hormones still work the same. Edit: You make great points...so great im slipping into a ptsd flashback of some kind. You have really great insight for going through this not too long ago. I had not even processed some of this weird shit i did. not all hook up am i exactly proud of...and the answer to "why" is consistantly trying to deal with trauma in a real twised way. I need to recailbrate, but good stuff. Best wishes in your journey!! (oh yeah, i got booted from the program for fraternarization.)
@annabarram
@annabarram Ай бұрын
HAHAHA I added DUH to the title. LOL you got kicked out for "fraternizing??? It's nice to know that I'm not the only one who made the mistake of dating in rehab. I felt so dumb for doing that. And thank you for taking the time to acknowledge my content and how I'm processing it all! I really appreciate it more than you know. Are you still sober now? I hope the flashbacks my video induced you can laugh about now lol...much love :)
@80sbrunnette
@80sbrunnette Ай бұрын
I have never done drugs or anything like that but the way you act is exactly how I am 💀
@annabarram
@annabarram Ай бұрын
HAHAHA OH GIRL. I'm glad I'm not alone. And that's so great you haven't done drugs. Don't be like me ☠
@ShadesOClarity
@ShadesOClarity Ай бұрын
I like your quick cut editing style. I don't know what happened to that first comment. Anyway, I only almost hooked up with one person in rehab. She was a lawyer and I am a journalist, so we had a lot to talk about because I report on a lot of crime. I was supposed to get out on July 4, 2019, but they held me over because "holidays are a trigger." I told them holidays for me are the last thing that drives me to drink. I don't care about holidays at all. I was supposed to get out so I could take photos at our town's fireworks show. Anyway, she cried when I got called out to discharge. I still talk to her here and there and she's still sober from alcohol as far as I know. She did marry the guy she was seeing. I am not that dude. I am not a guy that messes with somebody's girlfriend even thought I really liked her.
@annabarram
@annabarram Ай бұрын
Oh good!! I'm glad to hear that you like it! And thank you for saying that, I appreciate it so much :) Oh boy...sounds like it was a tempting offer with the lawyer, lol. I feel it! Holidays aren't a trigger (yet) for me either, so I totally feel you there. Good on you for not getting involved in rehab and with someone who was in a relationship. It's an easy place to do that. Much love :)
@ShadesOClarity
@ShadesOClarity Ай бұрын
@@annabarram Yeah. She was cool. but, had a bad alcohol use disorder. She told me she would have to go to the bathrooom and throw up before she could enter the courtroom if it came down to it. She practiced mediation and family law. Like I said, I still talk to her here and there. She was a nice lawyer and person if you believe that.
@ShadesOClarity
@ShadesOClarity Ай бұрын
BTW, I just don't fool with other people's girlfriends. The karma will chop your head off especially if you have a substance abuse disorder. It is just bad. I don't plan on ever going back to that $h·+hole anyway. Thanks for the view and comment.
@annabarram
@annabarram Ай бұрын
@@ShadesOClarity Yikes! That's great you can still have a friendship...at a distance. Crazy who you meet in rehab. I'm sure people said the same thing about meeting me haha
@ZackaryHayward
@ZackaryHayward Ай бұрын
Were vulnerable and are looking for any validation. Seen it many times. You wont be the last!
@annabarram
@annabarram Ай бұрын
I hope someone watches this and then doesn't make my mistake. But I will certainly not be the last, you're correct...lol 😬
@lukejamieson1267
@lukejamieson1267 3 күн бұрын
I once got dumped on my birthday, but TBH she was kinda toxic and now i look back on it thinking i got lucky
@annabarram
@annabarram Күн бұрын
On your birthday???? Yeah that has toxic written all over it. I'm so sorry. And yeah you def dodged a bullet. One of my friends always says, "rejection is protection". lol
@TheWeekendYogurt
@TheWeekendYogurt Ай бұрын
I love your videos
@annabarram
@annabarram Ай бұрын
Aww thank you!! That makes me so happy to hear. :)
@TheWeekendYogurt
@TheWeekendYogurt Ай бұрын
It would be fun to do a collab!
@annabarram
@annabarram Ай бұрын
@@TheWeekendYogurt I was thinking that too!
@TheWeekendYogurt
@TheWeekendYogurt Ай бұрын
I’ll post a business email on my account tomorrow and we can chat there!
@TheWeekendYogurt
@TheWeekendYogurt Ай бұрын
@@annabarram Just put up the email. Feel free to send a message.
@zackcraft7204
@zackcraft7204 Ай бұрын
good video. did you get 13th stepped yet?
@annabarram
@annabarram Ай бұрын
LOL...I think so? By my first sponsor I got when I was in rehab. Have you?
@zackcraft7204
@zackcraft7204 Ай бұрын
@@annabarram no i haven't really been to meetings. Just heard its common
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