You're most welcome, Jamie! Best of luck!

Melody, I'm *so* glad this approach worked for you and your baby. I think you'll find that in a few weeks you'll be able to use other positions comfortably, too. Congratulations!!!

I agree. There definitely *is* an easier way during the early weeks. Best of luck, Colleen! You may also find this longer, free video helpful: www.naturalbreastfeeding.com/

Thanks for your kind words, Johanna Sargeant!

+Krysta Busekrus Hi Krysta, Essie, the mom in this video clip, had that experience, too, the first time she tried these positions. In her case, leaning back further made all the difference. However, keep the 3 adjustments in mind: adjust your body (which Essie needed to do), adjust your baby (which also made a difference for her), and adjust your breast. To review how these 3 adjustments work, watch this clip: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/ms-lerSZx9CnZqc.html

@@NancyMohrbacher is there different advice for starting this with a distraught large 7 week old baby? And what to do when they're too long to touch all of you?

@@dustyandchelseamcclellan5670, the first thing is to calm the baby. A distraught baby is unlikely to be receptive to anything new. Perhaps do half or a third of a feeding in the usual way before adjusting your positioning. As far as baby being "too long to touch all of you," what's helpful is for baby to have full frontal contact of the torso and hips, unrestricted hands, and contact of something (could be rolled up cloth) on either the tops or bottoms of his feet. Foot contact with the parent or another object helps orient baby. Help this helps!

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You're most welcome, Steffani Beck! The whole reason we put these videos up and made them free was so that nursing parents who were struggling could find them and hopefully find a solution to their problem. Your baby is very lucky you have worked so hard to give her the best!

any tips for a deeper latch?

what is lipstick nipple? I never heard of this and my baby is over a month old now and I had several nurses and 2 lactation consultants helping me (not very well) when she was first born...

Emotional attachment between parent and child is a complex and ongoing process. One aspect (such as who breastfed you) would not be enough to explain your feelings (or lack of feelings) about your mother. There's likely much more to your story.

From your description, it sounds like latching is much more comfortable than it was previously but there is still some pain. My guess is that you have some nipple damage. In this case, even when you achieve a deep latch, you might still feel some discomfort. If I'm right, this pain should lessen quickly. When your nipple enters what I call "the comfort zone," there's no friction or pressure, and your nipple can heal even if you keep breastfeeding. Take a look at this video, where I describe this to Michelle: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/Y86Ydt1nmtLMgGg.htmlsi=hEhueT2Ce1YG96Va

I'm delighted you found it helpful! In answer to your question, Essie (the mom in this video) also has nipples closer to the underside of her breast. You might find it helpful to watch a couple of her other videos, such as this one: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/hK1_lJOpu92Udnk.htmlsi=gPoUwmoGOLRx5Z6D

Here's another video of Essie getting started with her baby that may be useful to watch: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/a55kodli1LTcpqs.htmlsi=Spz-HlgGy5tMHFkU

Felisha Marie, I'm so sorry you are having so many problems! Have you watched our longer video? It suggests some adjustments that might help. You can see it here: www.naturalbreastfeeding.com/

If you're still struggling after trying the adjustments, let me know which city and state you are in, and I'll see if I know someone I could recommend. Best of luck!

@@NancyMohrbacher Roseville Michigan and still painful and clicking. Working on getting rid of the milk blister. Hurts so bad I'm in tears.

​@@felishamarie9163, I know the people well here and know you would get excellent help. Feel free to give them a call: bfcaa.com/​

That sounds really challenging! I'm sorry breastfeeding has been so difficult for both of you. I suggest watching our longer video (link at the end of this response) and using the various adjustments described to find your own best fit. In these positions, gravity helps baby get on deeper and stay on. If that doesn't help, it's time to contact an IBCLC for in-person help. Do you know how to find an IBCLC in your area? Best of luck! Here's the link to the longer video: www.naturalbreastfeeding.com/

Jamaica Beñalon, I suggest you meet with a Lactation consultant in your area. Don’t give up hope. It’s definitely not too late. Even small adjustments can make a big difference.

@@NancyMohrbacher what do the women who cannot afford a lactation consultant or who aren't near one do? And how do people fine a credible one?? What I think is really despicable is how you and other lactation consultants market something that should be given free to all women, breastfeeding help shouldn't be optional or costs money. At the hospitals the lactation consultants there are useless and it is difficult to find an independent one without paying some kind of money. You women should be ashamed of yourselves. It's disgusting that people would market something like this fo financial gain when you know women are really struggling and babies aren't getting the food made for them.

@@ASmith-jn7kf My KZfaq channel *is* free, and the reason I created it was to provide information that is enough for many families to solve their own nursing problems. For low-income families in the US, I suggest contacting the local public health department. In my experience, breastfeeding help is available there from lactation consultants and/or peer counselors who are dedicated to making sure all families get the help they need. Most LCs I know in private practice also apply a sliding scale of payments based on income. And not all hospitals LCs are useless. If you're not happy with those you met, look around. In my area, very skilled LCs provide outpatient help to families and charge nothing for those who can't afford to pay. I'm really sorry if you had some bad experiences, but there really are good people out there.

@@ASmith-jn7kf In addition to the suggestions I made below, there are also volunteer peer support organizations that provide free lactation help all over the world. One example is La Leche League International. Another in the US is Breastfeeding USA. These experienced nursing parents provide both support and lactation help at no charge. I've volunteered for both of these organizations and given free help to families this way for nearly 40 years. If you're in Australia, check out the Australian Breastfeeding Association. They're awesome!

@@ASmith-jn7kf I would blame the country you're in for not supporting medical care for its citizens. I'm guessing America? Other countries subsidise this form of care. Where I live in Australia, Medicare will cover 6 weeks of consulting. Blame your greedy government, not the professionals who have worked hard to learn their skill set.

Neha Patil, one of our mothers, Michelle, definitely has flat nipples. You can watch what works for her here: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/Y86Ydt1nmtLMgGg.html

In addition to the video link I shared before, you may want to watch our longer free video, which explains the "adjust your breast" adjustment that can work wonders with flat nipples. You can watch it here: www.naturalbreastfeeding.com/

Shauntol Samuda, have you seen a lactation provider? If not, the next step is to see someone to help you figure out what your baby is looking for but not finding. I've helped many nursing parents and it often turned out only a small adjustment was needed. What city are you in? I might be able to recommend someone.

What are you actually confused about? The fact that you need to comfortable, making body contact with your baby and positioning the baby on body then worrying about latching?

@@Lizzifer7 ???? Dear God! You make no sense either.

@@trb2021 is english you're first language? How is " first, get comfortable, next, position baby correctly, then, introduce boob" confusing?

@@agirlisnoone5953 You need to read that shit again. That is not how that comment was worded.