Is the Pain of the Unfaithful Spouse Valid?

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6 жыл бұрын

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Samuel shares insight into the observations and struggles of the unfaithful spouse.
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@mitchelljones7683 5 жыл бұрын

Yes saftey,and blaming the betrayed and all that's wrong because if that was the case the betrayed would have been, as well as is, unfaithful in the marriage to. Due to unhappiness and not feeling fulfilled in every way in life marriage and conversations are not what your wanting it to be & talk about.all the betrayed can see and hear is bs excuses

@kkrr3513 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much...i am trying to hold onto the light eventhough i get really depressed from time to time.

@samshealingpodcast 6 жыл бұрын

you're very welcome. it's absolutely normal and to be expected. don't be too hard on yourself.

@kellyvision831 6 жыл бұрын

I do come from faith, but I appreciate the way you explain to both types of people. We are having a hard time getting my husband to give his opinions and talk about things that have happened. He had an 8 month affair with a coworker most recently. Also told me that there were 2 other affairs during our 12 year marriage. So trust is not very easily given back to him and he's losing faith that I will ever be able to trust him.

@samshealingpodcast 6 жыл бұрын

it's completely understandable. here are two resources that will help you both immensely. 1 is on shame and helping him to understand the process that's going on with him and you: www.affairrecovery.com/newsletter/founder/infidelity-recovery-understanding-the-paralysis-of-shame 2. this is a fantastic article on how to rebuild trust and what that looks like and how to do it: www.affairrecovery.com/shocking-truth-about-trust sure hope those help. glad you're here.

@RaneetaFailua15 5 жыл бұрын

I didnt realise they was a valid pain until a few months now. But yes thanks for the video.

@rosannarivero2863 5 жыл бұрын

I hope your situation has improved since you posted this. I felt for you when I read your post and I relive my own.

@132000atay 5 жыл бұрын

Hi Samuel, it has been 12 mths since D day. We are still working on our restoration. I hv gone twice with my Uf spouse for vacation and I was hoping to regain our physical intimacy. However my Uf is unable to becoz he said we have not hv any intimacy for over 5 years hence he is not sure how to hv it with me. And he said he is constancely reminded by me on his wrong doing when i send bible sermons or quotes or video or your video to him etc.. is this reaction normal? Do you think our situation will improve eventually. how can we regain intimacy?

@samshealingpodcast 5 жыл бұрын

it is somewhat normal for sure. there are several layers to this. sometimes it's shame. sometimes is self hatred. sometimes, after long periods of expose to pornography, men suffer ED as they have been using a bit of a psychedelic to act out. 5 years is a long time for sure so the repair part and process will take some work and expert help. i would do something like the ems online course found here: www.affairrecovery.com/product/ems-online he probably needs something like this course as well, just for him and his own intimacy and reconnection issues/process: www.affairrecovery.com/product/hope-for-healing the situation can improve with expert help and both of your commitment to that process. again, BOTH of your commitment. not just you, he has to commit as well.