Is Your Narcissistic Ex Happy?

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In this video, I answer the question: Is your Narcissistic Ex truly happier without you. as well as exactly why you NEVER need to be jealous of your narcissistic ex's new partner or relationship.
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0:00-1:05: Introduction
1:05-3:07: Hoovering
3:25-4:40 - Are they happier without you?
4:40-5:55 What you need to remember
5:55-8:15: New partner is falling in the same trap
8:15-9:54: Narcissist hasn't suddenly become a great partner
9:54-11:00: Why you shouldn't be jealous
11:00-11:34: Conclusion
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@PaulRubino Жыл бұрын

I dated a narcissist. When I met her she told me her ex used to abuse her physically, emotionally and sexually, and he threw her down a flight of stairs. I felt so bad for her. My relationship with her followed the usual course of narcissistic relationships - we went from (what seemed like) true love to hell in about a year and broke up. Later I hear through the grapevine she's been telling her friends I abused her physically, emotionally and sexually, and I threw her down a flight of stairs. All lies, but that's when I realized, the guy before me probably didn't do these things either. This is just the narcissist's sales pitch to suck in new victims.

@mgu1N1n1 Жыл бұрын

Sounds very familiar... putting the pieces together.

@Patriot_Eke Жыл бұрын

Peterson has a video up about this. Since women cannot use physical violence, they often resort to reputation destruction. My ex spread all sorts of lies about me. She even tried them in court. Thankfully, the judge didn't buy it. Still, she didn't get in trouble for lying in court when she should have. If the roles were reversed, I would have been heavily penalized.

@heyoldman2003 Жыл бұрын

@@Patriot_Eke it’s sad , there is two different standards for abuse victims.. one for the girls and another for the guys . for girls is zero tolerance and for guys… oh it’s not that bad . take it like a man😞 it almost killed me

@ChrisDeVarro Жыл бұрын

Lol 😂

@heyoldman2003 Жыл бұрын

@@ChrisDeVarro ?

@donnas.1576 Жыл бұрын

When I saw that they bought a house together, the only thing I could think was that the new supply is in for a world of trouble.

@nickadams1519 Жыл бұрын

Sending Love ❤️ ...Donna..Are you single ?❤️😊

@casinodelonge 3 ай бұрын

Just had exactly the same experience, she's snagged another walking wallet.

@jr5389 2 ай бұрын

@@casinodelonge👌😂😂😂😂

@AS-uq3yf Жыл бұрын

Lise...You are helping hundreds of thosands of men who are suffering because they got involved with a BPD/narcissist. Thank You.

@FloppedASF Жыл бұрын

Im borderline narcissists and got myself with another narcissist, we are suffering as well

@jessoftherocks Жыл бұрын

I also really like Tara palmontia, she's fighting for men too

@thisisharrible7467 Жыл бұрын

@@robert.9028 Sounds like you were the problem, buddy

@heyoldman2003 Жыл бұрын

@@robert.9028 or at least any one with narsistic Tendencies. My ex contested it too, and it was expensive, but I finally have peace of mind. I think it was money well spent…

@sunbeam9222 Жыл бұрын

@@robert.9028 I'm sorry for your traumatic experience. I should think that radical anything is to avoid but modern women as a whole? Don't let the experience make your brain go in search of complete opposite next time ie a lady that won't cross the road without you ;) As the Buddha says: the middle way.

@jera9654 Жыл бұрын

The pain of losing something that never was is a uniquely disturbing and disorienting experience. Theirs is a cold and desperate existence of manipulating others in hopes of finding someone that will love them "hard" enough that they will finally feel it. They have abandoned themselves and are looking outward for what can only be found within.

@LondonBroilSandwiches Жыл бұрын

Preach

@sirg-had8821 Жыл бұрын

Speaking truth

@robertdemeter5793 7 ай бұрын

If you think THEY are the one that "made' you feel then you are still under their control/spell, you're still wrapped up in their neverending inner delusions/dar-kness, and you learned nothing. The truth is, you were loving YOURSELF the entire time you were interacting with them as they were doing nothing more than mirroring you, there is nobody inside them in the first place, therefore there was nobody for you to love but yourself (as they themselves are incapable of true empathy/love). Stating that they made you feel is like saying an empty robot made you feel, or an empty soda can made you feel. And in the same way it's completely ridiculous to think a Narc made you feel anything...As they were doing nothing more than mirroring you in the beginning. Based on a lie and you cannot truly feel for lies. They are completely incapable of processing their emotions, they don't know how to. And that is why when you state that you love them they greatly resent it, they turn you into an enemy and play their games. Because inside they ask themselves- " how can you possibly love this ? ' Unless you get over these massive hurdles and understand the bigger picture of Universal spiritual truths in your relationships then you will never be the truly empathic powerful loving spirit being you truly are to love the world/heal the world. ..

@tra2118 3 ай бұрын

Exactly

@emilkadd 4 күн бұрын

Amazing statement

@Truman77. Жыл бұрын

So literally the narcissist will self destruct a relationship, as their need for fresh supply is paramount. Once you become old material, or you are calling the person out for their behaviours, a new supply wil be sought. The narcissist is not capable of healthy and loving relationships.

@sunnykhan5451 Жыл бұрын

True they get bored of the same supply cos they can no truthfully love anyone its just the chemistry they seek and it runs out quickly.. good supply provide longer chemistry even up to 3-4 yrs but they mask it to keep going and have others at the same time as they have long list of ex's. They are always shady on the phone and you can see in their mannerism and flirtiness.. Shady.

@heythere6983 5 ай бұрын

There are plenty of people on these kinds of videos who claim to be there for even decades with narcissists though , so if doesn’t seem it’d always do quick

@mgu1N1n1 Жыл бұрын

Men, do not hesitate for one moment to put a restraining order against your female partner if you feel your safety and health is in jeopardy. Placing a permanent restraining order on my female partner was absolutely the wisest protective move of my adult lifetime. My only regret is not doing it years earlier. Men, be safe! A Day of Loneliness Beats a Day of Madness!!

@blakcanis Жыл бұрын

They're never happy, even when they appear to be in the next relationship. They're just riding that dopamine train until it crashes and the current partner will experience the same fallout as you did, while they skip off into the sunset with the next unsuspecting target. Good discussion.

@DavidGannonRugby Жыл бұрын

I've come to realize her whole image she projects to the world is a total fabrication. She recently reached out after years asking how I was with cute little compliments but I saw it for what it was and stayed unemotional. Recently found out her engagement is over. Feel sorry for the guy

@jorgeandrescoppiano.5715 Жыл бұрын

It’s amazing how much infant trauma and broken family can hurt a human being so much. And lead them into Narcissism and BPD. Love, authenticity, and justice are the answer. And they all come from God. Directly, through family, professional help, friends. But it is God.

@desertweasel6965 Жыл бұрын

They find new supply before they discard you. They don't spend a second single. They may or may not be physical with this new supply, but they have already chosen this person and that new supply is already being manipulated.

@clintonnagy1662 Ай бұрын

I agree. It took 3 weeks till my ex narc contacted me when I first gave her my number. We may have exchanged 20 messages in 3 weeks. I knew it was moving slow, because she was already entangled with someone else before she discarded him. Once she dumped him, she targeted me and she came on very strong. It went from 0-100.

@user-fk8rb8ue5h Жыл бұрын

Happy or not I don't give a toss. As far as I'm concerned, she's dead and I'm moving on

@wademellor5304 Жыл бұрын

Amen brother 👍

@AP-eh6gr Жыл бұрын

Love it

@lilfairycupcake 10 күн бұрын

bingo! best bet is, i dont care.

@keithbarbur2577 Жыл бұрын

Absolutely right! I was in a long term fantasy relationship for almost 8yrs. What a crash when I got discarded. There were many red flags along the way that I totally pushed aside to stay in the relationship that I THOUGHT was good. Thank you for all in your insight. It’s a tough road to recovery.

@clareocholla 4 ай бұрын

Are you single? Asking for a friend

@dbahardstyle1 Жыл бұрын

You videos have carried me through a toxic relationship from the beginning of the relationship until the breakup. Thank you for everything you do, Lise!

@TheNarcFileShow Жыл бұрын

They are never happy, it was all a act and they know what they are doing full stop!

@CoachCee Жыл бұрын

Great video Lise! I recently broke up with a female who is a covert narcissist. She displayed many of the traits you describe that covert narcs exhibit. At first, she made me feel like I was her knight in shining armor and showered me with compliments and maintained constant communication with me but little by little her mask started to slip and she started to have moments where she wouldn't treat me well, totally unlike the person she portrayed herself to be in the beginning. After these first few incidents, we started to have relationship difficulties on a regular weekly basis after a few short months of what seemed like the beginning of a perfect relationship.It's almost been a month since I ended things with her (and she brutally discarded me and hasn't said a word to me since). I'm slowly recovering because I realize trauma bonded to her. What hurts me the most is the thought that she's off doing the same thing with someone else and that her words and actions weren't genuine and, as an empath I'm left with the lingering thought that things could have been different.

@Bob-zh6dw Жыл бұрын

I'll bet you were always the one giving and she only took from you. What did she contribute to the relationship besides sex? Nothing ........

@heyoldman2003 Жыл бұрын

when trouble goes… don’t ask where

@derekmarks8969 Жыл бұрын

This is what they do. Mine did the same thing, constant communication, at first I thought it was sweet and loving, but then I discovered it was anything but loving and sweet. The constant communication was used as a dispatch time log, she would use to scrutinize how long it took me to get home from the gym, or anything I would do to leave the house, she wanted leaving and arrive times. I thought it was sweet but it was just a trap, when the mask fell, all the sweetness left the text messages. The text messages were just loveless time stamps use to control. The communication was presented as love but it was all for control. It took me 3 years until I saw the mask slip multiple times. It took me 2 more years hoping the good times would be back, but was left totally drained exhausted and neglected. At the end it got really bad when she thought she was above me because she was attending Christian church 3 days a week. Lots of triangulation putting church and god before me as much as she could.

@CFChristian Жыл бұрын

@@derekmarks8969 I like your idea of timestamps. That makes perfect sense in retrospect. Funny too, in a similar way. I actually tried to get mine to go to church and bring the kids along. "I'm super busy." was the usual response. It wasn't until I was cast aside that apparently it was really no trouble at all to go to mass with her mom. Gosh.

@derekmarks8969 Жыл бұрын

@@CFChristian yeah she’s trying to pretend now she’s changed and she’s going to church. It’s all an act. When girls say they are to busy that means they just don’t give a fuck.

@terenzo50 Ай бұрын

Why would I care about an ex, narcissistic or otherwise? The point of an ex is that you don't have to care about them any more.

@lilfairycupcake 10 күн бұрын

0 contact.

@wyt-Emma Жыл бұрын

No, I don't look back on any updates of my ex, just concentrating on my personal growth!

@kunkunaku Жыл бұрын

Damn. So true. I've thought of calling the dude and letting him know what he is in for but if he is deep in his C-PTSD and Stockholm Disorder, he no doubt will be defensive and incredulous. So sad, he will be another damaged victim. " Welcome to my parlor said the spider to the fly".

@lastthingsministry 3 ай бұрын

Bless you for your kindness and empathy. Sadly a narcissistic relationship is like being in a cult and you can never tell a cult member they are in a cult as they believe in it and the love bombing it too powerful. Then there is that trauma bond because they have cut ties with everyone else so that is the sunk cost fallacy too. Sadly some things have to be experienced to be believed.

@A_n_y_t_i_m_e Жыл бұрын

People who are 💀 inside can't be happy. 🤡

@Mjones4949 Жыл бұрын

Even if they remain with a new main supply, they're cheating with multiple other supplies! Sick people.

@stevesmith2770 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for mixing in a bit of comedic relief in this session, Lise. Somehow the hell l I lived is a bit less devastating if I can laugh!

@johndavid3132 Жыл бұрын

My narcissist surrounded herself with adolescent boys as her excuse was that her son needed a lot of friends. One night when Walter, a 12 year old who she spent a lot of time having deep conversations with him, I heard her ask him and I quote, " Which Is Worse Blue Balls Or Being Kicked In The Balls!" I was floored!! I confronted her and said "What The Hell Are You Doing?!" She totally dismissed it. That is when I knew she was not only a narcissist but also a pedophile.....I left shortly after that. Narcissists are demonic and have all the traits of their father the devil.

@derekmarks8969 Жыл бұрын

Their father the devil wow, trademark that, make t shirts

@johndavid3132 Жыл бұрын

@@derekmarks8969 well you tell me based on their "FRUITS" or if you don't know the Bible.... their character traits. Let's put some light on the matter. They're selfish and full of pride never admitting fault of any kind, they cheat and then blame you for the reason they cheated when exposed, they lie, gaslight, which means they distort your reality, they instigate chaos and confusion, they manipulate and scheme, they are all about image putting on a fake mask to the outside world and very materialism, they are vengeful and full of hate and envy, ofcourse only the very close to them see behind that mask. As I stated with my ex they don't have moral boundaries. I'd say that it's the character of the devil but you decide.🙏💯

@desertweasel6965 Жыл бұрын

Imagine the control and manipulation they can bestow upon a young boy who doesn't know any better. That is about as sick as it gets.

@johndavid3132 Жыл бұрын

@@desertweasel6965 yes it is! It's called grooming. After I stumbled on and started researching narcissism and spectrum B personality disorders I had a "LIGHT BULB" moment. Everything that many councilors and physiologists shared about this disorder made it very clear that she was one. It totally shed light on the darkness. I use that analogy because it is a spiritual darkness. If you see what is occurring in not only our Country but world wide you can see the total godless push upon the rest of humanity.

@cophater298 7 ай бұрын

was she fat

@jamesmf968 Жыл бұрын

I confronted my narcissist ex with examples of her behavioral patterns, explaining to her that I think she has a cluster B personality disorder, as she was trying to hoover me. It was like water off a duck’s back, she succeeded in hoovering me, only to discard me again a few weeks later. She’s a frustrating puzzle I can’t stop trying to solve.

@chrissorrels7093 Жыл бұрын

Yes you can! "I release you to your fate". Repeat as many times as needed until you resist the urge. My ex.narc is low on supply and looks like a drug addict on withdrawal. The manipulation is oh so subtle. I considered trying to do just what you did. Fortunately I repeated the mantra until the feeling passed. I've been hoovered before and it never ends well. Close the chapter and move on. Let go of any anger, pain, pity, or empathy. You are holding on only because that's all that is left. But it's just in your mind. There is nothing left. Release her to her fate and live your best life.

@NKRAIEM Жыл бұрын

That's bc you need to heal your truama wound of loneliness . She is just in the way. She has nothing to do with it, and is just a distraction from your true healing 👍

@clintonnagy1662 Ай бұрын

I can relate. I ruminate the same puzzle pieces in my head. I have all the answers, I just keep asking the same questions over and over....to be honest, I'm going insane, while she is living her best life with new supply. Not sure why I waste time being stuck, trying to solve a puzzle that's already put together. I see it clearly, but don't accept it. It's like my brain keeps playing the same music over and over and over and over again. I'm not worried about her mental health anymore.... I'm worried about mine.

@JohnSmith-wo7ns Жыл бұрын

Each new supply is just a child's shiny new toy. We were that toy once. The child always always gets bored and needs a new toy. They sometimes go back to an old toy, but its usually battered bruised and has an ear missing, its not treated well and often neglected.

@Sdy187 Жыл бұрын

Lise thank You so much for this video. This is exactly the way I am feeling about my soon to be ex-wife! She is walking around like she is so happy with her new supply and I have been stressed. Thank You so much

@lastthingsministry 3 ай бұрын

There should be more support available for men that have gone through this. I am a woman and have gone through this and can't imagine what it must be like for a man to go through this and not have either the support or the validation over this.

@lastthingsministry 3 ай бұрын

p.s. but the only real healing I have found is through a man, the God man Jesus Christ.

@scottairhart8594 Жыл бұрын

These short videos are priceless! Focus on healing and caring for yourself, as you cannot heal anyone else. Don't bash on yourself-or anyone else- in this realization.

@Takezo.D.Shinmen Жыл бұрын

The hoovering started 3 months after our break-up aka 6 weeks after her marriage, yes marriage. She doesn't know I'm subscribed to this channel 😂

@ianarn Жыл бұрын

Unfortunately her emotions will shift which she seems to have no control over and as her feelings are taken by her as absolute gospel facts the new man will face devaluation much sooner probably half the time it was with you. The best case scenario is if you don’t have children with her. If she has baby rabies (like my 35 year old ex) the new guy will have a much shorter time window to ‘produce the goods’ or he’ll face a much quicker discard than you regardless of how much she said she loved you two days ago! Of my 10 month on/off relationship with my ex I’d say the new guy might at best survive 4 to 5 months tops

@matthewmcmacken6716 11 ай бұрын

My narcissistic ex-girlfriend dated a guy for 3 months and he put a ring on her finger, with a wedding date of next June. I suspect the idealization phase will be ending shortly, and he soon will wake up and won't even know what hit him. I'm thinking she'll somehow hold it together enough to have him sign the marraige certificate.

@clintonnagy1662 Ай бұрын

Oh boy...I see the same pattern in my ex. She tried to trap me with the pressure of marriage. I had to slow down the relationship and she didn't like it. She began the devaluation process and saw a side of her I didn't like. Controlling, manipulative, selfish and lack of empathy. I knew it wasn't gonna work. She tried to string me along until she found new supply but I kept pulling away. She eventually discarded me a soon saw her out with someone new. I knew it wouldn't be long till she hooked another guy in her game. That hurt, but I wasn't surprised. I just expected better. These types CAN'T be alone !!!

@johnjanocsko5137 11 ай бұрын

Has anyone else experienced this? My Narc wife filed for divorce months ago, and has convinced herself that I am the Narc. (I heard her listening to KZfaq videos months ago but did not take it seriously at the time.) My daughter was ahead of the game, figuring her out so that supply dried up for my wife. Our daughter has turned me onto these videos, and as I watch them, I am now figuring out that my wife is ‘gray stoning’ us both because she thinks I am the Narc and because she has found a new guy which means a new Narc supply. Watching these videos, I am now learning. This is a blessing to me and our daughter who says her mother is dead to her. We are quickly approaching my wife’s second divorce for the exact same reasons that I heard about her first Ex. And she already has her next victim in her sights. I am really grateful for these videos. They are making a lot of sense to me.

@carminefederico-rv7fg 6 ай бұрын

I want to thank you for your work..i just got cheated on from my girlfriend ..she has done it several times..we are broken up again for good now....i am hurting and miss her very much..trying to break free...so depressed

@sniperwolf786 6 ай бұрын

I got cheated on once. Just take a flight out to a lads holiday for a week. You will get over her when you see how caring and loving other women are.

@zandig666 Жыл бұрын

I've had a few want to come back, I said no !! as much as I loved the smashn !! I had one send me pics of her cooking and happy new life just as Lise said hhhha but the drama and bs wasn't worth it !!!!

@billlane9173 Жыл бұрын

Mine is killing me slowly

@heyoldman2003 Жыл бұрын

get out Man . no matter how hard. there are better days ahead 🙏🏼

@thiago.assumpcao Жыл бұрын

If you think you have a narcissist partner look for therapy regardless if you want to stay in it or let it go. By therapy I mean self therapy, not couples therapy. Couples therapy with narcissist is unproductive.

@zorannedeljkovic4346 Жыл бұрын

Set a boundary.... the pain won't stop fully but they will move on to someone else once they realize you won't play their games

@paulkrenz9593 Жыл бұрын

no one has a right to destroy you Bill, think of your health and your future

@eaglewindspirit Жыл бұрын

You should have a radio talk show with screened call ins

@shawnbentley1369 9 ай бұрын

These videos are life savers. Thank you so much for this. Its amazing how your words are exactly right to the situation and what I need to hear. I have had a therapist help me over time and your videos are my in between support on my journey. Thank you again so much, I have been struggling to keep myself away from her. This is a great reminder of what it would really be like if I did try to engage with her again.

@princhipessa1969 8 ай бұрын

I’m trauma bonded still but everything you said here is what I experienced with my exGF. Of course she posts on her IG that SHE has been a victim of narcissistic abuse & her stupid friends believe her. They should call Me!!

@clintonnagy1662 Ай бұрын

Oh man....my ex would say her ex bf was a narcissist. She claims he physically and mentality abused her. She mentioned how bad she HATED him but told how she went to wineries, restaurants and events with him after the break up. I thought it was odd for her to hate her ex but do things with him. When I confronted her, she used the excuse she was afraid of him because they shared a son together, and she didn't want her son to be abused. It's just LIES, LIES, LIES

@fredbush2593 Жыл бұрын

1.Emotional Health 2.Spiritual Maturity 3.Discerment

@pierre931 5 ай бұрын

end of relaionship wonder often our ego and not us .we must let go.the world is big and life go on

@jmarietv Жыл бұрын

terrific video...SPOT ON! I was so devastated and I feel so much better

@thiago.assumpcao Жыл бұрын

Spot on Lise. Thanks

@romanrandolph Жыл бұрын

Lise, thank you for revealing the truth. 👍

@armando9913 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Lise! You have helped out immensely!

@syr79021 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! God bless you and your family for all you do for victims of devastating epidemy!

@therealjordiano Жыл бұрын

I love the lil clips you put in after making certain points, great content

@ukaszcholewa5251 6 ай бұрын

exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you!

@ruso22k Жыл бұрын

You help me see the horrible behavior and tendencies in myself that I would ignore or excuse as something else. It sounds horrible but this is the truth of it. You’re helping abusers like me to stop hurting and manipulating others. Thank you

@moonnightbricks3948 Жыл бұрын

Your videos are enlightening....I just wanted to say thank you.

@boriskross7706 7 ай бұрын

i needed to hear this, thank you Lise.

@casinodelonge 3 ай бұрын

Thank you Lise, that was really exactly what I needed to hear right now.

@JohnSeklecki-wt8qz 11 ай бұрын

I know you are right. Lady - I am really impressed with your knowledge. Your wisdom is priceless..... John

@sorearm 21 күн бұрын

This is text book my ex. The same play pattern. I can't believe how i was taken in, love bombed, shown her vulnerabilities (which weren't true), then the manipulation, the gaslighting, the control, micro manipulation, cut off from friends, subtle constant criticism, everything had to be her way. Wow. She's had a string of unsuccessful relationships and is still stuck in that cycle. Oh and I'm to blame apparently. And i was a constant abuser apparently, funnily just like her previous ex ...

@peterbrody3338 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Lise, I needed this today. It's been 6 months; I miss her so much, I'd take her back. I'm lucky she hasn't reached out and is with someone else (I think). I'm moving to another continent next week but I don't feel safe - if she reaches out I'm doomed. How am I still in love with a toxic mess? lol.

@davidyardley512 Жыл бұрын

Peter, don't grieve for a ghost, someone who was only ever a figment of your imagination. You are still early in the trauma bond phase. Once your cognitive dissonance completely reconciles, meaning you are no longer struggling to determine whether or not the narcissist has a good side (you understand that the good side of a narcissist is nothing more than manipulation). Once you accept the fact that this is who and what they truly are, is the moment the trauma bond releases its power over you. Good luck Peter.

@peterbrody3338 Жыл бұрын

@@davidyardley512 😇

@Bob-zh6dw Жыл бұрын

You're trauma bonded. This will pass in time. Stay No Contact if you want to heal from this toxic relationship

@heyoldman2003 Жыл бұрын

@@Bob-zh6dw Amen 👍🏼

@drahusz 11 ай бұрын

Another great Video, these videos are such a help on getting Some understanding on what the hell just happened to me. Cause it was so confusing

@treeze_it7800 Жыл бұрын

I do feel so very free. Sad that I was so drained that I’ve had to literally crawl out of the sewer I thought was love. It’s been a year and I’m being myself, dating myself and enjoying it. Just wish I could make it so he does not enter my thoughts every day. But time will help!

@C_Masi Жыл бұрын

Lise, thanks for the video. This sounds alot like BPD to me - the two conditions seem similar.

@MrMrbrunomurray 7 ай бұрын

Thanks Lise! Hugs from Brazil.

@mikemccartneyable Жыл бұрын

You are always so accurate with your descriptions and analysis. I know this will sound very callous but this all begs the question ...should NPD's deserve to be treated with empathy/humanity especially given that they exploit exactly that?

@omarcastro-sx2bv 8 ай бұрын

On behalf of all men, thank you so very much for helping us ❤🙏

@rapstar4575 10 ай бұрын

She def wasnt aware how abusive she was. She was literally in her own world

@publiogautreaux8651 Жыл бұрын

If I knew about Lise video before I wasn’t suffering so much in a relationship with a narcissist

@user-gs8nw5ju1q 8 ай бұрын

@liseleblanc - I am from India. I sincerely thank you for creating such informative content & explaining to the extent that anybody can understand & diagnose whether the partner is Narcissist or not..

@DrTechMedRevolution 3 ай бұрын

Man you’re an angel sent from the heavens 👼😇

@libo6368 Жыл бұрын

Excellent video

@acedup7776 10 ай бұрын

Thanks for the video, currently on the hoovering stage, I decided to cut contact with her. Only way to heal

@samer.abandeh 5 ай бұрын

Ya mine was always posting how happy she is with her new bf, and I caught her stalking me with fake insta and Snapchat profiles tryna talk to me, and when she knew I recognized her, she started telling she has no bf, and that her mom is terminal cancer, just to get some empathy.. she keeps her real accounts clean to show she's loyal to her new bf, and doing all these fakes to try get back on her ex's.. shes never satisfied.. and she's actually surprised when I call her stalker or manipulative.. I'm actually sorry for her new bf..

@kynathomas4809 5 ай бұрын

I knew one who had been stalking her ex husband with fake Facebook pages and she literally told me she was a stalker. She had been divorced for 24 years and had several children by different men yet she couldn't stop stalking her ex-husband whose been remarried 22 years . He was the one that got away with no children attached with her.

@samer.abandeh 5 ай бұрын

@@kynathomas4809 believe me, if I'd go in details, I'd write books on what I've saw with my own eyes lol, and it was a mere year relationship.. and she's only 19.. what would she'll accomplish by the age of 30?? I thought I was special, now I think I'm just one of many.. it's like a virus.. and the way she convinces u.. I'm so glad that I realized it before getting stuck.. although it can change anyone's aspect about relationships, coz u'd keep saying u never know

@clintonnagy1662 Ай бұрын

Holy cow. My ex does the same thing !! She makes fake profiles to spy on her ex to entrap him for NOT following the court order to take their son on the weekends ...she told me this. I think it's a bogus excuse.

@Jordanlewis316 5 ай бұрын

Your short video clips you put in your videos are oscar worthy

@user-pm5nj8ie4q Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much is all i can say for your videos

@dennistate5953 Жыл бұрын

Jesus what a question will not watch to the end thanks anyway i am healing!!❤❤❤

@ean3345 Жыл бұрын

May God bless your efforts and knowledge. You're spreading awareness that saves lives.

@kamilklepacki1283 4 ай бұрын

I prayed for this hoover to happen... thought it would happen... in reality I hoovered... for months... I really had a feeling I can't live without her... til I was finally blocked after writing so offensive things like "you should die alone you narcissist!! You fucking monster!" and then showing that to her only facebook friend that liked her latest profile photo. It looked like I was the abuser but I don't care. I could really bear a lot before I moved from love to this kind of hate.

@scottward9976 3 ай бұрын

Gosh, I hate that this is spot on, again..

@michaelc.6927 Ай бұрын

No, it's been 47 years, not any leaving now. I always knew there was something wrong. But I also know that what she has and the way she is is not her fault because of now knowing about what she was raised with. Looking back I wish that we would have split. I may have been much happier with another woman. But then, I wouldn't have the wonderful daughter that we brought into this world. But then perhaps my son would still be alive as well. I think the mind games done to us all were very wrong and devastating. I just know now that I am sad :~(

@arikcarter9209 Жыл бұрын

Dear Lisa Thank you for your hard work to help us. Sense of relief and hope that you bring here to the world of abused man is so much helping. Understanding speed ups healing.

@donaldgansky5907 Жыл бұрын

Great information, thanks. This video made me feel better.

@sebrura 27 күн бұрын

I was married to one for several years. Holy shit, never ever have I experienced this kind of insanity. The breakup is a complete mindfuck. You realize about everything was an illusion, a hoax.

@NKRAIEM Жыл бұрын

I Gaslit myself and future faked myself, and went back for another roller coaster ride. And luckily got out this time for good.... After exposing them I went back, while she started dating something be else- I assumed it couldn't be real so quickly after we broke off. Oh, and she did replaced me while we were still together. Lol

@Bob-zh6dw Жыл бұрын

They cannot be alone. Their biggest fear is abandonment so they will ALWAYS have someone waiting on the side BEFORE they discard you.

@clintonnagy1662 Ай бұрын

Same thing here my friend. It's like these idiots went to the same school of Narcissists 101? It's disturbing.

@clintonnagy1662 Ай бұрын

@@Bob-zh6dwI'd have more respect for her to say she wanted to date other people instead of telling me she wants to be ALONE without me. Then, see her on a date (days later) with another dude. Not cool. I should of trusted my instincts before I got sex-bombed and put my heart on the chopping block for emotional sacrifice. All the while, she moves onto her next victim like everything we shared didn't mean a damn thing. Karma is her worse enemy now. She will feel the pain of 10 broken hearts when the punishment is dealt. I hope it makes her change her ways....

@johnnycalderon9951 Ай бұрын

Week after the break up shes with someone calls me to tell me and blocks me smh. She had to come pick up her dog at my house a week after and came with her new man. These ppl really deserve the worst

@toasttoast789 Ай бұрын

Yep mine after telling me she loves me and want to be exclusive in 3 weeks. Sex for 3 months then she had to stop till marriage. 3 months is to quick so I said I can see is possibly being married in the future, but I’m not ready yet. She agreed. We made it about 2 weeks after that and she text me saying she’s falling away from god and can’t handle a relationship right now, especially extra kids, since I had 2. 3 months later she’s with a new guy with kids. Feel bad for the guy I really do. But it gets easier every day especially since I can enjoy the skit instead of getting upset at it like I use to. I changed my whole look and I know I look good 😂 love yourself always

@ErnieLeblanc Жыл бұрын

6:40 - ''She Kills Him Anyway!''😆😅😂🙃🙃🙃🙃🤪😲😳

@davidyardley512 Жыл бұрын

I don't know and I don't care. Her 'happiness' is only about supply; it only ever was. Somehow, I sustained that supply for her for 17 years. Good luck to him, he's going to need it.

@clintonnagy1662 Ай бұрын

Just want to say I admire your firmness. My last relationship left my emotional state feeling like a raw nerve. I don't know how I feel anymore? I wish I had your will power, and lack of concern. My life would be alot better. It's gonna take time to see I'm better off without her mind games and manipulation. It's been 2 months since the discard and the wound is still fresh.

@davidsmith7587 Жыл бұрын

She is blocked..I don't think her life is any different..she has gotten me back many many times over 7 years..I've broken up with her..or attempted to break up over 20 times..her son is my replacement 😮

@clintonnagy1662 Ай бұрын

Oh wow. Is her name Melissa?

@estherporat8678 3 ай бұрын

Thanl you so much ❤

@warrenmoon7709 Жыл бұрын

Thank you

@fredbush2593 Жыл бұрын

Learning Brain 🧠 Without the narcissist’s…..Survival Brain 🧠 misery love Bombing 9:09

@Ryuhayabusa.7 Жыл бұрын

Is anyone else dealing with a partner that says they love you one day and then are hurtful the next day over a small argument? My gf will lash out when she’s upset, and it gets to a point where if she will threaten to break up with me. If I refuse to listen to her breaking up with me she will say “Can we just end it please?” There was this one time I did no contact for 5 days and she texted me 20 times in a row asking why I didn’t blow her, begged me to block her, said “Please just block me!!!” Repeatedly and called me over 50 times in a few hours. This was a month ago, she’s still irritating and trying to break us up every other day. Some back story on her, she was abandoned by her dad when she was younger. And she was in a 2-year relationship with an extremely abusive ex, and she was assaulted by an uncle. She’s been through A LOT, and I honestly feel bad for her. I don’t stick around because I feel bad, it’s because I’ve seen what she’s like at her core. I just don’t want to give up on her you know? It’s hard because I do see a future but I just need her to get better and want to be better. She admitted she wanted therapy and even signed up for it but she hasn’t been scheduled just yet.

@derekmarks8969 Жыл бұрын

Bpd and probably a narcissist. I know what you mean when you see them at their core. That’s the most painful part you want to help them. That’s why we stay or stayed, because we are good people. If you don’t see a huge shift after therapy and she’s still throwing break ups in your face, I would eject ⏏️

@sunnykhan5451 Жыл бұрын

If she is already older person like 30+ and hasnt sought help than I don't' think she is able to get any better, the thing is cos we are kind hearted and empaths we have weak boundaries and we let people like this keep on disrespecting us and at the end you are gonna get burned down, and god help if you guys get pregnant etc, soon you are going to be davalued and then discard, and hoover if they have a weaker supply she may come back to you for more and then same cycle happen until she finds someone better than you. Question are you gonna gamble with your precious time, is this even love that we all feel about our partners who are BPD or Narcissistic? or it just simply the case of our weak boundaries and kind heart?

@derekmarks8969 Жыл бұрын

@@sunnykhan5451 well said.

@finalthoughts2762 Жыл бұрын

How long are you willing to wait until "she changes"? 5 years? 3 years? 6 months? Figure it out for yourself and give it a firm deadline. If no positive changes by then (one step forward two steps back is Not a sign of progress, it's a trap) move on with your life.

@Tidoublemy Жыл бұрын

You assume her ex was abusive. He may very have not been abusive at all - she's just doing a smear campaign. These creatures lie about absolutely everything. Don't be surprised if she tells others that you are abusive. You should cut and run as soon as you can. Go full no contact. Nothing good will come from staying with her.

@Socoolral Жыл бұрын

❤thank you

@mikioni Жыл бұрын

I don't even have a first partner yet, let alone an ex.

@TonyWeeks-wo2mt 7 ай бұрын

thank you

@jamiecowling2934 Жыл бұрын

FKN RUN!!!!!!!!

@Chadyroo1 Жыл бұрын

Yup! My ex. That's why she's my ex. Been single for over a year now.

@mikevanroekel4759 Жыл бұрын

Don't have time to watch, But I hope so because I ain't about self cruelty 😅

@TheDevineFempress 6 ай бұрын

That winter we lived on the sun 😂😂😂

@satan2133 Жыл бұрын

Never happy

@user-vo1vd8rz1o Жыл бұрын

Like your film, but mine embezzled in additional to your view, she stole $500,000 and her new supply is well off and she is going to do it again

@Thedisgardedoptimist 5 ай бұрын

LoL I'm the horrible ex, Guilty! Please please remember my survival mode, I'll do it again if pushed...so I'm not worth hoovering .. I'm horrible... who's that over there!!!!

@crjaded Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video Lise. My narc ex was upset on Friday because I wouldn’t be back in town from my moms chemo treatment for childcare so she could spend the weekend with the new “supply.”

@Green89_ 13 күн бұрын

She’s happier because he’s keeping is wallet wide open while I kept mine closed once I started learning who she is. I’m not a sex addict like him.

@genghischan69 Жыл бұрын

This is good, but what if you somehow managed to have kids with this type of a person (or covert narcissist with a tinge of bpd). Then the resolve to leave this person isn't the real problem, it's dealing with the evil and manipulation of kids that is the lifelong problem that drives the other part in an early grave.

@fredbush2593 Жыл бұрын

These people are miserable simple put misery still loves company WorldClass Actors

@clintonnagy1662 Ай бұрын

Just watched the video " Frustrated Incorporated" by the band Soul Asylum. It says just that " misery loves company". Ironically, last week my counselor told me those same words from my last relationship ending 2 months ago. 💔 It hurts alot but probably for the best.