My Honest Advice for Young Men

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3 ай бұрын

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Becoming a man of value is no easy feat, but it doesn’t mean you have to continue to drag yourself from dumpster fire to dumpster fire in search of success and respect.
There are better ways-ways that I wish I knew about when I was a young man chasing parties, and women, and social status.
So listen up my dudes, in this video I’m sharing all the best ways to build self-esteem and earn respect. And do it in a way that you’re proud of.
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@niksatan 3 ай бұрын

I usually hate BS self-help and "life coach" landscape, but you are the one exception, thx Mark

@TheKrispyfort 3 ай бұрын

Probably because he's not promoting a quick fix

@TJ_Gonser 3 ай бұрын

@@TheKrispyfortidk better help is no Beuno

@asdsafddfshgosas2662 3 ай бұрын

@@TheKrispyfortthat's also what I thought but I still don't think that this is enough to change someone because they easily obtain these very important informations without any consequences or they simply cannot relate to what is being said. Sorry for the absolute trash grammar I'm still learning English.

@TheKrispyfort 3 ай бұрын

@@asdsafddfshgosas2662 Your grammar is fine. No worries. Your punctuation needs some practice. Again, not a big deal on KZfaq.

3 ай бұрын

yeah its always refreshing to hear what BS Mark has to say

@zalseon4746 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for including "just try damn it", i spent 13 years trying to become an engineer and it's finally happening. I graduate this summer and start work. I was told I would never make it in the military. I served in the Army for 8 years and that's how i funded my education. Seriously people, just try. You're a lot stronger and smarter than a lot of bad people want you to realize.

@bentravis777 3 ай бұрын

Was the Just try part also for the talking to women part? Also I'm confused about what he means? Like I don't want sex but he is saying to just approach women and state something? ...I'd assume you have to talk about other things first...have social skills and introduce myself? All this before just blurring out something about jeez I don't even know what he wants u to say. That I find u beautiful and would love to ___? Idk...he over estimates how little I know... I was forced to be a late bloomer so I need a little more help then the average Joe figuring this part out. Any help?

@josephvids1 3 ай бұрын

@@bentravis777You’re overcomplicating it. Just try talking to a woman. That’s it. It will either go bad or good or neither. Just try and you are already ahead of where you were before.

@Ressa9 3 ай бұрын

Congratulations

@Shadow650Nintendero 3 ай бұрын

Congrats man! I've tried for 6 years at this moment and I'm working as a phone agent to fund my education, I hate my work, but I hope it gives some results.

@psychedelicartistry 3 ай бұрын

@@josephvids1 Interesting I was thinking the exact same thing before I read you're comment while reading his.

@CrystleDragon 3 ай бұрын

As a woman, I found this video useful to understand men a little better. I also learned some stuff for myself. Like, yeah. I do complain too much. It's how I process things, but I realize I do it a lot, and I gotta work on that. Also: nothing is hotter than a man who is emotionally mature and supportive, imo.

@AliMacAzz 3 ай бұрын

@CrystyleDragon And very few things are.hotter than a woman who doesn’t complain and knows the value of taking responsibility and accountability.

@mementomori29231 3 ай бұрын

I hope Mark does similar content for women too.

@realheckertrustmebro 3 ай бұрын

-taking notes- fk that I'll be on self improvement.

@JohnStockton7459 3 ай бұрын

Plenty of emotionally mature men are not attractive to women. In reality, nothing is hotter than being a billionaire or famous.

@CrystleDragon 3 ай бұрын

@@JohnStockton7459 I don't find wealth or fame attractive in itself. Wealth often equals way too busy or disconnected from the world (maybe not always, but that's how it looks from my eyes). As for fame, I'd rather not be seen by millions of strangers for being so-and-so's gf or ex. I like my privacy. So, to each their own, but it's not a universal opinion. Hence the "imo" in my post. I can't speak for all women, my post is from my perspective.

@naobolliger9188 3 ай бұрын

Thank you, Mark❤ I'm a 54 year-old mother of a 29-year old son who goes through a bit of rough pach of his life, I see this fantastic summary of advise that I couldn't put together by myself! I just sent this message to my son. First, you helped me with your book years ago and now defnitely my son... you are f-ing awesome😎 Thank you again, Mark!❤

@JaysonT1 3 ай бұрын

I wish that I had access to Mark Manson's work when I was 29.

@KD400_ 3 ай бұрын

And that's why fathers are so important for men

@tfkdandsvkc 2 ай бұрын

@@KD400_ it's not about fathers it's about good environment,,a father wouldn't make much of a difference as much as the environment

@KD400_ 2 ай бұрын

@@tfkdandsvkc wrong. A father figure is needed in a childs life

@alexreyes7237 22 күн бұрын

@@tfkdandsvkcno father equals bad environment

@SouryChery 3 ай бұрын

He saved almost every young men from scrolling hundreds of improvement video by just 10 minutes. Truly legend.

@BananaSoupProjects 3 ай бұрын

Great video and solid advice, but the environment you live in is also an important factor. Most young people aren't valued by older folk so how can they value themselves? A big percentage of families nowadays are broken and have ruined the younger generations. The dating landscape is absolutely horrible. The social life is non existent for many. Basically the older generations, women, even our own generations none value us so how can we value ourselves? We have given up like a gazelle among lions, cause if we try to do anything we will get cut down and it is better to just be quiet doing our minimum pay job with a high rent apartment box and distract ourselves with entertainment. We saw the generation that is above 30 now do try and fail many times and they are miserable, in dept, lost their companies and jobs, divorced, ruined their kids, drug addicts, absolute mess, so why should we try is that's the result? We were told to work hard cause that will give us good jobs what will give us good life but we worked hard and got nothing, even worse than nothing, we lost ourselves and our future with it - in terms of our psychological and physical health. In the end everyone will be fucked cause of the society's flawed ideologies.

@UnseemlyGenie00 3 ай бұрын

Except he looks like a doomer

@AXALMA 3 ай бұрын

Dude what💀 go outside. If you stopped only living online and had a social life you would probably realise the world isn’t fucked like everyone says on the internet.

@thomasj-b9601 2 ай бұрын

@@BananaSoupProjects 99% of your thoughts aren't true, life can surprise you in many ways and all you can do is try man. I hope you have a good day and good things come your way and feel like you need to vent this to someone, they are valid thoughts just won't help you succeed (I know this as they stopped me trying for years). All the best man

@itsmefungus 3 ай бұрын

I'm pushing 29 this spring, but I don't think My younger self would have listened you with this mindset I have built up recently. All it took was a harsh break-up and I needed to value life a little better. I started working out finally in My life, I have been obese for the better part of 13 years and at My highest peak at the moment. I still consider myself "young" and best of all, motivated. Left my shitty Job and applied for school, got to school at the start of this year, hitting the gym and focusing better on what shit I'm stuffing through my mouth. I randomly saw one of your experimental videos with public anxiety, wich I can't relate to, but ever since have been watching you and listened to all the pods? I love you Mark and I thank you for all the inspiring words that you share and you give a nice grasp on life, of how to lack a little shit to give. Thank you ❤

@FinnedUp 3 ай бұрын

Life's hard man, but we owe it to ourselves and the people around us to do the best we can. I don't know you, but I'm glad you are making positive changes.

@didiermeynders 3 ай бұрын

You're doing good man! Don't give up and keep believing in yourself ;)

@jokers__playground 2 ай бұрын

Keep it up man, one day fulfilment will be a past time for all of us. When you go to gym look to your left, look to your right and see that we all came from a nest. Spread your wings and fly.

@alaalfa8839 2 ай бұрын

I like opinion I just heard, Jaroslav Dušek (not in english) said he is inspired by various books and techniques, useful ideas. He said our biggest mistake as humans is that we separate people in two groups good person, bad person..... In past they had better approach, because in ancient times they learned another approach in some healthier civilisations. They separated people in two groups "mature" and yet "immature"....or unexperienced. which means they know the person will get mature in the future learning new things, and that at some point they will self-reflect and experiment with various ideas and learn new experiences. They were not so judgmental putting the guy in category "bad guy" or "bad woman" but immature man, immature woman.... It wasn´t such harsh approach toward them it was meant well I think you are yet immature, but its not a form of judgment... You will grow as does everybody in community....... He said: Attention is greatest form of manipualtion.... You say this is good guy, this is bad guy...to attract attention from people etc It seems to me today men are told to not experiment with ideas, someone want´s men to stay in the same mindset, and never grow, never change, never learn new ideas, and men shouldn´t allow others to tell them how to think and not upgrade their mindset in positive way or not read philosophical books etc. Or learn something about emotional state of mind... Because companies may easily manipulate immature guy, but he isn´t immature because he chose to be immature, but because someone is manipulating him. Maybe the companies and capitalism profit from people´s weakness so they want to brainwash them to never grow.

@delta2372 10 күн бұрын

I turned 26 in March of this year and I feel like I'm old as hell and I haven't done anything with myself, I tried the military but they rejected me

@musicbysazid 3 ай бұрын

00:00 🌟 Define your usefulness to the world as a young man to become a net positive for society. 00:58 💑 Choose a long-term partner wisely as it significantly impacts all aspects of your life. 02:52 🕰 Value in a man compounds slowly over time; focus on long-term growth rather than short-term gratification. 03:51 💡 Continuously educate yourself beyond formal schooling, focusing on life skills and emotional health. 06:10 🚫 Earn respect by giving it unconditionally and focusing on bringing value to others. 07:41 🔄 Build self-awareness by understanding your motivations, fears, and behavioral patterns. 08:12 💪 Seize the opportunities and freedoms available today by taking action and continually pushing yourself to grow.

@vonmoose5285 3 ай бұрын

Love the message, Mark. As a child-free woman, I sometimes feel like I'm in the same boat. I have to prove my value as I've chosen to forgo an expectation of my gender. More men, young and old, need to hear words of support that will guide them to be better rounded people and not just chase the clout.

@Chanel31113 3 ай бұрын

Interesting! I am in my 30s and Child free by choice, and have never felt this way. I am wondering if it’s because I have chosen to not have Vs haven’t had the opportunity and always wanted them? It could be other factors as well. I find your comment very interesting how there can be a completely opposite experience internally to a similar outcome.

@ClearBlueSky3 3 ай бұрын

Practically, when a man has somebody to care about and knows that this very person cares about him too, not even in exchange for his care, but just acknowledges and supports him anytime and anyhow, always differently It does make a huge difference and gives a sense of purpose for a man It is sort of coming, probably, from the old times when people were hunting and exchanging each other, for example, mother was collecting shrooms and berries, while father was hunting and bringing meat, combining was nice, or when someone got sick and other person took care of the sick one Just considering how in recent world more and more men struggle to even approach somebody, clearly they don’t have that feeling of a purpose, even if it isn’t their purpose to make a family or smth like that Like, getting rich, fit and healthy isn’t quite the purposes of whole lives Like, you subconsciously ask yourself, if, “when I achieve those, for what or for who? Was it even needed, if nobody gives two damns about me in this world?” So yeah, every man needs a supportive person, At least one, with which I agree with you

@MNP208 3 ай бұрын

@@Chanel31113were you raised in a religion? That is huge for a woman who doesn’t want children.

@Chanel31113 3 ай бұрын

@@MNP208 no, but I am Christian. I just never felt a longing to have any. During my marriage I thought if they happened they happened, but we definitely weren’t trying for them. I have never regretted it. I like going on vacations and having lots of free time to spend doing things with my partner.

@EricaBerry232 3 ай бұрын

I feel the same now that my son is grown and has his own life. I find myself in a lot of videos geared towards young men figuring their lives out and like I am going through this whole thing now that other people went through in their 20's. It's taken a few years to "find myself" and create a new sense of worth now that I am not living for the purpose of a child.

@mrnaizguy 3 ай бұрын

I discovered you at 19 and started to binge your books and online content. Now I'm 26. Got my education in check, got a relationship with the most wonderful woman that I couldn't even imagined back then, immensely grew my confidence and emotional maturity and managed to untangle all the emotional baggage and mental health problems that I had. You were and are a big help in that journey. Thanks Mark.

@gehriggosselin9468 3 ай бұрын

lol I burst into tears at "just try". It definitely sometimes feels like trying is nowhere near enough, this is a nice reminder that trying is all you really can do. I love Ted Roosevelet's idea of the man in the arena. Thanks for this, and many other lessons Mark. Will be returning to this one periodically.

@tomsterbg8130 2 ай бұрын

Cringing at your past self is the best way to know you've grown up. Thank you for reminding me this with your last few lines!

@dandisutamara5819 3 ай бұрын

Love “the new editing style” on this one. You guys killed it

@sendittolance 3 ай бұрын

Right! I agree 👍

@spennythespoo 3 ай бұрын

Regularly watching your content is one of the most uplifting parts of my day. Thank you, Mark! ❤

@risenmeqs9806 3 ай бұрын

As a 25 years old guy, i love your message! I am always on the "improve" path, go to the universiy, have a good paid job, workout alot, eat healty, en try to be better with woman. But sometimes i dont know more where i live for. Your videos helps me alot with my journey, and it confirmed me tht i am on the good way. Thank you for sharing this

@TheBatFanForever 3 күн бұрын

Ur a wage slave. Leave ur job. Start a business

@farhanshariar5962 3 ай бұрын

Mark u have literally Changed my whole mind and the way I used to think about everything. In the midst of bullshit advices that roams around the internet You'r advice, Opinions are Legit Real life practical things... Thanks for everything.

@sharpoomonke688 7 күн бұрын

The "just try it" was more than fabulous. I deeply thank you for this video.

@afaccrocazz 3 ай бұрын

Probably your best video to date, Mark. Great work, great words brother.

@iBridgee 3 ай бұрын

A must-watch for every young man out there. Solid advice that can truly make a difference. 👏

@blazefrostt 3 ай бұрын

Man, I love this. I’ve been following you for a couple of years but this is the best video ever. Everything a man needs to know, packed into 10 minutes. The world is so much better place with you, Mark! And yeah the new editing / storytelling style rules, one feels.. somehow connected.

@JoseGutierrez-sp9cq 2 ай бұрын

This video could not have come at a better time. I'm 26 years old and I am going to graduate next month with a B.S. in Computer Science. I feel like I am finally closing a big chapter of my life and I have been having an existential crisis, not to mention my girlfriend and I just broke up. Thank you, Mark.

@slavron 3 ай бұрын

I’m 20 years old. I finished college last summer and was very excited about the future ahead of me. However, I got submerged into void of doubts and self-destruction (thinking about negative things and moments I’ve experienced throughout my life). I got depressed, A LOT. Now, I started educating myself, going to the gym, stopped smoking. I still have so much to learn about this wonderful world before I leave it. Ladies and gentlemen, don’t give up! NEVER GIVE UP! All of the problems are temporary and you can overcome them with a huge smile on your face. Be proud that you’re able to read this because there’s lots of people who can’t even kill themselves due to their disabilities. Time flies by and so do we, it’s just a small moment of history we live in, and yet it’s our whole life, so let’s just be happy and grateful for what we have! Love you all. Please, take care of yourselves, comrades!

@user-gt1fl8kl6d 2 ай бұрын

heck yea bro

@ecmg8368 3 ай бұрын

I love the dating device. Straight to the point, no filler, no bs.

@aronjaeger 3 ай бұрын

inventing a dating device for dating

@AlanShirtsink 3 ай бұрын

I think this is your best video among great videos. At 68 everything rings completely true of a life well lived

@rozinant1237 3 ай бұрын

I’m 67 and he nailed it!

@I_am_FRANCO 3 ай бұрын

I feel lucky. I’m 20 rn and related to many things Mark has said. I’m already knowledgeable of half of the things he is talking about. I think he forgot to mention for the young people who don’t smoke to never start smoking… Anyway. I feel very lucky to have a supposedly long path ahead of myself, especially that I am studying something related to technology. I rarely workout but I have a decent body for a 6’1. Until present I still didn’t find any girls I’m attracted to… Thank God

@emirmontazeri 3 ай бұрын

This video was like the fresh air I needed in between all the fog around self improvement. Straight Forward & Realistic. Thank you Mr. Manson.

@shted224 3 ай бұрын

One true dude that helped me in every facet of my life. Started looking at your stuff at 23. 27 now and content with my life. Thank you ❤️

@mrtheozzy6227 3 ай бұрын

It's a blessing meeting you, Mark. 🙏🏿✌🏿🤝🏿

@alana.4432 3 ай бұрын

Another day trying to be the man that the world needs, Im most definetly not trying hard enough but this no bullshit thing you did helps me because you cut through a lot and go straight to the point, no "ideology" involved, i'll keep on my lane trying to quit all my vices and stop procrastinating, the sun is out today again so let's make something out of it...

@akashjagtap108 3 ай бұрын

My life has changed since I started watching your channel . Thank you mark💯

@jokers__playground 2 ай бұрын

Thanks Mark, 23 myself. Was going to skip the ad but something told me don't. I am a master in self sabotage right now. Therapy has been something on my mind. Again,I am grateful for your contant. Grateful for finally pushing me over the edge, and thankful for having found you.

@ShabOnly 3 ай бұрын

Thanks for posting this Mark. It's authentic and was needed. Love you bro. Keep it up

@Jbridge621 3 ай бұрын

It’s true, sure my husband was cute, well groomed and wore clean well cared for clothes but the fact that he was polite, quietly confident as a straight A engineering student and physically fit was even more attractive. He believed he could learn how to do anything with commitment and practice. He always got his work done before he played. When I was with him I knew I was safe, valued and respected. I confidently married him and thru 24 yrs of sacrifice and struggle we remain in a strong and delightful relationship today. All I can say is communication and our prioritizing our relationship over everything in life has been our key to success but I know I married the right man. Because he was a man who shouldered manhood easily without any bravado. A quiet man who kept his body fit, lived morally clean but who could become dangerous in an instant to defend his family if needed. Learning gives you skills, skills give you confidence. This is excellent advice.

@myjourney9730 2 ай бұрын

Oh god, I wish I had this video when I was 16. I’ve had to figure out a lot in the last 2-3 years, and after looking back at the people I use to be considered worse than just a year ago and am now held in a higher regard comparatively, the work I’ve put in over the last year is just starting to bear fruit. I didn’t cut out, but stopped feeding into the drama loop cycles that a lot of my old friends fell into. I didn’t cut anyone out, but I stopped engaging in the pointless drama cycles and it’s insane how much you can learn about yourself just by choosing to observe the toxicity of others rather than feed the cycle out of boredom.

@aciuschristophores7789 3 ай бұрын

Loved, loved this message Mark. You are very very valuable in this space!

@nrlw-77777 3 ай бұрын

Why are u so good. Ur videos come exactly at the correct time.

@mism847 3 ай бұрын

Used to read your website WAY before I started following your channel on KZfaq. You always come up with the best advice.

@facelessanon 3 ай бұрын

I've heard all these principles from other people too, and they have changed my life in ways I'm still very thankful for. Thank you for sharing all of this, Mark.

@kirtidagautam6786 3 ай бұрын

What I absolutely loved about this video is how well it relates to young women as well. Really high-value content.

@HrissW 3 ай бұрын

Grateful to found you mark! ❤️🙏🏻

@attentionlabel 3 ай бұрын

I've seen a lot of these videos. This one is by far one of the most helpful, concise and realistic. Thanks Mark and to anyone reading this, I BELIEVE IN YOU, have a fantastic day.

@thekisoboqo7836 3 ай бұрын

Yes, been waiting for such content Mark, but love all your content, they are all connected and share the same goal

@joshswenk1967 3 ай бұрын

So many men could really use this insight, I found every piece of it genuine and true through my own trials and tribulations.

@beyonderaatrox1670 3 ай бұрын

We have two lives, the second only begins when we realize that we have but one. Amazing video, definitely gonna rewatch this periodically to wake tf up

@shloubi4436 23 күн бұрын

This is your best video. For the content but mostly the tone of honesty is incredibly communicative. Thanks

@MTheory333 3 ай бұрын

I’ve watched a lot of ahit on KZfaq. I’ve read a lot of shit in books and everywhere else. Mark is still one of my most favorite straight forward person doing it. Thank you Mark. Please keep up the fantastic work.

@sebastiaanstok 3 ай бұрын

Absolutely solid advice, and much needed! Thans for sharing this knowledge and wisdom.

@leojokura1139 3 ай бұрын

Mark you are the father that i never had! Huge fan from brazil!

@jiwonmoon 3 ай бұрын

I felt the compassion in this video. So well done Mark!

@seanvincent9777 19 күн бұрын

This man is a sage way ahead of his time. Keep up the good work Mark! Love your videos and books! Respect always!

@nirvanapendulum3254 3 ай бұрын

"Weak men try to convince the world they are not weak. Strong men try to convince the world of nothing." Why is that ? Can't I just enjoy my 1 day of triumph that I achieved my goal and show that I am human in everything ? You may think my pride hit the top, and that's the reason that I wrote 1 day of triumph since I'll easily forget about it and move along.

@vik98 3 ай бұрын

Great wisdom. Wish you had talked about overstimulation. The cycle can steal years from you. Try being bored and you might raise your curiosity, which makes you try and explore stuff

@DatNerdyKidd 3 ай бұрын

Gimme some advice on how to reduce it please

@phillystevesteak6982 3 ай бұрын

Boundries are the only way. You have to impose restrictions on yourself by limiting your consumption of content; youtube, spcial media, tv, games, busy work, etc. You have to purposely induce boredom. Sit with yourself and meditate. Go for a walk without music or podcast. Emptiness. Go for a relaxing drive with the radio off. Don't pick up your phone when you're waiting in line at the pharmacy or when you're on the toilet. Sit on your bed with a pen and paper. Write anything thag comes to mind. Make any of these a part of every day to some degree. Your creativity will begin to blossom, you'll start having important epiphanies about what to do with your life, etc.

@DatNerdyKidd 3 ай бұрын

@@phillystevesteak6982 I think I'll start with not using my phone while eating. I don't even taste the food at this point.

@akebengtsson1223 3 ай бұрын

Start using the tool Screen Time. Then just act like normal for a week and see what your average screen time was. Then set a realistic goal for next week, let's say 30 minutes lower average than the week before. Do this until you are below 3hr per day@@DatNerdyKidd

@vik98 3 ай бұрын

@@DatNerdyKidd That's a fantastic idea! How did it go? To reduce it: 1) reflect these three questions: - What do you use to stimulate yourself? - How does it feel like, to be overstimulated? - How do you feel, while trying to fall asleep at the end of an overstimulated day? (only useful, if you fall asleep without distracting devices) [ in my case: - activities that lead to overstimulation are videogames, candy, masturbation, shortform content, drugs, music & random videos - low motivation, low energy, no satisfaction, day flew by, feeling apathetic/don't care about the fact that I overstimulate, don't want to stop stimulation, don't want to face all the tasks that I put off till tomorrow. - I typically fall asleep ~5-6 hours later than usual, mostly due to exhaustion, not because I want to stop. While trying to fall asleep, I feel ashamed and useless. If I distract myself with videos until I fall asleep, I don't have to deal with these thoughts :) ] 2) change your environment Your environment influences your actions. You know, what you use for stimulation. What could you do to force limits? (I uninstalled steam, don't bring junk food home, only unlock my phone after inwardly stating my intention & avoid a certain spot on my couch) 3) accept that it's f*cking annoying. I wish this was the path of least resistance, but it's a battle against a seductive enemy that gives you believable, yet empty promises. It does get easier with repetition, but yeah... sorry to tell you. Let me know if you find an easy way though :D Best of luck broski. Wish you success.

@sdfwegwewr2455 10 күн бұрын

i appreciate you a lot mark. out of all "motivational" content creators you definitely seem the most genuine and that is an accomplishment in that genre.

@pavelsliachtovic7202 2 ай бұрын

This one really spoke to me. Thanks for all the non-annoying, non-dimishing, down-to-earth life advice, Mark

@fugu4163 3 ай бұрын

In another video a guy commented about his 150 lb friend with a junkyard car and very little money that didnt have any trouble with finding women to have a romantic relationship with. Thats because his self confidence are huge and nothing else.

@not-a-cupid-stunt 3 ай бұрын

Are you absolutely sure there was nothing else oversized? Sorry, couldn't resist 😅 But seriously, that friend sounds just like me...except the huge confidence/no trouble finding women bit. Mind you I'm gay, so perhaps not entirely surprising...the latter, obviously...the former less so and a mix of causes...but let's just say some nature, some nurture 😐

@elijahaa 3 ай бұрын

His friend obviously doesnt base his self worth on his car,weight and financial worth. He gets his confidence from other things.

@rprbeck 3 ай бұрын

I just realised sonething: Depression in men is rising wherever we look. „A woman simply is, a man must become“ is basically saying: men are not worth anything just being themselves, the only worth they have is what they can do for others. Women can just be themselves and are enough. Men apparently always have to do something, provide something, achieve something. And the second you are not doing this anymore, you‘re worthless. This reality is not only immensly unfair but depressing as hell. And we wonder wonder why men are depressed…

@sjinfinity 29 күн бұрын

Thanks for continuously reminding us the basics. We tend to forget these crucial things after a while. Your videos serve as a reminder

@larry6597 3 ай бұрын

This was amazing, thank you so much for the no nonsense, nuanced, and (crazily) free content Mark. I discovered you last year and you have been an amazing source of inspiration and knowledge for me.

@weeklyweeks7545 3 ай бұрын

All of this advice 100% on point.

@CJWolf-st1qi 3 ай бұрын

This may be one of your best videos yet

@CountJoshula 3 ай бұрын

Mark, unlike the many many other life coaches I have seen or read I feel you are the only one I can trust. You speak facts and back it up too. Thank you.

@delvv81 3 ай бұрын

I always learn something from your videos Mark, you hold me accountable and help me steer in the right direction. You've done this for me 5 years ago and you continue to do this now, your content has changed my life. Thank you for all the knowlege you share with us

@lectornovato 3 ай бұрын

This is a master piece for the times we are living. Thanks Mark.

@tubester2023 3 ай бұрын

i concur!

@3daxx 3 ай бұрын

thank you man, I really needed that

@user-eb7sr5sb7h 6 күн бұрын

i really love you man glad to have a writer like you who make sense amid all this nonsense and chaos

@wtfzalgo 3 ай бұрын

I still remember when you had your blog some 10 years ago or so and you offered some advice about relationship issues I was having. God you've come a long way, I'm so glad to see you up there.

@Looking_at_the_viewer 3 ай бұрын

Mark was so emotional last podcast about young generation. like a bro thanks man love you

@garmisra7841 3 ай бұрын

I appreciate throwing in the Paglia quote - she's said many such things - and she's a Feminist! Some things just make sense.

@drpitchforrescue8214 3 ай бұрын

Fabulous message Mark. Needed this advice so badly. Please keep up this great work. Many thanks 🙏

@palaksanwal4258 3 ай бұрын

Being the eldest daughter of my family, it is helpful for me Mark ❤... Ur videos, ur book, all help me a lot❤.. so thanks man and loads of love❤...

@uncannypotato6952 3 ай бұрын

I really like the new video style mark. And Happy Holi ❤

@jenelillanalorono7247 2 ай бұрын

"It's easy to be great nowadays 'cuz most people are weak." - Goggins

@leonazzvibes 3 ай бұрын

I used to crave a bit of celebration when hitting certain goals, but over time I just came to realise that I don't need that, I'm just happy to be fulfilled all on my own.

@knowledgejourney2888 3 ай бұрын

I'm enjoying a hot cup of coffee while listening to this video. Reflecting on what you're saying. The emotions are truly indescribable!!!

@thetobydavis 3 ай бұрын

Mark, I hope you realise the legacy you will leave behind one day. Thank you for the invaluable wisdom you consistently share. 🙌🏽

@arizh38 3 ай бұрын

Love it, very informative and presented in a funny way!

@rooftopmunda 3 ай бұрын

Dear Mark, I am from India and I want to THANK YOU for saying out point 10 out loud. For me, it was the biggest obstacle I couldn't figure out in 27 years of my life. I was doing every right, health, career etc but I had the major mindset change when I actually started hanging out with people whom I strived to be like. It makes a huge difference! If you'd like to become a doctor, you'd need to hangout with doctors and not monkeys! Thank you again for this valuable video. Worth every second. ❤

@mehulkumawat5084 3 ай бұрын

Always giving the best advice, simple and straight forward. Thank you Mark !

@takshakwagh5643 3 ай бұрын

Happy holi Mark sir

@_DopamineJunkie_ 3 ай бұрын

It's tomorrow, isn't it?

@saisiddhartha5375 3 ай бұрын

Yes@@_DopamineJunkie_

@ayushgupta-vp4kb 3 ай бұрын

At the end it doesn't matter to mark it's Today or tomorrow

@itsjazzkun 3 ай бұрын

@@_DopamineJunkie_ The Time He'll Probably See it'll be the day

@vaibhavkumar8136 3 ай бұрын

There ain't any emoji for Holi right?

@ch1x101 3 ай бұрын

As a 16 year old, being patient is actually the hardest thing to do but I'm trying upd: as one of the replies adviced I started to meditate and it really helps. If you're struggling with the same thing you should try doing it

@the_ab101 3 ай бұрын

meditate

@ch1x101 3 ай бұрын

@@the_ab101 I've been avoiding it for a long time, bc I thought it was hard, but you know what? I will start today. Thank you.

@the_ab101 3 ай бұрын

@@ch1x101 👍

@TheKrispyfort 3 ай бұрын

Adolescence is the hardest phase of life to endure.

@TheKrispyfort 3 ай бұрын

Meditation - Eastern style is good. It's about observing your thoughts without being absorbed by them.

@chhiringlama7203 3 ай бұрын

Straight up speaking facts no sugarcoated

@Uh_Ema16737 3 ай бұрын

Mark, thank you for this video. I'm 16 years old, i'm going to my purposes:enter the uni, write a book about afganian war. Get a good girlfriend. Yeah, it's hard, but i'm not focus on mind barriers. So, i think, i'll reach this goals, and you Mark, the best!!

@Jayy41 3 ай бұрын

Enough no more motivational videos no more self help videos no more look maxing videos i need to get my life on tracks now there are distraction every where no more phone i'll spend time with my family instead i will listen to BHAGAWAT GEETA audio book i instead thankyou so much mark for making this video ever single word you just said in this video made a huge impact on me i am 18 years old i love your videos and i often watch them but yet i end up scrolling from now i will stop scrolling in internet i hope this fire that i am feeling right now will stay forever

@Shadow0x0 3 ай бұрын

Same bhai mai bhi 17 ki umar mei itna mature ho gaya hun

@Jayy41 3 ай бұрын

@@Shadow0x0 bro i wish you all the best for your future and i hope you'll not get distracted from your ultimate goal

@Shadow0x0 3 ай бұрын

@@Jayy41 strangers on the internet like you are better than real life friends

@Jayy41 3 ай бұрын

@@Shadow0x0 couldn't agree more bro i've lost all my friends and it's just me and myself

@fraustedwhite 3 ай бұрын

Great message, Mark. Even for a 40 year old woman.

@coerciasink 2 ай бұрын

1. Defining your usefulness 1. Build your value 2. Becoming a net positive to the society 2. Dating 1. If you have your shit together and look okay you're gonna be fine 2. Ultimately, the best dating advice is self improvement 3. Choose wisely 3. Patience 1. Almost all things valuable compound over a long period of time 1. Wealth 2. Knowledge 3. Strength 4. Self awareness 5. Emotional maturity 6. Family 4. Education 1. We don't stop learning after school 2. Learn the things they didn't teach you in school 1. Relating to ppl 2. Being dependable and trustworthy 3. Listen well 4. Taking risks 5. How to communicate your thoughts and feelings properly 6. How to stomach rejection 7. How to manage your emotions 8. How to admit when you're wrong 3. Deal with your emotional and mental health issues NOW 5. Explorations, Not achievements 1. Don't think of life as a series of achievements, but as explorations 2. This helps you to pursue experiences without getting your ego and identity entangled up in them. 6. Earning respect 1. If you have to say that you're something, then you are not that thing. 2. If you have to demand respect, then you do not deserve respect. 3. Give respect unconditionally. That's the only way to earn respect. 7. Managing emotions 1. Don't be afraid of your emotions. State them bluntly. 2. But don't let them dictate your life. They're merely suggestions 8. Stay on the course 1. I didn't really understand this part 9. Self mastery 1. Become an expert of your own mind 2. Learn what 1. Motivates you 2. Scares you 3. Tempts you 4. vices derail you 3. Test and build systems for yourself 10. Choosing your friends 1. Complaining and talking shit is how weak people relate to each other. Stop doing both. 2. You're the average of the 5 ppl you surround yourself with 3. Take a long hard look of whom you're choosing 11. Just try. 1. There's more freedom and opportunity than any other time in history. 2. Just fucking try, and you're already ahead 3. Push yourself. Build value. Share it with others. Rinse and repeat. 4. Start compounding value now, reap the rewards down the line. 5. Never interrupt your compounding unnecessarily. 6. When you do get there, there won't be a celebratory moment. You won't even know you're there. 7. Once you're there, you won't need any congratulations. You'll be fulfilled all on your own.

@cooperjohnstad7913 2 ай бұрын

this video is a gift, and truly almost brought me to tears. Thank you

@billybobson2258 3 ай бұрын

I always think, that you cant teach me more, but everytime i continue to learn. 15 years avoiding therapy didnt got me anywere, but seeking the help i needed, made me realize all the destructive patterns of myself. Its not easy, but its totally worth it. Thank you for sharing your knowledge for free and be a better example for all people out here!

@bryanwilson928 2 ай бұрын

You work for 40yrs to have $1m in your retirement, Meanwhile some people are putting just $10k in a meme coin for just few months and now they are multi millionaires. I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life

@DelaneyGilfillan 2 ай бұрын

I'm favoured financially, Thank you Jesus $32,000 weekly profit regardless of how bad it gets on the economy.

@GodJesus-wh3ld 2 ай бұрын

I'm surprised that this name is being mentioned here, I stumbled upon one of her clients testimony on CNBC news last week.

@kevinandrews4 2 ай бұрын

Trading without professional guide... Huh I laugh you, because you will remain where you are or even make huge losses that will stop you from trading, this has been one of the biggest problem to new traders

@jeisson_acosta12 2 ай бұрын

It's a miracle and I would testify, 110K bucks every 4weeks! I now have a big mansion and can now afford anything and also support God's work and the church.

@Lcy395 2 ай бұрын

She is my family' personal Broker and also a personal Broker to many families in the United states, she is a licensed broker and a FINRA AGENT in the United States.

@Frostyleo21 3 ай бұрын

I love learning through videos. Thank you for uploading

@enzen1 3 ай бұрын

As a 14 y/o these videos defo help give me that extra knowledge on my journey. Thanks Mark!

@Lewishelps512 3 ай бұрын

Hi Mark, I just wantied to say you have honestly changed my life for better. Before my ex cheated on me and I developed very low self esteem. Before I had social anxiety then I found a way to embrace it and realise I'm not the problem. After my gf cheated on me it all came back. Why I am so insecure? I messed up the simplest things all the time? Nobody likes me and never will. I started to get into self improvement with watching many self improvement youtubers. You especially stuck out as it wasn't no bs course to sign up to or telling you the same things that every self improvement youtuber tells you to do. Your straight to the point and tell us simple but effective ways of being a better individual. I read your models book and it really took my perspective of dating differently. I become more vulnerable and open with people to build deeper connections without being needy. I realised previously with my ex I was really needy and always looking for approval, so no wonder why she did cheat on me but I am thankful for that experience as without it, I would never of learnt of not being needy. Thank you mark and keep doing what your doing, your fucking awesome.

@leojokura1139 3 ай бұрын

Nice coment bro

@LifeTheUniverseAndEverything42 3 ай бұрын

Hi Lewis! I'm happy for you that you're finding a path that serves you well. You're probably going to find my comment irritating and you're right. Your comment went very well until the end and you're possibly thinking "wtf old boomer dude"? Well, you're right, boomers can be a bit too detail oriented, but you're probably trying to get a good job from one of us. Plus, you're trying to show your skills to the ladies and you're not quite there yet, but you're close. You're possibly thinking I should just mind my own business and you're right. You're on your way Lewis! I wish you prosperity in all you're doing!

@Lewishelps512 3 ай бұрын

@@LifeTheUniverseAndEverything42 Honestly thank you so much for this comment. I know I'm not perfect and nobody is, I still sometimes get anxious talking to people (including girls) but it's practice and failing, practice and failing. Plus when I'm anxious I have to tell myself it's good as it's something I need to work on. Honestly I'd rather listen to someone who knows what there on about, than someone who acts like they do like many people do these days XD.

@ClearBlueSky3 3 ай бұрын

Well, mate, Very nice knowing that this did help you and the funniest thing about all of this self improvement stuff is that all of the KZfaqrs, who talk about it, they in most cases try to make you feel better, try to “oh yeah, that is true man”, but they aren’t really telling you to do something, which is why a lot of people are couch potatoes, even though they are watching all that stuff, which is basically staying in comfort zone and being afraid of making mistakes, most people thing that self improvement is all about perfecting themselves as best as they could, but no, it means just about the opposite It means consciously trying something by yourself, especially if you don’t like that very something and clearly making lots of mistakes, but with that comes the experience nobody could give you or tell you, because only you with your unique 1 out of all 8+ billion people living, one unique consciousness could experience So it is okay to be anxious while contacting with people as you mentioned you have sometimes, it’ll be gone as you do it and your brain gets used to it Keep pushing, mate!

@LifeTheUniverseAndEverything42 3 ай бұрын

@@Lewishelps512 Thank You and You're Welcome. I can see by your thought process that you are getting things figured out and that's great! I have been down a similar road and it's not always fun. I used to train people how to use a photocopy machine and told them when the machine didn't do what they wanted it to do "you learn more from things going wrong than from going right, because your frustration will help you to remember the solution" So, the machine didn't do what you want? Try a different way and no, I'm not going to tell you the solution, because when you figure it out, you will be more likely to remember your thought process than me just telling you. But I think you are doing the work to make your life successful and enjoyable, so good on ya dude! (Just try to avoid kicking the machine... your foot will break before the machine does what you want it to) {grin} {And you do now know the difference between "your" and "you're", right?} {Bigger grin}

@ryanbarker3978 3 ай бұрын

Love the pro therapy message. Be careful to find the right fit. BetterHelp is a great start but the first therapist is rarely the right therapist. Don't be afraid to switch if you feel stuck; I know finding a local psychologist greatly helped me.

@SamyTheSheep 3 ай бұрын

Keep lighting the way as you do Mark 💙

@username23675 3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much, really needed this Mark!

@jammadamma Ай бұрын

But Andrew Tate says I should pursue having a Yacht and 30 girlfriends who won't make eye contact with me?

@JarvinTheJar 3 ай бұрын

From don't try, to just try. What a transition!

@entertainmentjungle9030 3 ай бұрын

😂

@aakashdaniel7452 3 ай бұрын

😂😂😂

@joseangelizquierdo4015 3 ай бұрын

😂😂

@nabinraut1430 3 ай бұрын

My man …you are always amazing you always motivates me to do something and keep going. Whenever I feel burned out, your video pops up and it makes my entire week or months. Thanks you soo much. Always your big fan

@BKing007 3 ай бұрын

Learning things they don't teach at school, not getting laced up with things and having explorations are great notes for me 🙏🏼🙂 thanks Mark

@monotonousinsomniac5176 3 ай бұрын

7:38 Not trying to excuse this behavior, but perhaps the reason why some men end up letting it out on their peers is because they tried therapy and not only was it too expensive for them, but they subconciously discovered how anti-male therapy is and how it does more harm than good for men. It's not necessarily that they see their peers as therapists, but moreso that they have nowhere else to go and talk about their feelings.

@SpiderYTSucks 3 ай бұрын

Complaining about the environment to the people you share it with is completely natural. People just want them to see things from their perspective. Nothing wrong with it. Also complaining about people who cause problems is totally justified.

@citycrusher9308 3 ай бұрын

@@SpiderYTSucks Exactly

@monotonousinsomniac5176 3 ай бұрын

@@SpiderYTSucksI bet most in the comments section have never heard of the term "expressing your grievances".