Compulsively Checking Your Feelings

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Do you find yourself compulsively checking your feelings, to make sure you REALLY feel a certain way? For many obsessive-compulsives, they are often checking how they feel on a regular basis to make sure they feel a certain way. But they end up endlessly checking their feelings in an endless loop of their emotions very feeling a certain way. They get lost in their emotions and lose perspectives. I address a question that was submitted about this very issue, which shows how religious OCD and scrupulosity inflames distortions in how we deal with emotions and our faith walk.
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@EPHESIANS-2.4-9 Жыл бұрын

By grace through faith in Christ. Faith.

@lukastheprussian4465 Жыл бұрын

The timing is crazy! Yesterday I had a thought about leaving Jesus and in that moment I had a crazy feeling, that felt like I was agreeing with that thought. Spend the entire day yesterday in guilt and depression and fearfully checking, if God has forgiven me for that, or if I have lost my salvation... Thanks Mark, without you I would have already become insane 😅

@MPD_dogmom Жыл бұрын

This is me!!! I keep thinking I don’t love Jesus or think he wasn’t amazing or I’m not a true believer. I get this sharp pain in my heart and then fear and doubt hit me so hard. I’m so glad I’m not alone. Amen. I know Jesus led me here’s

@OhOkayChloe 4 ай бұрын

@@MPD_dogmom Me too 😢😭

@justinbeal8122 4 ай бұрын

I think this is me as well. I get thoughts like I don't need Jesus or that I don't need the gospel and it feels like I am agreeing with it and it leads to just guilt and depression. I do think I have a terrible relationship with my emotions because they are always all over the place and I have a terrible weak mind growing up so it's hard. I think I was coming over obsessing over my blasphemous thoughts but then it came to a point of just pure evil wicked thinking against the gospel and it affects my emotions and now I just feel condemned again overtime. I find it hard to just relax and rely on Christ when all my mind does is focus on what I just thought.

@conantheseptuagenarian3824 Жыл бұрын

i grew with a preacher that used to say, "do you know that you know that you know that you're saved?" this is the kind of madness that has helped make me a lunatic.

@marktdejesus Жыл бұрын

Yep. Its a made up phrase. . .

@bowmadman9562 Жыл бұрын

Yep! I got that too growing up! Never felt like I was there.

@aaugus91 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for the post!!! Oh and to all those reading comments I will tell you this…DO NOT LISTEN TO YOUR FEELINGS…THEY WILL LIE TO YOU. CHECK THE WORD OF GOD BEFORE YOU FOLLOW YOUR FEELINGS….PLEASE!!!

@charlabarnett6274 Жыл бұрын

"When we live in OCD we feed the bully" Yes! "Perfectionism is a false doctrine." Yes! "Fire your interpreter " Thank you Mark for bringing these false teachings, false conditioning, performance based grooming lies to light!

@mollyh8410 Жыл бұрын

God sure is working through you.

@vanessadesirechavez Жыл бұрын

It is normal to feel like there’s an atheist in my head? Like I’m two people? Meaning, one side of me is full of faith and the other side is full of doubt and uncertainty and makes me check everything and doesn’t get satisfied and etc…?

@michellewilliams655 Жыл бұрын

Yessss! This is literally what Im going through rn! It felt like I was going through this alone 😢 Keep your head up brother. The Lord promised to never leave us and He will be with us as we walk through this dark valley. Nothing will separate is from His love. He is good and faithful so dont give up.

@Nightwalker25-m3u 7 ай бұрын

For me, doubt is hard to deal with cause I heard it soo much while growing up. Siblings... I mean doubt and uncertainty are like my secondary feelings, with anxiety and terrible migrains.

@lookatyoustrawberrybrunette 6 ай бұрын

Right now I'm going through this but basically it's all lies because at some point I usually get a thought or a feeling that it's impossible for God to not exist. Idk how to stop the thoughts but I know we have a choice to keep the faith and not believe a feeling, actually it's like your feelings are a Toddler that wants to eat soap for some reason-You know it's bad for a kid to eat soap and you don't know why they want to, so they cry and scream and kick their feet having a tantrum but usually a parent will just drag their kid away from the soap, that's OCD: "HEY PAY ATTENTION TO THIS FEELING AND BELIEVE ITS YOU!!!" Nah I'm gonna workout or redirect my thoughts. Usually a toddler will calm down or wear themselves out OCD or Temptations don't last forever because they aren't YOU.

@_cr8ive_ 6 ай бұрын

😂🤦🏼‍♂️🤦🏼‍♂️ Yes, absolutely. . . . I believe in Jesus 100%, but do I REALLY BELIEVE that I believe lol 😵‍💫🥴🤦🏼‍♂️🤦🏼‍♂️🤦🏼‍♂️

@Nightwalker25-m3u 6 ай бұрын

@@Matthias_Buchholz Yeah, but I believe and trust in the shed blood of Jesus Christ for my sins. All other "gods" are false or demonic.

@maddymclaugh9660 Жыл бұрын

Literally my whole battle of the last 3 years… thank you, Mark!!

@maddymclaugh9660 Жыл бұрын

@@Callumxfisher thank you!🙏🏻🙏🏻✝️✝️

@bowmadman9562 Жыл бұрын

I understand your struggle

@maddymclaugh9660 Жыл бұрын

@@bowmadman9562 thank you! Very tough but gotta keep going 😱

@hannahsophie8388 3 ай бұрын

I am surprised this is also a struggle for people that didn't come from the new age this over exageration of taking feelings as validation. Wow!

@partheniafayne9426 Жыл бұрын

Just when I watch a video and think, "OMG, THIS one hit the nail on the head", you post another one and I think, "THIIIIIS one hit the nail directly on the head!!"😊😊 Seriously though, I can so relate to this one. Thanks, again!

@savedbygrace5574 Жыл бұрын

Hi Mark I thank God for leading me to your channel. I have been learning a lot and I pray the Lord continues to bless you abundantly to reach more people suffering from this debilitating almost feeling “hopeless” illness. My life has been turned upside down ever since I quit smoking marijuana and repented and turned back to the Lord from backsliding. During my withdrawal phase from marijuana and cigarettes I had a horrible intrusive thought. I had never experienced anything like that before I was terrified. Ever since then I have been in a downward spiral of thoughts and emotions. I have not lived in my home for over a month because I am afraid of these thoughts. I’ve been seeking God on this and realize I have to trust in God, go through the journey and face my fears. I’m having a hard time with the thought of just jumping back to going home full time but also feel like I have to in order to face my fears. I am a single mother of 4 children from ages 4-14 and it can be highly stressful so that plays a part in my fear of going back home. I’m not sure if I’m depressed and hopeless or if I am afraid I am or will be. Having a hard time discerning my true feelings from OCD. Hoping and praying you read this and can provide some professional and biblical advice. Thank you in advance. 🙏🏼

@aprilgould2262 Жыл бұрын

I know I'm not Mark but I just want to let you know you're not alone. What you said relates to my story also.

@draleks9112 Жыл бұрын

If you need to chat, we are here.

@ecologygarden 11 ай бұрын

Saved by grace I pray for you in Jesus name, may you experience God's healing and unconditional love for you, he loves you so much 🙏 may you be strengthened to go back to your house in Jesus name 🙏

@SergioFoster777 Жыл бұрын

I thank God for leading me towards you I pray that God blesses you and your family and increases your territory so that you may reach more of our brothers and sisters that are navigating this journey that is life while being affected by all this stuff

@Brazz0123 Жыл бұрын

That "yeabut yeahbut" you need to put a techno beat behind that and you got a hit!!!

@stachiano Жыл бұрын

loving these videos so much! esp taken from a christian angle! it is so so important for christians to speak on this as so many of us feel guilt over our mental health. i have always found it difficult to regulate my emotions and bring Christ in to every area, which then makes me question my salvation. i do truly believe in spiritual warfare too; because we do not wrestle merely against flesh & blood. found your channel through your legalism video during research. thank you!!! 💕✨

@AprilAnnette Жыл бұрын

I was just thinking about this! What was written in and how you spoke to this situation was so timely. All of it! It made me laugh at myself. I've been struggling with the same thing. It's so exhausting. What a birthday gift to me! This is just what I needed to hear today!

@jayleighjess Жыл бұрын

Happy Birthday!! 🎉🎁 🎂

@AprilAnnette Жыл бұрын

@@jayleighjess Thank you so much!

@aprilgould2262 Жыл бұрын

I feel the same! So many things he mentioned amazed me because I for years, I never knew this was a thing. I felt so alone in this torturous fight and it's an amazing feeling to know we're not alone AND can work to fix it! I too laughed at some of it😂

@NikoFinn Жыл бұрын

The tough part about this is, for me at least, that the ocd and high level of anxiety makes you think like if you go against it in terms of topics about God and Bible that you turn your back on God. So relearning how to relate to my own thoughts is... tough but worth it with God as I have seen the freedom throughout these last 2 years. It has been slow but every step has been worth it. The renewing of the mind sure takes a lot of time. For me when I read 2 Cor 13 I was really messed up badly with it as it says examine if you are in the faith. I wasn't equipped with the 'how' of examination in other areas except in theological sense but never took into consideration the psychological aspect regarding ocd, anxiety, fears etc.

@akguitarworks7906 28 күн бұрын

I totally understand about you feel like you are going against God when you try to deal with ocd. It has been a long journey for me to overcome that, and still am. But I am better than years ago. Thanks for your comment.

@Nightwalker25-m3u Жыл бұрын

The spinnie spirals come up for me soo much and my head hurts badd! Bad migrains!!!!

@dereksdepot Жыл бұрын

This was a great reminder to keep walking in Grace. Incredibly timely, thank you Mark 👊

@cassielatham5097 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for addressing this. It's something I've struggled with for years!

@judahnorman7727 Жыл бұрын

I’ve been dealing with this lately and this video answered so many questions. It also made me realize that those thoughts almost sound like the same narcissistic manipulation the enemy used on Eve in the Garden of Eden: “Did God **really** say….?” “Do you **really** believe….?” (Gen. 3:1) The enemy is such a con artist and so determined to distract us from God (the literal source of all genuine love and goodness) that not only will he say horrible things to you about you, but also try to make you believe those lies 💔. The blessing is that God truthfully said he loves/forgives us and would never even think to do something that awful to a genuine believer and follower. I’m so relieved to finally have some understanding of both the spiritual source and its earthly manifestation. Now I can start becoming more prepared to manage it. ✝️🙏🏽 (P.S. I dislike it so much when many people say stuff like “I have God, so I don’t need a therapist” or something like that, especially since God created therapy/counseling as a resource for us to stay well, just as he made food for us to stay alive or doctors to heal sickness. He always expresses the importance of fellowship and therapy is a form of that. The biblical aspects above have definitely helped me, but please don’t neglect the additional tools and gifts God has provided for us to live a healthy and happy life with Him ❤)

@_cr8ive_ 7 ай бұрын

I am a tormenting emotional mess because Ive been told that these thoughts and feelings are all because of demonic spirits thats attacking you. 🤦🏼‍♂️🤦🏼‍♂️😖😖😖 NEVER addressing the psychology of the human makeup.

@CircleWedge Жыл бұрын

I can choose! Choose Life!

@danm8336 Жыл бұрын

I am trying to face the fear of playing video games that I stopped playing in the past that I enjoyed because some Christian’s say you shouldn’t play violent/shooter games and that made me stop playing them. I am realizing that isn’t plain black and white and it’s a matter of conviction and how you feel. I get feelings like “should I play this”, oh what if I’m sinning by playing this? I know the Bible says whatever is not of faith is sin but I have OCD tendencies and one of them is doubt and uncertainty. Since it brings confusion I am playing the games and I said to God that if it’s you trying to get my attention I know you will make it clear since the ocd creeps in. Also I get thoughts like should I play a video game that has a lot of cussing. I know it’s not like it influences me to cuss and I play it because it’s fun not the cussing. I get nearvous and afraid when I hear a curse word then I get intrusive thoughts about a vulgar word. I’m going to fight the ocd by exposing myself and playing it and I know God will get my attention if needed. Does this sound like a good plan guys and mark. Thank you for reading, I’m sorry it’s long my mind spirals over this and it gives me confusion/anxiety

@knowtruth2773 28 күн бұрын

Had the video game problem and the curse word problem too. There is a song I have in my alarm clock that I liked. It had one curse word in it, but it didn't bother me. I wondered about it, but still have it as an alarm. Recently, when the song plays, I've been getting annoyed when that sentence comes. I think, if God wants us to change, eventually he brings us to a place where we are kinda like, "Nah, I'd rather hear something else. " Not by condemning us, but I think we just lose interest in those things over time. As far as war like video games, weren't alot of the men in the Bible men of War? They were Actually out killing people in battle. God didn't say:"Don't go to battle because I don't want you to see that stuff." Just a thought. I still don't know what I think about this song exactly. I figure God will work it all out in time.

@vanessadesirechavez Жыл бұрын

I relate to this so much. I think the OCD Is making me doubt that I even have this problem but I think I do for sure. It’s very interesting how I am learning all of this. I know God is up to something/helping me… there goes my thoughts 😅but I have to push forward.🙏🏼❤️

@kimberlycramer9083 Жыл бұрын

Wow, thank you for this. You described what's happening in my life exactly. The Lord's timing is perfect. I will be buying your book.

@Nightwalker25-m3u Жыл бұрын

How do I explain perfectionism to my mom when all she thinks perfectionism is... everything needs to be tidy. That's all how her Brain thinks. Just a one track mind of that.

@Wawa-kn8sd Ай бұрын

You Sir are the ONLY BEING IN EARTH 🌍 WHO UNDERSTAND ME 😢😢😢😢 i don't even understand myself. As a suggestion, also talk on healing inner child, and self hatred, self abondement tendency and how to FINALLY RECEIVE the sacrfice of Jesus n Love of God and kindness n guidance of the Holy Spirit

@norikokomikado 28 күн бұрын

I think many, many of us have the same struggles. May the Lord bless you and keep you, and I hope that someday the church will be more aware of those who struggle as you and I do.

@deadlyifinjestesd471 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for the book Mark. About 70 pages in. Good stuff man.

@katig.4094 Жыл бұрын

Hi Mark, I marked many of the things in your list. The problem is that I want salvation, I believe in the salvation I have in Jesus Christ. But I worry about everybody else salvation. I have a 16 years old son, and I’m driving him crazy. I don’t know want to do to a closer relationship with him but at the same time don’t become his buddy. The only thing I’ve been doing is praying Thank you for for your work, specially because it is biblical.

@JedStevens1234 Жыл бұрын

TY Mark ! This is soooo me ! 😢

@missyme2405 Жыл бұрын

Loved this.

@Tyrus919 Жыл бұрын

Much needed. Thanks!

@dadadadave100 Жыл бұрын

I never new I had ocd until I seen this video wow 😮

@storyaboutmosquitoes9441 Жыл бұрын

I need this so much. Thank you

@elizabethwoolington4822 Жыл бұрын

For the record, brother Mark, this is my favorite broadcast you've done so far. I rewatch every morning 😊

@dadadadave100 Жыл бұрын

Thank you

@pennyharkness5524 7 ай бұрын

Mark ! I found you on U Tube recently and I Thankyou for all your amazing loving reassuring truth in handling all this stuff !!!!! You even made me laugh at myself ! - Nobody else could do that !!! I think I’m ( Really ) getting the hang of it all - Thanks a million !!!!!

@adrianacarpenter Жыл бұрын

WOW I've never seen a video put a finger on my religious struggles like this!!! Idk if i have OCD but this stuff is really hitting home for me. Thank you for what you do with this channel and for specializing in these issues. And immediate subscribe from me! ❤

@shirkiahbull Жыл бұрын

Back at it again with another great vid❤…unfortunately I don’t like how we continue to lose so many people now; “Fully” “Will” and now “Really” 😢😂we have to get it together lol.

@hannahsophie8388 3 ай бұрын

I am laughing so hard! Thank you Mark for making this healing journey so fun and enjoyable with your humor!

@Higher_Than_War 6 ай бұрын

Had to share this on my channel.. Thank you.

@markkennedy1743 Жыл бұрын

Hey Mark, this video was amazing! For me it's not being OCD about salvation or even faith questions, but day to day decisions I have to make. Such as should I cook at home or order out? And i'll compulsively check how I feel in each scenario, before I can make a decision. And a lot of times I get stuck and cant' even decide ! It's all very draining to say the least. Thanks for this video, definitely pinpointed what I've been doing to myself now! :)

@shanesintzel7148 Жыл бұрын

Mark, thank you a million million thanks. You have helped me get my walk with Jesus in perspective. I finally understand how to deal with my thoughts, my emotions and my feelings, and how to effectively take productive and meaningful steps forward with my relationship with God. God is truly using you, and I thank him dearly for showing me your videos . God bless you

@elaine7492 3 ай бұрын

The impressions 😂 If that ain't me haha

@desireemoore1429 9 ай бұрын

So good

@antoniettavenegas4763 6 ай бұрын

Thanks!

@Jesusandmentalhealth 3 ай бұрын

So appreciating your videos all over again. Needing them right now and I'm being encouraged by your words to put these practices into place on another level! It's helping....

@user-uc6xm9of4k 7 ай бұрын

Thank you Mark!!! For the gift of faith 🙏 you taught me that God always loved me . Now I am able to receive his love and love my God . What a gift ❤

@jewishbride5010 Жыл бұрын

Glory to God whom gives us the grace to give us all that we need to overcome, glory to God whom watches over our lives and walk with him as long as we keep pursuing him, thank you Lord! In accordance with this word and hebrews 10:35-36 I bind to hell to doubt myself, feelings and thoughts obsessively and all day long when in Christ, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah! ❤

@hannahsophie8388 3 ай бұрын

Also on that note, who else asked this question? Satan: Genesis 3:1 Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the LORD God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’? The enemy is a lier amd wants us to question if God REALLY said something about our identity, of something REALLY happened etc. Yes satan, God really said that he has called me by my name and that I am his and that I am forgiven and made new, and a new creation

@consumablecorner150 6 ай бұрын

Tons of help

@jenofthejungle3023 7 ай бұрын

I haven't watched the video yet but seeing this title a few days ago has helped me so much. It's true I am constantly checking myself to see how I feel. If I don't feel loved by God at the moment I assume it's because he doesn't love me and I start thinking all kinds of weird stuff. Checking my feelings is keeping me stuck in this cycle with the narcissist in my life. I need to just feel them as they come up, not spend so much time thinking about them. "Yes it hurts, yes the hurt is passing since I cried, and I feel ok now. What's for dinner?" It's kinda revolutionary. I'm not trying to figure out why and what is causing it and how to change it and he's an evil person for making me feel bad, etc. I've been kinda stuck in my emotions for a long time. So glad I saw this.

@colorfulthinker Жыл бұрын

Thank you as always, this has helped me tremendously. Just take a step and stop thinking about it. alright.... here i go. 🚶‍♀ Also, may i have the links to your new book, please? I've been scared to post anything, but i'm ready to do it now. I want to help spread the word. It's the least i could do to show my appreciation.🧡

@stephaniel63 3 ай бұрын

14:22 - "YAY THERAPIST" (video ends) 🤣🤣 no video necessary!

@Nightwalker25-m3u 10 ай бұрын

Alright, I have control issues and it drives me insane.

@Lionshare333 Жыл бұрын

The OCD isn’t invalid The scriptures mostly the Law exists in an impossibility for any normal person to live up to except for Jesus. What I do is meditate on that perfection but realize I can’t live up to it and rely on Grace, the Gospels, and Jesus. I’ve had to repeatedly grieve the Holy Spirt but at least I’m following it to the best of my ability. By Grace thru Faith we are saved…. Anything else is Lordship salvation thru works and isn’t biblical. ❤

@lolasimmons9152 Жыл бұрын

Hi Mark. I can totally relate to your video. Especially when I come across videos that say are you really saved? That really sends me into a panick mode. I get really scared and begin to think that I am not really saved and I best repent of everything I can think of and ask Jesus Christ to save me and forgive me of my sins. I feel very scared that I am just fooling myself and that I will go to hell with out God's presence. How can I get over these thoughts and feelings?

@aprilgould2262 Жыл бұрын

This video was SO helpful. Thank you! I ve struggled with this off and on my whole life but never knew it was ocd. It took over my mind, peace, joy to the point where i honestly just wanted to skip to judgment day so i could finally know if im saved or not. I know that sounds crazy but thats how much it torments me. This video was SO helpful though! I do have a question though if you read this. Have you ever had thoughts that you dont believe came from you? I have 3 thoughts im having so much trouble letting go of and calling ocd because it just didnt seem like it came from me. And what makes it harder to believe it came from me is the fact that i woke up in the middle of the night to the thought. It was like i was woken up just to have the phrase pop in my head. Could this be ocd? Thank you!

@draleks9112 Жыл бұрын

The Enemy places thoughts in our head when we are at out lowest or weakest. He plants seeds in our hearts and minds when we are weakest or at the "best" moment in order to try and tempt us and manipulate us.

@aprilgould2262 Жыл бұрын

@@draleks9112 I believe this but what worries me is that two of the thoughts started out as "Be careful. " I don't know if satan would warn someone but I guess he could use anything to trick us.

@draleks9112 Жыл бұрын

@@aprilgould2262 It's a mirky area, considering what you've said. Prayer helps, Fasting definitely helped me while spiraling, it helps get your flesh in line and clears your mind(so long as you replace eating with Water, the Word and Prayer) If you need prayer or a OCD buddy, let me know.

@aprilgould2262 Жыл бұрын

Thank you! I've considered fasting but I would need to do it with something other than food as I'm a type 1 diabetic. I'm not sure if I'd get the same results Spiritually if I don't fast with food.

@draleks9112 Жыл бұрын

@@aprilgould2262 Fast from food you find enjoyable, eat things that can keep ya healthy, but aren't your thing. You can also cutt out all forms of entertainment, which is important anyway(since you would be fasting to draw close to Him, and what we set before our eyes determines a lot)