We need more advice becouse I am one of the 20s

Therapy. If you have things you struggle with, don't let them fester and grow, work them out with a good therapy and therapist. I highly recommend Internal Family Systems. I'm 43 now, I let my issues fester for decades. My life has been compromised because I was too scared to face my stuff.

Take risk and don't worry about failure. Try to be with positive thinking people. It will help a lot. Be clean and kind in your heart.

Don't let money, possessions, people dictate, rule your life. Most people, it seems, have a pretty screwed up life, they like to pass off as fantastic, so not to look like a failure.

What should we focus on then?@@wanderingwarrior5626

Very good point.

I’m in this position. I definitely have no friends. I moved a lot as a kid and that kinda has been true as an adult too. I’ve always wanted friends but I see people more giving this advice. It makes me feel not so bad.

Let people accept u as u r.

That's very unfortunate! Better make hay while the sun shines!!

@mariabenham7716 I married a man 20 yrs younger so I think we making hay

Yes I’m with you mate. I’ve wasted so much money trying to find the right woman only to be taken down at the end of the day.

@@patkelly6349yeah, there is no such thing as the perfect woman. They’re all fake. Every single one of them

@@patkelly6349

I am 67 and have found the one word in dealing with all women "INDIFFERENCE".

Look up Within Heaven's Gates by Rebecca Springer. Page 64 😇

Have never heard that one, but it’s Excellent advice.

😂😂😂

nice one

Excellent ! Before opening mouth, engage brain.

I had a sage share with me a while back. He said, You know how easy it is to become an overnight genius today? Think twice before You speak

Yes, the total gem of this video ❤

Kinda like how the Buddhist guy said the present is happiness.

I have family members who have no ambitions whatsoever, I just could not find any richness around them. If weren't for they are my kids I'd have dumped them.

@@aaazzz1212But no ambition at all is different from that quote

..then what?

and if the present is bad?

nonsense... look at Gaza

@@hjm5885 Gratitude for the little things we often take for granted. A blue sky, the sun, drinking water, having clothing to wear etc. The present might be bad, but the storm doesn't last forever, nothing lasts forever after all. Everything is uncertain, in a constant state of flux.

​@@hjm5885 ...it too will pass.

I agree. I try my best to be kind to people but not at the expense of my well-being. I say hello, good morning and etc to total strangers in the grocery store. I'm 68 and I have been doing that for many years. I have watched many older people go from a sad look to a happy face and a big smile. Many live alone and keep to themselves for fear of being conned and hurt financially or physically hurt. It's a sad state of affairs because there are so many people totally lacking in morals.

Hear, hear!

⁠@@genespell4340glad to know it works well for you. Cuz when I’m nice, all I get is nasty faces and assholes doing me dirty at other times. I stopped being nice a long time ago, I realized that you humans don’t deserve kindness, if you wanna be nice go ahead, but just know you all don’t deserve a hello or a thank you or anything from me. Only thing I’ll give you all is my middle finger, cuz there’s no way in hell I’m letting you all bring me down ever again. I’ll make sure to put you in your place homie. And don’t you forget it

Absolutely agree. I always talk to strangers, especially young people working in customer service. They appreciate the genuine attention I give them.

I cannot stand a compliment from a stranger. MYOB.

#2 for sure!

Unfortunately 1 and 2 kind of intertwine because many people place so much importance on relationships with others it ends them up marrying and having children with multiple people who were the wrong ones 😂

omg...#2!

I disagree with 1. There are people that feel complete with their respective careers and don't need a partner to "feel fulfilled." Also, sex isn't love. It's BS.

I soooo agree w ur comment. The former was my ex, the latter was me!!

the 75 year old gentleman that stated when asked "how does it feel to be 74?" he stated "bad"...why? "Because I dont have any energy any more"... this guy and everyone needs to change their diet to the carnivore diet to get their energy back. At 74 he should have good health & energy. Doctors will just give you a Rx but, that does not heal the body... YOU need to take YOUR health into YOUR own hands by changing your diet. carnviore channels: Dr Ken berry, shawn baker md podcast, Homestead how, Kelly Hogan, Dante freedom carniovre (something like that), Dr Chaffee, Nutrition with Judy, Steak and butter gal (all of these have interivews with so many people that healed their bodies from everything at ALL ages (20's 30+ 70, 80 year olds) You are never hungry, after a week or so no sugar craving or carb cravings) library will have books on carnivore diet. Do not settle with sickness...humans are NOT meant to have no energy at any age including this gentlemen at 74. carnivore diet reverse type 2 dibetes, brain fog, anxiety, depression, obesity, mood swings, fatigue etc etc EVERYTHING seriously look into this diet. it works.

6:49 So true.

I would say too eny one younger do not settle down too young,and educat your self,so much too learn and see,stay healthy,look up you'r food's,🍸 plenty off water, keep fit dont worry a bout ageing if so look it up will help you understand better has were ageing all the time,try too be happy and help other's but not too much,baby's are hard work and running a house food cloth's bill's and if you wont too marry make sure he is a family man and you'r best friend,we think we know a lot when teen,'s know that's why thy say we live and learn,I know off some in there 20s and 3os find it hard whith just one,✅ now,your life fly by not meny tell you a bout your face and body changing all the time and nothing like peace off mind,and money does help,dont think it does it does,has why are so meny homeless starving in debt,worrying,yes I have nearly wrote a book,if I dont have a lazy eye I would do,dont marry fore a ring,I neaver,

Yeah hits hard. Can feel like that after you've continued living your life too.

This was meaningful to me

¡Muchas felicidades! 🎉

Congratulations, as someone who works full time and find it difficult to study new releases in my own field. I feel that is a major accomplishment.

Congratulations!

can you be my mentor? I want to follow same route.

Well done. I graduated as a nurse 3 months before my 60 th birthday. I love my life now.

You are not too late either my friend!

I came here looking for this comment. I heard him the loudest.

He's like yoda

@@keomalahamer108 and yet he's so peaceful..lol

@@irah866 definitely...it seems effortless

I'm not buddhist but I have always (every day) loved each and every day I've been alive - I'm 78 now. I've never wished to go back because I've lived each day.

I thought the same.

Sometimes, if you are trying to escape an abusive marriage, the present is absolute H*ll. I got through it imagining a happy and free future and trying to remember a younger me and what my likes and dislikes were back then. I got free and have my own place. I am totally alone but am at peace and trying to put my life back together. Happiness is sometimes something you have to work towards.

what present? like the one in Gaza ?

THE BEST ADVICE!

So true ❤

I've never wanted a fancy ring. When I go get married one day, I hope to have a simple, wooden wedding ring. It's more my style and would be much more meaningful to have a personal design etched on it than a fancy diamond that costs more than what I make in a few months. I've never understood the need to have fancy, expensive things, ESPECIALLY something that should be a symbol of your love and connection to another person.

​@@Ellary_Rosewood You sound like a woman of character. I hope you meet a man who knows value when he meets it. (Unasked for advice from someone who prepares people for marriage and counsels married people: if you meet someone and start talking and it's the best conversation of your life and you just want to keep talking or meet up and talk again as soon as possible, *that* is something that successful couples consistently report as part of their story of how they met. If you meet and date and are wondering, "Could this be the one?" but you don't feel like you want this conversation to continue, like this is the person you feel you can discuss everything with, move on. Look for the one who wants to tell you everything about his day and hear all about yours, for whom you are the one person he feels like telling everything to, and vice-versa, and that's a great sign that "this is the one." I meet couples where one of them - usually the man, because men don't as easily open up and talk as women - knew right away that they'd met someone special because of how much they enjoyed talking to the girl. When that's mutual, when you can meet for a half hour and talk for hours and can't wait to meet up and continue the conversation, trust it.)

That and any woman who mentions one of those stupid 'rules' like 'the engagement ring should cost: Factor x your monthly salary' is not of marriageable quality and you should never propose to her. She has an immature, selfish and destructive perspective on what marriage really is. Move on.

He seemed very wise.

Nam Myoho Renge Kyo. 🙏

Check out kadampa meditation centre near you- a Buddhist tradition that teaches precisely these mindsets and more.

You can watch buddhist videos that say the same things.

He does! but you don't have to be buddhist. I've lived every day as if it was my last - I'm 78 now.

enjoyment is a very expensive hobby?

You should not regret true joy

He is just like Maurice Chevalier..the old Hollywood movie star..

I was thinking the same thing!@@mariacompton1416

Yup....reminds me of someone asking two grey haired guys sitting in a vintage Ferrari about life advice....The driver's advice..."chase excellence and your dreams...not women". From what I've seen of the divorce grinder, a Ferrari is much cheaper in the long run to maintain and it won't run off with a Lamborghini while you are at work.

Great quote by that person!

Yeah. Helping disinterestedly is easier for me because I'm an introvert and can only have so many people in my life as it gets exhausting. I help because people need help. Whatever the help is, whether it takes a year or two minutes, I treat it like holding a door open for a stranger coming into a store behind me: an act of help that doesn't need to lead to friendship. For me friendship has to be based on a real meeting of minds and sharing of values that are deep and meaningful and not likely to change over time. I think - many cultures think - that Americans use the word "friend" very loosely. Other languages have words that clearly indicate when an acquaintance has moved from the formal zone of neighbor, coworker, guy you chat with at the gym (no matter if it's over thirty years) to someone you confide in, invite to your home, share milestones with, trust your kids with. You even address them differently before and after you both acknowledge that shift into friendship has taken place. But American history relied on strangers pulling together for survival, so you had to assume and rely on "friendship" almost instantly in the wilderness. I think it makes it hard for Americans to distinguish between "friendliness" and "friendship" and can lead to a person having a lot of shallow "connections" and no deep, lasting friendships and wondering why it's not satisfying.

Hadn't thought about it in quite tge way you put it, but I think you might be right.

Very interesting comment from a non American

Such a sad comment! Similar here. But my further thought is that I'm going to be happy in the last portion of my life and give no one the power to disturb my peace. I've come to value peace as my most important possession so I discard anything or anyone who disturbs my peace. This has been the path to happiness for me so I recommend it for you too. Sadly most people can be replaced with a good dog as far as happiness goes🙀

​@cynthiawadeson8843 wow powerful comment -i hope your wish comes true-peace n later years -its what we wld all hope for

So sorry to hear that😢that might be a lesson you learn not to follow his path and make a great life for yourself🙏🏽🌸

My friend, your dad is trying to teach you one important lesson: not to live the life he'd had. Good luck. (btw, don't forget to forgive your teacher.)

Hi, please forgive your father. I pray for find and understand Jesus Christ. Peace from God to you. You will overcome

Indeed parents can destroy everyone’s lives ..

This is sad for you. It’s unfortunate since we cannot pick our parents. But perhaps did this allow you to become the father to a child the way you wanted your Dad to be? 🙂

Great attitude! Love it! So true about having healthy habits.

All true! At 62 I’m going to dive the Barrier reef this next winter. Keeping fit gives me so many opportunities. Wish I had started earlier!

I'm 47 believing in nutrition and keeping body fit without supplements, i agree with the writer 100%, the earlier we take care of our bodies in terms of food who consume and physical fitness the better. 🇿🇦

great advice! i want to live a long time but only if i can be healthy for a long time.

Yes agreed, it's never to late to get fit. I'm 47 and very active and try to eat well, it makes a difference for mental health as well a fit body too!!

very true! If one can ignore societal pressure the result will probably be better. I did not ignore.....to my peril.

@margaretames6522 are you still married?😢

Where's your wife now? 😢

@@loveonlytee483 Amazingly - right by my side! She’s been such a wonderful wife, mother, and grandmother. I’m so lucky to have her!

what was her dream?

I feel like in 20 years you won’t regret that. Most people regret working too much or taking career over life. What’s your thoughts on that?

Career has always been important to me, but a healthy lifestyle is non-negotiable. So, I'm not as outwardly successful as most my age. @@brandonarmstrong2053

If you're still trying to flourish in a career at 60, you're wasting your life working.

@@lilyw.719not if you love what you do for work

Great advice!

"So please think of your retirement" No.

@@TheDestroyer1020 It's a mistake!

I made that same mistake 😢

I agree. 100 %

He's definitely on planet earth. Just the philosophy is different.

@@giovanna722 yeah i think its a beautiful philosophy might be worth trying.

Yeah, he hit home.

If you live a life without the need to hustle, you are already better off than most of the people. Everyone has their struggles. No matter which road you take, you will always regret about something. Best advice is to work on a balanced life. That way you are not going completely one way and miss another. Do a bit hustle, bump your yearly income to a point where the marginal cost is not worth for extra 10K. Stop right there and have kids and wife before 35. Also avoid high stress jobs that might look nice, it will mess up your relationship and mental health. Whatever comes to you, at least try it once or twice before rejecting.

I wonder how she answered the question though...

I didn't hear that in their responses - although I hear people say it lots. My only regrets are things I did that I shouldn't have. I was impulsive and emotional/hormonal. I'm 78.

nonsense

@@imandan1966 says the pre 60 year old who's likely led a sheltered life 🤣 Ask anyone who has really pushed themselves physically, not even to mention mental pain. Tyson, Stallone just to name a couple of familiar names.

Yeah, you know nothing about me. Tyson and Stallone are the 2 names you went with? Chuckle...later dude@@richhand930

and what about the 80 year old that are in great physical and mental shape haha fuck outta here

They worked out too much

Lived hard, loved a.lot, a warrior of the heart!

People in fact wish you to fail. People are evil. Get to a big farm, away from as many people as possible.

So true

YEP! Pass the topics [negatives] RIGHT ON BY; DISTANCE, IMMEDIATELY! JOURNEYS TOO SHORT & BEAUTIFUL THRU ALL THE RIGHT, WRONG &/OR INDIFFERANT....

he is incredible

Allison, I'm two years older than you and I SO wish you success! When I meet family or go back to visit them, the shock is almost physical. It's like going back in time. They've aged but not changed. And they treat me as though no time has passed. I left the US the first time for two years in my twenties to get a master's degree, went back for one year to get a teaching credential.(One brother told me when I returned: "You were gone for two years. Now you're back and everything goes on as before." As though two years living abroad among strangers and finding out so much about myself and the world didn't change anything, because *his* life and world never changed!) I then left for the final time 32 years ago. I have learned so much about who I really am when I'm somewhere where nobody "knows" me and I'm not being treated like a 15-year-old with no education, no professional career, no life experience. I've spent the decades changing and getting past the limitations put on me by my family's narrative for who I am and how I should be treated, and the limited options envisioned in my typical American suburban neighborhood. I'm respected in my career and valued by many for what I have to offer. Thank God I got away and could fulfill my REAL self. I've lived more than half my life away from family expectations and roles and their fixed and unchanging ways and characters. I see them all still so STUCK in being who and how they were 35 years ago, and when I meet them they cannot see or respect that I'm a totally different (better, happier, respected, successful) person than I was as a child and teenager. They have not changed or grown or mellowed, and they measure their lives by money earned, not contribution to the good of others. It's awful going back. I hope never to do it again. I don't hate them, it's just hard to be treated as someone you are not and never were, because it's easier for them not to change. And because they simply can't imagine (and have never asked about) a whole adult life lived separately from them. Breaking free from the constraints of people who *tell* you who you are instead of *asking* who you are and being open to letting you become who you are is SO worth it. It may cost you, you will have a lot to overcome and learn, but it's what makes life worth having. You can only be you. Go be the best you that you can! I wish you the greatest success in being YOU.

@@FigaroHey thanks so much as I sit here in a flood of tears, alone and free to be me. Be well my friend and soo happy you are the cycle breaker! Love...

As a 67 year old mother of sons, I would say if you are a Dad of sons, they will need you and your advice a lot, even when you are older

Advice to you dad: tell your kids EVERY DAY, that you love them and are proud..my only son died when he was 16years old.. suddenly..I regret not telling him every day that I loved him but he knew, that he was my life.

@@lmb4876So sorry for your loss. I think you did a lot for him and he felt that you love him. It’s not only about words.

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Yep, I want him for president. He'd reintroduce some semblance of order into dating and mating. Trump just wants to grab stuff. Biden can't remember.

No

Thank you man!

@@Sprouhtseriously, well done to you !

I agree, the biggest downfall of young women is not knowing their own worth, and not choosing a man with good character. It is easy to love a man with good character. that you have chemistry with. Ladies know your own worth at a young age! Also, value independence and set personal goals. The right person will come along, and you will be ready for the best life.

Please make time to listen to Neville Goddard's KZfaq lectures. I hope you are wise enough not to be angry with yourself. You will need to listen to his lectures again and again until you are convinced that "what you imagine, is your reality"

@@user-xt3be8tu8t you are right, self-esteem is essential, also remember to establish relationships with good people whose values are similar to yours. you'll be ok...advice from a 74 year single lady.

some of these are in our plans for 2024!

@@Sprouht looking forwad to them

Yeah seems like these people are more well off.

Then I just have to not have any of those status bs or the position thing like that, whilst not caring about myself. Thank you.

Very sorry to hear that. I can only imagine what you have gone through. It's great tho that you have this awareness... it is the beginning step to better things to come...

Nah if there’s air in ur lungs and drive in ur heart, there’s still time.

Be careful. Because sometimes when "life" doesn't allow us to do something we aim at, it's because there's something much more important we are meant to do right under our noses. And often, when we do the thing life "allows", we may not realize the enormous good we are doing for people and that people never forget us and their influence in small, simple ways changes lives and echoes down the generations. I was prevented from life by following the path I wanted. Now, I might be a privileged person compared to you: white, highly educated, from a reasonably stable American family, no dependents so "free" to make choices that married people with children can't. And yet I was not able to do all the things I thought I would do when I finished my master's degree (at Oxford) and thought that life lay before me with endless horizons. People told me I could do anything I wanted... But life ended up with me working in a developing country as a teacher, earning next to nothing, never a chance at marriage, retired (still here) on a meagre pension and working as a full-time volunteer with foreign immigrants to this country I had no connection with before I came for one year as a volunteer. Had I gone back to the US instead of staying where I was needed more, I might have had greater financial success, married, have a home and prospects of a comfortable retirement. Now I have thousands of people, both students and migrants, who sometimes tell me that I have changed and improved their lives and their families' lives for the better. I'm old enough to see the results of having lost out on the plans and desires I had, and I would not change the life I've had. (I met a bus driver in a small town in France, whom I will never forget for his kindness. I could see how nobody who came onto his bus was "just a passenger", but someone in his care. So it doesn't matter so much what you do, but how you treat people while you do it, that makes a good life.) Go watch "It's a Wonderful Life" with Jimmy Stewart, and think about how your love, kindness, service, attention to others might be adding up to you having a great life. Maybe that thwarted desire is blinding you to the reality of a life well lived?

@@FigaroHey Loved hearing your story. I often think our destiny is decided, inspite of what we plan or try to do with our life, Being kind and helping others holds the greatest reward in life. Congratulations you truly had a life rich in reward! Blessings!

I love this comment.

How lovely. I’m 62 and have had and still am having - a ton of fun. I went skydiving in my 60th. Going to dive the Barrier Reef this Christmas. My advice - wear life loosely. My only regrets are letting BS stuff take up my headspace. Big hugs to you.