please know that the apple headphone mesh starts seperating and little white pieces of elastic come out of it after 1-2 years and its not fixable!
@Alexas.nobuyyear3 ай бұрын
Omg thank you so much for this info, exactly what I needed to start deinfluenicng myself 😅
@amykatrina7542Ай бұрын
Just a side-note, you might find that the long lists of wants do subside over time. In 2019 when I started no-buying I had huge wishlists in all my journals. Now I can only think of 3 or 4 things I want, which I have on a birthday list, and none of them feels particularly urgent. But it did take a long while to get to this point 😂 and I particularly remember getting really fixated on certain items at times, which often led to slip-ups in the early days (and definitely that feeling where the wishlist is like a to-do list and you won't be 'complete' somehow until you have those things)
@Alexas.nobuyyearАй бұрын
Yes you are right!!! I'm finally getting there!
@kondwira367Ай бұрын
I found out, too, that a wish list is very counter-productive if you want to consume less.
@cindyklempner72033 ай бұрын
Love this kind of content & find it very encouraging.
@Alexas.nobuyyear3 ай бұрын
Thank you!
@emmy85263 ай бұрын
It’s so easy to move up the reasonable price point to $500 or above and stay there. Maybe worth unpacking what 'elevated' brand names evoke in one to make them desirable. Did previous high-end purchases deliver all that one had hoped when fantasizing about them and adding them to cart, versus when they’ve been in our closet for a few months? Personally, I have sensitive skin and have to cut tags out from tops and sweaters. It’s very clarifying then to compare quality among tagless low-end and high-end, thrifted and new pieces. It taught me to learn about and look for quality (fabric, cut, condition) irrespective of brand and newness. Honestly, I’ve seen the same range of fabric, cut and condition at thrift stores as at high-end department stores. Truly, it’s helpful to learn to love a useful, beautiful object for its qualities and disassociate from the supposed brand value entirely. Saves money and the weird worry of chasing after the latest SoHo Club of sweaters or dresses. As you say, hopefully unplugging from short-form social media will help (though you’ll still be getting influenced by HLP who seems prone to brand fetishizing herself). I hope this doesn’t sound mean. I’m hoping to help others find the relief of not believing brand pitches anymore.
@Alexas.nobuyyear3 ай бұрын
Don't worry about sounding mean, your comment doesn't come across that way at all - rather, thank you for your thoughtful and valuable remarks! Allow me to think out loud in response to your feedback: I also have had experiences where the "expensive" version wasn't right for me, and a thrifted version (sometimes at less than 10% of the cost of a more "designer" item) turned out to have much more value in my life. Clearly "elevated" brands are not inherently better but there's something else at play here. I also agree that HLP does have a fair handful of brands that she seems to hold in high regard and I also admit to having been influenced by her to purchase from the very same brands, whether or not they are actually right for me. A glaring example is Printfresh pajamas, which she loves, and I purchased several sets over previous years only to discover that I do not love that cotton poplin material for sleepwear or even for its aesthetics. Sigh. I think also it's easier to fall for the "influencing" when I also share some of the proclaimed goals of the influencer, in this case, more conscious spending...and it becomes tricky when someone is literally making money from brand partnerships or affiliate links, or even just receiving promotional products for free. In her specific case (shes def not the only one this applies to!) even though she preaches intentional spending and not shopping irresponsibly, part of her literal work these days involves pushing products towards her audience by showing it in one way or another, disclaimers or not, and people like me have proven to be susceptible - even though I cognitively don't want to fall for that anymore! - And I'm finally taking tangible steps to immunizing myself against this "see it, want it, buy it" cycle. I guess the first step has been trying to take "buy it" off the table, and I'm now also addressing the "see it" and "want it" parts of this loop... Thank you again for your comment!!!
@Tanguy63ify16 күн бұрын
just a little recognition and encouragement. I think you're on a really good path. I follow your development and take a lot with me. Thanks ❤
@ceciliamajzoub3 ай бұрын
many headphones have replacement ear pads! bose does, i'm sure sony would too!!
@Alexas.nobuyyear3 ай бұрын
This is great info! I guess even the Apple ones do have replacement pads, according to a quick Google search. But as more time passes I'm less certain that I even want any more Apple products, so Bose or Sony might be the way to go!! (I'm not an iphone or macbook user)
@isabellerininger62492 ай бұрын
I’ve moved to neutral footwear for universality. I have a few pair of lovely heels … I wore out my Bandolinos that looked like your purple heels you decluttered with the back strap. I still miss them-they were so comfortable.🥰 But the reality is if I don’t have an outfit and event to use it, I don’t buy it-I admire from afar and chant “I don’t have to buy everything I think is pretty”.
@Alexas.nobuyyear2 ай бұрын
YES! Admiring from afar is the way to go
@MIOLAZARUS14 күн бұрын
I used to use soooo much perfume 😂 15 sprays kindda girl😂 I wanted a personal smell-space around me😂 Now I use a little but I also find it nauseating often. Things really change with age huh? I really want a Babaa sweater too.. I like the idea of having it forever❤
@robrobben60665 күн бұрын
Pink shoes don’t need a pink top! According to the tibi color wheel an outfit is even interesting with one pop of color, you don’t need to sandwich. For my personal taste the sandwich is too matchy-matchy.
@Alexas.nobuyyear2 күн бұрын
This is a good point, thank you!
@MIOLAZARUS14 күн бұрын
Rubber sole made me think of the Beatles album “Rubber soul”❤
@Alexas.nobuyyear13 күн бұрын
😁
@sivislou3 ай бұрын
If your headphones are still functional, you could perhaps replace the cushion part? The cushions are usually sticked on the headphones with a kind of double-sided tape. I used to have these Beats Solo headphones, changed the cushion pair twice and they lasted about 5 years. Bought the model specific replacement set off of amazon, it came directly with the tape.
@sivislou3 ай бұрын
Ah sorry, someone had already suggested it 😅
@Alexas.nobuyyear3 ай бұрын
Yes you are right! I Googled and was surprised to see that even though my headphones are from 2015, there are still replacement pads available. I'm actually not sure I even need to replace the pads yet - it was more of an excuse to "want" new headphones, but now that I've talked myself out of that, I feel like I can just wait and see on the replacement pads too!
@angeliegreen891520 күн бұрын
I actually wash athletic shoes and shine dress shoes. I wouldn't say I like buying new all the time. I wish I could do it with my vehicle where as long as it still takes me from point A to point b I would not care if it gets rusty. But vehicles do not last long either.
@drushkoo13 ай бұрын
Re: Vivaia - I wouldn’t recommend the Vivaia block heels, I found that the tip of the shoe gets very worn out and the fibre gets practically frayed/loose especially with pointy styles. To increase the longevity of my shoes I chose only leather now as I can repair with a leather pen any scuffs at home. Also I ask the cobbler/shoe repair guy to add an extra layer of soles, since all the scuffing is because the shoe tip isn’t protected by a welted base/ or bc the sole is way too thin and close to the ground. With Vivaia, there is no way to repair them if the fibre gets worn. Yes you can wash them in the washing machine, but they also stick to dirt and mud so much!…
@Alexas.nobuyyear3 ай бұрын
Good to know!! I have a pair of Vivaia flats, sounds like I should try and wear them more and observe what happens to maybe talk myself out of getting any more pairs. Makes sense about the base/soles of the shoes too, looks like the nicer ankle boots that I have already do in fact have a welted base, and were originally made like that. So helpful to know what details to look for! I have a sneaky suspicion that the "best" move for me might be to re-home the few hot pink pieces of clothing in my wardrobe, and therefore I won't even have a desire for hot pink shoes either...
@theamethyst9321 күн бұрын
What’s interesting is that you’ve shown other things in your videos that are bright pink and you say you end up never using it, so maybe choose a different color? Cool video.
@Alexas.nobuyyear20 күн бұрын
It's the old trap of "I WANT to make the hot pink work!" 😅 Thank you.
@drushkoo13 ай бұрын
Re:Kosas; honestly, I had their concealer and their powder and the concealer is not as good as the Catrice 18h hydration concealer that is like 3£. Re the powder, it’s fine, but not as amazing as the reviews say.
@Alexas.nobuyyear3 ай бұрын
THANK YOU for this valuable de-influencing info
@jessrosejim54403 ай бұрын
"minor obsession" is so accurate/relatable for me
@Alexas.nobuyyear3 ай бұрын
😅
@missedem25 күн бұрын
I mean I'm 2 months in the past and you're already so far along into being more aware of what your wish list means to you! I'm impressed and can't wait to see what's coming up. I think after this year, you'll be able to work out a 'concert blacks come under a "uniform allowance"' kind of deal that you're comfortable with, because you're already working within a constraint. 😄 Having already been through my own "I spent how much on what and have how many things?" phase with my wardrobe: For me... I still have a wish list, but it's not individual items, it's a keyword or phrase. So currently I have "bucket bag" and "ankle boot". I don't actively look for these things, but if I happen to come across a lead (like your bag!) I'll go take a look. If I purchase something, the category goes off the list, because I've got it. I've found that using categories makes me stop and go "do I have this thing already? (or can I make it)" and more often than not, I do or can, so I have to truly understand why I *want* more. It also makes me less likely to be worried that I'm going to 'miss out' on a particular item; I'm not naming something specific and I don't have to get *that thing* but rather one of a kind of thing. This approach certainly won't work for everyone, but I think it's important to find something that works on a personal level long term. And of course I'm not against the occasional "yeah but I really really really want it" purchase. My current pain point is knitting. I always want more yarn.
@Alexas.nobuyyear25 күн бұрын
I really like your approach of the keywords, and then also the idea of the occasional "really want it" purchase. I think that after this year's "training wheels of no buy" get taken off I'll be left wanting less overall, which will make these kinds of ideas more easily implemented!
@catsandbatswithhats3 ай бұрын
I'm excited to watch this video! I had/have a long day ahead of me (classes this morning while in tons of pain and I have an MRI later) and this is a welcome company
@Alexas.nobuyyear3 ай бұрын
Aw I hope your day ended up okay, happy to get to spend some time with you and hopefully help you through a little bit!! 💜
@emiyaluvr22763 ай бұрын
i love your videos so much!! so much insight!
@emiyaluvr22763 ай бұрын
btw the long videos are awesome!
@Alexas.nobuyyear3 ай бұрын
Thank you so much!
@alcnwonderlnd3 ай бұрын
I’m watching this so I can also talk myself out of a few things too. Funnily enough, I also wanted to buy some sunglasses and a Casio (baby g watch) but I don’t need another one of either of those things! I have sunglasses and I have a watch already lol so let’s hope I don’t go back to wanting those. Also, I just got back from traveling and realized how heavy my bag is on my shoulder so I’ve been looking into getting a backpack. Well, I fell into the black hole of all the travel backpacks out there. All that research actually has made me not want to buy a backpack anymore 😂 there’s just so many options and I can’t decide..I fell into the trap of shopping for the perfect one. I have a few that I want to look at in person and hopefully I’ll find one that works well. It’s not a need since I only travel a couple times a year for work but I’m thinking I need it to be more comfortable when traveling. I’m glad you’re wearing the badlands sweater, it looks cozy. Not that you asked but my favorite sunscreen is from Isdin. I’ve tried several expensive sunscreens but their mineral one is the best I’ve found and it’s a big bottle!
@Alexas.nobuyyear3 ай бұрын
Actually, after making this video it's getting easier for me to tell myself "you already have one so the answer is just no" and it's seeming more and more silly to keep wanting these things that I literally don't need because I already have one. So maybe this reflection is working for me! Love that your research made you stop wanting a backpack haha sometimes it's easier to just get buy with whatever you have and be done with it! I'm always happy to have recommendations so thanks for the SPF suggestion!
@drushkoo13 ай бұрын
Omg, I totally get the travel backpack hole 😂 the struggle is real! I also wanted something that I could use as a work bag to the office and I just didn’t fancy getting a Longchamps Pliage, because carrying on your shoulder is just not ergonomic at all and it’s so bad for your posture. My top tip and breakthrough was thanks to a Reddit comment that suggested I look into the Mina Baie Emmy diaper bag- I tell you it’s perfection for my needs, and I would not have thought to even look at such a product. :))
@alcnwonderlnd3 ай бұрын
Haha, glad I'm not the only one that has gotten stuck in the travel backpack rabbit hole 😂 and thanks for the suggestion! I hear diaper bags are great travel bags.
@lowfatdarkchocolateАй бұрын
idk which specific model of headphones you have, but you might be able to replace just the ear pads! My Bose headphones finally started to peel after 4 years and people sell all kinds of replacement pads. I'm personally holding on for as long as possible before I drop the money on new pads 😂
@Alexas.nobuyyearАй бұрын
Absolutely! The funny thing is, I've now continued to use my old Sony headphones without even replacing the pads, because this really was just a fleeting desire to buy something "sleek and new". So clearly I didn't "need" new headphones and didn't even really "need" new pads! It was all just an excuse!
@poziomka013 ай бұрын
WHYYYYY YOU ARE NOT POPULAR WTF
@Alexas.nobuyyear3 ай бұрын
hehe aw thanks! I'll keep going!🥰
@nadja933114 күн бұрын
❤🌈
@Blubes232 ай бұрын
Just about to start the video… i have kept myself an wishlist. I have my hobby that i am «free» to buy what i want, BUT in that hobby i also have preferances and an absolute no. Lets say the thing is wrong color, wrong texture or an art i dont do, then hard pass. What i do with that wishlist is i write the thing i like that i want down, and let it sit. Sometimes i see it again as an ad, or i look it up and change my mind, and scratch it off my list. Other times i see the thing and STILL LIKE IT. Then i allow myself to buy it, or wait a bit more. But i have limited my list to one spectrum. Lets say you are into interior, then your list might be for interior. Other than that i just come to relize i have everything i want. Right now i dont love my clothing, but i want to change the, all when the ones i have now are worn out, at that time i want to start over with a new minimalistic capsule wardrobe. That means i have a plan for an are/ and more areas in my life. This plan help me not spontaniously buy things, because when i see something i like, i tell myself ; will this be something id like in my future capsule minimal wardrobe? Often thats no. IF yes, them i screenshot it, and if i have forgotten it by the next time i tidy my phone, then i delete it. If i still like it, i just have it there until my time of repurchase has come. Another thing that also really help me not buy things is that i want to move, because this is not my dream home/settled place. So i try to declutter for the move, and i dont want to purshase lots of things now because my taste and preferances may change. I am much more aware of my goal, which is i want a more thought out home in the future. Without many things from the past. My main rule is that if i NEED a new thing of my essential, like work shoes not to get hurt in the feet, i have to buy new work shoes. But if i walk past a shoe store and see new sandals and think they look so niceeee, i remember what shoes i always tend to use and they are nothing alike, meaning i will not use the new ones alot. It might be nice for better occations? Mby, but i have no special occations up right now, and i dont want them to just dusting down. Ok this got long, but my point is awareness is the most helpfull things. If i see an influencer wear something it doesent mean i automathically want to buy it, because the style might not be. I might make a mental note of a detail i like, but unless i find the perfect item for me, i wont buy. No matter what it is! Getting over fomo is also helpful. I had to do that when y2k came back. I love the style, but i do not have the body nor confidence for that 😂 but i learned to appreciate it on other people. And my style is sort of inspired by y2k with colors instead!
@Alexas.nobuyyear2 ай бұрын
I love the awareness that you have and all of your systems for deciding when to buy something! I'm getting closer this year too, through removing the option to buy for now and give myself the time and space to become more aware. Maybe in the future years my system will look more like yours ☺️
@pamelapeterson29873 ай бұрын
I like your approach to talking yourself out of things and the flow chart idea. On sort of a related note, I'm wondering if you've seen Joshua Becker's 4-part series on changing spending habits....one came up in my feed yesterday and I thought he had some interesting perspectives. I'm not doing a "no buy" but I do get swayed by clothing, so that's an area I want to change to further align with minimalism values. I'd like to curate a capsule for each season and let go of excess. So, I was sad to hear that your own capsule experiment was not working out. Have you completely abandoned the idea of a capsule? Or do you have some ideas on a way to do it that may make it more successful in the future? Would be interested in hearing.
@Alexas.nobuyyear3 ай бұрын
Yes I'm subscribed to Joshua Becker too, and might have to revisit that series! Regarding the capsule wardrobe, there are things that it was helpful for and some other definite benefits but I also found myself grabbing pieces outside the capsule after the first few weeks. I'm still processing whether it "worked for me" or not, and whether I'll try again using what I've learned or try another different approach for the summer season...stay tuned 🤔
@drushkoo13 ай бұрын
Re:Babaa jumpers, I wouldn’t recommend the “earth” wool jumpers. I also left a comment on Louise’s YT review about the “earth” wool jumper I got from them. However, all the other stuff I got from them was good quality.
@paigemorgan88983 ай бұрын
I'm curious what the difference was - was the colour really off, or a difference in quality?
@drushkoo13 ай бұрын
The colour was accurate, so no problems there. The yarn was the problem. It actually wasn’t cleaned properly and it had lots of plant debris that was caught inside the worsted yarn. I’ll post a picture tomorrow on this thread so you can see. I literally still need to try to take them out with the tweezers from inside the yarn, otherwise it literally leaves scratches on my skin and they prickle even with a cotton Tshirt underneath… also, the yarn still “sheds “ tiny 1cm wool fibers everywhere and I see them on the sink. Honestly, the reason I didn’t return that jumper was bc the return had to be paid for and there were also extra taxes etc. I’ve also added a comment on Hannah Louise’s video review on her babaa jumper, so that at least other people don’t have the same experience as mine. I do like babaa , and the other two items I got from there were perfect but this earth wool one was a total flop.
@Alexas.nobuyyear3 ай бұрын
Thanks for the info again! Also curious what the issues were that you experienced with the "earth" wools vs. colored varieties!
@engyolyonline4208Ай бұрын
@@drushkoo1 Same experience with the "earth" wool vs another color (I think I have oak or dark oak). Noticably more debris and very scratchy. Babaa says this is normal, but I think it's pretty terrible
@drushkoo1Ай бұрын
@@engyolyonline4208wow, so it’s a problem with this yarn in particular! You’re right “earth” is absolutely horrible quality! Their cotton Persephone colour was great, though. 😅
@Randelliciouss26 күн бұрын
Uh oh, she bought the Dakota sweater 😅
@Alexas.nobuyyear26 күн бұрын
Yes! Alas, I'm a failure....but hey I think I might actually do a REAL no buy next year after this one was a bit of a train wreck for the first 6 months 🤣 no buy 2.0
@katd16303 ай бұрын
Enjoyed the video, thank you! Totally random: looks like there’s a melted face on your lap, bottom left lol. Anyway, sorry. Have a great day! Your videos have been inspiring me!
@Alexas.nobuyyear3 ай бұрын
Haha yes I wondered if anyone would notice/comment on that! That is in fact MY face, my husband had the blanket made as an anniversary gift, it's printed with some photos of us from when we were first dating. For the videos I try to arrange it so just the fluffy side is visible since showcasing a blanket with my own face all over it is kind of cringe on the internet, but alas, one of the faces slipped in this time 🤣