please know that the apple headphone mesh starts seperating and little white pieces of elastic come out of it after 1-2 years and its not fixable!

Just a side-note, you might find that the long lists of wants do subside over time. In 2019 when I started no-buying I had huge wishlists in all my journals. Now I can only think of 3 or 4 things I want, which I have on a birthday list, and none of them feels particularly urgent. But it did take a long while to get to this point 😂 and I particularly remember getting really fixated on certain items at times, which often led to slip-ups in the early days (and definitely that feeling where the wishlist is like a to-do list and you won't be 'complete' somehow until you have those things)

I found out, too, that a wish list is very counter-productive if you want to consume less.

Love this kind of content & find it very encouraging.

It’s so easy to move up the reasonable price point to $500 or above and stay there. Maybe worth unpacking what 'elevated' brand names evoke in one to make them desirable. Did previous high-end purchases deliver all that one had hoped when fantasizing about them and adding them to cart, versus when they’ve been in our closet for a few months? Personally, I have sensitive skin and have to cut tags out from tops and sweaters. It’s very clarifying then to compare quality among tagless low-end and high-end, thrifted and new pieces. It taught me to learn about and look for quality (fabric, cut, condition) irrespective of brand and newness. Honestly, I’ve seen the same range of fabric, cut and condition at thrift stores as at high-end department stores. Truly, it’s helpful to learn to love a useful, beautiful object for its qualities and disassociate from the supposed brand value entirely. Saves money and the weird worry of chasing after the latest SoHo Club of sweaters or dresses. As you say, hopefully unplugging from short-form social media will help (though you’ll still be getting influenced by HLP who seems prone to brand fetishizing herself). I hope this doesn’t sound mean. I’m hoping to help others find the relief of not believing brand pitches anymore.

just a little recognition and encouragement. I think you're on a really good path. I follow your development and take a lot with me. Thanks ❤

many headphones have replacement ear pads! bose does, i'm sure sony would too!!

I’ve moved to neutral footwear for universality. I have a few pair of lovely heels … I wore out my Bandolinos that looked like your purple heels you decluttered with the back strap. I still miss them-they were so comfortable.🥰 But the reality is if I don’t have an outfit and event to use it, I don’t buy it-I admire from afar and chant “I don’t have to buy everything I think is pretty”.

I used to use soooo much perfume 😂 15 sprays kindda girl😂 I wanted a personal smell-space around me😂 Now I use a little but I also find it nauseating often. Things really change with age huh? I really want a Babaa sweater too.. I like the idea of having it forever❤

Pink shoes don’t need a pink top! According to the tibi color wheel an outfit is even interesting with one pop of color, you don’t need to sandwich. For my personal taste the sandwich is too matchy-matchy.

Rubber sole made me think of the Beatles album “Rubber soul”❤

If your headphones are still functional, you could perhaps replace the cushion part? The cushions are usually sticked on the headphones with a kind of double-sided tape. I used to have these Beats Solo headphones, changed the cushion pair twice and they lasted about 5 years. Bought the model specific replacement set off of amazon, it came directly with the tape.

I actually wash athletic shoes and shine dress shoes. I wouldn't say I like buying new all the time. I wish I could do it with my vehicle where as long as it still takes me from point A to point b I would not care if it gets rusty. But vehicles do not last long either.

Re: Vivaia - I wouldn’t recommend the Vivaia block heels, I found that the tip of the shoe gets very worn out and the fibre gets practically frayed/loose especially with pointy styles. To increase the longevity of my shoes I chose only leather now as I can repair with a leather pen any scuffs at home. Also I ask the cobbler/shoe repair guy to add an extra layer of soles, since all the scuffing is because the shoe tip isn’t protected by a welted base/ or bc the sole is way too thin and close to the ground. With Vivaia, there is no way to repair them if the fibre gets worn. Yes you can wash them in the washing machine, but they also stick to dirt and mud so much!…

What’s interesting is that you’ve shown other things in your videos that are bright pink and you say you end up never using it, so maybe choose a different color? Cool video.

Re:Kosas; honestly, I had their concealer and their powder and the concealer is not as good as the Catrice 18h hydration concealer that is like 3£. Re the powder, it’s fine, but not as amazing as the reviews say.

"minor obsession" is so accurate/relatable for me

I mean I'm 2 months in the past and you're already so far along into being more aware of what your wish list means to you! I'm impressed and can't wait to see what's coming up. I think after this year, you'll be able to work out a 'concert blacks come under a "uniform allowance"' kind of deal that you're comfortable with, because you're already working within a constraint. 😄 Having already been through my own "I spent how much on what and have how many things?" phase with my wardrobe: For me... I still have a wish list, but it's not individual items, it's a keyword or phrase. So currently I have "bucket bag" and "ankle boot". I don't actively look for these things, but if I happen to come across a lead (like your bag!) I'll go take a look. If I purchase something, the category goes off the list, because I've got it. I've found that using categories makes me stop and go "do I have this thing already? (or can I make it)" and more often than not, I do or can, so I have to truly understand why I *want* more. It also makes me less likely to be worried that I'm going to 'miss out' on a particular item; I'm not naming something specific and I don't have to get *that thing* but rather one of a kind of thing. This approach certainly won't work for everyone, but I think it's important to find something that works on a personal level long term. And of course I'm not against the occasional "yeah but I really really really want it" purchase. My current pain point is knitting. I always want more yarn.

I'm excited to watch this video! I had/have a long day ahead of me (classes this morning while in tons of pain and I have an MRI later) and this is a welcome company

i love your videos so much!! so much insight!

I’m watching this so I can also talk myself out of a few things too. Funnily enough, I also wanted to buy some sunglasses and a Casio (baby g watch) but I don’t need another one of either of those things! I have sunglasses and I have a watch already lol so let’s hope I don’t go back to wanting those. Also, I just got back from traveling and realized how heavy my bag is on my shoulder so I’ve been looking into getting a backpack. Well, I fell into the black hole of all the travel backpacks out there. All that research actually has made me not want to buy a backpack anymore 😂 there’s just so many options and I can’t decide..I fell into the trap of shopping for the perfect one. I have a few that I want to look at in person and hopefully I’ll find one that works well. It’s not a need since I only travel a couple times a year for work but I’m thinking I need it to be more comfortable when traveling. I’m glad you’re wearing the badlands sweater, it looks cozy. Not that you asked but my favorite sunscreen is from Isdin. I’ve tried several expensive sunscreens but their mineral one is the best I’ve found and it’s a big bottle!

idk which specific model of headphones you have, but you might be able to replace just the ear pads! My Bose headphones finally started to peel after 4 years and people sell all kinds of replacement pads. I'm personally holding on for as long as possible before I drop the money on new pads 😂

WHYYYYY YOU ARE NOT POPULAR WTF

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Just about to start the video… i have kept myself an wishlist. I have my hobby that i am «free» to buy what i want, BUT in that hobby i also have preferances and an absolute no. Lets say the thing is wrong color, wrong texture or an art i dont do, then hard pass. What i do with that wishlist is i write the thing i like that i want down, and let it sit. Sometimes i see it again as an ad, or i look it up and change my mind, and scratch it off my list. Other times i see the thing and STILL LIKE IT. Then i allow myself to buy it, or wait a bit more. But i have limited my list to one spectrum. Lets say you are into interior, then your list might be for interior. Other than that i just come to relize i have everything i want. Right now i dont love my clothing, but i want to change the, all when the ones i have now are worn out, at that time i want to start over with a new minimalistic capsule wardrobe. That means i have a plan for an are/ and more areas in my life. This plan help me not spontaniously buy things, because when i see something i like, i tell myself ; will this be something id like in my future capsule minimal wardrobe? Often thats no. IF yes, them i screenshot it, and if i have forgotten it by the next time i tidy my phone, then i delete it. If i still like it, i just have it there until my time of repurchase has come. Another thing that also really help me not buy things is that i want to move, because this is not my dream home/settled place. So i try to declutter for the move, and i dont want to purshase lots of things now because my taste and preferances may change. I am much more aware of my goal, which is i want a more thought out home in the future. Without many things from the past. My main rule is that if i NEED a new thing of my essential, like work shoes not to get hurt in the feet, i have to buy new work shoes. But if i walk past a shoe store and see new sandals and think they look so niceeee, i remember what shoes i always tend to use and they are nothing alike, meaning i will not use the new ones alot. It might be nice for better occations? Mby, but i have no special occations up right now, and i dont want them to just dusting down. Ok this got long, but my point is awareness is the most helpfull things. If i see an influencer wear something it doesent mean i automathically want to buy it, because the style might not be. I might make a mental note of a detail i like, but unless i find the perfect item for me, i wont buy. No matter what it is! Getting over fomo is also helpful. I had to do that when y2k came back. I love the style, but i do not have the body nor confidence for that 😂 but i learned to appreciate it on other people. And my style is sort of inspired by y2k with colors instead!

I like your approach to talking yourself out of things and the flow chart idea. On sort of a related note, I'm wondering if you've seen Joshua Becker's 4-part series on changing spending habits....one came up in my feed yesterday and I thought he had some interesting perspectives. I'm not doing a "no buy" but I do get swayed by clothing, so that's an area I want to change to further align with minimalism values. I'd like to curate a capsule for each season and let go of excess. So, I was sad to hear that your own capsule experiment was not working out. Have you completely abandoned the idea of a capsule? Or do you have some ideas on a way to do it that may make it more successful in the future? Would be interested in hearing.

Re:Babaa jumpers, I wouldn’t recommend the “earth” wool jumpers. I also left a comment on Louise’s YT review about the “earth” wool jumper I got from them. However, all the other stuff I got from them was good quality.

Uh oh, she bought the Dakota sweater 😅

Enjoyed the video, thank you! Totally random: looks like there’s a melted face on your lap, bottom left lol. Anyway, sorry. Have a great day! Your videos have been inspiring me!