I’m not a big fan of the fiancée here. She’s actively going against her fiancé’s wishes of no reconciliation despite him repeating himself about how he doesn’t want to talk to them. She doesn’t value OP’s boundaries and I would personally reconsider a marriage if some did this

Would have left my fiance. She stabbed you in the back. You can't trust her anymore.

My biggest fear is finding someone that doesn't understand that family can be cut off. Just imagine the entitlement of what they will think they can get away with.

Really hope Story 1 is fake, because god, this man just lets everyone steamroll him and praises them for it.

F the fiance too. And are they even trying to replace the money. NOPE. So do yourself a favor and walk away from them all.

The moment she said she wasn't going to tell him only after the marriage means she have 0 trust and respect for her fiancee

St.1: yep that guy's got doormat written all over him. The fiance would be out the door, sisters would be out the door. Using children to manipulate you. And I would be suing them. Daddy did have a part in this. He tried to cover it up

Can he sue his parents to get the money back? If so he should go,for it.

The parents and sister should pay back the money with interest.

4 people? 25k each, easy enough

This is an old story. The last update I heard he did not sue but I think he should. And his sisters and Dad just gaslit him about the whole thing. I think he made a huge mistake even talking to them and opening that door. His fiance and family are huge AHs. He should go scorched earth and take them to court for the money. If he carries that woman it will be a huge mistake. She lied and betrayed him.

Good luck to OP and his life as a doormat. Betrayed by his parents, sisters and fiancee and forgives them all.

Don't forgive your Mom and Sisters, and also your Fiance

For the last story the OP is NOT the idiot. He's willing to share responsibility while he's on leave but working in high labor jobs like construction there is no debate on how much rest he needs. You need to be at your best on job sites or in warehouses because those jobs involved high risk injuries. Since he's the only one able to provide a steady income at the time while she's on leave he can't risk an injury that would put him out of work.

Story 3 comments are also awful. You have to share the responsibility of parenthood, not understanding that the one parent to soon go to work also has to rest. Just because you are the mother who birthed the child will not mean that she can slack on the responsibilities. Op seems to try to at least be awake during the day to help out with the kid, but if he needs to get his sleep schedule in order to help the family with a future high risk job then his sleep schedule in the short term is way more important than the mother's. If both were about to return to work then it would be something different.

On the last story's top comment, what does that self righteous person expect to happen when the father is back working contruction while the mother has a year of leave? All he was asking was for him to change the diaper when she wakes up to feed the baby. I don't have anything against the mother since she's adjusting too but, the top commenter has too naive of a perspective on sharing the responsibility of parenting.

Yeah no if my parents took even $1000 from me they will never have a relationship with me again not even in the afterlife. And anyone whether that's my girlfriend, fiancée, wife, friend, even best friend will be cut off the moment they ignore my wishes.

That Fiance crossed the line and broke boundaries, she knows what she is doing is wrong and seeing the OPs family behind his back is just....Very sneaky i'll rethink that marriage, she is not to be trusted, then try to bring her own family to guilt him into not leaving her for what she has done is manipulative at its finest, Don't know where you met her but you need to send her back where she came from. If that is not betrayal then I don't know what is

Why didn't the grandparents leave the money in a trust only the kids could access at 18? Letting the parents have access just caused issues.

They definitely used the kids and the crocodile tears to manipulate this man.

I'm sorry, but story 4, the commenter "share the burden" really raising a child is a burden? Huh?

Go to college and trips and spend their money then proceed to spend their brothers money, which was meant for college, but they are sorry its not their fault. Sue them and get rid of that fiance.

To me, it isn't just about the money, or the disrespect his family showed OP. Every dollar they took behind OP's back was a big old loogie the family took on the grandparent's memory. Every month they chose not to put the money back is a drunken piss on their graves. If the family wants to talk about reconciliation, they first must show that they value OP as family, and not just a savior sibling, aka spare parts

Story 2: part of me understands... if SIL spoils one of her children so much that they become a crybaby, that is on the mom. But I wouldn't be going to Reddit asking how to uninvite the child, I'd ask how I could assure that her tantrums won't ruin the vows or the toasts.

I would have asked the fiancée if she had been sexually molested by a family member, which had traumatized her for life, then if the OP had decided that she needed to reconnect with her abuser in order for her to "heal" and "move on", and he had been meeting with her abuser behind her back, what would her reaction be? I'm pretty sure she would break the engagement right then. She broke his trust big time and I personally couldn't be married to someone who would do that.

all this "FAAAAAAAAAAAAAAMIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIILYYYYYYYY" bs excuse always get me on my nerves. Honestly if someone put that as an excuse, not only will be meet with a punch in the face, but out of my place. Also i would reconsiderate marriage as well if my partner does that when I'm strange to my family too.

Everyone in this story has either stolen from you, or lied to you. Why do you have anything to do with any of them. Because if you forgive them they're just going to do it again. As for your girlfriend, she lied to you about something huge! What else has she lied to you about? What else will she lie to you about? Apologize to her father, and extricate yourself from this entire situation. If you have to, sell your business and get out of Dodge. You can always start it up somewhere else especially if you have a good chunk of change in your pocket from selling the old business.

Damn that dad that pays sucked. He doesn't give a fuck about his kid.

Aaand no transition between stories...

I found his Reddit post for story 1. He wrote he was going to update soon but he hasn’t updated in 2 years and last comment was from a year ago. Hope he’s doing okay

Trust funds are legally binding and may not be used by anyone else for anything else. I would have also had a lawyer at the dinner. The lawyer that did the trust funds is required to be there.

Everyone is f-ing you over. Run.

Unpopular option story 2 soft nta. Yes all children should be offered the same opportunities but It's delusional to execpt your kids to be able to have the same exact experience and be invited to the same events all the time especially if one kid has behavior issues it's basically punishing one kid for being good and be included while pacifying the other without teaching Consequences of behavior. It's also unhealthy to force one kid to always have to give up earned opportunities in order to not upset kids that did not earn the same. teaching moments

They're not genuinely sorry you're a fool if you believe that. The father is as weak as the son. Thinking only the mom is to blame is plain stupid. The sisters knew full well. They have make no efforts and just pit the mom as the sole villain. Such a doormat.

Extremely awful family, awful fiancee going behind your back doing something you very clearly don't want to do...

I believe this was embezzlement

They know he's doing well and just want his money!

You cannot trust the fiancee, drop her. She was wrong in every way. Is her adultery in your future?

If this happened to me, I wouldn't be able to look at any of my family members without seeing a lack of a $100,000 trust fund and broken trust first. I have pretty bad trust issues due to having my trust broken many times over the years, so I'm at the point where if someone breaks my trust even once I cut them off. Same with that fiancee. She broke his trust and violated his boundaries. For me, that just shows she can do it again and isn't to be trusted or cared about in the slightest.

A positive note? The positive note is you went NC and have a far happier life without the thieves. OP you need to step away from marrying this girl. No one knows what is good for you, other than you. Rebuilding a relationship costs $100,000.00 plus interest, fork it over and we can proceed from there.

Story 1: this one is easy, tell the family "I will help you by giving you double of what you gave me".

OP1 got played like a piano.

Wait 2 years? Like 95'000 will not be back in 2 years WTF what a terrible family !

They wore buddy down. I probably would have forgiven them but with disclaimer that no one is ever to ask me for money ever !!!!!!!

You did move on. Should he invite them back into his life when he's doing fine without them? His parents made choices and are dealing with the consequences. She did play favorites, so she needs to accept that her son doesn't want her around. Op should not have to put his pain aside to make anyone else happy stand firm

1st Story: Its kind of chopped up from the original. I remember a part where he wanted to sue, but that would have shut down the grocery store and put the workers out of their jobs. So even though it was his right, he decided against it. Another part was that his sisters offered to pay him back with their share of the inheritance, but he nixed that idea predicting that they would come up with some excuses not to pay him when that time came.

The fiance, the mom and the sisters were all non-genuine people. The dad also had some part of responsibility for covering up.The nieces were the only ones who were innocent in the story. Hope they don't grow up being irresponsible with money too.

everytime i hear a story true or not in which someone tries to make you "mend" things betwen someone you hate and yourself actually makes my skin crawl with anger and frustration, how can you be so dense to belive some people actually deserve forgivness? they almost screwd up the persons futute and you want them to just forgive? What an actual heck is wrong with you.

At that dinner I would of had them sign a loan contract . With every letter and gift I would have sent them back with a letter or written not on packages- where is my money.

Story 3 you need to report that prayer to the somebody in charge of therapists and if they don't do anything about it maybe you should call CPS and report that as your father allowing you to be put in an uncomfortable position with the therapist who's being a pervert to you if that doesn't work maybe go to the police, but I guarantee you what that lady is doing is wrong probably illegal

fiancee is overstepping.

*Where's The Video With The Updates!*

do not forget to add inflation to that 100K it would be more like 125-130k now

Last answer is bullcrap, if hes falling from the ladder in construction due to sleep depravation and broke his leg, now he too needs care, and that woman probably just bail, on parental leave, yeah its shared, when a man works, especially a dangeorous job like construction, its the womans responsibility, he needs the sleep, imagine d ind because your needy wife and a reddit comment.😂

What a doormat

This still a big piss off and sue them for every dime.

Nope !!! Pay it back

Do not forgive the sisters or dad. They all were in on it. And the sisters are still pushing you to forgive your mom.

What is it with female fiancees' and not respecting the wishes of their male partners? Seriously if you respect your partners then you won't insert yourself into your partners estranged family without asking. This whole forgive and forget and break bread thing is great but not under false pretenses.

The fourth story........just help her as much as u could without disrupting ur sleep if u are working......but do the part as a father ......she is healing and needs time and let her rest the body is tired in breast feeding as well many people think that it is no big deal but a woman needs to eat 500 to 600 extra cal daily during lactation with iron and other supplements that is the amount of work body puts in to produce milk .......step up let her heal for a month or two mostly two .......and then when she feels fine her hormones would be a bit balanced and she will feel less tired.......step man ......this is what father hood is this is where it is said that father's have bicep strength not because they could bench sone pounds .......after pregnancy woman body is totally wasted so father has to do double the work and this is why it is said to protect ur wife and jid because they are most vulnerable at that time ...... vulnerable not just from predators but weakness,depression ,etc. ....stop watching u tube podcasts on feminine and masculine responsibility.......just know that relationship or life works with co dependency and paternership u can't always sit in the driving seat of the car u will be exhausted u have the right to go sit in back but that doesn't means u get to ignore the kids in the back ....... welcome to parent hood this is very difficult one mistake can actually duck ip the child one slip of foot because u were too tired or lazy one mean comment to kod and he never forgets it ........not taking out time to discipline or play with them is going to effect as well .......u don't get to chose who will do what in parenting it is sometimes u are cool and sometimes mom is cool because kids should be able to trust both ......now many will say no need we had that method of parenting our kids turned out to be fine ....great but if anything happens to the cool parent the child will never feel accepted or open to talk to the other bad cop about his life no matter how much he or she sacrificed or loves them

The first story doesn't make sense. They say they own a grocery store which I'm thinking Super Market size but can't replenish 100k in a timely fashion? That business must be trash because I own a small ass convenients store and could replenish that within a couple years easy.

Story 1: OP is a total doormat. I would have soooooo sued the parents and dumped the fiancée for undermining me at every turn. Then I would sell the landscaping business and move to a whole new state. Maybe even change my name, for safety but also as a means of throwing them out of my life.

IT WAS LIKE A FREAKING RUN ON SENTENCE BETWEEN STORY 1 AND 2. 😡

Another favoritism story of course I'm thinking op needs to straight up cut toxicity out of his life and pls do not stay with this fiancee shes just as bad 😢as your family. Op deserves better 😔 they clearly don't care about you and just want you to be the ATM

This story stopped making sense when the characters changed. Worse fake story ever.

If you steal 100k from me there's not much to talk about

I think that the fiance went over her bounds but she did apologize for it and owned up to it before he found out about it the end result is him starting to reconnect with his family which is not a bad thing. What I find the most difficult part of this is that they say it was for the family but they forget that he's part of the family too. I do think that he should let his mother come to the wedding. He can ask her to not talk to him or something of that nature but he will regret this in the future if they do ever men that she wasn't a part of his wedding. My last and major point is that he is being somewhat unreasonable. I'm not talking about his emotions or how he feels about what happened or him not talking to his family all of those things are reasonable for what happened. It is unreasonable to expect someone to come up with $100,000 the only way they can do that would be likely to sell their family business and he would feel really bad about that if that's how he got the money. I do think they should sell some effort in trying to repay him, but I think that I'm out of money is just unrealistic.

nobody can touch your trust fund but you. If they did get their hands on your money, it wasn't a trust fund, it was a bank account.

Story 1: hope this is fake. Op is without spine or morals. He forgave everyone. I would have gone NC and dropped the fiancée.

The wedding story first comment What a Bs you never need to invite both children to anything for example what if your son doesn't want both at his bday

Who is this therapist??

Baby. Nta. Here's a thought. Maybe since you will be working and it's construction you have to be tip top. Since she decided to breast feed, she handle that, and pretty much most of the diapers. Then, when you get home, you take over baby duty after work, and make dinner to every so often so she too can rest she's tired to. Also, weekends, Friday family night, Saturday one does anything they want for an entire day. Then Sunday vise versa, and help each other in the evenings or you all of them. Therefore not only do you score points, but you will help her out a lot,

Leave fiancée

U have just told your wife u can do what ever u want to me in the future and il forgive u weather its cheating robbing lying it dosent matter .

"Girs get in truble for being afraid to be rude" out of all the lies this is one of the biggest one

Lmao he was going to collage? Or college? Jeez how lazy can you be

is this an AI story? What the hell happened with the first story about the boy's $100,000 being stolen by the mother??? There was no end. This is rubbish. I've marked it down for being shlt

How do i get you off my youtube account you talk to slow i dont like being spoken to like im stuid

First and sorry about that

Fake chats

The wife definitely was in the wrong at first and I see she is a rather kind girl via the fact that she genuinely gave up on pushing anything even when you start to let them in she doesn't further push you