Running for Narcissistic Abuse Awareness w/ Vanessa Reiser | Navigating Narcissism with Dr. Ramani

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Vanessa Reiser was love bombed by her narcissistic ex in such an extravagant manner--like being showered with expensive gifts, to expensive cars, to a $150,000 engagement ring, and travels across the world. She didn't have time to breathe, much less clock in the red flags happening left and right. Vanessa is a therapist and works hard today to raise awareness to narcissistic spousal abuse, and started a movement by running 285 miles across the state of New York to raise awareness to their cause. Listen and learn how Vanessa was able to come up for air, evaluate and understand her situation and how she separated herself from the man that first swept her off her feet.
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Vanessa Reiser is a mother, entrepreneur, life coach, advocate, and a groundbreaking psychotherapist specializing in narcissistic abuse using Therapist Self-Disclosure (TSD); a form of therapy where therapist statements are shared that reveal something personal about the therapist, when an opportunity to create validation exists. Vanessa is licensed in NY, NJ, MA & FL and made international headlines when she ran the entire state of New York in a wedding dress to raise awareness for narcissistic abuse in May 2021. Her days are spent supporting those traumatized by this insidious form of domestic violence.
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@carolashlee8002 Жыл бұрын

My Mother was often told by others how lucky she is and they wished they had a husband like him. Little did they know what happened at home and how he almost killed her with a hammer.

@starlingswallow Жыл бұрын

Gosh. And I'm sure that added a huge air of confusion to your mom! I'm so sorry.

@juliawest5528 Жыл бұрын

Q+

@madamchairman2538 Жыл бұрын

My God! Bless you and your mom❤

@rubberbiscuit99 Жыл бұрын

I hope she got away from him. My mother never did get away from my father. She had a stroke and became dependent on him permanently. It broke my heart.

@Ben-ru9ju 3 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry to hear you experienced this growing up. 💜 I hope you find healing and kindness.

@elleells9620 Жыл бұрын

I was so sick from the trauma bond I couldn't eat or sleep for months and lost 40lbs. My heart was racing and all I could do was deal with my panic attacks from the bed. After 20 years I was left with no idea who I was. The first 6 months were so painful.

@shawnr6801 Жыл бұрын

I was in a narcissistic relationship for 2 years and was glad to get out in tact, there were very few resources back then, mostly just a couple of self help books. I read a book called women who love too much (women who love men, And the men who hate them, I believe was the description) the book was a big help for me back then. But what I didn’t realize, was that my 9 year old son was exposed to this sick relationship cycle. He is now in a very abusive marriage with a narcissistic woman. I never saw that coming!!! It grieves me that this has happened to him. I wish that there were more resources for abused men, I think there is extreme shame and confusion for them. I think there is an epidemic of narcissism on the rise these days.

@zk1043 10 ай бұрын

Vanessa was my therapist ! She is so sweet, understanding but a badass at the same time ! I loved working with her, she opened eyes and I never felt uncomfortable or judged. She is a very special human being

@umadox41 Жыл бұрын

Love this podcast! When Vanessa said that sense and understanding of her ex being INSATIABLE, I screamed yes!!!!! Narcissists are NEVER satisfied and no matter the hurt, inconvenience or unreasonableness of their request and it's impact on you, they still demand, request and feel entitled to more. It is maddening, incredibly harmful and makes no sense. It is only through experiencing this can anyone understand the damage they do. Never again! Thank you Vanessa and Dr. Romania for this conversation, and Dr. Romania this podcast series is treasured gold. Thank you!

@Vixinaful 11 ай бұрын

Its brain damages. Prefrontal cortrex. Can be seen on MRIs.

@rubberbiscuit99 Жыл бұрын

I was experiencing a lot of verbal and psychological aggression, and I went to the DV program where I lived, and attended a group meeting. The others talked of violent physical abuse, and I left feeling ashamed of myself for believing I needed support when others were dealing with direct physical assaults. It took me many years to free myself. DV organizations can do better for those dealing with narcissistic abuse.

@Jess-kn8vl Жыл бұрын

Yes, and it often starts with emotional/psychological abuse and then escalates!

@rubberbiscuit99 Жыл бұрын

@@Jess-kn8vl Of course. The thing is, the emotional, mental, relational, financial abuse and coercive control are enough to destroy a person physically as well. It just takes longer.

@Jess-kn8vl Жыл бұрын

@@rubberbiscuit99 Good point!

@Profjun1998 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this podcast. I can relate to every single thing she said. Unless, you’ve gone through this, you’ll never understand. Demonic human beings.

@asmahassan909 Жыл бұрын

I’m absolutely feeling like a drug addict and trying my best to stay grounded. My mother also gaslighted me and didn’t stood properly by me. It’s not easy 🙏🏽

@carolashlee8002 Жыл бұрын

I wish you well

@rubberbiscuit99 Жыл бұрын

This happened to me as well with family I trusted and I believed loved me. Look within yourself and start to provide validation to yourself. It's the best way to build up your strength. If you are fortunate to have an authentic friend or two, you are blessed. I wish for the best outcome for you. ☮️

@ellasladek3124 Жыл бұрын

Thank you thank you Thankyou , doesn’t express my sincere appreciation for the two of you putting this out there , I’ve been trying to heal for one year now , and am stuck in the angry zone , at myself for allowing him to almost destroy me , this video hit a positive note , and I believe a turning point ! To listen to Vanessa explaining her experience with her narc , helped me to see , why I got caught up and fell for him ! I was trained from childhood to be a narcissists food ! My parents were both narcissistic, one covert one overt ! I didn’t stand a chance !iam just sorry it took me 70 years to figure this out ! But I needed to learn how to protect myself so thank you so very much to you both , I send you both a big hug of gratitude!💓💓

@maevebutler4641 Жыл бұрын

Excellent video, descriptions are so familiar It took me over fifty years to end that cycle of abuse The feeling of never being enough Ness! Still suffering the from consequences of trying to be some kind of superwoman Being educated now to understand the personality types of Narrcissist's Realising I could never ever be enough The cruel mind-games you described plus a whole lot of horrendous abuse Grateful to now being a divorced woman & no more rageful events, love bombing has ceased, it's truly over me & enjoying my Peace

@tanianatale8523 Жыл бұрын

Took me 60 years. Don't beat yourself up!

@delaniquelawrence1173 Жыл бұрын

What she went through is exactly what I went through... my breaking point was when he tried to triangulate me and my 14 yr old daughter smh I got rid of him!

@healingismylovelanguage 11 ай бұрын

Great job, mom!!❤

@jamiedean3558 Жыл бұрын

Thank you! Wow that was me exactly and blaming myself. I never new what a narcissist was. After emotional , physical abuse and adultery , what was I thinking that this was ok? I feel like I will never get the images out of my head . I have had 2 years of counseling and I still feel like it was yesterday and it’s been 5 years since the divorce.

@annbow4064 Жыл бұрын

My ex always said everyone is jealous of us,I never understood why he would say that,he also said everyone was jealous of the car he drove and he got great respect from other drivers,I used to say to him no they aren't they could not care less what your car you drive,I always wondered why he would think that.

@theventingcorner 3 ай бұрын

I never understood their lack of empathy growing up. I internalized it to a certain extent

@carolashlee8002 Жыл бұрын

I ended up in hospital for six weeks after I left my ex of 40 years and had no support. Now I am finding it difficult to leave my current covert narcissist, even though I have tried several times.

@barbarahawkins7864 Жыл бұрын

😢💙🙏🏻

@iw9338 10 ай бұрын

I hear you,I went back like a fool I believed his promise to make change. My siblings sided with him as well as our 2 sons.😮

@CanadianBear47 10 ай бұрын

man i feel this lady hard, help and pressure. god dam.

@AmourofgodShinelight 27 күн бұрын

This was absolutely tremendous, Thank you so much to you both, Thank you for sharing your story, Domestic violence abusers who entrap women are cowards, Don't allow yourself to be groomed, Gaslighted, Manipulated or coerced, When you stand up for yourself and speak out and expose, All the hate, Abuse, Threats and intimidation proves your on to something, People need to get educated on this, Learn about covert narcissistic abuse and covert manipulative abusers, Keep shining light, Speaking truth and educating people, Peace, love and respect to you both and everyone, Thank you universe, All glory to the most high God 🌌🌲🕊🐎🌹💙💗💛🌈🕆☘🚀😘🍏🍎🦄✌⚖😃❤♱💚🎆🍄👽🦁💜

@mp7140 10 ай бұрын

Nothing is for free and is to good to be true!

@bereal6590 7 ай бұрын

So many validating parts to this from my ex and fam. So good to see how others felts and the parts you can have aha moments with and get validation for your own feelings. These podcasts about survivors really resonate. Excellent way to see how this all works and work on yourself and feel good about yourself. Thank you dr r✋✊

@cnoor30 11 ай бұрын

These podcasts are amazing, thank you, Dr Ramani

@asmanasim9394 Жыл бұрын

Wow. I would like to do same. Doing something symbolic to raise awareness in my country... So nice

@carolashlee8002 Жыл бұрын

I left home at 18 from my abusive Father and so after I left my 40 year marriage (narcissist) I was told over that I I was - antisocial, boring, fat & ugly and a leach. I had no sense of self at all and have spent the last 10 years discovering who I am.

@leilagomulka5690 Жыл бұрын

A true gift. Your podcasts.

@bookbeing 9 ай бұрын

What a powerful presentation! You and your guest give others hope that they can find health again. If i found such great role models and information you present here 30 years ago🌟. .better now than never So agree with comments about fallout .the legal system can be used, like a battering ram, to break you, harm your kids, career and everything important to you. It's hard not to see red when someone seems hell bent on vengeance and blowing up your life.

@rexx5851 6 ай бұрын

Amazing initiative taken by the guest speaker here. We now need to come up with more Profound initiatives designed to raise awareness , until the law starts to take real action against these destructive monsters👌

@claudiadunne8734 Жыл бұрын

I am so grateful for this interview. Vanessa, you literally told my story, except that I was in a 25 yr relationship. Hearing this and hearing about the flying monkeys and my parents and sisters lack of support bc he always wore a mask, and how he manipulated my son from a different marriage but couldn't manipulate his own biologic son. The public mask is insane. No one would believe what I lived through based on his public image. Insane. Thank you, ladies! This did so much good for me. Incredibly, I feel heard and understood after listening to this interview. So grateful! 🙏✨

@carolashlee8002 Жыл бұрын

I would love to put my story out sometime, I am half way writing a book and probably need to get back and finish it.

@waynesedore3054 10 ай бұрын

You should girlfriend ❤ good for you 🎉😊🎉

@angelajane3913 Жыл бұрын

Awesome woman, I love her!

@hopefulldoubts 4 ай бұрын

Love Bombing, just to clarify is NOT just fancy trips and expensive gifts. The last time I was love Bombed I had a serious surgery and this person showed up at the hotel during my recovery (at my weakest) with 10 dollar flowers. Then when I was allowed to go home he showed up at my front door with a mini Dominos pizza while I was in extreme amount of pain...then took offense to me not being "happy" and actually acted reactive and abusive without REALLY giving any thought to what I was going through. I was suffering? All he cared about was dating me? Or locking it down.

@shawnr6801 Жыл бұрын

It was hell going through it, but words cannot explain what it’s like to watch your child endure this hell. His is way worse than mine and he is still in it 7 years later. I have been banned, he is not allowed to talk to me because I said something about it.

@bee12355 Жыл бұрын

Pray for him. Pray for God to open his eyes. He have to make that decision to leave.

@daily977 9 ай бұрын

I loved this podcast! 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 let’s educate attorneys and judges the sooner the better!! Tired of slow 💧 drip.

@shawnr6801 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for all of the information, it has helped me in my situation. I pray one day that my son will listen to you as well. I have shared your links. I still don’t think he knows that she probably cannot change, he’s still trying to fix her…😢

@Anchesky1 Жыл бұрын

I been through exactly the same situation 😮. We better run 🏃‍♀️

@brittneysperspective8433 Жыл бұрын

@17:15 is so important, because there is so much red pill content out here trying to convince women that they are wrong for leaving a marriage, because they are unhappy. And men stay married even when they are unhappy, and women are disloyal and don’t take their vows seriously. This is why sooooo many women stay in abusive marriages, and in narcissistic marriages. They believe it makes thems selfish or a bad disloyal woman to leave. It’s important for women to know that constantly feeling bad, anxiety and unable to communicate your feelings to your husband (or wife) ARE good enough reasons to end a marriage. It’s a sign of something much deeper going on.

@iw9338 10 ай бұрын

Excellent, thank you for sharing your story. Very helpful.Sorry for your pain and suffering, yet it sounds like it made you even stronger 💪😅

@CanadianBear47 10 ай бұрын

giving and also kicking out the legs. narcissistic parents almost always.

@patrickbinford590 Жыл бұрын

It's so weird -- and this is so good, this interview -- that overwhelming someone is something that one WANTS, that it exists in the arts (and I am in that world), yet it occurs to me that a narcissistic relationship which features being overwhelmed is decidedly NOT the same as the proverbial hoped for overwhelm for artist and audience occuring in the arts/especially entertainment. And further, that overwhelming someone, even while being in the arts/especially entertainment, is only and ultimately not even close to having self-respect and self-discipline and mastery in this area of life (arts/entertainment). The running with the wedding dress on was, for me, a highly effective communication (consciousness raising) vis à vis a narcissistic relationship, with the abuse, and also this very cool performance art type of thing. 💪🖖🙏

@cynthiakoch3122 6 ай бұрын

My mother took my child (she is an adult) with the help of the ex-narc hubby, for no other purpose but to harm me. As bad as the physical beatings were.. I would rather have endured a lifetime of beatings compared to what my mother did to my head with her gaslighting & sadistic behavior. I will never be able to accept a woman can do such things. I know it is true, but it totally blows my mind. She studied all the self help books to recognize what her neglect did and the used all that info to slay me in my 40's and 50's.

@chantelbaldwin6862 9 ай бұрын

I'd love to help the awareness. How can I assist? I'm all to aware of this abuse. The advice you provide is necessary ❤

@bee12355 Жыл бұрын

You are not antisocial, you are just traumatized.

@stephaniemetzger7801 Жыл бұрын

Vanessa’s ex is married to Realhousewives of NJ’s Teresa Guidice’s husband- Louie!! Wow!

@tallyho2125 Жыл бұрын

I would love more talk about the patriarchy in our society and how it was shoved on us. I no longer accept it .

@Lapointesun Жыл бұрын

Why is there no video?

@angelajane3913 Жыл бұрын

It’s a podcast

@tobytopaz921 Жыл бұрын

How we supposed to pay for it ,knowing they take everything from us???

@francesbernard2445 Жыл бұрын

I cannot run right now for very long. Running to catch a bus that shows up earlier than expected maybe only once in a while if carrying anything heavy too at the time. Like if I am almost 20 pounds overweight or whatever. So who do I believe when it comes to medical advice too when it comes to how much I weigh too? The neighbor who tells me I am not overweight? The family doctor who tells me I have perfect breasts just like what my mother's family doctor told her when she was the same age I am right now too? Or in another ony a hypothetical situation that some of us women might go through is say if some doctor of psychology online interrupts your online queries while watching videos on KZfaq to present yet another advertisement to you maybe a woman whom you used to attend college with is now offering you free instead life coaching sessions next too?

@christopherscruggs3897 Жыл бұрын

I wonder why does vanessa feel that a male victim of narcissism is an outlier?

@alexismerrilldragonqueen6552 Жыл бұрын

I guess in Vanessa's experience, she believes female narcissists are rare

@maam-yj8ph Жыл бұрын

I agree we need to hear more about female narcissists and the havoc they cause. Hopefully Dr Ramoni will be open to hearing from male victims.

@Jess-kn8vl Жыл бұрын

Female sociopaths are horrible! I feel like the level of deceit and vindictiveness goes a lot deeper than what a man do and probably has a lot to with men being more visual creatures that can be manipulated easier with seduction. Women, especially if they are on a empathic spectrum and vulnerable fall victim to sociopathic men.