Seduce Anyone: Attractive Traits Every Woman DESIRES In A Man

Seduce Anyone: Attractive Traits Every Woman DESIRES In A Man | Vanessa Van Edwards

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"Captivate" is more than just the title of her new book, it is the effect that Vanessa Van Edwards has on audiences through her videos, articles, and data-driven insights. Vanessa is a self-described recovering awkward person who went from hiding in the bathroom and avoiding people at parties to literally writing the book on deciphering human behavior.
She founded her own research lab, the Science of People, and has traveled the world as a speaker presenting her findings to prestigious universities, Fortune 500 companies, and media outlets such as The Today Show, The Wall Street Journal, and much more.
Learn from the certified fraud examiner, body language expert, and author as she shares practical insights for decoding human behavior in this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu.
QUOTES
“I believe that every person has a cipher. They have a set of values that you can solve about them…if you turn it in the right ways.” [8:13]
“If we feel like we can change everything, we also might not optimize for how we are naturally wired.” [20:36]
“The biggest thing that happens with friendships is that they do go stale.” [25:32]
“We can unlearn our helplessness to learn to help ourselves.” [55:26]
“We don’t realize that happiness comes in these very small moments every day.” [55:57]
“Look at your struggle as immersive empathy.” [48:46]
SHOW NOTES:
Vanessa explains what drew her to the science of solving people and why everyone has a cipher. [6:44]
Vanessa provides the keys to understanding yourself or someone else. [10:07]
Tom and Vanessa discuss the gravity of language, personality types, and neuroticism. [13:40]
Vanessa explains why self-soothing is important to balance. [19:00]
Vanessa explores the notion of radical honesty and deconstructs ambivalent relationships. [22:53]
Vanessa reveals the one question to ask that uncovers toxic relationships. [26:50]
Vanessa breaks down why she believes you can smell emotions. [30:58]
Tom and Vanessa discuss leveraging your uniqueness to communicate the right message. [33:54]
Vanessa talks about the personality matrix, radical honesty in relationships, and the resource theory. [39:39]
Vanessa reiterates the importance of self-soothing and emotional versus logistical worries. [49:30]
Tom and Vanessa touch on the link between happiness and learned helplessness. [53:43]
Vanessa shares how she turns small moments of unhappiness into gratitude totems. [57:30]
Vanessa defines the impact that she wants to have on the world. [59:28]
BOOKS/COURSES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People - amzn.to/2vbOxox [1:54]
Snoop: What Your Stuff Says About You - amzn.to/2f2QYUi [15:28]
The Power of Happiness Course - bit.ly/2gVfyqr [55:38]
PEOPLE
Sam Gosling - bit.ly/2gThqjy [15:25]
Martin Seligman - bit.ly/2vz8x27 [54:14]
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@MoSec9 2 жыл бұрын

What about introverts that feel awkward mostly in situations where interactions seem artificial? They don't like to engage in fake small talk

@JamesBrown-wy7xs 2 жыл бұрын

@@jesseperez4185 That's one path, a little harder to travel for autistic people and the like, but "do-able" if the desire/ drive is strong enough. Another, less traveled, road is that of peaceful solitude, taught by one of Owen's mentors, in Eckhart Tolle and his teachings on being present to oneself and/or learning to sense the wants/ needs of the deeper "spirit". I'm inclined to believe that strong introverts and autistic people, who aren't too far along the spectrum as to be "non-functioning", are actually quite blessed, in the sense that they're wired to have an easier time treading the latter path that I mentioned. I think we're conditioned by society to believe that you're a failure if you don't have a lot of friends or an easy time making friends, but that's only one perspective, and a very myopic one at that, at least IMO. Spiritual goals always trump material goals, IMO. For example, the goal to be generally at peace trumps the goal of having a big social circle and a high level of "game" in the dating scene, which just so happens to have the same underlying goal if you dig a bit deeper into it - it's only a less direct path (the latter one of seeking peace materially) that's more prone to errors and suffering along the way.

@sierrazamora92 2 жыл бұрын

YES!

@vanessita4138 2 жыл бұрын

That's exactly how I feel.

@publicserviceannouncement4777 2 жыл бұрын

What's helped me is to focus on my interests. I didn't realize I was projecting a lot of heavy emotions onto people I just met and they don't know what to do with such personal information before an intimacy has formed. Not every person wants intimacy either so I have to respect people's boundaries. I think I'm getting better at realizing when I'm oversharing now but I'm a work in progress.

@publicserviceannouncement4777 2 жыл бұрын

But yeah... I have the same problem. I crave intimacy but feel like I project it onto people. I don't know how to form it.

@natanaelapreutesei 6 жыл бұрын

Man, every time she smiles I find my self smiling too. What a charismatic woman! Awesome!

@TomBilyeu 6 жыл бұрын

And what I love most is that she's trained herself to be that way!

@Dylan15145 6 жыл бұрын

Nate Ivgn I found myself smiling too when she smiles. I actually looked through the comments to see if anyone else was doing the same. She is so charismatic.

@ladaciastone1220 6 жыл бұрын

Trista

@emmysue673 6 жыл бұрын

Nate Ivgn Yes so true ♡ I couldn't agree more

@richwilson7507 6 жыл бұрын

And the hand gestures are so rhythmic as she explains.

@AbacusAxolotyl Жыл бұрын

Tom is a fantastic interviewer. He doesn’t let her skate over anything without explanation and clarification bringing so much more meaning and validity to her statements. She clearly knows what she’s talking about because she had a concise and coherent answer for everything. Very impressive interview all round 👏

@mangasprai 10 ай бұрын

Totally true, he is amazing.

@struttintime 8 ай бұрын

He's obviously smart but I'm starting to wonder if he can make one comment without mentioning his wife. I get it but damn I could only last 20 min. Wife wife wife wife. Wow

@ThunderKat 8 ай бұрын

He read the books before hand on every interview he goes completely prepare to them all the time.

@bbearsmama 7 ай бұрын

I agree! So enjoyable!

@bbearsmama 7 ай бұрын

@@struttintime-I like how this opens the door into his own life! Sharing this makes him so much more relatable.

@spazic1493 Жыл бұрын

As an introvert, I engage most with elaborate archetypical talking points and nuance; I find it really hard to make small talk with people and often find that a lot of people just aren't open to elaborating for in depth conversation and it's hard to determine if that boundary is set because they don't want you to cross it or if it's because they don't belive what they have to say is worth saying. A lot of people are closed off simply because they want to avoid rejection, and I hate prying for fear of over-stepping boundaries.

@shavais33 Жыл бұрын

Oh my, how well I can relate. Her description of the phases of a relationship (even a peripheral friendship or an acquaintance at a social gathering) is interesting, and rings true, I think, and I think maybe going through them "properly" comes naturally for the average person and/or for more extroverted people, but is not super easy for people like you and I, or at least it sure isn't for me, anyway, because I just can't do small talk. If I try, it comes off as fake, because gosh, it is. And people don't respond well to fake, so. I have this way of just boldly striding into my talking points, in a way that presumes a lot, and if it's immediately clear that my presumptions were wrong, well then I just go back to my book.

@spazic1493 Жыл бұрын

@Shavais Zarathu I boldly stride into my talking points, and I tend to be accurate in my assessments the majority of the time; let me tell you, that it tends to go down just about as well as getting it wrong haha

@shavais33 Жыл бұрын

@@spazic1493 Lol! Yes indeed.

@FiremanSam60 Жыл бұрын

I find some people really easy to talk to. Others much less so. It's worth persisting though.

@juleannebarreiro Жыл бұрын

In 30:30 when she talks about Psychic energy (she says she thinks a lot so maybe she just hasn’t been educated on psychic energy) but it is real. In my culture it is very real. I like to think of it more as understanding brainwaves. Kind of like when you play a random song that came in to your head and the person next to you says I was literally just thinking of that song.

@melvinrobinsonjr.6079 5 жыл бұрын

The moment Tom does the “goofy neutral face” I almost lost it with laughter. I enjoy his openness on these talks

@dawnpeterson9519 4 жыл бұрын

I did lose it with laughter. I just love Tom. And Oh, so impressed with Vanessa. Captivating!

@mariacastrotri 2 жыл бұрын

IT WAS SO SO FUNNY!! I loled so hard

@nellieshoals 2 жыл бұрын

I did lose it lmao XD Wasn't expecting to laugh watching this.

@Fullyautomagic 2 жыл бұрын

Stoned

@Chris-rv7nr Жыл бұрын

Agreed. I laughed so hard. Then I rewinded and laughed again.

@koreath 2 жыл бұрын

Sheesh, I was looking up videos on Sicily because I just found out I’m 20% Italian. How did I end up here, I didn’t expect to watch this whole video. She got me, I’m buying her book.

@KnockOutxxxTv 2 жыл бұрын

I know right! .. same story here!

@millicentowens3435 2 жыл бұрын

Yesssss

@ginabasger3095 2 жыл бұрын

Lpppp

@KnockOutxxxTv 2 жыл бұрын

it happes ALL THE TIME!

@KnockOutxxxTv 2 жыл бұрын

@HotMessMom it happens ALL THE TIME!

@traderj5595 4 ай бұрын

Please change the title, this type of Clickbait ruined your reputation

@lukejames854 22 күн бұрын

Yeah, it barely covers one topic in depth. Just washes over random tidbits of unpractical advice.

@anoncspan4129 21 күн бұрын

But the thumbnail smile is so seductive! /S - I agree.

@Max-jq6dc 19 күн бұрын

So stupid

@haystacksonthetrail1235 11 күн бұрын

Completely agree. When people like this use clickbait, it makes everything they say seem inauthentic. We know that they'll say things just to get the attention. So, it certainly taints their reputation and message.

@wakkowarner9522 6 күн бұрын

Tell Mugsy Bogues you can’t play basketball at five feet tall

@davegrahamdj 2 жыл бұрын

just listening and watching her talk is infectious. Imagine working for someone who truly understands your strengths, weakness and if struggling to understand will take the time and effort to help. Amazing

@alsandmichael 2 жыл бұрын

I had exactly the same thought and took it to the extent to wonder if I could possibly work/intern with her?!?

@tanyafrost2662 2 жыл бұрын

I agree 💯%

@UnicornUniverse333 2 жыл бұрын

@@cyborgjoe1000 do you have specific examples of her supposed masking of anxiety? Btw masking is something a lot of people do, including myself, when we can't be in a safe environment

@adrianflo6481 2 жыл бұрын

Yeaaaah, you would need about 10x the amount of bosses at your work, all educated in psychology. Does that sound plausible to you? Maybe what you should do is to be able to be that person for yourself or have a friend catch you when youre down. Not rely on an imaginary workplace.

@davegrahamdj 2 жыл бұрын

@@adrianflo6481 well you clearly won't get a job there 😂

@maciej.ratajczak 2 жыл бұрын

10:32 - The big 5 personality traits: Openness- how adventurous you are Conscientiousness- how organized you are Extroversion- how you like being around people Agreeableness- how you work on teams, if you default to 'yes' or 'no' Neuroticism- how you approach worry

@adrianflo6481 2 жыл бұрын

It was fun reading your definitions as its shows a lot more about your own biases. You are also trying to oversimplify to the point where you come off as slightly ignorant. "the big 5" is not scientific nor is any personality "explanation" because of the fact that psychology is not science. Neurobiology is the science that garners behaviour. Openness - "includes aspects such as intellectual curiosity and creative imagination". Adventure has nothing to do with it. Extraversion has nothing to do with liking people. We are all omniverts and Its more about the conscious act to be around people. I say conscious because not spending time with others and not spending time on yourself are equally as bad for your mental health. "introverts" are no less sociable or disliking of others than extroverts. Organizational skill is a part of what is called executive functioning. Conscientiousness on the other hand has nothing to do with organizing but awareness. You can be extremely aware but shit at organizing. Tho they tend to be correlated Agreeableness has nothing to do with defaulting to yes or no. You are taking context completely out of the picture. Agreeableness is a multitude of behaviours, were one person can see cooperation another sees weakness. No one "approaches worry". You "handle" worry. You approach situations. Neuroticism can also be described with intellectual, analysing, cautions and an affinity to solve emotional problems to alleviate stress in your near environment. PS: The point is that all of these have positive and negative consequences and not the dichotomous picture you painted.

@colinwingate2999 2 жыл бұрын

@@adrianflo6481 They were actually just using Vanessa's definitions from the video

@adrianflo6481 2 жыл бұрын

@@colinwingate2999 lol. That is even worse then 😂😂 Imagine believing that there's a personality trait for liking other humans. Liking is not the problem with anti social personalities. You make it sound as if it's the person's own fault. Thanks, gave me a good laugh

@kadalora 2 жыл бұрын

@@adrianflo6481 ughh..the kind of person who argues black is white.. it's not if you 'like' people or not, just do you naturally gravitate to be around other people because your derive enjoyment from it, or not. Being introverted I prefer to not be around a lot of people, especially loud extroverted people; however, that does not mean I do not like them

@MadFlourish Жыл бұрын

@@adrianflo6481 it's OCEAN, backed by science 10:20 - like did u even watch

@jennalevering5377 Жыл бұрын

I love that she doesn't immediately go to taking offense or thinking something is wrong with herself when people do certain things. She reads the person and trys to find how they are feeling and why.

@Chase1297 Жыл бұрын

If are someone who doesn't like parties and small talk...just accept that. When someone asks you to go just say no I don't like parties. Who cares what they think. Don't feel guilty about not talking to people when you don't want to. Then when you do want to talk to somebody, allow yourself that pleasure. If there is no self applied pressure you will feel much more natural because you are never being fake

@Dansyoung Жыл бұрын

Everyone is different but I personally find that pushing myself is what motivates me. If I accept just not liking things it just creates an excuse. A prime example is roller coasters, I always was like nahhhh I’m afraid - until now that I’m later on in life I can let go, have fun and it honestly is a blast (that I would have missed out on if I didn’t push myself).

@kitkatstrats9516 Жыл бұрын

Sure, but successful people generally need to socialize with their peers

@Yentra163 Жыл бұрын

Where are u supposed to start...with some deep invasive conversation with a stranger. "Small talk" has a purpose. It's so u can gradually get to know/build trust so you can talk about the real sh*t

@nishagreer8117 Жыл бұрын

@@Gecko88 This is exactly how I operate. Because my friends don't feel entitled to my time and understand that people are different, I still have them when I need them and vice versa. They respect my boundaries, and I respect theirs regardless of how "piss weak" they may feel to either of us. "How can I lose when I'm already chose? Like...?"

@trendalert812 Жыл бұрын

I thin thats where the famous saying comes “put itself in the most uncomfortable situation to build the best of you”

@malloryknox4058 2 жыл бұрын

I used to have social anxiety sooo bad to the point that any person even looking at me is swear, shake & blush. I lived in that misery from I was a child til 23 years old & now I feel completely free from it , it’s amazing !!!!

@nevamoore5192 2 жыл бұрын

What did you do?

@UnicornUniverse333 2 жыл бұрын

What's the secret??

@mangkokhayon5039 2 жыл бұрын

Pleasee

@dannywholuv 2 жыл бұрын

I had it from 18 to 30. I would say im 95% over it, only some occasions would it come back but its nowhere near as severe. Im 36 now. I got over it from general life experience. Inadvertently being in situations which helped me develop as a person. Make sense? Also ill add that the older you get the less you care about what people think of you.

@blessyourheart175 Жыл бұрын

I love that for you. Practicing becoming comfortable with being uncomfortable helped me to overcome anxiety. I intentionally put myself into situations that caused me to stretch and grow. Adding new “tools to my toolkit” helped me build confidence and credibility with myself. Finding my voice also helped. I practiced engaging with people in person. Now, people are drawn to my authenticity and ability to connect on a personal level.

@DirtyPhlegm 5 жыл бұрын

Something about Vanessa, she is so captivating that it's impossible to forget her.

@zainabthedragon6528 3 жыл бұрын

In a good way

@edwin.jansen Жыл бұрын

I tried not being awkward my whole life with the stupid belief that you need to fit in and be liked by everybody, only to find out that you are supposed to be awkward in order to feel happy.

@Urine666Deity Жыл бұрын

What do you mean by that? How does happiness require awkwardness

@realdyl19 Жыл бұрын

@@Urine666Deity i think he means just be yourself regardless if it's awkward or not.

@Mr_Rae 7 ай бұрын

You don’t have to be awkward; just be yourself

@momentumflux8863 Жыл бұрын

damn, that was intriguing! She radiates healthy charisma and authenticity...and her energy pulled me out of my dark brooding in seconds! Time well spent.

@create-ive4993 10 ай бұрын

I think she can use more work but this is really interesting

@T_alr 5 жыл бұрын

great interview but i didn't get the answer to "how to liberate yourself from social anxiety"

@geraldfiore1662 5 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@sofie5180 3 жыл бұрын

She does an interview on that topic on his wife's channel 'women of impact'.

@Mira-gu6we 2 жыл бұрын

Exactly.

@nellieshoals 2 жыл бұрын

It feels like false advertising.

@melgonz.6962 2 жыл бұрын

She didn't have to tell me she was high on neuroticism, I could tell within the first few moments :) The fast talking and strong need to understand people. I love her knowledge!

@nickpouele828 2 жыл бұрын

That's great

@owlNolan 2 жыл бұрын

What knowledge? Most of the things she says are common sense.

@melgonz.6962 2 жыл бұрын

@@owlNolan they aren't as obvious as all your KZfaq comments being a painfully obvious way for you to try and feel powerful and push away low self esteem 😉 Hope you get better 🙏

@krishnamadhusudan8370 2 жыл бұрын

@@owlNolan The tips are always common sense but it's applying then do they feel seamless in a tense situation that makes it breaks whether it is legit. Anyone can type a comment anonymously but not all people can apply it in person consistently.

@pauleskridge7209 Жыл бұрын

This has to be the greatest discussion about social skills I've ever seen. This woman has now opened my mind on how to recover from problems I deal with amongst coworkers at work. I love it!!!

@TaschaGal Жыл бұрын

Omg the part of the conversation when they discuss frenimies and dream killers is sooo helpful! I feel seen! It’s so true… wondering whether someone is an enemy is so much more taxing emotionally than dealing with a known enemy. Lack of Psychological safety in the workplace impacts performance big time.

@artisticagi 4 жыл бұрын

6:00 Introverts are very good at observing. Naturally charismatic can walk into a room and not worry about what to talk about. And introvert can see it as a battleground or a playground. Which is what helps her to see interactions in a more formulaic way. she used to read academic studies and then write about it as a journalists. To set herself apart, she started testing it on herself, or in a lab. 7:42 It came from a desire to differentiate herself from other journalists and also to solve people. Like a math problem. To not be so baffled by people’s choices. 10:20 Big five personality traits Openness, Conscientiousness, Extroversion, Aggreeableness, Neuroticism Openness- Neuroticism- how someone approaches worry. Conscientiousness- how much you like organization or routine Agreeableness- if they default to yes or no. 13:54 In western cultures there is an ideal personality type for women and men. For women the ideal personality type is: We can guess personality type by what’s on your walls. 15:36 High neurotics use more motivational quotes High neurotics have less of a gene that helps produce serotonin fast. 19:10 Certain personality traits actually are better as opposites

@artichokeheartbreak2279 2 жыл бұрын

Your first word in that comment was obviously supposed to be extrovert, not introvert. This one mistake makes your whole comment bs yet 52 people liked it. Not surprising. Most people are stupid.

@TheHolyKnightJay 2 жыл бұрын

@@artichokeheartbreak2279 LMAOOO

@rawfoodphilosophy7061 6 жыл бұрын

first few minutes of interview is awkward, however, KEEP WATCHING........this is gold!!!!!!!

@JuanGarcia-ww4eb 6 жыл бұрын

RAW FOOD PHILOSOPHY glad someone else picked up on that.....almost felt forced

@camez2345 6 жыл бұрын

Hmmm...maybe I'll give it another chance, based on your comment. I'm 5min in and just like oh my god please stop talking about hugs.

@scottgreen132 5 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I felt that. I felt uncomfortable watching her at the start, like she was trying to read and study him rather than being present.

@conscious_shift 5 жыл бұрын

Suuuuuuuper awkward lol

@palladium607 3 жыл бұрын

@@JuanGarcia-ww4eb I felt that as well!!!! Was not organic flow at first definitely felt forced but they forged on and settled into a great give and take, then it was awesome!we all struggle to find that connection sometimes for one reason or another.

@theshanny8 Жыл бұрын

Your comments on the happiness key is spot on and in my opinion will enable ppl to take the action that is necessary to effect our choice to be happy. This is empowering. For the first time ever I rushed to "smash" the like button and I wish I could hit it an infinite number of times. Your intro was absolutely true about this awesome woman and the content she shares. Every single thing you said was correct and there was no exaggeration at all in the words you chose to describe what we were about to watch and hear ❤️ every minute of this and I am so grateful to have subbed to your channel

@zeitplanerin Жыл бұрын

This is probably my first comment on youtube ever. And as a German I never thought it would be one under an english speaking video. But this video was so amazing, useful and caring at the same time, I feel the need to say "Thank you"! I feel understood and got a good amount of things to think about and (re)analyze myself. Thank you very much!

@developement Жыл бұрын

I think Americans just love talking so much about themselves so much, if you allow someone to chat so long, and add to their ego, people will like you!

@yashgupta9782 6 жыл бұрын

That dog experiment she talked about was so interesting and how it relates to humans to unlearn helplessness and become HAPPY.

@TomBilyeu 6 жыл бұрын

Yeah, that experiment on learned helplessness is crazy!

@scrubfive9239 2 жыл бұрын

Vanessa: " I like to think of people like an Onion" Tom without missing a beat : " Makes you cry and you don't wanna cut it?" LOL

@loribanks1515 2 жыл бұрын

Vanessa "but delicious when cooked" lol

@guitarfreak242424 2 жыл бұрын

I like to look at people as unopened gifts. You have to meet and get to know them to see what’s inside and you eventually show them your gift too

@lesleybrady3948 Жыл бұрын

I’m ecstatic I found this amazing women!! I was always awkward and highly neurotic and learning this amazing woman has both these traits. I actually cried with relief, look at her!!! We can all get there. Invaluable, I rang my partner, (usually my podcast time is private, its my thing).. I need to share this one.. he’s like wow! You’re so excited and intrigued! This is a genuine light up! I feel a deeper understanding instantly to myself ❤ thank you for this podcast 🙏 xx

@quinnsmithy8778 2 ай бұрын

woman* with an "a". singular. lol

@robertdalessandro6723 Жыл бұрын

Vanessa, some people walk in to a room and don’t give a stuff and don’t think about anything and are not confident. I love how your analysis is so definitive the way you speak

@KilmaTempa 6 жыл бұрын

I've actually just finished reading her book, "Captivate." It's seriously been insane just how helpful all of these tools have worked not only in my business but in my social life. I'm a new Mom and my "sparkling personality" suddenly left me half way through my pregnancy and into motherhood. Cue the serious awkwardness once finally joining the adult world again. Her book and channel taught me many tricks of the trade but also highlighted some not so flattering things I was doing even before this new chapter in my life hit. So awesome you're interviewing her. I watch both you and her content almost daily. What a special treat to come across today. Thanks, you two!

@EvaGreenFanPennyDreadful 6 жыл бұрын

Do you have notes from the book? Or can you summarise it? Like the actionable tips??

@KilmaTempa 6 жыл бұрын

Many thanks back at you Vanessa. Funny enough when I landed my first weekly dj gig back, I branded the weekly event as, "Thrive." Inspired by your quote, "Go where you Thrive not simply where you survive!"

@ashleytaylor994 5 жыл бұрын

Can you give an example?

@chantalr.s.a.2535 5 жыл бұрын

Kilma Tempa t

@marcvan367 2 жыл бұрын

This is a really good Funnel

@jessicavergara1932 6 жыл бұрын

Also, the close ups during these interviews are fantastic, it makes such a difference for the viewer, it keeps me engaged as if I were there, part of the conversation instead of simply an observer.

@koshyjeffrey57 2 жыл бұрын

I was thinking the same thing

@anikam.b.3957 2 жыл бұрын

Totally agree with this comment

@Bughugger Жыл бұрын

The one thing she didn't talk about that I thought would be beneficial to add to all the great content that she shared, is the awareness of our point of relativity when it comes to our happiness. She mentioned one time about writing our level of happiness in terms of the things we do throughout the day, and one of those tasks was laundry. I just so happened to have lost my laundry washing ability recently and after taking several trips to the laundromat I realize how much more grateful I am for having had the ability to do my laundry at home. Sometimes changing our relativity or our perspective or point of reference to something can greatly change our level of happiness

@jimblanchard1011 Жыл бұрын

At one of the stop lights on my way to work there is a sign, no right turn on red during a walk signal. Although I always feel rushed and anxious on my way to work, usually there is a man walking his daughter to school that will push the walk button and I have to wait for them to cross the intersection. He is huge, if you were looking for someone to play Paul Bunyan in a movie he would be a good fit. I find that watching him walk his daughter to school is so soothing. I could sit and watch them all day. He is a huge man with a full beard and his daughter is so small probably five or six years old. It gives me such a feeling of comfort to see this tiny little girl who is being protected by this massive man. It makes me feel that that is how life is supposed to be.

@palladium607 3 жыл бұрын

Not only is her smile SO contagious in the best way, but she has a wonderful genuine laugh as well. Im fascinated by her. Such an inspiration

@ironmountain7907 6 жыл бұрын

Wow not only is she gorgeous, but she is super smart and well articulated! WCW

@Bryan-vo1sf 5 жыл бұрын

Right! #PissedShesMarried

@EvaLasta 2 жыл бұрын

@@Bryan-vo1sf well even if she wasn't married, the odds of one of us in the comments meeting her and dating her are like 1 out of 200 million anyway haha

@zoomgallygally 2 жыл бұрын

WCW vs NWO

@obywan7901 2 жыл бұрын

She is almost perfect

@ironmountain7907 2 жыл бұрын

@Hannah Bartle lol cry more.

@yazminfrances Жыл бұрын

'are they really happy for me?' is a KEY question that i've come to on my own.. this video was confirmation of that and so much more ✨

@rubyslippers103 2 жыл бұрын

Vanessa your categorisation of types of friends was interesting. In my mind only the high value people would be considered friends. Everyone is an associate. It saves a lot of anxiety

@perryjohnson2035 6 жыл бұрын

Tom, you ask some of the best questions. You're like the male Oprah, seriously

@TomBilyeu 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@tldr25 6 жыл бұрын

Only genuine.

@thebetbetunderground9548 5 жыл бұрын

Nah, joe rogan is

@mindtheprivacy 5 жыл бұрын

Great compliment. Only, I'd say, there's no one like Tom

@pluviophile5996 3 жыл бұрын

@Mara Bumbuc indeed he tries to dominate the conversation even if it's not needed but his content is great.

@ToxiqVowoVpixoT Ай бұрын

The interview is actually much better than what its misleading title suggested so IMHO just keep it true without unnecessary clickbaits. Great guest, very informative material. I've learnt quite a few things. Thanks.

@mysoulcalledlife Жыл бұрын

The neutral goofy face 🤣🤣🤣 I’m only 36 minutes in and I’ve already saved this and shared it. Amazing discussion.

@mannyponce2230 2 жыл бұрын

After 3 years of this talk's release, I keep coming back to it. Vanessa is such a badass.

@abeautifuldayful 2 жыл бұрын

"How do you sculpt a garden of friendship?" Now that's a question I never thought about. Kinda reminds me of manicured landscaping, such a chore to maintain.

@ivanmcdrago Жыл бұрын

Wow! Absolutely fascinating and agree, captivating interview.

@elisefair Жыл бұрын

This woman is awesome!!! So well spoken and so knowledgeable!!!

@ScienceOfPeople Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! 🙏

@linmc5074 4 жыл бұрын

He referenced his wife many times; such a good husband

@MsNattt 4 жыл бұрын

Or insecure wife 😁

@3864267 3 жыл бұрын

He’d better. He was all into that woman

@rayholden9356 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for saying that I'll do that

@eliasdanielozuna 3 жыл бұрын

He is obously atract to her... he looks like a insecure girl from highschool mentioning his boyfriend

@boopieboop3832 2 жыл бұрын

Men do that if they think the other woman is flirting with them or if they find the other woman attractive. He brought his wife up soon after she mentioned they could try squiggle hugging after.

@qualityquotes229 2 жыл бұрын

*Believe in yourself. You are braver than you think and more talented than you know, and capable of more than you can imagine. Keep putting in the work…*

@bethcummingsdawson3187 Жыл бұрын

Love love LOVE This is so profoudly positive and true!

@jacobsfamily1789 Жыл бұрын

"remember that you are braver than you believe, stronger than you think & smarter than you seem. Know that that I will always be with you" - Christopher Robin Winnie the Pooh (School (skull rock) rock)

@seungminwhatisyourproblem 6 ай бұрын

I needed to hear this today.

@bryanrice5259 Жыл бұрын

I have a flat affect with athymhormic syndrome from brain damage I suffered as a child after being mutilated and the wound getting infected. I am really fascinated by this. I've been working on myself for a long time. This is wonderful. Thank you!

@karencarney7595 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing. You chose to work on yourself, making u very aware. You are doing well.

@ross9956 Жыл бұрын

9:00 that smile from someone who knows all the tricks

@Puglifemama101 6 жыл бұрын

Her smile is contagious

@lee_onyoutube 2 жыл бұрын

Omg, I love this episode so much. You’re having such a substantial conversation, and there are so many helpful nuggets of wisdom included.

@MikeSmith-fe3ng Жыл бұрын

What a great interview and not a boring moment. That hour went quick.

@michaelclarke1716 Жыл бұрын

thought it was boring as hell

@stewiegriffin1938 7 ай бұрын

@@michaelclarke1716 yeah the beginning was cringy to me. I imagined wayyy better.

@danielsmithiv1279 4 ай бұрын

@@stewiegriffin1938Like what? What did you imagine to be better? Do you know or do you not know?

@ThePinkTaffy Жыл бұрын

Vanessa, you are brilliant. I love your mission!💕

@biancaettenhofer3700 2 жыл бұрын

This was definitely a wonderful interview! I could tell you were absorbing the information just as much as us. Lots to reflect on and Vanessa is a breath of fresh air and a ray of sunshine haha

@JacquiMwangi 2 жыл бұрын

I like her mission to "wake people up" so we have more quality interactions with each other! 🙌🏾And as for self-soothing, WOW! Who knew...

@potentialreality 2 жыл бұрын

I do too!

@miasenna4107 Жыл бұрын

What is her advise on logistical soothing and emotional soothing. Of course there are logistical and emotional issues. But what is her point

@aleena2645 Жыл бұрын

Me too!!

@nyahhbinghi 3 ай бұрын

Vanessa Van Edwards is probably my favorite living human female

@ScienceOfPeople 3 ай бұрын

Wow - I'm so honored! ♥

@b4467 Жыл бұрын

Dude, you hit the ball out of the park with this wonderful, beautiful human being on your show!!!!! This was super interesting! Thankyou for doing what you do. Way to go bro!

@marksoberay2318 2 жыл бұрын

Tom you do this show for free, just because you like to explore and help the world....here is a sincere message from a complete stranger: THANK YOU!!!

@baksug 2 жыл бұрын

Cool and all, but... For free? :D Dude has 2 million+ subs. I can only imagine what he is being paid.

@marksoberay2318 2 жыл бұрын

@@baksug true...but its not subscription material, anyone can watch without spending a dime

@Stierenkloot 2 ай бұрын

The guy is a billionaire. He’s doing this for free pretty much

@marksoberay2318 2 ай бұрын

@@Stierenkloot isn't that what i wrote?

@motivational_writer53 2 жыл бұрын

I'm going to use her technique of turning unpleasant events into something I can enjoy and appreciate. It all boils down to changing perspective and labels that we have unconsciously given to things that we've deemed to be a source of our unhappiness.

@sergiomarin1793 7 ай бұрын

The ways she talks is so contagious and her makeup is spot on!!!

@suzannenorthcutt5100 Жыл бұрын

Awesome! Absolutely loved this 💯 Thank you both!

@holliebingham1311 4 жыл бұрын

What a FANTASTICLY intriguing conversation!!! I could listen to her voice all day long!

@aimsita3313 6 жыл бұрын

Hi Tom, Thank you for bringing in Vanessa :) I have been following her for couple yrs now and even wanted to enroll myself in her course one day. What she studies and share is so fascinating! And again.. one of the best interview with Vanessa I have seen, very insightful and I learned some new things too. Thank you and keep producing good work! 👍❤☺

@Tina-sw5dy Жыл бұрын

Wow this just saved my life, here I am confused for 24 years, looking for this tern ambiguous friends, and now it makes sense! As an introvert i can use this check list to get my time and energy back

@yusrahassan2363 Жыл бұрын

Thank u for all ur effort in spreading awareness and guidance. Thank u for ur content.

@Qwoot 6 жыл бұрын

I love this episode! Human interaction and social skills has a hugely obsessive passion of mine ever since I learned as a teenager that I could learn and practice my way out of my own crippling shyness! Highest impact points for me: 1. Learning how to find systems and behaviors that balance, or even leverage, your inherent traits. Specifically on neuroticism the realization that if you are high-neurotic you can jump-start your self soothing by keeping inspiring imagery and quotes highly visible at all times. Like you, Tom, I keep a list of impactful quotes and follow a few instagram channels. However, after this interview I think I would rate myself as high-neurotic when it comes to business and my professional life so I am going to experiment with significantly increasing the visibility of that inspiring material. 2. "Our mental space is finite ... I thought that mental space was sort of endless, right? You could learn forever. You could think about things forever. But actually, we only have a certain amount of mental time every day." This was a huge perception shift for me that I am excited to dive deeper into. I immediately realized that I, too, sort of just unconsciously neglected the time-cost of thinking about things, which I think extends beyond even just whether or not someone likes us but frankly into the entire way that you choose to budget your daily mental time. Time spent thinking about useless or negative stuff is literally time lost that you could have been learning or thinking about something valuable or positive. That is powerful! 3. On facial expressions and structure. Just an interesting anecdote from my own experience: I have experimented with intentionally "wearing the expressions" of characters that I like from movies and TV shows. Particularly if that character is being portrayed by a very skilled and experienced actor. I noticed that when I do this it radically changes the way that people engage with me. One my favorite examples is when I spent some time trying to emulate the mannerisms and hyper-intentional facial expressions that James Spader uses when portraying Raymond Reddington on the blacklist. The transformative effect was enormous: people treated me with more respect and you could tell they assumed I was important or powerful in the way that they deferred to me, even total strangers. Really fun stuff! -- By the time I was half way through the episode I had already opened a new tab and grabbed a copy of Vanessa's book, I'm excited to dive in. I find this stuff utterly fascinating and I love her energy and enthusiasm for the topic and I find her approach to studying and learning so totally relatable. Thank-you for the great content, as always!

@eddiegonzalez9659 Жыл бұрын

Please recommend some good books for social skills

@brooksellis9960 2 жыл бұрын

Really interesting interview. I loved the part about ambivalent friendships and understanding where you’re placing your mental energy, and also working with your natural tendencies instead of forcing habits that don’t suit your personality. Thank you Tom!

@handssolo7980 Жыл бұрын

What I love the most about when she speaks, is the distinct control of her amplitude without having to increase it's wavelength - literally breathtaking. A classic example of form derived from the inoperable. Forget her eyes - look for the mandible; essentially driven without loss of energy. She holds the look captive and yet - still engaged. Kudos Tom for keeping it together under such a nuanced microscope; particularly one with an acute Xenohormesis. Wasn't hard to tell, she so wanted you, to talk about science. That may not be the truth, but that too is reality.

@TaschaGal Жыл бұрын

I’m totally feeling vibes in this interview! And find it cute how Tom keeps bringing it back to his wife 😂🙊

@jckay5087 Жыл бұрын

Tom is smart. He knows what awaits ANY man who makes a connection with an attractive woman, even if it's not sexual. Without constant wife references, he's doomed to months if not years of that being pulled up when needed. That's Man Life 101.😉

@TaschaGal Жыл бұрын

@@jckay5087 I give Lisa far more credit than that… buuuut better to be safe than sorry 😉

@serenabliss3419 5 жыл бұрын

This was amazing! Thank you so much for interviewing Vanessa, you are introducing me to insanely valuable information I didn’t even know I needed.

@lancecolbear1281 6 жыл бұрын

38:39 is a really cool super villain face. Her resting bit@h face is so cool. Both of them have that supervillain killer look. love the information in this video!

@cosmicleo8948 Жыл бұрын

I’m in awe! Thank you for this interview 😮❤

@NKeddle Жыл бұрын

I am here as I have heard about Vanessa in your wife’s Lisa’s amazing book “Radical confidence”. Congratulations to Lisa on her writing and of course to you on this interview.

@paulawilliamson637 6 жыл бұрын

Once upon a time there was a sweet and pretty girl named Vanessa....... What an Inspiration !!!! I was a completely free, outgoing little nine year old girl, when my grade four teacher brutality brought shame upon me. I was known for getting my class together and making plays that even we usually put on for a couple of classes in our grade. Well, when the principle called an ensembley for our Cinderella --- we were ecstatic ! This teacher I had at that point in my life, destroyed my passion & I caved into myself, he called me fat, called me out on numerous occasions in front of the class, for having diarrhea when I was sick, eating paste, garbage, calling me a liar, their, & telling my mom that I was academically challenged. All of this did not even begin to compare to the crushing sound as he crumbled all of my joy, glee & passion, --- like a piece of paper as he shamed me for doing the worm ( giggling to-fro-up-down), when I found out that the play I produced, directed & played the fairy godmother, evil stepmother in, was to be showed to the entire school. Ha, ha, the very next year I had the best teacher & she loved my quirky side. My mom always has said that she was prepared for a horribly neg comments on par/teac night, & my new teacher said - Paula is such a nice, creative little girl....... My mom was on the verge of tears, lol. Since then, Mr Shame, has been caught up in court over sexuality abusing some young boys. I pray that this is not the case, I don't wish his any harm, he is forgiven for his role in my disablement & I do remember he taught me a lot about music, my profession. Thanks again. =^!!^=.

@krizziaudtohan2154 6 жыл бұрын

I've been watching her videos since 2015. It helped me communicate better. I'm so glad she's finally on Impact Theory! Thanks Tom!

@CapDanAddams 11 ай бұрын

This is such a relatable thing for me analyzing these aspects. I can't get enough of this.

@ScienceOfPeople 10 ай бұрын

That's amazing! I'm so glad you enjoyed this video. ❤

@18jshep Жыл бұрын

I wonder how childhood trauma impacts the development of the big 5 traits and some of the other research studies she mentioned. Like would someone with PTSD more accurately pick up on smelling fear or would they inaccurately overestimate it, because their amygdala is already over-activated? Such fascinating topics and what a charismatic speaker!

@chellychels4356 6 ай бұрын

As someone who had severe trauma, a lot of what she said didn’t really fit me. For instance, I’m a total worrier. I’m also the one who’s the calmest in high stress situations though, because I had to adapt to constant danger essentially. I also am someone who is obsessed with structure, organization, etc, but my car is super cluttered; because I struggle with feeling like I might need something one day and not have it. I’m known for being insanely outgoing and bubbly, but if you catch me in a gym/certain environments, I’m insanely introverted. I feel like you would have to be able to ask the whys for it to work, rather than going on those visual cues. People with trauma tend to be so outside of social norms in random ways that this wouldn’t work as well.

@sheahenson4930 2 жыл бұрын

Random tangent - When I’m looking for strong charismatic women role models, I always end up on Tom’s channel. I really appreciate the real conversations on deep subjects and 50/50 male/female guests. It doesn’t feel like you’re doing it intentionally, rather you seem truly fascinated and intrigued by your female guests based solely on their ideas, which is how it should be. I’m not a feminist or anything but sometimes you just want to listen to life advice from girl-Joe Rogan. Cheers Tom for providing a space for young, impressionable girls to hear about real life from real women.

@shelby3755 2 жыл бұрын

I agree with you! :)

@mercyarredondo7539 2 жыл бұрын

@scrubfive9239 2 жыл бұрын

Yes.! I wish both men and women. boys and girls. looked up to people like Tom and the guests that he has on his show rather than these celebrities that only teach you how to be superficial. This is the best channel on youtube for information on all aspects of life for real. I love this.

@tracycahill1214 2 жыл бұрын

Love this episode, I immediately downloaded Vanessa’s book. Bingeing your channel right now Tom, you rock!! Thank you for all the amazing content.

@Gameboob 2 жыл бұрын

Haha so I'm not alone

@ILL8ZILLA8 2 жыл бұрын

How is the book, I've read books on social dynamics and I'm so awkward that I sometimes have too much thinking going on instead of just letting go and letting things happen.Its like hesitation because I don't wanna say something stupid.Im afraid reading into this will make me more award lol.

@potentialreality 2 жыл бұрын

I agree!

@ScienceOfPeople 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! I hope you love it!

@stizan24 Жыл бұрын

I thought I was introvert because I want to be alone all the time, but when I am with people I’m a chatterbox. I strike up conversations with strangers at the grocery store, it’s almost always about food. Turning on a couple to some cheese I like. Teaching a young woman how to make the best mashed potatoes. Swapping ideas with a man about how to cook pork shoulder. He says he just crock pots it. I told him about buckboard bacon, Al Pastore, and how to smoke it.

@bhuwanpsingh2250 Жыл бұрын

Me Too!😄

@MiyaLmiyaloves Жыл бұрын

I wish I was more like this !

@emilywhite5459 Жыл бұрын

Sounds like you would be an excellent food vlogger, you could start a KZfaq Channel talking and teaching about food

@coryvermillion8679 Жыл бұрын

@stizan24 I've never heard of buckboard bacon but I'm curious, do you smoke it in a pipe or rolling papers? Also, what does your friend Al Pastore have to do with it?

@JTrys Жыл бұрын

Same! I go from “I hate people, I don’t care, don’t want to talk to anyone” to having full blown convos about like with strangers and feeling happy as hell doing it 🤣 hopefully therapy can help with that lmao

@digitalphoenix72 5 ай бұрын

The comment about neuroticism, " the more I worry about these things, the less likely they are to happen", I feel like that's mischaracterized a bit. As a neurotic person myself, I don't think bad things wont happen, I just feel like ill be prepared and it wont ruin the goals of the day or event. Maybe I'm Different that way, but I always saw it as being prepared for the bad, rather than the neuroticism keeping the bad thing from happening. I loved the talk! Definitely have a new book to check out

@ScienceOfPeople 4 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching ❤ I hope you enjoy my book!

@azzelino1800 3 жыл бұрын

She's smart, beautiful, always smiling; making science research ... don't know what to say else The perfect woman 😍

@Porelcaminitoyotellevare 2 жыл бұрын

looks like

@nelsonpozo1 3 жыл бұрын

By far one of Tom’s best interviews, with Goggins being his best and she’s a very close second. Every minute of this interview was full educational useful nuggets that bought tremendous self awareness. I think so many times we naturally just listen to words being spoken, rather than the body language and tone. Hope she’s on Tom’s show in the very near future.

@potentialreality 2 жыл бұрын

Yes, I would like to see Goggins back!

@lortanic Жыл бұрын

So much knowledge gold! Thank you for everything you guys do!

@chaoxiang56 7 ай бұрын

Amazing Interview! You really know how to get at the essence of what’s important about your guests. Vanessa’s work is so interesting. I’ve been looking for more work like hers since first being introduced to personality types and motivation while studying to be a better sales closer in my business. Riveting, thanks you!

@ScienceOfPeople 6 ай бұрын

I am SO thrilled to hear this! Thank you ❤

@amjitkp 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Vanessa for an amazing session enhancing me to find unanswered questions inside me. I am a highly neurotic person was often worried that being a neurotic would have a negative impact on me in my career growth. But as you stated being neurotic helped me sense crisis in advance and got prepared to overcome the same. The portion explaining about OCEAN was truly fabulous which made me grab your book Captivate which helped me learning more about micro expressions .I just loved it and I am sure this will help me at work. Practising gratitude in traffic signals ,that was just wonderful. I practice gratitude when ever I see same numbers on clock for example 11.11 12.12 but after this session I have fallen in love with red lights Tom , as always the way you ask questions is truly mind-blowing, after every interview I get Crystal clear answers because you put the interviewee in a comfortable position to explain things in an effective way to viewers. By the way Tom I loved your neutral Goofy face 😊

@phetsamonesinathalang6042 5 жыл бұрын

Vanessa Van Edwards you are the inspiration of my being! Your ability to translate what and why we respond the way we do is so insightful and this video blew my mind! Thank you!

@kaylacarpenter272 7 ай бұрын

I pat people's upper backs, like burping a baby. It shows my tender and unconditional love/appreciation for people, and my recognition that adults are all their baby self inside.

@jariwala38 8 ай бұрын

This lady just stole my heart, not because she is beautiful but she just spoke my heart. Yeah not being awkward she is adorable and her voice too. She is just amazing.

@music2myears94 2 жыл бұрын

this was such an engaging and thought-provoking conversation! Thank you for the honesty and openness!

@Snackay 6 жыл бұрын

It doesn't tell you how to liberate yourself from anxiety. It covers many other things.

@AnthonyGarcia-kr9vu 5 жыл бұрын

Snackay nobody can tell you how to do anything... She's giving you insights to trigger thought. It's up to you to build on it..

@alexmendoza9270 2 жыл бұрын

It doesn’t tell you, it shows a person that conquered it.

@JerDrey05 2 жыл бұрын

Whenever you find those titles, do not trust they are going to tell you exactly what they mean, because it's just a hook for the audience and it takes a consult with a psychologist to find out the answer. As a recommendation, I just simply take notes on that and see what can be helpful.

@nellieshoals 2 жыл бұрын

@@AnthonyGarcia-kr9vu Up to you to buy her book, you mean.

@Uvvibes 2 жыл бұрын

Yeah the title is click bait but it was interesting still

@LilymHayes 6 ай бұрын

Wow the last thing she said really got to me because I seriously fear driving and just got my license and even just getting in the car causes me to panic but I will try saying gratitudes like that during stop lights and let you know how I feel:) thank you! The whole video is great and learned a lot! Amazing video!

@beesharpe2525 Жыл бұрын

I love Vanessa. This individual speaks my language. That awkward side smile grin Vanessa has & sparkle in her eyes, speaks volumes to me. Venessa was in control from the beginning, you Tom, have zero control, regardless of your media/PR training.

@tparentful 5 жыл бұрын

This was amazing! Also a recovering awkward person, but couldn't' recover or teach my children without all this great information Vanessa, thank you!

@adrianflo6481 2 жыл бұрын

A recovering awkward person. What do you know about the struggles of addiction and obsessive tendencies? Cause you sure make it sound like the small talk at work is as hard as mental illness.

@malikpadilla7610 2 жыл бұрын

@@adrianflo6481 are you stupid? Where in the heck are you getting the idea that they're compairing their experience of being awkward to being addicted to something. Do u know what the word (recovering) f***ing means? What happens after you break you arm?... you recover! What happens after you get into a car accident and youre in the hospital?... you recover! So in their case, whatever impact awkwardness had on their lives, they are now adressing and RECOVERING from. Happy to tell you, recovering is not solely reserved to people that use or are addicted to something. So stop reaching and drawing stupid BS conclusions from nothingness.

@KRMT7863 2 жыл бұрын

Love her view on honesty!!! I love being a radical honest person. But it's so hard to find people to be vulnerable with you or accept you through your truths and being so direct. Its hard to drop all the friends but less is really more. And genuine people many be hard to find but don't fill the space u could spend on yourself and self care with people who are living their real truth in being organic and accountable.

@UnicornUniverse333 2 жыл бұрын

Yes it is a lonely place, at least for me it is, I have no one to talk to other than myself, but I'm happy to be my own person and not let anyone take advantage of me. I hope I can find a real friend tho

@edvermichel3965 3 ай бұрын

She's so good when it comes to answering questions and she is so confident and so beautiful i would love to have that confident, specially when it comes to talking to people. Thank you guys!🙂

@ScienceOfPeople 3 ай бұрын

♥♥

@chelin7023 7 ай бұрын

I realized how happy I have been in comparison to others when I hear these conversations … People OVER THINK everything now a days! Life can be simple and incredible beautiful if one just stop trying to “find” a hidden meaning in everything one do, experience, hear, feel, etc, etc! Too much noice, if one wants to “figure things out”.

@nicoledotfan 4 жыл бұрын

Vanessa is amazing at explaining things and Tom was so funny and open, I loved this interview!

@cdcavemanfan 2 жыл бұрын

This is truly fascinating. She really knows what she is talking about and is extremely clear about teaching it to us. Thank you Vanessa!

@amarella_rue 10 ай бұрын

She's right about those that don't have the ability to truly be happy for you when you're excited about something or something good happens to you. I immediately thought of a couple "friends."

@ScienceOfPeople 9 ай бұрын

❤

@maks-cw6nv Жыл бұрын

Truly brilliant woman! I loved this video

@mythosmind8633 6 жыл бұрын

Should I say it? Yes.. Impact Theory Phenomenon Strikes Again! First I want to point out the changes that I saw 1. IT Coffee mugs, love how they completed the logo, and almost stayed that way during the episode. I did miss the glow that the glasses bring to the table. 2. Impact Theory logo on the left side of the screen, great choice for when people use the content for their vidoes "Goal Cast" *Cough* *Cough*. Did notice that started on the Jason episode. 3. Tom you were a lot more open/free during this episode, I felt more of the vibe that I get from you when you are doing Facebook live. I am thinking it had to do with the guest, and the atmosphere that she brought. 4. Something about how the outro music played at the end, made me feel like I just watched a awesome movie. 5. New ending graphics, LOVE IT. Mad props to the graphic designer. Other things to note 1. GOD DAMN, Talk about captivating. Vanessa is the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. Perfect 10 2. Information overload, I felt my brain short circuiting. it was just like a lot of stuff to take in, and it was great. 3. She just a lot of great stuff to say, I must get this book. 4. I was also listening to "528Hz Release Inner Conflict & Struggle | Anti Anxiety Cleanse - Stop Overthinking, Worry & Stress" before I started watching this episode and kept it playing the whole time, and it added a nice touch to how I received it.

@ShinkaTV 6 жыл бұрын

I noticed he was more open this episode too - I wonder if it was because he was interviewing a body language specialist... :)

@mythosmind8633 6 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I want to say it was because he was interviewing a body language specialist, but I would also like to believe we are just seeing the evolution and growth of Tom.

@TomBilyeu 6 жыл бұрын

Duuuuuude! This breakdown is awesome! Thanks for taking the time. And thanks for noticing all of our changes. Always trying to improve!! And totally agree that Vanessa has so many amazing ideas that it's hard to keep up. Enjoy her book! It's phenomenal.

@LaszloHarsanyi_SoundTube 6 жыл бұрын

This was awesome, I sat down and this hour basically flew by, and I was like at the end "this was awesome" - in a kinda calm and relaxed way saying that. She's definitely has a powerful and serene aura around her! Great start to my day 👍👍👍

@LaszloHarsanyi_SoundTube 6 жыл бұрын

Definitely the concept of ambivalent relationships. It made me realize a lot of things, answered some questions for me! 😉

@gamap2023 2 жыл бұрын

Hi Tom! Doing a remarkable job Can I have sister Vanessa what's number and yours plz I was reading her presentation on "Three types of Lie" Commission,Omission and influence.