The way I describe my social dysphoria is like a Freaky Friday movie where two people switch bodies but instead of trying to pretend to be the other person, I try to live my life the way I did before the switch. But no one sees who I actually am and only sees the outside and body that I'm in

It's such a relief to hear you talk about this. I disregarded the questioning of my gender identity for so much time because it didn't fit what I saw as "the trans experience". I was just an "awkward boy", I thought. I never imagined I've had dysphoria, for example, because I never connected with the way media sensationalises it in its most extreme form, as wanting to mutilate yourself and 'hating' your body, which many people may feel, but it's far from universal or as constant as portrayed. But the feelings you described got right into me. Now I can connect the fantasy of having another body with feeling discomfort with some parts during sex, why some things just didn't felt right. Maybe the fact that I'm much of a people pleaser and accustomed to play a persona or focused on giving pleasure to others also helped to shut down the exploration and expression of my self and needs. Thank you for allowing your perspective to be seen. We need more diversity, not only in identities, but also in experiences and we need to have ours stories told by ourselves. And that's what you do and I love it. 💛💛

I have not yet been able to articulate my feelings about how I feel dysphoric socially- like in regards to the disonnect that is felt when being out interacting & the feelings that come along with it. I didn't even know social dysphoria was a thing, and the way you put everything is literally exactly how I feel. The disconnect makes everything feel so unreal and so empty but I feel so comforted knowing that there are people out there who share some of the same feelings as I do. Thank you Bryn for making your videos. much love xx

This might sound a bit deep but I think you're one of the only people I've ever properly connected with when I've listened to people talk about this stuff, thank you xx

My dysphoria is so similar to yours and I am also non-binary. Talking about my facial hair it is also really frustrating, because it just doesn't feel like me. Bottom dysphoria feels so bad at times, especially getting closer to somebody. Going to start HRT soon to ease the pain

Holy shit... that idea of a disconnect rung so many bells. You described it perfectly.

Damn they do be spitting facts

Thanks for talking. I now how it feels, but of the other side, I can understand, that people don't understand this, because the most now only man or woman. It's so difficult to find peace as gender non conforming person in this binary world.

I know this is an old video, but anyway, I just want to say that I appreciate your videos so much, I feel like I can relate with how you feel about this stuff more than most other people I've heard talking about it.

Omg, the way you explained this was so helpful. the part where you were talking about feeling like you are almost outside of your body watching people talk to you resonated with me so much. Thank you so much for sharing your experience 💚

I know I'm something like a year and a half late, but I just watched this, and thank you so much for this. In particular the part about social dysphoria. Having come out as nonbinary about a year ago, I've been educating myself through various online venues, and have come to have my own relationship with, and understanding of, body dysphoria. But social dysphoria... I got out of an emotionally abusive relationship in 2019, and one of the things that really set me off to finally start engaging with my gender identity in earnest was that, so much of what went wrong in that relationship was tied into me being a man, and not being a good enough man, and trying to live up to being the right kind of man (or the right kind of boyfriend), and trying to escape association with or connection with so many negative stereotypes of men (e.g. all men are trash, men are disappointments, men have no emotional intelligence, men are inept, incompetent, inadequate...). Ultimately, it had nothing to do with who I am as an individual, as a person, and everything to do with my battling against these negative stereotypes and positive ideals of how to be a good man, and a good boyfriend. My point being, I'm not sure she ever saw me as an individual first and foremost - a person deserving of understanding, empathy, care; she saw me as a man, and as someone who was supposed to play a particular gendered role in her life. She never saw me for me. But as much as I've thought that through, countless times since breaking up with her in 2019, even so I never thought of that as "social dysphoria" until watching this video. So much of what you said here just clicked for me, so much. Yes, that's what it is. Thank you for this.

I get confused when ppl touch my junk. It feels good, like sex does, but, there's a lot of depression and uncomfortableness at the same time. I never finish. Women have no interest in me anymore, but part of the problem is how selfish men are when it comes to sex. It's really quite confusing. I look forward to bottom surgery.

I don't know if it's mental illness or it's a true identity. For me, I want to make my body more feminine, to present more feminine in the society, but I don't really want to change my name and pronouns. I want to be a sort of female looking male. Really what I want is to be a man with a woman's face. And sexualy I identify 100% as female.

It's hard in terms of dysphoria, when you get misgendered. When I look in the mirror, I see something in-between, and to me it's horrible. It's incredibly depressing, and makes everything feel so futile. I disgust myself. When someone misgenders me, I wind up right back to feeling like both, or neither. It's really hard on your self esteem. I attempt to not gender a person if I don't specifically know, or at least apologize if I've made a mistake(which happens.) I can't imagine how hard it must be to get ppl to gender you properly if you're a they/non-binary type.

How about aching and jealousy over the gender body you want? I feel no one is explaining my feelings and I'm just like what is it I'm feeling? Like seeing a cis male and being jealous over his body because you want it for yourself. Example is seeing men at the gym.

Hey fellow human I just wanted to say that your audio is really quiet and I hope that you start to turn it up a little bit more I also wanted to say that I feel like a lot of people don't understand dysphoria it's not about what other people think it's about feeling right within yourself I think for most trans people is dysphoria is less about what people think about you and more about how you feel about you because our thoughts and our feelings are not always an alignment either

I sweat on forehead when they talk about girl things ,but I'm a boy . what's wrong with me?

Hi... I think you're a really sweet Alien!

Is it really meaningful to focus on yourself and your identity all the time? There are more important things in this life.