Start a Conversation with Anyone with These Killer Conversation Starters

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Do you need a great conversation starter? I've got you covered!
In this video, I will go through my favorite killer conversation starters you can use with new people, on dates, at parties, and at networking events. The right conversation starter can move a conversation from boring to dazzling.
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In this video:
0:00 Intro
0:36 Tell me about you
0:50 Working on anything exciting recently?
1:05 What's your story?
1:15 What personal passion project are you working on?
1:30 How do you know the host?
2:00 Have you been to this kind of event before?
2:26 Has this been a busy time for you?
3:39 How's that drink/food/etc?
2:53 Having fun?
3:20 What are you doing this weekend?
3:37 What are your favorite restaurants around here?
3:54 Keeping up with shows/sports/news?
4:06 Can you recommend something to me?
4:33 Talk about the venue or place you are at
4:47 Have you seen that viral video?
5:56 Choose a fictional character that you are most like
6:13 What was your dream job?
6:28 What's your biggest fear?
6:35 What's your biggest regret?
6:44 Who is your role model?
7:16 Event-specific conversation starters
8:54 Final thoughts
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@ScienceOfPeople 2 жыл бұрын

Get more conversation starters in the full article: 👉🏻www.scienceofpeople.com/conversation-starters-topics/

@mojtabamaali1127 4 жыл бұрын

I am generally a good conversationalist, but sometimes I run out of subjects to converse... Thank you for providing these conversation starters.

@marjoriea9079 4 жыл бұрын

1. Tell me about you 2. Working on anything exciting recently? 3. What's your story? 4. What personal passion project are you working on right now? 5. How do you know the host? 6. What was the highlight of your day today or your week? 7. Have you been to an event like this before 8. What was the high point and low point of your day so far 9. Has this been a busy time for you 10. How is that drink/appetizer 11. Having fun? / enjoying yourself? Continue 12. What are you doing this weekend? 13. what is your fave to do during wekeend 14. What is your fave resto around here 15. Keeping up with sport/tv show/ news 16. Can u recommend cocktail/appetizer 17. All the food look good. Recommendations? 18. what a beautiful event 19. Have you seen this viral video Deep 20. If you have to pick a character who is most similar to you/choose. why 21. When you were grow up what is your dream job 22. biggest fear 23. Biggest regret 24. Role model Event specific Birthday Highlight of your last year? What you want to achieve next year?

@johna5368 4 жыл бұрын

Bro, I tried copying this but KZfaq won't let me. Could you please copy it from your end and send it to my email johnplusinvestments@gmail.com Thanks

@starlight9447 3 жыл бұрын

John A lmao😭 same though can you send me this-

@SuryaTeja 3 жыл бұрын

Take a screenshot and save it to your favorites guys!

@classy_chinita67 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for helping us save time.😘💕

@carolinemunyakwe9068 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks

@jenniferdalton5817 4 жыл бұрын

I want to thank you for your tips about conversation starters. I used to be an extrovert. As I have grown older, it seems I have be one more introvert which has resulted in being closed off but longing for connection. It is nice to have guidance for topics to talk about because everyday topics can be limited and lacking. Thank you!

@daem0nfaust 4 жыл бұрын

That's much more substantial than i expected a 10-minute video would go. Thanks, V!

@klee7973 4 жыл бұрын

Love this but whenever someone I just met asks me what I’m doing that weekend I always feel like they’re going to try to invite themselves lol

@earthmoonstars2013 4 жыл бұрын

I found you back in September 2018 because I needed help in a new social situation and it helped me soooo much. Now I am needing help with dealing with this other parent at school. I dont know if this is part of your scope, but I cant handle this one parent who thinks her kid is perfect, yet I see what he is *actually* like.... she's so negative and she makes me feel on edge. She's my ambivalent relationship. I have to see her everyday and talk to her but I hate it.

@JasonB95 3 жыл бұрын

One of my faves is asking someone about what they're doing/holding. I love being asked that because it shows that the person takes interest in something I chose to partake in. On the flip side I get the best reactions from people when I ask that. The key is to be genuine and sincere about it.

@za012345678998765432 4 жыл бұрын

Some of these are really good, my problem is that many times i forget these when I'm in conversation, how do you guys remember these?

@poultrybiz101 3 жыл бұрын

Very true my dear. Everything vacates my brain

@encompasschange4700 3 жыл бұрын

It sounds like you are with someone but your attention is on yourself. Just get curious and interested with people and you will forget about yourself.

@whiteyquartz7461 2 жыл бұрын

Write them down in your phone

@tenneshaskyers 2 жыл бұрын

They say for 1 min of perfection it takes 1 hour of practice

@josef1858 2 жыл бұрын

Write them down, and read it off a notepad when you are talking to a new person. That way, there is no way they will think you're weird.

@DjW1986 4 жыл бұрын

Some of those seem really vague and broad. i can see those questions being more suitable with someone i'm somewhat familiar with like a co-worker, an associate, a neighbor, but with a stranger or someone i'm trying to date, no way. me, personally, i'd get annoyed real fast. i understand conversation shouldn't be a "job interview", but i don't think there's anything wrong with the generic questions as long as you can give back. That's the real art.

@craigmalcom6294 4 жыл бұрын

David Wilson “what’s your story”😂😂

@alondraceja9618 2 жыл бұрын

I am seriously so thankful for you! I’m working on getting myself back after years of battling internal insecurities 😍

@manuc2405 3 жыл бұрын

I LOVE this channel! It provides a huge amount of useful information. Thanks Vanessa for such amazing tips

@ChicoSaxTijuana 4 жыл бұрын

Awesome learning! Thank you for the info Vanessa!

@bradfl123 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Vanessa. These are great starters! I like the months ones.

@kweengyofficial7153 4 жыл бұрын

Dynamic inflection & tips. Nice work!

@raveenasolanki2053 4 жыл бұрын

Hey... I watch your video daily..... Your videos are really fruit ful in making great conversations.....count me as one of the followers . I am your fan

@sayedmasood7883 4 жыл бұрын

I learned a lot from you. Your classes worth priceless!

@jacobharrod6912 4 жыл бұрын

This is REALLY good. I'm putting this into use immediately!

@zarinaspace 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for these tips on conversation starters.

@calebwilliams7659 4 жыл бұрын

Finally signed up to Science of People. Love these videos Vanessa!

@MindNow 4 жыл бұрын

*Awesome starters!* 🙏

@realestateinvestingacademy9538 4 жыл бұрын

Would be great if we download the list of questions:) Amazing video Thank you Vanessa.

@benergy100k2 4 жыл бұрын

You just nailed these down VVE. You go girl. This is real. Keep it up girl.

@daanbanaan3679 Жыл бұрын

thank you for these tips. Many times i wanted to talk with someone but i just didnt know how to start the conversation. So instead i would say nothing and hoping the other person started the converstation (most of the time they didnt). But im going to use these tips in my life and hopefully getting better at starting a conversation and keep the conversation going. Maybe make someone friends

@ScienceOfPeople Жыл бұрын

Good for you!! You've got this!

@alexg3348 4 жыл бұрын

Great info Vanessa! You're looking great! Motherhood must agree with you!

@milindbhai1 Жыл бұрын

Vanessa, your videos always provide fab insights!!

@robertspencer1097 4 жыл бұрын

I'm trying to figure out what else to call a, "personal passion project". I love that it's about something both personal and bigger than a passing interest. I just need a term that suits me/ the people I approach better. 🤔

@christinebruns8165 3 жыл бұрын

"What are you geeking out on lately? Outside of work." Thats how I'd ask it.

@drisssadik6071 4 жыл бұрын

Great thanks from Morocco

@BobbyDazzler490 4 жыл бұрын

Very, very, very informative 👍

@goodwillbunny5773 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this teaching--you have blessed many people today!...from Grandma Bunny in Phoenix.

@davidromanart 4 жыл бұрын

omg these are golden. Thanks!

@victoriksaber9500 4 жыл бұрын

Watching this I found out I am naturally good at this, it’s what I do. ❤️💕

@spitz_official 4 жыл бұрын

Chana Vivachacha really? Have you been to an event like this before?

@vishalshukla1028 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks Vanessa for the wow tips!👍

@genegarcia7658 4 жыл бұрын

It kinda reminds me of having a conversation with Siri 🤳🏼. Great advice!

@CharlesRay22 10 ай бұрын

Thanks!

@ScienceOfPeople 10 ай бұрын

Thanks so much!

@aimsita3313 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Vanessa, Thank you so much for sharing the video and so thoughtful to share questions following the calendar!!! :)

@Sofia-bl9cb 3 жыл бұрын

omg thank you so much😍 these are amazing

@massinissahettak4805 Жыл бұрын

thank you so much, You deserve a gold medal 🥇🥇

@ScienceOfPeople Жыл бұрын

Thank you for the kind words!

@massinissahettak4805 Жыл бұрын

@@ScienceOfPeople my pleasure , it's the truth and you really deserve it

@Sixer88 4 жыл бұрын

This is great 👍

@bhimpokhrel8386 2 жыл бұрын

Amazing video. Thank you for creating such useful video.

@ScienceOfPeople 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching! I'm glad you enjoyed it =)

@roberts.8389 4 жыл бұрын

Really like your channel, it would be cool if you did a did a live dialog with different people so we can see this first hand.

@waselahmedrony4679 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Vanessa.

@mizlevelup3127 4 жыл бұрын

I need to watch this again.

@elyseepasteur6163 4 жыл бұрын

Hi mam Vanessa! As soon as found I've already subscribed! You look beautyful and sound fun! Keep it up!

@pendarpazooki7177 2 жыл бұрын

It's my birthday OMG I'm so gonna use those conversation killers hah!

@mudasir2324 2 жыл бұрын

superb

@justsaybobby Ай бұрын

tysm for your help :)

@lokeshsingh9731 3 жыл бұрын

what a beautifull intro i love it!☺️☺️

@ChrisGualazzi 4 жыл бұрын

Does Vanessa have videos on reading criminals or what kind of unusual behavior to look out for to avoid being assaulted? I know it is different from her usual content, but I would like to see that.

@adfelan27 4 жыл бұрын

Nice teacher

@apositiveperson6820 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you 💚❤💜😍

@goldensquirel 4 жыл бұрын

Whenever D J Trump is speaking, I start studying his body language from the techniques Vanessa taught me 👍🏽 Vanessa is a super talented human being 🌹

@danruhl8538 2 жыл бұрын

Your looking amazing

@mudasirhussain6560 2 жыл бұрын

amazing

@bphifer 4 жыл бұрын

That intro was very Marie Forleo-Esk 😀

@Serve24 Жыл бұрын

“Tell me about you.” That’s probably the most anxiety producing question someone can ask me 😳

@djactivator 4 жыл бұрын

Captivate is an amazing book!

@aimsita3313 4 жыл бұрын

I totally agree. Fun to read and so much to learn.

@whovishalsingh 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much (◍•ᴗ•◍)❤

@souleimanabdouraham1792 4 жыл бұрын

Amazing you’re Vanessa...

@enriquequiroz9581 4 жыл бұрын

Una gran dama que me gusta mucho no por su físico x su inteligencia y su persona muy sincera love

@Tgerlilly89 Жыл бұрын

I have a question, how do I have deep conversations with my best friend/boyfriend who uses big words that alot of times I don't understand. Also he says that I'm not able to or don't hold deep convos with him. He says he don't want just about what's going on today or what happened today or movies or games. Please I need to be able to do more and need good advice. I do t want to lose this relationship. Please help me!

@hellobeautiful3301 4 жыл бұрын

You look gorgeous, Vanessa! Being a mom look goods on you :)

@bsaid420 Жыл бұрын

"What is/are your passions in life?" Has always been my go to convo-starter.

@ScienceOfPeople Жыл бұрын

That's a great one!

@gakaface 4 жыл бұрын

2:08 - Do you come every month? Yep - every month! Several times a month!

@kalimkhan3702 4 жыл бұрын

Love you sir

@patriciaoffer9585 4 жыл бұрын

kalim khan For females it's "madam"😬😀

@kalimkhan3702 4 жыл бұрын

@@patriciaoffer9585 Thank's bro

@patriciaoffer9585 4 жыл бұрын

kalim khan Hi, Trump...

@kalimkhan3702 4 жыл бұрын

@@patriciaoffer9585 thank you bro for compliments

@patriciaoffer9585 4 жыл бұрын

kalim khan You're trying to make me mad and it's not going to work...

@Marcus-gh8bh 4 жыл бұрын

I find that asking “so whats your story” works great too

@nairajunior8762 4 жыл бұрын

its_a_trab forreal? I don’t understand how this would be possible... do u just go up to someone u don’t know and the forst thing u say is “so what’s ur story”. That’s creepy af ,no?

@oganotluibov 4 жыл бұрын

I find this question very invasive. I would need to prepare an answer so I can say something superficial.

@sherronpowell1020 4 жыл бұрын

Really? what are the replies you've gotten?

@starlight9447 3 жыл бұрын

Naira Junior i wheeze

@starlight9447 3 жыл бұрын

Naira Junior What can You say-

@jacobharrod6912 4 жыл бұрын

I've asked a few people some of these questions, and they either ignore me or tell me something totally different than the answer to the question. I must have made them uncomfortable or something. But it's been kinda funny.

@ray_mond Жыл бұрын

..Isn't she great? 😁😃

@this-is-bioman Жыл бұрын

Damn, you're good! 😵

@ob882 Жыл бұрын

great questions, I just feel like i dont know or am aware of myself enough to answer if they flipped it back on me

@v.m.7239 4 жыл бұрын

I love your makeup in this video

@katc9198 4 ай бұрын

The way she grouped toddlers with extroverts 😂

@prettyzen2 27 күн бұрын

because I work from home, I'm really isolated. I'd like to engage more but in all honesty, being asked a million questions makes me recoil. Like off the bat I can't think of anyone really who is a role model to me etc etc. My family is one big mess that I stay away from so any questions about family is uncomfortable for me. I do like being around people if it happens gradually and organically, but being thrust into a social situation is just ugh lol

@ScienceOfPeople 25 күн бұрын

Working from home does have its ups and downs, and feeling isolated can be tough. It's completely okay to want connections to form naturally rather than feeling pushed into social situations. Maybe you could start small by engaging in online communities or forums that align with your interests. This way, you can interact at your own pace and gradually build connections without the pressure of rapid-fire questions or uncomfortable topics. 🙏🏻

@sayedmasood7883 4 жыл бұрын

It may not be necessary to say but you are so kind to us. So, I want to say your this shirt color is really much your....

@Rooo8 4 жыл бұрын

What if I haven't done anything exciting at the weekend, because my life sucks right now?

@geraldgooding9790 Жыл бұрын

HEY VANESSA YOU'RE VIDEOS ON BODY LANGUAGE INCLUDING HOW TO TALK TO ANYONE. AND I HAVE LEARNT. THOUGH VIDEOS. ALMOST FORGOT HOW ARE YOU.

@janna_tammar 3 жыл бұрын

How can I translate these to my language so they won't be strange?

@francish5401 Жыл бұрын

Do you have a book on about conversations

@ScienceOfPeople Жыл бұрын

I actually have a whole course on conversations! It's called Conversation Mastery: www.scienceofpeople.com/training/conversation-mastery-communicate-with-confidence/ We also have a bunch of free articles on our site relating to conversation starters, such as this one: www.scienceofpeople.com/open-ended-questions/ I hope that's helpful! :)

@francish5401 Жыл бұрын

I find your work is outstanding and easy to follow keep up the good work from Francis in Dublin. In Rep of Ireland._ I subscribed to all channels from on tude.

@Papuca3000 5 ай бұрын

Thanks for reminding me I don't have a meaningful life 😅

@nikoknezevic188 4 жыл бұрын

Nice dress. :)

@DAClub-uf3br 7 ай бұрын

If someone is going to ask me to tell them about myself I am going to ask why. My life is a large subject and i will need to narrow it down to something specific or i will talk for hours.

@underworldfilms86 Жыл бұрын

Summary: Ask open ended questions!!!

@aj8635 3 жыл бұрын

I have used most of these starters and I ended up having an awkward moment and to be more precise it was with friends !

@Mis.skilled 4 жыл бұрын

What's your story? Where I'm from i think itll be quite rude to ask that.

@rockvarney3680 Жыл бұрын

Agree.😀

@miamisammy4020 Жыл бұрын

It’s important to use it in the right context. Read her book on spotting cues and choosing the correct environment to use this. It could be a generational thing, too.

@arenuzzle6282 Жыл бұрын

Then don't ask that

@petercarolan9416 10 ай бұрын

don't know where youre from but there must not be any irish there. what's the story and what's the Craic are the 2 ways to say how are you

@jau99 7 ай бұрын

😂

@nizasiamehenry 3 жыл бұрын

*25 YEARS OF MARRIAGE WITHOUT A FIGHT* A man and his wife never fought for 25 years of their marriage. A friend asked him how he had managed to make it possible. He narrated: "We went for our honeymoon in Australia 25 years ago and while riding on a horse, My wife's horse jumped and my wife fell down. She got up,patted the horse's back and said: *"This is your first time"* After a while it happened again. She patted the horse again and said: *"This is your second time"* The horse did it again the 3rd time, She brought out a gun and shot the horse dead I Was so shocked and I shouted at her. . . . . . . ."Are you crazy! What's wrong with you? Why did you kill the horse? She smiled at me and said *"This is your first time"* Since then. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . My Mouth 🤐😷🤐😷🤐😷🤐😷🤐😷🤐😷🤐😷. 😂😂😂😂😂😂

@maztivxplaz5129 2 жыл бұрын

Hilarious

@jonpowell4246 Жыл бұрын

That's the most mysanganistic joke I've ever heard. I would've told the bitch to shoot me if that's how she saw our marriage. But don't miss.

@magnificentfellow7481 4 жыл бұрын

🤤

@terriniemeier6578 3 жыл бұрын

All your conversations are based on questions.

@modmon216 4 жыл бұрын

So when i meet someone new i just need to say tell me about yourself pls?

@maneilva 3 жыл бұрын

What

@hairulamin9384 3 жыл бұрын

P 1 : hi P 2 : hi P 1 : what's your story? P 2 :.......

@chicknthewoo858 3 жыл бұрын

When I’m in a conversation my mind goes blank and i don’t know what to say

@Wisdomseeker1028 9 ай бұрын

I dont like most of these. If i meet someone randomly at party or work pantry, im not going to ask them "tell me about yourself" or "what personal passion projects are you working on..." those are loaded questions and seem wayy too formal for someone u just met. I am just looking for ice breakers or soft convo starts with folks i meet quickly for a quick chat at work etc I did like "working on anything exciting recently.." it seems like a normal thing to ask. Or "did you see xxx viral video?" Those are fun and light and not too deep

@alaa1602 Ай бұрын

Hi am working with u in the Same building but u never noticed me before...any way what's your greatest fear bumkin ?

@francish5401 Жыл бұрын

I can't bear being in a room with people who don't talk I always say nothing to break the ice.

@bridgetb9899 6 ай бұрын

I would hate it if someone asked me these questions 😕 sounds like an interrogation

@thebahana 4 жыл бұрын

The term "personal passion project" might make the question sound contrived and unnatural.

@za012345678998765432 4 жыл бұрын

"what's your story?" in direct translation to Hebrew, becomes something you say to someone who annoyed you haha :)

@craiganthonyhill 3 жыл бұрын

Are you busy No do you want the price list

@Sarah-bug 4 жыл бұрын

These questions are considered OK in America but in the rest of the world you will be considered pushy and obnoxious if you go around asking people about their ‘personal passion project’ or their ‘story’ (cringe)

@p4rzival127 3 жыл бұрын

I thought so too....until I realized people who I consider good conversationalist here in the "rest of world" actually ask these Obnoxious and pushy question.... which I normally don't have the guts to ask

@deathb3rry 9 күн бұрын

so what do u actually ask lol this is like saying smthing and nothing at the same time