“I barely want anyone to know I did this”, posts whole video about it. Absolutely love that energy

My arm is in a sling in the inserted clip because I had a tumor removed from my shoulder a few days ago. My nose and lip are also BRIGHT red because my son lovingly shared the worst cold I’ve ever had with the whole family so the skin beneath my nose is STRUGGLING. 😂

Hair nerd here! Demi permanent glosses, toners, and glazes don't fully cover grays, but they may darken them a bit and make them less noticeable 🤓. On the plus side, it did give your hair some nice shine!! Also, I 100% feel you on trying vs not trying. It's a defense mechanism and gives you the illusion of a little bit of certainty, which our OCD brains LOVE.

Grey hairs are notoriously hard to dye, so anything other than permanent dye will probably do nothing for them. A lot of brands sell dyes that are specifically formulated to cover greys for this reason.

The “lol Eww you care?!”🤣

I went gray really young. I was covering grays in my 20s. At 34 I was mostly gray and decided enough. I hated going to salons once a month for hours to dye my hair. And I hated doing it myself. I made the decision to grow out the gray hair. I absolutely love it!! I literally get complimented on it all the time. Best decision ever.

I fully feel you on the being scared of trying. I was savagely bullied as a child for being overweight. Mix that with having a very unstable home life, and all I wanted was to be invisible. I was scared to try or even look nice because i always thought people would think like, "Who do you think you are?" "Why are you even trying?" Just all the negative self-talk. Im 34 now, and I love dressing up and putting on makeup. That's only happened in the last 3ish years, but I slowly started trying to find my style and what I wanted to look like. You aren't alone in those feelings ma'am ❤ Sending so much love ✨️

You EXACTLY described the reason I don't put effort into my appearance either. Thank you so much for sharing! Your raw vulnerability is a breath of fresh air and I always get so excited when you release a video :) Wishing you a smooth recovery!

This is going to sound really weird, but the fact that you exist gives me so much peace. I can’t explain it. I’m not really sure how it works, but you give me peace. Thank you, Elyse. That rhymed. I love you.

"I'm not stressed, are you stressed?" I felt that, it's my everyday 😆

Sending you all the love. From one heart hero momma to another. Our kids are strong. We too had OHS at the same hospital this year. Sending you all the love and support.

I have had a few grey hairs here and there since my mid 20’s, (along my hairline as well). I didn’t notice them much even though my hair is dark, I think mostly because they were hidden by the way I style my hair. Then about two years ago (I’m 40’s now) I was getting ready one day, looking in the mirror, and I was like ‘Wow! My hair is so super shiny today!’ So I looked closer and it WAS so shiny. Because my new bathroom lamp apparently really made all the greys I had acquired without noticing REALLY shine!😂 My mom has been coloring her hair my whole life, and it definitely looks like too much work so, for now at least, I’m embracing the glitter. My friend said it’s like free highlights! I have a lot more trouble with having any sort of confidence when it comes to wardrobe though. I went to an event today. I even had bought a new dress for it. But I just hated how I looked and ended up with the fallback ‘jeans and a nice top’, because I didn’t want to try and fail. Easier to just blend in I guess.

If you get dye on your skin, you can usually get it off with some rubbing alcohol. Also, I always said I would rock my grey hair. I'm now 42 and confirm that was a lie. 😄

I’m 30 and VERY grey! We have similar hair texture and colors. It’s honestly been so fun growing my greys in

My first hair dying with semi-permanent shampoo ended up the same. I wanted to go blond. My hair is naturally brown :D bleach? I don't know that guy... It did nothing at first glance. On second glance my hair smelled nicely for two weeks. On third glance, I have stained multiple pillowcases and towels with the residual colour in my hair. It took weeks to wash off. My mom got angry.

So as someone who likes to change her hair color, at home, drastically, then just let it grow out because I’m either over it or get lazy. People care wayyyyy less than you think. I used to be worried about it but I started getting sick in my 20’s and I’m now disabled, have been legally for 11 years, and my looks have to take a backseat to my health. Now when I decide I want to do something it’s 100% for me and my own gratification that I get from it. When I feel well, I might style my hair and wear makeup. When I’m not feeling great, the world should be happy I put on clean clothes to leave the house. I started thinking about it like this- when you go out do you obsess over how every single person looks? 99.9% don’t. We are so focus on ourselves, our world and what we’re doing. It makes anxiety a little easier and it also gives you the freedom from feeling pressured. I dress for me and me alone. Make you happy, it doesn’t matter it other people don’t like it. Fill your cup. Let them worry about theirs and why the negativity is consistently draining them.

A wins a win! Idk what it is about gray hairs but I was super excited when I found my first. They’re like tinsel in my hair. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯.

Grey hairs are just wisdom glitter

I have a gray streak coming in and I embrace my witch hairs, I earned them through my suffering 😂

I love your videos. The anxiety stream of consciousness that so perfectly matches my non-stop internal anxiety monologue makes me feel less alone. Thank you so much for all you do!!!

This has happened to me. Put effort in and then nothing. Hahaha. I feel like trying ro help your brain is always a win.

I resonant so much with your editing interlude about self-confidence and why you don't try. I do that too. I knew it was self-confident related but never really knew why, but everything you said makes perfect sense.

I started graying at like 21. I had a lovely professor in college who was no older than 40 or so and was completely gray. It doesn’t have to be a bad thing, it’s what you make it.

Postpartum hair issues are so hard! Do what makes you feel good about things for now. The good news is it typically resolves over time.

I started getting gray hair in my 20s. I stopped trying to dye it in the pandemic and I have to say, I get so many compliments on my very noticeably graying hair now.

I really like how you don't try hard to impress anyone. You're naturally gorgeous and i really enjoy your personality as well!!🖤💚💜

I flip between hating my appearance and loving it and i responated with the "if I put no effort into how i look nobody can critique it because that's just how i look". Im sorry that you feel that way because the feeling sucks but it's also comforting (?) to see that im not alone in that feeling, so thank you. ❤

thank you elyse for explaining that issue with putting effort into my appearance because I struggle with it too, ever since I was 10 years old

I’m almost 50 and I didn’t even know such a thing existed. You’re doing great!

I feel the same about lipstick.... I just bought one for the first time.... (I'm 30) it was scary and I now know why women wear nude lipstick lol

If anyone ever speaks negatively about how you look, screw them. They showed you their true colors and they do not deserve your time and energy. If trying new things or dying your hair to change up your look, do it. If you want to do nothing and stay the same, do it. Don’t let anyone dictate what you do or feel about yourself. You’re amazing.

Love your shirt! (Also, I don't put much effort into my appearance and have never thought about coloring my hair. Just too many other things to worry about/focus on)

I have recently started to try and work on my appearance. It can be disheartening when you think you change something major and nobody ever seems to notice. Maybe I'm just not noticeable. Love your videos! Hair looked great at the end!

Age has nothing to do with when your hair turns gray. My oldest brother was gray at 14. No even in high school yet and was going gray. I didn't have gray hair until my late forties. Your hair looks amazing!

I feel so dumb not knowing you had a KZfaq channel 😭 I missed you so much on tiktok! This is such a great day now that I’ve found you here!!

I started going grey quite early and I definitely dyed for a while. But then I leaned in and now I have a fully silver lady Mohawk at 45 years old. Grey is 💪 Ps - girl you can just use some hair conditioner rubbed around your hairline rather than chapstick 😂

So I do not dye my hair but I use this every so often. I just like the way it makes my hair shine & smell. It didn't stain anything.Pros do offer glossing services.

I was going through older blogs. OMFG is Ben Rector amazing! I downloaded all his music today. Thanks for enhancing my play list!

You are awesome! You always make me smile!!! ❤ Your hair is beautiful just as it is!!!❤

Omg i have missed you on tt and then i found you on here!!!! Im genuinely so happy now

I absolutely adore you, Elyse! I've been really down and struggling with issue upon issue in my life to the point of freeze! Watching you be so authentically you has helped me make an effort towards feeling better. Also, i took your advice about ysing dandruff shampoo as a face wash...tah dah! My skin is so much clearer!

I’ve just turned 40 and have decided to let my grey grow out ! I was a hairstylist so giving up the colour was a challenge but I love it now and because I have no colour in my hair for the first time I’m getting it permed always wanted curly hair so hopefully will feel brand new !

I used to do the same "not trying" thing with school. If i failed because i wasn't trying, yeah of course that's gonna happen, i wasn't trying! But then, if i actually apply myself and can't figure it out and fail and it was my best effort? Ouch. I have gotten a little better about the all or nothing mindset, but also, the learning I'm doing right now is just for fun and not grades or tests 😂

I’m 6 months postpartum and my hair is finally coming back. Good to see you on KZfaq.

I am also thirty and in my post partum era of life and greying. I'm also in my crochet era. I love your content.

Your hair is and has always been absolutely stunning but I love the way you styled it in the end! ❤❤

U actually were ✨ glowing ✨ i think it made u look refreshed and rejuvenated❤

Hey Elyse! I had grey at 30 too, im 45 now and Its not really worse, I mean a few more than I had at 30 but not too many to pull out if I got crazy haha. P.S. You are always beautiful!

I mean, I think the bottle heard you when you said you didn't want anyone to know you did this...😆 But also your hair always looks great so like. Whatev!

"Same" about making any effort in my appearance. But - I started going gray early and colored my hair for years. Fun. But when I was ready to embrace the gray - love it now! 😘

I'm also 30, postpartum, and have the same hair color as you :) My hair too felt a bit more dull after having a baby, and I ended up getting a bunch of greys at the front of my hair. What I do is dye my hair with a semi-permanent dye - so its one that washes out and I don't have to worry about roots because by the time my hair grows it's washed out. The best one I've tried so far is Clairol Natural Instincts in the shade Black Brown :) It makes my hair look glossy, especially if I continue to use the conditioner provided in the box. My husband says it makes me look 5 years younger.

For future reference, you can go to a beauty supply store and get a cape-The thing that they drape over you when you're getting a haircut at a salon. It works really well to keep color off of your skin and clothing. It is also great if you do vivid hair color which tends to bleed a little bit when your hair is wet. so when you are styling your hair you don't have to worry about it bleeding on to your skin or your clothes until your hair is dry. I've had vivid hair color for a number of years now so got some hacks. As for keeping it off your face if you want to do it again in the future you can just get a big old jar of Vaseline. Rubbing alcohol can work well to get it out of your skin. but it would be worthwhile to try some micellar water to see if that is sufficient enough for your skin in particular just because it's a lot gentler.

The win is...now you know!!!!

I have that chapstick! I literally bought it back when you first got it! Also there's Henna! I'll come back when I'm done watching! Ok, I'm back.. no shame in your game, girl. by game i definitely mean you do whatever you wanna to look however youre most comfy! i will say that a good henna shampoo can be fun if you can handle the henna smell.

My hair also started turning gray right after I had a 2nd kid (I was only 27 back then!) I've dyed it at the hairdresser's for the next 8 years and stopped doing it after the immigration (because my language level did not allow me to explain what I wanted, and also, I am very shy). Now I've been flashing gray roots for almost 2 years and literally no one cares! Neither my family, nor my new friends, nobody! I feel those 8 years were a complete waste of time 🤦‍♀

I also use demi permanent die for my baby grays and definitely no one notices but I notice and that's enough for me

Hope you heal quickly and well from surgery ♥️

I have bad social anxiety and I’m the opposite when it comes to getting dressed up. I dress up in more eye catching outfits because I feel like if people stare when I’m dressed up, it makes sense. Of course they’re looking. I’m not dressed like everyone else. Whereas when I dress casually and people look, I start worrying that something is wrong with me when I thought I looked “normal”. I just want to control the gaze of others.

This is so relatable because today I went and dyed my gray’s at the salon and we watched this together lol

You should try the brand overtone if you want to kinda see what dyeing your hair would be like. Or if you just wanted a little umpf to your regular look. It does not perma dye your tub or skin (may look like it might in the moment). I think it would show up more than this gloss did. I tried the overtone in purple (on brown hair) and had fun plum color to my hair during the pandemic.

I’ve used Gloss for a couple of years. It doesn’t dye your hair so it doesn’t matter what color you use. Also, I don’t think it works well. I just bought a lot of it. Will try something else next time.

I buy “root touch up” for gray. Read the directions. You mix two solutions together in a tray that’s provided. Mix with the application brush also provided. Apply to gray hair area first then usually use what’s left to put all over the hair. Start timing for 10 min after all is applied. Rinse out. Do not shampoo after. Will last for weeks. Oh you can just go naturally gray. 😊My sister got her first gray hair at age 12. Now she lets it go and years later she has naturally white long hair and it’s beautiful. You do you.

I followed you on Ig and wondered where you went. So glad to see you are still doing well. KZfaq is not my normal platform but gonna try to come on here more to catch you!

Hiii I love your videos

I had grey hairs in HS! I started coloring in my twenties. When I got close to 60 I finally stopped. But now I look like an old white haired witch 🧙 considering ...

You are absolutely allowed to dye your hair or not dye your hair and to change your mind whenever you want. It is hair that grows from your head- it belongs to you, and doesn't define you! But you are beautiful either way, because you're beautiful on the inside.

You are a fabulous burst of fresh air 💗 Thank you for everything you are!

My salon does this for $35. I’ve enjoyed my grey hair, but I just tried this to see if my greys would look highlights. But I can still see some grey. But I do look a lot younger.

My mom grayed before she was 40 and i have started graying horribly. I keep my hair purple so i dont notice it.

Love you Elise! Thank you for making awesome videos for us to enjoy ❤

I started spotting grays in my mid twenties and either dyed or used henna on my hair until three years ago when I decided "IDGAF!" and let my natural color/non-color grow. I've used the coloring conditioners before and they add depth to my pigmented hair and do not touch the whites and grays.

There are clear glazes you can use to get the shine and body without the color. Sally's Beauty Supply sells them, and you get in the shower, wash your hair, apply the glaze, do all of your other shower rituals/habits, and then rinse the glaze. Start applying glaze on top and work to underneath your hair, I start timing once it's applied to the top layer of my hair because that's what you want to be the shiniest. However, when using the clear glaze it doesn't matter because you're not altering your natural color.

4:04, I think of it like, if people don’t like how you look dressed up, it’s because they may have a different style than you, but also you can use the same reasoning in reverse of like “well I think I actually look better without makeup so it doesn’t matter if they don’t like my dressed up look”

My Momma was turning gray by the time she was 20 and when she had me at 39, she was more gray than brunette... like salt and pepper. She has received nothing but compliments on her beautiful hair ever since she stopped with the box dye. She's the most beautiful woman and I know and have always known that I'd never get rid of my grays, because it means I look like her 💕

Giiiirl that is so relatable especially since my hair looks like trash lately due to grown roots😂 My hair is almost black so I get them lightened. I have now partially purple hair and partially deep brown. Doing my hair at the salon is expensive so I have been doing it myself since 2017. It is always so stressful for me to do it right. My hair is curly and thick but frizzy and struggling 😂 ADHD procrastination gets the best of me lately

In the words of the Trans Handy Ma'am, "You're worth the time it takes to learn a new skill!" Its kinda been my motto this year! Im 29 and have been afraid of makeup or trying new hairstyles for too long 😅 im q millennial with a middle part and curtain bangs now and i love it. That and i learned how to use liquid blush and found foundation that doesnt gather weird on my skin! I'm also actively looking to change my career to hours and a lifestyle that best suits the direction of my future. Part of that is also because of you ❤ I've seen you try so many different things from singing, new hair styles, writing songs, and all sorts of stuff. It reminded me to embrace new looks to feel more comfortable in the mirror because i had also stopped trying.

You are blessed with absolutely gorgeous hair. Most of your followers love it just the way it is. Please give it some love for us. (The gray's fine, you earned it) ☮️ 🌈 💙

“This is going to turn my hair purple” Me with a purple streak: So? 😂😋

“If I try and people don’t like it, I failed. No try = no fail!” You just explained my lifelong mentality to me in about 5 seconds 😮

Ive been dyeing my hair since high school but more recently ive been using hair glosses more because my grays have taken full over and I am hoping that it will be gentler than box dyes. Two kids and years of teaching have made my grays over half grey. Im 35. Ooof

I started going gray at 22/23. I had started coloring my hair at 18 and only noticed because I let my roots grow out a few weeks longer than normal.

As soon as I got a job where I could dye my hair I bleached it and dyed it blue. No, not just blue, bright blue. I only stopped because it dried my hair out too much over time.

I had NEVER dyed my hair until I started getting grey in my very late 40’s. I now have it done every 6-8 weeks, but I’ve never tried doing it myself. I will dye it until it’s too much to keep up with.

I had a teacher in 9th grade that was fully gray (except for scattered red in his beard) at 33. I dyed my hair once in early adulthood out of curiosity. I've never cared enough about my appearance to do it routinely (I'm not distressed by my natural color nor particularly attracted to any other). The advantage as a guy is that you generally only keep a few months growth at a time, so you can just lop it back to the color line at your next haircut.

Missed your face Elyse! I've convinced myself my grey hairs are just literal silver, so im just growing silver out of my head, slowly becoming a silver fox 🦊

Omg I’m 30 too, idk why that’s a relief lmao we’re all just out here stressed and confused with adhd

might not see it, but hair gloss is really good. it's almost like a protective layer. it makes it feel smoother and tangle less easily. so for hair growth it's a great option.

I got my very first gray hair at 15 years old, now I'm 31 and I dye my hair for several years now, it doesn't makes me feel old since I had to start pretty early, what was I supposed to do? It's just hair, it's totally fine

My brain does that too! I tell myself I'm lazy and not just avoiding putting effort into my appearance because being perceived makes me feel uncomfortable. If I look good and get attention from that, it's because people are shallow and not because I'm glowing with positive vibes about myself. My best friend at the time started getting grey hairs at FIFTEEN. I dyed my dark brown hair with dark brown hair dye in solidarity? I've also had a bayalage for ages so my hair was light enough to get fun colours in it, without having to worry about regrowth. I stopped doing that because hairdressers are expensive and I manage to stain Everything when I try to box dye my hair.

Watching you do that reminded me of why I stopped colouring my hair. Messy, smelly, exhausting, time consuming and after a few weeks do it all over again 😝

I hope you can embrace your grey and nit die. I am trying to grow out my grey at 50 and the process is very awkward, I really wish I had never started dyeing it.

Hairstylists can definitely give you a semi permanent color gloss for a bit of color and shine!

I just appreciate you verbalizing in a non-confusing way about feelings I also have internalized and then I also think maybe it is cause we are millennials? But I just feel like so many people relate!

Pulled my first grey hair out at 22.. it was 2 feet long sooo that had been hanging around since high school! As a 39 year old, I've learned to love my greys. Dyeing it is such an expense and I have a thousand other fun things I want to spend money on.

man i have also had the thought of taking color to a salon and asking them to do it for me, but at the same time i know i can do it myself and i would absolutely be so embarrassed having to ask that anyway 😂 i’ve been cutting/bleaching/dying my own hair for years at this point but i go through the same panic midway through the process every time, as if its the first time… its more fun that way 😅

I hope it doesn’t sweat off! Happened to me with “brunette” dry shampoo.

I woke and had trouble getting back to sleep around 4 AM. I started watching this video. I dozed off, when I woke again you were building up the layers of the dress and fluffing it about. I couldn’t believe the shape it was so silly! Thank you for that. I enjoyed watching it again later on.

If you did try this again, you might want to use the shade licorice. That’s more black, & I feel like it would be a better match. Plus it made your hair look nice & shiny, so that’s a plus! 😊

I had a gloss done before a work party at a salon. Paid $70 plus tip. I went naturally gray during Covid. The gloss really did nothing but make it smoother.

Your hair looks so glossy!! It definitely worked. Glosses are meant to be subtle and just add shine. It looks great!