This experiment may have unlocked the key to making friends

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@AnaPsychology 13 күн бұрын

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@Soulis98 13 күн бұрын

Next part: How to keep your new friends! 😃

@AnaPsychology 13 күн бұрын

I'm working on a video for cultivating deeper emotional intimacy, hope that one helps!

@Soulis98 13 күн бұрын

@@AnaPsychology Ty! 🙏

@user-ip4ko3yt2z 13 күн бұрын

@@AnaPsychologysuch a nice news!!! Thanks❤

@tanicwhisper0647 12 күн бұрын

This one please

@mollof7893 12 күн бұрын

I expected them to initiate every single time, I never intiated myself. That's how lost mine 😞

@stayhappylittlemermaid 13 күн бұрын

Learning to love and trust after you've been hurt is one of the bravest things you can do. 😊

@AnaPsychology 13 күн бұрын

Absolutely!

@a.a9021 13 күн бұрын

She said "go to the damn party!" I definitely am a person who will turn down an invitation to hang out with someone new for no good reason. Thinking of it this way is helpful, it takes some of the pressure off of feeling like you have to make it work with or feel particularly connected to the one person who invited you in order to have a good time.

@AnaPsychology 13 күн бұрын

I'm so glad it helped you reframe it!

@maliksmith9003 11 күн бұрын

Gang we not getting invited to parties out here 😭

@sashal6002 13 күн бұрын

As a socially awkward person this sounds so scary...

@mollof7893 12 күн бұрын

Indeed

@sanecatlady 11 күн бұрын

as a socially awkward person with social anxiety and abandonment issues... I second this lol

@philippeleblanc2953 10 күн бұрын

I'm having cold sweats just listening to her 👀

@justinrosado5177 12 күн бұрын

this is actually really comforting to hear considering my distorted belief that its rare to find people with my values

@LaciRae 11 күн бұрын

yeah, i’m more discerning than most. i’d rather remain in solitude than hang out with people i feel indifferent about. i need to strike a miracle.

@essoundsofsilence 6 күн бұрын

What values do you have?

@EverydayImmortal 13 күн бұрын

It always blows my mind when I click on some random profile on Facebook and we've got a mutual friend.

@AnaPsychology 13 күн бұрын

I know right??

@oxitocin7718 13 күн бұрын

damn girl you're like the new Dr K too many useful videos

@chiderakalaji7206 12 күн бұрын

Healthy Gamer collab when?!?!

@CoffeeCrashedMal 12 күн бұрын

Omg I watch him a lot too 😭 You're right, Ana posts a lot of relatable content

@viditchopra3365 11 күн бұрын

algo basically recommends them together lol

@butterscotchwm 12 күн бұрын

I've never heard of that study, but that makes a lot of sense. Last summer, I went to a random event on Meetup and one of the girls there invited me to go out with her and a couple other girls I've never met. I didn't end up being friends with any of them, but eventually I met another girl through her who lived close to me and now we're good friends. And now, I'm meeting some of HER friends and basically figuring out which ones I could also be compatible with. It's been a slow start, but it makes sense that the more people you know, the more you can branch out and see what their circles are like.

@Youttubeuser20932 12 күн бұрын

Not sure how this is "the key to making friends", as much as an observation about how one may be connected to another person... It kind of boils down to "make friends in various social circles, so that you can make more friends through those social circles", but that doesn't help with the initial part, and if one is able to do that, then there is no issue.

@marek9081 6 күн бұрын

Exactly 🤷‍♂ The idea seems kinda obvious, but I don't know how it can help socially anxious people.

@ninacael 2 күн бұрын

I watched this video when you put it out but just realized that I met one of my best friends through a degree of separation: after my mom died (right before new years in 2017), my cousin took me everywhere with her for a couple of months so that I wouldn't be alone. Her friend group was very gracious and they all quietly celebrated NYE with me (basically we just hung out, low pressure, no loud music) and that's how I became friends with her best friend. The two of them are no longer friends, but my relationship with that friend is one of my most treasured and precious relationships!

@NK-qw5vt 13 күн бұрын

My boyfriend and I met in Atlanta, and his parents and my parents live two towns apart in Germany. He's Italian, I'm eastern european and used to live in Canada. It sounds bizarre until you're in that group of university students who like to travel etc.

@AnaPsychology 12 күн бұрын

Wow, that's incredible!

@CrunchyCrispy-pt8yv 13 күн бұрын

I guessed 12, was surprised at 5! Interesting video. I've been ghosted so many times online and I am getting a bit bothered by how long this search is taking for friends. Well, hopefully this video aids my journey once I land a buddy. Thanks for posting. I am a big fan of your content and you are definitely a model for my goal to achieve a high education and be well articulated.

@AnaPsychology 13 күн бұрын

Thank you for the kind words! And yes, I sympathize with how frustrating it is. People can be quite flaky these days.

@arielhill5711 12 күн бұрын

Relatable :/

@nias3202 12 күн бұрын

Wow, so fascinating. I've never heard of the experiment. That's really cool. So I'm just six people away from anyone. Funny way to start a conversation. Very helpful to identify the target. I tend to rely very much on intuition. I normally lack the barometer which tells who I like. I feel an even friendly connection to anyone. I hate deciding on people. Even though I am often alone, I feel a lot of connection to people. But I guess this is only unilateral. Thank you for your helpful information:)

@vania698 12 күн бұрын

Thank you!

@steff420 13 күн бұрын

awesome video as always

@josephang9927 23 сағат бұрын

I don't think my issue is meeting people, but actually making the relationship personal and significant... It takes so much time and it may not work at the end anyway.

@Ms.2024ish 3 күн бұрын

This was called 6 degrees of Kevin Bacon when I was younger 🤣

@user-ip4ko3yt2z 13 күн бұрын

An amazing method! I'll try it)

@emmanuelleschultze6095 11 күн бұрын

I love this idea very much, my goal this year is to increase my social circle. I'm proud of myself for putting myself out there lately and will continue to do so while also considering the tips used in this video.

@Music88Rock 10 күн бұрын

Could you do a video on how to share information abt yourself and learn new things about the other person when creating friendships? In the earlier stages. I've noticed I'm really good at getting new friends to open up and asking them lots of questions. But have trouble in adding tid bits about myself which seem necessary for greater closeness. I feel like open ended questions are helpful for learning more about new ppl, but not sure how to self disclose (or even just say something abt myself) in the convo in a way that doesn't feel clunky. I feel like I'm getting to know my new friends well and they feel comfortable telling me more personal info abt themselves but realized I've barely told them anything about myself... so it might be hard for them to feel they actually know me.

@sergest-amand1164 13 күн бұрын

This looks so much time consuming to me... I have, like 5 hours a week available for social activities, that's not even enough to nurture all my existing friendships and dance as much as I would like, so I'll stick to what I'm already doing.

@AnaPsychology 13 күн бұрын

You do you! I will clarify, though, that I'm not suggesting you spend all your free time looking for new friends. This is a process that takes years for that very reason, because it's time-consuming. But if branching out socially is a big priority for people, then it must be treated as such.

@chandlerketelsen8702 12 күн бұрын

Honest guess: It takes 3.25 transactions for each participant to find someone they know.

@chandlerketelsen8702 12 күн бұрын

Actual: It takes 5.5 steps. This is a misesitmation of *just* over a factor of 1.5. It really is a small world -- The implication is that I can find any person I can think of after a finite number of transactions of words with people. There's no one in particular that I'm looking for. Should I, it would require a feasible amount of energy from myself.

@Debashmita-Misc-dd9sz 13 күн бұрын

Another useful video! Thank you Ana 😊 There is probably a bit of a tilted camera issue though 😅

@AnaPsychology 13 күн бұрын

Glad it was helpful! :)

@davidchs2821 11 күн бұрын

Wow! Right now I'm visiting Romania and next week I'll be in lake Como! What are the odds? And it's true, among the group we're visiting Romania, I'm the only one trying to learn some of the language, and locals do notice and are happy to help

@BD-yl5mh 5 күн бұрын

Wait…. Most of the packages didn’t reach their target…? How did that not defeat the six degrees thing right off the bat?

@MiguelThinks 10 күн бұрын

Two of my closest friends was made through people who were merely acquaintances. I'm super introverted and picky with people. So its definitely more possible than you think.

@alexablanc6647 13 күн бұрын

I’m wondering if the friends who you meet that aren’t perfect should be someone you feel good around? I know a few people here but even after a year I just don’t like how I feel around them. Should I keep hanging out with them?

@NN-re7cy 12 күн бұрын

No.

@williambaldwin9346 12 күн бұрын

You should do a colab series with Dr. Orian Taraban. Any subjects would be interesting, dating, general psych, society issues, etc?

@Youttubeuser20932 12 күн бұрын

Taraban is a run of the mill guy's opinion on dating channel. He loves to hear himself speak and make up analogies for things, that don't even make sense half of the time. He also said he doesn't cite studies because (something along the lines of) "you can find a study to support anything and a contradictory one as well", as if the point of being a Dr, and presenting yourself as one, is that you should be able to determine what research is good and what the current consensus is when looking at the best studies/analyses... He just uses his Dr title to get authoritative status, but doesn't act as a Dr., just a regular guy.

@grace.1123 10 күн бұрын

Is this what the Kevin Bacon Theory stems from? 😂 I always thought of it in terms of you can find a connection to anyone in the world within 6 people. For example, I have one degree of separation from John F. Kennedy because my grandmother had met him when he was a Senator on Cape Cod, so then anyone who knows me would be separated from him by 2 people. Either way it really can be a small world. Also, I live in fairly rural SE Connecticut so it's EXTREMELY hard to make friends here because our cities aren't big at all. ᴖ̈

@AnaYudin 12 күн бұрын

Beautiful and smart

@Karen-pj4qn 12 күн бұрын

Love the new profile picture!

@AnaPsychology 12 күн бұрын

Thank you! This was the photographer who also did my wedding photos in Romania, he's great

@williambaldwin9346 12 күн бұрын

How to make new romantic relationships with less baggage,, (kids) in your almost mid 40's...

@YourUpstairsNeighbor 12 күн бұрын

Hey! Doc getting sponsored! 🎉

@esther3396 12 күн бұрын

Can you make a video about forgiveness?

@bart1534 12 күн бұрын

I’m gonna say it took at least 2 people

@genghisgalahad8465 11 күн бұрын

It's a highly skewed logical approach and degrees framework. What kinda party? Networking or shared hobby? What are the terms of friendship and if it's simply geographical, what are the values of people's time investment? And goals?

@thebrinksf69 13 күн бұрын

I don’t see how to make friends when everyone you know moved away or the people you know you don’t get along with or they’re flakes

@chiderakalaji7206 12 күн бұрын

You got to talk to people you don't know. It won't be easy and it definitely wouldn't guarantee a connection, but it has to be the first step when you lose access to everyone you know

@AnnoyingNewsletters 11 күн бұрын

Since at least as far back as 2012 it stopped being 6 degrees of separation from Kevin Bacon and more of a singularity. In 2011 He starred in X-Men First Class as Sebastian Shaw, which then branches wildly connecting him through those actors to nearly all of the rest of Hollywood and to British stars. Then in 2012, he starred in Jayne Mansfield's Car with John Hurt, which further linked him to British actors and curved back in on itself through Doctor Who's Karen Gillian who was Nebula in the MCU. Then the Disney acquisition of Fox folded the X-Men films into the MCU.

@grk70s 11 күн бұрын

No such thing as friends only acquaintances.

@caleel1234 13 күн бұрын

How does this relate to the connection course? I’m thinking about buying it next month

@AnaPsychology 13 күн бұрын

There’s a chapter in The Connection Course on where and how to find connections, though this isn’t one of the tips I mention in the course, so there isn’t much overlap there!

@Fr33styler 13 күн бұрын

This is actually such a good idea, hopefully I can do it

@AnaPsychology 13 күн бұрын

Same

@williambaldwin9346 12 күн бұрын

HA , I guesed 5

@misaelortega653 12 күн бұрын

4 people

@lodragan 12 күн бұрын

6 - degrees of seperation - hehe

@mystery_guest 12 күн бұрын

Six degrees of kevin bacon

@kbeautician 11 күн бұрын

I like ideologues.. .

@charlie-jd3ls 13 күн бұрын

okay slay

@xionelectra 13 күн бұрын

6 or less

@LiquidDemocracyNH 10 күн бұрын

What?, a group of people you tolerate even though it's imperfect in order to meet people you really love and spend time with? You mean like a community? 😂😂😂 Yeah, we, we need community Anyone reading this WATCH JREG. Do it. WATCH JREG.

@elim02 12 күн бұрын

I guessed 4.🙁

@sprightly106 11 күн бұрын

Anna ti voglio bene assai

@xherobro 12 күн бұрын

Is there research on the type of conversations that leads into a friendship? Or am i overthinking this 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔

@megmuffy5791 12 күн бұрын

Really good at catching a cheater

@aleidius192 13 күн бұрын

Sto imparando Italiano. Sono Americano ma i miei nonni di Compangnia. Ogni motivo per megliorare è sufficente per me!

@AnaPsychology 13 күн бұрын

È una lingua bellissima!

@osakagrindset 12 күн бұрын

lol 20th century psychologists and their tendency to call their research 'rules' and 'laws'

@schmumlauf 12 күн бұрын

Me: *two friend breakups in one month* Dr Ana: I can fix that!

@kazzz2765 13 күн бұрын

It will never cease to amaze me how women select for friends as if they’re going to marry and move in with them

@oamahana 12 күн бұрын

Well husband/wife or friends is still people that will stay in your life. So you better choose them right

@justinrosado5177 12 күн бұрын

easy to say if you've never been backstabbed or pulled into heavy drama...

@anonimo5912 10 күн бұрын

Are you telling me that I am able to find secular vegan pro 🔫 monogamous preppers who desire to create a permaculture ecovillage in South America and that I'm not the only one with those particular traits in this World, and that I can find them within 6 steps on average?