Every single one of your lectures just resonates. So glad to have found you, Tim.

This channel needs to grow more

I was figiting and felt body aches while I was listening to this, it definitely brought up old, uncomfortable memories. I didn't turn the talk off, I didn't pause it. I'm glad I heard it and got some clarification on why I have certain thoughts surrounding past events, why I may have acted the way I did afterwards growing up. I have a lifetime of issues I'm working on in myself, and it gives me hope when I hear talks from people like Tim that are not only knowledgeable and informed, but also compassionate and aware. Thank you Mr. Fletcher for these talks, I'm using them not only for my own healing, but also teaching myself ways to be a good parent to the best of my capabilities and understanding to my own child, and raise her well into a whole being who doesn't have to spend so many years unwinding trauma and issues.

I came to this video out of curiosity about someone I know. After listening all of it learned a lot about humanity and failure, but also about hope. Thanks God I confirmed my initial worry does not need to be, but unexpectedly I understood a good qty of the population to which I was blind before. Thank you Tim and Anita. ❤

This is the real sex education which has to be taught in schools.Thank you for taking up this sensitive topic and delivering it beautifully.

This talk wasn’t easy to listen to emotionally, but was very important. Thanks for taking the time to put it together and thanks for creating an SA group therapy for survivors.

Yes this was heavy… but I was thrown when Tim said “f**k buddy”😂. I giggled out loud, and snorted! And it takes a lot for me to even laugh in my head, certainty a rarity to outwardly express amusement.

I serve in the office of Spiritual Healing, deliverance and Exorcism. This Pastor is graced by the Holy Spirit- he is explaining what I explain to many- as many cases I have stem from these open wound of sexual trauma. May God bless tbis ministry accirding to his holy will 🙏🙏

Thank you Tim for your honest talks. I was sexually abused age 4( or younger) till age 12 by cousins...jr high often got dragged and 'felt up' by several boys ( always too afraid to tell teachers), teen years struggled with 'weak' NO's/ led to promiscuity.... so much yuck!....married/ divorced/ remarried.... so many issues... Wow...I think I should sign up for the LIFT program

I can't remember ever hearing someone saying that they just can't feel the sadness and pain. I somehow always wondered what was wrong that I don't feel that either, maybe it wasn't such a big deal. But all the signs tell differently. That's so difficult and hard if a child that doesn't have much and there's one giving all the right attention, care and love but mixed it with the sexually wrong things. Thanks for your story Anita 🙏🏼

43:13 This is *original grandiosity*, the source of all narcissistic grandiosity. Narcissism begins with a traumatized person saying to themselves "I'M BETTER NOW". Since statistically this is preposterous, and deep down they know they are not better, they must become very grandiose in order to believe that they are better, and to get through the day. Anything that challenges that idea must be destroyed.

Thank the gal who was brave enough to share her story. My heart breaks for what she went through About this talking on sex. This was a really balanced view of the topic

Thank you so much!! I am so happy to have founded your videos ... they are so helpful even as such hard topic as CPTSD. I am looking forward to writing my story. Hope helps someone one day. As survival from a pretty bad childhood. When I hear a very extreme abuse story just like your client, I feel shame of complain or the weight has my story has on my adult life. The perpetrators of sexual abuse knew I was alone, and I wouldn't tell anything to anyone as I only had them, and my mother was a raging abuser. So between the two evils I chose, the lesser that was silent.

Wow, that story was so beautifully written and told. Thank you Anita for sharing it. I wish that it reaches those who need it most.

Life without boundaries is a minefield for those desperate to be loved. When it comes to sex, sex should be the side effect of a healthy connection. But we’re wired in reverse. But the outcome is the opposite. Sex does not lead to connection. Connection usually leads to sex. Now to figure out how to connect. I’m listening Tim. Thank you for your teachings

This topic has been so hard for me to face 😂, and I live in a community that doesn't have any support for the proper and the most responsible way of dealing with the topics surrounding this area.

That story is amazing and inspiring. I can't help but be surprised by the strength this woman has after her upbringing. My experiences have not been nearly as severe and yet, I haven't been able to find that sort of strength and determination. Her story , I hope, will remain with me and remind me that when emotions surface to the past, I can deal with them as I would with a child, with tenderness and love. Thank you Mr. Fletcher, thank you Anita.

When I was younger, I dealt with the sexual identity confusion. I thought I was gay because of what happened to me. I grew up in a very sexually abusive family. Only gay men get raped. Real men rape. That was one of the underlying beliefs in my family of origin. Since I didn't want to be abusive, that left me to deal with the sexual abuse until I was physically big enough to protect myself. Add in sexual abuse from my mother ("what's wrong with you?! How come you don't want to have sex with me!" Are you gay?") She would say things like that when I didn't "want to engage" in sexual activities with her. Accuse me of being a sissy, gay because men should always want sex. Then all the humiliating language they would use to shame me for them being pedophiles. The kids at school mocking me for being abused. Nothing being done about it. I couldn't fight back verbally because I couldn't deny my parents were abusing me. I'd physically fight back and be punished for it. It was bullshit. How an identity that misaligns with your sexual orientation or gender is easy to understand when you comprehend how much sexual abuse and incest affect a child. Society's unscientific view of sexuality and gender does nothing except sweep under the rug the pain of survivors of childhood sexual abuse and incest. It's disgusting.

Thank you Tim.❤️♾️💕

Thank you Tim.

¡Gracias!

Thank you 🙏🏽

Everytime you see that meme " your an adult now and stop blaming your parents blah blah blah..." REFER BACK TO THIS VIDEO AND THE SERIES.. YES it is YOUR FAULT your child turns out the way they do because no matter how grown up they are the tools they have in live is the bag of beatings, drugs, alcohol, sexual abuse, and COPING SKILLS you YES YOU gave them!

Tim - You mentioned plans to address BPD, and I have a question. It seems like there are many professionals that feel BPD and CPTSD are either identical or nearly identical. From what I have learned, they aren't, and I find it odd to lump them together. Thanks for the effort, dedication, and clarity that you and your team bring. You're helping a lot of people. 👍🙂

Hi, for those who become shut down or find sex wrong, and end up isolating too much - are you able to give some pointers on what might be a healthy way to explore their sexuality? I feel like I’ve lost all of my youth never doing anything “wrong”, hoping for a reward (love) for being good, that never came, and instead just find myself naive and susceptible - I find myself resonating with the stories of child sexual abuse due to an experience I had in my late 30s. Thanks for elucidating this difficult topic so well.

34:20 this is incredibly difficult to hear and takes me into a heavy revenge fantasy 😢 hopefully it will get better and solution oriented because i know revenge will make my life even worse, not better

This is how it was originally taught to me but it still feels so gross and cheesy to call sex beautiful and sacred. Which is how I know I must have a skewed perspective

Hello. Thank you for your psycheds My daughters are 8 and 10 What is the correct age for a talk about sexuality?

Tim... You're stuff is very educational.. to me it seems that people make relationships way too complicated to be enjoyable. Do you think getting away from Christian ideas of waiting til marriage and such are helping or hurting people?

For those called to singleness, you can live in singleness and have zero sex drive. I think some ppl don’t believe it bc we are so sexualized but you can. I know for me I have been set free from this drive completely. Self pleasure is not biblically sound and leads you to seek for something else more satisfying which will make a much bigger mess for you. If you are a single parent, you should stay single til at least your kids grow up. This is the best thing you can give your children. Focus on healing you and your children. That’s enough work and the Heavenly Father is enough for your kids. Trust me. Build that relationship and it will carry your kids farther than jumping into another relationship looking for an earthly father figure for your kids.

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I can't believe he used the f word....wow What about physical intimacy ..better word...

I don’t think anyone is born gay I think it’s propaganda

These stats make me want to take my kid into the woods and don't have family or friends😢😢😢😢😢

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If you really coming from a good place, why bring is here then charge for help. If we could afford help, or let me say, if I could afford help I would not be trying to heal on KZfaq