today was a win (and I won’t let my brain convince me otherwise)

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Ай бұрын

I really wanted to challenge myself today and try some thing I’ve been putting off for a little while! It might sound silly, but Trader Joe’s is a place that I’ve been wanting to shop at for so long. The thought of walking in has always intimidated me (because of a random little comment from a stranger like…11 years ago.)
My goal was to go inside, grab a few things and try new foods today! Ironically, I achieved everything I set out to do. BUT, the way in which it happened made me feel like I had failed at my original goal.
My brain is a liar and I’m just going to keep moving forward.
Anyhoops, please enjoy my meatless lunch with (as well all the childhood stories the groceries seemed to remind me of???)
Just keep hitting singles.
Love you! ♥
- em
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@amandaelle1462 Ай бұрын

No joke. Going into the grocery store and having a conversation with two whole people IS a big win! Being proud of those little things adds up 🎉

@scastellanos7923 Ай бұрын

I sparked a nice conversation with an elderly lady at the store while buying shoes the other day. There are still nice people out there! 🥲

@user-ww6oc1dr3r Ай бұрын

I agree! That's huge!

@KellyBr1968 Ай бұрын

After the Seaworld experience, you are entitled to any anxiety and trauma you feel forever.

@elyse_myers Ай бұрын

Hahahhaa THANK YOU

@imnotdead0987 Ай бұрын

I couldn't believe how intense that day would have been! I kept thinking "Really? Is she still talking about the same day!?" 1. First day of being a teenager 2. Going to Sea World 3. Getting your period. For the first time. In public. Without pads or spare pants on hand. 4. Stopping being vego (may not have been emotionally heavy but it also would be quite reasonable to think that that would have been a bit personally disappointing).

@ashb5733 Ай бұрын

My Apple Watch records all of my panic attacks so I hit my workout goal every day without working out most days.

@elyse_myers Ай бұрын

A WIN IS A WIN

@gablev6308 Ай бұрын

This is a such a relatable comment, the worst I had my heart beating was one day I had a balmiton class right before a big chemistry exam that I was very anxious about ( for context I started class at 8h00 that morning and the exam lasted 3 hours would ended at 19h (7 pm) and I take ADHD meds and the would no longer be working during the exam so that added to my stress ( you know finals))(and this balminton class from 14h to 16h ) we just started playing at 15h (3pm) and after a match or two I went to the teacher because I was starting to feel like my head a spinning and I looked at my Apple Watch and my heart was beating at like 240. (I literally didn’t even move a lot) I got to sit out the rest of that one We do be burning the calories tho!

@Aragedie Ай бұрын

I have POTS so same! 😂 some days it thinks im exercising bc my heart rate is so high. Nope.....just me sitting in AC watching youtube. Lol

@wordqueen2406 Ай бұрын

@@elyse_myersI’m glad you said that your Apple Watches clocks your crochet as a workout because I’ll be crocheting and 10 minutes in it’ll close my rings and I am always skeptical. Good to know!

@Coolcat2710 Ай бұрын

Hope you’re doing awesome you got this

@Skibbityboo0580 Ай бұрын

You know how after a really stressful day, you get home, take a long nap, and wake up feeling waaaay better about everything? Your videos are like a shortcut to that for me.

@lucascookson41 Ай бұрын

Same! 🥺

@leahzaloudek6978 21 күн бұрын

12 days later, here I am, doing exactly that~

@cosmicloverstarot Ай бұрын

Elyse, I just want you to know that No matter how bad my day is, your videos make me feel okay. More than okay - I feel less alone, like the struggle feels not only manageable but kinda silly. I appreciate you so much, especially on days like today. Thank you for sharing your life with us ❤

@ashleigh_marrrie Ай бұрын

I second this ^

@allisonvoigt2292 Ай бұрын

Big same

@janalyngraham1035 Ай бұрын

I hope this isn't weird to say, but I'm proud of you for going into trader joes. And I am so grateful for your vulnerability and honesty. It is so wonderful to be able to relate to someone on KZfaq. Plus, you are absolutely hilarious! Please never change 🤩💗💗💗

@Chooseashorterhandle2 Ай бұрын

That's exactly what i was thinking, it's kind of... Inspiring ? QwQ to me it's a bit of a reminder that hey this person struggles with a lot of mental issues and is defying them and trying their best to do better then SO CAN I!

@tinahairston6383 Ай бұрын

And you scored the home plate point but actually TRYING the food that you let other people "pick" for you. Well done!!!

@thistles.and.thread Ай бұрын

i feel SO RIDICULOUSLY SEEN when i watch all of your content. please keep making these videos and documenting the wins for those of us who have lying liar brains who are liars too! it genuinely helps me so, so much. 💚

@sherylrae Ай бұрын

you went in, spoke to people, let them pick stuff and went through the check out. that is many wins in a row, this means they are worth more a win with the power of 4...i live and work from home. don't go out unless i have to. If i could get x-rays from home I would. lol.

@zairabandy8695 Ай бұрын

Since where are you like this? Do you have so much trauma that you can’t leave home? Do you go on vacation? You don’t think you are missing things from the outside world? Do you have people that care for you and help you out?

@katieebabyy300 Ай бұрын

You’re such a beautiful person Elyse!! Never ever ever change!!! ❤❤❤❤❤

@elyse_myers Ай бұрын

Oh my gosh thank you 🥹

@NovasYouTubeName Ай бұрын

❤❤❤

@Court75 Ай бұрын

What a nice comment! I agree @Katiebabyy300. 😊

@katieebabyy300 Ай бұрын

@@Court75 thank you ☺️ I truly mean it! I absolutely adore Elyse and all her videos!!!🩷🤍

@sarahellenrose Ай бұрын

I second this 😊😊😊

@eburtis Ай бұрын

as a fellow lifelong curly hair haver, you should fully rinse out your normal conditioner - so rinse until your hair feels clean. normal conditioners aren't designed to be left in your hair and can cause build up on your hair and scalp. a leave in conditioner is meant to be applied to your hair and left in until the next time you wash it. they can help your hair feel soft and stay moisturized between washes. apply a leave in conditioner to damp hair before you apply any styling products. finally, a deep conditioning treatment or hair mask should be left in for as long as the instructions say, and then rinsed out completely. if not fully rinsed out, they can leave your hair feeling greasy or limp since they're more concentrated than normal conditoners or leave ins. i love talking about curly hair care so i hope this is helpful 💖

@BVoshol Ай бұрын

But, if you want to leave in your normal conditioner, there are conditioners that can be used as a standard conditioner and a leave-in. Now, for my super fine hair, that type of conditioner doesn't work well, but they do exist!

@marabanara Ай бұрын

If you follow Curly Girl Method (using approved products or ones following the same principles), you absolutely can and often MUST leave some in. The thing is, this method uses much more water. So the left-in product is also leaving in lots of water.

@myblueheather8240 Ай бұрын

This is not a story about failing at anything. ❤ Sensory overload is real, especially with neurospicy folks like us. Modifying and adapting for your needs is good self care. If a shorter trip in TJ's is what suited you best at that time, that's actually a successful thing. You just have to look at it through the right lens, you deserve to have your sensory needs met and just because other folks made us think we had to conform to their idea of typical doesn't mean that was true. We get to embrace ourselves and modify as much as we need to now. That's self care, baby. And the shopper and clerk who were giving you ideas and gifting you an item? That's the only way they could think to say "I like you for you. You're awesome!" ❤

@auntkaz815 Ай бұрын

Neurospicy. I like that!

@zairabandy8695 Ай бұрын

Why all of you neurospicy people gather around and make a community just with people like you. You build your own little supermarket, your own companies and then you would feel so much nice with everyone being the same. No one would judge you and every store would be adapted to you. I think is a good idea. Make your own little world just with ND families.

@videomaker1289 Ай бұрын

I love watching your videos because of how authentically and openly mentally ill you are. Lol. But I say that as someone who is also! But I really put a lot of pressure on myself to hide it. It's nice seeing someone not hide it and talk about it.

@elyse_myers Ай бұрын

I’m in the process of learning how to be neutral about what I struggle with and just let it be instead of trying to crush it deep down and hide it from myself and others. I think trying to form a neutral relationship with my own self has been a really healthy experience for me! It’s really really hard!

@serena5472 Ай бұрын

My favorite part of Fridays!

@elyse_myers Ай бұрын

this is so nice 🥹

@woirm Ай бұрын

Trader Joe’s as a ‘thrifting’ experience of grocery shopping is so so true I get so stressed if I’m trying to do actual grocery shopping there because they never have what I need, but the stuff they do have is great!

@sallyjordan4869 Ай бұрын

I think your trip was a triumph! When I have a panic attack, my throat closes up and I feel gaggy and can’t talk to anyone. That you had amiable conversations and got some delicious new things to eat and stayed long enough to buy them is amazing. And *you’re* amazing.

@ImNotReallyAWaitress Ай бұрын

I totally agree! TJ is not a normal grocery store. I think they are a snack store. They never have everything you need to for a complete meal or even a full week.... but they will have definitely have SOME of what you need.

@stephanieblood1782 Ай бұрын

Your video topics are all so different but all of them are so comforting and I have been absolutely living for them. I am so happy to to see another video!!

@somethingwitty4891 Ай бұрын

I love these videos!!!!! There are so many people in the world who’s brain lies to them and it’s so important to show you are not alone and you can question your anxiety thoughts, and that small victories are still victories!

@bloodysweetzombiegirl Ай бұрын

Do you have any idea of how relatable you are? Like, I want to cry…but happy cry. Thank you for being you, I know how difficult that can be sometimes, but I’m truly grateful for your posts. 😊

@jenniferk8273 Ай бұрын

Good job at standing up to your brain. We are re-writing lifelong scripts that don't serve us. Keep giving yourself grace and trying new things. TJs a is great place to try new yummy things! I have such empathy for you because I relate.❤❤

@lisaseidel2606 Ай бұрын

Omgggggggggg that period story totally explains your anxiety!!!

@elyse_myers Ай бұрын

RIGHT?! 😂

@TheTaradactyl7399 Ай бұрын

I laughed in a horrified way listening to it 🤣 😭

@saraphillips5743 14 күн бұрын

Horror. Yes. That’s TERRIBLE. I have some pretty awful early period day memories that I’ve tried hard to never ever think about again but damn. I’m sorry.

@ropegirlz Ай бұрын

Don't ask my why i know this, but shampoo opens up the 'hair' and Conditioner closes it again. So, shampoo knocks on the door and opens it, and conditioner is the sweet person who closes it again after everyone is out again.

@snoozyq9576 29 күн бұрын

You probably just heard it somewhere thats how I knew this

@BlessedJess Ай бұрын

Thank you for voicing the thoughts I have in my head on a daily basis. I always thought I was alone. You rocked today! 👏🏻

@sarahmalinowski572 22 күн бұрын

This is the first video of yours I’ve watched and I have never felt more seen. Thank you for making this kind of simple content and being open and honest about what you’re thinking and feeling throughout a typical day. Watching you talk kindly to yourself and accepting yourself where you’re at was a beautiful reminder. ❤

@johnturner2649 Ай бұрын

I love this!!! “My brain was like hey, I heard you were nervous. Would you like more to think about? I can give it to you-actually I’m not even gonna wait. I’m just going to give it to you. Here you go.”

@morgan_williams Ай бұрын

I 10/10 always get SO OVERSTIMULATED at Trader Joe’s. Usually starts in the parking lot 😅😅

@elyse_myers Ай бұрын

I forgot that it’s just like one big room and a bunch of people running into each other! 😂

@morgan_williams Ай бұрын

@@elyse_myers and you have no idea which way you’re supposed to go down each aisle, and there is barely enough room for two carts…it’s a madhouse every time.

@zairabandy8695 Ай бұрын

Then why got here? Why not go to just a little store in your neighborhood?

@zairabandy8695 Ай бұрын

Or just do online shopping?

@morgan_williams Ай бұрын

@@zairabandy8695 some of the stuff you can get is unique to them, and it can be fun to buy different things :) I rarely go, and usually get my groceries delivered, especially now that I have children.

@eacomedy Ай бұрын

Trader joes stresses me out because its like being on the moving belt of an assembly line and if you stop to look at something for too long (aka more than 12 seconds) you are now an OBSTACLE which as someone who always feels they are too large/in the wrong spot/bothering ppl, this is AWFUL FEELING. So I hear you.

@rosenelehman2883 Ай бұрын

First of all your tee shirt is wildly awesome. Thank you for making me not feel like I’m the only one who has to fight my own brain to navigate life. I’m not the only one who has to fight through tasks that others don’t even think about doing. -I’m jumping hurdles while others are jogging leisurely around the track.

@madmommy Ай бұрын

Because I have so much anxiety shopping around lots of people, I have decided this is the only way I will now approach Trader Joe's. Go in, get opinions, place objects in cart. Folks in Nebraska are SO nice (Nebraska Nice, it's a real thing) that this totally works! Hope you didn't get any of that baseball-sized hail, we missed it by literally a mile.

@MikhilaMcDaid Ай бұрын

Ohh, Elyse! You are my very favourite person and I have never heard anyone articulate the need to be diagnosed with something that’s theoretically of no significance better. It’s exactly how I felt about being diagnosed with ADHD at 38. I needed that validation and I needed to feel BELIEVED. You have very much found your people online and we don’t find you annoying .. even a little bit ♥️

@TheJourneyToHomestead Ай бұрын

So many people probably said this but this is 100% a win, you went in, talked to two people and bought some items! Congratulations 🎉🎉

@marianne-p Ай бұрын

Thank you for normalizing panic attacks and anxiety. I agree it's a win. You went in to TJ's and got stuff. Exposure therapy (little exposure at a time) helps a lot aka learning to be okay with the discomfort. You've done so well and it's very relatable for me. ❤

@GrannyBeth2 Ай бұрын

You went AND people not only didn't tell you that you shouldn't be there, but they loved you being there - they even gave you stuff for free in gratitude for being there!!!!!!!

@oldasyouromens 27 күн бұрын

This is my favorite thing about the thrift store - bringing a bunch of friends, getting some things we need, and getting cool stuff.

@pattinoe8372 Ай бұрын

Years ago a guy coworker asked me if I used to be fat cause lots of people with thick ankles used to be fat! Well I was a chunky baby but weren't we all? Naturally I focused on the thick ankles and not that he didn't consider me fat. And as you see I still remember that comment. Its hard to forget those comments people say without thinking. I totally get your Trader Joe "thing."

@arkieda Ай бұрын

I now weigh a lot more than I used to, but my ankles and wrists are still as small and bony as ever - just goes to show how much that dude knew 😅

@cloudsn Ай бұрын

My ankles are huge and have been huge since my mid-teens and I've never been overweight. My mom's ankles are like that too. I'm a small/medium or 2/4/6, but I can't wear any boots. Not even extra wide calf boots. I've brought it up to doctors and apparently nothing's wrong with me that would cause it. I think the moral of this is to be really careful making comments about appearance because you never know what sticks in someone's brain.

@amberpineau1616 Ай бұрын

You're seriously the realest, and I love it so much. "I could easy google, but I"m not going to.." LOL. Me.

@BallroomJenni Ай бұрын

When I crochet or roll my yarn into a ball my apple watch thinks I am using an elliptical 😂

@elyse_myers Ай бұрын

I love this 😂

@nerdmom6 Ай бұрын

Elyse you make me feel so good with every video, I’m 65 and was just finally diagnosed with ADHD. Oh my goodness period stories can be so traumatic. You are awesome and all us as your audience are here for you to talk with any day about anything.💗

@reneetaylor0 22 күн бұрын

I wish I could explain to you how much comfort your videos bring to me. I play your videos while I work or do house jobs and it feels like I’m bringing a friend along. Thank you for keeping my company.

@Court75 Ай бұрын

I also struggle with social anxiety and have driven to a store, only to see that it's packed. I'm glad that you went in because a lot of times, I will just turn around and go home unless there's just something that I absolutely need. Even then, I will often talk myself into going to a different place that's much smaller. I think your day was a definite win! 🙂👍

@jennifermcdonald7453 Ай бұрын

As a fellow former Californian who almost moved to Omaha 10 years ago - I love to observe how you are adjusting to living there. And now I am re-thinking my life choices because there is now a Trader Joes' in Omaha, while in SE Idaho there is not. Gosh!

@implorapace Ай бұрын

Elyse, thank you for being you 🙏 when you talk out loud about what your brain wants to say or convince you of and you then won’t let it, it is insanely helpful! No one has ever shown me their inner monologue of how to talk yourself through these thoughts/emotions. I’m deeply grateful because this helps!! A lot!!! ❤ (please forgive my grammar, English is my 2nd language😵‍💫)

@lisakukla459 Ай бұрын

Your videos are having a real and significant impact on people's lives. You're healing hearts. I hope you feel that. 💛

@KimberlyGilbertDC Ай бұрын

2017 I did a play and during tech week, I went on a run on the dinner break, came back to dressing room and to my castmate vented how hard that run was and without missing a beat she said "well it's cuz you just don't have a runner's body" and continued on her way like it was NOT the most casually insulting statement everrrr. I went for a run YESTERDAY and that statement and her voice rang in my ears every other quarter mile...I feel you and people are jerky jerkwads.

@elyse_myers Ай бұрын

Oh. My god. I am so sorry!! 😭

@KimberlyGilbertDC Ай бұрын

@@elyse_myers BUT I didn't STOP running and YOU got inside Trader Joes. Doing the hard thangs! 💪😎

@b_swain 21 күн бұрын

I love your KZfaq channel. I love that you bring us all along on your day to day. Thanks for sharing your life with us. You're funny, sincere and real. Thank you for being you.

@erinmlaswell Ай бұрын

You do such a good job tactfully sharing difficult memories. It’s hard but healing to allow yourself to process memories now as an adult. Would love to hear you share more about your childhood, how it formed you (both good and bad), how you do things differently as a mother yourself, etc. Love your content. It’s so relatable ❤️

@calcabrinajade Ай бұрын

That reminds me of visiting my dad when I was 11 and my period came while there, on a day we were going to the water park and my dad tried to convince me to just get tampons so I could have fun at the water park.. I had never used a tampon, did not want to..and my gawd the anxiety that whole situation gave me! Plus I had to go into the gas station and buy pad.

@holyhiphopper Ай бұрын

It’s nice to see someone else give lots of details that might not matter to others but you feel important to the story and have like two or more stories going on at the same time. I feel seen. Thank you 😍

@PrairieDawnC Ай бұрын

This is what I do in the comments section. Then I edit for length. Then I replace my story with "me, too." Then I just like the post. 😊

@holyhiphopper Ай бұрын

@@PrairieDawnC nice

@lilannegirl03 Ай бұрын

@@PrairieDawnC yes, this, exactly!!! 🤦🏼‍♀️😅

@amckeon92 Ай бұрын

The timing of this video couldn't be more perfect. I tried to go to Trader Joe's two days in a row this week with my infant and had a panic attack in the parking lot both times & couldn't even make it to the door (Postpartum anxiety is wild). Thanks for being vulnerable & sharing your experience. It made me feel less alone.❤

@the_tay7 Ай бұрын

The freeze response is so real. I have terrible spatial awareness and always end up running into someone at grocery stores and end up freezing it’s so embarrassing but it’s either that or I dart through crowds when I’m anxious there is no in between with me.

@tammyr7282 Ай бұрын

I was have such a bad day, just chatting with you makes me feel ok for a while.

@elyse_myers Ай бұрын

I’m so glad you’re here 🥹❤️‍🩹

@SoCaillat Ай бұрын

As someone from CA, it makes me feel claustrophobic not to see the outline of the mountains on the horizon😂

@eleanoryoung11 Ай бұрын

On behalf of all mothers who do stupid things when we think we are being helpful….. sorry

@PrairieDawnC Ай бұрын

Yah... I need to ask my adult daughter to tell me more reasons why I'm responsible for her trauma.

@YouMeEvery1 11 күн бұрын

My mom is from Nebraska. I remember visiting my grandparents and my mom stopped her car on the side of the road so we could watch a sunset over the cornfields. It's a very special memory for me.

@lynnbertino4667 Ай бұрын

You talked to people. ❤ I cannot do that sometimes. Most times. I give you a 💯 on your assignment. Next time you go to Trader Joe's, if you get stuck, go for their chocolate. That's always a winner.

@rileyspizzo9080 Ай бұрын

Elyse you are so so comforting, I get teary eyed everytime I watch your videos because as someone who doesn't see myself represented often I can not express the comfort you bring to me. I always get inspired to start a youtube video when I see your videos because I want people to know they are not alone in their anxiety.

@mandylou2501 Ай бұрын

I’m so happy for your realization and positivity about dealing with your discomfort 👏🏼 progress baby!

@rslunwined Ай бұрын

Howdy, Elise! I really dig the longer videos. I've had grocery store anxiety at Whole Foods. Crippling anxiety. Not to mention the multiple-period disasters that I've locked away. I'll have to take them out and dust them off. Anyhoo, Thank you for being here and making me feel normal. I'm a 56-year-old woman, and I love that I can learn so much from you. I can't wait to read whatever you're writing. You brighten my day :-)

@SonjaDavies-tg7um 29 күн бұрын

Your Sauna thing and humidity makes perfect sense. I live with a chronic pain condition but love getting tattoos because it's a pain I choose. It's therapeutic.

@roxiecavanaugh7578 Ай бұрын

I was at an AirForce base store looking for the newest Barbie doll. They would take your old doll and trade it (for a price) for the newest one. I was squatted down looking at the Barbies on the bottom shelf and I stood up. My mother never had a filter. I do not think her brain and mouth were connected in any way, shape or form. As I stood up, my mother said in her loud mother voice "Oh look, Roxie has become a woman!" I could have died. 😮 I feel your period pain!

@lilannegirl03 Ай бұрын

oh my word, I'm SO sorry that happened to you! 😯🥺 was it a BX? (not that it matters, I'm just curious as I grew up Air Force 🙃)

@ClementineDaydream Ай бұрын

I relate SO MUCH to you liking the sauna but not hot weather lol

@elyse_myers Ай бұрын

Okay I’m so glad I’m not alone in that!

@TheJemmaGrl Ай бұрын

I joined a gym a few months ago that included access to some HIIT classes. The first class I went to - I was so overwhelmed. The music was loud, the trainer was loud, the exercises were unfamiliar to me and all abbreviated. I wanted to quit that first night. My brain wanted me to quit. To fight my brain and not quit - because I knew it was something I had to do - I tried to find solutions. I started looking up the exercises ahead of time (they are listed on the gym's website), and I would look them up on KZfaq. Then I only went to the classes that my personal trainer did - she knew me, she knew my goals and limitations. Now, two months later - I don't need to look up the exercises or abbreviations anymore...now I'm helping *other* people in class. I'm glad I didn't let my brain win...she is a fickle friend and she lies A LOT. We're always fighting about my desires and goals. Sometimes she wins - but it's far less now than it's ever been. Take all the Ws you can get

@rebeccamurray1993 Ай бұрын

I get so excited when I see you've posted a new video! They feel like my video calls with my sister. Also, you're writing a book? More details please!

@motiftheory Ай бұрын

I feel teary knowing how hard that was, but I also feel SO immensely proud that you went there, you found safe people that cared and helped and you were brave and vulnerable and that is TRUTH. Care as you recover and rest from extending yourself into new places and spaces.

@sarahleony Ай бұрын

12:44 😄😄😄 Geez, the entirety of this video is so relatable. “Do you trust me?” “Not really..?”

@lauralicata2548 Ай бұрын

Elyse i'm in tears because this video made me feel so much less alone. The things you were saying in this video are things I say to myself daily when I'm panicking and mad at myself for it. Thank you so much for making this!

@free2bme9797 Ай бұрын

Your t-shirt is from “the mountain” isn’t it? I have some of their shirts and they are awesome. Love it. You tell yourself what to do out loud just like I do…thank you for making my social anxiety seem somewhat normal. 🙂

@elyse_myers Ай бұрын

Yes! It’s The Mountain! The reviews are SO FUNNY on Amazon!! 😂

@tribeccalife Ай бұрын

I felt this deeply. Thank you for sharing your experience, regardless of the outcome, and for talking through your emotions. Thank you.

@nikigreen704 Ай бұрын

I did realize how much I missed your content from TT till I came and found ya again here. Thank you for just being you and being a realistic role model. Please continue your journey to find happiness and peace and letting us come along the way, as long as it does not take away from your mind and soul. ❤

@rachelina97 20 күн бұрын

5:49 Here are some things I buy from Trader Joes: - Chicken nuggets - turkey corndog - Turkey bacon - quiche - pizza! - any condiments you needs - ice cream, cakes, brookies and babka - the bread section has been unreliable recently - yogurt! - hummus with 🥕 + 🥒 - pasta and sauces - and more!

@rachelsnyder7120 22 күн бұрын

I am SO jealous of people who can go to the store without exactly this amount of anxiety. You did great Elyse!

@juliannaspangler 29 күн бұрын

One of the best parts of Trader Joes is finding new random things to try out 👍🏼

@ashleer29 Ай бұрын

You did it scared Elyse! We are proud of you! FWIW, TJ's gives me anxiety and I'm overwhelmed immediately when I walk in.

@MoNaBookworm Ай бұрын

It was a win because you didn’t back out. You are absolutely right, you did it it was a win. It’s only a fail if you don’t even try. You’re amazing and inspiring. ❤

@neelybolick7107 Ай бұрын

The Trader Joes I go to is in Charlotte, NC which is already so "peopley" all the time lol. But I can completely relate to the overwhelmingness of that store. Its a lot just like really any social situation is lol. But I really recommend using their website, I get to look at all of their great snacks and it has a grocery list feature that really stops me from being sooo overwhelmed as well as over buying.

@Evarisa99 Ай бұрын

I love putting on your videos when I'm just chilling, cause it feels like when I'm with my friends and we just talk about random happy or difficult things, but in a casual and supportive way

@jordanwolfe597 Ай бұрын

Can't wait to hear your next book review (especially The Silent Patient). Also, the best thing to get at TJ is the chicken broth--it is the cheapest store-brought chicken broth you can get. :-)

@ItsMeNanaD71 Ай бұрын

You’re such an encouragement to me & I’d like to say THANK YOU. I recently decided to start posting videos on YT & I’m not very good. But I watched one of your videos & decided to go out & make a video. We had a St Jude’s Home Giveaway where you could buy a chance to win a $565,000.00 home for only $100. I thought that’d be a great start. I drive around for an hour trying to even find the house so then I wasn’t “early” anymore & there was a line of cars there already to tour the home. I made a horrible video (it’s posted) of my running thru the house as quickly as possible. I was so uncomfortable filming in there & I could feel the discomfort of everyone else who was in there while I was filming. It was a bunch of uncomfortableness, but I STILL DID IT 🙌🏼 It’s been a month & I haven’t left the house again. I’m still recuperating. I’ve got a worse first time period story……but they’re both traumatic for sure. So glad I no longer have periods.

@soimsha. Ай бұрын

I rinse conditioner out then put 1-2 pumps back in and use that as a leave in. Your leave in conditioner is just that, you leave it in until you wash your hair again😂 Also if you want to deep condition your hair you can also use just regular conditioner but just leave in it anywhere from 20-60 minutes, I like to use heat when I deep condition. I have a bonnet that’s filled with beans (kinda like those microwaveable heating pads, but imagine for your hair) got it off Amazon. I love it! I use the same with hot oil treatments. Throw the condition or oils in your hair, plastic shower cap (or bag whatever you have) then heat up the bonnet for 1:30-2 min and put it on your head, when it cools heat it back up

@13that1girl 25 күн бұрын

Oh my gosh about the anxiety during crochet. Every 60 seconds or so, I have to relax my shoulders because I realize they’re covering my ears again…

@erisharlowe1270 Ай бұрын

That's funny - I didn't know there was such a thing as a spiritual doppleganger...until I literally saw myself reflected in your video 🤣Did you also feel the urge to cry-laugh yourself into a procrasti-nap after all this?

@lulumoon6942 28 күн бұрын

These car and tangential chats make me feel less alone in my mind. Thank you EM and kind people.

@amyhermans8723 Ай бұрын

100% a win!! I’m so excited for you, you went in when it was really hard and talked to people and bought things ❤🎉

@stacimclaughlin6 Ай бұрын

Your videos are my brain!! I never miss a beat with you! I follow along and feel right there with you!!! You are amazing and d9nt let your brain tell you otherwise!!!❤❤❤

@mariahlamb2983 29 күн бұрын

I've learned the hard way to never go to Trader Joe's until like... they're an hour away from closing their doors. No old people, no families with children, no tourists, no lines to get through an aisle, just the small night owl crew getting some last minute yums

@rwedereyet Ай бұрын

Peak courage, for those of us in the know. That TJ person likely felt just as bad, thinking about the words that came out of her mouth. You made it home with new foods to try, and great stories to tell. Bravo!

@leahelizabeth471 13 күн бұрын

Such a major move going into TJs, talking to people, and eating new-ish food! I think most people (although my partner and I have some serious social/general anxiety too so maybe not most people maybe just me…) anyway, I feel like it’s normal to pull up to TJs and immediately regret wanting to go there haha but the employees are great. At my store they are constantly stocking shelves so I feel bad about getting in the their way but… they have the cheapest eggs in town so I have to Bob and weave. Then I just hide by the bananas while my partner does the aisle shopping. 8:30 pm is like the best time to go when there are fewest people. They close at 9 but it’s so much faster to get stuff and get out and the people working totally get it so I feel a little better haha anyway totally vibed with your TJ experience- your worked hard for this one, congrats!!

@abigailhald9361 23 күн бұрын

I’m so happy I found your KZfaq channel. I was so sad you left TikTok. You are a wonderful human being and you deserve the world. I love everything you choose to share with us!

@user-uu4ib2pb5l Ай бұрын

Today is my birthday and this has already made it ten times better! I absolutely love watching your videos and they aways bring a big smile to my face! Thank you so much! :)

@PrairieDawnC Ай бұрын

Happy Birthday! I hope you do something to make it special.

@JaneDoe-xm9wz Ай бұрын

I love these videos. Like having a convo with a friend who gets my weird brain stuff. Thank you!

@paigebutler5721 Ай бұрын

It’s really cool u can acknowledge u were overwhelmed. That’s a win. It happens to me too. I get hit with the wall of over stimulation and shut down but I get it. Sending positive energy to u

@janelleelizabeth Ай бұрын

Oh man as much as I’m sorry you had a panic attack it’s so nice to see that grocery stores can affect people like they affect me. I’m so sorry it was hard but you totally did it!

@siobhanmacleod7957 Ай бұрын

When I got my period the first time it was late morning on a school day. I called my mom, she had my brother drop off stuff to the front office. He brought me tampons, O.B. brand, the ones without the applicator. 😂 That was the most uncomfortable school day.

@sherryguitard4551 Ай бұрын

That was a huge win! Good for you!

@Julessa Ай бұрын

I’m so proud of you for going through that exposure! That’s a huge win! Go, Elyse!

@thereader14 Ай бұрын

Huge win 🎉❤ thank you for showing this. I feel less alone knowing it’s not just me that has this happen xx

@Factsarebetterthan Ай бұрын

You stop my spooling. Example: Right now I have Covid. I’ve been stuck in bed most of the week. But it’s also an intense time for my business so my being out is extra negative impact on others which makes me feel awful. I feel like I’m burdening everyone and could really put myself into a complete emotional and mental block over two more days of the weekend that I can’t make any difference. When you talk about how you put down barriers for your mental health and talk about your experiences I feel so much less alone. I appreciate you so much.

@ashleyharbart2092 27 күн бұрын

Trader Joe’s is hard for most people. It makes me panic every time and I hate it because they have the coolest shit. I appreciate you. You’re doing great 💛

@00juls00 Ай бұрын

Honestly, Trader Joes gives me a bit of anxiety. It’s just always so small and yet so many people are in there. And I’m trying to make decisions on good food and not just grab whatever fun TJ thing hits my eyeballs. But I don’t want to get in anyone’s way. Ugh. I hate it. So please don’t be angry at yourself for panicking. It’s absolutely relatable.

@mtbyam Ай бұрын

During my first trimester with my oldest daughter I decided to check out trader Joe's for the first time. I was so excited and googled all the best things to put on my shopping list. Bought a ridiculous amount of stuff. The next morning I felt morning sickness for the first time which carried on off and on for the next few weeks. After that I couldn't eat anything I bought and the thought of Trader Joe's made me nauseous for a few years before I was able to try it out again.