Bô Mập Channel That is called IKIGAI. 😂 So jealous of her she found her IKIGAI

Thuc Nguyen i wouldn’t call it a soft skill, it makes it sound like it means less by calling it soft. Just call it a skill. Which it is, being able to maintain a tidy lifestyle is a skill especially when it’s so rare to come by.

Or more like she leveraged her "soft" skill(s) into a very fulfilling (and lucrative) career! One with virtually no guilt of any sort.

Agree. Moreover she is well mannered. When she helps families decluttering their home, she never criticizes or judges their mess. So people, take her technique or leave it but pay some respect.

Surely no one could disrespect this smart, life empowering lady? I love her concepts about everything deserving our appreciation & being more mindful. What a great blessing she has bought to people, especially many of us who have ADHD/ADD & have a great deal of hardship being more organised. Thankyou 🌹

I don't think anyone is beyond criticism, the motivation and presentation is another issue.

Even then, you can find items that are practical and spark joy. I own some items that too people are just said item that does the job but for me I love. Either because of how smoothly it runs, or the design.

@@newtonj1460 totally agree. There is so much stuff out there that is not up to the job it is supposed to do. When I find something that actually works and works well, it sparks tons of joy and peace of mind.

I binge watched her series today, and if I weren't sick, I'd be yanking out my clothes and piling them right now! 😁

congrats! enjoy your new life haha 💕 i wanna do it too, and have been binge-watching her vids and now im pretty hyped to do it! do u have any tips for me? :)

ice cream if you can listen to some music or watch some tv because it gets SUPER boring😂 you’ll feel super proud after you do it though. Oh and don’t forget to only keep things that spark joy 😜

@@helena5118 haha I'll keep that in mind, thanks 💗

I tackled my dresser drawers with this method. Tomorrow, on to the closet.

Send help! My room is a nightmare

It's pretty interesting how gratitude affects you. I don't think inanimate things care if you thank them, but it's the attitude of appreciating your things that makes a huge difference.

When you rank things and let them go , it makes them much more easy to let it go and you really don’t fell sad for letting it go but you fell relief

I did that with my ex.

Same with Exes

Well I do that without knowing about it as I feel that the notebook/cloth item has been used by me and I enjoyed it so even it is a non living item why not declare that we are thankful about using it during the previous period of time?. Sure if anyone will hear me will think that something is wrong with me.

That's one of my favorite all-time shows, just watched the series again recently (I think it's still on Netflix). :-)

Emily: Marie Kondo, do you know her? Lorelai: No E: She's Japanese L: Ok... E: So do you know her? L: You said she's Japanese? E: Yes L: E: L: L: No.

Thanks for clarifying that. It is an oft repeated and totally erroneous criticism of her statement. She said that she keeps 30 books that spark joy for her. She did not state that others should be limited to that same number. What sparks joy is unique to each person.

Did it spark joy

I've started!

I'm going to need another box for clothing donations

That sounds great.. Which country's tradition is this??

@@oshins4524 it's Albania. This is a tradition coming from far ancestry. When we were Illyrians and still pagans (believed in many gods and god of the sun was one of them).

@@mirelasemanjakuoh ok.. thank you for answering.. 😊

She IS Contagious... you can FEEL how joyful She IS! : )

Faith Rada she seems nice 🙂

So it sparked joy then 😉🌻

lovingreds I suppose it did

I have a duster in the shape of a hedgehog. It brings me great joy.

Get the can opener that cuts the top instead of the can. That sparks joy when you use it compared to a standard one.

Both are true. You can replace simple things with ones that bring you joy, but according to her books what they have said is correct. She advises "showering with praise" the items that are essential but don't bring joy, which will help you realise their worth (and the indirect joy they bring, since life would be difficult without them). I personally aim to buy or even replace items so that the ones I have bring me joy, but it isn't practical to do it with every single item you have, not to mention the financial and environmental impact of doing so. P.S. Yes I do donate where possible, but donating responsibly - e.g. items that can actually be rehomed/resold - means that sometimes your old version will need to be thrown away.

Get rid of the junk and surround yourself with items that spark joy.

I would say the outcome of using these things spark joy for you. Like your mop, after using it, the floors are clean and that makes you happy

lazyengineer85 Monica geller could have used the konmari method since she had that entire closet of crap

That good info, but people nowadays really shopaholic, no wonder their life can't be happy cus flooded with buyed items that never used. It give negative aura to their life

People do not realize that sometimes little things can bring joy because they take them for granted. I have artritis and it makes me so mad so mad that some products are so difficult to open, when I found a milk that was easy to open was one of the best days of my life... it did not hurt me or took me forever to open it and needless to say that I will consume it forever. And as you an easy to use can opener is a gift and makes me sooooo freaking happy.

Surely it is easy to realise that most people are not accustomed to really appreciating their belongings. It isn't good, but it's the norm.

i feel the same way! when I move out and get my own place. i dream of buying everything in a theme i enjoy. like lets say i wanna get plates, but can it be doctor who themed? i would love to be surrounded by things that bring me joy and remind me of my favorite Tv shows/ fandoms. not all things have to be fandom themed,they just have to spark joy. even a wall paint can spark joy. i wanna keep my bedroom area subtle, maybe a warm toned light grey wall paint or nice darkforest green. just some calming color. sorry, i started to ramble. bye, J

@@tatikto yep, same with my arthritis hands, so hard using can opener & opening jars etc. Doing heaps of stuff. I hate those tins you buy, expecting a ring pull only to find it needs a can opener! Therefore no dinner for me when that happens!

@@juliakercsmar6587 lol, sounds like a great bedroom color scheme! You couldve written more,, like how you'd like your kitchen to be & your dining room or bathroom! U should start getting pics out of magazines so you can have a heap of color coordinations to pick when you finally find a home you want to stay in. Cheers from OZ Down Under 🌺

Thank you a lot for like my comment

I think superficiality is more a western trait, especially those in the media including social media.

Home economics should be in all school's curriculum! In Albania we have it briefly in middle school, but i wish it was more important and studied more broadly.

Kondo would approve of that! She advocates even treating bras like they're a pretty display, or arranging things so they have aesthetically uplifting elements like rising to the right or having bright colors in front. You look at the way people organize their drawers even of socks by her method, and it's very aesthetically pleasing. (In fact, people organizing their drawers in such pinterest-friendly fashion is one of the things that people who don't know much about her advice, seem to make fun of because it "seems" silly to them to make your sock drawer into a pleasing work of art). But turning even mundane areas into things that look pleasing to you or surprise you with cool things you like, is absolutely something she suggests. So of course, if your home is full of things on display in ways that you really like - especially things you collect that you liked procuring and showing off - that fits very well with her advice! :) Good luck with your personal museum, and enjoy ~

Most likely? Who are you to make that assumption? Your just as guilty as the first people who said it was a break down.. she is the only one who can say what it was or was not!

A nervous breakdown doesn't last for an afternoon until you have a revelation, as the clip states quite explicitly. This suggests an anxiety attack but not a nervous breakdown.

yessss and collectors too :)

Many assume this, I think because either they don't fully understand most hoarders, or the reasons behind the process she suggests, or both. The truth is that her method works a LOT better for most mentally ill people than a lot of other systems! And there's reasons for that. This will get long, but I wanted to be thorough, since there's a lot of misconceptions both about KonMari and about hoarders. Bear with me though and hopefully the information will be useful. :) First, misconceptions about hoarders: a lot of people seem to fixate on "you just have too much stuff you don't need" as the "problem" with hoarding, but it isn't - it's not the PROBLEM, it's the SYMPTOM of it. The problem isn't the stuff...it's the ANXIETY that causes them issues letting GO of stuff. Some people assume forcing hoarders to get rid of most of their "unnecessary stuff" at once is helpful, because the stuff itself CAUSES problems by its accumulation, but because the accumulation of stuff is only a symptom of the real root problem, making them go through that tends to prove traumatic and amp up the anxiety and just make it worse - which is why MANY hoarders, even most, backslide after such "efforts" on the part of their families or authorities. Because the loss of control, and the sense of sudden change beyond their control, just make it worse! Hoarders also tend to develop a sort of clutter-blindness where they stop perceiving just how much STUFF they actually have, even when it causes problems. They may also have low energy from depression or other conditions that make it seem like a monumental effort so why bother? Other systems for "cleaning" or "organizing" often do not work for hoarders and others with mental illness (anxiety, depression) for this reason: systems with arbitrary rules about when and what to discard that don't take into account feelings, don't work for them because they're ignoring the emotional issues that cause so many problems; systems that try to get you to do "a little at a time each day" are harder to keep up with and don't usually make enough dramatic change, so it's easy to backslide; systems that ignore the problem of storing items at the end, or try to just "hide" them, or don't figure out methods that store things in ways that are good for access or care of items, don't work around the issues with the stuff they really don't want to part with and how to handle it well in a way that doesn't reinforce anxiety and depression. However, Kondo's method EXPLICITLY: - requires you to gather ALL of a given type of item at once, so it's not chaotically piecemeal; this is a big endeavor, yes, but having tried it myself it definitely is less overwhelming in a weird way because you KNOW there's only This Pile In Front Of You, there's an end and a finish to it, a GOAL, all of which is encouraging and combats a surprising amount of anxiety and depression. I have ADHD on top of anxiety issues, and I found this method way better than piecemeal or "start with one spot" suggestions because it's actually LESS overwhelming and feels MORE like you're making progress. (You also get a better idea of what you actually have, when you're going through a whole category at once, which is invaluable to sorting it later). - shaking a routine up actually helps stimulate you (which in the right context is GOOD for depression, which is a mental pattern you get stuck in and need to BREAK to get better)...but importantly, the method doesn't JUST shake things up (which in the wrong context can cause anxiety), no it's actively INVOLVING you in every step, with an obvious and positive goal for your own better living arrangement at the end. This is a GREAT combination for most mentally ill people: by requiring people to actually think about how an item makes you feel or how it helps you in your usual life, and letting YOU decide whether you are keeping it or letting it leave, it gives you a sense of control that is lacking in a lot of other methods of "organizing" or "cleaning". A sense of control over the process is KEY to dealing with hoarders because it reduces their anxiety. - requires you to consider EVERY object. If it makes you genuinely HAPPY to have an item - not just reducing anxiety but HAPPY - then great! But if having a lot of an item doesn't make you happy AND doesn't help and you don't need it, or you have more than you need, it's much easier to talk yourself out of keeping it with her approach. Kondo's books even mention how she has run across people who hoard oddly specific items, like kitchen wrap, OUT OF ANXIETY for running out... and how almost always, by going through it logically WITHOUT devaluing their feelings, they do reduce their stock or at least learn to resist over-purchasing in the future. Because she asks them to ADDRESS THEIR FEELINGS, and examine WHY they have them. This is absolutely KEY to dealing with irrational urges like kitchen wrap hoarding, trust me. - teaches you GOOD storage methods at the end. For those with ADHD or anxiety (i.e. those likely to hoard) it's a great thing, because like, you know EXACTLY where your socks are, you know EXACTLY which ones are clean, you know how many you have, you can see it all at a glance if you don't remember off the top of your head, and the folding methods she uses are pretty good for keeping cloth in good condition and relatively unwrinkled and taking up LESS SPACE. And she is right that a LOT of things, from clothes to magazines, really aren't meant for being stacked on top of each other anyway, so it does keep them in better condition, which is a load off the mind! - And finally, weirdly key is that she treats objects that mean something to you as if they are alive, but also with compassion, even when discarding. This is something that a lot of people here in the West (where such beliefs are rarer) think sounds nuts, but even if you're not an animist believer, I need you to understand: HUMANS ARE NOT RATIONAL. We develop guilt over things for silly reasons because we DO talk ourselves into acting like there is more meaning or soul to some objects than there is - this is especially true if you have something with eyes/faces or sentimental value! Treating them like they're alive and worthy of compassion neatly works around this irrational impulse, believe it or not! Kondo's big example in her books is stuffed animals, the eyes of which ping an instinct like you're getting rid of a baby, but for ones you really only have kept for not-good reasons (e.g. it's moldy but looking at the eyes makes you feel guilty), she advocates things like covering the eyes so that doesn't happen, or UNSARCASTICALLY suggests giving it a mini funeral, which addresses the "irrational" feelings in a way that doesn't actually belittle the person who has them. It allows a LOT of people to let go of things they only held onto out of fear or guilt, which is a HUGE component in hoarding. And you'd be surprised how one can apply this! I recently had a bedframe that dated to my childhood that kept breaking. It was HURTING me. It was a hassle. It wasn't worth keeping. So, we took it apart and threw it away....but I felt guilty at "throwing away a perfectly good bed that served me for so long". Rational? Hell no! But the feelings were there. So I felt silly doing it, but I did what Kondo would suggest: I internally acknowledged it was PAST its useful point and therefore not "wasteful" or "shameful" to throw away, while also out loud thanking it and saying "goodbye" as I put it in the bin. And...dude, the weight off my mind! You can't imagine. Kondo's method, for the SAME reasons people make fun of it or try to say it's unreasonable, actually works better than most for people with "irrational" and even mentally ill thinking. I think this is a large part of why it's becoming so popular right at a time when people are so prone to anxiety - that sense of control and addressing of fear and guilt is excellent for recovering from it.

That is simply because this way of organizing and decluttering does not address the more pressing issue of the mental illness that is hoarding.

Maybe there is some shame mixed in there that they could identify with a bit of mindfulness but not sure

you shutting up sparks joy

@@amobymonkey you must have a very joyful life then

密寒和他的手机 If it’s essential, it is most important. Therefore, you should appreciate it.

👌

Oh big deal, don't bluff.

Because Marie is a traditional Japanese name? GTFO

@@dothedeed I don't know if it's traditional, but it's common. And the spelling happens to be the same as the American or European version, but it's not pronounced the same. Japanese names pronounce each syllable ending in a vowel using one specific pronunciation for each vowel: a=ah, i=ee, u=oo, e=eh, o=oh. So with Marie, it would be broken up as follows: Ma-ri-e. Therefore, Mah-ree-eh.

If she were that bothered by the pronunciation, the voiceovers and families on her own show would pronounce it that way.

Her name should be spelled Maria then rather than Marie.

Try to donate it, if being used by someone and bring you joy why not. I'm just suggest. Peace

Perhaps you can involve others to help you.

Reduce stuff as much as possible that you would not have to arrange much! That’s is the secret, I think!👌🏻

Every culture has its strong AND week points. I would say that Marie Kondo represents that which is the Best of her culture. : )

According to Konmari if it sparks joy you can happily keep it. ;) But it is more likely that you have more objects around you which support you and that are bringing you joy without you noticing. The gown is a sentimental item so it is easy to tell. But through her method you learn to cultivate your sensitiveness to what truly makes you happy or what is useful to you and what you can say respectfully goodbye to.

Kaleo W.D. That would be great. See this show advertised by Netflix on YT and it’s just not my thing reading subtitles and trying to follow her. One episode I watched I knew how to fold fitted sheets and roll towels! But for those ppl into it- go for it.

If you received a high grade for it then it would spark joy :P

I agree.

Yep... she's lying. I'll bet she has tons of clothes. That's why she doesn't let reporters into her house - it's like that closet Monica Geller had to hide all of her mess!

Wonder Aka she’s on the small side but totally true for Japanese women from time to time. My girlfriend is 4’6. Tiny. Occasionally we will see other small girls her size.

@@megazoned3973 Thank you so much!!!

Most of the time, yes. But not always.

Actually... THAT / Divine Formless Consciousness Manifests AS all these various FORMS ... for the shear JOY of doing so, so, in a way .. yes. ; ) we are all Joyful manifestations of "God". Because of the veiling ego many of us often FORGET our own inner Joy... we forget our Source, our True Essence. This is why those such as Marie Kondo are such a GIFT ... they REMIND us of our True Nature and real potential.

Yeah, haha. Should be Ma-ree-eh Co-ndo (Co like Coca Cola). I've forgotten most of the Japanese vocabulary I learned so it's pretty exciting to listen to her and recognize some words!

She pronounces most people's names wrong 😂

Lisa - the horse is out of the barn.. everyone pronounces it that way.

Paris or Paree

Her name should be spelled Maria then rather than Marie.

Los Angeles, California.

It's Marie KONDO... with a K. But then...she does help clean up our Condos... so...

It's just a change in terminology.

🙈!