This might be a little tmi so I apologize but I love Bellesa! Without being explicit, I have endometriosis and their thumb toy was the first and only toy I have ever found that actually made me feel good and didn’t come with an under pinning of pain. I found out about them through an ad read like u guys are doing and so happy I did because it has actually allowed me to explore my sexuality in ways I never thought would be possible. So happy you guys are partnering with them! Ps. I’m not sponsored, I promise I just really love their product and want more people to have the experience I had. Hope this comment isn’t overstepping.

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This!

We love to see personal growth! I'm proud of you! ❤️

LUCKY!!!!! Also, that's so cool!

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So good! Laziness is called leisureliness for those who are rich and can afford it!

Laziness just doesn't exist imo. It's like how everyone who uses substances is actually self medicating for something. You don't just DO things for no reason, and that's wild to realize. It hasn't fully sunk in for me tbh.

YAY!

I so agree. My parents almost made it to 63 years of marriage. They were in love and together right to the end. They worked on their relationship and it was such fun to hear them say that they were attracted to xyz. There was no shame in that nor were us their kids made feel ashamed of anything. We had freedom of thought and healthy debate around all issues. They worked hard on their marriage. But it wasn't a slog it was beautiful to watch and no it wasn't always a fairytale. But it was very much an equal partnership. Polyamoury polyamoury aren't always the ideal either. Today's polygamists while they may appeal to mans primal behaviour it ain't much fun for the women. The Morman version of shame definitely leaves a lasting impact I'm not Morman. But I do think going from one extreme to another and acting on our animal instincts may not be the answer and can lead to as much hurt and shame at times that the other extreme did. Cc. Ps Tanner didn't dear old Joseph Smith not only found the Morman religion on Polygamy with young girls etc but took other people's wives too . If I understand it correctly many have left the religion when they see that this revered figure was just a man who was pushing the boundaries and using God to blackmail and bully people to justify his own desires. Carry that on to the 21st century and we see the Warren Jeffs of our era doing the same. By all means release the shame that cults so effectively project onto members but in throwing off all the norms of society we should remain responsible for our actions and to be aware that people can be hurt as we break barriers and look for new ways to live life as best we can. One size doesn't fit all for sure we are a colourful diverse crew. Our views of society and family may differ but there is no denying that for some of us we have proof that we had good experiences of monogamy a loving family life and it can and does work but not without the people involved being equal being invested and not just giving up at the first hurdle.

Honestly, through adopting a dog and learning about how dogs work, dogs' needs etc., I'm also learning so much about myself! Its funny, when you give your dog oermission to have bad days, and realize she is exactly right and super loveable despite some "quirks" (i hesitate to even call them flaws or imperfections), it makes it a little easier to give myself the same grace.

Thank you for this comment, very well said and IMPORTANT! 💜💜

Relatable 🫂 afab exmo here

the sexual shame from the church is so intense and deep. I can relate to this a lot.

Same! I thought I was hypersexual or something because I felt attraction at all! Which ironically lead to the shame cycle of shoving it down until it manifested as bursts of uncontrollable desire/hypersexual urges. I'm so happy to have un-shamed enough for my sexual cycle to be regular and gentle, instead of swinging wildly between asexuality and nothing-but-sex on the mind. More than anything else I wish I'd been told it was normal to feel desire and attraction; that what I was experiencing was totally normal. Maybe then I wouldn't've spent an entire decade feeling like a danger to others.

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Shaming people is a form of manipulation. You are human, and there's no shame in that. ❤

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YES. LOVE INTUITIVE EATING.

Intuitive eating has helped me with breaking away the ideas of what my diet *should* be, which is where my ED festers. It shows me what my body itself desires

@@nyssalynn5216 Fighting an ED takes so much invisible work. Wishing you the best wherever you are in your recovery!

@@ZelphOntheShelf It's the best!!

@katie17330 Thank you! I recently have acquired muscles and a bit of a tummy so I'm very excited for what the future holds(unshame having a tummy! 💛)

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​@@ZelphOntheShelf Thanks! I can't tell my family this stuff.

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Ahhh that’s the topic of our next video!!! 💜

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THIS!!! I have gone through such a journey with this! I especially love how you put it: "can't tell where trauma ends and genuine kink begins" (paraphrased). I remember getting into kink culture (online) when I first left Christianity and being totally dissatisfied with "any kink is ok as long as it's consensual" and "kinks aren't a result of trauma!". I know these views have truth and are pushback against a shaming culture, but they weren't what I needed, because some of my kink /is genuinely from trauma!/ It's been a journey having to figure out what I needed with no guidance. Now I see how sometimes my use of kink was a healthy and necessary step in my un-shaming of sexual desires, and sometimes it was entrenching harmful beliefs/thought patterns. There's so much nuance. As someone who's been on this path and still has a long way to go I wish you all the best on your journey of un-shaming and of untangling your desires from traumas.

@@TeaAndCroissants thank you so much! and i agree, my experience has been mainly online as well but i have that same feeling of being torn because i don’t want to be a part of shaming culture but i do genuinely feel it’s because i definitely think my experience is very similar to yours where it is partially unshaming and partially entrenching harmful beliefs, particularly with my relationship to men. but people in the kink community, as supportive and helpful as they can sometimes be, just don’t quite seem to get it. i hope to find a sex positive & kink friendly therapist who can help me but i also have to get past my shame around talking about my involvement with kink because i am still surrounded by people who are still very conservative. but thank you again for sharing your story, and i wish you luck as well on your healing journey!

Tomorrow, I believe!

​@@ZelphOntheShelf that's the answer I was hoping for!

Ahhh yay!!

This week!!!!

LOVE THIS THANK YOU 💜💜💜

next is a Ram Dass binge : p

But cheers to the unshaming of KZfaq and all secular media in people who are the products of horrible Mormon/Christian/Religeous cultures that shelter and shame kids and youth! It’s seriously wild to remember how extreamly naughty I used to feel doing the most regular, fine things ever. The shame doth runneth deep.

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Yessss thank you!!!

specifically this video

But you know who would have loved it even more? Carl Jung ;)

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Next video is a Mormonism/Zionism video!

Really?! I haven’t heard this take before, I genuinely have loved their products! (I’ve tried a few other brands over the years and they’ve always been a similar price point but not quite as good!) Always good to hear varied opinions though! 💜