Story 1: UPDATE 3:04 [UPDATE] My fiance and I agreed to have an open relationship a year ago, but I want to close it because I suspect he is secretly forming an emotional relationship with one woman he's been s-xual with Story 2: 9:00 I (20F) pushed my (19M) boyfriend into an open relations and now I'm afraid he's gonna leave me Story 3: 12:10 Me [29F] with my boyfriend [31M] of 2 years not happy with our open relationship and his new "girlfriend" [24F]

So wait. She feels betrayed because he's sleeping with people they went to school with but she's sleeping with a guy she's working with.... wtf? Does this make sense?

I've never heard of anyone successfully closing an open relationship.

Every time I read a story like this, it plays out almost identically. The women are overwhelmingly the majority of the ones who want to open the relationship up, with the men either reluctant or outright against the idea. The man is eventually convinced and at first everything goes well for the woman, she gets laid a bunch of times and has her fun. Then she notices that *shocker* he is also getting laid or spending a bit too much time with one specific lady. The woman gets uncomfortable and nervous and then demands they both close the relationship, but most of the time the man has found someone who only wants him and not multiple men. Break up ensues.

I’m so glad people react this way to those who suggest open relationships. I have always felt grossed out by trying to keep someone on the hook emotionally and sometimes financially so that one can go and do whatever they feel like when they feel. Commitment comes with sacrifice and what you get is so much greater. Trust, respect and love, a life together.

So basically Girl: "I want to open the relationship." Guy: "fine 🙄" Girl: "... Nevermind I wanna close it" Guy: "no." Girl: shocked pikachu face

I love how she’s trying to portray herself as the victim when she brought it upon her self by deciding to be in a open relationship with other people. She has no one to blame but herself.

That lady really thought an open relationship would lead to marriage? A marriage is the complete opposite of a open relationship.

'We decided we could sleep with others, but would only have an emotional relationship between ourselves.' It's like listening to someone saying "Ok guys, this minefield is our camp today, let's play some ball, just try to avoid getting blown to pieces". When you set yourself up to fail, you can only wait for failure...

Open relationship that she proposes... then says he's cheating 🤔🤭😳

5:16 _”I reminded him that he agreed to open the relationship...”_ See the wording here? This means that opening the relationship was OP’s idea, not her ex-fiancé’s. She probably wanted to have a bunch of guilt-free flings before settling down and getting married. You reap what you sow.

I love this kind of stories. How oPeN rElAtIoNsHiPs blow up in people's faces. It's almost like loyalty and monogamy are the best for a relationship

“How do I confront him?” Step 1: realize your relationship failed once he caught feelings for someone else Step 2: confront him by breaking up with him Step 3: don’t ever do any silly shit like this again

1st story. HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA. You opened Pandora's Box and guess what - you cannot shut that box once opened

Story 1: HE didnt start an open relationship. YOU did and he went along with it to appease you. But he found someone better. Get OWNED.

"My fiancé and i agreed to open our relationship last year". Translation: "I told my fiancé that i wanted an open relationship. He didn't want to, but when i said that it was either that or i would leave, he had no choice but to reluctantly agree".

Fiance: I'm going to cheat, and I'll give you permission to do the same. Guy: You're demoted from fiance to FWB. No permission needed.

Story 1: "He agreed to open the relationship". Sounds like this was her idea and she is the one who determined the boundaries. Only psychopaths are able to avoid forming emotional bonds which says a lot about her and the idiocy of that rule.

I think it's funny that OP1 thought she would get some sympathy. Everyone saw through her BS, including her fiance. Good for him

" Play stupid games. Win stupid prizes. " This guy hit the nail on the head

What i want to know is why the relationship was opened in the first place. If you guys cant be sexually satisfied with each other than you shouldnt be together. Thats how dating works. Unless you guys discussed and tried different ways to be satisfied before hand, then you are pretty much just writing off his emotions as being nothing since just going off and having intimacy with others isnt going to work for both of you. By the way it sounds it seems like you didnt really treat him with the respect and support he needed, nor with the love he needed. If you truely love him then you should let him be happy because he clearly isnt if you keep dragging him down. What happened had he said no? Would you have cheated on him anyways? Then you would have broken up anyways

Open relationships are for relationship that have gone dead. Looks like the guy was coerced into it, felt betrayed, disgusted by her actions and now he found a better option. He needs to upgrade the side piece into main and turn main into ex. The only reason OP is mad that her safety net is going away. Good for the guy.

So girl makes dude do a open relationship then gets mad that he agreed when it blew up in her face

Everyone knows the best way to fix any problem in a relationship is to bring other people into it!

This whole video is gold. Ugh. It feels like it could be a pro-revenge video, but instead the OP’s pro-revenged themselves. 🤣

Woah, that last comment by the OP is basically saying : "The girl he chose as his FWB isn't anything like me, I thought he would choose someone who resembled me because that would have really boosted my ego but now I have to face the fact that other women are also attractive in his eyes." She says she's not jealous about her looks but even back-handedly insulted the FWBs cup size, the lowest blow a woman can go for. Oh, dear. She's 100% jealous that he finds this woman attractive and is in complete denial that that's what bothers her. By her own admission, she doesn't think their connection is emotional and doesn't sense any discontent from him either which means that whatever issues are present are coming from her but is too dense to see that.

Is it me or any time the woman in the relationship offers up an "open relationship" setup what she won't admit is she really wants an open relationship ONLY FOR HER while he is supposed to not see anyone else and just wait for her?!

I expected a lot of simps siding with the first girl but nah, common-sense really won out this time! He clearly felt betrayed that she wanted an open relationship, 99% of the time if they ask they already have a partner in mind so.... He found a solution to the problem, he replaced you. You reap what you sow.

I've known two couples with open relationships that "work". Every other couple that tried an open relationship ended up in divorce. When are people going to learn, it doesn't work!!

Story 1, you need therapy because you walked out on the relationship when you asked to open it. I'd bet any amount of money you had someone lined up before asking him!

These are all the same. A) Woman wants to ride the CC. B) Boyfriend or Husband immediately loses respect for her. C) She has her fun, likely with someone she'd been lining up for a while D) She wants to then close the relationship E) ShockedPikachuFace when she realizes that he's also been playing the field. "But... but he was supposed to be a faithful, monogamous doormat waiting for me at home!" F) He meets someone he respects and connects with or G) Has fun and doesn't want it to end -- after all, it's not like his official girlfriend deserves respect in that aspect now H) She wants to close the relationship "lol Nope." I) It sinks in that her position is now threatened: there is the very real possibility she's about to be drop-kicked to Single Town, Population: 1. J) She is either dumped so he can continue studding around or K) is replaced as a girlfriend/wife with one of the girls he was with that evolved into a relationship L) He becomes monogamous again with a woman he respects. Ex is left baffled, heartbroken, and alone while other people cackle at her. These women will never understand that all they're doing is putting a revolver to their head and slowly, slowly squeezing the trigger.

"I reminded him that he agreed to open the relationship". AND THERE IT IS. SHE wanted to open the relationship(I'm ready to make the assumption she guilted him into it) and is mad at the consequences and now wants to blame him

Once you open Pandora's Box, there is no way of closing it.

Both women don't understand men AT ALL. The moment they "floated the idea" they wanted an open relationship is when both men realized it was over. Men commit their time, emotions, and resources, as well as forego their personal dreams for a woman when they commit. "Opening the relationship" is a code women use with men when they're not committed, and men will withdraw their attention, time, emotions, and resources. Women are ALWAYS more expensive when a man wife's her up . And honestly, all he wants is a supportive and committed woman by his side.

Sounds like it was her idea, it back fired and now she's complaining

Woman: “I want to play around with countless other men and you just get to sit around and wait on me also you keep paying for our lifestyle.” Guy: “ok :(“ Guy: moves on Woman: “noooooooooooo this isn’t what I wanted, he was supposed to be my pay pig and nothing more. How could this happen to me” *you get what you deserve* hahahahaha!

Notice how none of the women regret opening the relationship, they only regret the outcomes. The second girl even admits 'she should have slowly led up to an open relationship, instead of opening it right away'. This lends credence to the fact that these relationships were doomed before the relationships were even opened. These women couldn't handle monogamy, and if they start again, roping in some guy to be in a relationship with them, they would inevitably cheat or try to open the relationship again after marriage.

I applaud the man in the first story. She wanted to open the door well have fun being locked out.

"Thank you for belittling my problems because you don't agree with how I've carried out my relationship" Maaaaaan this girl is so dense she is the reason bags need the "Open here" sign at the upper part of the lids.

Opening your relationship is like sleeping with your front door wide open. Sure that breeze might feel good and the ambiance might be nice, but you forfeit any and all expectations of saftey and aren't allowed to complain when someone comes in and wrecks the place.

People are so selfish these days. They wanna indulge in disrespectful behavior then get upset when their partner finds someone they truly mesh with 😂😂😂

Any time your girl pressures you into a open relationship its time to close the relationship, dump the unworthy low value one and find a better option.

"Thank you for belittling my problems because you dont agree with how ive carried out my relationship" THE NERVE OF THE GIRL

I've really only seen an open relationship work once, and it's because both of my friends don't believe in true love. Their relationship is a matter of convenience and they're married for tax purposes. It works because they're both sexual heathens though. I do find it ridiculous that red it tends to judge people who make this choice

This channel makes me so sad 😭 I just wanna go to my boyfriend and hug him for a really long time like how do people suck this much :(

I'll never understand how anyone thinks that a relationship can be fixed by sleeping with other people🙄🤦‍♀️

Story 1 how is that cheating when you were the one that wanted the open relationship And you not wanting to take responsibility for suggesting the open relationship The way she tried to justify it🤦‍♂️

"I feel devestated but the way he spoke to me left me feeling empty.." and he said the relationship with her made him feel empty and pathetic. She's completely ignoring his feelings throughout this whole mess that she invited into their lives. "You can't have an emotional relationship" as if that can be controlled. This woman is a sociopath or narcissist at best.

I think the part that I find most hilarious when listening to open relationship stories is how many people think opening up their relationship is going to help anything. Open relationships can work and they have worked but you never open it when one you have someone you want to sleep with already in mind and two there's problems in the relationship. Opening it does not solve those problems and already having someone in mind is them just trying to justify the cheating. By being able to say hey we had an open relationship therefore it's not actually cheating.

If you want open relationships, you must enter the dating world saying you want an open relationship. You can’t just be with someone and years later say you wanna open it. This implies you want to cheat, or you are getting bored, but instead of breaking up or cheating, you try to have your cake while eating it too.

The moral to all three stories is, play stupid games by going the open relationship route and the stupid prize you win is the whole thing backfiring big time

Okay, the common thread in here seems to be, "I opened our relationship. SO wasn't sold on the idea but went along with it. But now SO likes the idea and I don't!" It seems to me that the OPs want their cake and to eat it too but are upset that their SOs wanted a piece of that cake as well.

2nd story: She is sleeping with her coworker, and is angry he has chicks on the side, then wants to close the relationship, and will keep seeing the coworker? Vibe I am getting.

"It ment the world to him that he was the only man in her life and she was fully and completely focused on him." It always comes down to finding this one. Even the guy from 2nd story. He is just 1 week in and is having fun at the moment but let me tell you.. When he finds her, he will love her. And that person is not OP.

Remember everyone, open relationships never turn out right. Even if you do agree to be in one don’t be surprised when your partner finds someone 🙄

this was a nice loadout; similar topics, interesting

You know your relationship is over when your GF/wife tells you "let's open this relationship". There are two options: 1. She is already cheating on you and just wants to keep doing it with your permission. 2. She wants to go ducking every man she can while you wait for her at home like a doormat.

Just me? Or is this 3 stories about 3 women that demanded an open relationships, then regretted it? Remember Bob and Midge from the 70's show?

The first Op still did not get it, she wanted an open relationship , when he found a monogamous woman who had values and morals he wanted to be with her than Op , Op should go and find another partner who is also into open relationship like her

Relationships are like submarines, lots of pressure from all sides, crew that have to learn to live together to make it work, difficult to navigate but extremely effective when well sailed properly. And just like a submarine if you open the hatch it's game over

Ultimately, to run around having sex without emotional bonding is animalistic and subhuman. Anyone wanting to be in an open "relationship" isnt worth being in any relationship with.

When someone tries to open a relationship they are saying "you don't satisfy me"

Honestly, what in the hell did these people think would happen? Open relationships dont work for maybe 95% of couples. As they say play stupid games, win stupid prize.

In 58 years, I've never heard of anyone successfully live in an open relationship.

These stories are basically "play stupid games, win stupid prizes" I'm happy that the men on them had the best outcome

I love how all these women have the urge to be with someone other than their partners so instead of cheating they pressure the boyfriends into an open relationship, and then cry when the guys find someone else. Love the first chick trying to say he was cheating on her. No ladies, you don't get to cry when opening the relationship blows up in your face because you had an itch or were bored. You showed your partner you wanted something other than him while keeping him on the side, and now you lie in that messy bed you made.

What’s with these women? If you want to screw around, love, just leave your relationship. Unless everyone is poly then ‘open relationships’ are just a game of ‘let’s see who can end this relationship first’.

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes is the topic of the day for the first story.

She gets railed by 4 dudes: all is fine; He rails the 1 girl: *WTF THAT IS NOT SUPPOSED TO HAPPEN I WAS THE ONLY ONE SUPPOSED TO TAKE ADVANTAGE!* Also shows who wanted the open marriage. She had the 1st one lined up.

Women hate it when open relationships don’t work in their absolute favor. If he’s winning even a little bit AT ALL then she feels like she’s losing completely. And I bet it was HER idea to start the open relationship.

So, can someone explain to me what is the point of an open relationship? I don't get it, if you're in a committed relationship you don't go sleeping with other people, if you want to sleep with multiple people then don't bother with a committed relationship. It just smacks of selfishness from whoever suggested it

This is why open relationships are the deaths of relationships. If my girl EVER suggested this, it's either because she's already cheating or she has a guy lined up, and I'm tossing her to the streets right then and there.

All these girls are so selfish. YOU get bored so YOU suggest sleeping around guilt free. When YOU get bored YOU want to close things again. Me. Me. Me. Want. Want. Want. Whine. Whine. Whine.

Third story you wanted something he did not. Now he realised he can do better than you, now you are threatened.

1st story: wait until the wall hit. That woman gonna have a miserable time.

ordinary people cannot deal with open relationship. physical and mental aspects are so interwoven in a mysterious way. you can’t say this is just physical. open relationships are a toxic idea that give you some opportunities in which you enjoy one romance after another, which ordinary people call cheating.

This is the problem with open relationships. People want to pretend that sex is completely physical pleasure, when there is so much emotion tied into it.

She just didn't get it. She hurt him by suggesting an open relationship in the first place. It was over the minute she asked for an open relationship. She wanted an excuse to cheat and basically told him he wasn't enough for her. So he gave her what she wanted and moved on.

An Open Relationship is an Over Relationship

When a cheater's logic backfires on them. Justice is served. I love happy endings :)

It doesn't matter if both parties agree to an open marriage, whoever brought up the open marriage is the one who can't be trusted.

Oh my God. I can’t believe people like OP #1 exists. Didn’t she understand? Her proposal got her fiance feeling dirty and disgusting. Now he found somebody who made him feel different, like he can start being a clean plate again, finding somebody who is everything that isn’t like OP.

The moral of all these stories is do not think that opening your relationship will solve your bedroom issues

1st story: I;ve typed this out so many times in response to other stories just like this. The entire "open relationship, swinging, polyamory lifestyle, etc. thing almost NEVER works out... 1) people have egos... and one partner will feel abandoned eventually, about 90% of the time. 2) People have emotions, which are reactive to displayed interest, and the person that brings up "opening a relationship" seldom considers the BOMB this is... because they've already BEEN thinking about it for some time, whereas the other is ususally hit with it out of the blue. Thus they have little time to form their opinion on the matter... so if they agree, they're already likely to feel as though they weren't enough.... and if they don't agree, their partner is likely going to be thinking about (if not actually) sleeping with others and end up resentful because their other person wasn't being "MODERN/ENLIGHTENED" enough. Which is simply the instigator falsely looking down on a partner that was actually satisfied with them. And eventually that formerly satisfied partner realizes that had the other person been satisfied... they never would have needed (or wanted) to think about or bring up the topic of opening the relationship to begin with. So for the other partner... saying either YES or NO to the situation is already a LOSING response. The only way for the committed partner to come out of that discussion/relevation (that their SO wants to sleep with other people) intact is to immediately break off the relationship. Not to give a Yes or No response. Because how this story ended is exactly how 90% or more of most "open relationships" usually end up.... they destroy the prior relationship. 3) As for the OP. She needs to take this as a life lesson... women "on the whole, but not all" CAN disconnect emotionally from sex more easily than men. Whreas the majority of men DO NOT find it so easy to "emotionally disassociate from" the sexual act... because if they WERE like that... chances are they wouldn't be committed to YOU in the first place and would be "playing the field" instead of making plans with you. THUS... if you have a man that IS committed... NEVER bring up the "open relationship" topic... unless your goal is to hurt and/or break up with him anyway.... because (as I've said) that's going to be the result 90% of the time. Think about it this way.... if YOU were actually committed to HIM.... why did you feel the need to open the relationship??? Is it perhaps because YOU were already entertaining the thought of other men/people??? How did you NOT think that woud have a negative impact on HIM??? Exactly what part of the phrase "I want to sleep with other people, but to be fair about it, you can sleep with other people too while I'm out banging X,Y.Z," sounds IN ANY WAY like the kimd of question a committed person would ask??? If you stop focusing on HIM, you'll soon realize that NONE of this was his doing.... YOU instigated it and left him in a "no win" scenario. And why should he continue to feel emotionally connected to someone who LIKED having him around... but wasn't proud enough of his commitment to her to RECOIPROCATE IT and NOT sleep with other people?? I suggest you all look up the term HYPERGAMY... and come to grips with your own ACTUAL CHARACTER and faults instead of imposing IMAGINARY ones on people who already have morals... like the OP's soon to be ex did... BEFORE he gave in to the OP's bullshit. You know, the "enlightened woman that sank/tanked her own relationship for some side action. Because thats EXACTLY what she did. The reason she focuses on HIM not sticking to what they agreed to is because she still (BLINDLY) cannot see how disrespectful the suggestion was, or how damaging her desire to, and actively sleeping with others, actually was. And that was the LYNCHPIN that began this whole mess. He was only stupid enough to play along with HER desire (likely due to inexperience) or a lack of ability to COMMUNICATE his true feelings on the matter. Because she placed HIM in a corner.... agree so she gets what she wanted.... or disagree and upset her in a manner that ends the relationship HE was already committed to (unlike her). So, as Ive said before... the ONLY way he would have come out of all this relatively UNDAMAGED is if he'd had the Ballz to break up with her as soon as she mentioned or brought up the subject... because she was MANIPULATING HIM. And if she still doesn't get that... then she's in DENIAL. Which is why she's acting like a lawyer "but he agreed upon x, y, z" instead of acting like the person that WRECKED her own relationship. And if he had broken up with her as soon as she suggested the "open relationship" she wouldn't have lost most of her respect for him (which was PROVEN the moment she opened her mouth, her banging people that weren't him simply SEALED that FACT. And perhaps after she was done crying (because he manned up and said, HELL NO, we're done)... they could have enventually gotten back together with CLEARER boundaries established. But like a fool... he ENABLED out of fear of losing her anyway... and lost all respect for her (as well as himself) in the process... until he found somene else that MIRRORED the boundaries and life he previously had with the OP.... you know... the one called COMMITTED MONOGAMY. Who in the ever-loving heck gets engaged (of all things) and then decides that sleeping with other people is a GOOD idea??? I'll tell you VERBATIM... people who have NO BUSINESS getting married in the first place. That's why I don't date LIBERALS... its like dating a CHILD in an adult body... they want to "play" and have almost everything their way... instead of Growing the F Up. HuGGz

That she thought she could 'control' the situation speaks volumes about her hubris. Now she thinks she can just decide to close it. Maybe he found a woman who sees him as more than a pawn. LOL

Story 1: you do not open monogamous relationships to an open relationship. It never works out.

If you're a woman and you approach your partner to open the relationship, there's a 99% chance your relationship is dead at that point. Everything that happens after is the dying throes of it. Any respectable guy at the point will simply use the time in that to find a new partner as this person did.

If my girl suggested an open relationship, I wouldn't even give her the satisfaction of a break-up. I'd nod along not saying much, "if this is what you want, then that's that I guess", and begin the process of dismantling the relationship as if it were an explosive device.

Anytime some suggests opening a relationship its simply saying "I want to cheat without having to worry about being caught." If they say yes then you cheat guilt free, if they say no then you cheat anyways because its what "you" need.

3 stories about open relationships, all pushed by the female, all regretted by the female. Loyalty, Faithfulness, Commitment : Value predicted to rise above Platinum, Gold and Diamond, some experts say. What a world.

"I no longer wish to continue and close the relationship because i feel it's affecting our relationship". Translation: " He looks too happy with other women".

Everyone wants a key that can open all locks but no one wants a lock that can be open by all keys.. No man wants a “used” woman to be his wife.

She ended years of commitment by asking for an open relationship, assuming she wasn't already at it secretly.

In the first story the OP simply can’t get it through her head that her relationship to her ex-fiance ended the day she proposed an open relationship. Talking about how what he did was wrong, cheating etc. when she literally forced his hand in this in a selfish manner, without any consideration for his feelings, is priceless. “Oh, we had rules bla bla and he broke them bla bla”. Well, she entered a monogamous relationship, so pressuring the partner for an open relationship is in itself a breaking of rules. She only wanted to close it because it didn’t suit her anymore, just like opening it only suited her at the beginning. Selfish people.

"emotionally cheating", I swear man, the mental gymnastics on this one is unbelievable.

This is the biggest problem, for story 1, the dude most likely found someone just as attractive than his previous girl and on top of it, probably the new girl has shown more care and love than the main girl has shown him in a long time. The main girl didn’t get involved emotionally with the men she slept with, because maybe they weren’t up to her fiancé’s standards and probably couldn’t give as much financially wise to her.

"We opened our relationship" means "I opened our relationship" Because if they were forced to open it that would be the first thing they would mention

Stupid games, stupid prizes. I bet she pushed opening relationship.

I love the fact that i come back to those same videos quite regularly just to prepare for the day i'm not gonna pull-up with the bullshit that could be served on my dinner table

“How I’ve carried out my relationship” same with both stories. When women lead relationships and listen to their friends on how to handle their relationship, everything goes to shit.