Story 1: UPDATE 7:34 UPDATE: My (40m) ex wife (40f) wants me to be with her in her last days Story 2: 11:33 My ex wife wants us to get married again.

I'd tell my ex she can pretend we're still married and pretend I'm there also.

Your sister still friends knowing she cheated on you, says alot about her aswell.

Last story. When she brings up marriage, the guy should say "I don't feel like getting married. Last time I got married, my wife cheated on me"

First story. I wouldn't do anything that would exclude my current wife. Sister and ex be damned. The Wife comes first and both the ex and sister should understand.

Act like a husband to the EX? Ok, here's what we'll do. I'll show up one day and you'll go have another affair! Bingo! Just like we were married! And as a bonus, my real wife is hurt along with our 2 kids. That's a hard pass!

Story 1: the ex would definitely make a move on the guy. One last attempt for something. If she wanted someone in her life during her final days she should have not cheated.

For the first story I'll give you an advice...Visit your dying ex wife with your wife and your kids ...And say goodbye to her ...That's all you can do to her man...If you go back to be around her in her last days you will break ...it will jeopardize your marriage..And for the second one..SAY FU TO BOTH PARENTS..It's not their business to interfere in your personal life..A No should be a NO..

she kept all the wedding photos up and pictures bid them together after all those years. Or she put them up when he said he was coming over. I guess she paid the price and she never got over what she did to him and now she will die never really getting over it. damn that's some deep sad sh$t in my opinion

Say goodbye to her with your wife present.

ex is an ex for a reason. OP can never trust her then why remarry? Do they really want to spent every minute snooping the partners have been upto?

Story 1: No, Just no. "Being there, when your Wife is dying" is for faithful Wifes . Not for cheating ex-wifes. This would be completely disrispectful for the actual wife and will hurt the family. She broke her vows. "Faithful and be there during sickness and health." She has no right to ask this. Now she is asking for emotional cheating on his your wife. It would also be a bad role model for the children She choose to cheat on, she choose to not move on after. He has no responsibility here. PS: And no, this wasn't just one stupid wrong decision. She had a affair for a whole month. There were plenty decisions. Story 2: Why remarry?

Story 1: Damn. I can't believe the first wife loved the guy so much she was never able to move on but still ended up ruining it. Guess she only realized what she had when she lost it.

Story #1:NTA. Dying does not absolve you of your wrongdoings. The ex only realized she lose "the one" when he was eternally off the table. _She had the man._ And she lost him due to her own infidelity. She has no one to blame but herself.

New wife will ALWAYS feel cheated on after the ex dies, assuming she really is sick, it may just be a plan to get the guy back in her life

I can't believe this dude even had to ask this. He should've said "Fuck no." And refused to hear another word on the subject.

Second story. “She joined a Church. Then we started sleeping with each other No Strings Attached”. LOL. I needed that ha ha

To the first story, I wouldn't have went to see my ex wife. It has been over 10 years and I have moved on. I owe her nothing and am not obligated to see her one last time before she dies. Everything she did was by her own free will and now she must face the consequences. Too much at stakes for my current marriage. I don't want anything to get in between us and ruin our marriage. I have a very strict personality and highly believe in consequences for one's own actions. You reap what you sow is how I feel.

This is unimaginably sad; I cannot offer advice here... I wish you well however you choose...

These two "I cheated, pls, FORGIVE"

Wife: I had a month-long affair, sorry, but stay with me PLEEEEEEEEEEASE! Now-ex-wife: please be my affair partner while I am dying!

Story 1: your wife is a helluva woman! Good on her! Cherish that woman

Don't do anything that upsets your current wife . Your ex made some selfish choices and must live with the consequences. You don't owe her anything regardless of her illness

First story - Your ex is your ex for reasons she caused. Visit her and say goodbye, but nothing more. She probably wants to ask forgiveness to settle that account. Give her that chance then walk. Go with your wife or your sister. Do NOT go alone.

Normally I don't have a lot of sympathy for cheaters, but she literally abandoned life because of her cheating. That's so sad.

1st OP Don't burn your current relationship for a DEAD one. Yes, your relationship with your ex as wife and husband is DEAD.

why the hell would you remarry her she cheated then felt bad after and the balls on her to get pissed that you don't want to get remarried do cheater delete what they do after they do it

This is the one time I’ve ever felt sorry for a cheater. Most are full of regret and deserve to be. As someone who cheated on the person they love. It truly was the greatest impulsive mistake of my life and I believe had my wife not taken me back I would’ve been suicidal and would’ve never loved again.

There is a big difference between cheating and confessing and cheating and being caught. In neither case is it anyway excusable but the first betrays genuine remorse. The ex did something wrong, she knew it and regretted it. I hate cheaters, it hurts and breaks people. But at the very least she had the honesty and strength of character to come clean and not attempt to hide it. Which means she had some amount of decency. Doing this for her... I'm not sure I could do it, but I respect the dude and his current wife for making it work.

if he actually goes through with it his real wife will be wondering all throughout the rest of their marriage in the back of her mind if anything really did or didn't happen. Avoid the situation don't do it

First OP-Just don't. I'm going to sound heartless by saying this, but she won't be there to bear the fallout if such thing happens in your life. What's going to happen if someone wants to reminisce the 'good' times and 'what ifs' a few years down the line? While the wife says she okay, she likely said it out of pity for the dying ex-wife rather than actually being okay with it. This would brought upon resentment in the future. You have a great life right now and as heartless as it sounds, you do not owe your ex-wife anything. Seriously? You wanted to bring your kids around the woman who still have old wedding photos of you and he hanging all over your former house? Are you insane? How is this okay? I get it if she had it in an album because that is a memory, but do not bloody bring your kids to the house, meet her outside. This is stupid on so many levels-I just can't. Why does she even deserves closure? OP better fucking worship the ground his wife walks on after this. That woman is a fucking Saint for putting up with the whole mess.

1st story: I am glad OP talked with his wife before doing any other move. I hope the ex had some closure and OP and his wife are the real MVPs. 2nd story: OP, you and your partners are the ones getting married, not your parents. You don't want to marry? Then don't do it. Your parents, her parents nor her can't force you to marry.

Second story, she's totally gonna babytrap him.

Look women can have empathy, for other women.....

This first story was flawlessly handled , condolences ❤️

I am in my 60s. I have noticed that men who have been cheated on by their ex wife don't/rarely ever get married again. They are so hurt by the first wife cheating that they cannot get over the pain and remarry. Cheating on a husband is so psychologically painful for them (for the man). This is to let women know not to push it with such a man. They have emotional scars. I know one man who did remarry but then his second wife divorced him and he ended up committing suicide. Both ex wives were at the funeral and sad, but they did this to him...they hurt him so much.

You've made a commitment to a new wife, you must honor that.

I must say the ex paid the price dearly for her cheating and dying is the ultimate punishment.. a little memory before she go was a good idea after all her sufferings and loneliness. Hope she find peace thereafter.

That first one is hard. It's not like she was super diabolical about her affair and she even was the one to out herself to him after a month of it. I can understand why it's hard for him.

Something I heard that applies to stories like this. “The opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference”.

She cheated on her husband. Ultimately, the price she had to pay was dying alone knowing what family she could have have with him. It's a terrible way to go.

*Even near DEATH, they'll treat nice guys like UTILITIES...* 🔥 *Please remember that.*

His only response should be "Oh. Well that sucks. Condolences."

1st Story: No one should ever compromise what they have for what they had. The dying ex is in the past. The wife is what's happening now. It isn't you job to give a cheating ex closure in life. That is something she has to do for herself being that her actions got her into that position. This is in the realm of an unreasonable expectation. 2nd Story: Just like when you were married, you'll never know when she'll cheat again. You divorced for a reason. What's really changed. Don't go back.

Only see the ex-wife with your current wife being present. If the ex doesn't want that then drop it all together.

To be honest I would always question if my husband was telling the truth on what happened the day he visited his ex wife with his sister. I would question if the sister is covering for him. Ik it sounds silly but in the back of my head I'll be questioning so many things that it would eat me away. Op should have dropped by for a few minutes (1 hour best) not a whole afternoon tbh nd never bring over the kids. The ex might pretend that they are hers. Idk it sounds to much of a headache and op should have declined in the first place on everything.

It's really music to my ears when a cheater suffers like this, its like their hell was served earlier while they are still living here on Earth. Amazing

I'm quite happy with the way it ended. You saw her not as your ex, but as your childhood friend. I could not imagine a more admirable outcome. I'm glad you got to say goodbye to your friend.

I'm seriously questioning where the sister's head is at just for being friends with someone that cheated on her brother

Say good bye out of courtesy and that's as far as it'll go. You are right you don't owe her

Okay I'm 4 minutes in an if OP does what the ex wants it's not gonna end well. She might be dying but she's been creepily obsessed with OP since the break up and now she's using her condition to get what she wants. No. No. No. No. All the alarm bells are blaring. Cheaters don't have morals. No way in hell she isn't gonna try being inappropriate with him. He's gonna go play house with her and she's gonna want intimacy because "she's dying after all and yes it wasn't what we agreed but I'm dyingggg. Don't you wanna give me peace of mind?" The only peace of mind she can give herself is by letting him go and accept that it wasn't meant to be. This entire arrangement is unhealthy for everybody involved. If I was in OP or OP's wife's shoes this would be a massive no. Not gonna play pretend with a mentally disturbed sick woman and risk the stability in my relationship for someone who cheated on me. No fucking way.

First story, she may deserve peace but she doesn't deserve her ex back. If OP needs to go (for himself) then the current wife goes too...

If I was his wife I would be ok with going for coffee somewhere public. I do not want him to regret not seeing her once. The fact that she wanted to pretend to be married knowing he is married to someone else, said I love you to him, and has wedding photos up. I would not trust her at all. I would not let this women see my kids to possibly add into the idea of a happy family.

Its tragic because the ex seems to be penitent, but just leave it a tragedy and find peace in that. The furthest I would go would be to voice my forgiveness to her before she passed.

God this is a heart breaking storie. Tons of love one destroyed but never let go. Made me cry. I do not cry easy. So sad. Everyone was real grown and mature in this

She cheated on him. She has no right to expect him to "play hubby" for her just because she's dying. Her loneliness is her own fault, both because she never moved on and because she destroyed what turned out to be the best relationship she ever had. She deserves NOTHING from him and it's sick of her and his sister to ask such things. How insulting to his REAL wife that they'd try to convince him? His ex lost the supposed love of her life because she only thought about her own pleasure; even on her deathbed she's doing the SAME DANG THING.

i would have told her to ask the guy she cheated with to be her faux husband, apparently he knows how to comfort her better than her then husband did

Bro don’t risk it, your ex cheated on you, she ended the marriage not you. You have no obligation to her anymore.

Your wife is a saint treat her with the utmost love support and everything this woman is truly an angel 😇

the first girl really did seem like she was sorry for what she did, not dating after anymore not even the one she was having an affair with, admitting to the dude, I've seen many girls cheating but not admitting to it so it feels a bit different hearing someone actually regret what she did

She lost that right when she cheated, and dying doesn't give a pass for a retry. Helping out and providing support is one thing but playing house is a big no no.

He did the right thing, he talked to his wife after his sister witch should have been done in the first place. With is sister being there like three old friend from the past. Humanity goes a long way and at this point in her life that was the best he could have done. Bringing joy to someone is the best way to make the world a better place. She is dying there not to much more harm she can do!

OP, you did it right. Your ex is dying, and you was generous in spite of the past, to make her last days peaceful. On the last day, please be there your wife & kids to send her on her homegoing. Be the one to whisper in her ear," It's ok, you can go,, now". God bless you, sir.

Story 1, you handled that so well. I'm glad you were able to visit your ex, considering she was a life long friend, and to keep your wife first and informed. You are a kind and loving man

Rarely do I hear a story where the cheating spouse seems genuinely remorseful. Sad.

Thing is with cheating, you either regret doing it or you regret getting caught. The latter can rarely ever be worked out, in fact no self respecting person should forgive a cheater they caught. But the former, if she/he admitted to it, thats a difficult one, there is genuinely regret there. Also the fact that she never had any proper relationships after him proves that she probably did always love him. Like really truly love him. I would say that it's too late for any sort of relationship she wants before she dies, but i also think that he probably should have tried harder to forgive her. It's not ideal that she cheated but she was clearly sorry for it. People make mistakes, i know many other make friends male friends who have made similar mistakes.

Have the ex-wife sign over the house prior to agreeing to anything.

"Please don't roast my ex too much. She made a mistake and paid the price. But, It doesn't mean she's an evil person." Yes, it does. Cheaters are selfish. They only care about themselves and what they want. They don't care how many people they hurt or how bad. In my book, that's the definition of evil.

Incredibly sad first story. The ex-wife is dying because she can't cope with losing her man because of her adultery.

These stories where they started as childhood friends. So sad to lose something so special

"My ex cheated on me, made my life a living hell and made it difficult for me to trust and find love again, but that doesn't mean she's a terrible person." Lol okay.

There are certainly a lot of weak men in this world....y’all had the strength to divorce, but go back to comfort them..?! Jeeeeze....

The ex wife cheated and now she is dying so she wants to play house with her ex nope! Let her call the co worker who she cheated and ruined her marriage! I wouldn’t visit her!

Damn that’s hard, seriously if she really didn’t have s with anyone else all that time then I’d be more than willing to forgive her. Unlike every other cheater she had the balls to come out and still regretted it years later

Damn that first one is so sad. OP handled that well.

Stay home with the woman that's standing beside u!!... forget about the ex, she slept with another man n u were getting the left overs n didnt even know it at the time!

The first story is just awful to be honest. He has no business bringing his kids to meet this woman who cheated on him, that is weird and subjecting your kids to an odd experience. The fact that she left the wedding photos up and whispered to him on his way out is proof she wants to make a move on him before she dies. OP is going to regret this hardcore if she continues to indulge this selfish request from his ex-wife.

The sister in the first story is really off-putting. Imagine still being "besties" with someone who cheated on your brother.

On the first post, if my cheating first wife wanted me to come visit in her last days, regardless of whether I was remarried or not, the answer would be "How 'bout, NO!". On the second one, I wouldn't not touch my X with someone else's barge pole. A dog returns to it's vomit. Don't be a dog.

Yeah, my Friends sister has lived with cancer 20 years now and still fighting. Could be a scam... Be careful.... Hope It works out say good bye.

Just because you're dying doesn't mean you deserve forgiveness

I'm sincerely thankful this guy (with the blessing of a truly great wife) decided to see her. I don't carry a torch for any ex GFs or my ex-wife, but I couldn't imagine hating somebody enough (especially someone that still loved me) to not try to be there for them at the end if they asked. I do wonder how things would have turned out had she not told him. I would never say I wouldn't want to know if my SO cheated on me, but sometimes when you see some of these stories it makes you wonder if they eventually confess for themselves or for the other person. Of course it's great that he was able to move on and have a family, but it is sad that she was never able to move on, and insisted on punishing herself until the end for her mistake. 😥

The First story was bittersweet ❤

Ok that update for the first story made me tear up holy shit.

I am glad he went because she is still a human being.

Once a cheater always a cheater... I wouldn't even think about accepting her stupid request

First guy handled perfectly and I agree 100%. He wasn’t spiteful and set up boundaries with ex and discussed it all with his wife, who was very understanding.

What the ex did, she did to herself. It's not your responsibility to make her feel safe anymore. She threw that away for some D on the side. Reverse the roles, If O.P was dying alone because he got some p-sleeve out of the marriage would she act that way for him? Highly, highly doubtful.

what your x wants is out of bounds. don't adulterate your relationship with your wife. affection and comfort belong to your wife not your x

i never thought i could respect a cheater soo much i had a cheating ex and it was horrific but that lady actually made me happy unlike my ex she knowed her mistakes and confessed she stuck to her words and loved him that much and i want to believe her but i dont blame the husband for just leaving her

Mercy - forgive her so she goes in peace, but don’t compound the tragedy by risking you own marriage

I wouldn't jeopardize my current relationship.... No way Jose!!!!

I know that most people say not to respect her dying wish, but if I put myself in his shoes, it feels REALLY heartless to not give an old friend and your first love their dying wish lol. While it is sensible to not do it, you would feel like absolute sh-t after she died. Plus she never remarried? That's rough lol.

Story 1 Yes, she is an evil person. And please ask the kids if they want to see her. The kids should know why they are going to see a dying woman and who she is to the OP.

At least she told you that she was cheating unlike some others

Yeah tricky situation. I personally would refuse, it would hurt and upset me watching somebody I used to love wither and die. Feel sorry for her in a way. If she sat you down and admitted to cheating cause of her guilt, then it proves she has some good character. I hope yous both find some peace whatever you choose.

Ex is not entitled to anything. Send a snap chat saying "so long and thanks for the fish."

To hold a friend's hand in their last days is truly what love is. I hope God is as forgiving!

This is such a horrible situation. OP should just do what they feel is right for them.

He is definitely under no obligation to, but seeing his ex a couple of times during her final days would be the merciful thing to do. Although, I'm a softy and in general, and I don't like to see people suffer. The OP should take long as wife when he sees his ex - just a reminder to her that he has moved on and his love rests with someone else now.