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It's so difficult staying and leaving but one knows these people are soul vampires.

Hope they survive the darkest days of their lives.

I respect that. For me, the hardest part was coming to the realization of who certain people in my life actually were. The hardest part was coming to the realization in the reality that there are sadistic people in this world don’t just wanna take things from you in order for them to survive, they truly do want to hurt you, or anyone they can get their hands on so that they can feel powerful in a moment. It doesn’t matter if it’s a spouse or child, sometimes even a complete stranger but usually they try and collect those first by gift giving with strings, and mirroring. They will do their best to try and trample on other peoples bodies and shrink them down, in order for themselves to feel big even for a minute. With that having been said. Being an imperfect person myself, effect that was often Weaponized to blame me for everything I did and didn’t do as well as everything. A narcissistic person also did and didn’t do, it excites me that despite this fact, other people are still doing their very best to be good and do good in this life and that I have the opportunity to do that and to bring that into this world. I have the opportunity to do that with my sons and with my wife and with my siblings they want to hear it at the end of the day you can’t control anybody else, but, I’m really excited about the opportunity to try and leave this world better than how I found it and to learn everything I can before I die. But yeah, it was like I couldn’t see the world the same anymore after being brought to this truth that these people exist. A short while, it was hard not to get jaded. If you’re not careful, you’ll literally be sleeping with the enemy that secretly is trying to destroy you behind your back and insidiously step-by-step to your face, pleasure of doing so. That’s just the reality of this world. That’s the reality of people. But so is other people who’ve been through the fire and flames and came out of the other side cauterized and reinforced with a metal alloy if you will. Both things are true, such as often the case in this life of nearly infinite simultaneous truths.

Thank you ❤ for the quote, I can truly relate to it.

Me too. No contact, not wanting to even know anything about them is a very good place to be. Hope everyone is getting a bit closer each day to get to this point.

But you’re still with him, right?

I was married to one for 20 yrs. Your so right.

Trying to get myself together now just got a Divorce. All ready filling better😢😅

Same here

@@edwardspriggs5076 Yes! It was all the Love Bombing that I fell for. I always told my ex he got an A in courtship, not knowing it would soon lead to an F- in devaluing and then the discard.

@@edwardspriggs5076 that is correct 💯.

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It's the most difficult to treat with therapy. Most therapists say it's basically pointless as they end up just mirroring and telling them what they want to hear. They also don't have a core personality so fixing that is almost impossible.

100%. My ex lasted about 4-5 years with the replacement. About the same timeframe as me. I figured out it was a mess after about 6months ..yet stayed and was confused for too long. Never again

Exactly, they get the older, even more miserable narc. My ex narc was older than me and he is 76. I am so grateful I am away from him every day.

I dont care , they must be also sick if they messed with a married person, should had know better.

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It is greener but it's never greener enough.

@@lilakilonen5663 it is to the narc

We know it’s not greener ; but if was the Narc will still defecate and urinate all over it

It’s greener for us though! ❤

psalms 37: 10 spoiler alert

Amen

Sam Vaknin did a talk once about how many analogies in the Tora were about narcs and psychos, etc. I need to find that one again, for future reference. (My mother's father, grandfather and great grandfather were Episcopal bishops. And both sides of the family were/ are full of narcissists. Wish this info was out in the open 35ish years ago when I was reading my covert narc mother's 4- 600 level 'psych' books, when she was getting her Masters degree, in mind manipulation! (And my father, his second wife, my mom's second relationship and also my younger brother, etc. also seem to ALL be a 3- 5/6 on the NPD spectrum?!) Now she just "play acts: forgetful, deaf and dumb," at 82! And I concur: Going little to no contact" is the ONLY logical, solution... because these people NEVER grow, nor CHANGE! (So who the heck needs the "escape- goating," abuse!?)

@@williamtiffee3799 I'd love to see those analogies

Beautiful ❤❤🙏✝️

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That many marriages has to be a red flag!

Your EX is going to get custody of the Judge .....

Try being that person's kid.

My Bestee,s x narc husband is on his 4th wife,he's still married, she was # 1. .HAD the audacity to ask her to go to the beautiful Costa Rica with him,,her birthplace, at a church service.with other family members present.asking her across other people .been divorced from him at least 36 years. She was mortified...

My ex narc.gf actually has a good side genuine also, I think she developed her NPD from childhood trauma.

This is what I'm struggling with.. and did I ever speak to who they really were?

The person you first meet was fake the abuse and degrading remarks is who they really are nothing about them was real it was an act to draw you in

@@camelotenglishtuition6394 no the person you first meet was an act it was false the evil they do is there true identity

@herrmann2185 💯 I think it has a spiritual dimension too. I think these people are evil.

Same!

Ohhhhhhhh.......I LIKE THAT !!!!!

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What an awesome saying 👍

It has been said that narcissists seek for people to get attached to them. But they never attach to anyone. I found that a useful and sobering thought.

@@StStStS This is true, at least in my experience.

100% 👍

Welcome..💯💯💯😊🙏

Do this every night as well

@@MsCReads-jc8dc Andrew truly is, you are so right. Thank you.

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👍Trying to be wiser every day, Better than living a life of continuously patching holes.

….the narc hamster wheel of hell..❤️‍🔥 …glad we’re outta there… Keep shining brightly marie ✨⭐️✨🎀

Yes! I heard from the now ex-Narc's mother (who still adores me) that his new wife 'hates' me. Yup. Her words. I suspect it's that way because when I left him, he found her, and now SHE has to suffer life with the man!

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Tha new supply an I are friends on Facebook,I hardly do socialmedia,her post look soooo familiar🙄🙏🙄🙏...thank you sir🏆

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I get it but my ex's new supply (they were numerous) gets what she deserves. She screwed her married boss, married with 3 children. She didn't care, so neither do I. You reap what you sow.

Same! I got tricked and trapped and treated like trash, too.

​can you tell me why my ex narc keeps in touch with me like were best friends? He tells me abt his new supply and i share my experiences. He acts jealous when i share though. Is he truly my friend or is he manipulating me for something. Were not romantic at all!!

@@sheilachavis5175 He's using you for supply. You are in his harem garage. Get out.

They'll find out alright..😄

if they survive that long

Yearsssss is correct smh

Everyone's process is different. Some might see it quicker. The narcissist slips and the narcissist gets worse over time

Didn’t take me years,it took about 9 months collectively cause I figured it out in about 3 months but because I knew the person for over 30 years I kept trying.been in no contact for 2 years now. It doesn’t hurt anymore but for some reason I’ve thought about her everyday since the breakup, that seems to be the hardest part,I’ve never experienced this part before.there’s no craving to go back or to want her it’s just that she’s been on mind. I guess this is what happens when you don’t get closure. It’s not as bad as it was so I figure it’s just going to take time for that part to disappear.

Don't be down on yourself. I did the same thing. I spent $60K on her (in a year) and was getting ready to get her a $30k Engagement ring. She went through my Bible (i write down things i want to remember and date them) She went through my Office - She went through some old Cell phones I had in a drawer - She went through my Laptop - She went through old photo albums of past girlfriends - She had background checks done on me TWICE !!! She even bullshitted my Family members with her lies. She wanted to meet all my friends. We are sooooo much better off without them.

@@risky1 omg I'm glad you didn't get tgat ring. Jesus I'm just happy we made it out and we can educate ourselves with these videos of awareness. Sending positive vibes.

@@empathicwarriorlissy3716 oh you and me both. Andrew is sooo right, you become stronger and more educated with these types of people. I know I have. My next relationship will be much different with some hard boundaries. I'm not going to navigate that gauntlet again. Be humble and don't stumble all the best

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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone ♥

The deeper reason is very odd. To sum up, they are trying to get close to destroy the other person to feel like a person..because they never do...

Amen 🙏🏼🌹

@@Openbookest82 that's just another LIE 🤣 😂

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Mine even asked the widow for the WiFi code!?

Hi, because you have observed new supply v closely I want to ask some questions which I m struggling to get answers. My ex husband got married thrice . I was the second one n I was never aware about his first marriage. After my divorce he married another women in just 1 month, he is still with that women n they have 1kid. Though he doesn't have any child from previous two marriages. Recently I have seen his new wife was yelling some women online who is my ex's colleague , so I believe she already knows his cheating s. Still I have questions how they are still together? How come she is portraying a happy marriage picture to everyone? Does a child can make this marriage work?

@@AA-nx2jz no he will damage all of them and keep walking. They are incapable of changing. I speak from experience. They only care about their own ‘public image’ and to Hell with everyone who they call partner or offspring. They are sick and think everyone who figures them out are the crazy ones. Avoid, stay centered, and protect yourself and your children. Period.

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and thats where 80% of all narcs are born from, bad childhoods. the other 20% from grandiose, your so special, golden child mentality.

It took me TWO TIMES to figure out WTF was going on, but now I know. And I have to say that between Andrew and a ton of research, I am better ....stronger.....and don't take no chit offa nobody now.

Happens to the best of us.

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Interesting

🤮 Grifter and user alarm bells going off! He wants a mommy and an ATM 💵, not a woman to love and cherish.

the new Hyundai ad😂

How evil when they take u out they guilt you about the bill…and spend tons of $$$ on everything they want..

@@trishlynn3424 you have no idea. I feel so foolish but he was always so adamant about being broke, even cried! In retrospect, I can name so many times he turned around and spent money frivolously. He spent $100 on a seat cushion (he says he has a bad back 🙄) after telling a friend he needed to borrow $300. He didn't even say "borrow"- just that he needed it, demanded it. How broke are you really if you are buying seat cushions right after? AND he just bought a brand new car!

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It's good when narcs marry each other, and make 2 people miserable, instead of four...

​@@Ron-is5tdHollywood style

Great one.

No, you are still a bright light! And you will once again shine, only brighter! You are here, following your heart, taking time out, loving your critter family (my furry family--and Andrew--saves me every day). You are not broken, just trying to understand how people we love can treat us so poorly. I'm on a similar path as you and I believe that once we process all of this new information we will love ourselves more and not tolerate BS because we now recognize the truth. We learn how to save our love for those who don't mean us harm. If you like to read, you might like "Self Compassion" by Kristin Neff. I'm also reading "Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving" by Pete Walker to help me sort out childhood abuse. Ugh. Don't give up, I bet I'm older than you. 🤗🤗🤗

You just described me and my life perfectly...but at least I am at peace...

I can relate to this. Yes, changed me forever and not in a good way. I miss who I used to be: carefree and trusting; always believing the best in others.

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Yes, and we gave them the benefit of the doubt, every single time.

YES,YES,YES,LISTEN WHEN PEOPLE SPEAK...YOU'D BE SURPRISED WHAT YOU ACTUALLY HEAR...FROM FRIENDS,FRENEMIES FAMILY,MOM,DAD,LOVERS,HUSBANDS WIVES..CO WORKERS. LISTEN CLOSELY....RED FLAGS POPPING OFF PAY ATTENTION..

@@luisolvera5574 we can’t believe our eyes and ears…! But, now I know better. It truly woke me up. I previously had no idea, i was in a bit of a naïve bubble til age 55! and I always wanted to blame myself for odd relationship issues. Now I know and those people stay clear. Or I keep at arms length

ive witnessed first hand, 2x of the mask completely falling off. talk about ugly. it takes something major, all is lost, and they know you are done with them, to see it completely fall off. having no knowledge of what a narc really was, i totally encouraged ex gf while she was having her narc break down with, 'there it is', thats the real you coming out. 'look how stupid you look', bla bla bla insults, just to stoke her fire of ignorance. she deserved everything i gave her, and then some. when finished, i told her she had 5min to pack her sh it up, and get out of my house for the final encore.

I know what police involvement is all about. He called 911 (phoney call) and uttered a death threat. I had no idea until the police tried to kick in my front door. He left the scene after he made the call. Then comes back like the victim. Made an ass of himself. He thinks I charged him. He won't return.

@@terriblue68 we are so much better Now💯💯💯. Keeping my PEACE ✌🏽🕊️.

@@sharoneh8929 I am truly getting there. When people make me laugh, I actually laugh. That was my favorite thing to do in life. I have a great sense of humor, and that was one thing I didn't let shine. I tried though. One foot in front of the other. We need the support of others who've been there, so thank you for that! ✌️ 😎 ☮️ 🕊 ❤️

I love that...nature's applause for truth.

Welcome..😊💜🌳

Thank you..😌💜🙏💯

Yep! Well said. A badly wrapped gift!

@@AuroraBelle1986 😉🙏

I got a feeling times going to catch up with them an their wicked ways. If not one way, in another.

I'm bad milk as it is lol I may be crazy, but I ain't no fool lol

Beautiful

Narcissists will destroy themselves while trying destroy others. They lack a self preservation.

Yep. Human nature stays true to itself✔️✔️✔️.

Thank you..😊💜🌳🐝☀️

& even better : God knows

Like Andrew said, she thinks she got the prize but she got fool’s gold!! He probably enjoyed hurting you when he took her call. Those scoundrels deserve each other! I wouldn’t be surprised if he hoovers you down the road, but you’ll be at the pinnacle of indifference ✨

proud of You! keep swimming...

VeganLife-mn1jp Thank you for your kind reply Yes, I’ve received 38 hoovers in a variety of ways I never thought possible and I did not acknowledge one. That starves the narc from good or bad supply. He was trying to convince me he had “phone problems.” Well I guess he does have “phone problems” but they are not the kind Verizon or Samsung can fix, he IS the problem. I’m working my way to the pinnacle as we all are. Thank you and best wishes on this new chapter of your life. Andrew suggests the best ways to navigate this stuff.

@@VeganLife-mn1jp The ex narc latest supply took him down. He lost his health and good look. We don’t have to do anything but stay away and work on ourselves let karma does what karma does. Peace is Priceless 🙏

I think that’s out of their playbook! It doesn’t matter how much he trash talks his ex, he’ll eventually return to her and think she’s perfect and now you’re painted black!

​@@VeganLife-mn1jpkharma

She did you a favor 🫶🏃🏻‍♀‍➡

Not for everyone but it is a good avenue for some...one of the problems is there aren't many really decent shrinks with narc treatments and they usually treat it as cptsd which yes it is but there's other work which needs to be done prior... like refocusing the locus of control, silencing inner voices (interjects) ...it's rough out there..whatever works for you God bless you

Don't dwell on the "why". Narcissists don't have feelings like you do, they might pretend to only to manipulate you.

@@rmzang I think the why is more about myself..like why didn't I act on all this cruelty or red flags? Thank God I'm out..

@@rmzang Also I hope you're healing if you're still going through it..

I chose to ignore the red flags because I wasn’t that invested in the “relationship”, until I was. I didn’t really like this person when we first met so red flags meant nothing to me. I couldn’t care less what he did or didn’t do because I wasn’t interested. I remember driving away that first day with an ick feeling and thinking “not in this lifetime”. He pursued heavily for many months (crossing boundaries) and through therapy I have learned how heavily I was manipulated. As soon as I started to have feelings, it was too late; I was too far in. The red flags still kept showing up, the only difference was that I was now making excuses for him. Almost 1 - 1/2 years post breakup and I’m still trying to make sense of it all. I have so many regrets…

@Goose-mn2me I'm not a professional but I think you need to forgive yourself

I've noticed that- Aside from faked compliments at the love bomb stage, they have no vocabulary when it comes to compliments or supporting words.

See how they treat people like service workers ..

I don miss all the ‘Yeah, you said that already.’ s 😂😂

Welcome..😌🙏💜

My friend (acquaintance) who’s a narcissist..has been involved with people who love to be told what to do and how to run their lives to be Bullied and controlled. Those people are out there. Sickening to watch.

@@Fishsticks007 they really are evil

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systematic abuse

…weaving the narc spider web 🕸️ glad you are out they are sick

So glad you're out .. God bless you

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pathtic

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they're in for a rude awakening.

Welcome..💜🙏😌

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Same I have noticed in my Ex husband's recent pics. In just three yrs he is looking like an aged person, I think his new supply is also a narcissistic. 😅

Me too

God bless you

P.S. I set up my will so that HHE can NEVER touch one penny. I have a 'Blooddline Trust' meaning MY children and THEIR children can inherit, but not HIM, and NOT any of my children's spouses, just their children who will be MY blood. Because I don't trust that my ex would get his hands on my estate. BOOM. Sorry for typos, my keyboard....

That’s absolutely awful 😢 I’m glad your children have you, but what a demon to ignore his own children.

@@VeganLife-mn1jp TY and yes...my oldest son has been played by a Narc and my almost 27 year old daughter keeps finding jerks just like her father. Now they're both not even trying to find decent partners. I'm trying to help them navigate...

🎈Happy Birthday to your son 🥳

@@janettesessarago4690 thank you, I made it a happy day for him ❤️

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@@ESSIEMARIE1998 Hello my friend!!😊

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Thank you..🙏💜😌

They don't have a core personality .. there's nothing there but a black void

​@@camelotenglishtuition6394 Exactement, elles, ils jouent des rôles interchangeables... Sortir du triangle de Karpman bourreau victime sauveur... Ce système d'exploitation fiction impitoyable, jeux de perversions, c'est leurs monde à leurs images... Deux populations incompatible cohabitent sur terre...

Or he doesn’t love you

@@Gotoworkkk the biggest mistake of his pathetic life

@@Gotoworkkk they can't love

Best of wishes to you 🙏🙏🙏💜💐

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keep going ❤

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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Namaste Andrew 🙏💜💐

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Welcome..🙏💜😌

Hi Laila, How are you? Yep, fool's gold was a good movie, lots of diving, and gold! Right up my alley! 😂 And a little comedic so always a plus... Now, overloaded, should I hold off my reply to the long letter? Sorry it's late, I did send you a message there but since it's been flying monkey week (they all seem to come at once) and I'm just trying to stay busy, (running etc.) so as I said, that thread is getting long, is there any particular thread I should attach the reply to or should I just pick any or hold off all together because of the overload? Hope your weeks been ok... Cheers G 🙏☮️🐬

@@Thedisgardedoptimist hi Greg. Happy to hear from you 🙂 I’m doing ok, up and down, but overall ok. Not the happiest with all the rain this week though. One or two days a week is nice, but all week puts a dent in my outside plans (and the washing)😂And how are you? You mentioned flying monkey week, and I hope everything is ok for you. Also regarding overload, my communication with you or anyone here is never an overload. I very much appreciate being able to communicate on here, if anything, it’s a positive part of my day and/or week. If you’re wanting to respond to the longer message, I am very much more than happy to receive and read and write back. Any thread is fine, preferably not a video one (too much traffic). I had issues with my comments disappearing a few days ago. The day that Andrew uploaded his video very late and most of us got worried. I had managed to write on the flower post to see what was going on with the late video, and to Jennifer on the video, but after that I couldn’t comment for some reason. I’m glad you have managed to find a way to stay busy, and running is a wonderful way to do so while staying healthy. I hope no flying monkeys are causing you any stress. I’ll have to check out the fool’s gold movie sometime. It sounds interesting. Just the name somehow clicked in my brain 😂 if I remember correctly, Matthew McConaughey is in it. It sounds like it’s your type of movie. I also had issues with notifications the other day and didn’t receive them even if someone wrote to me. I hope these issues get resolved. I hope your week has been ok too apart from any flying monkeys and hope it didn’t rain too much for you. Wishing you a very peaceful evening 🪻🌧️🌧️🙏🙏

@@lailaa6662 Hi Laila, Thanks for your reply.. Rain rain right? When it decides to rain it doesn't do it by halves! Lol could almost build an ark here I had so much and if you are east of me it would have been worse so yup scratch the washing and binge movie time! The monkeys have been out in force since I got back - don't know what's happening but yep had to go for a run to get my head straight - it got pretty busy there for a while and right now it's gut vs The fear mind and I'm trying.... Gut says don't in a real big way so I'm not.... Ok was just checking, when you said you were overloaded I didn't want to add any more things to think about while you were processing, just making sure before I send another novel to read... I had a read of your letter and have some thoughts so there will be some stuff to ponder... Yep it will be in the community section, in the next day or so providing these monkeys don't come visiting since I didn't answer the phone.... Hope you have a good night and you manage to get your washing done.... Cheers G...🐬✨

@@lailaa6662 Hi Laila, Happy Sunday! Just letting you know, message sent to long thread and it seemed to stick so just in case you're not getting alerts, hopefully you'll get one from here... Have a good day.. G ☮️🙏🐬

@@Thedisgardedoptimist hi Greg. Happy Sunday to you too! Hope it’s not pouring rain for you. How are you today? I hope you’re doing ok. Im doing alright today, not letting any negative energy forces disrupt me. I appreciate you letting me know. I had a look just now and I haven’t received any longer messages from you. KZfaq is likely playing up again. Sometimes I don’t get notified and messages are there (this occurred earlier this week which was strange), but I checked both and nothing appears on my end. I hope the rest of your day will be a peaceful one, without any monkeys disrupting it 🙏💜☀️☀️

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You escaped, that is great. For info, in the UK there is a law called ‘Claire’s Law’ by which you or concerned family/ friends can ask the Police about a partner’s background. If they have a record of violence or domestic abuse, they will tell you. Thanks to Claire’s family who worked for this. She was killed by her ex-partner and was unaware he had a history. RIP.

@@StStStS Thank you so very much, yes I will take note of your details. Sometimes we just tell a story on you tube and let it go. Thank you for reading mine. I think men and women should vet partners especially if there's red glaring flags and one still isn't quite sure because of the charm and love bombing and trauma bonding. 🙏🏼 ✌️Happy life to you.

@@user-ht2tc5uj7w And to you 👍

♥Love...It was all of our mistakes. We never knew the game we were playing, because we are loyal and we love from our hearts.; and life is not a game to us. Life is a beautiful journey and we are a piece of that incredible, glorious beauty. Please forgive yourself. You did not do anything, but love from a sweet, innocent heart. Blessings. Xo...