What to do on a bad BPD day

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11 жыл бұрын

What can you do on a day like this? I am offering different fun distractions I like to use myself.
It has been so long since I uploaded a video. Thank you all for your patience! I am back and I am here to stay this time. It will take me some time to get through all the messages etc. as you can probably understand. Thank you again for your patience.
Books shown in this video:
- "The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook" by Randi Kreger with James Paul Shirley, L.M.S.W.
- "The Dialectical Behaviour Therapy Skills Workbook" by Matthew McKay, Ph.D., Jeffrey C. Wood, Psy.D. and Jeffrey Brantley, MC.
- "Schema Therapy: A Practitioner's guide" by Jeffrey Young, Janet S. Klosko and Marjorie E. Weishaar
- "Borderline Personality Disorder for Dummies" by Charles H. Elliott, PhD and Laura L. Smith, PhD
- "Schema Therapy for Borderline Personality Disorder" by Hannie van Genderen and Arnoud Arntz
- "Borderline" by Jaap Spaans and Erwin van Meekeren (Dutch language version only)
How are you guys doing?! :)

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@ericat8123 10 жыл бұрын

I think just watching this on a bad bpd day would bring anyone up, in fact.. even on a regular day but I found this video adorable and I love the ideas c: Thank you!!!!

@mandi8578 10 жыл бұрын

This totally cheered me up lol

@MeAndMyBlackTable 11 жыл бұрын

Congratulations with getting through your day! Sometimes days can be so hard and long that is feels like a week. Awesome that you got through it :D hope you are proud too!

@luiswmartinez91 7 жыл бұрын

I wish I had you in my life to lift me up like you did in this video. in a way you are, by sharing your time and uplifting spirit to us all. Thank you and don't stop!

@lmtdana 11 жыл бұрын

Thank you! I found it helpful to tell myself I have to get up and go for a walk whether I like it or not! Doing things that you don't want to do in the first place and end up feeling better you did. Walking, pressing my feet into the ground with every step, breathing slow deep breaths, it's like meditation.

@MeAndMyBlackTable 11 жыл бұрын

I hope your daughter and youself have a good connection. Which is priceless for both of you in times that are hard. Take care.

@MeAndMyBlackTable 11 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your sweet comment. :)

@GMarieBehindTheMask 9 жыл бұрын

You have potential for great things!!! 👍😀

@DrummerElliott 11 жыл бұрын

So so happy to see you again! Your tips have helped me a lot. Thanks. Keep doing good in this world!

@whosthegirlmacabre 11 жыл бұрын

I've been having horrible mood swings lately. I sought this video out when I was feeling lonely and very, very depressed(these extreme moods have been happening a lot lately), and your ideas and enthusiasm moved me to happy tears. Thank you. I will definitely be following your advice to take me out of myself more often.

@paigewesley2428 11 жыл бұрын

Bas, I was fortunate to come across one of your videos a few hours ago. The things you talk about and how you communicate make a lot of sense. I am relieved to find you are active, because the videos I watched were a couple of years old and for a moment I was worried I'd missed out on thanking you for sharing so much of your personal experience. ..thank you, Bas. I'm so glad you've taken the time and made the effort to express yourself while helping others.

@covermecomedy6146 9 жыл бұрын

This video just made me feel so much better! Thank you for making the videos that you do!!

@samar7151 10 жыл бұрын

THANK you so much!!!! i cant believe i found this i agree with someone else in the comments who said 'the other videos were full of misconceptions' they are! i always have 'bad days' & i didnt even know bpd existed and like me other people have these down days too. No one in my family or friends has this -

@IndigoSwirls 11 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your videos! Im happy I found you! Its nice to know their are others out there who understand my daily struggles!

@erickaguinan 11 жыл бұрын

Yay!!! I started watching your videos a few weeks ago. They are amazing!!! I am sooooo happy you are back. You help many people with your clear and honest videos! Thank you :)

@loveinsideyou 11 жыл бұрын

I am glad you're back, I find your videos very awesome. I love your ideas and I even use some plus you gave me a few more great ideas. Thanks!

@chemica1smi1e 11 жыл бұрын

I used to feel the same way, before I really knew what BPD was I felt completely alone. but there are plenty of people who do understand and who would be willing to help you... don't be afraid to reach out to someone if you need help or someone to talk to about how you're feeling.

@disiluzhund 11 жыл бұрын

Awweee, that was so sweet! Glad you made another video. You look so much better with the new hair style! Love it!

@Livebreatheatsleep 11 жыл бұрын

SOOOOO Super happy to see you back! It made my day to see this video!

@Tvongun 11 жыл бұрын

So glad to see you are back! Ive recommended your video's to others who are trying to better understand BPD. You have been a great comfort to me. :)

@CtrlAltObsolete 11 жыл бұрын

Welcome back Bas! I am glad... Your videos are always so enjoyable and helpful. Xoxo.

@cameronkay-hudson5281 11 жыл бұрын

I am so happy that you are back online and making videos I was thinking that I might not be seeing you again I struggle with bpd and your'e video's have help a lot thanks so much!

@SusanExplores 11 жыл бұрын

I am beyond happy to have you back. You dug me out of a hole a while back and you are part of my credits for keeping me going. And Peep Show is awesome!

@SamLovePieXx 11 жыл бұрын

I don't really occupy myself at all with my disorder in the past year that i havent been in therapy,but your videos are always a reminder that people go through the same shit i do,and it's so helpful sometimes! thank you!

@CandysChannel 11 жыл бұрын

I'm so thankful this video is in my self help playlist! I've been off my meds for several days and its been hell on earth. I will be able to go to my therapist to get meds again but not until next week, so your smiling face is a welcome relief for me. Your ideas are simple, fun and I can put them into action. Thank you again Bas :)

@TheOtherHolly 11 жыл бұрын

Of course. Thank YOU for being helpful and informative.

@ArtCatUK 11 жыл бұрын

Perfect video at the perfect time! Thank you so much Bas. This will help me loads this week.

@clintonmichaels497 6 жыл бұрын

You are such a beautiful person!! Thank you for your channel!

@mrblazo 11 жыл бұрын

Good to see ya again, worried a bit glad to see your alive :) I really enjoy your videos, not just for bpd {although I sometimes wonder if I am} but you got some good knowledge and have a way of sharing it that hits home for the ones that need to hear it. And the positive energy you have in this video is awesome. hope to see more!

@MeAndMyBlackTable 11 жыл бұрын

Aww thank you! Great to be back!

@BuriedSoldier 11 жыл бұрын

I'm so happy you are back!

@irisistha1 11 жыл бұрын

Happy to see you back !!! Your video gave me good ideas for the bad days⛅

@sasha01198 9 жыл бұрын

Just watching this video made me feel somewhat better! thank you and on that note thank you also for the other wonderful and helpful videos that you made you are awesome!

@CrespinMinPin 11 жыл бұрын

AWESOME!!! Also can work if you are just getting over a breakup, or bad day at work, anything. Love how your videos can be applied to almost every situation. Oh yeah, and glad you are back Bas! Missed you!

@MeAndMyBlackTable 11 жыл бұрын

Thank you. This is also a video for me to start off again a bit. Me talking to a camera etc. I wanted to start off in a not too heavy/serious way.

@MeAndMyBlackTable 11 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the lovely comment. Hope you're doing ok.

@MeAndMyBlackTable 11 жыл бұрын

Thank you for saying that. I will try and take it easy. Very sweet of you to say. Hope you are feeling a bit now.

@em7385 6 жыл бұрын

This always makes me smile when I'm having a bad day dealing with my emotions, thank you 💗

@user-lp9ju1qz8g 7 жыл бұрын

This cheered me up, and I actually do some of these stuff(or like them) when I don't feel well, or for nurturing myself and I always thought I was being a little much(although I didn't care because they made me feel better). No, do whatever makes you feel better, no matter how small, or childish or stupid it may seem. We cope the way we cope, there's nothing bad with it. Thank you so much, your videos have helped very much! Keep being awesome!

@chillsunrise 7 жыл бұрын

Watching your videos really makes me happy! You're amazing and really helpful. Thank you for making my days as a borderline easier.

@TheOtherHolly 11 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this, Bas! I'm currently in treatment and distraction is one of the tactics they emphasize. I really think I'm going to start coloring more often. It's extremely soothing. I hope you make more videos soon, they're very helpful!

@GirLovesYou13 11 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad you're back! :) Your videos are the best!

@DaddysPearl1 11 жыл бұрын

So glad to have you back!!! I've missed you!!!

@alexahepburn6957 11 жыл бұрын

I just wanted to say that I am impressed and think you are an amaazing person. I just got out of a relationship with someone with bpd. I am in my third month of healing and was sooo hurt by this person. After watching your videos it gave me some insight and understanding...almost closure in a way. You are honest and beautiful. Keep em coming they help people with bpd and even us nons! mahalo nui loa from Maui Hawaii!

@remymom 11 жыл бұрын

I am glad you are back...although I just found your videos recently and began watching them I was worried when I didn't see anything new. My daughter has BPD and she is 15...not really sure but she fits all the signs...I have asked her Therapist if I can show your videos to her. You have helped me understand my daughter more and what she is thinking. Thank you for that...that is a priceless gift.

@ChacingBugs 11 жыл бұрын

You seem happy! Glad to have you back.

@lmtdana 11 жыл бұрын

Those are some great ideas for my life and the hard days. Thank you!

@MeAndMyBlackTable 11 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the sweet words Ericka!

@BebeLife486 9 жыл бұрын

Hi Bas, I've been watching quite a few of your videos and I can't help but to think that you're really awesome. You just seem so positive and nice, like a very pleasant person to be around. I wish there were more people like you where I live, but I guess I have to work with what I have. Can't wait until you post more videos!

@MeAndMyBlackTable 11 жыл бұрын

Thanks :) glad to be back.

@12carla4 7 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much 💙. Just watching it made me feel a bit better. And the bubbles are my favourite idea!

@ssaberhagen2783 3 жыл бұрын

I needed this. It's validation. Thank you! 😘

@hedgeist 11 жыл бұрын

YAAAY!! You're back! Can't wait to hear what you've been up to! Lovely video, many of these ideas are similar to what I do on bad days, although I never wanna "get serious" again! I'd love it if you did a video about how to cope with everyday stresses when you have BPD, how to still lead a successful life etc. xx

@MeAndMyBlackTable 11 жыл бұрын

Thanks. Good to be back.

@MeAndMyBlackTable 11 жыл бұрын

Thank you! I hope you are doing well too.

@HarvestingThings 9 жыл бұрын

Bas, this is a great thing you're doing. Thank you so much for these videos, I do hope you make more. Cheers from Puerto Rico :)

@DanielleDeFreeze 11 жыл бұрын

Glad you're back.. your ideas are nice. I never realized the meditative quality coloring has. Also loved the bubbles :D Thank you for helping people.

@CorpusPrincipium 11 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your help.

@Black-Lotus. 11 жыл бұрын

I'm happy your back. Good vids .

@MeAndMyBlackTable 11 жыл бұрын

I find taking pictures in the woods always fun and inspiring to do. And there aren't a lot of people there often.

@appledarling6964 9 жыл бұрын

I have watched this video so many times. Your voice alone makes me calm enough so continue my day as a functioning person rather than a zombie. Thank you for being there for me and guiding me through this crazy journey. If you ever find yourself in Melbourne, Australia, I definitely owe you a coffee :) it's the least I could do!

@MeAndMyBlackTable 11 жыл бұрын

Well thank you so much!

@Just1Micky 11 жыл бұрын

My mobile internet usage just got newed today was not expecting to see your video at the top of my subscription list. It's freat that you are back!

@NinjaMarilyn 9 жыл бұрын

I watch this every time I don't feel well.. even when I'm having anxiety issues. Your videos can pull me out of everything :)

@MeAndMyBlackTable 11 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!

@clover12oli 11 жыл бұрын

Yeah you came back! I just recently got diagnosed and your videos have been a light to me in this very dark time. Thank you. :) can you make a video about what to do when your fears someone will leave you are being heightened if that makes sense. :)

@MeAndMyBlackTable 11 жыл бұрын

Hey, nice to see another familiar name :) Great to hear that you are hopeful and feeling better. That's fantastic!

@Melsie2023 11 жыл бұрын

Bass, I'm been looking forward to your new videos, this just made my whole night :D

@MeAndMyBlackTable 11 жыл бұрын

Thanks! Great to be back :)

@PhoenixSpirit2023 11 жыл бұрын

welcome back, I love your positive approach to BDP

@elsapadrons 8 жыл бұрын

I love your vibe ♡

@princessvay88 11 жыл бұрын

Omg! Omg! Omg! YOU'RE BACK!!! I am SO excited and you've just made my night! Haha. You have no idea how much of a positive impact you've made on my life and im sure the lives of billions of others suffering with BPD. You're amazing, Bas...im about to cry i'm so happy!! Thank you for coming back...please, please, please never leave again!! :D

@MeAndMyBlackTable 11 жыл бұрын

Thank you! Hope your place looks nice today :)

@MeAndMyBlackTable 11 жыл бұрын

Aww that is so sweet.

@surrendersweet 11 жыл бұрын

Missed you so much! Thank you for these - it makes me smile to do colouring books too :)

@MeAndMyBlackTable 11 жыл бұрын

Well thank you! :) I am honest going to try to continue making vids this time.

@P1P2P3_59 5 жыл бұрын

This was so needed

@MeAndMyBlackTable 11 жыл бұрын

Glad to hear that.

@kotathatsme 11 жыл бұрын

So nice to have you back! :D

@lilibbz2 11 жыл бұрын

Oh wow. Watching this made my day!

@amandapayne75 11 жыл бұрын

i think i am at a point where you are the only thing i can do. getting out of bed is not happening. the only reason i smile lately is because i found you, thanks for the smiles

@asil4521 11 жыл бұрын

Yay so glad you're back! Missed you! :D xx

@TheCoolq 6 жыл бұрын

You totally made my day ! 💛

@Keira15true 11 жыл бұрын

Haha that was so fun thank you!!X'D *my smile hurts my face now* jezz ;) nice to have ya back your video is great! I love the ending!X'D

@CandysChannel 11 жыл бұрын

Welcome back Bas! I now have therapy again and I just started on a new medication. I have healthcare benefits too. I'm hopeful and feel better. Looks like you are doing wonderful!! You look very healthy and happy! :) Candy

@erinp.420 6 жыл бұрын

I loved this. What a sweetheart he is. I’m going to have to try some of his ideas. Lisa Frank is back in style. I’m all over it 😆

@MissGeorgiaPeachy 9 жыл бұрын

I just adore you! Thank you so much for all of your videos! I bought coloring books, crayons and stickers and it definitely helps!

@ClandestineGirl16X 11 жыл бұрын

YOU'RE AWESOME :) thank you!

@rumrumimurmur 11 жыл бұрын

your back, yay! I got a how to draw manga book from the library to distract me on those days, I agree tv series, music and art really can help. I've got a great camera and love photography but I am too nervous to take it out in public, I get too self conscious. Anyway thanks for the video, look forward to more x

@dmcdesignstudio 11 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the insight really helpful. I work as a mental health counselor to understand is key

@ichigoringo307 11 жыл бұрын

I'm currently attending an oil painting class, and I find something as simple as mixing color in palettes and painting is surprisingly and incredibly calming! BTW, nice having you back! :)