From a broken, confused individual to educated, confident & full of hope...my have I changed! Thanks to Andrew's messages & the community, it really didn't feel like I was alone. Proud of all who partake here. Deepest appreciation & Blessings to all! 🌈🎀😘

I KNOW to pay attention to red flags, and that the abuser isn't going to "learn" or "realize" they are a terrible person.

At the end of the day...I just wanted to be loved, respected and cherished and give all that in return. Looking back, it was a painful, yet necessary lesson. Their loss, I have so much genuine love to share. I am grateful that I am alive, have beautiful children and am building myself back better. One second, one hour, one day at a time.

Yes the SILENT TREATMENT,, it’s brutal. It’s the most hurtful thing they do. Worse than physical.

23 days in. Got a ways to go. No one helps strengthen my resolve as Andrew helps. You are absolutely mighty today, Sir!

All my money depleted over time - obviously he never paid me back - it’s such a clear indicator that you’re dealing with a toxic person? Not rocket science. Something was broken in me to buy in to this shallow piece of “work” - ha the irony! Peace and big hugs to everyone in the thick of this. I promise you - there’s light when you leave ok. ❤️ Thank you Andrew ❤️

I was born into a toxic family, I was raised to think pleasing them was normal and being treated that way was normal! It took me a long time to wake up after attracting many toxic partners in my life too! I am definitely not the same person I used to be now! I want to expose them all now, no longer wanting any of them in my life, life is more peaceful now, even without family.

After 40+ years, I'll never be an ANYBODY he took all I had and shredded it all.

Thank you Andrew! ....oh yes, I changed I had to, otherwise I would stuck in the chaotic relationship. Glad, I made it, glad we made it.😄🤸‍♂️🤸‍♀️❤️

My old me died i am a new person today from healing not a victim anymore. I see more and more of people who have narcissistic when i see it I run block them .

It’s why you have to learn to cook for yourself, a narcissist has nothing good to serve you…

Am I a changed person ? How could I know , I have forgotten who I was . But I am becoming the person I always knew I could be . Thank you to you Andrew and all who take the time to comment and share their hard earned wisdom .

If he would of given me a Two page report and knew how he would be .... I would of kept walking 🚶‍♂️ 😕

Hello Andrew, hi everyone 🌟

I don't know why after 22 years I was alone and then this SOB came into my life. I did 22 years of being alone and being lonely. Did God have to punish me more with this jerk? I fought for my freedom and I sent him away, but I am still hurting. Not for that POS but for myself.

Hello Andrew, I remember the bathroom trip........ it was New Years and we were out and the 12pm bells were about to ring. He disappeared to the bathroom. Couples were hugging and kissing. I stood there alone. He appears 10 minutes later. Obviously he was calling or texting someone else. And I never received a hug or kiss. So happy I am done with him after 15 years. Yuk

3 1/2 years ago I left this toxic relationship and I am so glad I did it! What a relieve! I left him, because he become more and more crazy, I couldn't handle his behaviour anymore.After I left him, he was stalking me and while he was doing that, I found out, that he had a newborn baby with another women in another country. He flew over to her with my money (was telling me lies, why he had to go to his home-country) and made this baby, came back and stayed with me. So he cheatet on both of us. Long story short, I had to call the police and had a restraining order. Best thing I did. I got my freedom back, had a lot work to do , to heal. But I did it and now I cannot understand, why I did not leave him earlier. I will never ever let someone treat me like that again. I am a proud survivor of that abuse. You helped me a lot, Andrew! Thank you always for that, you do a great job! Greetings from Germany!

Wow the phone in the bathroom was so triggering. He was glued to his phone but couldn’t find it to call or text me back. I knew everything I needed to know and yet stayed too long. He means it when he says they need CONSTANT external validation, constant energy from others because they are a true black hole with nothing on the inside. How could I expect to get ANYTHING from that??

Another excellent video!! You do such a remarkable job of validating us community folks!! Everything you say is so spot on!! Thank you Andrew for your kindness and support!!❤💜

Your videos are literally the textbook of what I have gone through. I saw him today and see that he has restarted his cycle with a new supply. I thought it was kind of sad... Your videos are literally a godsend. Thank you. ❤

I've become a good carpenter... Building all the extra compartments to put all this in... Still building as I go... Have a good day.. 🙏☮️✨🐬

I did the work. I initiated the legal end way too late, and after younger child was college graduated . RUN!❣️

Yes! I am a changed person and thank God for that. And i sincerely wish the same for everybody who went through this horrible experience the narcissistic abuse. Have a wonderful evening Andrew and all the beautiful people here today ☺️🫶💜

👍Yes, without any intentions of gloating about it, I'm a different person. Instrumental for my change and adaptation has been due to many months on this channel. It helps to introspect and look back and tally all the times you were left perplexed from users who had their "game face" on at the beginning. None of the past bugs you as much when you've found out the "Why?" It's like getting hundreds of math problems wrong, until you go back to the initial error in a fundamental Rule you didn't understand. Once you've got it - smoother sailing. Have a Great Day! We're still alive, still learning and tons of fun and interesting things to do are still out there! Namaste.🙏

I hope one thing that has changed is a greater discernment of who really needs my help vs who is using me. I have to draw the line by no longer doing more for someone than they are willing to do for themselves. No more dancing around a black hole for me!

One year and seven months out of and I am about 70% heal. I fell so much better but this process take so much time to heal. Good luck to all and remember! You need to block them. It's the only way..

When you discover the person you once were, and love yourself ❤️ there is no going back 💖 Amen 🙏

I don’t know where I would be without finding your channel. This video made me feel so strong and empowered. Everything about your channel makes me feel seen and understood, something I don’t feel around almost anyone in my life currently going through this. I’m sure it isn’t easy making a video each and every day, I can’t thank you enough for being there every day with a message that helps me heal and reminds me to keep going stronger and I find that I do need a daily reminder on that despite everything I endured. I haven’t commented before.. but this video made me so thankful that I felt I should express it. Thank you Andrew, I am so sorry you went through this as well, but so grateful for you.

Thank you Andrew. I’m staying as strong as I can❤️

I've gotten texts abd phone calls at all hours and I've even been reprimanded for not picking up the phone when they call. They want you to explain and explain and explain and they just throw it in your face. Believe me, I've lived through many years of this, and when I'd gotten out for a while, I was slammed back in because I was unconsciously reliving the previous one with a new one. Now I'm walking past the crossroad, willing to go another way than I'd had before, to stop the reliving and just live. "I'm needy" - stop it. "I'll do anything for you" - trust me, bud, YOU WILL. Now I'm getting to know the truth, and not only am I comfortable with it, it's the sort of truth I'd needed and wanted all my life. I just need the know-how and the strength to pursue this other way of life. There are certain habits and choices I'd made over and over again, which I rely on God to give me the strength, courage and wisdom to stop.

For sure Andrew. I've changed so much . Afraid for the worse Don't trust anyone now . And lose so much left me depressed.

Almost 8 months out,he has been to court for the 4th time on Monday bc of probation revocation for non compliance of his guilty plea..I will be reading my victims impact statement that day.He will end up in jail most likely..Not the first time though,more like the 12th time.The FBI had called me in May bc he tried to citizens arrest his probation judge.He recently hacked my email account and bank account .I make that police report tomorrow..He has gotten crazier since I left.I could write a lifetime movie.Im thankful for this channel and the healing I have already done.Andrew you truly changed my life and now I'm stronger.I can't thank you enough.

I am so not the same people pleaser, over giver anymore. Thanks to you, Andrew, I am 1st, 2nd, 3rd, and I am knowledgeable about healthy boundaries now .❣️

True! Finally things are over, more opportunities and blessings coming to me while they’re stuck on their same cycle.

This is what it’s been like with my mother…. exactly…..and my flying monkey father….they've gotten unbearablely worse as they’ve gotten older…so at 72 myself….I’m done! I’m done with doing everything….which included emptying out two houses of hoarded crap, celebrating their anniversaries, birthdays, holidays….paying for vacations, dinners gifts…etc….taking care of their finances, doctor appointments..a freakin’ use job…I found the following saying: “once you lose access to me…don’t expect the same me I gave you….now you will get the version of me you deserve….from the energy YOU created…” My husband is on board with me and is beyond upset at how they treat me…us…as he does as much as I have done for them…he to,d me to give it up…

Bravo!!! I am a totally changed person.Powerful delivery today.Thankyou.

I'm glad to see you smiling during the conclusion of the video. Hope you have a great day.

You’ve really been through it! The passion and honesty of your knowledge and experience is so powerful. I get it all! WOW. Thanks again Andrew 🌷

NOW THAT'S MOTIVATION 💯 👌!!!!

💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽 they always made it a competition that’s for sure yes!

Great video Andrew!! Wishing everyone clarity and peace.. 🙏

Brilliant work Andrew so true

Agree, I'm a very different person than I was in my past. I'm no longer an always kind person. Months ago, I stopped being an over responsible person, so that I could slow my life down. Don't want to carry the burdens of other people into my future. Yesterday, I turned down a free meal that someone invited me to on Friday. I said, "No." And, got off the phone and said, "There are no free meals in Life." Anything people want out of me now, likely has a hidden cost. I'm much more aware. I only work with people who treat me well, when I am working. New life policy.

Please pray for me, I am in a very dark place, yesterday I got high and I was stoned today in the afternoon. 😢 I thought I had it mapped out but the dark cloud is still over me, please help me in prayer people of the community.

Truth for sure. Yes, am very changed and still working on myself and will continue to change. Toodles to the toxics as it happens 👋 thank you again so much ❤🙏

Thank you Andrew! You've been a great help in opening my eyes. 12 years of slow torture.

thank you just started the divorce it is so hard to fight because he twists the facts and i feel guilty for staying in the relationship so long

Such very discussing people. I have so very much to say but I’m afraid.

Amazing message!!! So glad I’m not the same person I was 3 months ago…Thank you for all you do!!

Dude, you killed it on this one! I listen to you every day. What you are doing is amazing. I've never left a comment on KZfaq. You deserve to know how awesome you are. Hardcore!

Please do not forget these people can be dangerous and stalkers. It's been 2 years and 8 months since the end of the relationship. Their number is blocked but their voice mails still go through. I haven't listened in the past but I was curious why after awhile he called, and should I be scared. It was disturbing. Please protect yourself and let your loved ones know if this is happening. This is serious.

the more alone time i spend the more i find myself again... and when others enter my space i can feel the bandaid tear off again

I had the “revelation” 5 months ago. My mother! I am 3 months into no contact, and I am gradually piecing aspects of my childhood and later life together. I feel so sad, tired and there is still so much anger. Some days it gets on top of me - but I am determined to resist all the hoovering. Good luck to everyone else out there who is grappling with this toxicity.

Oh Andrew, you are so right!

Wow🔥

Such a valid point !! Although we have to kiss goodbye to the sweet , innocent people pleaser , we remain good inside but discover a stronger , wiser , more decisive and self protecting version of our self , and that truly is a WONDERFUL thing ! 💪😎❤️

So motivating, Andrew!! Thank you!!🙏

I'm a complete changed person,sometimes if I say no,people are surprised. I believe more what I know at the Beginning,it's to good to be true. It will never happen to me again.My boundries are in place.

Good job Andrew this message was right on point how these people work they mean you no good. I was discarded last and when i found your video i realize what all this i was dealing with a narcissist my ex-husband narc and my closest friend and in my past relationship with people in general in every day life. Thank you for educating everyone in the world on narcissist.❤

I have spend 4 years in a a toxic relationship, full of manipulation, lies and devaluation, she teared me down, but I have survived with help from God and people like Andrew ! I have had therapy, but I still have some backlashes, but I am free !

The cocoon of boundaries - love it

I am stunned to realize how many narcissists were in my life... I guess when you grow up with a narcissist mother and sister you develop ways of being that attract them to you and that you are attracted to them as they seem "comfortable"...familiar... it's nightmarish when the realization hits...

Oh, one more thing...THANK YOU. I needed to hear this today. God bless you.

Thank you Andrew ❤ The relationships I've had over the years now make so much sense!! I thought I was 'just unlucky' to b with another.....user!! Now I've learnt what they saw in me and I'm now aware of the signs and red flags of how these narcissistic people work. My last relationship was the catalyst in leading me to learn about narcissism. Your video's are instrumental in our learning and healing, thank you once again ❤😊

Excellent video Andrew,, 👍👍😊💖💖💖T.y.🌺

I think this it, Andrew. I finally reached the "pinnacle of indifference". It's been almost a year, but I don't give a f anymore. Hopefully it won't relapse and stays for good. Thanks for those videos. They helped me a lot.

Didnt know what was going on, at that time, seems like my head was in a cloud, appreciate the vid

Terrific! Preach it bro!

Thank you for your help, I feel like a mess sometimes but you're videos have been an oasis of information and comfort.thank you and God bless you and yours ❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉😂😂😂😂😂😊😊😊😊

Thank you for this encouraging and uplifting video....

This is exactly right. Every word.

BRAVO💯🇫🇷🙏🌞ANDREW!! I found out who this Narc/sister is made of,, By your videos and all your messages!! I am my 3rd version of myself!! And now in my Wonderful bright light of living!! Leave her twisted lies ,, Glad I found out !! Have a wonderful day 🙏🌞🌿🌿🌱🪴

Thank you 👍🙏✌️🌈😀🌹❤️

This one was great!! So spot on, thank you Andrew 🙏🏼 Great to actively feel that every day i’m growing. Its only been 6 weeks since the disgard (he never showed up when he said he would and i ended it by text, poor stuff when you are in your 40’s, right 😒) Im feeling stronger every day and your videos help, i really look forward to them. I still do need that input but my crying decrease, and i can look at memories and really feel nothing for him as a person. The only thing that can make me sad is my own expectations of that time, my own disappointment. The mask so to speak, because i thought we had special and perfect moments. Next sunday is my birthday and i will make that special with my best friend on a day in the sauna. No input and just sweating all the shit out. Sooo thanks again, please keep going. You are making my day. Namaste 🙏🏼

🌟 Andrew: Thank you again.

Thank you so much for this Andrew !! Namaste soul brother

I grieved the " Old Me" forever. She is never coming back

💯 truth

You are so bang on.....

That isn't a bad thing. What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger.

Hello everyone! Thank you Andrew, for this video! This is so true ..I am definitely a different person, post narcissist. I am more aware. I am enjoying the new me, practicing self care, enjoying my hobbies, saying no if need be...I am just happier.

I have learnt many lessons, eg. about over-sharing or people-pleasing. I have the necessary boundaries in place now, I believe. I still think multiple times a day about a theft from a supposed friend, though. It was a unique and irreplaceable item, and most precious to me. I also think about how disgustingly I was treated by this trio of pretend friends who ostensibly visited me when out of a three week hospital stay after 3 strokes. I probably need therapy, but cannot afford it. I'm not trying to be negative, only truthful.

Things that happened to us or are things we did do not define us. They are not who we are. What matters is what we do with that experience. You define who you are or want to become. Your self worth should not be measured by someone else's inability to see it. People try to shame you - it’s about them and their toxicity, stay away from them. It’s NOT about you. Take off the billboards people have tried to paste over you and be yourself. Trust your gut. We take on too quickly the undeserved shame which doesn't belong to us, it belonged to them. Say to them or in your mind "This isn’t mine, I don’t accept this, it’s yours, I’m giving it back to you." “The further away you remove yourself from the narc, the clearer your mind becomes.” Get your mind going in the right direction. Your life is going to follow your thoughts. Pray and ask God to help you, He will.❤️

Awwww you’re so bubbly and happy!!!

I was who they trained me to be, because I'd taught them to treat me that way. Believe me, I suffered, but I'm no victim. I had a part in it. I don't wish to be devalued any longer and on top of that, I'd like to value others. I know some people-pleasing needy people and my heart breaks for them. They could be so much more for themselves.

I cannot cut ties. We have a six year old with pretty severe special needs. She needs thd both of us. I am shackled to this demon. But with the knowledge i have gained here, my dear brother. The demon is now shackled to me. Knowledge is power, and i inted to wields it. The armour of contempt. A healthy dose of sarcasm. I must dance on the tail of a tiger, and you sir have taught me the moves. You have my eternal thanks and gratitude

❤❤❤❤ that's right buddy.

I'm whole...my heart has repaired 💜 ' I won't let them break me down to dust...I know there's a place for us' Keala Settle- This is Me....I love this song the lyrics are magical 💜 Andrew you are on fire... beautifully inspiring 🙏💜🌟

Excellent vidio!! I loved the energy!

Exactly.

Just what I needed to hear…I was feeling the weight of regret for all the time lost and wasted after cutting ties with my narc ex, but reframe it as I’m a survivor and wiser and lead a more peaceful existence. I am “alone” but so was I when I was with the ex…it takes strength and determination to break free. Learning to love myself and set boundaries and trusting there’s a better outcome waiting for me. Like Andrew says, you are not alone…we’re all on this journey together finding a way out and learning from each other. Blessings.

Another day and a new wonderful video, I enjoy all of them, now I know that I have learned all that you have experienced too, it has made my life easier, now I know who I can trust, it has been so enriching to listen to your videos, thank you so much, from Denmark

💔You don't know this new me; I put back my pieces differently.

Thanks for the video, Andrew. 🙏🏻🌺🌻😊

one of the biggist thing that he used love and weponised it

Thank you, Andrew for your encouragement, putting the heavy lining on me has been incredibly hard even though he’s cheated and he’s angry all the time and he tells me about how unhappy he is with me and I have moved out. He still continues to push me to say I’m done, it’s hard to understand why he talks about how much he is unhappy with me but then wants me to stay?

Algonquin or Iroquois. I am from VT., but my grandfather was French Canadian & Native American. It registered on 23&Me. My sons have more since they get it from their father’s side as well. His grandmother was on a reservation somewhere outside Fletcher, VT. I love your videos.☮️✌️

Thank you Andrew!!!!! Love you so much!!! 🎯💯😊❤️

Good day, Andrew, This video was a breath of fresh air. Just to listen to you, I saw my past life play out. It feels good to know that someone (Y❤U) understands the effects of narcissistic behavior. Thank you very much for sharing this information/video. I wish you all the best. May you be happy, healthy, and blessed. 🙏❤️🌺

…100% right in every way !!!