I was in elementary school but my grand aunt died without children. She never had kids. People in my family acted like it was soooo unfortunate. She never looked bothered. She was a fun grand aunt and i loved hearing about her life. But you know who was there for her because she had good relationships with family and friends, my mother. My mother moved her to our house after her husband died. My mother took care of her. My mother got her medical care. She didnt "die alone". She had us. She is my childfree hero.

You can’t ditch what you’ve never had.❤

Women age slower without men or kids...yet women throw that away for a life of premature ageing and shackles.

I dont get why people get angry when someone chooses to not have a child if they know they don't want one. Nobody should be forced to have kids if they don't want them 100%

Why would we want them? Mini mes, retirement, to feel special. That shits selfish. Even to keep the species going is selfish.

Let’s be honest, half the people that have kids shouldn’t have had kids. Not everyone is parent material.

Not gonna ruin my body and my youth to give the system that despises me another victim. I try to make a change, and uf it doesn't hapoen I go without having forced into the misery ahead of us.

As a man at 40 years old, I am choosing not to have children for many reasons. Children are too expensive, parenthood is a lot of responsibility and the world is disgusting. People ask me why I don’t want children and I ask them why they have or want children. Their response is this “Children are a bundles of joy, blessings and they bring so much meaning, purpose and fulfillment!!!!” and I can’t help but laugh.

Women need to stop being so nice to men who don’t deserve it. Her reading those comments triggered me because those men are so disrespectful.

I’ve never seen the point in having kids just because society said so.

People don't regret things they never wanted. For those who are childless (can't have children) I can understand having regret but for those who are child-free by choice, we don't regret what we didn't want in the first place.

I barely have time for exercise after work. Yeah let me just have a baby too….

The greatest writer my country ever produced, Machado de Assis, has an incredible quote in one of his most beloved books: "Não tive filhos, não transmiti a nenhuma criatura o legado da nossa miséria." which means "I had no children, I did not pass on the legacy of our misery to any creature." I read this when I was 13 and it stuck with me forever. I'm 38 years old now, never forgot this quote and how it molded my perception of this subject forever.

I love how the man saying she’s selfish can’t see how selfish he is for shoving his beliefs down another human’s throat.

Childcare is $25000 in the US , looool noooo thanks, I would rather pay that on my house so that I won't be homeless.

'Choose better' is such a cop out. We don't need to tell women to choose better, men know well how to bait-and-switch. We need to teach men to BE better. That said, I don't want kids regardless of whatever man would coparent with me.

Having “A” kid is literally a death sentence. Sorry not sorry! Tell the truth shame the devil 💯🎯

I just simply don't understand why people call this "controversy." My body, my choice. Period.

I have kids but I honestly think every woman deserves to choose the right life for themselves. That’s true freedom. No one should be judging women who don’t want children. It’s a personal decision. Frankly with the global population constantly rising less people should realistically be having children.

There is no amount of anything to make me have a child in my 40s. No point in having children if I'm not ready for the responsibility.

26yo woman here - I don’t want to put a child through what I went through growing up. My parents were not mentally well and abusive on every level. I am not well, but someday adoption is always an option. Until then, I can’t subject a child to my suffering.

My biggest concern right now is finishing school. Getting my breast reduction and hysterectomy... and then traveling as a medical tech. Also interested in moving overseas somehwhere. So many options to choose from!!! Being lonely sounds like a dream to an introvert!

Grandma is 80, 7 kids, 15 grandkids, 9 great grandchildren. No body wants her 😂 😢

This is the reason why im terrified to have a lazy ass unaware sexist husband. This is too much

There are 3 types of child free people. 1. The childless. Usually medical and financial reasons. But they don't get a choice. 2. The child free. Usually "knows" (it's as much a part of them like eye color or skin type) before puberty starts or just after. Ages 7 to 13. Typically they don't have reasons, although they can list some if pushed. 3. The child free by choice. Typically they decide not to have children in late puberty or right after. Ages 15 to 26. And they have Reasons! They have a lot of reasons and they can do a PowerPoint on that shit if you got the time.

I have to be the change I wish to see In this world so that change is less suffering and pain

Single women with no children are winning. 🎉 As a Mom of 8, I approve this message😂

Having children is not a job it is many jobs 😂

Some people also like being alone!

58, no kids... I chose not to have them because I didn't want to pass down the patterns (dysfunctional family). I didn't want to have a husband telling me how tired he was and how I did nothing.nmy main reason was all the shit I saw in the world and it's even worst today. But that's me. Women have the right to choose. Do what makes you happy.....not what society tells you to do

I don’t want kids because my life goals are not enabled by kids. I understand the emotional amd financial responsibilities of children and I don’t believe I would be happy in taking them on.

17:33 I wish men had more male figures that actually cared about the younger generation of men to talk to them this way; positive, and real.

My mom has 3 kids and the rest abandoned her. I am the mistake child born 10 years after the second child. I felt unwanted all my life. I have one son and I regret it. I got pregnant when he was 7 and aborted it. I do not want anymore. I want my peace. Thank God my son will be 18 soon. His dad does not participate in parenting. I know that my son hates being alive. I try my very best with him but I cannot shake the regret. After pregnancy is when I saw who his dad was. He was never a dad while we were together and even worse when we split up. All the parenting falls on me and it is draining. I see men and the world differently. I really hope my son can heal from all of this. What pisses me off is when people ask me when will I go for the girl.

Children do not open up any opportunities but they certainly close opportunities 😂

I saw now a lot of woman who got cancer after childbirth or other illnesses that’s super scary

Not every woman or man is given the desire to get married or have children and that’s ok.

It feels like society has been pushing the idea that everyone should have kids so much that it's almost treated as if it's an easy task. As if it isn't a massive undertaking that affects not only the child but everyone else in the world that has to interact with the child you raised. Parenting should be treated as a job that requires a person to have certain competencies. There are skillsets that comes with parenting and people need to have them, be willing to learn them, and be capable of learning them as well as performing them. People treat it as the default state for all adults and that by virtue of being over 18 years old, you should be considering being a parent. Instead being childfree should be the default and only those who want to be parents (without social coersion) and who are willing to put in the work to learn the necessary skills that they don't know yet should attempt to be parents. It's crazy to me that someone can say "I don't want children" and peoples knee-jerk response is to guilt, shame or scare them into changing their minds. The last person who should be a parent is the person who doesn't want that. It's common sense. People care more about status quo than the wellbeing of kids.

A license should be required to have & raise kids. Honestly, at least half the population (female & male) is not cut out to be a parent.

It's weird that people apparently think that your '40s are a wasteland. If you have children, they tend to be teenagers and heading off to college at this time. Some of your core competencies are absolutely established and you're growing. I mean, I could imagine being lonely if you don't get out much. But if you're like most people in their forties you're working, you're out in the world. But honestly, this sounds like something a man would say. Because I think a lot of men in their forties start to feel how superficial a lot of their relationships are. It's also the time when a lot of divorces start to happen. Frankly, in my observation, men struggle to make deep and durable connections with other people. They're often just as happy to allow their wives or girlfriends to be the custodian of all the relationships. And when that woman isn't there or available, yeah, they're lonely. But that isn't the experience I noticed for women in their 40s. Whether they have children or not.

Leave the baby making up to the fools. They love sorrow.

Motherhood is a scam.

I already raised a kid that wasn’t mine, if my parents wanted grandbabies they shouldn’t of made me raise them and my brother

Dude the chick at 21:51 totally obliterated that guy’s statement on legacy. She gave him *emotional damage* using absolute logic 😂😂 I can’t stop laughing!

The guy wanting his wife’s pain meds is wild and horrible. I had to replay to make sure I heard it right. That dude has a major problem

😂they need to start making those “baby on board” stickers for non parents… “no baby on board”

Am i married ? Nope Do u plan on getting married ? Nope Is there any chance on me getting married ? Nothings there in any foreseeable future Do i want kids ? Nope Do i plan on getting my own kids ? Nope Will i regret my decision ? Maybe ...i mean out of 365 days a year maybe about 60 days i might regret it ... But i dnt even care abt it the rest of the 305 days ... I think the married myt also wish to be single at times ... I mean the grass is always greener on the other side... Thank you for the video

People who push parenthood on others give the worst reasons for needing you to have kids. 1. "You'll die alone" oh, so you only have kids so that you're taken care of? Isn't that selfish. Also, not guaranteed 2. "Children are bundles of joy" so you want to have children so you can be happy? Isn't that a selfish reason to bring a human into this world when so many things can otherwise give you joy? Also, not guaranteed. 3. "But it's your purpose in life" biological essentialism is a scourge. it's stupid, it prevents people from thinking critically about who they really are and what they want. I'm not my body. I'm more than that. Also, ew. Children are mystery boxes and their own individuals. Not tools, not mini mes. Not even pure, innocent and perfect. They're just people. If you just want to make and help a new person develop then yeah. You have a good reason. So me saying i don't want to do that should be enough.

Why would you not want to give somebody LIFE? YOUR SKELETAL STRUCTURE. CAN PERMENANTLY. CHANGE.

„You have a kid and your life becomes about the kid, I want my life to be about me.“ „That’s selfish“ Sir, SHE becomes a mother and her life will probably be about to change a whole lot more than your‘s would. You become a father and your life probably wouldn’t change as dramatically AND you‘d probably be applauded for doing the bare minimum. Easy to call someone selfish if you can’t see the actual shitshow that is the way our society treats mothers. Convince me YOU would be an actual father and not sitting there from your comfy position as „the man of the house“ enjoying the accolades of fatherhood while outsourcing most of the work to your wife/girlfriend. Easy to call someone selfish from that position, huh? I‘d rather become a father than a mother, which should tell you everything.

I’m 25 and I don’t want any I love moving freely 😂 and not having something holding me back

I’m Catholic. Not all convents are thriving, but plenty of them are. I have spent quite a bit of time around monks and nuns since I decided not to marry my fiancé 6 years ago, to cancel the wedding, and began taking theology courses. It has been valuable and life-affirming. I try my best to fight against corruption I see in the Church, and I believe that celibacy and a deeply religious life is a fulfilling vocation.

No, even the so called helpful men, do things with weaponized incompetence. If you don’t want to have kids don’t. It’s hard af

Why did these women have multiple children with this sort of guy???

Putting someone into this world only to take care of you, it really shows who’s the selfish one. There’s so much to do in this world to keep me busy, instead of changing diapers m.

I'm 54 and my son is 36 and I wouldn't change a single thing... He was grown when I became 36 😮 the sacrifices I made to raise him as a teenager kept me out of trouble... Value things and worked my butt off to achieve stability

The MomTee with the Coat ! 👌🏽👌🏽 She is Me & I am her. Just turned 42 🎉🎉on Thursday and i don't have children, But i have A niece and Nephew that I love with ALL of Me. And they get a lot of my time. I wish people would stop asking me! That window is closed. No, i never thought that i wouldnt have children , just never thought that i wouldn't. It didn't happen for me. I didn't want to be a single mother and wanted marriage and that hasn't happened for me. So Yes to MomTee's 💐🥂🥂

They want you to be quiet so that other women won't know how wonderful it is to be free😂 Don't fall for the banana in the tail pipe. Having children can and will trap you and if you are not trapped it will be increasingly difficult to do anything. Unless u have wealth to hire servants and even them your mind could literally break down after😢 My friend was fine after her first baby and became bi polar after her second. Almost 2 decades now and she is still messed up 😢 her brain has suffered chemical imbalance and has yet to be corrected 😢

The more the cost of living rises the more energy I have to put into upskilling and my career so that I can keep up with life. I simply don’t have time to have a family right now. I rather be responsible by not having kids because I won’t be able to spend much time with them and be there for them. So yep.

I really want the people who questions other people for not wanting kids to be alone at a house with a new born a 3 year old and a 6 years old and take care of them all By themselves no help at all and see if they still want kids then and just for one day

i'm convinced many people didnt like being parents truly but want everyone else to do the same thing and suffer because then they don't have to witness what their life could have been like

Selfish Lacking consideration for others. I'm lost as to how not having children is lack of consideration for others😂

Traci Ellis Ross is so well spoken omgosh

6:50 interesting how all the comments are about “my ex” … good for them!

28:11 girl why do you care if she wants a bag why does that concern you

This is such a great compilation! Thank you!

I have nieces and nephews that I love, even when I was a teacher (had to stop to take care of my mom) l loved those kids as well, and that's perfect for me! I don't want my own kids. I don't want to procreate with anyone. I don't have enough money to raise a kid. I don't want to pass down my mental health issues. I also enjoy traveling on my own I enjoy learning new things, having new experiences, so yeah maybe I'm a bit selfish but that's my choice. I love other people's kids because I can hand them back at the end of the day.

Can’t care what other people think of your choices.

I've been sad inside this video gave me alot to be thankful for also I'm going to try to look at things in different perspective

They’re taught to look good on paper 👹👺👹👺 were married, live in a cup de sac

28:12 if yall find value in human beings that can’t feed themselves why can’t we find value in luxury bags?

Good 👍🏻 do you know what those doctors do to us when giving birth. Don’t let me get into bladder slings that women can’t get out . Good for you❤❤

We like _things_ b/c elder millennials and gen x grew up being told *No* whenever we wanted something.

I think what a lot of people don’t want to admit is that if most of us started off with the choice instead of the societal pressure, we’d have a lot less children anyway. It’s just jarring now that the choice feels so widespread🤷🏽‍♀️

The girl complaining about someone just being happy with things and calling her materialistic, she just sounds bitter and jealous

This is a generally uplifting reel, there are a few sadly unsympathetic people in some videos - so just remember that the choices, thought process and emotions involved contemplating having kids or not is very complicated, conflicting and messy because each of us contains multitudes. Be kind to those that do, no need to dehumanise those who do have kids, and those who don’t have kids by choice or because that’s how life works out. World needs more kindness, towards ourselves and to others. You can be a fine parent and guardian of yourself, others including children and the earth whether or not you have your own bio children but this involves kindness. Always kindness.

My really old dad has 5 children who love him a lot. The youngest lives 800 kms away and still has kids at home. She and her kids come when they can but she’s still got to work. I am 7 years away from retirement and have 2 side gigs. I spend a few hours every Sunday with my dad. The oldest is in town most weekends so sees him for a few hours almost every weekend. The middle child has serious health problems so sees Dad a couple of times a month, maybe. The second oldest is retired and our dad’s health caretaker. He talks to Dad everyday but can’t always see him everyday because he has an older wife with health problems and they do daycare for a grandson. You can have lots of children who love you and enjoy your company and still die alone because they have spouses, homes, jobs, children, grandchildren, pets and their own health issues that mean they can’t spend every minute with you. In our perfect world, Dad would die peacefully in his own bed surrounded by his children. Maybe even the grandchildren and great grandchildren. It likely won’t happen that way. Having children so you aren’t alone in your old age is stupid. You don’t know what’s going to happen in your life. My dad has tried living with a few of us and hated it because we don’t do things his way.

It’s not about the right man. I have a great man and children would still destroy my life.

in a nutshell: men never ever appreciate the "sacrifice" and once kids are around they will take your effort taking care of kids, cooking and cleaning at the house.. for granted losing your health... for these examples what was in this video? I`d rather have dogs than husband

I love the first woman sunglasses.

My husband(37) and i(33) have decided to not have kids because its far too expensive. We would love to have a child but its not financially feasible at this point.

My dad had 2 sisters, one had 2 kids, the other had none, my mum had 2 brothers, one had 2 kids, the other had 1. My parents were born in 1920 and 1923, so tiny families or no kids isn't new!

This is for people who agree with blue robe women. All those things she named I wonder what she worked on while not having kids? For burgundy wearing women. I agee with everything you said. My follow up question I keep to myself. 😂 The parent that don't get visits from their family is based on how they treated them. You treat and respect people they will show up without pay. Well the moral of this video is the government is Very upset see this video after all their hard work to over turn Roe vs. Wade😂😂😂😂

WOW!! These men in this comment section were awful. Instead of talking to women, men need to go jack up other men. This is appalling.

If he was not caring or concerned when I had Severe nausea and vomiting in early pregnancy, I would have gone straight to the abortion clinic. Neither him or his baby, is worth my peace.

I was gonna say the argument of who will look after you when you're old or you'll end up old and alone is ridiculous to me. Loads of people end up old and lonely even when they have kids either because they don't owe you always being around you when they're old enough to have their own life but also lots of people disown their parents because of abuse, mistreatment and trauma! (BTW I have 2 kids myself 😅)

People should get angry with people who did have children but abuse them, neglect them, or raise them as little terrors. Some people pop out children just to sell them or profit off them as if they are money making machines. Disgutsting. People who choose to be childless, like me, are honest with what they want and their capabilities. Speaking for myself, I find it hard financially, and mentally to ever support a child. I don't know if I'll be able to handle raising someone else when I can't even take care of myself. Besides, women's value is not just limited to our capability to carry a child in our womb. If you think otherwise, you should check your privilege.

Right they won’t help ❤❤❤

The woman with the yellow earrings is EVERYTHING!!😍

One of the biggest things that I question is: do the people shaming childfree men and women think that they are/would be great parents. (Especially if they themselves don't have kids.) If they judge people for their decisions and lash out so much over a choice I would hate to think how they would treat their own child.

There's no hidding place from the father of creation

These husbands/ex husbands!!!???WFT…are they even of the humans species🫢🫢🫢

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If you want to test yourself to see if parenthood is for you. Work at a daycare for about 10 years and interact with every child from baby to preteen. And then use that intel to determine parenthood is for you or not.

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She shouldn’t have been forced to let him see the birth. Especially after all that neglect. So fucked

As a housewife who has always wanted children, I don't understand people getting personally offended by others choosing to be childfree. Our planet is over populated and half the children now aren't being raised all that great, why encourage more births just for the sake of it? I fully support my childfree friends. Live your best life in whatever way makes sense to you as long as it isn't hurting anyone. It is infinitely more selfish to have children than to not have them and nothing will change my mind on that.

"Childless" sound so negative. "Child free" sounds better

Im a loud and proud Cool Aunt™️. In my younger years I thought I'd be a mom because " that's just what happens." As I got older, and having my brother and his friend's kids get unceremoniously dropped off at my mom house so I could babysit, (my mom didn't help, and no they never once offered money) I began to rethink things. I was 14 at the time. My childfree choice wasn't fully solidified back then, but I was really leaning towards it. Even when I got married i was still on the fence, then we had a pregnancy scare. I took a test and thankfully it was negative. At first I was a little sad about it, but that only lasted about 30 secounds because my good friends FEAR and PANIC started to settle in and that's when I knew mother was not a title I wanted to have. Don't get me wrong, I love children some of them are even cooler than some adults I know, i just don't wanna raise any of my own. I like being able to have cool experiences with my niblings (love that word) but I also like parting ways when the fun is over til we do it again. Oh and I have a clapback for when someone asks who gonna take care you when you're old. Hit em with this: Whichever one of your children choses to work as a home health aid. And they'll always come to me because I pay them with money, not guilt for not coming to visit often.

I’m a non-mom.