Why Comparison is Ruining Your Life
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I Had A Comparison Problem: 0:00
The Hedonic Treadmill: 1:51
Why Do We Compare So Much?: 3:14
The Social Media Effect: 4:03
What You Should Compare Yourself To: 5:48
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Hey, I'm Cole Hastings. I'm a vegan athlete/content creator with a passion for videography/video editing, among other things. I help people build themselves physically/mentally through fitness and self help videos.
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@MohammadShakiba 3 жыл бұрын
the most important lesson was having skeedop mindset
@ColeHastings 3 жыл бұрын
Without a doubt!
@rossdurden 3 жыл бұрын
whats that? :O
@MohammadShakiba 3 жыл бұрын
@@rossdurden exactly!
@TomBarns1 Жыл бұрын
No seriously. What's skeedop mindset?
@TheTalentlessWriter 3 жыл бұрын
Comparison has made me want to quit following my dreams/goals so many times, even to this day lol
@ColeHastings 3 жыл бұрын
Eat your cereal
@TheTalentlessWriter 3 жыл бұрын
@@ColeHastings this made my day 🥣
@ColeHastings 3 жыл бұрын
@@TheTalentlessWriter love you dog
@miriyumyum3590 2 жыл бұрын
Noooo eat a protein and fat heavy breakfast. So you blood sogar is more stable over the day.😬
@stayhappylittlemermaid 3 жыл бұрын
Some of life's best lessons are learned at the worst times.
@ColeHastings 3 жыл бұрын
I would argue pretty much all of life's best lessons
@TheLibraryOfEmotions 3 жыл бұрын
Redirect your attention ⊂( ･∀･) 彡 =͟͟͞͞(●)`Д´)
@stayhappylittlemermaid 3 жыл бұрын
@@ColeHastings ☕☕☘️
@holydeisi3353 3 жыл бұрын
👏🏽 BIG facts
@chubbymike3372 2 жыл бұрын
This makes me hope!
@NeilDavidAdams 3 жыл бұрын
*”Comparison is the thief of joy”* - Theodore Roosevelt
@rickm6232 3 жыл бұрын
They also haven't been through your trauma's, made your choices, had your parents. So many factors. Just live your life!
@ColeHastings 3 жыл бұрын
Big facts
@Jedilord882 Жыл бұрын
Can’t live my life when it’s garbage lmao
@connorbeaudet4013 3 жыл бұрын
My ex girlfriend ended up pushing me away because I was “too good for her”, cause I had my shit together and she didn’t. If you go on her social media, she’s always happy/her life is amazing. She’s a pretty girl and has thousands of followers but not a single one knows the behind the scenes. I love the girl but that alone showed me how fake social media is.
@slxsarc.entertainment7906 3 жыл бұрын
"How fake social really is" Ikr..😐mann didnt realize that until I got a little older
@kankerbanaan 3 жыл бұрын
Fucked up shit man
@tootienottoofruitie1726 3 жыл бұрын
Connor.. what exactly do you love about this person.. I would make a list and then on the other side list what you don't love starting out with being 2 faced
@gm836 3 жыл бұрын
This is why I’m afraid of relationships. People will leave you just like that despite you loving them more than anything. It always starts of amazing but how can live with the fact that the person you fcking lived the most just walks out. I’d be suicidal and depressed bruh.
@connorbeaudet4013 3 жыл бұрын
@@gm836 tbh man it took a few months, I made some mistakes, I was pretty clingy but it’s also cause my life was going pretty shit and I had nothing to look forward to but her. Did that drive her away, maybe?. But after 2 months I kinda realized that yeah I actually was too good for her. Do I miss her of course but I’m glad it happened and needed it as a kick in the ass
@SFlaidlaw101 3 жыл бұрын
Deleting Social Media was the best decision I have ever made! 🙏 Now I actually love what I create again without feeling the need to compare it to others.
@samreplete1842 3 жыл бұрын
Beautiful.
@sportyhuntley8914 3 жыл бұрын
Me too! I feel so happy & pure. Consuming so much of other people & media is TOXIC. None of that stuff acutually matters unless it's a source of income.
@SFlaidlaw101 3 жыл бұрын
@@sportyhuntley8914 Yes! Yes! The most important part is about how you feel. I actually am so inspired about this I even made a video about it haha.
@samreplete1842 3 жыл бұрын
@@SFlaidlaw101 your chanel looks good too.
@SFlaidlaw101 3 жыл бұрын
@@samreplete1842 Thank you so much :)
@TakeBackYourMind997 3 жыл бұрын
Top things that helped me with comparison are: - Understanding that we all have such different lives and circumstances that comparison between you and another person can NEVER be a fair test. - You never truly know someone, so it's impossible for you to actually compare yourself to them. You're comparing your entire self to your outside perception of them. - Everyone's losing the comparison game. The people that make you feel like shit, have people that make them feel like shit. In that sense, we're all equals. - Even if comparison was completely valid, it still doesn't help you in any way at all. So there's no reason to do it. You have full permission to let go of those thoughts for this reason. - Comparison is a habitual way of thinking, and habits can be changed!
@audrey5094 Жыл бұрын
love this, thank you.
@TheOnlyShady Жыл бұрын
War
@TheOnlyShady Жыл бұрын
@@audrey5094 Estes sss😅sy😅
@jonasvw 3 жыл бұрын
Comparison is one of the biggest problems of our society and the reason why so many people are depressed
@Crystal_G_1989 11 ай бұрын
The reason of that is because we are being mind condition in our environment circle its like matrix if you cant escape you will suffer.
@moess6076 3 жыл бұрын
Staying at home in lockdown and constantly checking social media made me start to hate myself and my achievements. Hopefully i will get out of it.
@Moeigl 3 жыл бұрын
same boat brother
@arushh42 3 жыл бұрын
same
@slxsarc.entertainment7906 3 жыл бұрын
Delete those social media apps not all but the ones you find yourself constantly using. I removed ig, snapchat, Facebook, tiktok ect. The only app I use now is whatapp so i can communicate with my families. I'm bliss to say tho, that doing this has change my life for the better.. Social media affects your mental health negatively, It really does.
@ColeHastings 3 жыл бұрын
It's all a facade, but even still it's hard not to compare. I would suggest deleting those apps or limiting your usage somehow
@moess6076 3 жыл бұрын
@@slxsarc.entertainment7906 Thanks for the advice, i should try it .
@TheLibraryOfEmotions 3 жыл бұрын
It takes too much energy, and generate too much fear to focus on what others have achieved. If you're reading this comment, I hope you could believe in yourself and try to not to focus too much on your insecurities.
@Kalaxian80animations 3 жыл бұрын
I believe in myself and ignote pretty much the insecurities! :D
@TheLibraryOfEmotions 3 жыл бұрын
@@Kalaxian80animations I'm glad (｡•ᴗ-)_
@dude2499 Жыл бұрын
Lol too late
@Temzzo 3 жыл бұрын
For the few people reading this, wishing peace and prosperity on you all 🥷🏾⛩
@cabbage5169 3 жыл бұрын
Good job being first
@TheLibraryOfEmotions 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you brother (｡•ᴗ-)_
@holydeisi3353 3 жыл бұрын
Right back at you!
@greg403 3 жыл бұрын
Right back at you!
@hermanmelville3368 3 жыл бұрын
The best self-improvment channel.
@ColeHastings 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@ADballa28 3 жыл бұрын
I deleted social media (still on KZfaq, obv) since August of last year. And I must say, I went from suicidal ideation with constant comparisons and negative thoughts to mental clarity and positivity. Watching videos like these and the like, has helped tremendously. Social media can be toxic for a vast majority, and if it’s got you down, just delete it and don’t look back. I’m so glad I did.
@francisco_zx1681 3 жыл бұрын
I find it sad that how our generation is suffering so much from mental problems including my self but I’m glad I found you’re channel
@Syn 3 жыл бұрын
HEDONIC TREADMIL ever since i found out about this concept i noticed i've been significantly happier idk why im just less pessimistic, more understanding and accepting
@LivingALifeOfAbundance 3 жыл бұрын
Recognizing your own self-worth exists outside of the opinions of others and striving only to compete with who you were yesterday, answering only to your own inner compass and looking at every imperfect venture as a 'process of elimination rather than a failure to acquire value
@darkflags7773 3 жыл бұрын
I was literally typing Too find ur channel, sitting on the bike at the gym best video to watch
@ColeHastings 3 жыл бұрын
Kill that workout 💪
@darkflags7773 3 жыл бұрын
@@ColeHastings yes sir thanks for the videos I found your channel in October after a breakup and man how you’ve inspired me thanks for the bottom of my heart
@JayCardam 3 жыл бұрын
Real shit 😂
@its_past_here 5 ай бұрын
Innit
@matthewgonzalez5596 3 жыл бұрын
I don't compare myself to others so much because I accepted that I am different and everyone is unique 👍👍👍👍
@Crystal_G_1989 11 ай бұрын
Sometimes parents fault why we compare ourselves to others. After I discover and practice my mind not to compare myself to anyone. I'm more happy, and appreciate every small success i did. Comparing yourself to others is like a poison that slowly kills your personality, you become insecure, frustrated and depressed ... When somebody compares you to others just dont listen to them. I regret I didnt get this mindset during my college years those are depressive years of my life.
@dalberttran8134 3 жыл бұрын
This reminds such much of that scene in Soul where Joe finally became a musician playing in a band he always wanted to be in but for odd he didn't feel content nor happy he was asking himself "So now what ?" Which is something I relate to so hard.
@AhmetKaan 3 жыл бұрын
*You have to fight through the worst days of your life to get to the best days of your life.* *I hope you never ever give up. 💯*
@borromc1 3 жыл бұрын
Amen, brother! I really needed to hear this today. Thank you and keep doing a great job raising awareness of the realities of life.
@kartikeyagogia1624 3 жыл бұрын
Much needed video! I've been struggling with comparing myself to others so much lately. These last 8-9 months were the worst for me and all these months you've been a help to grow during the things I was facing. Thankyou cole!❤️
@ishmaelduncan5679 3 жыл бұрын
I'm thankful and grateful for finding this channel cause it really guided me to be a better version of myself 😊😊
@Bapplause 3 жыл бұрын
Hey I've been here since 20k! I'm so happy too see you almost at 100k! Hope you're doing well dude, this was a very insightful video :)
@shiro5410 3 жыл бұрын
Dude you're almost 100k congrats my guy, you deserved it :))
@MohsenTheKnight21 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for the help man i watch your videos once in a while you are a really cool guy
@AnnSmajstrla Ай бұрын
I needed this. Thank you.
@MamaSwole 3 жыл бұрын
I love how transparent and vulnerable you are
@vrrobin835 3 жыл бұрын
BRO I JUST WANNA THANK YOU,U TEACH ME A LOT OF GREAT STUFF THAT NOBODY ELSE TEACHES AND U ALWAYS UPLOAD IN THE TIME OF NEED,NOTHING BUT LOVE FOR U BRO
@Kevin_01932 3 жыл бұрын
Definitely one of my favorites, its always a mindset shift when i watch one of your videos, keep it up man
@ColeHastings 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks man!
@hoskins10 2 жыл бұрын
It's crazy how similar my thoughts are to yours! Thanks for your videos. They are helping from time to time!
@TomBarns1 Жыл бұрын
I think we all should pause for a moment & let what he said in the video sink in ourselves. Claps for you Cole 👏🏼👏🏼 Such absolute NECESSARY knowledge is not always readily shared & hence isn't readily available. Thanks to bring this to light. It was necessary for me to hear this. 💯💫
@user-fg2fk9uk8n 3 жыл бұрын
I honestly needed this video, this is something I am currently struggling with. Thank you Cole!
@abdelraouftria4247 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video, this made me feel a lot better. This is why too much social media drains ur energy and puts you on a bad moon. I want to live my life not looking at other people lifes.
@mahjongtalk9753 3 жыл бұрын
Skeedop, Thanks for another enlightening video. The comparison problem within society is something we definitely needed to solve. Thanks for giving us a solution to this conundrum within ourselves =) Positive Vibes to you, Cole =)
@smolstack1408 3 жыл бұрын
Sometimes KZfaq makes me insecure, I want to keep making videos but sometimes I fear that my content will never be as good as the creators I watch. I don’t have as high a budget and I don’t want to make my editing generic I really want to make videos on what I love but I noticed that only certain topics get attention on KZfaq. God bless the day I found Cole’s channel I swear you are a mind reader because I have been doubting my dreams lately because of comparison and boom you drop this vid. Keep grinding almost to 100k!
@nawanit_pradhan8501 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you very much, your videos have changed my perspective in my life ,my goals ,my thinking in a better way🤗 just want to say I appreciate your videos a lot SKIDOP
@MariaEduardaF. 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the amazing content. I was thinking about it today and you just helped me to visualize what's the real problem here and what I have to change in my perspectives. ☺️
@dseanhd 3 жыл бұрын
Great video Cole! Plus, love your editing!
@mpiech657 2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely love the idea of comparing yourself to who you were 2 years ago - hit me like a hammer (in a positive way!) when I realised how astonishing my progress has been during 2 years :o Thanks Cole for this and other excellent videos :)
@kat9nm 3 жыл бұрын
So glad I found you!! AWESOME channel! 💯
@chrisr838 Жыл бұрын
Thanks bro I needed this
@Joedeanbryson 3 жыл бұрын
This is gold brother, love watching your videos
@susanrosebush9701 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Cole, for showing yourself just the way we everybody are, as vulnerable human beings.....
@ricardojmartins89 3 жыл бұрын
Dude you are like 8 years younger than me but i learn a lot with your videos. Thanks man. Keepnthe good working.
@theianandreas Жыл бұрын
Skeedop, you have really helped me through things, I am trying to get caught up on all your videos bro!
@barbariangamer6209 3 жыл бұрын
Love you man ❤ glad i found your channel
@nerooshadow319 3 жыл бұрын
Yo, that's so true. I've experienced that myself and got depressed a few times. That video is just the thing I needed today, thanks. Skeedop!
@ColeHastings 3 жыл бұрын
Cheers, skeedop!
@hamzajaleel7082 3 жыл бұрын
I swear I think God sends me a Cole hastings video whenever I'm struggling. Thank you brother I appreciate you so much
@simchaehrman6529 3 жыл бұрын
I'm glad I found your channel.Someone my age Talking about emotions😅💥💯I think there is a lot of value here
@siimseiin 3 жыл бұрын
What a great inspiration!
@ethical_sarah Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing! 👍🏼
@cedriccinema4822 3 жыл бұрын
I really appreciate that you addressed the concept of skeedop.
@ColeHastings 3 жыл бұрын
I do what I can
@christophercichon623 3 жыл бұрын
This is very true measuring yourself to other peoples crooked yard stick while you’ll always fall short I tried that for years until I started just doing for myself and improved much more
@JustClark 3 жыл бұрын
I always reflect on this. The fact that where you wanted to be is probably where you are now. Whenever I feel like Im lacking a lot of things I remind myself that
@chrissantiago6534 3 жыл бұрын
wow so true man amazing channel subbed!!
@eycy3152 3 жыл бұрын
Liked the video the second I clicked on it. Comparing ourselves with others happens automatically in our heads we don't even realize how that kills our mental health Btw keep up with the amazing videos Cole, I can really see that your obsessed with this yt stuff you really put a lot of effort into filming and editing and it really shows in the small details that makes the channel unique 💪
@nickdrury8609 3 жыл бұрын
I like the part where you said to be happy in the present moment and to compare yourself to your past self to see how far you come. I’m trying to enjoy the present moment more. I even invited one of my coworkers to hangout. A year ago I would never have done that.
@wizard_supreme 7 ай бұрын
Thank you, Skeedop
@tparkerevans7165 3 жыл бұрын
SKEEDOP! Love your videos!
@jeremyscloset 3 жыл бұрын
COLE! What a critical subject to cover. And I think that you have talked about this before but not as in depth. This is something that I have struggled with and still do at times...... "good enough" Am I good enough? It's hard to see my growth at times it's kind of like when you plateau in the weightlifting world. But if you compare your body to 2 years ago and if I compare where I was at 2 years ago I see growth..... but if I compare myself to last week I feel stagnant sometimes
@NiquelBones 3 жыл бұрын
dude since that skeedop thing ive never been the same person like thank you very much bro youve changed my life
@ColeHastings 3 жыл бұрын
No problem brother ❤
@fitfacade 3 жыл бұрын
I needed this so much thanks 😪
@ColeHastings 3 жыл бұрын
❤
@plugga4u972 3 жыл бұрын
Great video 💯
@tbgaming4199 3 жыл бұрын
You’re an inspiration to all
@angieorozco94 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video I always think about this quote by William Falukner, "Don't bother just to be better than your contemporaries or predecessors. Try to be better than yourself."
@amauriciobrandao8246 3 жыл бұрын
Skidap?? hauhua I only catch 80 to 90% of the words, but 100% of the message. You are great, man! Greetings from Brazil!
@mattbowyer6211 3 жыл бұрын
You explained my favorite skeedop of all time!!
@ColeHastings 3 жыл бұрын
Love to hear it.
@treexkzknaxkz 2 жыл бұрын
The last part of the message is the realest part I heard
@leelo270 3 жыл бұрын
You become my favorite youtuber 😊
@Magoverso 3 жыл бұрын
I realised that I was comparing my growth on KZfaq with yours like "wtf, this Guy makes amazing vídeos and took 3 YEARS to monetize!? I 'll take like 10 YEARS lmao" haha i have a comparison problem
@TheLibraryOfEmotions 3 жыл бұрын
You will build your audience if you just keep doing it. ⸜₍๑•⌔•๑ ₎⸝
@Magoverso 3 жыл бұрын
@@TheLibraryOfEmotions true! 👊👊
@TheLibraryOfEmotions 3 жыл бұрын
@@Magoverso I will tell you one of my experience. KZfaq's algorithm is matching your views when you just published a video. So if you could continue to share your video for a week, KZfaq will share it to more people. It will take some works to share your videos, using social media, or other ways. But KZfaq will give you more explosoure if you do that.
@slxsarc.entertainment7906 3 жыл бұрын
@@TheLibraryOfEmotions Haha thank you imma cop that info
@TheLibraryOfEmotions 3 жыл бұрын
@@slxsarc.entertainment7906 If your videos are getting 1000 views. At some point KZfaq will decide to promote your channel to more people. It's a strict hierarchy.
@cheddargoblin1374 3 жыл бұрын
Killin' it!
@ChoklittRockett 3 жыл бұрын
That part about skeedop really resonated with me on a whole different level. Like fr I almost started tearing up 😢
@ducdu4136 3 жыл бұрын
Almost 100k!
@mrknarf4438 3 жыл бұрын
Skeedop, man! Yes! So glad you've found it, it still isn't as popular as it should be. The world really needs more of it.
@ColeHastings 3 жыл бұрын
So true
@annak7598 2 жыл бұрын
Great video
@greenghoul157 3 ай бұрын
The best way to stop comparing yourself is to think of people who compare themselves to you and how social media is for clicks and clout a lot of people on instagram are not at all like how they present themselves
@fickchivas 3 жыл бұрын
SKIDOP bro excelente!!
@nobody5752 3 жыл бұрын
you deserve 1 million subscriber
@ColeHastings 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@girlfromtheglen 3 жыл бұрын
Thankyou
@djinfinity1363 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you cole i love watching your videos best self improvement channel❤❤🔥👊👊 skeedop
@Revv10K 3 жыл бұрын
Instead of comparing, you should strive to be the best you, you can be, then you know that you have done ur best.
@Timefades1 3 жыл бұрын
Skeedot lol love your content brother love seeing you grow .. stay blessed !
@Luh14_ 3 жыл бұрын
The part about skeedop was really eye opening.
@yantxgsstory 3 жыл бұрын
4:30 There’s always something from his videos that resonates with me :O love this
@WhoIsJonHarris 3 жыл бұрын
Skeedop has been around for a really long time. I'm surprised people haven't heard of it before. It's been life changing for me personally.
@ColeHastings 3 жыл бұрын
Skeedop changes everything.
@biswajitnath804 3 жыл бұрын
We all have this mindset...I too had. I was lowkey jealous of my friend's affluence and lost a lot money while trying to get more money in a scam. I have become more wise now..
@wren5291 3 жыл бұрын
Skidop. Skeedop. Skeadop. Skidoosh🐼 Had to add that as Po is also a big inspiration to me.
@this.ray.of.sunshine 3 жыл бұрын
Sometimes we compare ourselves to people on chapter 20 when we are on chapter 1. We need to realise that the people we compare ourselves with were where we are at today.
@hgzmatt 3 жыл бұрын
Sometimes people are in chapter 3, but reading a different book. You have the career, they have family etc.
@tylaralexander136 3 жыл бұрын
That skeedop lesson changed my life
@10yearsago52 3 жыл бұрын
This dude is so underrated
@alexbeckett471 3 жыл бұрын
I think skeedop(if I'm spelling it correctly) is the true method to stop over-comparing yourself
@ColeHastings 3 жыл бұрын
It is, can't believe someone figured this out!
@unclerandy398 3 жыл бұрын
skeedop I got u those algorithm points
@ceaser9377 3 жыл бұрын
Luv u bruhhhh
@ColeHastings 3 жыл бұрын
❤
@sakshamsingh6351 3 жыл бұрын
What he said skeedop, I literally felt like crying
@ColeHastings 3 жыл бұрын
Me and you both
@magna1451 Жыл бұрын
I was extremely sad because i couldn't live the highschool expérience and i kept comparing it to other people and even now sometimes i feel a little sad because i haven't expérienced what others did but its life i guess im trying not to miss out on something else
@flipedude5404 9 ай бұрын
Those people are losers tho
@dude2499 Жыл бұрын
Wish I could delete social media, but as a photographer, I can’t. Unfortunately, need it to get business….
@coleaceret 3 жыл бұрын
Yeah my life is so different and better than it was 2 years ago
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