My final straw with other people doing my hair, I went to a African braid shop. I specifically asked the lady to not trim the hairs sticking out the braid. Well she had a attitude from jump because my hair was “long”. My hair was a little past my shoulders because I was transitioning to natural. She finishes in like 4/5hours. Now she wouldn’t put me to the mirror so I couldn’t see what she was doing but by the time she got toward the top I saw her out the corner of my eye trimming the hair. I said aw man I didn’t want you to cut it. She paused and looks at me and I said just go ahead since you already did most of it…she rushed to hurry up cause she was ready to close. A month and a half later I go and take the braids out and I had pieces of hair that were between 2-5 inches. She cut pieces of my hair because she was carelessly trimming it!! That happened almost 9 years ago. Never been back. I do my own hair

Your reasons are valid and I couldn't agree more. Had a woman wash my hair and she scrubbed my scalp so damn hard you would've thought I was a stray animal she was bathing at an animal shelter. All she was doing was giving me a press and curl....

Me either literally have not gone in 10 years and my hair is waist length. If I can grow it and maintain it I don’t need a hairstylist 😂

It's insane how so many Blk hairstylist say they can grow your hair, just to turn you down from service or complain about it, because it's long. Smh

Sometimes the salon do not give the love our hair deserves 💗

You are so right. They often tie the hair too tight and apply too much heat. Why shall I pay for damaged hair? You look amazing BTW.

I stopped going years ago because I got tired of being lied to by so many unscrupulous hairdressers, that I realized, don't know what they are talking about. Like telling me my hair is damaged because the temples are thinner but actually I have fine hair strands and don't have thick hair and that is how I've always looked because it's hereditary. Or hiding scissors in their apron and they quickly snipping hair without me asking for a trim or a specific cut so my hair never gets longer. Or lying to you and trying yo convince you that you hair shouldn't be uneven so it need to be cut because every strand needs to be the same blunt length all around. Some will say anything to cut off growth and try to make you dependent on them. Telling me they need to cut the dead ends but ALL hair is dead past the surface of the skin. Trying to cut my health hair with no spilt ends, that I'd been growing longer, after not coming in for 5 months and lying to me and saying that I have spit ends but I can't see it; only their eyes can. Just too many lies and my hair would never get past the top of my neck with them. Now its near armpit length. I've gotten to the point that I accept that they have a business and it is in their best financial interests to create a cycle where a client believes that they need to come back week, biweekly, or monthly. Some will do it through deception and may even do things that damage your hair and cause breakage, so you believe that you need their help. Many don't want a smart customer, they want suckers that they can take advantage of financially.

These stylist are accustomed to working with extensions only. They don't know what to with natural hair other than to cornrow it to prep for an install.

The last experience at the hair salon was awful… the lady was going through was she was going through talking about it and she expected to see a white woman because I said I just wanted a blow out. I didn’t want my hair straighten. I almost cried in that chair because she didn’t know how to comb my hair, I had to show her… showing the stylist how to comb my hair. Yes my hair ended up looking great but right now I rather do my own hair by myself 😊

I just tried to go to stylist a couple weeks ago. I specifically asked do you do natural hair. I was assured and then he proceeded to rip all my hair out my head 🤦🏾‍♀️. I said every time I try this happens. It’s hard to find a natural hairstylist that is actually patient and good with natural hair.

I can relate. Jealousy is something I've had to deal with regarding my hair. With family members and others. My texture and length is similar to yours but not as dense. I too stopped going to the salon over 17 years ago. When I did go to the salon I had a man who did my hair. He retired and I stopped going to the salon

Jealousy could’ve been a big part of that too

I plan on trying a salon in a few weeks but I think salons have the same issues as airbnbs these days. At first it was a convenient, reasonable priced alternative and now the list of rules and extra fees are pages long and makes you want to do it yourself (or book a hotel in relation to Airbnb). I remember as a kid my grandmother taking me to get a relaxer. I had damn near half an inch scabs all over my scalp. I honestly can’t believe it’s even legal to put on hair. Of course, I was blamed and seen as a bad kid because I was screaming for my life as it was burning. I still think that lady needs to be sued all these years later lol I think a lot of the reason some women despise their hair into adulthood and see it as a burden is because of how rough it was treated growing up. If you didn’t have fine silky “good hair” then your mostly likely wasn’t treated gently nor were specific products and tools sought out to cater specifically to your hair. If it was kinky, you got the one size fits all hair lotion, grease, and hot comb paired with a rough arm acting like you’re in the wrong for reacting to them ripping your hair out from the root 🤦🏽‍♀️

It's an interesting insight into the other spectrum of having natural hair that is high/thick density. Many people want the look but forget the work that it might entail to keep it healthy and thriving. I'm sorry you had such negative experiences and I'm glad you chose to do what's best for you.

It's a shame that so many people have had the same bad experiences. I haven't been to a salon for years but I do want to find one.

“She can braid your thoughts” 😂😩😩😂

I don’t blame you they don’t take their time with your hair to be gentle like u would yourself A Lady on Facebook said a person can’t treat their own hair like a stylist would but that’s not true it starts with yourself having knowledge of your own hair not running to a stylist every time you did good with your hair she didn’t know what she was talking about

I can totally relate to your stories…..when I was younger, stylists loved to “play” in my hair. The final straw was one day they just kept cutting it and cutting it trying to make it curl naturally but they didn’t know how….(this was before gels and such) When my mother dropped me off I had mid-back length hair. When she returned, I looked like a little boy. It was traumatizing.

Honey, you don't need a salon! You are a hair-nurturing goals goddess! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

So true, I’m not trying to bash stylists but what about the overbooking and being there for hours, that’s the part I didn’t like

I don't get how people go to the salon constantly. ALL THAT MONEY and then it's not even a good experience!! Your hair looks fabulous.

I remember one time a stylist had wanted to do my hair but only wanted to put chemicals in my hair. She kept saying it would make it more manageable. She be like how you could get a relaxer, or you could get a texulaizer (sp?) or I could dye it and it would make it more manageable. I have never hear of dyeing natural hair and it turning your hair straight. She went on and on about it for about a year. Some time later she said she could give me locs and it would be more manageable. She told my sister that she hated 4c hair and thought it wasn't right to wear it in a fro.

This is why I don’t like going to salons for silk press all that often mostly due the excessive amount of brushing..shampoo brushing and blow dry brushing… it’s literally 1.5 hrs of non stop brushing I just can’t stand it…. On rare occasion if I do go I’ll just wash and blow dry my hair at home and go to the salon just to get my flat iron…. Also the uptick in price for natural hair vs relaxed hair at some black salons is just ridiculous “natural hair tax” 🙄

Same here, haven’t been to a hair salon since 2015

1 Millon% right! I just had an extremely bad experience. I will NOT be going back to a salon. When I do my hair myself it a much more enjoyable experience and styling turns out better. Thanks for this video!

Thats why i stopped going to salons. I always felt like I was an inconveninece. Like i am paying u heffa. Lol. And I tip well. So I take care of my own hair and doing pretty good too. And I know all stylist are not that way.

This video is right on time. I've been styling my curly hair for many years. But now I also straighten my own hair. I actually thought among other things that they used to little product and charged me full price. It was evident with color- I'd have a bunch of spots without color. And it simply became too expensive- yes all the fees- and my hair was not flourishing like it is now.

Hi hun! Loved this video and your reasons for not going to a salon anymore. There is no need to defend yourself at all. It's your choice and I really don't blame you. You are clearly doing an excellent job managing your own hair so there is no need to take that risk with stylists. Now, if you just wanted to be pampered for a day, that's understandable but I wouldn't even take that risk if I had your hair. It just wouldn't be worth it, lol. Your hair=goals for me and I am always excited to see when you post another video. Love you, your candor, demeanor, and your hair! 🥰🤩

Hell naw. It's the last reason for me. I have very thick & dense hair. I would have politely walked out. 1 thing for sure & 2 things for certain is no one will make me feel bad about my beautiful 4c hair! S/n you and your hair are gorgeous!😍😍❤️

Sometimes hair stylist have a bad day and take it out on your hair. My experience caused me to back out of the salon. I'm actually very happy because I love my natural coils. I had to chop my own hair off. M stylist at the time kept doing what she wanted to do and refused to listen to what I had to say. For that reason, I chose to do my own hair. Your hair is beautiful. I am looking forward to my hair length going to the floor. Love it.....I love your post. I love the big hair....

I absolutely agree with what you’re saying. A lot of stylist, unfortunately don’t know how to manage 4c or do tighter textured hair. It’s really a shame. And sometimes even if the stylist is really nice it’s not worth the damage of hard years work and dedication when it comes to the overall health of natural hair. I’ve had one comb my hair recklessly and ripping and tearing through my hair and so much hair broke off that my stomach sank when I saw the amount of hair on the floor. I just knew it would be my last time going to a salon. Also, when a stylist can’t comb hair properly they can create major split ends and unevenness in the hair that have not exist in the hair initially. It hurts too much to pay someone to basically mess up your hair. I learned it’s better to be safe than sorry.

I found a great hair stylist recently, but I have never been to a salon in years for a silk press only for a trim. They do try to get your hair super straight to the point your hair is damaged. I'm trying to grow my hair out now.

I have experienced every single item you listed. And no the salons haven't changed in favor of the thick haired girlies..I found one stylist who met my expectations, but she moved out of state💔...I may need to book a flight.lol

The last time I went to a salon I had hair her length when I went in. I asked for Carmel brown highlights & they gave me Mary j blond shaved at the neck bob! I was crying & didn’t know if I should blow the place up or what…that was it for me….

I feel you on the different hairstylist. I am glad that my sister is doing my hair. When certain members of your family does it then it makes a difference.

Ur hair is down ur back sis you don’t need to explain anything to us! We trust you! 😂 but i agree, i got to hair stylists for specific needs not maintain my hair, EYE maintain my hair….and when i do, it flourishes. I get professional trims 3-4 times a year and i always have to have a talk with the wash lady. Do not scrub my scalp all hard, do not tangle my hair up to shampoo it, separate my thick and long ass hair into 6-10 sections to detangle, if you try and detangle the whole head or even half the head at once it’s going to hurt me and take u an incredibly long time. She has an attitude everytime…but the actual stylist i really enjoy….so there’s that.

I plan to get a trim. My goal is to keep my hair in protective styles throughout the year. Your hair is healthy and beautiful!

Your hair is so beautiful and your personality. Glad I ran across your channel. Blessings

First of all, I want to say that I think you’re amazing! Your hair is absolutely stunning! It’s obvious the amount of time and patience you have put into your hair. It’s simply magnificent!!! 😊😊😊 And I really don’t blame you for not going to hair salons like at all. Most places just won’t take the time to really know or learn about your hair unfortunately which is a shame because everyone’s hair behaves differently Would it be possible for you to make a video about how you cut layers into your hair and bangs? Because I am interested in cutting layers into my hair too (my hair is maybe idk like 2 inches shorter than your hair after I trimmed it but idk I am interested in having more movement in my hair or something lol). Anyways, I really enjoy your content. It’s just nice to see more natural hair KZfaqrs with similar hair types as me 😊

I haven't been to the salon in 6 months and my hair is growing so fast I decided to stop going to the salon because many of these so called professionals they have no knowledge about natural hair care all they know how to do is is slap a relaxer or fry your hair like a piece of chicken and I just get so tired of dealing with it and most of it is done out of jealousy my natural hair is super thick and I've experienced alot of stylist being rude and saying negative things about my natural hair its sad but its a blessing I can save my money and grow my own hair at home ❤

I make that mistake every 5 years or so. Just went a couple weeks ago, now I have heat damage, now I gotta find a way to repair it or grow it out 😢

I came across your video and I’m so happy that I did because I do not want to go to the salon for the very reasons that you said it’s good to know that I’m not alone. I don’t have the same type of hair, but oh I hate spending the time and the money for something that clearly is not what I asked for… they tell you to bring a picture in and you do , then they disregard it. They go oh yeah and then just do whatever they want. The pictures I brought in were pictures of my hair over the years that i liked so it’s not like it couldn’t have been done.

I'm not allowing no one in my head ever again I did not get my hair straightened but I ended up getting my hair braided which I should have known better because I have fine hair that woman pulled all my edges out and the crazy part is that it was not tight while she was braiding my hair it did not tighten up until I got home and because I paid so much money I did not want to take it down and I ended up having hair damage and hair loss and it's only been two weeks since I took the braids out I was angry but I said you know what never again because honestly I hadn't let a person do my hair and over 10 years

Yep agreed💕💕💕

I understand that something similar happened to me a few months ago when I went to a breeding shop to get braids put in now first of all the first time owing to the actual owner of the salon. She was happy to do my hair but the second time I went there to get extensions, put in Braids done set alarm was so busy because it’s also a barbershop for men and there was a lot of children and clients coming in to get their hair done. She told me before I left that she was very busy. I said okay I said I’ll come anyway because I needed it done because I was starting college as an old is Student so I went there she welcomed me and because I’m in the wheelchair I have a disability so she had to help me get into the salon because it’s a little bit unaccessible we finally got me into the salon and I was asked to park up and wait because I am in the electric wheelchair, so I parked up and sat in the waiting area and it’s a very small shop so yeah there’s not much space so I was sat there patiently waiting, waiting waiting. Finally she said to one of the stylists hair braiders she said to her, do you mind doing this clients hair for me because I’m busy she had someone else in her chair, so I drove over to her turn to round so the back of my head is facing her, and I’m facing the door, so I’m looking outside onto the street because the door was open because it was a very hot day that day so the lady starts with oh what do you what hairstyle do you want? I responded with, I want medium sized box braids, the full length of the packet that I brought with me and it was three packets of hair that I bought with me. As soon as this lady got started. I knew that because I’ve got a disability, she thought she could treat my hair on my head, any kind of way, but you see I am half Sierra Leonean half Ghanaian, so I’ve got that 4C hair type which is very kinky and very curly, and as you know, get very knotted and is a little bit of a struggle to the tangle, but I love it because it’s thick and it’s healthy and it’s very long but I’m trying to grow my hair even longer which will be achieved so anyway back to the story, so she took it out and got the hairdryer to it, but I could feel that she was being a bit forceful with my hair and really very a little bit violent with my hair and I can’t remember but I think she had it on the highest setting because she told me as to be extremely hot when she is blow drying it so that she can start attaching and platting the braids into my natural hair because I was doing a protective style which helps with hair growth for me, so she had it so high that she was actually burning and injuring my scalp, because, as she was combing the hair she was going to close to the scalp and the hairdryer comb would just get stuck in my hair, so then eventually she got through it and we started the Braden process and she was like can you put your head this way can you put your head that way which I obliged because I wanted my hair done, but then she started getting a bit rough again and she kind of turned my head to where she wanted it, so that she could get the next Braden and I then tried to explain to her that the way she was going about putting attaching the braids to my own hair was a bit. I don’t know it was that she had anger inside her so we got into a back-and-forth about it because remember we’re both Africans she is Nigerian I am Sierra Leone Ghanaian, but when I started speaking up about how she was getting the process with my hair completed, she wasn’t very happy because now I’m speaking up because it’s my hair on my head that you’re ruining and no thank you I don’t want you to do that, so anyways, she completed it and she got someone else to do you know, soak in the water put the of the breeding, breeding moose in and to the final touches so then I was helped by the manager to put what we didn’t use in terms of hair products back in my bag, the hair bag because personally I don’t know what happens in the salon, but let me just say that some of the utensils that they use they use them on everybody’s hair whether you’re One a B or C2AB or CO3AB or C hair type without washing it properly I may add so it’s best to bring your own hair utensils. When you go to these places these braiding shops these hair salons so then I left drove to the bus stop in my wheelchair and waited for the bus and got on the bus to Stratford in the meantime, I was texting the manager of the salon turn on her about how one of her breeders hairstylist was handling me and my hair and she got back to me. She was like oh I’m so sorry, next time when you come I will do your hair because I told her everything and I told her can you please do my hair yourself because I had a very good experience with her And she was like yes of course, but thinking about it like this lady in this video. I don’t think I would ever try and go to a hair braiding salon again but it’s lucky that I’ve got a saving angel. That is also a hairdresser and used to do my hair all the time so I’m back with her doing my hair now so I’m happy. I’ve got my first hair appointment back with her next Monday to get my brains put in for the Christmas celebrations so you at the end of my story so please guys and girls with have any kind of Afro textured hair. Please don’t go to these people unless it’s the manager that is actually doing your hair because some of these other ladies that they employ just wanna be there for the money and sometimes I know for sure it wasn’t this persons, for it wasn’t her owners fault what happened to me maybe she doesn’t really know that the person that she is employed to to help her is not very caring about how she treats clients, hair disability or not. So, please guys girls women men if you’ve got long Afro textured hair or even Afro textured hair in general. Please be careful of these people in the breeding shops cause they might end up damaging your hair for you. So please do your research when you go to. These places asked for the manager or the owner of the salon or braiding salon because not everybody is a gentle and his patient with our type of hair and our hair is absolutely magical. I can do any hairstyle is so versatile, so if you go to these places beware because if you go to these salons and you have this or a similar type of experience, beware because you might walk out of there with no hair.

Sis just about all what you said I've experienced the same thing. And people who haven't had long hair as a child will not understand. Now that I'm an adult, I now know that what I went through going to the salon was traumatic!!

I’m a lot happier doing my own hair and nails at home. Yes, I have to carve out the time and needed to stock up on supplies- but that means it’s in my time and with the products I believe in. The cost, the attitude, the bad business practices…it’s a no for me. Additionally, I haven’t actually work with any pros in that field who were concerned with the ultimate health of my hair and nails. I am sooooo much more satisfied now. Also BIG POINT about them employing a one size fits all technique. In this day and age it’s no biggie to create your own salon at home. Thanks internet! Added bonus my hair is thriving!!!

I got terrible heat damage.. I had to do a big chop and start all over 😢

If she can braid your thoughts. 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I have experience that .xoxo

Your hair is gorgeous

I have long and fine 4c hair and hairstylist cant resist combing my hair roughly. Its frustrating because i like fancy styles but it always breaks my hair.

I want to stop relaxing my hair again

Me neither..ones a 4 years lol have start carnivorous diet and have twice as much hair

How long have you been growing your hair.

I feel you. However with what I've seen online there are some amazing stylists most of them will be expensive. I live in a city in south of France and there are no natural hair salons so y'all lucky lol

What can I do to make my hair thicker again?

My hair looks thinner whenever I go to salon amd get a blow out

Yea you have fabulous hair. Dont let people touch your hair.

Check Jennifer-Rose out. She knows natural hair. She knows hair PERIOD!

I’m not trying to give advice, but was just wondering if you have ever gotten you’re hair done at an African American salon.

It’s not like that anymore, that was back in tha days hair stylist.

Unpopular opinion: Hair stylists exist because black women were uneducated or too lazy to do their own hair 👀. Now that more & more women are educating themselves about their specific hair, making their own at home products, the need for a stylist is dwindling…Of course they’ll always be around but the more we empower OURSELVES, the less of a need we have for someone else to do it. Not to mention that added on issues you mentioned like the result, price & professionalism…

Will you please react to The Lady of Heaven movie Trailer next? 😃 ㅤ

I'd never go back to the salon! Too unprofessional and mean spirited. Who want to spend their whole saturday in a salon? People have stuff to do. Black women need to stop supporting this toxic profession. A couple might be good here and there but majority are horrible making it not worth it. Plus hair grows and florish when you care for it yourself. You know your hair best.

Also for nails a lot of fungus on the tools I rather do my nails myself and buy the heating uv gel nails. I’m blonde so I have to learn to do my hair alone I’m done dealing with abusive bad stylist horrible

I don’t want to let anyone touch my hair again most will damage it and not be gentle horrible people are jealous I guess