Perfect word for it. Sadists

Perfect word. That’s it

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Plain and simple

My dad is this way and proud of abusing me, other women, his grown kids(me, especially) and he needs to grow up and shut the hell up since I didn't ask for his overbearing, erroneous opinion of me!

lots of us at 60 now have to safeguard aging, narc parents from even worse siblings while dealing with our own PTSD. It's a sadistic world.

@@graceymiller6047 I feel for you ❤️ Mine have destroyed me financially and turned my only son against me. He has BPD. Can’t even feel sorry for myself!lol! Who would care?!lol! I think no one calls them out so it becomes ok. It’s not.

@@graceymiller6047I am not going to deal with my nmom-my siblings have $$ and so does she. They can take care of her. She didn’t protect me from my abusive dad, when I was raped at 14 and again at 17, she swept it under the rug. She is highly religious and doesn’t respect others beliefs. I have had her tormenting me, the scapegoat and oldest kid, or parentifying me since I can remember.

I am the same age. Dad hates women, is narcissistic, sadistic and a bully, I am female, he has always marginilized me because of that. He's a jackass! I am not in contact with him!! His flying monkey girlfriend said "That's the way he's always been and won't change." She echoes his abuse of me, makes excuses for him. I can't stand her, either, their bullshit. He thinks I don't see his bullshit for what it is; that is insulting to me. He's a jerk! I deserve a better father. I can live happily without bothering with their narcissism/excuses for it.

Same here.

Extremely scary, especially when people think they are just the most lovey dovey person in the world and call you ungrateful for not loving the "help"(abuse) of the narc.

​@dakoderii4221 True! People tell me all the time how lucky I am to have such a wonderful husband. So helpful, etc, etc, etc. But he only helps with what he wants to do, not what I really need help with. Mostly, he helps me with things that will help him to stay in control... He helps everyone else with whatever, but once they get to really know him, they drop out of our lives...😢 My grown kids don't like him because our family is not as good as his family, and his kids believe they are better than my family as well. They also believe it is perfectly OK to destroy or even to steal my things. One of his sons lived with us for almost 9 years (he was 13 when he moved in). A year and a half or so ago, he moved back in; a few weeks ago, we asked for $160 a month for rent as we are low income, so he moved out. He has never paid anyone more than a1 or 2 months of rent. He is almost 30, and has almost never paid a dime of rent to anyone, he also won't keep jobs for more than a month or two, then claims he got let go for various reasons that are never his fault, though sometimes he quits because they arent nice to him. He did keep one job for a year, then quit it to sue them, except NO lawyer would take the case, so he got nothing...

@@Nothing_means_nuthin So extremely wise! Radically accept what they are and disengage to every possible extent.

Actually it's demonic!!

Finally, somebody said the truth where it's coming from

Anything that belongs to Satan/anyone that practices wickedness is deemed satanic. That includes all fos of witchcraft, black magic, sorcery, astrology, etc.

Dad nitpicks at me, his attitude, his problem, in isolation. He's a bully and full of bullshit! I can't be around/dealing with him! He pretends he's such a great dad, he barely does the minimum and resents doing that, yet expects me to tell others that he helps me weekly(a total lie!) I won't lie for him. I have to live with myself and not him. He cares only for yes-people, who back up his lies. I'm a truth teller. He doesn't respect my boundaries at all. He's a jerkwad; I can't be bothered with him!

Very true!!!!

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Yeah the famous one I guess declaring I ll kill myself and leave you everything to attend if I don't have you. Meanwhile VIP. Tell them how they behave and oh woman they twist it up. I laugh then watch out but my kids only have one mother and she taught me how to live never addicted to anything thank God. So I am truly understanding as that's how I would love my son's to feel. Yes crazy I am male and not worked really since 2008 but 3 weeks part time and she took care of me for the first lady look of the century. Beautiful has more thorns than a rose. Especially envied projection. I still sleep next to her every night. But if we wanna be truthful it's embarrassing to feel closed off from a woman I have been with for 24 years 😮. Two sides to every story. Number one I prayed for this woman which is a long story back to where I was 13 or so I started. I never knew it was her until years later because all the excitement of meeting her and ups and downs red flags everywhere is just so hot. Better than women in adult movies which started me thinking how in the world can I keep this woman forever with all the flags. Well sex meter hit a new level. So after findings of much than the game starts so I don't even care she was who I wanted she knows more about me and days incredibly hard seeing I am a stay at home Dad she can throw that in my face I feel. Injured for many years at that. So I said you can have ever password and make me seem who you want. Take full advantage of that. How hard is it to deal with a community specialist? Now mind you I prayed for a snobby woman just love they way they move. Before you find out talk about anything. Mind you I got what I truly prayed for. I ask almost in this for and I might advise against my prayer because it was to the text honesty

They "switch their role" when talking to different people. Not to be confuse with "mood swing". Person A. They might switch to being the victim. Person B. They might brag about something like their illness or whatever topic. Person C. They might switch role back and forward. Victim to being strong or vice versa. "Same story different versions". ---> Calypso.

I’m sorry you’ve gone through that. My daughter has been doing the same to me for 18 years since married to a narcissist. She’s spaced the kids out, 18, 15, 6, and 1. She’s kept dangling the grandchildren as weapons. Her father was a narcissist, he disappeared from our lives when she was 2.

My oldest daughter is/was the same to me. She is just like her father and they both 'teamed up' to destroy me. Because she was my daughter, I did not see her abuse for years. She went behind my back to my friends and family and told them lies about me. I have some family and friends that saw what she was doing and are still 😮in my life, but I lost a lot. I am doing a lot better since disconnecting from all of them. I won't ever have anything to do with my daughter again. It is sad because I still love her, but she is just too toxic. Her father passed and now she idolizes him. He was an awful father to her, he would belittle her along with me and when ever I would get mad and defend her, he would turn everything around on me. Before he died he told her that he had a favorite (which is awful) and it wasn't HER. He was THAT mean. I wish she could get help, but I am afraid she is too far gone.😢

I too am going through this with my daughter. It has taken a toll on my mind to the point of losing hair and sleep because she is actually pregnant and due to deliver here any moment with my first grandchild. However I had to go no contact and that is definitely not what I wanted to do, but I had no choice. Child or not, I am not going to deal with further disrespect or being hurt continuously, nor am I going to be used. I know she will use my grandchild as a weapon, and dare I say she actually got pregnant on purpose for a motive for more control over not just me, but her partner. I'm just not going to put up with that. I have tried to help her numerous times, but to no avail. I will pray for her, but ultimately it is her decision to behave in that manner. Hopefully time and prayer will change things.

@@missb1982 I’ll pray with you for your child and grandchild 🙏🙏🙏

@@Nanasfsw thank you and for you as well!❤️

My dad's girlfriend is one, she made an excuse for him "He's always been this way, he won't change". True, but I didn't complain, he was late in arriving, no reason or apology for his lateness. His attitude, his problem, I don't want to listen to her echoing his excuses. I will not put up with these two people and their crap!

​@@jackilynpyzocha662stay free

I can agree with that...after I left my MN I swear I had a big sign on my arse saying "kick here"

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They are bullies & hide in a gang.

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@@user-qj9ig8vz5w They enjoy causing targets to snap and either off themselves or others. My first perp actually told me this decades ago, as she was playing with my perceptions and screwing with my family to set me up to live and die in hell.

I have to say with no disrespect, people live horrible lives and then turn around and thank some non existing God.

almighty Yah will bless & restore you. read Job

❤ good for you!

In nc eviction stays on record for ever. If you told the court you victim of domestic abuse they would have set it up so you leave on certain date without eviction

keep swimmimg 🐟

And you stupidly stay!

@@Me-mn4nw There is no need to kick the victims. Anyone who has knowledge about narcissistic abuse, knows how extremely difficult it is to leave these relationships because of the trauma bond and the cognitive dissonance. More difficult than quitting herione according to some experts. Victims need empathy and encouragement, not further blame-shifting and humilitation.

@@judithargitay9860 Sweetheart, I know its hard but some just enjoy whinning while playing marter.

​@@Me-mn4nwAnd you stupidly bully people when they're down for likes and attention.

@@prettypennyschannel Sweetheart, having surgery while remaining with an abuser is par for the course. Either get the Hell out while you're still alive or die whining! I'm not advising anything I haven't been through and/or done myself. Maybe she will get pissed enough to crawl out of that hole she's Allowing him to dig. It's her GRAVE not mine!

We as a society really need to make narcissism a recognized mental disorder and treat it somehow.

I exorcised Dad from my life by no-contact. No more hell!

Thank you for the recommendation. Always looking for books and information that will help me heal! It’s an insidious experience dealing with this wicked people.

Same and I'm digging myself out

@@alltheworldsastage. - I’m weary of the battle. FTW

yep. bystanders

i can feel your pain.. i’m still in that situation.. my worse is my parents are malignant, my siblings are overt, and i married a covert husband... now my husband joins hand with my original families.. i have nobody except my only one daughter, we plan to leave them one day, slowly2...

I, too, feel your pain. It boggles my mind how people can be so evil to "their loved ones." I think that's why we don't see it, sometimes for decades. We just can't believe the people closest to us were so evil.

@hibiscus1974 I hope you get out soon. It is difficult and painful. However, it is so worth it. I understand why you stay. The fear of the repercussions is enough. I spend most of my time alone. It's my time to heal, to cry, and to get my new life in order. If you have your child, you have all you need. You will be OK. Keep your plans to yourself. Do not share them with anyone. Take only what you need to survive. I took my clothes, personal effects, and my dogs. I've made the mistake of trying to be friends for the sake of my adult children and grandchildren, only to have it backfire in my face. I will never make that mistake again. There is NO "being friends" with a narcissist. No contact is the only way to go. Once you get out, stay out. Be safe, be careful, and be very quiet about your escape plans. Best of luck to you. Much love and blessings your way!

@jennifergriffin5467 it boggles my mind, too. Especially as he uses the Bible and Christianity as a weapon against me, his children, and even the new wife. It's so disturbing. He is evil. Eventually, his mask will slip. The fact that he is pretending to be a changed person to gaslight everyone makes me sick, making himself the victim is so evil and disgusting. I have stopped trying to correct the record. There's no point. It is what it is. I hope you are finding your healing and peace. I'm working on mine. Its all we can do

Dopey comment. Live In Reality, it might help. They are HUMAN BEINGS with trauma issues ETC. You probably still believe in Santa Claus and other beliefs others quickly grow out of.

Stay strong. There is light at the end of the tunnel. I'm 2 years into healing.❤

It's really a jaw dropper to have a spouse of 30+ yrs who's destroyed everything you loved look you in the eyes and seriously claim, "I CAN'T STAND TO SEE YOU HAPPY" and then I got to see the jail and the end of my home and family. There's nothing else to be but happy to be gone. If only there were a conscious in that head.....

Dad blamed me for abusing me(in many ways). He's insecure and immature. I can't be bothered with his bullshit anymore, all lies.

Why do you expect her to carry in all the groceries? No matter how many trips she takes 🤦🏾‍♀️

Wow, so she knew she was a Jezabel....

I like the way you worded this, really puts it in a perspective I hadn’t thought of before.

Same here.

Thank you , your comment is what I said to a few friends recently about the ex, he got rid of my birth certificate and other personal paperwork it felt like he was trying to erase me. Fortunately I have been able to replace what he destroyed.

These idiotic things can try but they will ALWAYS FAIL. God is holy and mightier than all, He would never let anyone prosper against His children.

RIP

I'm the same way and totally relate to your comment.

When I became aware of this particular kind of psychological and emotional abuse, the sheer depths of the pain I was experiencing propelled me to embark on a deep journey of exploration, healing, and recovery and vast personal growth, which I am now eternally grateful for. I actively practiced writing about what I could be grateful for in each part of the experience and-as difficult as that was at the time-it helped to assist my healing. I have written around 3K posts in Quora and tried to help millions of victims struggling to heal . I learned about narcissistic abuse, so now I can spot them a mile off. With awareness, I have a choice. I had to take a good look at my part in the dynamic, my issues of codependency. I learned boundaries. I’ve learned healthy communication. I learned how to tune into and trust myself and my gut instinct; I always stay close to that now. I learned a huge amount about myself. I know what healthy relationships are and enjoy many of them in my life now. I’m a better, wiser, and more grateful person for going through it all. Don’t get me wrong, I would never want to experience it ever again! But I rest confident now that, because of a full recovery, I absolutely will never need to. I do not attract that kind of person anymore. I learned life’s biggest lesson that you can't force someone to respect you, but you can choose not to be disrespected. Accept people as they are, but place them where they belong. I have also worked on what needed to be healed inside of me, and for that I am grateful. Finally there's a beauty in being rejected, misunderstood, unseen and unsupported by people. It teaches you to rely on God for everything. May God heal you all and bless your a life with Love, Faith, and Peace. Bless you all !

Because she wants you to watch to the end.

God bless you ❤