"Why not!" Thank you Dr. Z for this positive comment. My cis gender girlfriends tell me I look great in a short skirt rather than my customary skinny jeans. I'm gaining self-confidence gradually, and attractive short skirts help me feel beautiful.

all you trans women reading this, pls enjoy every minute possible of your life.

I think a big reason is when you accept yourself and stop suppressing all those feelings you want to a) be more of that gender, so with hyper masculinity it's often about strength and physical prowess, but with hyper feminine it's more often viewed as beautiful, alluring or sexual as the extreme. While b) is now accepting yourself and exploring what you want to do, instead of what society wanted you to do while you were "still cis", and so sexuality is often an element that is deeply suppressed. But those are just my experiences and observations.

I went out shopping earlier this week at the last Farmers markets open before winter sets in. I dressed all in black with a red stocking hat. I put on some flattering makeup and was in the market less than a half hour. I was profusely thanked by the first vendor I visited. The next vender told me my look was just perfect. I thanked her and wanted to stop and talk but it was late, windy and cold. The next vendor, a young woman of 20 or so, offered to deliver to my house over the winter. The next vender was very warm and enjoyed having me visit and purchase from his stand. I was surprised when a young woman who was at the stand with her mother and sister, ran up to me and helped me carry the bags of the last of the tomatoes of the year. All in all, it was a very pleasant experience. It was much more that an exchange of money for products. I thought to myself that making the effort to be as beautiful as possible was giving a gift to others whose life may not be one of beauty. It's kinda like a visit to an art gallery or a concert where you get to be a beautiful "object" who lifts the spirits of those who live and work around you.

I have gotten so much negative attention from posting selfies and looking at how I look and present myself, but I feel best when I feel like I have an extra layer of polish and femme, posting selfies started as documenting my transition, but now it is a form of validation and sharing myself since I really don't leave my apartment much at all. I love it. I used to hate and loathe how I looked, but now I am about 5 years into my transition and am starting to like how I look, even without makeup and my hair done. I still have a hard time looking in a mirror or having lights on when I am in the shower, or having curtains open when I don't have makeup on; but when I am done up, I don't have that fear at all. Transition is wild. I love it.

Honestly, when I came out I was nearly 300 lbs and 39 years old and absolutely didn't feel comfortable wearing anything super-sexy. A lot of that is from internalized shame but also, the transfem community can be pretty indifferent/apathetic to trans women who are overweight and/or older. And while some of the haters are pick-me trans people, I think there are probably more than a few of them believe that because of their age or appearance they aren't "allowed" to look/feel/be sexy.

I started HRt today Drz thanks to you. I don't know if without your help I could of done it. Love you ❤

I definitely think I went through this phase, and yes it was because I was actually liking who and what I was becoming. While I don't feel the need to dress up sexy all of the time my style of clothing choices tend to reflect my new found self confidence. Even my most casual clothing, which often though not always involves a mix of men's and women's clothing, incorporates things like cropped tops, or skinny jeans. For me to judge another woman, cis or trans, for not representing in a way I would deem appropriate would be hypocritical. And I have to admit that I get a little angry with some of my trans sisters who publicly criticize other trans women, particularly older girls, for not dressing "according to their age!" Seriously, what does that even mean? Most of the women being criticized look amazing, no matter their age or body type, and I revel in their self confidence drawing a lot of inspiration from them!

❤ when im adressed female . I feel euphoria. Feminizing made me feel more close to my authentic self .

When I'm feeling gender dysphoria, I sometimes need to wear more feminine clothing. Overcoming the man I used to be with fashion I suppose. I can't afford FFS and other feminizing surgeries, so fashion has to be my way of overcoming the testosterone damage.

Still living it! I dress to impress occasionally and it makes me feel great! It's something I do for occasions - most typically when I'm performing with my choir, or streaming online. I wouldn't want to do it all the time as I'd be afraid of that feeling going away, as it becomes the norm. And now I have a question - do cis women not feel like that? I don't do low cut, not because I don't think I could pull it off, but because it's not my style. Having said that, I have noticed that I'm rather more adventurous than my wife is - my wife actually never wears makeup, and there's nothing wrong with that. I wear makeup at times because it makes me feel good - if the makeup is obvious - or simply just if I'm going out, the makeup I use doubles as sun protection; I'd have to do that anyway to protect my skin, so why not use something that's gonna make my skin look better too? But I think true sexiness comes from confidence, and trans women who have transitioned and lived their lives for a while probably have it in abundance. I certainly do. And why on earth would that not be the case? We've repressed that side of ourselves for decades, then we've learnt to overcome it which takes work and facing up to our own fears and demons, and then - bam! Suddenly we become extremely confident people when we're fully out of that closet-prison. And I also think it's a shame that there are not so many opportunities for men to do that. Though I will say that when I presented as a man, dressing up in a dinner jacket and going out to balls and the like used to make me feel good; that's probably as close as I ever could have got to a sexy male presentation. Correction - I don't often do low cut, but thinking about it, there are occasions when I do present that style.

Hi! Great video! I started my transition in May 2023, and almost immediately felt better about myself. When I finally found clothing that fit my 6ft, 215lb frame it was like a floodgate of sexy opened up. I know some of the fashion I have bought will absolutely make me clocky, but I've been living this lie for 50+ years, I'm not worried about passing, I just wanna be pretty!

I see this amongst a significant minority of my peers and I believe the reasons are complex and varied. What I tend to see amongst some in everyday life is overdressing for the occasion. I think this is trying to deal with their dysphoria my going o.t.t. with the feminine dressing to compensate for masculine features underneath the clothes and make up. Another thing I see is dressing younger than their age, which I see as trying to get back the years they missed out on living as young women. Then you have the stuff you see in the darker corners of the Internet and in specialist publications, the stockings and suspenders cliché, I would tend to agree with Dr Z that it's generally to do with an explosion of self love in your true gender role later in life. We are sexual beings, and also male sexual energy (certainly pre hormones from some trans women) and the dominance of sexualised images of women in mainstream media is bound to be key influencing factors.

I love this video as it teaches to express our beauty from within. I was raised not to be the centre of attention, not to be selfish. I am more or less still a chameleon and always adapting to my outside environment. I feel the (social) load on my shoulders when I express myself a s a woman, afraid that people see a man dressed as a woman.

When I saw the title of this video, I honestly thought it was going to be abouy the trans women wno go into the porn industry, and call themselves 'trannies' and 'she-males'.And I really wanted to hear your view about that specifically. But thanks for this, too. My wife needs to see this, I toned down alot since the last time I emerged from the closet (and re-entered for another ten years....loooong story....sad story...) I would love to affirm my sexiness once again.

My Honeymoon period is going strong almost 4 years in. lol....

I think there is a blurry line between gender expression and sexual expression. And some men, and others, will see even the most modest gender expression - long skirt, little make-up, sweatpants, etc. as sexual expression. So often it does not matter how one dresses. To some, the mere fact of expressing one''s self as a woman comes off as an invitation to look at them sexually. I’ve spent a lifetime not feeling like I was not allowed to present myself the way that I deeply felt about myself. Now I dress and present exactly how I feel and yes it is “situational.” And you're right DR. Z, often other transwomen are the most judgmental. I fight against this in myself all the time and have gotten much better at accepting a spectrum of gender/sexual expressions.

I got cat called when i was outside in shorts and I got to say, it was nice and quite affirming. I don't go for 'sexy' per se but I like to be seen.

This is absolutely on the mark Dr Z. I have/am going through this part of my new life which I might use the term 'maturing'. My cis roommate says a lot of times you're acting like you're 14 (I'm 71) and now I'm discovering who/where I truly am. And I totally agree the happiness and joy of every aspect of transitioning is in the beginning euphoric for some and you 'mature out of it' into a woman by accepting the reality of who you are and have become, and most importantly learning to love yourself. Today I love to dress as the mature, fashionable woman I have always wanted to be and as you said, like any woman, want to be dressed in a manner which is representative of how I feel which may be sexy, professional, lazy 😂and so on. As the chains have fallen off, I spread my wings and fly reveling in my womanhood and all the life which comes with it..... tyvm Dr Z 🥰💝

And again, DR.Z, thank you for one more amazing video!!!🎉❤

I love this video DrZ . ❤

Thank you, you are so right! Now I understand!

Great episode! One more observation when it comes to clothing: In my opinion, society seems to be more open to a provocative (or otherwise seemingly appropriate) outfit when it is, in itself, consistent - which of course, is more difficult to achieve when you are still experimenting, finding your style and building a wardrobe. But I does not always have to be, experimentation is great sometimes (:

For my part it has more to do with social interactions. Getting compliments and complimentary attention is validating. An aspect of my sexualized appearances is *looking* approachable and desiring of compliments, so it increases the chances I will get the attention I like. I have a great deal of control over the situations I'm in and who I have around me, so I have been willing to trade the increased risk of _unwanted _ attention for the likelihood of desired attention.

Why should I concern myself with how other people feel about how I see myself sexually? It's for me, not for them.

Amen!! Thank you so much❤

Hey Dr. Z - you just name it all :D This is something that had me thinking a lot. I'll have to admit, that I sometimes give fellow transwomen kind of the side eye, when I feel that their look is way over the top for my liking, or doesn't really do them justice with their body shape... (I have NOT mastered anything and I am absolutely NOT employable within the fashion police myself) - sometimes I find myself having some tips and hints for others on the top of my tounge - but that's when I realize: WHO the F am I to JUDGE - whereas I MYSELF know HOW BAD it feels to be JUDGED by people all the time. Besides, when I look back at my first months being out of the closet, I really struggled to get my look right. (Still often do, TBH - but it has improved greatly, up to the point where I, depending on my moods, don't actually give a F about my looks, because duh, I am not here to satisfy OTHERS but MYSELF.) In the first couple months, I think I tended to dress MUCH younger (and slag-ish lol) than I actually am. I call this my 2nd puberty-stage :D I am slowly starting to get much more comfortable with clothing / accesoires that: A: fit my age B: fit my body / accentuate or highlight the good, conceal the 'bad' C: doesn't make me stand out too much, doesn't camouflage me either. (I'll have some of the attention, anyways) My colleagues and friends say I dress more elegant / tasteful / sporty now. Sure, I do like to wear female attributed clothing AND there's a difference between grocery shopping-look, office-look and going-out-look. For example, I do like me a nice pair of high-heels lookwise, but to be honest: most of them just suck at being comfortable :D And I WANT TO BE COMFORTABLE!!! If you want to present yourself as an anime cute kitten girl or fit a super tight dress, then all the power to you, I myself prefer not to be that kind of revealing or suggestive towards others. (Especially MEN - Really have NO interest in shoving even more coal into the fire than is neccessary.) Interesting, that you've mentioned living through 'pRon' - I kinda did that, too - besides living kind of outside of my own self while having long term relationships, where I tended to live THROUGH my female partners... THANK YOU DR. Z! ❤

Being pleased in looking good is impowerimg. Being older we related to the styles growing up,that wete more feminine overall. Going throug A male puberty and the social conditioning they learned skills in fighting and competing in a male dominance hierarchy.. Finally thee girls didn't have negative experiences as an attractive young woman growing up. They are reflecting what they saw in the women they admired.

Dr. Z, yeah you always have style. You rock your preferred black. And who doesn't envy your jewelry. Oh, and let's not forget, spot on makeup. Peace Sheila.

Didn't know I needed to hear this, I swear between her wide body of work and the algorithms ability to serve up vids it feels like magic sometimes 😅

Thanks DrZ I think you have accurately captured this topic. You are right "Why not?" I think there are so many ways to express yourself as a sexy woman. There is professional sexy. Casual sexy Date night sexy Day to day sexy Etc. And you don't need to flaunt your body, but you can if you want to. Finding the confidence in how you look and in how your body feels goes a long way to being accepted by society day-to-day. I am a confident woman. And I get noticed far less now that I have come to that realisation. Because most women have an element of this (irrespective of any hang ups) they are confident in and of themselves. They know they are women. Now I know I am a woman I feel like I get treated like one. I don't know if that makes sense but it's how I feel.❤

Thank you Dr Z

I tried to sexualize myself in the clubs but then I felt I looked incredibly fat in my pictures. I felt I didn't live up to the prettier skinnier ladies in my community. I can't look like a Kardashian or the Trans models on Onlyfans. It's why I still mostly dress tomboyish. I compare myself to others too much. It just takes me down a path of depression.

Thank you for the sweet analogy to Marilyn Monroe. Mirror mirror who's the cutest ? 😂 If I get you right, the more insecure a woman would feel with her body, the more sexualized she could potentially become. As on one hand we are talked wisdom to accept ourself for who we are, but on the other hand we want to feel validated by the gaze of a man, the shiny feeling of being desired that had been kept buried for so long. Being talked to act like a man, I guess trans women know precisely how to make a man a gentleman for a week end ;)

I went through this last last year posting heavily on social media. I have since eased up on my posts. I have stopped wearing wigs and found out high heels aren't for me. But here I am almost two years into social transition and know this living as a woman is for me and that there are different styles for different occasions. But mostly I get a positive reception from friends and co-workers.

Before I was a man , and I felt me very ugly. I have done a lot of efforts to look like a natural woman and beautiful. Finally I am but not without a lot of pain inside and outside

Yes! Why not! Dr.Z, this is the best answer to a question that in my humble opinion is, at its very root, short sighted and dare I say a bit prudish. I think I see it from different points of view as well; In my 20's I dated more conservative young ladies and I learned they were very opinionated towards other women, especially those they perceived as older. Now that I've transitioned in my 40's and have a few girlfriends in their late 40's and 50's I've realized we all dress to express ourselves rather than for anyone else. One of my cis friends in her 50's is notorious for leopard bodycon and she looks beautiful because she is beautiful inside. That inner feeling radiates! While I am more on the conservative side myself (since always) and do dress for a night out, I feel better in more classic styles. Again, it's not for anyone other than myself. So folks that offer prudish critiques about women in general may want to look at themselves a little closer to find what feels best for themselves. ❤ love and judge less ❤

Thank you. Once a week I get questions answered and once a week I get to think about another aspect of myself or those with my experience. Is this what proper Healthcare looks like? :) Thank you again for your gifts to the community Dr. Z

That's soooo me! Eighteen months into transitioning I still love to wear a short skirt. And yes I love what I see in the mirror. I'm really not sure if it's a phase or its me, I m thinking this is me. This video really helps me understand why I love to present the way I do. Thankyou ❤️

I don't see it in terms of 'sexuality'. I am in my fifties now. After fifty years of being forced to be a tough masculine man, taught as a boy to disconnect from my senses and feelings and to show no emotions, lest I be seen to be, God forbid, Weak, I am now making great efforts to connect to all five of my senses, not just the visual. So, sensuousness sensuality, yes. Sexuality No. Sexuality is merely a happy by product of my efforts to connect to my senses.

I feel like I'm in the midst of this phase right now, but not so much because I love my body, as I'm still waiting for it to change. I think it's more that I'm trying to play catch-up to the changes I hope to experience, and do what I can to appreciate it as it is, instead of always hiding it.

This video is so spot on. When I "came out", so to speak, I bought all the cheap sexiest outfits and shoes I always wanted to wear(from Forever21, Fashionnova, Shein, etc). After purging most of these slutty outfits this year, I'm looking forward to only getting a few pieces here and there that are better quality, classy and sophisticated from better brands. I'm even considering getting a cute pair of kitten heels. I'm still keeping my stripper heels, though 😉

God yes, I needed this.

I learned the hard way about how to dress and appear after I came out. I say that because I actually got in trouble at work for the way I was dressed and got told to dress more professionally. But now that I've learned the difference between certain things I definitely do wear stuff that's a lot more "sexy" when I'm just going out to be out of the house. For context my "inappropriate' clothes was a dress that showed a little too much shoulder and my bra straps were visible. Just the straps, not my actual breasts or even the start of cleavage. 😅

Loved this video! It occurs to me that trans women who like to show off their sexy sides may also be over represented on social media, compared to the whole population of trans women, because people who feel good about themselves are probably more likely to post selfies in the first place. Just a thought.

I reached 6 months of hrt and I started (one month ago) in this period of photographing and social media.😂 Ana liking me for the absolute first time

It's also about claiming ownership of and feeling connected to our bodies and other people. I'm still in the cost closet but my breasts are developing well, C cups at 7 months. And I find a community of other trans lesbians online. So I routinely share topless (and headless) pictures with my friends. It's nice and completely novel to have a part of my body be beautiful.

Some of them doing this, but I don’t I’ve never have had this urge 🤷‍♀️ Maybe the reason is that HRT has not modified my body to such extent. I’ve not even hit honeymoon period after 2,5 years of HRT, no second puberty, nothing.

I’m a sexy diva. 😏😅👌

People need to express themselves however they want to, as long as they conduct themselves properly :))

Oh my goodness! This is such an interesting subject for me. Today, I completed, what I would consider, a final purge of many of the items that I used to sexualize myself with when I was still in denial about the fact that I was a transgender woman. I have purged items like this many many times over the years. And it was always out of a deep sense of shame. And I would lie to myself that I never needed these things again, only to repurchase them within a few short months. I know there are many late stage trans women. Who can I relate to this experience. But today was a little bit different. I haven't used any of this stuff for almost 2 years. I got rid of garter belts, super sexy panties, pantyhose (well, most of them), sexy little mini skirts and tops, my breast forms, and my wigs. Because truly I do not need them anymore. I'm 2 years into my transition, I have a wardrobe that fits my personality and style. I have breasts, sort of, we're getting into b cup territory at this point. And I actually have hair which I never thought possible given the male pattern baldness I had. But I needed those items for many years in order to feel some sort of congruence with what was going on inside my head. Sexualizing myself was, for me, just the first step in understanding who I was and what I was about. What I would have considered to be sexualization before has now been replaced with just the desire to be pretty and beautiful. I do not conform to society's standards of what pretty is for women. But I like what I see in the mirror now, and that's all that matters. It does take a little bit of work with some makeup and a curling iron, jewelry, and the right outfit. But after so many years of struggle, I finally see myself as the pretty girl/woman that I've always wanted to be. I'm in my early 50s so there might be a perspective that younger girls don't have yet that has helped me to this point. I also have a very supportive wife and some very close and supportive cis gender girlfriends. Through the hard work that I have done internally and their support I find myself in a place I never thought I'd be. I truly hope that all my sisters out there can get to this point. And for those of you that have gotten to this point and still get super sexy. You go girl! There's nothing wrong with that, and I'm happy that you celebrate yourself in that way!❤🏳️‍⚧️

Only a small % do it imho, and they are the ones who are most visible. Perhaps looking for outside validation, and the feeling of being wanted. Also imho. The rest of us are living low key, quiet lives and have had enough stares during the course of our transitions to last a few lifetimes. At least, that's my observations and experience.

what??? temporarily??? lol... going on 5 months since FFS and it des not seem to be slowing down.... same thing 5 weeks after top surgery. I am in love with My Body. At least those parts that I have had surgeries on.

I think it’s great for a trans woman to be proud of herself for what she’s accomplished. There’s some though that take it to far and make it harder for the rest of us and in some instances cause more dysphoria by showing male genitalia. While I agree that cis women act overly provocative, other women don’t approve it. Personally I really don’t want to see pornography but a tasteful picture of a trans woman in any stage of her transition is beautiful.

Great post Dr Z. I'm male crossdresed and take no interest in my appearance as man, but a lot in my female appearance, clothes, makeup etc. Also, I've always received a lot of ridicule for looking feminine - in conventional male clothes, I don't go out in public as yet as a woman, and outright homophobia, but do get positive comments online, dressed as a woman, reinforcing my comfort in my feminine identity - my feminine side has always been very strong - sensitive, empathetic etc, but decry the way gender is so stereotyped - why can't we be who we want till be? Women as well as men. So much trans phobia at present, but why shouldn't m to f trans women be al?owed to emphasise their female identith

This is one of the things that bothers me about a Lot of younger trans people. In my experience when I present myself in a sexual way...( I am a New York Latina...so sue me ) Younger trans people try to shame me... ( again good luck with that...I am a New York Latina )... Thank you for saying that feeling sexy is natural.

I wish, unfortunetaly dysphoria wins

So this usage of the word "sexualize" is fairly new, and I have been having a hard time understanding it before watching this video. Do I understand it correctly as meaning "presenting to others in a way that is meant to be sexually appealing"? I previously understood this word as applying exclusively to an observer's (typically a male's) thoughts. I feel like the change in meaning reflects a non-trivial addition of misogyny into the discussion. Whereas before, the sexual reaction belonged to the observer, this new usage implies that the person being observed causes the sexual reaction. Not to put too fine a point on it, but that feels like slut-shaming - particularly as I (nor anyone else) have *no control* over how someone reacts to me, either sexually or not. Actually, I suspect that the full way it is meant is: "causing someone to think about issues relating to sex". This covers some other uses like when a trans person interacts with a child, but that is a very dark place I do not want to explore. (and none of this is meant to ignore the feels I got listening to your talk - this is a separate issue which has been puzzling me for a long time. Western has a big problem with horny people who think everything is about sex)

To me (a cis male), my question is why trans women overdue the makeup and other things like getting the fat lips? I have seen many trans women who I think are attractive with only a tiny bit of makeup, no fat lips, and without the bright red lipstick as if that is what they see is the only way to attract a date. Now, I have always had a thing for women who have a slightly androgynous characteristics: thick eyebrows, thinner lips, and without caking on makeup. Long hair really does it for me. There is one prominent Y/T trans person who I thought looked wonderful until she got the fat lips, the heavy makeup, and lipstick thing. I personally knew someone like that. I was inclined to ask her out. Then she lost me when she started all that big lip and makeup stuff. Oh well... I guess it's all the glam pressure from people with unrealistic expectations or ideas about themselves.

This video, in every conceivable way, describes what i am going through. And to be perfectly honest, i absolutely love this period of my life. 6 - 10 inch heels, drag queen like make-up, body glitter, belly button piercing, and the filthiest little dresses you can imagine. For the first time ever, i love my life!! 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵

I am a trans woman just starting the transitioning. One thing I would like to ask you is about being straight and being gay. I want to be a woman forever all the time always and I still am attracted to women. Is that OK? It feels like it is. What do you think about this? Thank you, you are very helpful with your shows. Your videos are excellent.

You mention Marilyn Monroe and another woman and said to look her up. I cannot quite make out the name and it does not appear in closed captions or the transcript Could you please write it out for me? I do like your videos, You seem to be the most helpful for me on KZfaq.

SLOWLY Getting there and accepting my sexuality as a woman and not a male fetishist

❤ why not❤

I was about to say "why not" and she said it. I finally like my face and I used to hate everything about my body. Should I hide myself?

By the way you have new glasses!

Thank you for this

I had a similar feeling to the Face App female version of me, when I saw it. Fell completely in love, like it was the prettiest picture I had ever seen. I keep it up on my screen a lot now. I just keep thinking about how good it would look like if I was trans girls in those porn videos. I feel like porn helped me realize who I am supposed to be, which is scary at first but also makes sense why it happened that way.

lThis 89yr CD out on dates with so men and the 70+ men like me very much! You know idea how this feels to me!!!

But I've listened to you talk about how gender identity and sex are not related. I'm a woman and I've never felt compelled to dress like a stripper and nor do any of my female friends. I think trans women have a hyper sexualised impression of how women dress related to pornography they watched as men and they get it horribly wrong. Dare I suggest it's the autogynaephylia lurking beneath the surface that expresses itself in hyper sexualised presentation when they transition. I think it's also about attention seeking behaviour in an effort to get societal feedback. I suspect that behaviour frequently back fires as the hyper sexualised presentation is just over the top and becomes a comedy act rather than an authentic representation of their female persona.

Do transwomen think being a sexy diva will automatically get you love. Look what happened to Marilyn Monroe. It can get you attention, but love is not guaranteed.

As a trans woman myself i don't want to be "sexy" i want to be beautiful and elegant and alluring but not in a crude way. Yes men thinking I'm sexy boosts my confidence but lately I'm tired of being sexualized... i just want to be viewed and respected as any other average woman... and yes i know women in general get sexualized against their will because society i guess lol... but as living this trans experience i feel as though their isnt enough classy and elegant trans women... we are very very disrespected and viewed as street trash thanks to p**n.

Im at the period of that i the lingerie period my theripest Said i was ready. And i want to through all mens cloth s and start living as a womeb as close as :24l/7

Because they’re getting off on it

Over analyzed, here is the truth. Men's clothing basic and boring. Women's clothing much more varied. Therefore when you start transitioning you will explore. In the end how do you tell the difference between a transexual and a drag queen? The transexual is the one wearing jeans and a tshirt.

Today porno = people have no clothes.

Because its sexual for them. Its really not that complicated. Eventually, like a long term girlfriend or wife, it evolves from hyper sexual into more of a companionship with oneself. But its origins and evolution are because they get sexual feelings from it. If they did not, they would likely never transition to begin with.

This is silly : many trans change not their body, they just put on a skirt and feel sexy.