In the Black community growing up, I saw too many women being stuck raising kids by themselves--it did not appeal to me then or now. I knew I did not want that for myself.

Notice how young all the child free women look 👀

I call BS on the “they are happy with parenting and want you to be happy too” line. People who are truly happy don’t feel the need to question other people’s lives. Only miserable and co-dependent people who need to try to make themselves and their decisions seem better even think to question someone else’s life choice.

It's far better to regret NOT having kids, than it is to regret having them...

What’s my life like now? It’s fine. I own my own home. I have a job I like (for the most part). I have two dogs and a cat. I am the best aunt to my sister’s kid and my friends kids. I travel. My life is good, sis. Don’t waste you’re time worrying about me.

Please being a Mom is awful. It's a horrible Job. You put an enormous amount of energy into it with little to no return or reciprocity, and Moms are blamed for EVERYTHING. It is not rewarding.

Having been a Social Worker, I can tell you first-hand that there are many people who should NOT have had kids! There are so many abused, neglected and unwanted kids out there. I never wanted to have kids, so I made the responsible decision not to have any--plain and simple! I am a great Aunt though. 🌺

It's almost as if these people are not aware of the millions of regretful parents walking around the planet.

Mother of four here🙋🏿‍♀️ DON'T DO IT! It's overrated 🤣 I love my kiddos but if I could do it over, I wouldn't have kids. Be a rich auntie sis. You got this🤣

I just turned 56, have no kids & it’s been the BEST LIFE EVER!!! I’m the rich auntie who can spend time with the nieces & nephews, OR, wake up & travel across the country for a concert on a whim. Life is long… live it YOUR way!!! 🙏🏾💃🏾🥰

Noticed that women who are childfree are so young and fresh looking ....they have so an fresh and free soul and extreme energy ...women can always be mothers you dont have to be pregnant to be a mother adopting a child makes you always a good mother and a good parent ...or having animals and taking care of it

Why are ppl out here acting like there aren’t a ton of CHILDREN in the foster care system who are ORPHANED.. At any time, a child free woman can foster a child if they want to have children around..

If more people realized they weren't equipped mentally, financially, spiritually or emotionally for children, and were honest about it, there'd be a lot less broken adults walking around trying to recover from their childhoods. I love kids, I do- but I would make a terrible parent. So would my husband. Interestingly, his aunt who is in her 70s and never married or had kids, and is fiercely independent, and I had this discussion. She said in terms of getting older, the help would be nice- but she doesn't regret her decision. Having a baby because you think you should simply isn't a good enough reason for having them.

And so what if you have regrets.....I may not regret having kids, but I certainly have regrets in other areas of my life. No one escapes life without regrets....however regretting having a child can have devastating effects on that child, regretting not having a child only impacts you.

The childfree women caught me off-guard with their age cuz they look NOWHERE near it! 😂

Single Teenage parent ;15, impregnated by adult sex predator.. forced to deliver due to Christianity; the worst experience of my life..... at least adult women have choices... No Teenager wants to be a parent.

My 68 year old mother is taking care of my 29 year old drug addicted brother because he has no one.... It's a no for me.

Old woman here (59).....I freaking love it.....semi-retired, debt free, mortgage free and drama free. I live a peaceful and content life free of poverty, crime and abuse. The freedom and how easy my life is can't be overstated. NOT ONE SINGLE REGRET! I personally never, ever wanted children. Children just didn't appeal to me. Nothing against them, I have six neices but I have just enough maternal instinct to take care of very mischievous cat and equally devilish yorkie And since I'm the rich aunty, my nieces (no nephews) will be very well taken care of when I die. Everything that I have accumulated is going to my family to help them get a good start in life.......I'm already there for my nieces anyway except I ain't gotta have them full time.

Having kids to prevent some sad future from happening is the worse reasons to have kids. Kids should be wanted not needed. And honestly I wonder if the people who try to fearmonger others into having children are just trying to justify their own choices. There are plenty of elderly people with kids who are dying alone cause their kids and grandkids don't want to visit them. I'm 40 and my life is better than what it was in my 20s. I don't hate kids but I'd rather take care of my dogs than a child. I plan to do some travelling in the near future, something I've always wanted to do but was too poor to do it. I wake up when I want, work from home, and surrounded by the people I love and plan to keep doing that. I don't see myself dying alone but if I do, C'est La vie.

When I was 25 my haggard, complaining parented co-workers smugly said "Oh, YOU'LL change your miiiind!" ... Funny thing happened when I turned 40. Many of those exact same co-workers - now saddled with taking care of grandchildren as well as dealing with adult kids still living with them - said to me, "You are so LUCKY." I just turned 60. No. Regrets. And every day I still find some reason to silently thank everything that I never had kids.

Does anyone notice the older ladies with no kids are looking really good? My mom always told me "Kids age you", she was right I guess.

Recently, a woman killed all her 3 kids and people were critizing her. These are the same people that will bash child free women

Everyone's favourite aunt in my family is childfree!!! Guess what, the same people that kept hounding her for that choice are the same one who became heavily reliant on her for any form of support!! She is also a teacher and loves kids and is so protective iver any child. She just never wanted any and she's in her 50s with zero regrets!!!

47 and childfree..never wanted kids and STILL DON'T.

As a person born and raised in the conservative south I don’t want kids because I don’t want to perpetuate certain generational curses. All the women in my family before me were teen Moms who married very young to the first guy they ever liked and lead miserable lives. I’m 33 and constantly gets mistaken for 23-25 because I live with minimal stress and physically fit. It’s only men who get frustrated when I say I’m happily CF because they can’t process a woman living her life without “needing a man” but desiring one if it works for me😂. I expect that though because most men are raised to be entitled to a good, submissive wife & a “legacy” even if they’re mediocre at best. It bruises their ego when they meet “valuable” women who don’t want them and would rather be solo. Women on the other hand (unless they’re jealous) go “You don’t have kids at your age? Good. Don’t have them. Live yo life girl! 😂”. Even the women who love being Moms celebrate me being CF. I mentor kids, give them back, go home to my 2 cats, and live my debt free life while taking a few nice vaycays a year. That’s good enough for me lol. All women aren’t maternal. When will people get this.

I’m not childfree. I love my child. BUT having a child requires a lot of sacrifice. No one told me that. Girls and young women should be informed. It’s like jumping into the deep end without ever learning how to swim. It’s stressful, exhausting, and many times unappreciated. It uses up all your resources and reserves you didn’t even know you had. Your life becomes about everyone else’s needs. Young women should have the opportunity to know themselves, live for themselves, and put themselves first before making a decision about children because once the deed is done nothing is ever the same. Because my child is here and I love her I’d do it a thousand times again for her. But if I could go back in time and didn’t know her, at the very least I’d have spent more time learning to know myself and loving myself before deciding to be a mom.

I’m 66. I knew in my teen years that I didn’t want kids. Having kids because society thinks you should have kids is irresponsible! Everyone does not have parenting abilities and far too many should not even think about having children.

My life is wonderful ❤. I’m not stressed or overwhelmed I’m just in a perpetual state of peace. I’m grateful.

I'm not married, that's why I don't have a child. My child needs a present father to exist, and I want that person to be a loving husband and father.

So I'm 44 child Free and love it. Years ago I had my tubes tied to make sure it stayed that way. It's peaceful and very free. I love Refundable kids like nieces and nephews (hence the name). I can get them on my terms and send them back.

My mom had a child (me,).and still died alone on her dearh bed because of covid and the doctors didn't call me and tell me her cancer came back. I hate that hospital. The audacity of not telling me who was on her list if she was dying.

I’m so tired of people mixing childless and childfree together. They’re not the same AT ALL. It’s almost annoying and infuriating because people keep misusing them 😂

O MY GOD THE WOMEN ARE happier LOOKING Half their age without children.

I am 62, and never wanted children, ever. I was able to pick up and move across the country, and have a lot of great experiences. I stand by my not having or adopting kids🎉😊

I’m not in my forties yet, but i’m childless. And all i have to say is if a woman chose to be childless early on, chances are they won’t feel bad or regret later on about that decision. And the way this world is going, i doubt having kids seems appealing. Why bring a child into a world that doesn’t care about them. This world is trash and is getting worse, so why would you want to bring a child into this trash? And these people trying to push the narrative that having kids will be the best decision in your life, i want them to answer the question of why are there so many kids in foster care that has birth parents that caused them to be in foster care by choice (neglect, abvse, abandonment, toxic environment, overall horrible parenting).

The black lady that had a lil silver in her hair who say she’s 50 is *gorgeous* 😍

62 retired no children by choice. I was a lawyer have been living my best life and very thankful.

I wish more women had the courage to follow their hearts and admit that kids are not in their life plans. There are so many kids being born recklessly to selfish parents who neglect their needs and create broken adults. I suspect most of these parents, if they were honest with themselves, would admit that they regret having kids (my mother has told me this repeatedly). Personally, I enjoy motherhood and being with son makes my soul happy.

Watching these were my confirmation. My mom admitted she didn't want kids, my dad did. Its been stressing me out not that I don't have a family but that I thought I Should have one by now. And when my family saw me succeeding in entrepreneurship where I would've flourished they lowered me to a point I craved nothing but a family .... 😮 wow. I love also how the one lady said I'm not childfree, I have plenty children around. I'm free of the responsibility of being a parent!

Im 44. My life is a lot better without a kid holding me back

My husband and i are in our 40's...we've been together for two decades and are very content...even more so than when we were much younger. We've been able to live comfortably and experience life in ways our peers with children have not. It's been incredible. We consider ourselves very fortunate. I knew from a fairly early age that parenting wasn't going to be the right choice for me...nor something i felt called to do. Fortunately i am with someone who shared/shares the same sentiment.

My one childless aunt is 80something and still looks vibrant and happy. Still active in church and honestly my favorite extended family member. My aunt's with kids around same age are more miserable about sacrifices they are still having to make for their kids and kids kids, still working, and dealing with old husbands dying.

My go to to the "just try it!" has always been: "Okay, so where do I dispose of it if I dislike it?". And their stunned faces just say it all. They NEVER think ahead. It's just very... "But... you CAN'T dislike it, that's not allowed!". But, if you *try* something, you can quit. But they seem to never think that far.

Can we please notice how these childfree "older" women look like 25? I would say it has something to do with their life choices :D

I call BS. I'm in my fourtys, child free and very happy. I have friends, a good job, money, insurance, a house that is payed for, I can travel when I want to. Have been to a festival last weekend with friends... Girl it's a lie. I have older friends who see their kids and grandkids twice a year three times if there is an emergency. They speak or Skype one a week in good times. I've visited elderly neighbors who have three children but are lonely. Having a baby isn't a guarantee for anything. A woman doesn't need children to be happy.

I'm 41 and I have one child. Because I changed my mind in my early 30's. I can encourage her with this: if you have gone your whole life wanting nothing to do with kids and gone through your 30's wanting nothing to do with kids, you're on solid ground. If you're gonna change your mind, you will in your 30's. Having kids at the last minute because of FOMO is a mistake. Edited to add: I didn't just want a child. I wanted to be a parent. I wanted to devote myself to raising my child. And if that's not really what you want you're gonna feel trapped because they're little turds much of the time.

I'm now 46 yrs old, now., And, I've never had a desire to have children. Neither, did i have the desire to be married to a man. Fortunately, my family never pushed or pressured me. I came out of the closet in my early 20's. And, I'm married going on 6 years mid-April. We're both child-free with no regrets. We both love being aunts, though. I hope the lady will find peace in her decisions.

Hell I don’t even want to be a God mom 😂

I'm noticing that all these women look rested and content. I am child free and on my death bed I will have no regrets. No kids, no husband. And I've always felt comfortable with that choice but it has never changed. I think you need to know who you are and what works best for you. I've never wanted children.

I'm fifty one, childless by choice and am doing fine. Am I a millionaire? No. Do I live in a mansion? No. Do I spend every other weekend in Dubai? No. Am I sad, remorseful and afraid to "die alone?" Also, No. I'm happy, peaceful and regret nothing. I never had a burning desire to have children and didn't want to take on such an all emcompassing responsibility that I was not entirely dedicated to. It would have been a bad decision for me and *especially* the potential child to be pressured into having a kid that I didn't want just to uphold societal norms. There are pro and cons to any decision and I'll have to be mindful of how I navigate certain situations as I get older but the pros out weighed the cons for me and I'll walk my path knowing I did what was best for me.

I’m gonna say this and I may have some that disagree with me but- all these reasons are great. Majority of them sound like personal reasons. But the reality is……..I find it quite irresponsible to bring children into this world. We are literally about to implode. I’m just talking about America here. Let alone the rest of the world. I know that mentally I have struggled. Seeing what goes on every day - the evil, the pain, the poverty, the struggle. And I came from a great , two parent household. My parents are amazingggg people. Incredible. But idk. They are more deserving of grandkids than anyone I know, so thank god for my little brother giving them my niece. But mannnn I just simply can’t do it.

I got tired of taking care of other people so gradually lost the desire for marriage and kids. I don't feel bad about it. I get to hang out with my family and friend's kids. I saw how many women in my life struggled and I decided nope. It's never like they show on T.V. The fantasy is better than the reality.

I often see women who are also mothers are the ones asking childless women why they wont have children versus the reverse. That is telling to me because it leads me to believe they may not be completely satisfied with their choice. I cant imagine the reason why someone who is content in their own happiness would assume their version of happiness is the same for another.

I didn't know those who choose to be childless owed those who didn't an explanation or answer. Guess I've been living under a rock...🤷🏾‍♀️

Child free by choice, 42 and no regrets whatsoever. My life is full, I have a great job, I travel, have a wonderful partner who I can go away with or do things with at the drop of a hat. Seeing my friends have kids, only reassured me that it wasn’t for me!

I've never heard anyone say they regretted not having kids. I've heard a lot of people say they regretted having kids.

I am 47, childfree by choice, single, I love my freedom. I love free weekends and my friends. I see mothers struggling with challenges, I don't have to deal with. 🤸🏼‍♀️

Choosing to be child free was something I never agonized over and have never regretted. I'm now 69. I have never enjoyed being around kids. That is still very much the case. I have been able to carve out an interesting life in my retirement collaborating with musicians all over the globe. I thrive on solitude. I need it like I need air to breathe. I have always had time to work on my intellectual development both during my career and in retirement.

everyone misses out on something. child free or not, single or not married or not. the only thing is are you Ok with what you are going to miss out on. Peace and Blessings.

Also let’s just talk about all these women that just wanted a kids to be attached to a man . They way these kids are turning out it’s apparent that alot of these parents did not want to be parents.

As a women being child free is the best thing you can do for yourself. Again I will say it’s better to regret not having kids than actually having kids

Being a mother is tough when you don’t have help, don’t have sufficient financial support, and are lacking adequate mental and emotional support. If I choose to be a mom it’s going to be on my terms. It’s a bunch of people who let themselves get pregnant by men who weaponize incompetence and men who weren’t WORTHY of their womb and now they are mad because “motherhood is hard” motherhood is supposed to be a bit challenging but it’s not supposed to be a nightmare. And I will keep my tubes tied until I’m fucking ready. Had them tied at 18 and never looked back

I hate so much these people's "concern" about how the childfree women's lives are going. Keep your concern and "good intentions" to yourself.

Well, I'm about to turn 40 in a few months, and I am still happy with my choice. But here's the thing that no one ever stops to think about. Life is a gamble, and everyone is unique. There are some people who possibly won't be happy with their decision later on, but the same can be said if you did choose to have kids. In fact, I've come across more people who have regretted their decision to have kids rather than not. The only thing you can do is know yourself and weigh your pros and cons, and hope for the best. NOTHING is guaranteed. Honestly, and I'm speaking for myself, I never get jealous of seeing people with kids. Usually, when I see people with kids, it's out in public, and the kids are usually behaving badly and making shopping hard for the parent. I'm always glad that it's not me dealing with it. When I go see a movie on the weekend with my husband, it's great because I don't have to worry about kids. I also don't have kids keeping me awake at night when I have to work in the morning. Basically, my entire life doesn't revolve around kids, and I love it. Now, do I get nervous about the future? Yeah, sometimes. But having kids wouldn't guarantee I'd have caretakers when I'm old, either. You never know how your kids will turn out. Yeah, you can raise them the best you can, but it still doesn't guarantee they'll be good people. Just do what you think is best for you. You know you better than anyone else. Don't let people pressure you into anything.

I was raised by a single mom, and I saw how hard that was for her. My sister had kids very young, so I practically helped raise them, and though I love them dearly that was also hard on all of us as a family. I am a wonderful auntie and honorary second mom to them. And though I adore babies and kids, the responsibility of raising a child and raising them right is huge and frankly one I just don't have the physical or mental energy for. I lavish lots of love on my nieces and nephews and also enjoy my freedom from the burdens of motherhood.

I am sorry did the Asian woman say she is 44! Sis drop the skin routine now!

I'm not in my 40's yet but I know I'm not changing my mind. I'm 31, own my own home. Live with my bestie who is also childless. We have fufilling careers, we go for drinks on the weekend and concerts. We take vacations every year cause we have money. We don't feel like the ones missing out. Everyone we know with kids does nothing but complain how exhausted and overwhelmed they are to us. We're the "busts in and deep cleans your house for you" friends. When you're drowning with an infant and hubby is 1000miles away at the mining camp bringin the bacon, we come kick down the door so mom can go take a shower and have a few hours to herself. Im glad im missing out on that experience. It looks like a rough ride from the outside looking in.

I spent most of my 20s traveling the world, had my dream job, owned a home, now I'm solo traveling the country. I thought I would be childless the rest of my life. Once I hit my 30s I see things differently, I accomplished alot of things I wanted to do. When I found my man, I saw life alot differently. Life changes, chapters change, but I think if you find someone that you can build a future with together, it makes all the difference. If you still want to be childless, I think that's your right, if you change your mind, that's alright too.

You going to be fine. There are so many people in the world, and so many children in the world you're going to be fine. Women raising themselves up and having careers and incomes are so powerful. Don't discount yourself

58, married and never regret beeing childless. Happy with the life I choice.

I think people should just do what makes them happy. The sad thing is reading how many mothers are regretting being mothers. I fear that those children will feel that bad energy from their mothers. If you have doubts about children, please don't have them. I have adopted 5 children from foster care from parents that were not able. Let people live their lives. I'd be a mother all over again because it's fulfilling to me. But others have other activities that doesn't include children that is fulfilling and that is OK.

I just turned 34, I am child free and happy. Just left Curacao and already planning my next vacation. I love my sleep and freedom 🎉🎉🎉

Its an amazing life. Im surrounded by kids when I want to be and im childless when I want to be. God is so good. I love being an auntie.

I am 44. Childfree. Single. Female. I play bass in a band, have been in many bands thru the years. I have a full time job. I have a dog. I have an apartment. I live only with the dog. I have my own car. I am happier with my life than i have ever been. Ive only recently learned about this tolerable level of unhappiness thing but i used to call it something else... I think how i put it is how much bs is a woman willing to put up with? Me, not much.

I’ll let you know right now, if I could go back.. I would have at the very least, waited and really thought it out for a long time… instead of using “falling in love” as a reason with a guy who got jealous of the attention I was giving our newborn baby, then started throwing my head into walls gave me black eyes, kidnapped her and then got himself killed and left me alone with a teenager who is rude, and ungrateful!

I love being an auntie, i dont need kids of my own to feel fulfilled

I wake up in a state of euphoria every day. It's like an overwhelming sense of gratitude and understanding of the world around me. I own my home, and it's so peaceful. I come and go as I please. I travel to different spots in the world. I throw great parties. lol I love children, but I don't ever trust adults who try to guilt trip others into having children. I knew I NEVER wanted to be a single mother, and I was right. Thank you for sharing this video!

I'm 54... Never had kids... I know people my age with grandchildren that are mooching off them, because their children didn't take care of them... I don't regret my choice

I fully support child free by choice women! I myself am a mom of 1 & I'm in a similar boat because my daughter's going to be 18 & in college next year. I have no other other kids but have spent the last 1 year being on the fence about wanting another one. Lately I have come to realize that if I don't have another one it's not the end of the world.

Zero regrets ...childless at 65. Never deeply yearned that. Have loads of nieces and nephews. Nursing work enabled nurturing skills to play out. Mortgage free before 60. Value my independence and helpful spiritual life. Do feel for those childless, not by choice.

So I’ve been seeing an increase in parents harming children. Men harming pregnant women and parents being miserable. Personally as an adultified child I raised my two younger sisters one suffered from downs. My upbringing was not the best I was left to my own devices and had to be responsible that I didn’t really have a childhood. I’m torn and on the fence about kids. If I did have them it would be 1-2 kids. But we will see.

When you're so happy & present in your own life, you seem not to worry what everyone else is doing. These women are screaming for help

I never had children of my own by choice but I’m the Favorite Auntie. I’m 59 and don’t regret not having Children one bit. I’ve always shared my Siblings children.

I made the choice to be childfree when I was 11 years old because of the abuse I endured as a child I was sexually emotionally and verbally abused I don't want to pass that trauma on to a child plus I don't have the urge to be a mother I'm 32 years old now

I have a childless older friend! She just never found someone she wanted to settle down with, loved messing around and having fun, now she’s in her 50s and she still lives the same way. She’s amazing to me honestly and shows me life is what you make of it. Despite her own medical issues she gets around just fine, she has fun, she goes on friend trips with her gals.

Most humans dont really wanna share the happiness with other humans and wants to limit it to themselves, (sad but true), the way these parents are after childfree people to have kids tells me that they wants them to be in the same box as them so they can't feel regretful about their life choices and don't have to be jealous on every step of the way!

I had a child at 43, ...4 years later... I'm tired, moody, struggling with parenting...6 years ago I looked 10 years younger than my age, today people ask me, "is that your grandchild?" it's not close to being easy. I wish I would have done it younger. I'm one and done.

Actually thought about it once. Never thought about it again. 70yo. I get along with all ages of children. Parents are resentful of my freedom from children instead of thankful for our support. You're free to make your choice for children or were you?

She needs to mind her business. Mind your kids and your husband.

I'm 42. Zero regrets. Never wanted children, never will.

I’m 39 I’ll be 40 in a few weeks I am child free by choice and I absolutely love it. I have no debt. I have very little responsibility. I can do whatever I want. I’m currently a nurse and do very well for myself but I don’t like it so I’m going back in a few weeks to school for carpentry to learn how to convert cargo vans into camper vans and start a new business. I feel so great I think I’m the happiest I’ve ever been and at work every day I hear from all of my female coworkers how much they can’t stand her husbands and their lives and their kids drive them crazy and they don’t wanna go home and they want a divorce but they can’t afford to be a single parent so they’re stuck and miserable and I’m not jealous one bit. I love my life. Love love love.

I'm 45, single and childless. After I see how miserable/screwed up everyone else around me is, I'm so thankful every day that I am single and childless.

My life is great. I have no regrets for choosing to be child free.

I’m a year away from 40 and my husband and I are child free by choice, married for almost 15 years and life is amazing. I just travelled the United States in a motorhome with our three animals while he was in Japan. We can stay up as late as we want and are well rested all the time. We have money in the bank, travel frequently, cook elaborate meals, pursuer our hobbies and passions (we have the time and money to actually pursue). I was able to retire way early and technically so could my husband but he enjoys his job and wants to continue working. And we DONT REGRET ONE THING. We love our lives.

I hope in the future they will have childfree living apartments,as a single woman childfree ,I can't tell you how I wish my apartment was adultified

Thank you for this video. These are important things to hear for people who are trying to decide if they want kids.

I’m a mom/bonus mom to 6 kids (2 are bonus daughters). I absolutely love being a mom but It’s interesting to hear things from the other perspective. Great video! ❤

What is my life like now? Late 40s, happily married, great group of friends. Own 2 rental properties, great job and side hustle, travel 5-6 times a year. I live a nomadic life, so I live in multiple countries in a given year. I love my nieces and nephew, and am fascinated by their stories about school, friends, Peppa Pig nightmares, etc. I enjoy hanging out with them, but honestly have no regrets about not having had my own. I feel complete with my life honestly. I got married in my 40s to a man who was also childless and wanted no children. I had no desire to be a single mother prior to him. There is no way in hell we could have our lifestyle with children. We both had troubled childhoods and had concerns as to whether we would make good parents. I come from a long line of generational trauma, everything from SA by family members, kidnapping, and almost taken away by child services for the DV in our home. Not everyone should have children. It's not a child's job to make an adult feel fulfilled or taken care of.

There’s nothing to lose out on if you apply logic to a situation. Most adults are walking around as products of their parents “hopes” for the future. But hope is not based on logic and if or when it is you have more logical outcomes. Currently at 25 I have decided I don’t want kids, because with this serve downward spiral of our economic system and the consequences of said failing system has a deeper in pact on children and those disabled more than anything else (god forbid you happen to fall under both). And serval generations of people before me had children thinking “by the time they group up this will fix themselves”. But adding to a population that’s already fucked up does not help anyone. And with the standard I have and want from my own life in this day and age, I’d say my kids are too good for this world. Too good to deal with mass sh**ters, too good to deal with a negligent health care system. And definitely too good to be in a world with so many unstable people. So they’re better as a concept than a reality. I teach kids and think they’re awesome. That’s good enough for me.

Alright … Let’s look at it this way, I had a trusted friend who was a single parent admit that I wasn’t missing anything having children. ¡I felt that! (she confirmed for me what I silently saw around me, rare was the person to have the courage admit regret having kids) & from my point of view, I have one word for you … One Word: ¡Freedom! Freedom to do whatever the FK you want, now & forever. That means you get to raise your Inner Child into a Self Realized Happy, Healthy, Self Fulfilled Adult. Also know that up to a certain point, everyone is under unconscious social pressure to perpetuate the cycle of having children … break that cycle & choose for yourself, THINK for yourself. Yet my favorite mindset is Family comes in different forms … ¡Think outside The Box! & It’s OK to be different. ¡Hope this helps someone out there! Best of luck.