i’m jealous of people who have never questioned their gender 🥲

My biggest issue is: I have absolutely NEVER felt uncomfortable with my pronouns/my body/myself all throughout my life, and then I started questioning my gender, but the question didn't come from a discomfort, it came because I never fit into the stereotipe of masculinity, so I thought I might be a woman. After I started questioning, my anxiety grew so much on me, that everytime I'd think to myself "I think I'm cis, yeah this feels okay" my brain would go "REALLY? DOES IT REALLY? OR ARE YOU LYING TO YOURSELF?" until I started believing I was indeed lying to myself. I have now come to a point where I can't think about anything else, I can't sleep, I can't eat, talk, nothing except thinking about this, but I also am not able to have a concrete thought because my anxiety completely messed up my capacity to tell whether I am actually feeling something or not.

Jokes on other languages, finnish has (and has always had) only one pronoun for everyone :)

Me: *sees cat* Also me: why does every lgbtq person have a cat I feel so left out 🥺😂

I really needed this video today. Today and yesterday I've been in a debate with myself, questioning myself about it... So thank you❤️

i don't wanna b a girl... but.. do i wanna b a boy🤔🤔🤔🤨 update: im nonbinary. 2nd update: im cis. 😭?

it’s a mental break down... *do do do dooo do do do do dooo do do do dooo do do do do do do do* i’ve been having an identity crisis

I really think I’m non-binary; but I’m scared to tell anyone that I believe I am, because There’s a part of me that is scared that I’ll be wrong, and that I’m just cis, or transgender, and I’m just making stuff up in my head. idk, I’d love to experiment with they/them pronouns, as well, but I don’t have anyone I trust to ask to refer to me by they/them pronouns- and I’d love to try a different name, cause I hate the one I was given. It’s pretty, but it’s too feminine, I think? I’m sorry for rambling, ig, but this video was really helpful so, thank you and I love your content!

Thanks for making this video! Im trying to find out what my gender is😌

I identify as a female in my everyday life, which I'm comfortable with. But online I would rather use pronouns of: He/Him and She/Her (The word they or other doesn't really sit right personally with me.) It mostly depends on how I'm feeling, or maybe who I want to be identify as. (Such as roleplays) Does this mean I'm genderfluid, agender or maybe bigender?

Thanks for this video. I really am questioning at the minute. I came out as non-binary to my friends and some of them call me Jamie (some of them just don't so...) but I'm still not sure what I am? Or if I'm trans? So thanks for this video. Love them as always

Is it okay to just straight up not label your gender? Or is that then considered agender?

When your so confused about your gender identity that confusion confuses you

The label that matches what I feel is agender, I just exist haha. Looking back when I was younger, I never felt "off." I didn't know people even could experience sexual thoughts or gender (I am aromantic as well)! Before I was a teen I was never called a girl by my parents, sure they used she/her for me and daughter but that never bothered me back then. I remember once in gym, when we were playing a game and did girls vs boys as teams, never bothered me cause they were referring to me as my sex. For some reason, I remember "feeling" agender, (if I could put into words, "distance from female, I guess") then, I didn't think about it. Now that I know having a gender identity is a thing I have been looking for who I was in the gender aspect. I found out recently that I like they/them and no pronouns. However, I am fixated on when they call me she/her and girl, which didn't happen before. Plus keep bringing up me getting a boyfriend (I understand where they got that though as if I ever got into a relationship it would be with a man, that was when I forgot what happens in romantic relationships and I ditched the idea.) I have thought about coming out to my parents, even though I am uncomfortable when they bring up future boyfriend, me being a "girl," and me "looking at nudes" when I hide my tablet, I don't like people watching me watch or read anything. They have said that they would accept me if I was gay, and I know my parents would be comfortable with me being Aroace, as they said I don't have to get into a relationship If I don't want to. However, when nonbinary people was brought up at a friend's house, my mom said "they is plurel' as a response to it, and my dad frequently makes jokes about people using the "other bathroom" a LOT. I am comfortable being who I am, but I don't like it when my parents keep bringing up me being a girl, using she/her, making jokes about me looking at "nudes", or making jokes about "what bathroom do they use"(not in a positive way). I have made it VERY CLEAR that I don't like them making jokes like the bathroom one.

Yes, I'd really like a "figuring out sexual orientation" video! Thanks for inspiring a fellow nonbinary person!

Me:*fully content with my sexuality* Gender: ima end this person/girl/boy’s (idk) whole career

I’ve had nights where I cried out from frustration bc I could t figure out how I felt, this video has helped me to be more certain of myself xx

I’m just very anxious about the whole proces

I like being a girl but I cry when somebody says I will never be a boy? I like being both and I don’t know what to do..

Laurenzo... thank you so much for this video. As a mom this was so enlightening! My Kasey who prefers he to she and I are getting ready to launch our indepth discussion on pronouns and how parents today can support their child when society sadly isn't so supportive! Keep up the great work! 👍

i think im a demi-girl but i am still gomma question myself bc rn i am questioning everything abt me

Love this! This is an awesome video. Being gender fluid (which took a long time to figure out about myself) sometimes how I feel internally is definitely not the gender I'm dressing like on the outside. It's nice to know I'm not weird for that. See too much stuff in the media about people saying that they're transgender just because they like wearing women's clothes or men's clothes or something like that that society tells you you have to wear if you're a man or a woman. I can still feel like a man while wearing a dress, it's just a fact. I don't know if very many people would understand that but it's nice to see a video that explains the difference between gender identity and gender expression.

You have such an amazing way of explaining things that I have never seen before.. It is incredible... thank you for this ❤

Lorenzo: **casually taking** My confused gender fluid ass: TEACH ME I HAVE TO KNOWWW

Thanks for especially making that distinction between gender, gender-expression and sexual orientation, I started my research a few days ago and learing that there is a difference really helped me to look at my own identity more freely, which led me to identify as agender, just being me! (PS.: It is never too late to start the journey, even if you are an 26 years old person like me.)

‘Gender identity is how you feel on the inside’ ‘your internal space feels a certain way about what your gender identity is’ I’m really struggling to conceptualise this. How does one attempt to feel this internal feeling? Is it only trans and non-binary that experience a feeling of gender? What advice would you give a cis person trying to recognise their gender identity? x

Thank you for this video When I was first trying to figured out what my gender identity was I couldn't find any resources but I now identify as male and im glad there is more out there for people

The part about gender identity vs gender expression really helped me. Thank you Laurenzo :)

Thanks for this video ❤️

im crying rn bc im questioning so much

I just read a fan fiction about a content creator that I really like finding out that they like he/they and I’ve already been going through a gender crisis recently and I LITERALLY cried the entire time and I’m trying so hard and I have so many things to keep up with in my life. I’m struggling so hard rn :(

I think I might be Agender but I'm not sure if I'm _really_ Agender or if I'm non binary

All your videos are so helpful, thank you for making them :D

sometimes I wanna say I'm a cis non binary because technically where all cis no matter our gender cause we all have mentally felt it

When I started exploring different gender identities as a teenager, I was kind of beaten into submission by people constantly invalidating me and eventually being forced into an all-girls school. Sometimes I try to do some research on different identities, but I've been conditioned to feel emotionally drained and exasperated every time I try. I just tell people I'm cis in order to avoid having to debate someone, and it feels wrong, but every label feels wrong for me. How do I figure myself out when I can't get over this mental barrier?

Me: I'm a girl My brain: no Me: I'm a guy? My brain: NO Me: nonbinary?????? My brain: no. Me: I guess I'll just use she / her and they / them. My brain: u sure? Me: AAAAAAAAAAAAA None of the pronouns / identities / lables I know of feel right anymore Edit: I am trans masc 👍

Ok so. I'm born a girl and I've really been finding myself uncomfortable with my body. I tried putting my chest away with wearing more wide clothes and it made me feel a bit more comfortable then asked my friend to call me he/him. Which they did. I really feel comfortable but I'm here with a big doubt in my heart. I really don't know what my gender is any more. Like I wanna be a guy. But yet I don't wanna get rid of me as a girl. Idk what this shit is.

I feel like a girl but partially boy. I think I'm demigirl I go by she/her

Thanks so much for making this video I have been struggling to find out my gender identity for a really long time

I didn't went thru the process of figuring out my Gender. Because there is no such process here. Instead, the figuring was about other things. Profession being a big one. In the span of several years, I found myself trying to figure out if I wanted to be an Actor, Astronaut, Mechanic, Dispatcher, Computer Programmer or Detective. Eventually discovered that I am a Vehicle Operator. I feel comfortable doing it. I enjoy the traveling involved. I like that I am a part of the Transportation Community. And I'm pleased it offers me the chance to serve a wide variety of customers. Now, my son is involved in that type of figuring himself.

Im 13 and ive been confused about my gender, i thought i was genderfluid but ive been less comfortable with she/her and been leaning more to he/him and it's been all sorts of confusing, but this video did help a bit.

ill come back once ive figured out my gender❤️

thank you sososososooo much!!!! for making things a bit clearer :)

Tysm for making this video!! I have been trying to figure out my gender identity lately and have been questioning if im non binary so this really helps!! 😊

i clicked this faster then deku breaking his bones

I'm just back here to thank you if you ever see this which you probably won't however- This video helped me a lot and helped me figure out I was genderfluid, so thank you! ❤ I'm much happier identifying as genderfluid now compared to being a cis girl

I go for long periods without seriously questioning my gender, maybe thinking if it feels right to be treated or seen this way sometimes but never being really upset or depressed because of it. But then something happens (this time it was a picture in which I looked like the opposite sex) and I broke down crying. I don’t know what to do I’m so tired of this because I feel like I’ll never figure it out

First I was a little girl. Then puberty. Then I had breast dysphoria. Then I was non binary. First a demiboy. Then genderfluid, but almost never feminine. Then I went on testosterone. But I keep having self doubt and worrying. Then I went back to being a demiboy. Now idk what's happening. I'm just scared of finding out I was a girl all along, because I have a male voice now and got some other irreversible changes already. Not that it bothers me. I'm ok with all the changes. It just kinda doesn't matter?? I had dysphoria with my girl voice. Now I have no dysphoria, I guess, although I kinda find it weird sometimes cuz it changed really fast, but I kinda like it. I kinda feel like T should be a bigger deal, smh. Everyone either tells me that it's gonna ruin my life or that it's gonna save my life. But so far it just feels pretty normal. I'm not even 4 months in tho. I just want to be a trans guy and not have to think about gender ever again. It would be the easiest. I'm tired of thinking about gender. I just wish I could drink a potion and my body would morph into whatever is the most comfortable for me and then I can just live my life without worrying about gender ever again.

why is my gender so confusing sjskskjskskjsjsjks

Anyone else having an identity crisis and crying in confused gay?? 😔

I followed your steps and visited The Trevor Project. I come out as Non-Binary, thanks for the help LaurenZo

their video is the best! seriously really helped me. THANK YOU

Oh my gosh. Ok I’m not gonna give specifics on the names in question, but my given name is not only feminine, but very unique. I also have a nickname I like to use that is a bit more gender neutral in nature. I’ve used it quite frequently when introducing myself to new people. And then I’ll qualify it by saying it’s easier than having to read my actual first name. But I just realized, I’ve always liked my nickname better than my given name. I always thought it was just cause it sounds cool or something, which it does, but what if I like it because it’s more neutral than my given name? But wait, I still like my given name. I often don't care which one people call me. They're both me. What?? Someone please help. I’ve never seriously questioned my gender identity before. I know about a lot of the labels, but not all of them. I’ve already come to terms with my aroace-ness, but idk about gender. This is very difficult. It’s like I’m exploring new treacherous terrain.

I was born as a girl. But my mind and behavior are like a boy. What should i do? I'm in trouble 🥲

Thanks so much for this video it helped me figure out I'm bi-gender!!!

This really helped tysmm, I found out I'm Girlflux! I questioned my gender for sooo long and now I finally figured it out

Hello!! Thank you so much for making this video!! It really means A LOT! To me! And I was able to find out my gender!! But anyways.. I have a question about my gender actually... At first I found my self Bisexual cause I found myself attracted to both male and female, but then I also started feeling Non-binary and I started getting confused on what gender I am now since I feel Non-binary (found out in ur vid), and Bisexual. (Found out in another video to find out if I am Bisexual), which I feel both and I really need help with that. And if people will read this comment and knows how to answer this, PLEASE! comment the answer! Thank you and stay safe everyone!! 😊

Step 1. *Learn to think for yourself*. Step 2. Stop being afraid of those who would shame you for being yourself. Who *you* decide you are is just fine. No one real really cares anyway. Step 3. Enjoy the terrifying, uncertain, glorious adventure that is being a grown-up human. Back in the eighties this was all covered under "fashion".

I had gender identity and gender expression mixed up for a short time. I identified as genderfluid for a pretty long time. I was trans for a while because I was a boy a majority of the time. Now I got that sorted out and I’m genderfluid again ☺️

Thanks, this video helped me figure out my gender identity :)

I express myself as Cis, as well as feel it, but with a hint of feeling Agender sometimes.

I'm actually so confused with my self because I don't feel feminine and I don't don't feel feminine and I'm not sure if I just want myself to be masculine or if I would actually be happier with more masculine pronouns, plus I can't even figure out because I still live with my homophobic parents. Please help.

i've been questioning my gender for a while now and i'm having this struggle where i can't say i'm straight but at the same time, i can't say i'm gay. it seems like i'm just between any gender? i don't really know. thanks for this video btw !!

I think i might be gender neutral or graygender- though i do feel female or male sometimes, it is very weak and i mostly just feel there, just me. But at the same time theres a little bit of gender there. I feel gender neutral because I'm not entirely empty if you get what i mean, i still feel a little bit of gender but not a lot. I know demi girl exist but when i do feel that little bit of gender i don't just feel female. It depends on me when i feel a little bit of gender if i feel female or male. And being gender neutral make me comfortable

I’m constantly questioning my gender lol

Can i try out He/Him pronouns even if i KNOW i identify as a cis female? Idk i just like it when people use them (in my head i havent actually had anyone call me them and i know ill never have the guts to ask :(

This helped me so much, you have no idea.. thank you

i like how i did my own research and figured it out. gender fluid, they/them and i also found experemental name.

Thank you 😊💕

i am both genders and i like both genders.

Thank you so much! You help me a lot with my lgbtq journey like when I was even questioning being trans (I'm agender)

Thank you so much for the info! I've been on a train for my gender identity, and I've been thinking that i was non binary,or trans, but I was not sure. All I know is my sexuality, but now I can find my gender identity!! Thank you, again.

If you ever feel gender fluid, the best thing to do is test to find out what gender you feel more comfortable with. If you’re a girl at birth and are gender fluid, you could do a “boy for a day” type, dress up as a boy, disguise as a boy, and do boy like stuff. The same goes if you’re a boy at birth and are gender fluid. You could do a girl for a day, dress up as a girl, disguise as a girl, and do girl stuff. The only problem is, you may forget who you are if you’re pretending to be someone else for a day. Especially if it’s a gender you weren’t assigned at birth.

I'm an abrosexual and it really took me so long to figure that out! First of all, I've never heard what that sexuality is, until couple of months ago. Well, I didn't back then think about it that much, so I kinda forget it - and was in crisis quite a long :D It made me so stressful, because...when I came out as a lesbian, the next day I immediately regretted it (because my whole sexual orientation had changed), but another day I was again fine. So, a week ago I was walking and I randomly remembered, "abro!" and...I was thinking about it a lot and...it makes sense, really.

I don't know why but in the start of the video when you popped your head out from behind the cat, I started dying laughing. For some reason(:

Honestly it been a big issue with my gender thing. People try asking I don’t know how to answer. And the gender envy is getting crazy and I don’t really feel like myself. I’ve tried understanding how to express my troubles to people but most people I know like my dad are not so agreeing with it and my mom isn’t really the understanding type. I’ve debated trying just asking if I could get a binder. Hoping with would spark the conversation but in scared and I feel it make become and issue especially because of the wedding coming up. But I feel this helped thank you

I thought I am nonbinary but I can't stop feeling female but I am a amab

Thank you this really helped I appreciate your help I now know that I'm ftm transgender

I saw this vid on my reccomend and I really needed this cause I've been trying to figure out my gender identity.

Watching this cuz I’ve been confused and on the brink of tears at times from questioning my identity..

Lol the cat its cute

Im having a brain meltdown trying to figure out my gender cause i dont feel any gender like my gender either dont exist or is just.. ALL Which makes me think im agender but idk ack

I really needed this thank-you xxxx

Hey thanks this did help a lot I kinda just stuck with gender fluid for a ya know just say that if people ask cus it works but thank you it’s been a big help I just wanna give you a hug👍🏻

people in africa : what am i gonna eat tonight, i have no money. people in usa : wHat GenDeR aM i?

Help Im having a crisis 😖

Just thank you. I really needed this.

Idk why, but this fells really warm

Im 13 year old "girl" going though a gender crisis the only reason I found this video is because I've been searching what is my gender and how do I know my gender on YT and taking quizzes i have know clue what the hell i am and a bunch of lables don't feel right idk what I am but i know im not a girl and i still young so i guess i have lots of time to figure it out and experiment but i don't have much room with my family idk why im typing this in the comments i guess im ranting sence i can't tell anyone or im looking for a community to relate if u are actually reading this the. Hi😀

Love the video ♥️

Love your videos and i found you on tiktok you're amazing

I was like bi before but then I kinda reset to default and became cis and all but ur videos are making me question this shit and all

💛⚪💜🖤

Gender is Not a social construct. God defined it in the beginning of time as two different types of a human one meant for the role of leadership, protection, and hard work, the other being the carrier for the baby and the company for the man, Male and Female, i'll let you figure out which role goes to which. Male: The one who is born with at least one Y sex chromosome if not more due to an extremely rare disorder that has an extremely rare chance of it impacting your life. Female: The one who is born with no Y sex chromosomes, at all.

BUT WHAT DOES GENDER FEEL LIKE? 1:26 - ‘how you feel on the inside’ ‘Your internal space feels a certain way of what your gender identity is.’ What is this feeling? How do I recognise it in myself?

Hey, love what you do! Cheer's from a fellow enby!

Step1: look down Done.

Making money off of confused children, I hope their parents are very proud of they xD

Thank you for this!!

thank you for this now i just have to figure out how to come out to my fam