Dude the fact that you’re still fighting is proof that you haven’t failed. Even if you think you did, failure is a part of life and everyone runs into it eventually. Yeah, bad things happened, but the question is “what will you do now?”. To 40 year olds you are still young. You have so much time left, and there’s no blueprint to life. Even Stan Lee didn’t start Marvel comics until he was 40 years old. I believe in you man.

I feel like a failure is one who gives up trying. There is no time limit on one’s success. Keep going no matter how hard or disappointing it may feel , because you are still living. You owe it to yourself to keep trying.

“The meaning of life is just to be alive. It is so plain and so obvious and so simple. And yet, everybody rushes around in a great panic as if it were necessary to achieve something beyond themselves.” ― Alan Watts

I'm 35. By 32 I had an amazing career and a ridiculous life. I was so blessed. The Covid shutdown destroyed my job, I got some nasty GI problems out of nowhere and now I'm 35 with no job, no money and back home. Trust me, I get it. It's depressing as hell. However, what I've learned (primarily over the last year) is that I did all of that once, and I can do it again. 35 is still young, regardless of what TikTok fucks say lmao. I re-enrolled in college to go into a different field, and I'm working with specialists to manage my health conditions better. The point is, as long as you're trying you're never failing. Also, stop comparing yourself to other people. They're them and you're you. If they judge you, they need to go away. We're all just trying to survive before we die.

Your not a failure, your a human being who is full of worth and dignity

I'm also 35 and I'm equally as lost and aimless, with mental health struggles and a history of failed friendships. You aren't alone, stay strong brother and you do you. I know people who didn't find their calling until they were in their 40's, it's never too late, go at your own pace and try not to think of life like a grocery list that you have to tick off "life objectives" to be "successful". If you can find joy in anything at all, then you don't need 'success'.

You have friends, you have familiy, you have had relationships and you have a job. BRO that's more than many people have, KEEP GOING! 👍

I'm 36, this video just popped up and I decided to watch it. You've done a lot more with your life than I have. I've worked for over 15 years in a supermarket in the middle of the night, I have no friends, no romantic relationships to speak of. I just try to find little things to enjoy/look forward to every day though. I don't think you've failed, you're still here, you're still young

Hey man. I could never bring myself to get on camera and talk about such deep personal issues like you have done here. I would consider this a great accomplishment in itself. Let alone the thousands of people you may have helped in uploading this. Congratulations.

I see you. You are not alone. I also feel like a failure at 33 years old. Feels like everybody just got the memo on how to live their lives, and I didn't.

I'm 49. There's never a point in life where things are all Organised and OK and we get to say yes, we finally made it.

I am 25 and I genuinely don’t think you’re a failure at all, you’re just not where you’d prefer to be. Which can be really hard. I relate. But you’re really not a failure. The only failures in life do awful things to other people and never change or learn. Keep going, I know it’s hard and it’s so hard to dig deep a lot of the time, I fight most days to. Life is about the small wins and we have to keep collecting those ♥️

Maybe you've failed before, but you're not a failure. You being brave enough to upload this should be an accomplishment considering how many people you're going to help and possibly save through your vulnerability. Thank you for reminding us we're not alone, and I hope you know that you're not either.

As a woman seeing all of you men form a brotherhood on this post together and fight for eachother in the simplest of form as just an utterance of encouragement to a mere stranger shows the power of humanity & should be enough to make all of us see that this world is worth fighting to stay in 🌎❤We can all get through this together 🩵 you’ve got this!

This video is 10 months old now and it's just popped up in my suggested vids. Listening to you talk, rings a lot of bells. I'm 10 years older and no farther forward than you are now. A life of failures, a few good friends that I see rarely. It honestly sounds like you have more direction than me, I've never had a clue what I wanted to do in life, other than something to do with art. The first half of my life was on rails, did well at school, married my childhood sweetheart, most beautiful girl in the area, bought a house, trying to start a family, then, boom. Everything fell apart at 27 years old. Wife lost 2 babies then left with another man and had a family straight away, several family members died and I just collapsed. I've tried to get back on my feet for 20 years now but I don't know how. I live at home with my dad, I have massive social anxiety, and honestly, I'm embarrassed to even talk about the state of my life. I'm alone because I can't imagine anyone would stick around while I'm in this state. Rarely leave the house. I'm trying to start some sort of career writing kids books, but it's hard in this mental state, my anxiety is so bad I can barely go to the shops let alone work. I'm scraping a sort of living doing online surveys. If I didn't have my dad I'd be on the streets. Anyway, I just wanted to say you're not alone. I feel sometimes like I've failed at absolutely everything and there's no one else as useless as me. It feels as if that's the only way we're valued, our careers and our "success", but I've never lost the feeling that we're so much more than that. Anyway, I'm glad I found your video. I hope you're doing well and things are brighter for you. They have to get brighter sometime!

Life isnt for the smart or the educated. Life is for the resilient. You got this, thank you for sharing.

"You never fail until you stop trying." -Albert Einstein Keep your head up man.

You are not a failure, a failure would never have tried as many options as you have. Please be strong. Most people are frauds in their careers, just winging it, hoping that no one catches on to their inadequacies. Know that you are in my thoughts.

I am 41 and still am at home due to my mental illness as well. I get the failure feeling but I am not. It's just how life has turned out. I work but it is challenging to maintain when you struggle. So my parents help me. Its hard and i get it completely. You want a different life like others your own age and its frustrating, challenging and you cant change it. But you are stuck. You are not alone and i know there are others in the same situation. Stay strong and know we are doing this together.

Watching this is 2023. Dude, you're very far from a failure. You have great courage to put yourself out there on your channel. And 5k subs is quite an achievement. Plus you're intelligent, sensitive and articulate. I'd rather be around people like you than 90 percent of the idiots and assholes out there. Keep your chin up, man. You're doing fine.

I've struggled with all this too, doing much better now. Quit drinking, started excercise, back in school. My 20s were spent blacking out drinking, got kicked out of 3 schools, suspended from uni for 3 years, ruined relationships, fucked up jobs, hurt friends. But I'm still here, and I'm finally doing well. You can do this. Never too late to change. Also you have cool hair so that's something! Stay strong Adam!

I'm 53 and in the same situation... probably too old to turn things around...but we cannot choose who we are...we are all unique....in my head i feel as if i could do anything....but my social anxiety...nerves... depression always gets in the way...its the not living up to your potential that really gets you...hope things turn around for you...admire your honesty...hang in there

just by hearing you talk and hearing how articulate and well spoken and intelligent you are I can tell you with absolute certainty that you are NOT a failure. We need people like you in this world man... desperately.

success is living to 100 with good health doesn’t matter how much money or friends you have it’s health that matters

You're not a failure, mate. There is always time to brush off the dust and make the most of what you have. You got this!

Adam, don’t devalue yourself with metrics that society claims to be important, you as a person I can tell is a great man and the fact you are able to be vulnerable shows you don’t have an ego about yourself. Being a humble loving man like yourself is what’s most important. Enjoy this life you only do it once

- Set goals - Make your bed (sense of pride) Journal (jot down your thoughts) Exercise (boost confidence) Wardrobe (look good, feel good) Proactive (don't isolate) Subconscious (before falling asleep tell yourself what you want to become) read/write & recite it (cognitive) Environment (surround yourself w/positive ambitious ppl) Takes a lot of courage to speak on your struggles. Much respect to be vulnerable and share your personal life. Not many men can do what you did. Good luck

I'm 33 and also still with my parents. I can really relate to this. You are not alone.

I remember feeling like I was old at 35. Now I'm 47 and find that funny. It's really hard not judge ourselves by society's measures of success and failure, which is mainly about money and career, but you have other qualities. You have friends, which is a major success that is not something everyone has (social anxiety is a huge source of self-loathing for me). You can believe them that they don't see you as a failure. Hopefully you can look at yourself from their perspectives. We are often crueler to ourselves than we ever would be to others.

You are not a failure. Its so awful that life could make you feel like that. You are a charismatic self aware human.

Reading up on Stoicism really helped me - "comparison is the thief of joy", I remind myself of this all the time and my mental wellbeing has improved immeasurably since I started. Take care buddy

I'm 31. Never, ever had a girlfriend in my life. Tried many times but failed. And have very few friends. The odd time I meet up with them, I feel as though I'm the one making an effort and they never bother. Though I guess as they've got families, that might have something to do with it. I moved to Canada over a year ago, to get away from what you've experienced; living at home with my folks. I canot tell you how miserable it was and still is to this day, but at east I have a reasonable job, albeit it was torture trying to find one. Cost a lot,so it did. This video is so much like my own life. Pure misery with no clear end in sight. 🥺

I'm 22. College dropout due to political instability. Got nothing to do. Jobless. Depressed. Addicted to Porn. Let's NOT give up. We are with you Adam. 💖💪💖

This is perhaps the single most authentic episode that I’ve seen on KZfaq. Tremendous honesty.

Don't give up Buddy. You sound like a bright and honest guy. A rare thing these days. I'm 52 and still not a success but I have a family and have accepted who I am and now feel more relaxed and accepting of myself. That feeling is better than earning loads of money and trying to fit into the perceived notion of what is a success. Just remember life does change. You sound like you take chances so keep doing that and eventually you will get more confident and hopefully find your way. Best Wishes.

36 years old, a brilliant student but still screwed my career and I'm also stuck. Adam, you showed me I'm not alone, and me and all of these people commenting are showing you the same thing. For me, hitting rock bottom means I'd be living alone under a bridge with an addiction to the cheapest most poisonous drugs with a child or more. As long we're not there, we gotta keep going. Motivation is more valuable than gold, and it comes and goes. I know the feel. Sending you a big hug, brother.

Just turned 35, myself. We’re young, mate. You got this! Proud of you for uploading This video. Everyday is a fresh new start. The future is yours, mate. Can’t wait to see what you create in your life. I believe in you.

Adam you do not sound like a failure, you just had a series of bad luck. You are clearly bright and you just need to keep grinding, something will come your way you’re still young, please, don’t give up!

You're not a failure, dude. I'm 35 and living at home because I want to save money. I have had a few relationships fail. Shit happens. Keep going. You will keep learning and keep getting better. In 1-2 years see where you are. Study, work, study, workout, meet people. Keep at it.

Well, I'm nearly 34 years old, with no girlfriend, no friends, no job, and struggling with schizophrenia. Sometimes, I feel like the weakest person alive. Sometimes, I don’t want to be on Earth, if you catch my drift... But if I took a look at my life objectively, I would say hell no, I am not a failure. Whatever power put me here still wants me here, until then. I’ll live my life to the fullest.

Hey, man. Just turned 35 myself. It wasn’t until the past year that I really figured out what I wanted to do. I’ve leaned on my parents’ support a ton during my life (have dealt with anxiety/panic attacks since I was 11), and I’ve only recently acknowledged the blessing it’s been to have them there to help me when things get rough. There’s some systemic shit that keeps us all struggling. Even your friends with families/good jobs don’t have it all figured out, because they’re part of it, too. My brother is 37 with a family and a career and he struggles just as much as I do, if not more. We’re all part of it. Lean on the people around you. Your friends and family love you. Don’t forget that. Wishing you the best.

I'm 36. I share the same sentiments. I respect you for having the guts to put up this video for us. Thank you. This is good therapy for all of us. If we see many are like us, then it is probably way more normal to be in this situation than we gave ourselves credit. Let's regroup and regather ourselves. One small step at a time.

Very courageous, friend. Being emotionally aware as a man is a rare trait - you’ll be appreciated for that one day, I’m convinced. Like most commenters I don’t know you but (as a 44yr old) can reassure you there’s nothing unusual about you or your situation. There are people with their own homes and well paid careers who also feel this way, even worse. It’s easy to feel like a failure if you’re measuring success against the wrong metrics. You’re in a trough now (at least you were, as you posted 1yr ago) but there are many peaks waiting for you! Focus on your health and well-being, you deserve it. And I recommend deleting every social media app except KZfaq! Best thing I ever did! Good luck 💙

I became an apprentice chef at age 30. A few years later I had terrible anxiety and depression because of the industry and one or two specific workplaces. It took a long time to work through it. Imposter syndrome followed me everywhere for the 9 or so years that I was a chef. I changed direction again at 39 and decided to take on doing support disability work. It's hard to feel like youre moving forward when you're starting all over again, but we all have the strength to do it, to start again and build our lives the way we want. Don't ever feel like your life is a failure. You've survived a lot of things to make it here. I hope you've not given up on yourself and the hope that something better can be right there in front of you when you need it. Failure is giving up. Success is moving forward no matter how slowly.

You have not failed. You are just starting over. I've started over in my late fifties. I live in sort of renovated storage shed for two years. You do what you need to do to get back on your feet. So keep chipping away at it and accept who you are and to hell with everyone else. You have to find your own path. You don't have to have a 'career', just a job that pays the bills. If you are having mental health issues, find a therapist your get on with to help you. If you can share this with the world, you can make your way through to a life that works for you.

I’m 35 and I struggle in the same areas. I’m not nearly as comfortable on camera as you are. Learning to see your strengths and not just you inadequacies is important

This video really spoke to me - you've put into words exactly what's been eating away at me for years. I'm 27 but I resonate so much with what you have to say - I feel behind in life and trapped. It takes a lot of guts to sit in front of a camera and open up to the world. I don't know many people that would be brave enough to do that (me included). Seven thousand likes on this video currently - that's 7000 people who benefited from hearing what you have to say. What really helps is remembering that comparison is the thief of joy - I spend too long comparing myself to others; but anxiety and depression will only ever let you see the highlight reels of other's lives. You don't see their struggles, mistakes and challenges - and trust me, everyone has so so many. I truly believe that the way through is working on self improvement - do something, no matter how small to improve yourself every single day - the only person you should ever compare yourself to is the person you were yesterday. And then one day, you'll be proud of who you've become.

I‘ve enjoyed listening to you tell your story. I too have depression and anxiety and I found I really enjoy going to therapy and just having someone listening and trying to understand. Also you telling your friends that they‘re just around you to feel better about their lives sounds like depression determining your thoughts. They might actually like you

Adam, you've actually done so well by making this video. I know how weird it must be having complete strangers giving you life advice online, and how hopelessly trite (and optimistic) a lot of this advice may seem - 'it's always darkest before the dawn', 'it could be worse', 'there's still time', all that... but please, as someone with personal experience with anxiety and depression, I beg you to speak with a professional about your feelings. You deserve peace, and you deserve happiness. You are not a failure for having endured.

You are not alone my brother, we are not called the lost generation for no reason. I’m a college dropout, I had social anxiety for the longest time… I was afraid of women even when they showed interest. I did not have my first real job until I was 24, I lost my V to some escort at age 23…. I did not leave my mother’s house till I was 37 years old. I wander thru life not knowing what I should be doing… I hate all jobs and I hate interacting with people still… We are a generation of men given no purpose nor support.

You obviously helped a ton of people by sharing your genuine feelings. The universe is literally telling you that you that you have purpose. I think that's beautiful and amazing :)

Hey man, you give a really authentic and personable impression through the screen. You're an instantly likeable human being. You're smart, wise and introspective as well as observant. You've got more meaningful years ahead of you than most. ❤ Stay strong, meaning will come, we hold out and we persevere and we all can blossom. Big love.

Shit Adam, you really got me in the feels. There's a lot you said that I can relate to, especially about being a fraud. I have a BBA and MBA degree, but have nothing to show for it. I live off my parents, work as an entry level employee doing accounting work that I hate, been single my entire life, and constantly hate myself almost everyday. I really feel for you Adam. So I'm going to tell you what's kept me alive so far: Try to be thankful for everything, because I guarantee you one thing, someone else has it WAY worse than both of us. Excerise. Do something that is physically engaging. Walking is key. Stop giving a fuck, because we're both 30 year old failures and we might as well try new things since we have no direction, yet. Hope this helps.

Hi Adam. I'm 33 and 4 or 5 years ago I was in a bike accident. I couldn't work, run, jump, I walked funny and got weird looks from people when I went outside because of this. Imoved back in with my parents. I lost the romantic interest, she had finished her PhD, got a job and her own apartment, and from her point of view I had gone backwards and was going nowhere. I don't have any negative feelings towards her, women can't help what they find attractive in a partner any more than we can. I'm recovering well now physically. The reason I'm telling you this, is that having come through the wringer with this, I've found a degree of happiness and contentment. I don't care that I don't have a girlfriend. I don't care that I live with my parents. I hated school, college, every job I ever worked, but I tried so hard because to be a man in society you are expected to do something, make something of yourself, or you're worthless. But at home, and unable to take part in that life, expectation lifted from my shoulders, I am no longer under pressure, stressed, I am no longer exhausted all the time. I do wish that I didn't have any health/injury problems, but strangely, I'm more content now than I was before, even though I haven't achieved everything I'd wanted to have achieved by now. Take it day by day. Live in the moment. Take pleasure from the simple things. Try to look at what you do have as much as what you don't. In summary, I've learned having been freed from 'society', to an extent, that there is an expectation and a weight put on every man's shoulder, and in the current climate many men aren't able to live up to these expectations placed upon them. Sometime we just have to just say f it. The lyrics to the song, Always Look on the Brightside of Life, have helped me get through the toughest of times.

Much love and support to you man! I feel your pain completely and it's great you put up this video. My personal mantra is being the best version of yourself through any means necessary. I'd encourage you to explore supplementation of all kinds and join online groups. Life is extremely hard and during most times it makes no sense - we lose ourselves in trivial details just to escape. There is no success or failure - it's just experience of something. Never get into a race.

It was brave putting out this video. Not many people are willing to show their vulnerable side in the way you have and to open up on this subject. I'm sure most people at times feel like failures - I have my moments ! (more than moments maybe). You've pinpointed things you feel have not worked out and why... that's a big step in the right direction. All the best !

Your story resonates with me, the difference is you’ve let societal timestamps determine that you’re a failure. You’re not, you’re still young, you’ve got everything ahead of you. Don’t be afraid to follow your dreams. GO back to that degree you were doing and complete it, you will succeed you have to fight and you are.

37 here and I struggle with much of the same. This is a generational problem, so many millennials don't have good careers, a family, a purpose or much reason to keep going. It's been nothing but economic downturns and scarce jobs for as long as I remember.

It takes great courage to put out a video and to share your feelings with the world. No doubt that this will resonate with many others out there in this condition of ours. What got me out of a "meaningless loop" was hiking. That is, with a rucksack and a tent. I head deeper and deeper into the wilderness. Traversed more and more difficult terrain. I learned everything I needed to know from different books, like how to make a fire, and so on. Took me I couple of years to get a proper hold of it before I decided to go to the deepest forests and mountains in Scandinavia, sometimes staying in the wild for months, fishing, hiking, and reading books. It did so much with my self-esteem and I got to know my limits and worth on a whole different level. My physique was shit, to begin with - but slowly it got better and suddenly I was a lot stronger and faster - not to mention clearheaded - than I've ever been before. This didn't happen overnight - at first, I started with just small hikes, like a day - then I got hooked. What I found is that the wilderness does not expect anything from you - it is just there as it has been for thousands of years. Unlike our society which keeps on shifting. It has brought me so much joy and when I return to life in the "civilization" the wilderness has given me a calm to carry on - knowing that "out there" I am accepted and successful, which also will in some sense translate to your daily life. You should give it a try. Fuck the expensive gear - you get far with the essentials. I'm not saying that you should go into the deepest wilderness right away or even leave the country, but even the slightest bit of wilderness is a strong remedy. Trust me.

I watched your video this morning and it’s really stayed with me. I would encourage you to consider that at 35 and not having the restrictions that a partner, children, mortgage etc places on your options in life means you have endless possibilities to be whatever you want! I really empathise with your feelings of not knowing what you want and not knowing yourself well enough to decide - I certainly struggle with those feelings. I find myself stuck in a career I didn’t intend because of my responsibilities. Please take some time to make a choice for your life - decide a path and take the risk to go after it! Your power is your lack of responsibility to anyone but yourself. I wish you the very best Adam. You can make your life what you want it to be

Going to the gym has helped me get through tough situations. Find a positive hobby, keep a healthy mindset, and believe you deserve anything you desire and it will come to you! Keep your head up. We’re all trying our best, that’s all we can really do.

Adam you are a beautiful soul. You are worth more than you could even imagine. Don’t let the things that happened in the past define you. Don’t identify with failure. Your life is beautiful. Everyday is a new day to redeem yourself and take control of your life. You are capable of living a fulfilled and beautiful life, you have to see it within yourself! All love

Great courage to post this. Keep on cracking mate. Life’s about ups and downs; about persevering, struggling, succeeding, feeling sorrow and joy. As long as you keep moving forward you never know what awaits you! That’s what I think

This is probably the most real thing I've ever watched. All I would say is keep going. Life can change upwards in as quick as a month. Thank you for making this video. It will help others. You didn't fail at that!

Its wild to think but 90% of us are in the same boat mate we all just need to keep on keeping on, we will all get there somehow. lotta love man

I'm 19 years old and I shed a tear watching your video. I really do feel almost the same way as you. I feel lost without a clear path. Working my first job felt like hell. I have never had any relationships apart from friends who use me for their happiness. I hope that anyone who reads this finds joy in life! Alhamdulillah

This video that you made of yourself being a total fail, reflects my life. Almost all of it. But what i've learned through my path of life is, that I noticed that i must thank myself everyday that i'm still fighting and i'm really a tuff guy, for not giving up on life. Because nobody encouraged me trough my life. Ever. I didn't have dad as child growing up, 'cause he died when i was 3 years old. My mother was tuff and became cold person. I am a fighter, YOU ARE a fighter. We've had so many depressing and ruff situations, that in the end, we don't have to please anyone. I left those kind of "friends" that just wanna bring you down. I pray for you my fellow soldier! and thank you very much for this video that you made. You are brave man. Take care! ... and by the way, i'm 42 years old, and still have no job, no diplomas, and a drug problem, that i'm treating now. OK, it is financially easier here in Finland, that even when you don't have job, or money to pay the rent, government will support you. But the prices of food is most expensive compared to all other countries in Europe. 500€ a month is not enough. Not even close. In Finland rich people are getting richer and poor are getting poorer. This is a FACT.

I am almost 30 and I still live with my mom too. I went through very rough times and finally went back to college but I only can take two classes at a time. I am proud to keep trying no matter how difficult and slow I am moving towards any little goal. To make all that time in between worth a damn is what matters. Smallest of things and exchanges with others and your passions create a life of meaning despite not being socially standard all put together. The right people will be there and cheer you on. Keep on going and remember the joys that make you feel like a kid again-that has helped me tremendously. You’re worth a damn because you’re alive and meant to experience just living, breathing and helping others where you are able to also find joy in just that. Keep on going dude you got this.

As a 38 year old “failed lifer”, I say to you that you’ll get used to it. I had a period where I reflected on what others are doing, married with kids and big successful businesses etc but then it dawned on me that I don’t want kids or that fake life. Since then I’ve made a concerted effort to enhance my introverted life to its maximum potential and enjoy what I DO have. I live with my dad and that’s ok. You don’t have to live your life to reflect those around you. You do you mate. Nothing wrong with you. 🙂

You’re not alone bro! I’m 36 still living at home in Melbourne, Australia. Cost of living is skyrocketing, inflation is out of control. Just pray to God, I can finish my bachelor of accounting degree. Only 14 units to go.

I feel you, mate. Takes amazing courage to make this video. I'm 32, struggling to find a job, history of anxiety and social anxiety mental health issues. Thing that always upsets me is I reached my absolute peak in my first year of college. Happiest time of my life. Then something changed towards at the end of the year. You aren't a failure though. You seem pretty genuine and down to earth, that's an achievement in itself. A lot of people just act false.

this is incredibly brave to do, mate, you've pushed through over many difficulties over many years - that takes a lot of strength

Ive seen so many of these videos now, of just brothers putting themselves out there and speaking their truth, yall are inspiring me fr.

I feel the same way at 29. Still live at home and still working a job that I don’t like. For me My anxiety held me back from a lot of things and it makes me feel like crap.

Mate im 36 and ive struggled with addiction and mental health and i feel like im only starting to get to know myself properly now your not a failure you have the rest of your life to look forward to try and focus on the positives and set yourself little goals in life that you want to achieve even tho it might feel like it your not alone mate. Thanks for sharing your story 🙏

Massive Respect for having the balls to post this. Ive been in a downward spiral since 2015 (Military separtion, incarceration, and mental health issues) have struggled since then, have yet to see the silver lining

Mental health is a main part of what has us all down. You are a strong person for being able to share this with us. Win the fight!

You’re no failure dude. You have tried so much in your life time already. It’s amazing how quick life can change for the better. I’m 35 and I’m in a field that I don’t care much for but have gotten good at over the years. I still don’t know what I want out of life but I continue to take it day by day and have really tried to enjoy the little things. It’s all perspective but I tell myself in those low times that there are thousands of people that would kill to have your situation. Keep on pushing forward brother.

Hey man, I'd just like to say that I resonate with a lot of what has been said in this video. I'm 23 so a fair bit younger than you, but I too have social anxiety, can't seem to get a job and feel behind in life compared to my friends as well as also feeling like a fraud. This life is tough, this world is brutal. I'm sure that there are quite a few like us who try to make things happen but just can't seem to find it. But fair play to you for hanging in there and trying, and I hope that there is something out there that can give you some inner satisfaction and contentment.

I believe in you man! A lot of people support you! Don't give up man you will overcome your obstacles just be patient and diligent! Life will be more positive and ecstatic for you!

Hey Adam. I really see your pain. The failure, hopelessness, despair, dissappointment... I've been very much in a similar head space to where you are now, a number of times over the years. Including very recently. It takes a lot of courage and vulnerability to express these thoughts and feelings, and I really admire that you have strived to be the nicest, kindest, most patient version of yourself that you can be. It's people like you that make life a better place to live. I'm 36 years old, and the story that goes through my head is that, I'm 36, I have no job, have no career path, no real direction, have no money, have no partner, have no kids, have no house. And all my friends around me have these things. It seems like I've failed, and there are times when I really truly believe that story, and fuck it gets me down. We see all these people that have bloomed, have a career, made money, have a partner and a house and a family and all the good things... And we look at ourselves, and we assume that because we don't have that, that we have failed. But what if your life wasn't meant to look exactly like their lives. Maybe you were meant to live the life you have up until this point, maybe the next 35 years is when you really bloom. Some people don't know what they're doing with their lives till they're 50, 60, 70, or even older. There is hope for us. There is hope that your life, and mine, and anyone else out there who is in a similar place, that our lives have much more in store for us than we could ever realize. Maybe these past 35 years have been character building years, to grow through the struggles you've had, to polish you like a diamond, so that you can really shine for the next 35 years. Don't give up on yourself mate, you have a lot to offer life and life has a lot more it wants to offer to you.

Don't give up brother! Physical exercise helped me tremendously with my mental health!!! It's crazy how physical activity can trigger a healthier mind! I hope you find something that gives you light in the dark! Pain can forge greatness!!! Never give up!

I'm going through a rut as well Adam, you're not alone. I failed medical school and just have had a massive career change and also live with my family. It hurts my damn ego, but life goes on and I deal with my pain and anxiety and talk to my family about it to keep me sane. Regardless of age, there's always purpose to get up every day and do something, even if it's simple as doing what you love, which for me is coding and gaming. I dislike where I work for a shitty tech company, but at least I don't have to pay rent and my family supports me. It could've been much worse and I'm just glad that we're here today and pushing forward. I can tell you're extremely intelligent and have great intuition Adam because you're a deep thinker and analytical. Find a reason to get through each day and tell yourself you're okay. Journaling my thoughts and meditation has been key to saving my mental health and for surviving each day. Routine and system has worked for me, try what works for you and if you fail, just try again. You're extremely brave for opening up and being vulnerable Adam, great video.

Coming from a 16 year old guy, I really don't think you're failing. You seem like such a kind and genuine person, it's ridiculously brave of you to upload this, and I think in the end being caring and treating other people with respect is what really matter in life - much more than your job or partner or anything else. Also I don't see 35 as that old, you still have plenty of time to go and do what you want to do. Try things out, that's what I did and I got very lucky and found music and now I have a goal in life, something to aim for, which makes everything a lot easier. Whatever you decide to do, goodluck man you seem like a really great guy and I hope you figure this out

Im 33. I grew up rurally to a very conservative quiet family. Living there was torture. Not much to do. Not much inspiration. On top of that, I was an ugly duckling so in a place void of many opportunities, the few that were there were not able to be accessed because of my looks. So I isolated and then at 22 I felt attractive enough to move away but the years of isolating as a teenager and early adult messed me up so bad that I was unable to socialize. 10 years later and after being in an abusive relationship for 7 of those years... I am left with nothing. No longer do I have my youth and good looks to fall back on. Now I am a socially stunted 33 year old with nothing. Everyday I spend mostly alone... every day I feel immense sadness and loneliness...

Hey Adam, this doesn't make you a failure. Life is hard and some have it easier/harder than others. And the fact that you are aware of all of this doesn't make you a failure. Keep fight and don't give up. We're all fighting in this life together. Everyone has their own demons that they must tame.

You have so so so many years ahead of you, absolutely nobody I know has everything figured out, we're all aimlessly drifting - it's just some people are better at coping with that than others. I'm 35 too and I often fear I'm wasting my life, that I still haven't figured out what I want to do, etc... but I also find moments that make me truly happy and those moments are what I focus on. It makes me sad that you're feeling like this, every single person on this planet deserves to feel comfortable and happy in their life. You're still young enough to retrain, you can study and learn new skills, you can meet new people, you can get out there and live your life... you seem like a bright, intelligent and friendly chap, if you can find that confidence in yourself then you will get there! sending lots of positivity and love your way

Bro just keep failing forward. An easy life is boring anyway. You’re battle hardened and you were put here for a very important reason, you don’t know what it is yet. But you are. I’m 41, I let go of everything and everyone, I was by myself for like 1 year just keeping busy, gym , work , routine ect. The peace I got from this changed my life. I still carry anxiety and have ups and downs but I always know everything is gonna be alright. Bro you’re very lucky and you don’t realise yet.🤟👍🏻 keep fighting , you got this man !!

I was exactly the same as you, until I hit the gym and started running. The mental armour you gain from lifting heavy weight and running at 4am with nothing but your own thoughts is on another level. Stay strong brother and get hard.

You making this video shows us how strong you are. My ex and multiple friends gave up permanently because they couldn’t deal with life. You reaching out shows us all what a strong person you are. You are special. And I will be your friend if you want an online friend. I don’t have any friends and live at my parents house too, at 31, and we can both use a friend.

I'm about to turn 36, from the UK as well. Whilst I finished uni, got a job, got a girlfriend, etc, I face similar struggles as you. Trying to find myself, what I want to do, where I want to be, feeling stuck. None of these milestones in life we are supposed to achieve have brought me happiness. Relief maybe, but not happiness. Even if you had achieved all of your intended goals I think you'd likely be facing the same issues you face now anyway. Pretty much all of my (old) friends from school have had hard times in one form or another, nearly all have had mental health problems too. Even if it appears that everyone around you is having a great life, the reality is likely far removed from the optics. You are not alone in these feelings or struggles. People often keep their suffering to themselves because of shame or embarrassment. It really takes a brave person to make a video like this. Be kinder to yourself.

Thank you for posting this I can relate to you. I’m 23 at the moment and this past 2 years have been the worst 2 years of my life. I have fallen into a very dark depression, and have been struggling with massive anxiety, haven’t been able to find a job, it doesn’t help that I have a problem with weed too. I just want to feel like my true self again and be able to rediscover myself and get myself back on my feet. I hope you guys can all beat the internal battles your having and just know your not alone in this.

You're so brave for sharing this. ❤ Don't lose hope, though! I'm 36 years old and not too long ago I felt like a failure. And even though I'm only just now starting to find love again after not having dated anyone since I was 19, I've been working so much harder. I have a good job and friends who care about me. Women are even starting to flirt with me now at my job 😊 To anyone who's reading this, don't give up! You are special and you are loved. Go out there, smile, and make lots of friends 🤎

Comparison is the thief of joy! When you stop comparing yourself to others, when you stop caring about what others think of you, the crushing weight of expectation and conformity is lifted. Oddly enough I found Poetry & Philosophy greatly helped me to pull myself out of a Tartarus pit (similar to your situation). Reading in general has made a massive contribution to improving my mental health, as well as listening to Alan Watts lectures on youtube.

Thank you for making this video. You make a lot of people feel less alone.

I saw the title, felt I had to watch... I checked how old it was, and I sighed. I wish I had caught this earlier. Adam, I would love to link up with you. You are not a failure, your honest alone is a huge deal. You're an authentic character. God speed.

Respect, I’m 20 and am halfway through college. I know life can suck sometimes. But you have a chance to make something out of yourself. I know, easy for me to say at 20 in college playing sports and with a set routine. But I understand to a degree how it feels to be lost and have absolutely no clue what the next move is. This helped make me think that even if it get’s that bad, your still alive and have knowledge to share. I don’t care if you feel like a fraud. Your experience can relate to me no matter how small. So thank you for this video. Best wishes for your future. Remember, God gives his toughest battles, to his best soldiers. All the best and take care ✊🏽

23 and feel the exact same. Thank you for sharing and I hope things get better for you, I really do because I know how it feels

Everyone’s life is different. In order to succeed you have to fail, life’s not over.. your still here. Be grateful for what you have. That room, chair, the devices your filming on, your parents, the roof over your head that keeps you warm cosy and dry. Appreciate that bro. If you want things in life life you have to go get it, that’s on you. There’s so much to do in the world and we all are born the same we all have problems and issues. You have to deal with them and go get the things you want otherwise you will never have them. Find joy in peace, normally the people who are the most lonely are either really bad people, or the most true loyal type of people you could meet, only the real truth will reveal what type of person you are. And your future consequences depend on your present actions/decisions.

You're awesome to have uploaded and you've succeeded in relating to me and helping me to know im not alone❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ thanks so much ❤❤❤❤