The girlfriend in first story was 24 and had mastectomy 5 years prior - so she was 19. She was a teenager and went through something horrible and came on the other side strong and confident. I cant imagine going through that as a kid almost. 19 is barely an adult.

There’s an update on the 30k ring story on OP’s page. Turns out the son stole the ring for the father and he pawned it. She got her ring back. He and his wife had a gambling problem and the nephews ended up getting taken away.

in story #1, the gf really went Plus Ultra on that costume lmao

The anime costume was amazing she was brave enough to embrace her scars and put them into a costume of a show he likes and he has the audacity to say she should of worn something sexy and that she shouldn’t of shown her scars that’s nod blowing

It often irritates me when people are like, this isn't a big deal let it go. If it's not a big deal then do what's necessary to make up for your behavior.

Update on the ring story - the ring wasn't flushed. They had a gambling and drug addiction and the ring was found at a pawn shop. They likely lost custody of the kids as they were abandoning them at the home with no food or supervision to go to the casino.

Art supplies are NOT cheap especially good ones. Art makers are not "just markers" they're made of alcohol so that each layer of color can be even and blend hence the price. Regardless of the price parents should pay to replace anything their kids break that is not owned by the parents. They should be glad the kids didn't get into something like paints which can be toxic and a brush alone can cost over $20 depending on the bristle type. Honestly I would have took them to court too.

I really hate the "they're just kids, they didn't know any better" bullshit because YES, they CAN know better even as young as 2 years old! I know this personally because my niece and nephews understand that my figures aren't children's toys. My sister and her ex understood that I spent a lot of money on them even if they think it's silly. But they respect my space. The BIL and his wife definitely had no such sentiment.

Story 1 is 1000000% the AH. Imagine only being okay with her scares only if noone else can see them. It's a part of her story and he can't change that.

She better take her brother to court! That’s wild! He’s not even willing to make payment installments!

I hope she sued the hell out of her brother. Edit: In a follow up to the story, apparently the kids actually stole the ring for the brother so it could be pawned to feed a gambling addiction.

"that's a fire cosplay idea" I see what you did there Brandon 😂🔥🔥🔥 (And OP of the cosplay sucks for acting like she should be ashamed of her scars. Also that's a genius way to incorporate the scars from a traumatic experience. How dare he ruin that for her)

Brandon face gotta hurt from smiling all the time. NOT ONCE have I seen this man not smile. Bro got that generational wealth smile. He got that good credit score smile.

That ring story…. How in the hell do they have a $30k ring and not have insurance on it?!

With both of the stories about the kids ruining things it just gets me so mad when parents think the fact that they have children is an excuse for them not to take accountability for anything, yea kids will be kids but it’s your responsibility as the parents to watch your children when at someone else’s home. And if they damage or break anything it’s on you to pay for damages because you weren’t watching your kids it shouldn’t be something you refuse to fix or pay for because “kids will be kids” cuz at the end that kind of behavior makes you act just as childish as your children

The engagement ring story… did the woman have home owners insurance? Usually jewelry requires a separate rider to the policy, but since the ring was “lost” in the house and not outside the home I’m guessing a rider wouldn’t be necessary. She should put a claim through her home owners ins and whatever the insurance premiums go up after the claim, say $1000 a year (just a #, no idea what it wld go up)… whatever that figure is the brother should pay that to his sister. EVERY YEAR!

My comments on the first story (about the cosplay): I think the girlfriend chose a character that she identified with. If the character has scars, and clearly survived something they didn't ask for, maybe she identified with that character. Also, why didn't the boyfriend simply ask why his girlfriend wanted to cosplay as Dobby? He just went straight into "she's didn't dress sexy for me! boo-hoo, I'm embarrassed!" Give me a break dude! Total asshole!

Kids are kids, but the brother is a parent. And the younger they are the more it means the parents are the primary influencers of behaviour...so if the kids are so afraid of punishment that they flushed the ring, that says a lot to me...and all of it points to the brother being at fault/responsible and needs to make some kind of amends. Edit - I wrote this before getting to the art supplies story, and find my option above still fits. Also, the first AH in these stories is the parent who didn't even offer some type of apology or compensation. I can't say the following actions from the OP's are ideal, but the instigating AH's are the parents imo.

It's a completely open window with no coverage what so ever. You don't have to try to see in. It's weird to know that people can see you and do nothing to prevent it at all. He puts on shorts after having to walk around naked to get them. At that point he is purposefully exposing himself.

How are people so entitled about their kids behavior???

$30,000 for a ring?! That's like a used car and a half... 😭

As a artist, the art on made me the most pissed , the “cheaped” makers you can find are and still have good quality are 7$, ( if art is your passion and job yes you will pay 17$ a maker just like how a workman with pay 250 to 500 dollars for good work boots)not to mention how toxic most art supplies are , cadmium, cobalt and so much more. I would be so mad at my children ( if I had any) if they ever fuck with shit in someone’s house.

30:41 ops brother only got gifted the house BECAUSE OF OP. But he can’t repay her for something he’s responsible for???

Huge disagree on the sister story. If someone isn’t compatible with your needs your don’t need to be married. The no longer wanting to be intimate with casual touches is a huge red flag and is often a sign of cheating. I find it really weird that he suddenly stopped wanting to be intimate with her where as before he had no issue with her sex drive. Also asking him to get tested isn’t a challenge to his manhood a sudden decrease in sex drive can be a sign of hormone imbalance due to prostate cancer. It’s a legitimate concern. 42:18

My husband is an artist. He's passionate and beyond talented. Our entire relationship I have encouraged him to pursue his art. I've poured thousands of dollars into his art over the past 5 years between all of the supplies, whether given to him as a gift for birthdays, Christmas, anniversaries, etc. or simply refills of mediums he gets really into. My husband has also spent much of his money on his art and my parents have gifted him major art-related items since the beginning of our relationship (easels, expensive brushes and paints, special paper, etc.). Suffice to say, lots of money has gone into his art and we are all so proud of him. If anyone ruined one of his pieces or supplies I would be furious. Not only are supplies expensive but they are also often difficult to find. Especially if it was on purpose, those people would no longer be welcome in my house. It is not only about the money or the art, it is about the respect. I would not stand for someone dismissing or belittling my husband's passion, especially not in my own house. If someone destroyed my expensive work or school items, people would understand my anger and insistence that I be reimbursed. People who work in or enjoy the arts deserve the same respect. I really appreciate the responses to this story.

That brother in law wouldn't say "they're just markers" if they were tools or something he probably considered more masculine.

I cannot imaging ever having an expensive jewelry and not having it insured! That us insane!

Idk abt the nude one tbh. Its a dad right, so I'd be worried about my kids looking out the window just to find a fully grown man naked (&obviously idk his intentions, but he knows there's kids around). Yes he had his routine first, but if they're neighbors they can try to work towards community and coming up w solutions is so simple. Like i have windows in my bathroom that are blurry and i can see the light outside. Maybe he couldve asked about how they could work around his own concerns w having to change his lifestyle. I think theyre both in the wrong. I wouldnt want to encounter the possibility of a kid peeking into my home and being traumatized (like the neighbors can close their blinds, but if it's kids nearby they might not know better).

I have experienced of being in a relationship with a man where the sexual needs didn't match and the man didn't even let me touch him because he thought I only wanted sex. And I'm not talking about wanting to have sex multiple times a day, just like couple times a week (therefore I don't consider myself as a sex addict as you suggested the sister might be). That made me feel horrible everyday, I didn't feel loved and I was so unhappy. It is ofc normal that the sex drive changes during relationship and for men (and women) if the relationship is not working for them anymore (there are other problems also), they don't want sex that much with their partner although they wanted a lot earlier in the relationship. So I don't even think the lack of sex was the only reason for their divorce, it was just a symptom of a marriage not working. And to make such comments to your own sister that she is just sexuallizing everything, c'mon. It's not fair that when there is a relationship where the woman wants more sex than the man, we just assume the woman is a sex addict and she can't think about anything else than sex, and we just judge them? But when it is the other way around (man wanting more), it is totally normal and the man is not considered as a sex addict..

Great example "ugly naked guy" from FRIENDS

You mean to tell me that your gf embraced the anime community and wore an amazing costume and you’re embarrassed??? I’ve been watching anime for a long time and there was always a stigma about people who watch anime being weird. It’s not as bad now, but some people would still say watching anime and cosplaying is embarrassing. She dressed up despite that, and he has the nerve to be embarrassed about scars that he should be proud of. Unbelievable 😡

Dude I am a girl and even I think its wrong to demand child support. You don't get to have it both ways. If you kick the Father away then you don't get to turn around and demand he pay.

**The $30,000 ring** 1. When your kids are at someone’s house or ANY PLACE in general, it’s your responsibility to be mindful of what they’re doing and where they’re at. By law, you are responsible for their actions and you are held accountable for them. 2. I don’t care if it’s a sock or a 60,000 car, if my kids or I, accidentally or intentionally destroy or misplace something that belongs to you, it’s my responsibility to repay you for it. That’s a reflection on your character. I hate the idea of taking family to court, but if those kids would have snuck off and got into a car and destroyed a $30,000 vehicle or drove it through a house, would it be looked at differently because it’s a necessity and not a materialistic item??

love the longer episodes !!!🥰

The child story, I mean, what if he would have rathered an abortion and she wanted to go through with it and was insistent on him getting out of their lives. I think signing over his rights is a viable choice. Idk if I'd go all out to say he's a bad person for walking away. Staying could have just made a toxic environment for everyone. Ring: take them to court. You're responsible for not watching your kids.

Loving these longer eps!!

The law generally prohibits nudity in public places in the United States. Nudity is also generally illegal on a person's own property if the nude person is visible to the public, such as through an open window or sunbathing naked in the yard. I was curious so I searched about the being naked in your home without covering windows. Incase anyone else was curious, this is the answer🙋‍♀️

The engagement ring story and the art room story makes me feel good about my recent habit of getting insurance on anything that I pay over $50 for that I consider of a qualify value..

Yesssss I love the longer episode 😋

I feel there's this thing with parents where it's like they're used to their kids destroying the stuff they own and they just have to deal with it. So then when their kids good screw up other people things they're like "Oh my bad, I'll punish them(Maybe...) and that's the end of it. And because they have to deal with it when it's their stuff they expect you to also deal with it.

The ring story nooooo like too many stories like this. If you have kids just watch them and if your kid does some shit like this apologize.

No way I’m this upset that my binge watching is coming to an end I won’t tell you how long it took to get through all of these episodes. Maybe 3 days maybe 4 😭

Here’s the thing, last story they were comfortable being naked because the trees were there the moment the trees left there they should’ve covered the window. You can’t expect people to never look at your house even as they pass. Because it’s coming off as exhibitionist as opposed to just enjoying sleeping naked. And it for sure is indecency if a kid looks over and you’re standing in the window naked, doesn’t matter that it’s your house. That was an everybody sucks, because he can’t order you, but you also can’t just flash people under the guise of it being your house.

4th I disagree. Intimacy is important. She can't even touch her husband without him being repulsed by her? Yeah he has some issues and if he is not willing to deal with them the marriage will crash. When someone has a change where suddenly they don't want sex there is often a medical issue developing. And men are so resistant to getting checked out about it. This is why so many men don't catch problems until it is too late. I think a person shouldn't stay in a relationship where they aren't happy. It's better to leave then too cheat.

I died laughing at the 31:20 timestamp. OMG! Sue. Agreed

Brandon whispering “that’s my cousin” while yall were talking is so funny to me😂

30k for an engagement ring and i can hardly scrape together a few hundred for a new bicycle...

41:22 I feel like the sister is definitely the asshole for bringing up the divorce. 1. This is something someone confided in you about and you are not throwing it back in their face. 2. Seghsual neglect in a relationship can make someone feel unwanted altogether especially if it’s a decrease from before. Not to mention if no other acts of intimacy are happening. 3. Just because you’re the one initiating a divorce doesn’t mean it’s not painful, evidently it is because she came to be with the sister because she didn’t want to be alone and it’s not the she went out and found people to have sex with immediately (based on the framing from OP I feel she would’ve mentioned it) and even if she did do that people cope with the end of relationships in different ways

Moral of the story: *Supervise your damn children.* You should think of them like extra limbs with minds of their own; even if it wasn’t you who chose to punch someone, it was still your fist that collided with the victim’s face. *You and the other parent are the only ones responsible for **_your_** kids.*

I would love to see her cosplay.

Good art supplies is expensive. You need quality to make quality.

I would not be happy if my nephew flushed my ring. At this point, insurance isn't really the problem for me. My issue would be how cavalier my brother is acting about it. The "kids will be kids" line doesn't really fly for this one. Just see how that plays before a judge.

The arts supply thing is ah on both sides. First, when kids are coming over you should have kid-safe art supplies for them. Great for bonding with the kids and sharing your passion. Yelling at the kids for using art supplies they were told they could use by their parents is not cool. The sibling shouldn't have given permission to the kids and belittled the value of those supplies. Especially if the kids were young enough to break the markers.

For the sister comment story, I’m going to have to disagree with your take on the story. I think it’s perfectly reasonable to divorce someone for not being sexually compatible with you and to me it seems as though the husband suddenly stopped being as sexual as her to the point where he would not even touch her intimately like OP rubbing her hubby’s feet. Also OP didn’t need to mention the divorce because she was uncomfortable with the joke her sister made, she could have just expressed her discomfort in the comment and leave it at that

I totally get it on the art supplies, but I can't get past the wife just telling them where the art room is - seems to imply they can just go for it. I feel like she bears a bit of the responsibility.

Homeowners insurance paid for my husband's ring when he lost it. No way she has a 30,000 dollar ring and no homeowners insurance

Cute set

The sister comment one is eh. I feel like they looked over the fact the sister said her husband wouldn’t even touch her. Personally I wouldn’t want to be with someone who felt repleled from me but I would understand if they choose to not have sex if their not up for it. However no affection is a deal breaker . Also I think Op tough to much into the sisters silly comment

There is no logical reason a $30k ring isn't insured.

Being guilt tripped and forced into giving up the rights to your kid does not make that guy in the second story an asshole. No matter what. The court system heavily favors the woman and makes it really really hard for men to have rights to their kids.

The markers one: I have my own niblets and if their parents teach them manners they will have no issues not using "grown up" markers. (That's what we call ours.) Or asking if they can use them. And as a family member, did they not have an extra set of Crayola? The dad is right, they'll want to. But if you substitute it they usually don't complain. Both sides could've prepped for this scenario a lot better.

Call Sue Happy. 😭

Im sorry the family whose kid flushed the ring its not "you lost a $30k ring" its your bils kids FLUSHED my $30k ring down the toilet thats on yall not me tf, idc if i can afford it or not or yall can or not, if you think of it as a car or house its more serious ao why shouldn't that be JUST as serious

1st damn that is so cool a costume. This guy is a buzz kill. I wish she were my girlfriend. I need an anime girl who will go to comic con with me.

That last one my question is why are your neighbors looking INTO your home?!!??

We didn’t get nearly enough details in the naked guy story. How big is the window? Is it in the front of the house? There are some factors that could make what he’s doing indecent exposure.

1st story bro was mad she didn't show up as his waifu. the best cosplays are the ones where you can see the effort put into it.

Madi, very good! As an older, remarried widow I am impressed by your wisdom about love. You are correct. You do fall in and out of love in your marriage. As long as you keep treating each other with the love you guys are showing now, whether you are in love or not, the love itself will last.

47:25 I don't think he was the asshole EXCEPT for yelling at the kids. The kids were doing nothing wrong. They don't know the value of stuff and obviously their parents knew what they were doing so they weren't sneaking off playing with something they were told not to. And sounds like he scared them. As someone had a father with anger issues, yelling is terrifying for children. I *still* deal with this in therapy (issues with confrontation, anxiety, startle easily)

With the nude one it kinda depends where your ftom but I think the initial ESH is right to a point but leaning more towards YTA. The neighbour seems a bit fixated on this, but in all fairness if he's got young kids & their bedroom(s) are facing this guys window I wouldn't be thrilled that my kid was seeing that. Having a yoing kid shouting out to their parents that they see the naked man again is going to be upsetting & actually if they're in my country the neighbours are being exceptionally reasonable then because if you are knowingly exposing yourself where a kid can see you can get in very serious trouble if they call the police. Seriously if OP was in my country he'd be in BIG trouble & definitely the a-hole. If you are naked in your house but other people can see you naked the police will give you a warning, then after that point you get done for indecent exposure. You don't get to flash people on the street just because you're in your house, you're expected to put up window coverings of some kind. He could get blinds/curtains with remote access or get frosted film if he really needs his natural light wake up, with tge remote he can just shut the curtains/blinds from bed. He's not even trying that hard right now, he could have a dressing gown or towel right by the bed & make sure he's covered when getting out of bed. He could keep pyjama shorts right in his nightstand & put them on under the covers. He shouldn't want his neighbours to see him naked, but especially knowing they have kids over there that might see. He could end up on a register if he's not careful, is that really worth the effect it will have on his life just to be stubborn about putting up some curtains?

For Story #2 I dont think hes the AITA he had to waive his rights away due to the baby mom telling him too and making it difficult to stay in the kids life. not only that he literally said in the beginning he wanted to have a family with her and she just wanted to be friends and just outed him so you cant say “oh well you shouldn’t have slept with her cause you dont know if she was crazy or not” but like anyone with a spouse doesnt view their partner as evil lol . SHES the asshole for kicking him out of the kids life and now asking for chid support for probably extra money. Not only that he didn’t waive the rights away that easily he might’ve not went into description into it but for someone to convince someone else to waive their child rights away has to have done something or manipulated that person until they got their way and i wouldnt be surprised if they did either cause they started calling his family and talking shi abt him being a deadbeat.. 💀

Hey yall theres something weird going on with the sound mixing it's really hard to hear either of the gentlemen but especially the man on the far right. I think your mics might be directionally based

Here’s a random debate question. You don’t have to censor men’s nipples but you need to Cesar woman’s. Do you still need to censor them if a woman has a mastectomy? It’s always been the debate amongst my group of weather is the fat pockets that make them censored or the gender. Because people who have sex change I’ve noticed will go from on censorship to non or vice versa. And it’s so odd.

The lady is fully not the asshole, however $3.5 million Canadian for a house in Toronto doesn't get you a mansion, it gets you a 3 bedroom bungalow.

Story 2 not the asshole but agree with stef you were the asshole to completely sign away your rights for a new partner

Story 4: Sexual compatibility is extremely important in relationships, whatever psychological or physical issues the husband was dealing with, he wasn't willing (or ready) to get the help and it clearly destroyed their relationship, that's not the sister's fault. She tried to fight for their relationship. OP made her prudish stance clear in the first few paragraphs, she's been judging her sister the entire post. She's 100% the asshole. Just because you open up your house for someone doesn't mean you can loom over them and judge them constantly.

I disagree with the marker story. I think everyone sucks! The children did not deserve to be screamed at for playing with the art supplies that their MOTHER told them was okay. The mother should have been the one to get yelled at. Those children were innocent, they were told that they could go in there. As a parent, I would be pissed off at anyone screaming at my child so much that they are bringing them to tears. He could have calmly told them to leave the room and confronted his sister and brother in law once he removed the children. Those children were not at fault for their parents’ actions.

I make 22k a year i coould swing 100 a month it would suck but it is absolutely possible

for the child support one, how can you just give up on your kid?? even if you have to fight tooth and nail that’s your KID especially when your so excited to be a parent and love your kid?

35:39 my bf has a low sex drive and and we both have no interest in sex as of now and I could never imagine breaking up with him because we’re not having sex! There’s other sexy things couples can do and there’s also gonna be days where it’s okay to just give a few kisses but do something more fun and interactive like puzzles or video games together 42:55 also I too would be raising hell and heaven if anyone had mess with my art supplies and drew on a project, that’s years of finding supplies that work for you and also days/weeks/months of work on a art piece, thank goodness the father-in-law saved the day lol

TLDR: Anime - AH * Child Support - Not AH * 30k Ring - Not AH * Sibling Dissing Divorcing Sis - AH * Art Supplies - Not AH * Sleep N00d - Not AH Hey, your title needs to include the Anime thing. I came over from IG, and got confused when I couldn't find it, and just got lucky that this first one (most recent at time of posting) included the one I was interested in. Yes, Anime OP is absolutely the AH, and doesn't deserve this amazing lady. Also, I really wish I could see her cosplay myself. [Complete sidenote, and absolutely personal, I felt a little isolated when you mentioned church in a weird way that didn't really explain what was actually said at that church, but since I'm atheist it made me cringe). On the child support, I'm torn; based on what info was given (forgetting the fact that we're not giving benefit of the doubt that the other parents might have something more to say on this), you gotta follow the courts for it. I still think this child should have a choice to have a relationship with the father (assuming that this OP isn't abusive). [I do really wanna highlight how sus I feel about this OP, though.] On the 30k ring, *sigh*, I'm so torn. Like, I don't think I'd ever ask my own sibling for a reimbursement, but I also don't think my own sibling wouldn't offer to do some sorta repayment for the loss. But also, she's a hostess, and anything of that value in that house shoulda been in a safe and insured. [Complete sidenote, I do think that we gotta stop treating 'blood' as everything. You should be allowed to sue your family without being shamed, especially since we don't what this family dynamic actually is.] On the 'my sister needed more seggs in her marriage' - everyone has a different intimacy need, especially at different times in our lives. Google women's seggsual peak (for me, my top result came from a scientific study published by a .gov site online) and also realize there's a lot of stigma that surrounds a woman's seggsual realization. Honestly, I think OP is the AH, 'cause it feels like they called her 'slut' when she was just being playful about the footrub (and possibly feeling lonely/jealous). Again, though, we only have one side of it, so who truly knows. I'm sure she didn't mean to make her sibling feel uncomfortable, though. [Also, please ignore the google result when you look up men's seggsual prime: healthnews saying men hit their prime in their 20's - it's honestly clickbait with nothing scientific to back it.] On the small claims court for art supplies - art supplies is pretty darned expensive. This situation totally made me think back to the 30k ring, and *heavy sigh*, my heart broke hearing about this more than the ring. Although this was an earlier sidenote, we seriously need to stop being 'blood is everything' on situations. It truly isn't. I will again say, that door needed to stay locked up, and anyone who let those kids into that art room needed to stay with those kids and keep 'em supervised. [Peeps gotta stop letting kids run rampant without consequences.] On sleeping n00d - this has some serious exhibition vibes. Though, honestly, that might be that puritanical upbringing from society. The neighbors can absolutely get curtains if that view truly bothers them. I think they just like being outraged. [How much of our society is obsessed with what our neighbors do with their private parts truly bothers me.]

16:53 Deadbeat dad story was wild imo. Like what do you mean I don’t have kids anymore. Just because they’re not in your custody doesn’t mean that you didn’t bring them into existence 13 years ago. If your kids need financial support they need support period. If you’re willfully acknowledging and still refusing to help you’re an asshole. Why? because custody is being used as an excuse. It’s not like you weren’t aware of the kids issue because you weren’t contacted or informed. You were notified then intentionally chose to neglect those needs purposefully by withholding financially to prove a petty point. Why would you give so little of a shit about your child’s well-being to care more about proving a point to your ex? MAJOR asshole- get your priorities straight- that poor kid didn’t get to choose having three shitty parents- at least try to let them have one good one. I get why people think leveraging custody is a good idea but maybe proving that you care about their needs first would less manipulative after being away for over a decade?? Yikes all around